If i could go back.....

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[@chocolateghost]

I would go back and shake myself and say 'Stop being so scared!' Scared to fail, scared to succeed, just scared to do the things I wanted to do. I wouldn't have waited for other people to approve my decisions. And I WOULD NOT HAVE GOTTEN THAT CREDIT CARD!

[@laketac]

**Does praise dance** AMEN!❤❤🥰

[@ericking8661]

Yes!! Fear is the biggest dream killer.

[@MovableNu]

Are you me? Am I you? For every bit of this? 😂🤦🏾‍♀️👍🏾🔥

[@catricedrew2428]

OMG!!!!!, yes 👏🏾 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾!!!!

[@knd7777]

PREACH!!

[@DC-fo3gh]

I WOULD HAVE BEEN A VIRGIN UNTIL I WAS MARRIED!!! Two wonderful adult children, one near death pregnancy, 8 beautiful grandchildren I LOVE DEARLY 🥰🥰🥰🥰! The Lord helped me dodge a few bad choices 😉. Thank you Jesus 🙌. I'll be sixty this year and I have never been married. I am enjoying myself, but I still have the desire to be married. I want to do it God's way 🙏.

[@lisadukes6471]

👑 Happy 📖 Birthday ❤ 🕊

[@jowilliams2323]

I feel you! I’m 69 and been married but wish he had loved me like Christ loves the church. We produced seven adult children and have eight grands whom I dearly love. (That is the ONLY reason I thank God for the marriage). If I could go back, I would try to get out of the marriage much sooner than I did regardless of the children. God would have helped me take care of them by myself. ❤

[@shwanagarner3966]

I feel you on that! People (me included) took it very lightly until it hurt. There is wisdom in pain, but there's also knowledge in the one's who screwed up before you. Lol! I take refuge in God's forgiveness.

[@JessikaTPQ]

Me, too! I am blessed with a God-loving husband who loves me like Christ loves the Church, however, I wish we would have met when we were much younger before he had a daughter and I had two sons with other people. Due to our experiences with single parenting, we didn't want additional children. I would have preferred to have all three kids with only him. We are grateful, though, to be empty nesters at such a young age and still be able to enjoy being with only each other in our 40s :) Never let that desire to marry die! There's nothing too hard for God!

[@lisadukes6471]

@@JessikaTPQ COME ON HERE Sis AMEN AMEN !

[@pockahantiss]

If I could “go back”, and undo, I would’ve learned to love myself! I remember receiving such backhanded compliments, that I let them shape my life. 💯

[@Mpho_Makola]

If I could go back, I would give my life to Christ much earlier than I did and learnt to hear and obey HIS voice through life’s decisions.

[@joanneG75]

💯❤

[@LEM19284]

Amen 🙏🏾 SAME

[@LEM19284]

That’s a mic 🎤 drop. Nothing else to see here! I concur. If I’d been in Right relationship with my Lord and Savior, instead of in the man I gave my everything too for over 30 years, I wouldn’t have built a legacy that came to a crashing halt six years ago with him. I’ve been broken down to bits, But God!

[@tjax5534]

Yes!

[@Grace2shar]

Yesss! This is the biggest “ I wish I would have”! Amen!

[@maxine2564]

My philosophy is “don’t look back, you’re not going that way.” You can’t change the past so there’s no point in dwelling on it. Take the lessons and keep it moving. 🙂

[@laketac]

YES. MA'AM! Appreciate the lesson & KEEP IT MOVIN! Always forward motion🤗

[@pamelabrown3058]

A lil Flashback ain't gonna kill you 🎉

[@amyoung101]

I would have stayed away from those who were abusive. Not making excuses for them or their poor behavior. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@lachaundahawkins3772]

On everything

[@LuvScorpio]

Preach 👏🏾❤️

[@EmorettaRobinson]

A lot of us make that mistake. I wish I hadn't ignored those warning signs. But at least now we know better.

