Identifying & Dealing with a Partner with a Gambling Problem (from a Gambling Addict's Perspective)

Gam Anon - For partners, friends and family of problem gamblers: gamanon.org.uk/
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GAMCARE (Support and advice for problem gamblers): www.gamcare.org.uk
BreakEven (Free local gambling counselling): www.breakeven.org.uk
The Samaritans (If you ever feel like it is too much or contemplate self-harm): www.samaritans.org/ or call 116 123
Thanks for watching, my name's Phil and I'm a former gambling addict. I make videos to share my experiences of gambling and talk about my recovery, abstinence and the challenges of quitting gambling. I also tend to ramble on about anything else that comes to mind and take great pleasure in dispelling some of the most common myths around gambling.
If you found this video interesting then check out the channel and consider subscribing (it would mean a lot). If you are struggling with a gambling problem then hopefully my videos will help but I strongly recommend getting some proper help from the guys below (I'm no expert, just someone who has 'been there, done that and got the t-shirt...(no) merch link in bio'.

[@Amysbiblereads]

Found out today my partner has gambled £4000 of our money.. our wedding fund. I’m done. Second time he’s done this. He promised me he’d get help. He’s blamed me which broke me the worst.

[@onlyphil]

Gamblers like to pin the blame for their addiction on anything that detracts from their own accountability. I hope you find a resolution in a way that suits and protects you. All the best - Phil

[@jasonmedeiros9492]

Amy Are u still together?

[@Amysbiblereads]

@@jasonmedeiros9492 still trapped in if? Yes.

[@SS-pz5ib]

Thank you Phil for this video. My father has been a gambler for the past 20 years and to this day will not ask for help or admit that he is gambling. He has gambled 3 houses and would not pay for my mother's treatment when she had cancer although he had money .I am happy that you have asked for help and I am glad that you have wife that stood up with you. Nobody is perfect and the strength of a man shows when he admits mistakes and is willing to work on himself. Thank you again

[@rouge97r]

Thank you, I committed this mistake and gave my beloved one a loan. I am forgiving that but will never do it again. Your advices are precious

[@sajmeister]

Excellent video. You're a man of great knowledge. Thanks to you I'm able to help people with gambling problems that are trying to fight this vice.

[@momobeloved8761]

My boyfriend had all these signs, unfortunately I had no knowledge about gambling and I could never suspect something like that. Everytime I thought he was cheating it just didn't make sense because there was no actual evidence of that. He is really a good person and after a break I still want to give us a try, he promises he has quit but how do I be sure of that.....

[@cdenisewilkerson]

I was blindsided too😢

[@purplemonsoon8376]

That’s the problem, how would you ever know that they’ve stopped? I can’t ever trust him again

[@soniasegran1923]

The signs that you have mentioned are spot on...I have been through all of these with my husband.

[@cheesegraham2387]

Man, thought provoking stuff there for me personally, stupid things gambling makes you do, great content mate, keep it up, its much needed

[@DwaineWorld]

Thank you Phil

[@JayDiamond]

Great and so accurate

[@onlyphil]

Thankyou. I appreciate you watching - Phil

[@ronnyjohansen4276]

Would be nice if you shared your thoughts about the future of streaming in from of promotion for casinos. I know UK streamers will shut on twitch, but they will just flock to Malta i guess, or continue on YT. Is there work in progress to ban all streams on all plattforms when it comes to promotional gambling for online casinos? Love your vids.

[@bsmith35]

You should do a video on the latest rules that have come in to stop quick spins and multi-table gameplay

[@Smog202]

Nearly at the big 1000 fella 👍

[@jameshickey100]

Hi Phil I am going to make a film about gambling addiction to show awarness

[@paulagratefulnoend9683]

I can not understand why he eats gross food but can be at the casino for 24 hours at a time.

[@madonnahagedorn5649]

My sister's boyfriend is a chronic gambler. He was caught on camera stealing from my sister's purse. He did not know that the Ring camera was taping him while it was on the charger. He waited for her to go down the hall and into the bedroom before he searched her belongings. This disease can drive a person to no good. It's true.

[@onlyphil]

It’s a horrible illness and will drive people to do terrible things. HOWEVER, it isn’t an excuse. Even as addicts we are 100% responsible for our own actions.

[@KiwiMinecraftAdventu]

Hi Phil, I am a subscriber of your channel and know you used to gamble. I am doing a school project on the effects off gambling as I used to gamble and it caused me alot of problems and was wondering if you would be okay if I could interview you via video call or something and ask you some questions if that's okay. Thanks Kuhan

[@tjv0831]

Would gambling also promote a higher chance of cheating as well?

[@cdenisewilkerson]

Gamblers don’t usually have enough money to cheat. My ex wife liked to think she was a high roller but it was a front that most people saw through

[@graycelynn3497]

I have a guy I went on a date with who told me he gambles. Really like him but he's so sure he's the best and "never loses"

[@cdenisewilkerson]

Run!

[@Mrs.TJ516]

Please run like the other commenter said my daughters father whom I was engaged to is a heavy sports gambler we purchased a home in 2019 after our daughter was born he has been out of control I ended things in 2021. He’s been trying to get back with me but I’m not falling for it.

[@louthy101]

Yep smashed £100 tonight for no reason, got that stupid gambling itch after a few beers, won on a slot conan £200 first £20 obviously with wagering requirements then nothing lol

[@aorelio]

My bf gambles for years.Now the situation is even worse.He took my parents house key without me knowing,and stoled money from my parents house to pay his debts.He wreked me

[@cdenisewilkerson]

I’ve been there 😢

[@purplemonsoon8376]

Did you leave him?

[@tasteechickenleg]

How long were you gambling before you were ready to stop? We’re currently in a pretty bad situation with this, and although my husband says he wants to stop, I still don’t sense he’s committed to it. I don’t think he can stop. Did your wife find the resource you suggested helpful? And what tools did you use to recover? Thanks!

[@Amysbiblereads]

Did you have any updates? My husbands been gambling since September last year and I’ve just checked him out. He gambled £4000 :(

[@PeruLover]

Type his details into gamstop. 5 Years. DONE. 😂

[@arniemali]

That's doesn't always work u change your few letters of your name and still log in. It has to come from within MUGs Game