Soren's Story: How One Detransitioner Found Peace Outside of Medicalization

Soren Aldaco discovered transgenderism online, identifying as a boy at age 11 and beginning hormone replacement therapy at age 17. After undergoing a botched double mastectomy at age 19, Soren found herself alone in the emergency room with doctors reopening her wounds, thinking she was going to die. Soren’s traumatic medical complications opened her eyes to the ills of so-called “gender affirming care,” which she says enabled her to believe pills, injections, and procedures could provide her the sense of self she craved growing up. Now detransitioned and healing her complex emotions through mindfulness, Soren is a vocal advocate against the “enabling” she sees happening inside the medical industry and believes that detransitioners could be the leaders of the next #MeToo-style movement.
Written & Produced by Kelsey Bolar
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[@paigesteele4406]

“Sometimes the compassionate response is the one that sets strong boundaries” amazing.

[@heatherwillis5505]

Reminds me of something my dad always says when he's about to tell me something I don't want to hear, but need to hear: "Are you ready? I'm going to be kind, but I am not going to be nice." The "nice" thing to do is affirm these children, but it is absolutely NOT the kind thing to do.

[@barryblackwood6050]

@@heatherwillis5505 Wise & considerate loving man . That is fatherhood! What a blessing!

[@donnasmith9970]

My dad always said “ The truth always hurts”

[@dearcole123]

Yes I absolutely found this to be an inspiring way to say what I’ve been thinking about this topic for a long time now.

[@happywanderer2874]

Yes. Being surrounded by enablers can be so toxic. Everyone needs a voice of reason in their life.

[@cuddlesanddaisy]

I believe that a good percentage of people feel odd during their teen years. It is a crime to tell a young person that means they need to try to change their sex.

[@idid138]

And they KNOW most people with childhood gender dysphoria, grow out of it. They are KNOWINGLY doing this damage to children.

[@idid138]

And the more they talk about all the new quirky pronouns and fetishes, the odder, the kids are gonna feel! I predict a bunch of kids would opt for blocking their hormones to avoid this crazy adult world, where we are letting madness take over once sane spaces. And who could blame them? The future looks bleak, I wish I could enjoy childhood again.

[@theharshtruthoutthere]

@@idid138 Sobering reminder: The only "transition" every soul needs is; transitioning from lies/darkness into the truth/light. From religions into reality. From being unsaved/wicked sinner into being saved. From being deceived into being HEALD. Therefore, souls, CRY OUT TO GOD and leave behind all masonic/satanic lies. As none is trans nor male nor female in heaven, same in hell, no soul is trans nor male nor female. FOREVER HUMAN SPIRIT. Mark 12:25 For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage; but are as the angels which are in heaven. Matthew 22:30 For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. Sinners shall have everlasting existence filled with agony. Matthew 25:46 - And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal. John 5:29 - And shall come forth; they that have done good, unto the resurrection of life; and they that have done evil, unto the resurrection of damnation. Matthew 8:12 - But the children of the kingdom shall be cast out into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth. Revelation 21:8 - But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. Saved shall have everlasting existence filled with LIFE: John 10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. John 5:29 - And shall come forth; they that have done good, unto the resurrection of life; and they that have done evil, unto the resurrection of damnation.

[@LadyDecember]

Can confirm on the feeling odd during teenhood thing! I was in high school from 2003-2006 and I remember just avidly hating the size of my breasts. I was already a D-cup by 17, boys would sneak quick glances, and rampant uber-feminism was telling me that it was because they were pigs who couldn't control themselves. If you could have offered me any surgery in the world, I would have asked for a breast reduction, an A to B cup sounded like the most wonderful thing in the world. Looking back now I can see _so_ much more clearly now. My issue was something beyond the surface. For starters, at that point I had lived longer as flat-chested due to childhood, so I had not yet become accustomed to my new body. Being in a new body was a jarring change I wasn't ready to accept, I just wanted to run and be free again like I was as a child only a handful of years ago. Sex was also a concept that made me deeply uncomfortable at that time because at 17 I still felt much too young to engage in any of that, so the size of my chest made me feel overtly sexual when I never meant to be, and to add to that, the rampant feminism of the time telling me that men only wanted one thing. I wore so many baggy clothes to hide myself. Now though, once I've grown past these issues and come to many realizations? I am SO glad I didn't do anything and continue on that surgery train of thought! I'm still a D-cup to this day and I love my size, I've now lived for a much longer time with breasts than without and I can't imagine life any other way. As for being looked at? I grew to realize that not every glance is a leering, predatory one. It's simply just a thing that happens and it doesn't always mean objectification. All this to say that I see why thoughts of transition is such an epidemic in teens. They're in the natural puberty transition stage and it has heavy influence on their state of mind and how they see themselves. Depending on where they direct this energy and vulnerability, anyone looking from the outside in can take advantage and use this time of confusion by adding fuel to selling an ideology. Teens usually do believe they're in the wrong body, but sometimes for the wrong reasons. I felt like I was in the wrong body too, but merely because of the physical changes I was undergoing, my naivete, and my raging hormones leaving me in a vulnerable, highly suggestible, and impulsive state. My story isn't really identical or even comparable to transitioning and detransitioning of course, but I think it works on the same principle. I would have lived with regrets, I was not stable enough to have made that decision back then and I would have done it all for the wrong reasons.

[@ChikisRozae]

Exactly especially girls can be mean when you got the best shoes but they end up being for “boys” even tho they are just bad ass shoes . That happened to me I just ended up being into the shoe game

[@chantellethecool1]

Teenagers and kids should not be having unnecessary surgeries. This madness needs to stop

[@marvalice3455]

this is not a functional argument, because those who believe in transgender rhetoric believe they *are* necesary. the only argument that matters is "is the philosophy true, or not?" if it is true, than these surgeries are entirely necesary. if it's not true, than the movement is an existential threat to our culture. you cannot be an enlightened centeriust on this. it's either true or it isn't, and we are burning our future on the assumption it is true.

[@nancybaumgartner6774]

It’s pure evil

[@mdelcb9915]

It's genital mutilation and chemical castration

[@Oceanfoxy]

Absolutely not treatments they shouldn’t be done let alone labelled that way

[@jamesclark6487]

All around the world it's legal, by default it would seem. It should be illegal, and it should never have been legal to start with.

