Identity Crisis: How Gender Ideology Took Away a Mother From Her Daughter for Three Years

A Chicago court prohibited a mother from seeing her daughter for three years. All because that mother insisted that her daughter is a girl.
Finally ready to tell her story, Jeannette is warning parents that gender ideology has become the latest weapon in parental custody battles, severing one of the most fundamental bonds in life under the guise of protecting children.
Written & Produced by Kelsey Bolar
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[@hmac163]

They will leave children in the custody of mothers who are drug addicts and give their child to men for drugs, but omg don’t “misgender” a kid. If this mom sees this, I am so sorry. The pain of this grief is real. I hope she finds her way back to you.

[@Starae336]

Oh yeah I’m sure that would happen! Not

[@adensnow4917]

@@Starae336 kids are OFTEN left in the custody of unfit parents. have you not seen the amount of child neglect cases that had been ignored or investigated that led to a childs death?

[@Wanda4849]

This is truly heartbreaking. Continue to pour your love into your letters. The impact will be felt by your daughter and when she is older, you will see the fruits. You are such an example of what true motherhood is all about..sacrifice, but not at the altar of UNTRUTH. As a former social worker who has witnessed true abuse and neglect of children, I am appalled at a legal system that would allow this. I think the outcome was predetermined before any interview or home study. Please know many people are praying for you and for Sophia. God bless!

[@Creeksideviews]

She will become an adult someday just like all these other kids and we'll come to her senses and think what the heck happened, she will look back and she will be very proud of her mother ❤ every other young woman of childbearing age should realize that can happen to them at any moment, there's a lady a family in Texas that just had their newborn baby taken away due to a error in the doctor's papers, and they're having a hard time getting their kid back, what on Earth is going on !!!!

[@helendancelot]

@@Creeksideviews child trafficking

[@mrs.garcia6978]

💔😱I’m blown away by this and the other stories I’ve heard. The govt is enabling insanity.

[@naturdoc4076]

I regret voting for Biden for this reason . Will likely never vote democratic again

[@geminibusterbooty]

I’m not voting for this clown show ever again called “American” politics or shall we say Nazis

[@mightytaiger3000]

The gov is insane. Always has been.

[@jessicamontaperto810]

@@naturdoc4076 everybody makes mistakes.

[@sopad4629]

The government is enabling insanity and killing of innocent, voiceless babies. The government is allowing satan to win and take over this world.

[@Trypyyyy]

My heart breaks for this woman. One day, your daughter will look back and understand everything. Please be strong and patient and coninue to do your great work

[@taniya8455]

Yeah... I also hope so...... How could daughter of this lady could be not loving? If there is love inside her....... One day she will come back. To her Mom. 🥺💔❤

[@Cafeallday222]

Her daughter will see that she still feels crappy being affirmed and realize her mother was right all along. Hopefully sooner than later.

[@Mouse_Metal]

@@Cafeallday222 Mom looks like a tomboy, the daughter is probably a tomboy too. That is the whole pseudoproblem.

[@alimo1611]

@@Mouse_Metal I'm a tomboy mother too. it's just feeling right with outside appearance but this women is a real gentle lady as all should be internally. Heals and silly make-up can be done by anyone. But few are true ladies

[@matthewatwood8641]

Yes, but she will be sterile, unable to have an orgasm, have an endless stream of medical problems, depression, severe risk of suicide. It is way too likely that she may never grow to that level of maturity because what has been done to her will take her too soon. I've been learning about this stuff and it is just off-the-charts insane.

[@raizinboyz]

I am a 58 year old woman who was recently diagnosed with autism. As a child, I was 100% a tomboy. I am pretty sure if I was a kid today, there's a very good chance this could have happened to me. If you asked me if I wanted to be a boy, I would have said YES! YES! YES! I went through that phase of hating my body as well. You get older, your body grows, your hormones do their job and you learn to accept yourself. I have been married for 35 years and have 4 kids. I don't understand why the first course of treatment is to PERMANENTLY change/disfigure a CHILD'S body!!!! I am honestly shocked at how many of these stories are out there. I still am a tomboy, but I am a woman - 100% and being a mom is one of the most amazing and wonderful things.

[@Starae336]

How the hell do u make it to age 58 without knowing you have autism??