[@MeshMwah]

Yes ma'am ❤🤚

[@amyoung101]

@@lachaundahawkins3772 yes mam

[@tjax5534]

Once upon a time a long time long ago I went to a free investment workshop. The lady was REALLY down to earth and gave REAL life advice. Talking to her was like talking to a good friend. She gave detailed step-by-step instructions on investing and gave us the names of four companies to research and possibly buy into (the buy in for each was affordable.) I went home and did the research, picked the company, and proceeded to do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Fast forward 8 months later…I would’ve made LOTS of money off that small investment. Life lesson: Stop procrastinating.

[@LEM19284]

I’d have driven to California and bought my Powerball ticket.

[@tarawalker7193]

Facts!

[@tamaradebose]

😂😂😂😂

[@LoniLoni11]

😅😅

[@dyoung2739]

I would go back and tell my 8th grade salutatorian self to take risks & walk away from toxic relationships ASAP at the first 🚩.

[@BlueberryFundip]

Humble bragging isn't really...well, humble.

[@Elishazee]

@@BlueberryFundip mind your business. It’s her chance to voice what she would do differently.

[@autumnsmom1117]

@dyoung2739 Appreciate your expression. Same here about taking more risks.

[@katrinab7657]

I took the comment as looking back at your potential, path, and trajectory before life started "life-ing". But the beautiful thing is that all the potential God placed in you is still there, sometimes it's just been covered up or dulled, but not gone. Just gotta dig a little deeper and buff a little harder, and that diamond, that light, that glow will shine brighter than ever.

[@katrinab7657]

​@@autumnsmom1117 my bad decisions were me being led by fear and anxiety, not healthy caution. "God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of love, power, and a sound mind".

[@KV-mz8ro]

If I could go back, I would redo almost half of my life and the decisions that I made. There is so much that I would redo, I can’t even explain it all. If I had the wisdom and knowledge that I have now then, I wonder how different things would’ve been. I guess that’s why we can’t go back, because we were meant to experience things and learn from our mistakes.

[@cme4743]

Yesss! Exactly how I feel.

[@dilligaf6002]

Exactly how I feel also

[@catricedrew2428]

Yes, absolutely but upon the reflection of it all do you correct past behavior and make your now better??? That’s the real of it all. Are do majority of people just keep it going?

[@blackcatlady2172]

​@@catricedrew2428That's a good point. There is sooooo much I would have done differently, but the experiences have made me a better person today. I guess that should be the take away.

[@Tyme_flies]

I understand the assignment, BUT hearing EJ speak on that deleted job from memory, brought back the memory of my best friend and i got jobs as maids in a Hotel in Hot Springs Arkansas. I wont name the hotel but it starts with A and its to this day a high end hotel . We both were hired and started on a Monday at 8am during our work morning the power went out . I believe it was about 10am by then. Needless to say we were trapped in a elevator together for about 20 minutes. To us it seemed like 8 hours we were trapped in that dark little room with no way out. (Yes they were aware) . When the elevator started moving again we politely went down to the basement to our lockers got our shit, i had the mode of transportation. We walked straight out without so much as a I QUIT , FUKK THIS PLACE. We got into the car went and bought a dime sack and agreed to never speak on it again. And we both are 44 and 43 and to this day we haven't!!!!!! Now thinking about it and i/ we could do it over again i would at least give them the bird on the way out. 😊😂❤😂!!!

[@Future-zx9ts]

I would’ve started working out earlier in life & gotten in a habit of eating healthy and staying thin. Oh, and worked on better sleep habits. Cause I’m tirrrreeeddddd🫠🥱

[@nuggettflavor]

My biggest regret is putting my career / education first and making the decision to not have kids. I've learned other peoples children will never feel the void of me not having my own children. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@sweetlavendar99]

That's DEEP!

[@linaluv215]

Whew, love the transparency

[@michellecharlery9857]

Wow... I do concur...❤

[@tamaradebose]

WOW! Powerful.