[@so_very_kerri]

As a chronically ill person stuck on surgeries and pharmaceuticals, please don't subject yourself to unnecessary surgeries and medications 😢 prayers 🙏

[@natashaj9169]

Agree!!!!

[@CarrieSheffield]

God bless her. She is more than enough as she was born. She doesn't need drugs or surgery to make her enough.

[@BeyondmyselfIsrael]

It’s too late to say this

[@sophie20015]

Your voice, Soren, and all the voices of those who walk away from the ideology have been getting to loud to ignore. Thank you for speaking out, it is so important. Give your sister a big hug.

[@jamisonfawkes8537]

i started hrt at 18 and had a double mastectomy at 21 (i also had complications, but was luckily taken seriously). i’m 28 now and i regret it all so much.

[@littleboots9800]

I'm so very sorry. I know I can't say anything to make it magically better and your life will be different in some ways now, but it can still be great. I wish you the very best.

[@roseofsharin]

Jamison, first I will send you a big virtual hug, and second, I hope there's someone in your life you can reach out to that can help you. If not, maybe the people of this channel can direct you to a point of contact. You shouldn't have to navigate through by yourself. Know that you are a beautiful child of a loving God.

[@bgg7518]

I am so sorry for you... I pray for you and your complete healing. Jesus loves you very much.

[@Peabody388]

So sorry little sis. Hopefully they can rebuild your chest like they do with breast cancer survivors. I pray your body resets to natural form. You're wonderful as you are, and the past experiences have just made you a stronger woman. ❤️❤️❤️

[@rachelkrug6761]

Im so so sorry. Im praying for you to heal and feel comfort and have an amazing life.

[@fractal_3]

"we need to discern between enabling and helping" beautifully said!

[@ftmrivas3043]

What a nightmare. No child should be allowed to do this to themselves. They need to wait until they are mature to realize what they are doing.

[@vaska1999]

A huge part of the problem is that people are being lied to. I've seen interviews with adult detransitioners, people who transitioned after the age of 30, who all say they were point blank lied to by medical professionals and trans activists.

[@julianaragan7955]

I would like to see the liars in the transgender community get punished. They didn't do their job, and now someone who shouldn't have transitioned did, and the ability to transition as whole comes under fire. Let the cis people be cis and not take surgeries that won't help them, and let the trans people get PROPER counseling to decide the best course of action.

[@DominicNJ73]

She wasn't a child, she was an adult when she started the medical transition process.

[@julianaragan7955]

@vaska1999 I do feel like people should stop and think and rethink the possibilities that can come from transitioning, even other transgender people encourage thinking about it. But that should be a given. You can't ban a treatment that helps over 90% of people because of a few who had bad experiences.

[@countrybreezefarms]

Beauty is within you at birth. I am 56 and I grew up as a tomboy. My story is the same and somewhat different. I had serious trauma in my life from age 4-5yrs to preteen. The more I research into the dysmorphia of our youth, the more I see a distinct pattern that links each young person the same. The individuals that are so-called professionals are absolutely doing our youth a disservice at an extremely alarming rate. If I can save even one young person from going down a path they will regret as they get older, it will be time and dedication well spent. God bless this young lady and her courage to come forward with her message.

[@radicalcartoons2766]

Same here. Tomboy all my life. I'm 63. We need to Reclaim Tomboyism. It's not just for Lesbians!

[@julianaragan7955]

Nonbinary person here. I think that there are plenty of tomboys our there, like most of my friends. But I agree, breaking gender norms as a cisgender person doesn't make you trans, and I want doctors to do better and recognizing who is just a tomboy and should not be transitioning.

[@laobok]

​@@julianaragan7955 It's ok to be male or female. Save yourself and love yourself.

[@julianaragan7955]

@laobok I love myself and that's why I refuse to conform to the false colonial gender binary. The first nonbinary people have been around since 4500 B.C.E. We've been around longer than Jesus. Your gender binary is false. That's a colonialist ideal, and ruined the ancient nonbinary culture when Christians enslaved or segregated or murdered First Nation's people and Africans. We stopped being open through genocide. And that's done, get over it. Colonialism doesn't control the truth anymore.

[@rickberglund2134]

Health Insurance companies need to stop funding these surgeries.

[@katefowler5556]

What a beautiful, articulate young woman…so wise and well spoken-and such a gift to her little sister❤❤❤

[@chichibraap1198]

Not very wise for doing of this to herself. More like foolish.

[@chichibraap1198]

Not very wise for doing of this to herself. More like foolish.

[@julianaragan7955]

I hope we can learn from her and fix any cracks in figuring out who should be transitioning and who should not.

[@philgillmartin5053]

@@chichibraap1198 So compassionate!

[@Torbis101]

I wish this Trans movement would just STOP. People like this woman have suffered enough!!!

[@cryptoprepper2933]

It won't. It's part of a depopulation agenda and also serves as a distraction. But it can continue forever because this is something that just isn't natural and you are going to get more and more people that are speaking out against it, including people like this.

[@Irunwithscissors63]

I think the sane public have also had enough

[@boognewsnetwork7620]

What about all of us who suffered greatly before transitioning & transition eliminated that suffering? That doesn’t matter to you?

[@annamfkelly]

No, because I want you to speak to me in a few years! You are still lost.

[@cryptoprepper2933]

@Boog News Network Your mind changes as you get older it is inevitable, as is dying and paying taxes. People do not think the same way ten years later, and then ten years after that, and then ten years after that. People become entirely different people from 25 to 50. For the most part, people don't care what you do with your body. If you are an adult, that is your choice. But letting children get it is absolute insanity. Just wait and 10 years from now to see how many people are regretting this decision. , and you're already seeing it.

[@SteveFirefly777]

Why are so-called medical practitioners not being prosecuted for these atrocities!

[@tonir6532]

It is an UN agenda plan is to confuse and devalue humans and make them incapable of thinking for themselves and reproducing thus the elites have a group of eunuch slaves. Furthermore this ideology promotes acceptance of mutilation of the human body in readiness for the WEF movement of transhumanism. They acknowledge they need slaves because the future of robots is a failure so building robotics into humans is their aim. K-l- us S-ch-w--b and his offsider admitted that they are now God.