[@lauramann8275]

I'm 47 and have been a tomboy my entire life. No idea if I'm on the spectrum but I refused to wear a shirt until I was forced to when I went to school at age 4. Dr. Jordan Peterson talks about this, he suspects most of the trans people are on the spectrum somewhere.

[@Sil7531]

The same for me. I'm 42 and I got recently my diagnosys. Tomboy and masculine all my life. But I'm a woman

[@lauramann8275]

@@Sil7531 masculine women unite!!! 👏

[@sopad4629]

I was a tomboy too, now happily married and happy to be a mother and I love being a woman and not a man, besides at my age then, my parents won’t have money for surgery. They said the group that pushes these surgeries/mutilations on children are the people who own the hormone drugs. Trust me, those people are making money from you, they don’t care about you as a person or your outcome on changing sex, they only need to earn more dollars to maintain their lifestyles.

[@BingQiuSupremacy]

The analogy of her daughter being lost at sea and the mother being a stable lighthouse was so moving. May the father get what he deserves.

[@JesusLightsYourPath]

Vengeance is the Lord's

[@Veronica.John10-10]

May the DAUGHTER AND MOTHER get what they deserve, Help them Jesus!

[@JesusLightsYourPath]

@@Veronica.John10-10 Yes Lord

[@Dleefrlula]

I wouldn’t blame the dad either, the parents often get misled by activists and therapist who assure the child will be dead and transition is the only treatment

[@Veronica.John10-10]

@@Dleefrlula bullshit. This is a classic case of custody dispute laws being used and abused for leverage against the other parent. Don't you DARE condone it!!!

[@EricaL2024]

I can’t stand hearing the word ”safe” from this ideology.

[@frankieluna1457]

Orwellian

[@sylviazmartnomad7707]

Yes. The most evil hypocrisy. Very sad.

[@schnugelischnugg9812]

I cannot stand seeing bidens face and the words safe and healthy coming out of his mouth, when he promotes the mutilation of children.

[@DorianPaige00]

It's not an ideology but a way to treat a medical condition that you obviously don't respect. I was trans before it was cool and folks didn't know about it.

[@VOLightPortal]

It's important to teach kids the importance of waiting and giving it time before making any drastic life altering decision. Give them time and space to explore more their identity and feelings, and develop their thought processes more fully, before setting down permanently on one. In 90% of cases, feelings of gender dysphoria usually clear up by the time they reach adulthood. When they reach 18 and still experience gender dysphoria, that would be a good legal age to consider a transition, as they are then an adult that can weigh it up, do their due diligence, and decide for themselves if it's right for them. The worst outcome is that they are forced or coerced into transition surgically at age 12 or younger, have their genitilia removed, and regret the whole thing once they reach 18. I think it is important to hear the voices of those who regret having it done and also choose to ex-transition, as we also get to hear both sides of the issue.

[@wavesonswim8738]

As a tomboy herself it seems like the mother would have been in the best position to help her daughter navigate any identity issues

[@Trolland3billygoats]

Why do you make that assumption? Because she has short hair? Why can't we all just be who we are, dress how we like and still acknowledge the physical reality of our bodies?

[@wavesonswim8738]

@@Trolland3billygoats you said a whole bunch of nothing. Being a tomboy is not a bad thing thing so I don’t get what your offended about. Plenty of us are tomboys and proud

[@angescie]

​@@Trolland3billygoats wtf u mean, being a tomboy isn't an offense or an identity it's a style, and her mom fits that style, so she can be called a tomboy.

[@emmy-kz1pj]

I think the Mum seems very down to earth and also agree that because she doesn't seem like a girly type of woman that she would be open to her daughter dressing more masculine and doing boy activities. I had gender dysphoria as a kid and my mum was so feminine so I only ever had one toy I wanted (it was a Transformer toy I found) and she would have died before letting me wear anything not beautiful and feminine (she had been involved in modelling). Meanwhile I wanted to be a boy. This Mum seems super cool, would have been great to have had her as a Mum. BTW- I still turned out fine and happy regardless! I dressed in my dad's clothing when they weren't looking. Gender dysphoria gradually went away around 14 or so. Think many of us Tomboys may have been like this. Maybe someone should try to survey people who were Tomboys and feminine boys back decades ago and see how many are glad they weren't allowed to change genders as a kid.

[@edel3585]

​@emmy this is what scares me. The movement in government and medical field does not encourage kids to just wait it out and work towards acceptance of their bodies, they want them to take hormones or puberty blockers as soon as gender dysphoria is diagnosed. In california they will soon be able to give meds to a child without parental knowledge. I see a huge incentive for big pharma to be behind all this, just like they pushed the governments around the world to mandate covid jab. Awful.