[@karenbrown-stovell9503]

But you/we don't know the type of children we may have had... ungrateful, mentally or physically challenged, my friend just loss her child from sickle cell... I never had children either because we were not able to for a myriad of reasons. But I think that I personally romanticize what it may have been like. But I really just don't know .

[@yahwehisontheway5094]

I would've spoke up and told my mom not to marry my stepfather, then my sister and I would've probably would've had a better childhood. I would've left my mom's house the right way. I would most definitely undo my son's dad, and not intermingled with his trifling bloodline.😔 I'm going to just stop right here before I need to do a whole therapy session, lol.

[@tiaeshanicole6735]

I would not have eaten all that food during COVID 😢😂

[@nicoleduckery4067]

Yaas! 😂😂😂

[@Kratos8462]

MAN!!

[@tamaradebose]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@TheDmaj7th]

This the one 😅😂

[@2thankfulnGrateful]

If I could go back in time....I would've kept them paper food stamps cause Bae bae! They would come in handy now!!

[@BlueberryFundip]

The paper ones were expired before the card was a thing. They wouldn't or rather, couldn't let anyone redeem them now😊

[@2thankfulnGrateful]

@@BlueberryFundip just a thought....I can dream

[@behoney00]

I’d Throw the WHOLE thing away and start from scratch.

[@laketac]

😂I have DEFINITELY felt this way😂❤

[@miram2053]

I used to want to undo some things (like where i went to college and my degree choice, having different parents👀) but all roads have led to me meeting my late husband who was the love of my life. So im ok with having had the experiences that i did. Its forced me into a position of being the generational curse breaker in some ways. While its a tough feat, i wouldn't change it for the world. Our son will have chances and opportunities that we've never had. Im living a life that I have dreamed of (although its still filled with grief at the moment) while my husband was here and now that he's gone. I never knew a love so gentle, honest, loyal, protective and kind and im sad to have lost if but happy to have experienced it in my lifetime. Overall, im simply grateful.❤

[@karenbrown-stovell9503]

I'm sorry for your loss Sis 😔 But happy that you experienced TRUE LOVE.❤

[@Truechildofgod]

As funny as it may sound I would not go back and I would not undo anything. All of the things I’ve experienced taught me valuable lessons and most importantly led me to Christ. Whether bad, good, or ugly it was all necessary when it was happened and I believe made me a MUCH better person especially my mistakes.

[@maxine2564]

@truechildofgod, Love it! 😃

[@Truechildofgod]

@@MahoghanyXO you and me both sista 🥰 I pray you great strength in your walk on the straight and narrow. In Jesus name. Amen.

[@Roses-Peonies]

I would have loved myself and made time to date and have more fun. I took care of my mom for 13 years so, there wasn't time for me. However, she has passed and I am now married and learning how to love myself more and more each day.😊 Sending you love from California, EJ ❤❤❤

[@Glitch_1000]

18 seconds in and I already relate: “Family is family…” Yes, EJ, just… yes. 🙌🏾

[@kharlie22]

My momma moved in with us, so absolutely 😩😩🤣🤣🤣

[@cherylwade264]

Definitely would have traveled more. Like Cher sang sometimes you don't know if you offended someone unless they tell you. Sometimes it's best when you say nothing at all.

[@foxxybrown291]

I would have paid attention to my blood pressure so I might not have had 3 strokes from age 35 to 44. But 🤷🏽‍♀️ I met my fiancé and it’s brought my family closer so 😅 it is what it is. And I’m not suffering xx

[@purpleness64]

Eyebrows is serving and EJ can talk with them hands!!

[@ThrivingNotDying]

If I could go back in time, I would get a different college degree. I would have invested sooner. I would have practiced more gratitude earlier and avoided certain people. But sadly we don't have a magical wand to make this happen. My life however has been a big learning lesson.