[@benandjerrys338]

Sadly, a lot of it is due to profit. A healthy tomboy teenage girl.... doesn't need to go to the doctor's much. She's young and healthy. However, convince her that there's something fundamentally wrong with her body, womanhood and identity. Brainwash her into believing that because she does not fit into certain societal stereotypes of womanhood, because she's a tomboy, because she's insecure, maybe she's experienced bullying or a troubled childhood, or perhaps she's autistic and doesn't know it yet. Lots of reasons..... But, moving on, for whatever reason she develops gender dysphoria during her preteens or teen years that very often did not exist before in her childhood (gender dysphoria is a real condition but it is very rare and until gender ideology took hold in the last decade, it was significantly more common in young boys and not teenage girls. The girl seeks help, ends up in gender affirming care and gets serious hormonal and surgical treatments that often have complications, and even if they all go smoothly, she will now be a lifelong medical patient as once you start puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones you have to stay on them for life. Even if you later detransition, because your natural hormonal makeup got messed up and no longer functions, you have to take artificial sex hormones for life. Not to mention other potential complications i.e. bone density loss, loss of fertility, sexual function, etc. More surgeries and procedure are sought out to correct these various problems that did not exist before becoming transgender. Lastly, mental health is likely a mess, so expensive therapies and/or medication and/or other mental health support is also needed. Gender ideology is making a lot of people extremely wealthy.....

[@freyaaswynn2961]

Transhumanism

[@annramsey7907]

Really super simple. It is elective & cosmetic. Insurance provided no coverage. It is an extremely high out of pocket cost. It is extremely profitable. Because of the fact that such surgery is requested by the patient & paid for totally by the patient, there is no victim & no crime.

[@QHarbin]

There are many practitioners like myself who object to the transgender affirmative model of treatment and challenge the research used to support it- but we are in the ones in danger of prosecution. The transgender affirmative model has been adopted by our major medical, pediatrics, and psychological professional associations and our ability to question or challenge this position has been suppressed. Instead, we have been directed to adopt this model of treatment in our professional work- potentially opening us up to legal action, losing our license to practice, and public censure and harassment if we do not follow suit. It should frighten everyone.

[@HardluckHutch]

It’s worse than I thought. “It affirmed me in my delusion” is the perfect way to describe this whole transgender movement.

[@whateverm.9417]

Transgender individuals are not afflicted by delusions. It is evident from the personal narratives of detransitioners, as well as other accounts, that they did not undergo the profound distress of gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria, a condition that endures throughout one's lifetime, cannot simply vanish or be remedied. While transitioning can alleviate emotional anguish to some extent, it cannot eradicate gender dysphoria or serve as a curative measure. Detransitioners grapple with a range of traumatic encounters, such as sexual assault and bullying. For them, transitioning holds promise as they envision a transformation of their physical sex as a means to transcend the torment inflicted by their traumatic experiences, hoping to emerge as a new individual untainted by those hardships.

[@javiermontaque683]

If any parent is confused about what gender their own child belongs to , then that parent really doesn't deserve to have custody of kids and really shouldn't be around anyone else's child if they cant even tell the difference between a boy and a girl

[@keidwyn]

Please don't comment about a group of people you do not know, its incredibly wrong, no one comes into your world and tells you what you should do with your body because that would be invasive,please let others live as they choose ,no I'm not trans, no I'm not pro anything what I am is pro Autonomy which is everyones democratic right .Ask yourself how exactly are a group of people who are less than 1percent of the population affecting your life, the answer should be zero be grateful and relieved no one is judging how you choose to live or better yet imagine if the world decided that the way you live wasn't good enough and wrong, it wouldn't feel very good would it? Live and Let live . I only know one person who is trans they are also a productive valuable member of society ,assisting people come off drugs of addiction, they are compassionate,caring and lovely and THAT is where the judgment should lie,Is this person a good kind compassionate person ? Your judgement is hurtful very hurtful to those who dont' live the same way, it leads to depression and feelings of not feeling welcomed ,its wrong !!! stop it

[@MissKateKatie]

​@@keidwynThey DO affect our lives! They violate our rights our kids rights! In canada you cant deny your kids gender affirming care without losing rights to them. You have teachers and doctors that are indoctrinating kids. Get a grip on reality here. Transgenderism is the new social contagion. Yes it ACTUALLY affects 1% of the population. So why is 25% of the population flocking to it? Its a fad. And no parent or doctor should be mutilating kids.

[@garyrandom7512]

​@@keidwynI tell you why it is controversial: According to "The independent woman's forum" 《The number of people aged 13 to 25 identifying as transgender has nearly doubled since 2017. Forty-three percent of the 1.6 million transgender-identifying Americans are young adults or teenagers. As the liberal comedian Bill Maher noted recently, the reason the transgender trend is troubling is because it is medicalized and involves “literally experimenting on children.” In the United Kingdom, the National Health Service’s transgender youth clinic saw a 20-fold increase in referrals in the past decade, from about 250 per year to 5,000 in 2021. The UK government recently shut down that clinic over concerns for patient safety. A class action lawsuit has been initiated against the clinic on behalf of 1,000 former young patients harmed by medicalized transition.》 I don't take too much risk by predicting an epidemic of detransitionning in the next five years. And most of these detransitionner would by biological female under 30yo.

[@liasanma1665]

I like how people downplay surgeries. It can so easily be life threatening! So many things can go wrong. Nothing is worth putting your life on the table like that... unless you're dying.

[@ritahorvath8207]

Healthy people should not have surgeries at all . .

[@Ziegfeld-z2x]

It’s called mental illness.

[@bendakstarkiller3407]

Surgery is downplayed in every facet of life. Cosmetic surgery is increasingly common and c-sections seem to be way more a thing now too. It's all major surgery and can be life threatening, it's crazy how modern culture treats it so lightly now.

[@liasanma1665]

@@bendakstarkiller3407 I know right!

[@marley606]

@@bendakstarkiller3407 It's especially downplayed for females but female pain is often downplayed. Like women are told period pain and childbirth are part of being a woman and they should just suck it up

[@rosemaryalles6043]

Heartbreaking And I can hardly bear it. Former Dem here, now an independent. What can I do other than speak LOUDLY about this.