[@altGoolam]

How did gender ideology become state policy?

[@sylviazmartnomad7707]

I think they snuck in by no discrimination law. Then somehow somebody somewhere says the science approved that transgender is a real thing. But that was a lie, there never been evidence, never been long term study. And now look where we are. So sad.

[@PuddilyOops]

Follow the money.

[@sandeevanalstine645]

The Left

[@RainyNights-f3v]

Liberals/ Democrats/ Pregressives/ Lefties / Bolsheviks = ALL the same

[@marjorjorietillman856]

⁠@@sandeevanalstine645 Please educate yourself to know that this is bigger than a political party. I’m considered on be on the left, but I’m vehemently against this nonsense, and most of the people I know on the Left, are against it as well. Please don’t believe everything you hear from your small bubble! Many of us believe strongly in scientific evidence and know that this ignorance isn’t based on reality, and I like Biden, but he’s wrong on this issue!

[@twinkletoes6290]

This is heartbreaking and terrifying. This mum seems like such a good mum, the words she says and how she describes her actions as a parent. Things like “sit w her during her discomfort” and “my daughter is on a boat at sea in peril, struggling….I’m not supposed to follow her lead, to hitch my boat to hers….I’m supposed to be a lighthouse guiding her way” are so beautiful, eloquent and the perfect description of what parenting is! I mean, sheesh, we all wish for and could use a parent as amazing as this mum and many of us were not so lucky. Yet, the state has deemed she’s dangerous and unfit and has taken her daughter from her?!? Wtf, this makes no damn sense!! NONE!! There’s going to be hell to pay in the coming years and decades for everything that has been going on now, has been allowed to happen, supported and cheered on! Heads are going to roll and all involved will be held responsible! I hope that this mum is able to go after the father, stepmother, the state and everyone else involved in this w the full force of the law, sue the ish out of these ppl and throw the book at them! I hope ppl are jailed for everything they’ve done and the role they’ve played in all this dangerous nonsense and that they have everything taken from them! History is not going to document and remember this time and all those involved very kindly. *They will be documented for all of time as the actual baddies!* They keep saying they are “on the right side of history”, but it’s the *exact opposite* and they’ll have to live the rest of their lives knowing just how wrong they were, how much they effed up and that they’re the *villains* after all!

[@pjewellful2012]

Yes we need to push back and get laws to protect parents from this forced exploitation on the kids! It’s evil!

[@Cafeallday222]

The daughter will probably regret this when she’s older. But that’s life, we live and we learn. She’s only 12 and being manipulated. So sad…

[@desmawilson4633]

That so true what you said.I hate the trans gender movement and governments that go along with the new order,they are destroying families and our children and grand childrens lives.

[@s.wilson2702]

You picked up on all the things, I too, heard this mom so eloquently articulate. I hope she keeps a journal to save for her daughter once she comes to her senses and her TRUE SELF! It would be priceless!

[@Naturefan354]

@@Cafeallday222 Her daughter is 16 now

[@MsDragon28]

I pray that you will one day be re-united with your daughter. I cannot imagine the pain you must feel.

[@ptjofabj]

I am also praying for this mother and daughter.

[@leslieleslie6590]

It's amazing how a horrible divorce can really pit parents against one another-and having a child as transgender, and using their supposed identity to hurt the other parent and to make them lose all custody rights is just plain wrong. The Father and Step Mother in this case qualify for the worst parents of the year.

[@JulianneBigler-fn3cd]

That’s exactly what’s going on here. Shame on that father.

[@rebekahs9701]

Fairy tales have been warning about stepmothers for thousands of years. 😔 Ofc there are good stepmoms, but then there are cases like this. It's the lizard brain, wants to kill the rival's offspring.

[@wolfrunning1]

Narcissistic personality disorder runs rampant, using this kind of situation to control and hurt others. Narcissists really like to use cults like the transgender cult to get power over others. The sad thing is that here, some governments and some large businesses are corrupt and helping with this abusive behavior.

[@synesthesiagirl]

She's a wonderful mother. I've read about their story before. I'm glad to actually see this strong woman. I hope she and her daughter will be reunited soon, and that her daughter hasn't been irreparably harmed.