[@Itsuchi2]

This one is hard for me. I feel lucky with many of the bad decisions I made because it saved me from worse situations. Or the relationships I lost, turned out to be truly terrible and I’m glad I lost them as early as I did. So I don’t regret any of the things I DID, but more so things I DIDNT do. I regret not speaking out on the racial injustice I experienced at my job sooner. I gave the benefit of the doubt for far too long. I regret not questioning my beliefs and higher ups in my life sooner. I believed my parents and preachers blindly for too long and should’ve asked questions much sooner.

[@miaoberneder7127]

I wouldn't change anything and I've been thru A LOT. My experiences made me who I am today and I love today's me ❤

[@katinakelley6492]

I would have waited at least one year between high school and starting college. I would have kept in touch with my high school boyfriend who was a good friend even before we were a couple. I would have told off two sisters who are the daughters of one of my mom’s friends because it would have set the tone for the future. They and their mom are narcissistic. So if I could go back to 1990 these are the things I would have done differently because they would have made a positive impact on my life now.

[@jenng5925]

I would’ve listened to my mother when she told me to drop my baby daddy (before he became my baby daddy).

[@Message4theMassesbyMarcie]

I would've fixed more spaghetti noodles tonight cause that is not gone be enough for all that meat sauce. I messed around and listened to my mama talm bout don't fix the whole box of spaghetti you don't want to have too much like I did. But I should have just trusted my own judgement. But it's all good though, we was probably gonna have to fix more spaghetti regardless.

[@onyxspirals]

If I could go back, I would not have taken out a loan for grad school. Shoot, I wouldn't have GONE to grad school. Also, I would have left my last job sooner.

[@EchoJ]

Hey, get out of my head! 😅😉

[@chilldesignsphotography]

SAME!!!😢

[@queenfedorathemagnificent]

Hey Ej: I would have trusted the Lord Jesus sooner than later. He is so wonderful and it took me waaaay to long to realize it. 🦄

[@purpleness64]

Oh lord so many things

[@TracieThompson-rx1qt]

There are some guys I would not have dated. I'd warned younger me that your cheerleaders know your potential and so do your haters

[@shwanagarner3966]

If I could go back, I would be a lot less transparent, too! I would not spend time with people who don't build into me like I try to do for them. I would save more. I would have a more focused degree, and not a general degree. I would still want my son, but with someone else more worthy. Most importantly, I would know my worth very early on.

[@21KJH]

The only thing I regret is that I once spent too much time on an unrequited love.

[@naijainnit]

Way too many things to name, but I'm at peace with myself today because of Christ.

[@laketac]

Not necessarily🤗 My decisions ~ good or bad ~ have culminated into the Diva I am today! And I love her & all her flaws & will rock with her on her endless journey of growth!🦋💙🥰

[@tmn8547]

Tell us about the 3 hour job, EJ! 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@XyThree]

I would have stuck to my original plan by becoming a traveling hippie at 18. I deeply regret being apart of regular society. I would have cussed out multiple people I stopped speaking to instead of being the bigger person and walking away BONUS : I’m a Taurus Sun, Moon, and Rising - I don’t care about getting that call that you’ve left life if we weren’t speaking because whatever you did to cause me to let you go, I planned on it ending that way anyhow. The ONE person that did pass before I had a chance to speak to, was my child’s father and i regret not cursing him from the back of my throat one final time before his departure 😢

[@repete3637]

Well damn 😂😂😂😂

[@nickinono7337]

Raatid! 😂 😂😂

[@Tyme_flies]

​@@repete3637right i was about to say Damn !!! Lol

[@rainerwells1573]

@xythree 😂 hilarious and I felt that from the back of my throat! I’m sure he chuckled too 😂❤

[@arlaneredding]

Girl, why you have to say from the back of your throat 😂😂 that took me out

[@Virtue1982]

I would have left an abusive church earlier. It would have saved me some tears.