[@Nikalette100]

This has turned me into a conservative Republican. Formerly lifelong Democrat.

[@PinkSparklerToontown]

@@Nikalette100 just to remind you democrats are conservative. Liberalism is a conservative ideology, real leftists don't believe in this nonsense either.

[@rosemaryalles6043]

@@Nikalette100 me as well. I mean, an independent.

[@cb664]

Me too. The woke ideology has pushed me to the right. I'm quitting the Democrats.

[@dreamsofturtles1828]

Was a lifelong Dem, but an no longer . But i can't be a Republican either. The crazies have taken over both parties imo.

[@anynimus1617]

Soren, you will grow up into a breathtakingly amazing human being and I foretell that you will be a rock to many people in the years to come with your compassion, wisdom and kindness.

[@laurakatherine9836]

This is a very brave young lady to speak so openly about her experience.❤

[@motherofcats2712]

This is horrifying. If I were a child today, I would have been targeted with this nonsense. It's so important we all speak out against this dangerous cult.

[@melbaround]

Same. I played football, climed trees, cars, hated dresses. I even had a peach fuzz mustache and was made fun of for that. I probably would have taken the bait. When in reality i never had or wanted a gay relationship, happily heterosexual married with children. All kids feel awkward and the medical industrial complex is praying on them for a better esg, cei, hei human rights initiative scorecard. What's worse is this is coming down from world economic forum outside of this country. Is it a new type of warfare?

[@keidwyn]

Cult? are you serious the Catholic Church was a cult ,a cult for peadophiles !! this has been around for eons look at the Phillipines they accept this and have done for thousands of years

[@dunedainmom]

her love for her little sister makes me cry, its so beautiful.

[@albertschulz5575]

I had complications like this from a mastitis from breastfeeding. I had literally surgery without anasthesia. There is no describing the pain, the agony.

[@anynimus1617]

What possible reason would they have to do this? I don't think they'd ever do this to a man. Why are women tortured thus?

[@marvalice3455]

@@anynimus1617 because the Enemy hates women.

[@cyano741]

@@marvalice3455 Ohhh lol, please stop. lemme guess. The patwiarchy 🤡 Most men are simply human beings. Most people want good in this world. There is no "enemy" ; If there was, we'd have a common/shared one.

[@cyano741]

@@anynimus1617 They did plenty of horrible things to my husband when he was in the hospital. How would you know what they do and do not do to men. Have you asked all men? Are you that hellbent on playing victim? Stop the "all men" bashing, it is childish and toxic.

[@jamesclark6487]

​@@cyano741right on. She probably thinks Whoopie Goldberg is very very smarterer.

[@s.wilson2702]

This is so beautiful, tragic on one hand, yet beautiful! When she spoke of her love for her little sister, it brought tears to my eyes. In addition to her newfound growing comfort in her own true identity, I hope and pray she comes to know the God of all comfort, thru his Son and our Savior, Jesus. The same God who "knit her together in her mother's womb" and who declares that she is "fearfully and wonderfully made" (in Psalm 139), wants to finish the work he has begun in her in her journey to healing and wholeness both physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This is my prayer for her and so many others like her!

[@emmy-kz1pj]

What a strong person, being a mentor for your younger sister while young through such a difficult journey. I think a lot of gender dysphoria comes from trauma. And it doesn't need to be physical or sexual abuse, it can be attachments trauma with parents, can be feelings of being isolated. This is all about connections and relationships from my perspective, our sense of identity is very malleable. You have managed to forge ahead in life- reaching out to your Dad and finding your little sister- you have done all this on your own. I believe you have a lot of initiative and therefore a very happy future to look forward to. Good luck

[@memymomalex]

Her line 'Sometimes the compassionate response is one which sets firm boundaries' is so well said. That should be the motto of this movement.

[@carols4013]

I'm so tired of people calling trans hormone therapy "hormone replacement therapy" or "HRT". No, you are not bringing your hormones up to previous levels! 🙄

[@jamesclark6487]

It's offlabel experimentation. It's what the left allow your children to be groomed in to, in secret. That amongst other things.

[@Patryyyyck]

even HRT is stupid since your test levels are never that stable even when you are 18 years old, just accept your hormonal profile.

[@samanthathompson9812]

As a woman who needs the real thing, I can't even Google it without getting this nonsense back.

[@carols4013]

Why does it say that there are three replies, but I can only see one?

[@samanthathompson9812]

@@carols4013 KZbin is weird that way. Maybe they took down some spam replies and the stats haven't kept up.

[@gls1864]

Her story could save a lot of children and educate parents that deals with this and make parents can be wise about this situation

[@TrishaHunsaker-zl2dl]

This is so close to the path and time-line my daughter started on. At 15 she came to me and said she was transgender. I said I was there to support her, but would not approve or pay for anything related to hormones or surgery until she turned 18. She was angry at me for a long time and struggled to understand why. She was a very volatile teen who had experimented in cutting, and was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I knew she was struggling with body dysphoria, but I also was convinced that she was a girl inside and out. Even so, I continued to support her clothing and lifestyle choices. She had developed breasts very quickly and they were large, so I thought that was definitely a contributing factor to being uncomfortable in her own body. After a year of changing to a male version of her name and dressing like a boy, I started noticing a change. She started adding more feminine clothing, painting her nails, doing a little makeup, etc. I only commented about her looking nice if she made a little extra effort with her appearance, and didn't focus it on whether it was male or female. She wore a suit to a school dance and the next one she wore a dress. We had a long talk finally after almost 2 years, she thanked me for supporting her, but also not letting her do anything medical that couldn't be reversed. She was overcoming the uncomfortable feeling with her body changing, and finally understood why I had said no, to give herself time to grow and mature. If she had been living with her father, I have a feeling he may have just gone along with what she thought she wanted, and would have a similar story to this poor girl. I'm grateful I had full custody and let her grow more before making these drastic decisions. I am appalled that this has become a common issue! When I was that age, I would have become a mermaid if I could have. My cousin says he would have become a dinosaur. Thinking you can change your gender with medication and surgery is asinine, and should require a certain age and a few years of counseling prior to anything even being considered. Unfortunately there are counselors now who will participate in the brain washing as not to appear as "transphobic". My daughter is now 21 and happy in her own skin. She's decided to grow her hair out, and often wears dresses. It's such a relief that at least this burdan has been lifted from her small shoulders. God help us all.