[@caroline1425yt]

What a woman. I’m so sorry for your situation. We’re destroying a generation of children with this transgender psychosis. God help us.

[@danielaparcel2647]

This is truly heartbreaking. I will pray for this mama to be reunited with her daughter.

[@normanshadow1]

She chose truth at the risk of losing custody. What an extraordinary brave mother. My heart goes out to her.

[@skeletalremains3860]

Thank you for being a good mom and standing by what is right. At some point she will recognize the truth. The number of girls regretting these choices is far too high to not ere on the side of caution!

[@seektruth5750]

Stand your ground mam, it may hurt now but it will ultimately be for her good, stand by the truth . Good parent and good luck 🍀

[@meganboesen3219]

I’m crying for this Mama. She is so poised, and so loving. She is right, she is parenting now-she’s putting in the hard work, the work that breaks our Mama hearts. I hope that one day her baby will look back and say, wow, my Mama loved me so much that she sacrificed everything to try and save me.

[@conniedoyle9226]

Your daughter would be so blessed to be with you. How can the courts determine that a father knows what a daughters emotions are when he never was a girl. The father is taking the lazy way out. It takes energy to keep your child from self harm . To do what is right can be EXHAUSTING.

[@i.m.watching5536]

That last line is so true, Connie!

[@diligent_seeker]

Bingo!

[@mandira_draws]

Wow this was painful to watch. What a strong woman and a mother. This is just sad. I couldn't help but cry.

[@Condessa4354]

These politicians should have no business talking about how we should or should not parent our children.

[@belove751]

Jeannette❤ you’re incredible. You are a beacon of truth and light. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this suffering, I hope and pray I’d be as strong and resilient as you.

[@ACB2K]

Yes mom, stand your ground. My love and empathy goes out to you.❤

[@Nous520]

This is exactly what a good mother does. She helps her child to come to terms with whatever they are struggling with and walk them through overcoming it. A mother does NOT agree with limiting her child, to supporting her child’s destruction. This mother understands what her role is and is being punished for being a good mother. It makes so sad and incredibly ANGRY.

[@RAWRAWRAWR36]

I cannot believe this is happening in 2023😮 Feels like our society is sinking and there is no lifelines available anywhere 😢

[@vxCOCOxv]

I’m a mother of a 11 year old. I’m terrified that it could happen to me too. Once a girls period starts the hormones coursing through the body are powerful. I remember how much it changed me, a child into an angry and spiteful teen. If I did the things I thought I wanted for myself, I’d probably not be here. During puberty and adolescence is the most fragile and dangerous time. I would liken it to a ‘hormone psychosis’ and a medical procedure should NEVER be preformed while experiencing this. It’s awful that other adults think this is what children/adolescents want. Your thinking changes in 5-10 years after puberty! I never believed it until my now 30’s with a daughter. Feeling so sorry for the Mom… 😢

[@lilianafm]

What a strong and brave mother. I can feel her heart aching for her daughter. I pray one day her daughter comes back to her.

[@fatscotsgal]

I'm going through the exact same thing and it's brutal. Something has to change

[@jellyrolly]

That’s horrible… I hope you reunite with your child soon 😢

[@memymomalex]

How this is allowed to happen in our country is so scary. That affirming your child's identity, who they TRULY are, is considered more abusive than lying to them.

[@crazycatmum6159]

This is heartbreaking. How can she not be allowed personal contact with her daughter when there had been no findings of abuse. I hope that her child is ok and that they will be able to have a relationship in the future

[@angelaegan7511]

The world has gone mad! I'm an aristocrat stuck in a peasant's body but no one will give me a castle and a title! Believing in transgenderism is an opinion which many in the medical profession disagree with. We should be allowed our opinion without having our children taken away. This poor woman, my heart bleeds for her.

[@KeishondraMusic]

How does the court have the right to rip a person away from you that came out of YOUR WOMB!! Outrageous!

[@chalronbjork4766]

You absolutely did the right thing as your daughters mother. In Australia, we too had a case where a child was removed from their parents because the parents wouldn't call the child he as the daughter requested. Sadly, under the current Labor government (Albanese), they passed a law stating that children can be removed from their parents if their parents don't follow through with the confusion. I've previously worked in child mental health and seeing how quickly children change their minds on what sex they would like to be is just mind blowing. Instead of offering ongoing counselling, instead they offer to chop off the child's breast, castrate the child etc. Your daughter will realise one day and come back. Remember, the frontal cortex of the brain fully develops between 21 and 25 - the frontal cortex is the part that deals with logic and reasoning.