[@topaz1x]

If I could go back, I would learn how to drive and I would be out and about whenever I felt like it. There’s so many things I could think of at 68, but now I’m wiser and just grateful to see another day. 😊

[@charlottemccombs9931]

I relate to so many of the comments. So many of us are hurting. 😢 If I could go back, I would learn to use my voice and speak up for myself not letting abuse, mistreatment or what I really wanted to go unspoken. I would also follow the career choice I wanted of being a flight attendant and then opening my own hotel. And lastly, waiting to decide if marriage and kids was really for me.

[@karenbrown-stovell9503]

You can still do it! Maybe Airbnb...

[@hrhsophiathefirst4060]

So many things, all the things. Men, money and all the shenanigans pursuing both.

[@christinalafleur3813]

I second this motion! 😅😩

[@Mah_Sh_ell]

I would want my momma, i see ppl with they grandmas livin to 80 and 90 and mines had her wings early too too soon… i have no livin grandparents but she was my everything… 💐🌹🙌🏽

[@pri_shay_dior]

If I could go back, I would have had more transparent talks with my second mom (my best friend's mom). She did her best to teach me how to be a young lady and still I went out there wilding in secret because of insecurities. I would have had someone to talk to about things going on at home instead of bottling it all up and releasing it through sex. My parents did their best, but in hindsight, mental illnesses kept my mom from being the mom I needed back then.

[@dichonelawson5218]

Man, I got a WHOLE laundry list of crap like that!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@TheStoryOf187]

I would have changed how a relationship with a family member ended. Many years went by and we rarely spoke, and only by phone. This person passed away in 2020, three months after Covid shut the world down, but I just found out by chance earlier this year (2023). This person was also cremated so there isn't even a gravesite for me to visit. Even if you can't get things all the way back right with your loved ones, do what you can so that it doesn't end like this!!

[@laketac]

((HUGS))❤

[@mflunder]

Live it, learn it 🫶🏽💕

[@JessicaLanear]

I would’ve had more patience for my grandmothers and recorded them.

[@Poeticdiva79]

Baby…. So so many things but definitely happy for the lessons learned

[@thanksforstoppingby]

I wish I had been better about exercising and saving money.

[@carlajones2169]

If I could go back an undo anything in my past, I would invest more in myself than I did my relationships in my 20’s. And really listen and exited when a man told me he didn’t deserve me! I took it as a compliment that he thought the world of me, but he was telling me the truth! He didn’t deserve me and I flourished after we went our separate ways!😊

[@juniemcb]

Thats SO true” “ invest more in myself than in my relationships in my 20’s”

[@donna3995]

The most important thing I wish I would have done was manage my money better to have a more secure retirement

[@ohyesidid]

Girl, you're not about to get my blood pressure up. My list is too long! 😂

[@ronnishadawston6771]

If I could go back in time. I would say I’m sorry, follow my heart with the one I was in love with and be more honest instead of worrying about what others think and learn to say no more without feeling guilty.

[@mzmack]

I would have taken my little full ride instead of student loans for the school I wanted.

[@b_isfor_bethany]

Gurl that part! I had a full scholarship somewhere, but I wanted to go where I wanted to go. I thought I knew better. Not having the debt of student loans would have allowed me to use my money in other places earlier in life. However, if I had that extra money, I may not have used it wisely. So you never know. 🤷🏾‍♀️ 😊

[@mzmack]

@@b_isfor_bethany 🤣EXACTLY.

[@pamelaarias5586]

I would've taken better care of my health.

[@indiameesig3406]

You are so incredibly relatable! This really made me smile.

[@elusivemayfly7534]

I would put up with a lot less! 😂

[@catrinawatkins7604]

I understand every word and detail you spoke of... I would totally undue several things. This is why I really don't talk about my life.

[@cemathis985]

I would have analyzed my husband's financial health a little closer and delayed marriage a year.

[@lachaundahawkins3772]

I wanna redo my bd but not my child tho... SHES SO AMAZING SUCH A WONDERFUL BLESSING FROM GOD

[@darlene196]

I would definitely control my emotions better and have the tough conversations before it's too late. I lost a close friend and wasn't able to resolve our differences prior too. It's the worst feeling ever.