[@rinomoo7355]

You are a great parent. No adults should approve of their teenage children undergo unnecessary surgeries which would bring further complications. Being tomboy girl/feminine boy is OK, but just don't harm your body.

[@mchobbit2951]

I get the feeling that i would have thought/said that I was if I had been born 10 or 15 years later than I was. Why? In the words of 13 year old me, in my diary "A girl or a woman always has to be pretty, but men get to be ugly". I didn't want to wear make-up. I heard about jobs forcing high heels on woman and despised the mere thought. I hated and still hate our toxic female beauty standards. I didn't want to diet. I didn't and still don't always want to have to be "pretty". I'm still a tomboy as an adult. While I'd love to get rid of my period, I really don't want to be a man. I do wish that society didn't put so much emphasis on a woman's physical appearance when compared to a man. But people identifying as trans or "non binary" to escape that pretty much upholds that status quo. Instead, we should just tell girls that yes, you can be female and shave your head, shun make-up and wear men's clothing and it doesn't automatically mean that you want a penis.

[@Samantha_lifecoach4moms]

I’m so sorry for the struggles she’s seen in her life because of this, but I love that she’s on such an upswing in her journey. ❤️

[@MrsNerdRN]

Soren, thank you for coming to speak to us in Leander. I am so glad to have met you. You are beautiful & kind & courageous & strong & compassionate. Thank you for sharing your story & exposing these unethical treatments, this medical malpractice. I had no idea this was happening in Texas until you told me. Keep fighting to make this world a better place. It already is because you are in it. Hugs!

[@donitaforrest9064]

So sad that no one said, "No, bad idea, don't do it, you'll be sorry if you do, you're messing with your future, stop, wait, you are perfectly fine as you are, these surgeons are butchers". Shame on all the people who led you astray.

[@philgillmartin5053]

Excellent response.

[@duncanhewitt6557]

It's okay to not confirm to gender stereotypes whoever you are. Its okay to be gay or lesbian. It's okay to be a manly woman or girl or a feminine boy or man.

[@javiermontaque683]

No its not , its not okay to be any of those things , this is where the problems starts, society would be much more stable without those kind of people contaminating it with their bizarre sexual inclinations. If we want to achieve true equality we should remove those kind of people and then we would all truly be equals without any disparities that separate us

[@slsilver481]

​@@javiermontaque683 it's not a "bizarre sexual inclination" to be a tomboy or sensitive man. The reason the trans movement is so strong is because gender roles were too rigid for teenagers and they thought their only choices were football jock or cheerleader.

[@BillieJoSunrise]

@@slsilver481 unfortunately the trans movement is hardcore into gender roles. Both extremes have it wrong. The extreme right "my son is not allowed to play with dolls, it will make him gay". The extreme left "my son is playing with dolls, he must be a girl!"

[@nivisalba]

@@BillieJoSunrise YES! OMG !

[@idk-cm1uo]

​@@BillieJoSunrise so true

[@flowerychild]

Wish my family member would watch this with an open mind😢

[@lpeacelovefaith9566]

Same 😢

[@boognewsnetwork7620]

I watched (of my own free will) at least a hundred hours of detransitioner’s stories before deciding to medically transition because I wanted to make sure wasn’t making a mistake & with each one I watched, it actually made me more & more confidant that I was making the right choice… Which it absolutely was! I am extremely happy with my transition😁

[@flowerychild]

@@boognewsnetwork7620yes exactly, that's all i want is for them to be able to make an educated decision without just falling into a quick fix with irreversible options and possibly have regrets afterwards. It needs to be an entire process with lots of therapy and thinking long term, and I'm afraid they're rushing it 😞

[@sarahking9475]

Some of the wisest words: Sometimes the compassionate response is one which sets firm boundaries. At the end of the day you need to be able to discern enabling and helping.

[@Anna-tj7mp]

What a wise, compassionate, reflective, courageous young woman, and a wonderful sister. And forgiving, too.

[@thevinmeister5015]

People should stop obsessing with the sexuality of children. It's disgusting and quite frankly feels like they're pedophiles.

[@terriburgeson7710]

Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story.. i pray that many in this confused world will hear this and realize there is a better answer than destroying themselves. God our Heavenly Father be with you🙏

[@mirjammnwadigo6358]

We are all work in progress. And “no one is born in wrong body”. 😢 may this young woman find healing inside out. ❤️‍🩹

[@ronnasurmon1656]

We should have De trans Pride Month as well for awareness all around the country.

[@TrueEnergizerBunnies]

Isnt it odd how all these transition stories seem to start (at least with women transitioning to men) right at that age when puberty starts? EVERY young girl goes through that phase. You dont quite want to let childhood go, but you feel pressured to be a certain way and more grown up and get rid of the childhood things you loved. You arent sure who you are yet. Are you a girly girl? A tomboy? Something in between? You are just starting to notice boys but also other girl's bodies. Am I gay? Why am i looking at these girls? Maybe its just curiosity. We compare ourselves to other girls and feel inadequate if we aren't in the lead with developing. You have hormones flooding through your body and all these new feelings you dont know what to do with. You're curious about your body but you also feel wrong about it. WE ALL GO THROUGH THIS. And you know what? It passes. Maybe not in a year, maybe not in 5 years. But usually after you settle in to puberty and most of the rapid changes at the beginning are done, you settle down, you figure yourself out, and you move on. But instead of guiding girls through this rough time, we instead push them to be men. Push them to do this and that and ruin their bodies and all this dramatic stuff that they will later regret. And for what? So the 1 actual trans kid can be happy? What about the dozens of girls who will now be suffering the rest of their life and families broken up by this madness? Don't they matter?

[@radicalcartoons2766]

But there is no "actual" one kid.

[@ChesnaEllis]

Studies are now showing that many also have autism. Autism heightens the sense of not connecting with the body or having trouble fitting in…they are preyed upon by the influencers. They see people become superstars as soon as they say they are trans, and they think it will fix the problems they have…but it won’t. It can become a special interest which I’ve heard lasts 3-5 years. So when the special interest in trans is over for them now they are left with the decisions they and/or their family made. It is tragic! I have a severely autistic son, and I see so much info on autistic kids adopting the trans identity because they have trouble finding their true identity. So so sad…and criminal of the teachers, doctors and therapists to lead them to make life altering decisions.