[@mightytaiger3000]

The father is an absolute creep and the only truly needing investigating.

[@seand6112]

Super heartbreaking. Thanks for sharing your store. Keep holding and keep fighting; she’ll probably realize one day you were right all along, and you were the only one that cared enough to stand up to the nonsense she’s been recklessly pushed through by the new affirmation without question model.

[@nicolepreou6754]

Extremely common story. Thousands of parents are going through the same thing as Jeannette in one way or another. We are lighthouses with her.

[@lindsay833]

As mothers, it is incredibly important to display confident, happy, grounded femininity.

[@Sil7531]

In 5 yrs maximum, this girl will come back with her body totally disfigured and lamenting that she cut out the only person who wanted her to be safe

[@NvdVeen]

God bless you and your daughter. I hope she sees this someday to see how much you love and miss her ❤️

[@stephanieallangarman5598]

This is a criminal crisis against a mother and yes 🙌🏽 herself. I’ll be praying that an excellent attorney takes this case and establish a precedent. 🙇🏻‍♀️🙏🏽❤️

[@jessicamontaperto810]

Me too

[@fayeray6797]

Wow, you are one seriously incredible mother. We should all be so lucky.

[@perspectiveiseverything1694]

Jeanette, you have explained & expressed yourself eloquently and are 💯 correct. I am wishing this difficulty & pain to pass soon and sending you so much love and strength from one mother to another. ❤️❤️❤️ (I hope you see this.)

[@jeannettecooper1453]

Thank you for sharing that with me. I appreciate your comment.

[@brandybiscoff9685]

That was such an excellent analogy! In the sea of life, there are always going to be tumultuous waters. As a parent, we should not be hooking our boat to our kid’s. We should be their lighthouse. (Or, hook THEIR boat to ours, and we tow them to safety.) This story is heartbreaking & surreal.

[@marshazimmerman174]

I feel your pain. I'm a 57 year old Yaya to my granddaughter, whom I raised with my husband and daughter until she was 5 then she was abruptly taken away by my daughter it has been almost 5 years. My daughter was pregnant at 17 and we loved and supported her and her husband ( they eloped after she turned 18) we coparented our granddaughter and had a great time doing this, our granddaughter loves my husband and I so much and was very attached to us. We supported our daughter and her husband emotionally and financially without any guilt put on them, we 'wanted' to do everything we did for them/ her. Our daughter eventually divorced, we supported her and helped her through this as best we could. Our granddaughter spent most of her time with me or me and my husband and we were totally cool with that, she was our daughter in our hearts. Our daughter never had any issue with this, we respected our daughter as her mom and we all just co-parented, never any issues. However, when our granddaughter was 4 1/2 our daughter started acting strange, she became combative and aggressive seemingly overnight... as if someone was coaching or directing her to do this. She became overbearing and aggressive toward her daughter as well. My husband and I tried to lovingly talk with her privately about this but she became hateful toward us. We were very disoriented and confused on what to do. Within 6 months she broke it off with her live in boyfriend of 2.5 years and moved in with a woman. Our daughter forbid her daughter to even say his name. This was extremely traumatic for our granddaughter, she sobbed in my arms a few times over him and begged me not to tell her mom or the other woman 🥺, the heartache my granddaughter endured was horrific! Then our daughter cut off her best friend who had 2 kids that were my granddaughter's best friends...same thing, she was forbidden to mention them or cry about it! We comforted our granddaughter and prayed our daughter would come to her senses. Our daughter gained about 50lbs, cut off all her hair and started dressing like a slobby old man. We watched this happen but because of her angry attitude we did not dare try to talk with her again, we just loved and supported her. To back up a bit, our daughter had been the complete opposite before her radical change, she even instructed me to put more attention into my hair/wear makeup/change my wardrobe to be more fashionable etc... and had been annoyed with me on a few occasions because "I had not dressed up my granddaughter or done her hair properly before taking her out of the house". The abrupt change in our daughter was very hard to navigate because we did not know what to expect and so we walked on egg shells continually around her. She started making demands that we put our granddaughter in her room after we picked her up from day care and leave her there till dinner, then she could come out to eat dinner, and then we had to put her to bed with no stories or playtime! And another was that our granddaughter was not allowed to have ANY carbohydrates! No fruit, no whole grain toast, no rice or potatoes! I gently gave push back, I tried to make my daughter chuckle about how silly that was as she used to be able to lighten up and laugh at herself...but that did not go well. Our granddaughter was not only thin but very sweet... there was no reason for any punishment or food restriction ( not that there ever should be, children should be loved and admonished maybe disciplined but not punished and certainly not on the Atkins diet!). About a year after our daughter became aggressive, she cut us off completely, she had already cut off her best friend whose children were our granddaughters friends and then shortly after that she cut off our other daughter, her sister and brother in law, then my parents, and all of her friends. My husband and I did all we could to try and keep contact with her to try to make ammends but its been almost 5 years. The woman she is with is truly sociopathic, she and her whole family have made up crazy lies about us. I feel like I'm living in a horror movie version of the Twighlight Zone. I can't even begin to describe the pain and grief. We were told that our granddaughter suffered severe trauma from a source that we met later who knows my daughter. Others have come forward and confirmed this. Also confirmations that the woman she is with is controlling, manipulative and a pathological liar. We never got to know her and there was no reason those who told us would have had to make that up, some of those people were not even friends of ours, just acquaintances.

