I will not suppress my rage to make you comfortable.

[@soindifferent_]

It’s so mentally and emotionally exhausting having to constantly have that emotional so buffer in place to make others comfortable. It’s like a computer constantly running a program that uses up 70% of the RAM every time you turn it on. No wonder it keeps crashing when I’d want to do simple tasks. Hella draining.

[@amcgee0668]

You described it perfectly🦋

[@tribecalledmaya]

“stop calling things what it’s not!!!!!” 📝

[@MzSoulll]

Black women are prophets. Yes ❤

[@mjaye1712]

PSA: I will not mute or sacrifice my justified rage in service to your convenience, comfort, and calm. You have created/benefitted from conditions designed to keep me in dysregulation and disturbance. And you demand for me to both tolerate it and service your comfort in it. Nah.

[@kymwatts9781]

That’s a whole word ❤❤

[@diennahoward]

Alecia, you spoke so many truths in this video. We have so many burdens on our shoulders yet are seen as "angry," and speaking direct truths is seen as "aggressive" and "confrontational." We're not angry, we're bone tired. Thank you for sharing this.

[@MsKim510]

"They" aren't going to get it because they don't want to get it. This is why it's important for Black Women to create community and safe spaces outside of these systems. We need to genuinely support one another.

[@tribecalledmaya]

wow, indeed it’s our humanity as you said. I implement these practices with my 4 year old scorpio daughter, she has space to let it all out and then often hugs me to regulate her nervous system, or a nap. the only time i obviously implement boundaries or restraining is when she becomes violent. this is sooo important though to FEEL IT first - do not suppress or dictate to small or big people that they need to suppress. I don’t tell her to cage her rage down simply cause it’s inconvenient for me. I also advocate for parents to normalize (verbalize) “mommy is feeling angry, mommy is feeling hurt/ mommy is stressed.” let’s express it instead of taking it out on others as well, especially children. no I’m not perfect but I’m doing the ground work I had to get real about this as soon as she turned 2 1/2. you are a treasure, alecia 💎🌻♒️🔆

[@cocococo5087]

This is so true and I am experiencing it a lot at work.

[@lurleanhunt9335]

No lies told!!!!

[@rahbeeuh]

Alecia is dropping gems this mornin'

[@ayeshamakes7947]

I am so glad you talked about being blunt and direct. I am constantly shamed for my blood and my directly, but everybody knows I’m not being intentionally hurtful. Sometimes I say things in a direct way more often to the people I love because I want the best for them, I need to do better about my delivery, but I don’t think the message is wrong.

[@benindakar]

💯

[@AleciaRenece]

@@benindakar 💛💛💛💛💛

[@Oscarnodwannabe]

This message is on time! ❤

[@tribecalledmaya]

well it’s also worth mentioning that: I love and own my rage. it’s purposeful and inspires action. yeah i’m seething and letting you know, now what. “you not upset enough”

[@jessica.7777]

🎯🎯🎯

[@chumabanjwa4662]

You are spot on this 1!

[@afrobutterfly]

I just had to tell someone this last night

[@AleciaRenece]

@@afrobutterfly 💕💛🌺🫂☺️ I am so sorry 😩 that's so exhausting.

[@EbonyHoopGyal]

And if they’re always mean, mad, and yelling about something, then we can yell, too.

[@HánahM-f]

You are so beautiful and so right. I opted out of the game once I realized that it was rigged.

[@AleciaRenece]

@@HánahM-f 🫂🌺💛

[@ninawestlake5005]

True. In many situations the bullying and eventual discrimination is done covertly. I also agree with allowing ourselves to feel what we feel til it goes away. Suppressing our emotions is dangerous.

[@happygucci5094]

You got me at the title ‼️ I love and celebrate your Voice and your Spirit- thank you 🙏🏽 💗

[@AcolyteBlaze]

Thank you for speaking life and strength into people with your channel. The world needs more of this. Emotions are challenging, and we should at least allow space for not only others, but for ourselves.

[@AleciaRenece]

@@AcolyteBlaze Oh woooow! Thank you so much for sharing this with me. 🥹💛🌺🫂 It does my heart good to know that what I share is actually helpful to someone. I completely agree with you; emotions can be difficult to work through, but with the safe places and spaces, we can all be seen, heard, understood and healed 🫂🌺🍁 much love and joy to you!

[@KeyokaKinzy]

PERIOD 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I have never regretted exercising my throat chakra 🧘🏾‍♀️🌻

[@palesamono7362]

When you said, "It is an act of love... " that's when you sold me. That was the point at which I clicked the like button! 🙌

[@BastettheGh0st]

Thank you. I needed to hear this 😭

[@terriespann4800]

Speak, Sister!

[@rednappysummer]

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@MsPhillgood]

I'm having a deja vu moment. Had to make my exit plan from this type of toxicity.

[@Datb2]

If I curse I curse 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@annaware1836]

Alecia, thank you!

[@amcgee0668]

Appreciation🦋

[@f.taigne3610]

I truly appreciate your content.

[@MzSoulll]

Your expression resonates deeply. I needed to hear this ❤

[@ConcreteRose22]

Wow the title is incredible. Tuning in

[@TwylasCouch]

Sound the alarm, queen ~ I'm just sitting here nodding the whole time. Thanks for sharing your perspective. Even if it's an angry one. The world needs people to piss people off and hold them accountable ✧*:･ﾟ

[@takeyglam]

The title got me before you even opened your mouth 🙌🏾

[@bolekaja1]

Thank you. I feel like crying. I'm s tired.

[@chayo4537]

We need more videos like this 😂❤ 🥂

[@happygucci5094]

Sounding like a young Audre Lorde… I see you Sis

[@Prechelle95]

Alecia can you talk more about your depression that you experienced, how you coped, cause and how you treated it. I have several friends that are going through it.

[@currency_deity]

I LOVE THIS FUCKING VIDEO👸🏾....it's so fucking necessary🌹🌹🌹

[@Tiphocracy]

💕💞💕💞💕

[@kaedatiger]

Getting leaned on constantly would make anyone angry. Your feelings are your feelings for a reason. Anyone who doesn't get this is willfully ignorant.