[@ladyseeker2927]

The detransitioners need to have their voices heard. Soren, Shapeshifter, Chloe. They are all brave and know the truth and consequences of what this lunacy brings to the life of people. Also, there're trans people who give voices to them, like Blaire White, Buck Angel and Marcus (The Offensive Tranny). M*tilate kids for the sake of an ideoplogy is one of the things that I never thought I'd live long enough to see.

[@boognewsnetwork7620]

As a trans person who is very happy in his transition, I do think the voices of detransitioners deserve to be heard & they deserve respect & sympathy❤️‍🩹 However, it is very important that those voices are kept in perspective & not used to drowned out the voices of the vast majority of people who transition! The vast majority of people who medically transition, very happy in that decision & have their lives greatly improved by it!

[@idid138]

​@@boognewsnetwork7620 the vast majority of kids with Gender Dysphoria outgrow the dysphoria and are happy in their natural healthy whole bodies. What these medical hacks are doing will lead to a lot of unhappy transitioners in a few years. It's already happening! Why, why, would you want to subject a healthy body to endless drugs and surgeries to appease an unhealthy mind? Leave the kids alone!

[@marley606]

@@boognewsnetwork7620 Thanks for saying this. I agree with you 100%. Those who regret it should be given a platform however we shouldn't demonize everyone who transitioned

[@julianaragan7955]

As a nonbinary person I agree with giving detransitioners voices. While I think they are still the exception and not the rule, if they fell through cracks in our systems we better be damn well fixing it. Transitioning is to be who you truly are, and not end up like this.

[@TheRisky9]

​@@julianaragan7955With the latest studies showing about 30% of people detransitioning, that is not an exception.

[@deborahfenley5825]

No more gender affirmation for minors. It's that simple.

[@happytrails3]

Or anyone, since it's harmful.

[@ME24689]

Our Governments and Education Ministers need to hear this.. 😢

[@aishikineko]

I think society should normalize masculine women and feminine men, not ways of self-harm for children. I'm a tomboy myself and I've been always confused because I differ from other girls and I've never acted feminine and never will, sure I can be girly but not feminine, that's just who I am and I'm still biologically a woman and wouldn't want it any other way because I like being a woman, that's who I am. Tho if I was like 10 years younger I'd be 100% sure I'm trans boy bc of how it's popular these days, also the fact that I'm lesbian would probably be another argument against me being a woman. I feel sorry for these kids because for the most of them it's just a typical teenage hating their body phase and that's normal. Of course trans stuff is only promoted because taking hormones will cost these confused people money for the rest of their lives and in the eyes of rich psychopaths it's a very beneficial deal, nothing else and it's just sad. Trans people do exist but there aren't that many of them, most of the time it's some underlying mental issues. I just think we should just let kids be kids. I can understand social transition because no one is hurting anyone but things like harming ur own body or these trans athletes controversies are sick

[@theperfectdrugmakeup]

tomboy girls are somewhat normal. what is NOT normal is kids using the internet without supervision, going to online forums where this ideology is preached!!!!

[@isoldam]

We don't need to 'normalize' everything. We just need to treat all people with love and respect.

[@Србомбоница86]

​@@isoldamyou can't love delusion ,it's not normal

[@julianaragan7955]

I have seen how transitioning saves lives, and I have seen how counselors doing their job right and working through other issues before greenlighting any surgeries. What Soren's counselor and doctors did was negligent and unprofessional, and anyone like that should be reprimanded. I want to say that I think this is way less common than you think, but I still want to make sure that the doctor's who greenlight these surgeries are being thorough in their jobs. Because being transgender is okay, but so is being a tomboy, and we need to make sure that only the transgender people are transitioning.

[@ScurvyRascal]

I was born in the 70's. It was normal back then.

[@evonekky3672]

What an amazing point she makes - "it was something to build my identity around". That's such a huge part of the problem. Basing your identity solely on your sexual orientation or gender is not healthy, basing your identity sole on any one thing isn't healthy. We are complex nuanced beings with many valuable traits and aspects, it's sad when people focus solely on one aspect of themselves. It restricts and diminishes you.

[@futuremelina]

This is so wrong. Seeing those surgery results hurt.

[@kimberlys1727]

Thank you for speaking out and sharing your story. They that brains dont really fully develop until 24 or 25 years old, HOW can people think young children or teens can make these irreversible decisions? My hear breaks for the victims of this medical abuse. 💜

[@weronikaw2358]

The thing she said about being a role model for her sister made me tear up. What a beautiful and brave person she is.

[@freddiehavens9066]

A responsible smart parent would have stopped this insanity. The threat of suicide is acceptable and small compared to the certainty of permanent damage from these evil butcher doctors.

[@nhmooytis7058]

Neither are acceptable but if I had said at 25 I was a monkey and I’d kill myself if I didn’t get a tail transplant my parents would have taken me to a therapist.

[@nirvanagal9475]

It is really a touchy scenario. Depend on where you live, in FL, a bill just passed prohibiting puberty blockers and hormones for kids. But in other states, parents aren’t even informed of their children’s transition! Some parents were misinformed, misled or pressured by so-called experts into agreeing with their kids’ trans treatments.

[@rosemaryalles6043]

I agree. The bluff should be called.

[@merjamikkonen4991]

@@nhmooytis7058 Some of the therapists, actually most of them are actively involved in this type of so called “therapy”!! They are teaching the children how to get these drugs and surgeries! What to say to the doctors to get the surgery!! Some of the therapists are the WORST!!

[@nhmooytis7058]

@@mchobbit2951 at 4 I wanted a monkey tail so I could hang from branches and swing through the trees. Actually I still do. 🐒🐒🐒

[@runswithbears3517]

"Would you rather have a dead daughter or a living son," I think every doctor who dares to utter such words has guaranteed themselves a place in hell.