[@ShirleyAnnPetrillo-oj7sc]

How horrible for you, your husband & family! So sorry 😣

[@dsriddle13]

I have only seen this just now. Thank you, Jeanette for continuing to speak out for our kids.

[@jamsanger]

I'm so sorry. It possibly feels empty to say this but you're doing the right thing. This latest wave of misogyny is causing immeasurable harm to vulnerable kids. May they all find their way out of this maelstrom. ❤

[@traceywood5278]

I am so incredibly grateful my children didn’t fall victim to this tragedy. My heart is with you mom! Prayers up, your child will return to you 🙏🙏🙏

[@HT-vi6kb]

Dear God, I feel horrible for this woman. But stay strong, never believe the lie. And I pray one day your daughter comes back around.

[@saregama-r8td]

The truest form of love is expressed from compassion and understanding. The strength and conviction to save her child’s life is so commendable. It’s just so hard to believe this is the 21st century. As parents we face so many fears (perceived or real) imagine adding this made up 🌈 community to the bucket list.

[@timeenuf4200]

A lighthouse withstands all storms and reflects the sun on good days. Keep your faith strong.

[@patlindsay538]

We need common sense laws to prevent these situations.

[@tonimuller7493]

I lost my daughter to a cult-like group for over 2 years. It was the hardest thing I have ever endured. God gave me strength, though some days I would cry for 2 hours at a time and there were days I didn't want to go on. We had been quite close and I never imagined this would happen to me. My son joined her in the group for about 3 months before he saw the light and came home. A few months after that, he was cut out of her life, too. The transgender ideology is like a cult in that it encourages kids to separate from families who disagree. I feel this woman's pain and pray that Sophia realizes what a loving, wise mother she has. Shame on the system that has supported this alienation.

[@GoldieGold356]

This is how a loving , caring, parent would be the lighthouse for the child in times of distress. My heart hurts for you as mother, know you are doing the most loving thing a parent can do. Being honest. Love to you.

[@donaldsmith5434]

You are a good parent. Stand your ground and I believe things will work out for the good. Your tears have not gone to waste. Your will see your daughter again.

[@idiaz2521]

Sue the government. You have been damaged by them.

[@k.stacey7389]

This is heartbreaking. What are we doing to children??

[@theealeek]

This is yet another issue that parents have to deal with in family. Keep fighting for your baby, momma. You will be reunited with your baby and she will know the truth. Please keep us updated and thank you for sharing.

[@DaniD382]

It’s sad that an entity can tell you that you cannot be a parent and a judge will uphold that decision. The same thing happened to me, different circumstances though. This country is disgusting! Our children are not even ours, they’re the governments. We have a constitutional right to be a parent but that can be taken away because of feelings. A group of people can feel that you are unfit and that apparently makes it so. My daughter now thinks she’s a boy named Oliver. I don’t have access to her either. People in her life enable the delusion and there isn’t anything I can do.

[@sherryditzler7908]

You are still parenting now!!!! I applaud you because I know you are right!!!

[@lauramann8275]

Every parent that hears the word transgender come out of their child's mouth, needs to watch this video. I feel so much for this woman! Thanks so much for sharing! ❤

[@Jul006]

So a mother is forbidden from being with her daughter, because she knows better than her daughter and this is justice? America, you are the laughing stock of the world right now.