[@PHILDR85]

I almost lost my coffee when you said "I worked there for 3 hours"😂😂😂😂

[@ct580]

I would have waited like I should have for the one God had for me. It's still a mistake I regret till this day...50 years later. I was so dumb when I was young.

[@fearlesschanges_Marcie]

I feel this. 💝

[@shonb989]

I was dumb too 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@monicawitherspoon6627]

I agree with settling differences early, & PPE loans. I would also take the opportunities to work & live outside of the US.

[@daphanie9054]

That job sounds like the jobs I had at every sewing factory I had for 2 weeks before I decided my Daddy was right college was the right choice for me

[@gdpope52]

I wish, as a young child under 12 -13. I had been able to say to my parents you ain’t doin me right or the four other kids. And been brave enough to say it every single time bad crap happened. BUT I was just a kid and I was scared…

[@sexxxyass09]

😂😂😂😂😂EJ!!! You took me out wit that PPP is on me heavy!! Girrrrrlllll you ain't never lied!!

[@treeshell3668]

I guess I'm one of the few that wouldn't change anything. My pas not good at all but made me so equipped for the here and now. For helping those around me I care for and now going through somethings. I'm not were I want to be but my past has shown me how to with stand problems to get there❤❤

[@doreafitzgerald2565]

If could go back to 2020, I would have been in these traveling streets while the air fare was cheap and the planes were empty.

[@annak706]

That's right! Get it grl! In the closet & thanks. With so much love respect and support from upstate NY ❤️

[@shaunamaness854]

Why was this first part my actual afternoon. Me in the car… “Really? Whyyyyyy didn’t you keep your mouth shut! You didn’t need to speak on that!!!” I’m too old. This was a whole sermon. Thanks EJ!

[@jessieharbinjr.6589]

I would have never allowed myself to be involved with people who just used me for money. Or just used me to use me.

[@Tricey.89]

I would have went to nursing school much earlier - I graduated at 26 when the norm is 22, I was back and forth with whether I wanted to finish school or model

[@deeelo5501]

Ur adorable. I would tell my 1st love I wanted him back rather than call his phone many times just to be silent when he answered thephone. I just loved gearing his voice.

[@thatbemefool]

“IF IF’s and BUT’s were cherries and nuts, we’d all have a Merry Christmas.”

[@MovableNu]

I would have started embracing my power over my own life earlier. I spent my 20’s and 30’s trying to make fundamentally unhappy people happy. My parents couldn’t be pleased, it wasn’t my job to try to fix their unhappiness and stuck-ed-ness in their own lives. All that did was make me unhappy, too. But, as I heard someone say, “The best time to plant a tree was 100 years ago. The second best time is today.” 💗💗💗

[@dobeus8957]

I would have taken more trips with my mom. She was actually fun to travel with! Miss you terribly!

[@monicam.9612]

If I could go back in time I would've taken school seriously especially high school. I would've worked harder so I could have gotten a full ride scholarship left my home state(Arkansas) probably moved to California to study & become a psychologist.

[@edwinatalley3024]

As always Mrs. EJ you are on point great content which I always identify with 😊❤I have some things I wish didn’t happen or I wish it didn’t go down like it did but out of the situation came my beautiful son and a great pension from the military so God turned what hit me as a traumatic event into healing and blessings.❤❤❤❤Thank you God for Jesus Christ. All other events in my life were what I needed to go through to bring me to now😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤No worries Praising God and Christ….😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤Amen!😊😊

[@Glitch_1000]

Also: “You can’t tell yo biznus to everybody.” Truer words have NEVER been spoken. Not telling everybody my business, that’s my “If I could go back…”

[@Flo2Litt]

If I could go back… I would have been single first and learned more about myself. Then I wouldn’t have dated that one guy. However, like you said… the decisions have been made and have molded me. This was so good! I hope you enjoyed your family that was visiting.