[@shirleymcgivney4208]

You are a beautiful young woman and I'm so sorry this has happened to you..But by the way you speak about your sister and the kindness you show..I'm sure things are going to get better and you will live a happy life x Best Wishes from Scotland x

[@sheilagadde5975]

You are a beautiful GIRL. SHAME ON DOCTORS .

[@danielao9585]

Here in Italy if a doctor or a nurse gives hormons to teenagers, they go to jail..How they can do that? And the family does not do nothing to stop it? Thanks beautiful young lady for sharing such important part of your life ❤

[@beckycheney5097]

Thank you for sharing your story. I grew up in the 70's. I was and am still a "Tomboy". I am SO HAPPY that there was no social media back then. I grew up to be a very happy straight woman. I can wear a dress, heels, make-up, etc, or I can wear grubby clothes and work on my own car. This medicalization and mutilalation of perfectly healthy children and young adults is so infuriating! I love how you compare enabling and affirming, and bring up boundries. These "doctors" and others are nothing but butchers. These sociopaths make loads of cash, but it is the kids that have to live with the pain and suffering. Hopefully more stories like yours and the mounting others become mainstream. This butchery and madness needs to end. How many pounds of flesh are enough for these evil and greedy "professionals"?

[@mchobbit2951]

Society as a whole is pushing this. It's pushed in school. It's pushed on TV. It's pushed by medical professionals. If only it was just social media. You could take your child to a therapist who wouldn't be eager to start your kid on hormones and ask questions later. Schools would hold assemblies warning them about the dangers of this instead of promoting it and praising kids if they identified as trans. I have seen gender roles become more rigid again in my lifetime, and instead of fighting back we decided to just convince people that they are "non-binary" if they don't fit a gender stereotype.

[@sallywhite992]

Thank you so much! I struggle with depression and I have a tendency to berate myself and say, "You have a privileged life, you live in a free country, you're not going hungry, you have no right to be depressed. Quit being lazy!" Which then spirals into feelings of worthlessness and perpetuates the cycle. So hearing you say that you give yourself compassion has helped me so much! Thank you! Best wishes and positive thoughts for you on your journey in this thing called life!

[@ankavoskuilen1725]

There is no excuse for drugging and cutting up healthy childrens bodies.

[@TizzRizzler]

One of the saddest things to me is how transitioning has become a fad amongst young children and teens. There are kids that see someone else transition and receieve a sense of fame on social media and want that for themselves.

[@ParisLatka]

What a powerful story - Gosh, I am so touched by these stories. THANK YOU FOR SHARING. God bless you and your life. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@c.a.s1900]

Beautiful girl. I'm sorry she felt she had to do this. I wish her healing

[@Lotuph]

Powerful story!

[@tla125ify]

These parents need to go to jail. No child needs to be able to make this kind of serious decision at that age. Keep telling your story you are beautiful and prayers you are doing better.

[@kerrylewisRN]

I don’t blame the parents. I blame peer pressure. It seems “cool” when others are doing it.

[@racheliza7604]

You are amazing, this is so important to hear. I too was (probably still am), a tomboy. If I had been given the opportunity as a child to opt out of periods and developing breasts, I may possibly have leapt at it. I was baffled by my older sister who could not wait to wear bras and make up! Looking back, I was just apprehensive about growing up, a normal thing for a lot but not all children. My daughter was the same but my son couldn’t wait to be an adult. I am so thankful I am in my 50’s and wasn’t subjected to medical interference. Thank you for sharing this and very best wishes for the future.

[@tonimarie6270]

Thank you for sharing your story - you are amazing

[@veraserebrennikova5452]

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side

[@adacox]

It does grow greener … because there is a septic tank on the other side

[@NDRP-uh6fs]

God bless this lovely woman. We can escape reality, but not the consequences of reality

[@deegrant6426]

Your words of it affirmed me in my delusion are powerful!! Please continue to get your voice out there others need to know.

[@christinearmstrong859]

Best of luck to her. So glad she stopped when she did. I hope she can have children some day if that is what she desires. Thank you for sharing her story.

[@mollyfitzpatrick2240]

Thank you so much for this video and for speaking out. I am so sorry that you had that experience, and that people were not honest with you.. I am a child of the 80s, when I was around 10 years old I really wanted to be a man in the army. I have no idea where this came from, I was not watching a lot of screens, and nobody encouraged that type of behavior I would close my eyes and wish that I could be this man and then I’d open my eyes and be shocked that I was still this little girl. This only lasted a few months, and then it ended. I have now grown up to be a happy woman,with two children and a husband. I think back to that time, and if I was around the people of today, I would have been on drugs and cut up. I do not support this trans ideology, and do not teach it to my children. I also surround them with like-minded families. I pray that more and more people will speak out like you and the main stream will finally realize how much damage is being done. Thank you so much I appreciate you and all your sacrifices . I pray that you. Discover the beauty of yourself more fully.

[@matronofmercia5891]

Such a pretty young girl. She even went for the full "clown world" hair - a requisite for that identity group. At least hair can grow back ...

[@marysusa6985]

Thank you for speaking out and helping others.

[@orca_ball]

you are a guinea pig. the sooner you start to see it as it is you'll be happier and then look for ways to deal with. and once you start dealing with it you will live your life

[@vanessajones3546]

You are so brave to have relooked at yourself and learn how to heal without continuing transitioning and sharing your story! You are so beautiful!! I pray your healing and self-acceptance continues. ❤️❤️❤️

[@mtmcas]

What a beautiful person Soren is! Thank you so much for sharing this incredibly articulate story 🍂❤️

[@jamesclark6487]

Not really, she is utterly self obsessed. I do agree the story is valuable.

[@mtmcas]

@@jamesclark6487 indoctrination magnifies any existing problems, without a solution. The only solution offered is to double down on the cult. I think she’s very self aware

[@honeytherat2017]

Only one word " madness" and you my darling are a very wise and courageous young woman. You really are wonderful xxx. You are giving so much to others by sharing your story. I show my 11 year old these from time to time and I am extremely grateful so thank you and bless you

[@loriirons9503]

Thank you for sharing your story. I pray this reaches millions.

[@lisaterle9612]

This was a beautiful video. I think this girl is extremely wise and very able to voice a reasonable opinion on this topic. Everybody should see this. She is right, 10 years down the line a major movement of regret will flare up. There is a difference between enabling and helping, indeed.