[@jenniferraymond9766]

Yup. And Canada too. Even worse there. Government subsidized assisted suicide, anyone?

[@justforgetaboutit5987]

I’m sorry for the mom they are killing her heart. Tragic and sick

[@heathersmiliekiwi8528]

Beautiful strong woman I pray her daughter has the same strength and when she matures she will return to her mum and they’ll have a strong relationship to make up for the years lost. 🙏🏻

[@shaehales4224]

This is completely devastating for this mom, I can’t even believe we are living this life!

[@noellecappa1947]

This woman is an incredible parent. Stay strong. One day Sophia will come back and know this too.

[@RabbitHoleDiaries]

Thank you SO MUCH for being so strong, courageous, beautiful, candid. Your strength is absolutely inspiring. Hang in there, momma.

[@Susan-so4vj]

Our government is insane

[@AotearoaAnge]

A few things going on here, what screams the loudest to me is that her daughter is being used as a weapon by her dad, against her mum, and he’s using her delusion of not being a girl to her detriment. One can only hope that her daughter hasn’t started puberty blockers, hormone treatments and evasive surgery. There’s no way back physically once medical treatment is started. My heart goes out to her mum. She is 100% correct in all of her statements in this video. She is a loving, caring mother who is doing right by her daughter. Her daughter will return to her one day. ❤

[@errin-mp1zy]

I do hope she does return and doesn't feel too ashamed....but the father, well....he should feel shame for the rest of his life.

[@corrinadeluxe4141]

Heartbreaking. What a strong woman this mother is . These families struggling are always in my prayers.

[@candacemaxwell1961]

Sad what this world has come to. Very soon, we will be held accountable for what we say on any platform that doesn't fit their narrative. This is only going to worse and I believe many of us know.

[@Love_Sex_Magic]

I feel like "The lunatics have taken over the asylum"...

[@elizabeth4444_4]

You are a very good mother, stay strong and she will come back to you 🙏❤️

[@jomama81ranch8]

I support this mother and she is totally correct when she states that she didn't want to support her daughter's "illness", because that is what it is... in telling her that she wasn't female! I would like to ask why this mom wears her hair, and dresses to look the part of a guy? That to me, would be very confusing to a young girl growing up being raised by this single mom. Her peers would "most likely" ask this girl repeatedly if her mom is either gay or a transgender person? THAT could be very emotionally hard for her daughter to deal with. Not trying to be condemning to this struggling mom, but I don't understand why you would go this far with a haircut to LOOK like a man? But... I don't understand why anybody would want a tattoo either! LOL

[@dustinharp7605]

Short hair doesn’t make women look like a man, short hair isn’t a man thing

[@pmartin6086]

100% Agree. This is horrific.

[@lunarblack9379]

😢 my heart breaks for the child and her mother. How is the system breaking up families? The real question is what kind of a system is this? that it can have soo much invasive power that it comes in the homes and separate a child from their parent due to an ideology. Sad, I hope she is still fighting… i hope the daughter sees this!

[@bonnie579]

Dear Father God, protect our children from the confusion the devil is doing to them. Keep this mother’s love strong for her daughter. Keep her doing amazing job, even though she is not in contact. Please Father in Jesus Christ mighty name resolve this situation for all involved. Amen

[@lauraswann5543]

Amen💖

[@Simone79126]

Good lady Jeannette… my heart goes out to you. I pray for you and your daughter. ❤

[@StormyLynn724]

This story hit me in the heart with a wrecking ball. I can only imagine your pain. And im so sorry this happened to you. But unfortunately this is regrettably the new norm in this crazy world. People think this is ok. It’s NOT. Prayers for you and your daughter Bless your heart. 🙏🥲✌️

[@teeniequeenie8369]

Here in canada we are taking kids away and arresting parents if they won’t play along

[@adamjulian3360]

I kinda have the feeling that there was more going on than an identity crisis. I saw the biggest dramas in families, but a 11 year old kid breaking contact wasn't one of them. But that's just my opinion.