[@glendabrown8674]

If I could go back in time I would have loved myself more and stayed away from the abusive people and had more fun in my life

[@fearlesschanges_Marcie]

I have set FIRE to some mess. The blood of Jesus, my sweet friend.

[@berry-fv5oh]

That PPP loan what you said what you said 🤷🏾‍♀️ Made better financial choices

[@Jmadison42007]

Yes... different degree! Better eating and lifestyle habits, and BETTER SAVINGS!

[@FatherTimes-oldestbrother]

Amen so many things I would change.

[@OppositeofHATE7]

Even though I know everything had to happen the way it did for me to be where I am now, I do feel I would go back and redo some things or at least let myself be okay in the moment knowing how it will turn out anyway.

[@ny2768]

❤ I would go back and...take more risks.

[@LotusFlowerBmb]

Thanks for sharing EJ 😁 Still love that smile! 🤗

[@ebonyjackson3198]

If I could go back, I would have loved and advocated for myself more. I forgive my younger self for not realizing her worth

[@TanyaOwens]

Sadly, that only works if the person is willing to talk to you. I have always been the "repairer of the breach" If there is an issue, let's talk about it, resolve it, so we can continue trusting/loving each other. But, just because I am like that doesn't mean the other party is. I have dealt with one person who just isn't honest. She pretends it is all well, but then out of the blue goes off on you. That person and I will never see eye to eye, because she just secretly despises me. And another person, my favorite aunt, she went to the grave with whatever issue bothered her about me. She stopped talking to me over 20 years ago and died two years ago. I tried calling her, reaching out on social media - I would see her talking to my siblings, yet ignoring my DMs and posts. Whatever her issue was with me, we never resolved because SHE WOULD NOT TALK TO/WITH me. And it is sad, because that was 20 years of a growing together that we lost. And she took whatever her issue was to the grave. So, I've told other family members, don't tell me what the issue was because she's not here to talk about it. I believe that you should hash out any issues BEFORE they become a major problem. But the other party has to be honest and behave with integrity. You must guard your heart. If you are on speaking terms with the other party, put on your big girl panties, be adults and TALK. But if the other person isn't speaking to you, be grateful for the past times you had together and MOVE ON. #TouchedANerve

[@bking9615]

I would go back & not eat the snacks so I wouldn't have to work to unbig my back now.

[@shonb989]

I would have not been a "follower". Losing my virginity so young. Being a teen mom was hard. I also would have followed my dream and became a Chef. And went off to culinary school in Minnesota. Recently I definitely would have used my time more wisely during lock down. I did absolutely nothing!

[@mirandacamp4222]

I’d undo a very bad marriage that has stolen my youth, my optimism, alienated family & friends, put me on antidepressants, ruled & run my life for 25 years now. Wish I could erase ever meeting this person. Stick with your instincts. Listen your heart. Run if there is a hint of toxic. Listen to warnings. To yourself be true.

[@user-qq4wf6gi2n]

Amen 100% agree.!

[@TanyaOwens]

The only thing I would go back and do over is in the late 90s I would not have returned to NY to be closer to family, I would've gone to California or some place else in the world and focused on MY Life.

[@tabithawright6317]

My PANTRY!!!! I have taken everything out of my pantry to organize it and make it "PINTEREST PERFECT" and I'm just looking at my kitchen like 😓 why Lord!?!?!

[@InHerGodIs]

I’ve made a lot of mistakes… but looking back can’t really undo any of them because those experiences shaped me. *However* if I had to choose a thing that I know would’ve made a world of difference, it would’ve been reading up on spirituality, a variety of different paths, as a child. I read all sorts of fantasy books, and read a lot of non-fiction also, but I didn’t really *read* about astrology and a variety of religions until adulthood, and if I had known there was nothing wrong with me, it would’ve made a world of difference in my confidence when it comes to interacting with people.

[@StCloud-ns7vt]

Funny AND insightful wisdom.