[@TheGeekMonster]

I was a very awkward tomboy growing up. I developed very early, and I HATED my body. I envied my classmates who were still flat-chested and didn't have their periods. I wore baggy clothes to hide my developing curves. I dressed more like the boys than the girls as I entered high school. I felt more comfortable around boys. I even walked like a boy (from the shoulders rather than the hips). If I were a teenager in 2023, I'd be told that I have gender dysphoria or that I'm transgender, that I'm in the 'wrong body' and that I should get my breasts removed and start taking testosterone. My life, and my body, would have been ruined.

[@mchobbit2951]

We have been going backwards. Seriously, people used to understand that teenagers are still developing and that their changing body can feel foreign and "wrong" to them.

[@mildredcook9020]

Any doctor that does any of these procedures should have his license taken away and be thrown in jail

[@elizabethtovar3603]

We all know we have to be mature enough to say no to a child’s desires when they aren’t good for them. Mutilating their bodies and arresting puberty is just not good for a child.

[@stephanieallangarman5598]

I pray more teenagers watch this…journey. I’m so glad you are still alive. This is heartfelt 💔 and tragic. These doctors are butchers and to me they are ignoring the signs of infection because they’re actually writing you off as mentally ill 🤒 so they truly didn’t care. This journey that you’re telling may save others from destroying and mutilating their bodies too. Please get healthy in body and mind. Stay encouraged.

[@nowistime8070]

omg I feel intense compassion for you💗 your message is so important to hear

[@fayeray6797]

Wow, so so clear. Thank you!!!!!!

[@stephanieramirez4645]

What a sad but beautiful story. I hope your story gets out before more innocent children are destroyed. I pray you can have children, because, after hearing how you treat your sister- you will be a great mother!

[@nhmooytis7058]

I detransed in 1985 after 2 years on T and got pregnant in the spring of 1986.

[@love4music8ballet]

Wow! You are so smart and so beautiful in body and soul. I am absolutely positive that if you keep believing in yourself you will have a wonderful life. Remember that there will always be people who criticize others but we should only pay attention to the words of those who love us.

[@DanniTheMagicJunkDrawer]

Aw, I’m so happy you found the relationship with your sister. It seems like such a beautiful relationship. ❤ I’m sorry for what you’ve been through.

[@110311DONTWANTCHANNE]

when i was little, i wanted to be a boy....just because boys had more fun....i liked male geared toys at a time when gender stereotypes of strict....kids needs to be told girls can use tools and race cars. boys can be hairdressers and cheerleaders.....you don't have to change genders to do what you want.

[@timeenuf4200]

You are on your way to a solid life. You have discovered the power that has always been there inside you to truly enjoy your life. You are a giving and loving human being. This will carry you far.

[@schnugelischnugg9812]

More and more detransitioners are speaking up about how messed up they got when they were just children. My heart goes out to them. Children should never have these unneccessary surgeries. I hope one of these days, these "doctors" will have to pay for all they did to these kids and not informing them correctly about the consequences.

[@AniWatX]

Oh bless you. So many important words in this reel but the most important in my opinion are ‘a child doesn’t’t know . . . ‘ and are the ones that hit home. Adults should be guiding , counselling, explaining and taking TIME before these irreversible decisions are made. Unfortunately the rush to avoid puberty is the issue.

[@donnasherman8412]

My heart goes out to you. Even at age 19, IMO, one is still finding one self. I wish you health and well being.

[@iLoveLadyDiana]

Threatening suicide is an extremely manipulative symptom of a very serious mental illness

[@BigDog366]

The most insightful comment in this was when you spoke about your little sister. You are able to see her through a lens you couldn't see yourself: that she is perfect and doesn't need to change a thing. I look around at young people getting tattoos, piercings, weird hair colouring and, of course, going into the trans cult and all they actually need is a smile. The world opens up for people who smile. Stop thinking about yourself; think about others and smile.

[@ShamelessFNGRL]

As someone with colored hair, piercings and tattoos, I'd like to clarify that those don't mean you're/will be trans etc. For me it's non-invasively decorating my body, for some it's not enough and progress into transitioning for whatever reason...

[@lauraschroeder8177]

Anyone thinking of surgery talk to people that have Pudendal Neurology and the HORRIFIC suffering they endure. Chronic pain for the rest of one's life. Very little relief. The pelvis has millions of nerves. DONT LET ANYONE MESS WITH IT!

[@Discussion4Peace]

You're doing amazing work to protect our youth🤝

[@vegandolls]

it's crazy to me how she makes excuses for the adults who encouraged this. Her family took her to these Frankenstein doctors. so horrific

[@elizabeththrift7697]

Did they have a choice? Would they have been accused of conversion therapy if they had tried to dissuade her? Shamed for being transphobic?

[@dibrentley7915]

Such a horrible start to your life, I hope it gets better and I think your right when you say people are not really helping when they enable. Ive been watching a lot of George Simons videos lately and his big thing is building character and really for the last 30 years I think we as a society have let our characters slide. We see politicians doing the wrong thing and think nothing of it now. People lack honesty and integrity or maybe they dont lack it but its not prized ya know? If all our children were brought up building sound moral character I really dont think there would be an identity issue. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@lisamoul263]

This is why I’m so against children being allowed to transition. They are too young to fully understand what they are doing. There is an extremely high rate of trans regret but the people pushing this down our children’s throats are refusing to acknowledge it.

[@11RIHAM]

These surgeries shouldn't be done unless: 1. The person is an adult (over 21 for example) 2. deep gender dysphoria is diganosed. 3. they go through in depth therapy sessions.

[@happytrails3]

They shouldn't be done at all because: It's harmful, negatively effecting the individual's biology, romantic relationships, personal and social relationships (friends, family, etc.), and psychology.

[@11RIHAM]

@@happytrails3 I believe that an adult has the right to do it if they truly want to

[@happytrails3]

@@11RIHAM Sounds like you believe in medical fraud. Do you know what they do to these individuals?

[@szweety1684]

This is one of the most powerful video's I've seen.

[@wolfhugs2221]

Thankyou for speaking about your experience. We hear so much from both sides but the transitioning is so impactful and we don't hear enough from people who've been through this. De transitioners need a much wider platform.b