[@rebeccarpwebb4132]

That is the Main issue with this , anyone asking about how much mental health is getting thru , is called hate speech? 😢

[@rebeccarpwebb4132]

Any questioning anything trans is hate speech and bullying.tho it's actually protection

[@jesterday2222]

These kids are told explicitely and repeatedly by social media groomers to break contact with the parents though. They are told that 'your parents are bad if they do not affirm you' and so on. Of course, being a child with a childs brain, they easily fall for this lie, like all the other lies they are being told, like 'you can turn into a boy if you're a girl and visa versa' and 'transitioning will make you happy'. L I E S.

[@lauramann8275]

So many stories about teachers affirming kids at school and told not to tell their parents. If they're brainwashed enough, especially in the teenage years, they will want away from whoever is against the ideology.

[@Rat_Queen86]

I would like to know how much time this child was spending on social media You would be amazed at how those platforms turn kids on their parents

[@healthserve]

You may not be "affirming" your child as transgender, but you are certainly affirming the truth. I pray your daughter comes to realize that and you can be a family again.

[@blakeflynn6499]

Wow, W...T...F

[@FirstNameLastName-wt5to]

Gender ideology is the new anorexia and cutting. Both were prevalent in previous generations and are recognized as social contagions present in female adolescents. And society fought hard to end those contagions. We have specialized programs and PSAs were everywhere. There were Lifetime movies and HBO and Nickelodeon programs that addressed them. But now, we are encouraging this newest social contagion which goes farther than any of the previous ones. This period in history will be looked back on as a dark age. An age where deviations from the socially constructed gender roles were punished by drugging and mutilating children.

[@hannahalexie5158]

Shame on that father and step-mother! Jeannette, if you are reading this, know you are embodying the true essence of a mother. The love, the sacrifice you are enduring. You are carrying a cross for your daughter.

[@jeannettecooper1453]

I appreciate your comment. Thank you.

[@brandybiscoff9685]

Is this really america?? What is going on with our country, this is pure INSANITY

[@DeniseMe64]

OMG Jeannette, how entirely heartbreaking. I bawled my eyes out. I am so sorry; I had no idea. I hope you win, cuz this is so much BS. This country is doomed if this is how we treat loving parents. I hate this tra wave with a passion.

[@petmills2219]

This is so sad 😔. Stay strong you are a good mom and everything you're saying is right! Something has happened to make her feel this way and it's just a waiting game for you now. My prays are with you.

[@mamaygrimm796]

You are a strong and good mother. You are giving your daughter truth and that takes more love than enabling delusions about who she really is. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Sending prayers.

[@lites26]

As a family law attorney, I am beyond horrified. I am so sorry.

[@Willowy13]

I am so sorry. I can't imagine the pain of being separated from her beloved daughter. I pray your daughter gets back to you.

[@VOLightPortal]

Some adults have difficulty with the concept of teaching kids the art of patience... the concept that waiting until the age of 18 is important before making any massive drastic life altering decision, as with things like drinking, smoking, having sex, driving, and all these other things that used to remain strictly in the adult realm. When Biden said "affirming your child's gender is the greatest gift" it almost sounded like "giving your child drugs / allowing your child to have sex is the greatest gift" it is truly face contorting.

[@a.j.allday]

My heart breaks for this mother. As she told her story my daughter sat on my lap and I just held her. God please give this woman comfort and strength. Please help this child understand her body and know that her mother is doing what’s right!! God please help us all navigate the insanity we’ve been thrust into!! God please heal this country and restore our minds.

[@albertovelavela9947]

I couldn't stop crying, I just can't imagine myself going through this. God bless you and give you your girl son.

[@ronda295]

This is so cruel to both mom and daughter. My heart breaks for you, Jeannette and I will be praying for you and Sophia. I will also pray for those who are so misguided and deceived in thinking that it was a good decision to torture both of you in this way. I'm so sorry you are going through this :-(

[@verlchill333]

the rainbow flag is the new jolly roger

[@trudyharding4277]

And a sad future for many

[@ninakoch1799]

My heart breaks for this mum :( You are amazing and I pray you get back your daughter!

[@jazminerivas6070]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 you are an amazing mom and human being!!! I pray God keeps giving you strength!! And here on earth there is lots of people who have your back and agree with you!! I’m sorry this is happening!!

[@lorettaatkinson5908]

This absolutely breaks my heart. I’m praying for a miracle for you and your daughter 🙏

[@FradorayChingsing]

Wow, strong words. Thanks for sharing. Very sad story, what a crazy world.

[@feelingcrafty]

My heart breaks for you, Jeannette. Hang in there, she will come back.