If Other People's Opinions Negatively Impact You, You Must Watch This

Tom inspires with quotes from Les Brown and Booker T. Washington.
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[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

I love the message of how other people's opinions don't affect who we are and we get to choose who we are! One thing I notice with people who have low self-esteem is that other people's opinions affect them greatly while people with a healthy self-esteem aren't affected by those opinions as much.

[@IONAPINKMOXIE]

Our culture seriously needs to work on our self esteem. Less selfish, more selfCARE

[@KhinuSage]

Yes we have to help each other out of this darkness

[@tiffanysar-lecluze5679]

Yes and so the richer get richer and the poorer get poorer

[@Chaos_867]

I wish people were nicer nowadays every annoying 8 year old keeps saying that sonic forces is bad when Its an good game in my opinion

[@FaatehAhmed]

BRo ThAtS JuST UR oPiniON

[@immortalized_onion]

"You're simply a collection of things that you believe to be true about yourself."

[@anitacarter8060]

Everyone has an opinion… The way other people treat you and their opinion of you is their path… How you react to it… IsYOURS!!!! 😜

[@highspeedhighjinx7255]

Respecting other people's opinion is one of the biggest things every one needs to learn these days, especially in the video game community

[@maabownallh7386]

Indeed :)

[@growthmagnified5004]

Our opinions are the only things that matter. What we constantly think about is what manifests into reality. We can let other people's opinions push ourselves forward but we cannot let our thoughts be affected by others.

[@doneboyremo]

I don't like that people judge you by the clothes you wear. You into fashion: you labeled as cocky/full of yourself, that time you can be the total opposite lmao. It's hard. But thanks all the time Tom for these lessons, I am putting new morning routines to practice which has actually made me more confident and proud to be different. Other people's opinions still get to me, mainly because I believe I do everything with a good intention, but these opinions are starting to have less impact on my life . I know the person I want to become and I am fighting old habits and patterns for that person to shine. I still procrastinate but definitely far more better than I was 5 months ago. The world needs to shut down for a month or so, so I can have time to myself 😂

[@TiffanyRay]

If they don't know anything about me then they don't have the right to judge or criticize *me literally just existing* *some random person that I couldn't give two shits about: Hey that girl is soooo weird Yeah people talk about me right near me as I'm standing in the same room as them. Its like my presence brings the worst out in people for no particular fucking reason.

[@anitacarter8060]

As you get older and become more aware of who you are… You will not give a rats behind what other people think…😬👍🏻

[@FreeJulianAssange23]

That is stupid.

[@doctor-maesty]

I think with age you realise how people don't understand other people as well as they think they do and that most opinions are stupid and based off of great assumptions.

[@skorp265]

@@doctor-maesty 100%

[@skorp265]

@@FreeJulianAssange23 solid bait, shame no one bit tho lmao

[@shwheat6315]

I stopped giving a monkeys ass since I was 17

[@ladybanks9766]

I was and still am a victim of emotional, mental and verbal abuse by my Ex for many years. Sadly he still continues to try and break me even though we've been separated for 2 years now. He wants a reaction out of me and all I give him is complete SILENCE. He puts me down about my looks, the way I care for our kids, my mental state and that I will never be loved by anyone ever again, he spits in my face with evil words every time we exchange the children. Even though it deeply hurts me to be reminded of it and his words cuts me every time. It certainly doesn't define me! I am a very different person now. My self respect, self esteem and self worth has grown much stronger since leaving him in 2016. He hates that I don't react or respond, he hates that I'm not fighting with him. I am only responsible for my own behaviour. I choose how I want to be and how I want to respond and react. I choose to have only positive people in my circle, I choose happiness and freedom over being depressed and sad. I am not responsible for his anger, frustrations and his perception of me. He can live in misery by himself because I choose to live life on my own accord.

[@roseschmucker2462]

Hang in there,God loves you!

[@KhinuSage]

of course ull be loved again there is so many other men kind men who would love to go out with you and they honestly probably care how u looked happiness is a choice this doesnt have to be your reality or your childrens reality u are the architect of your own reality all of your depression,anxiety, and dissaopointment in life can and will go away either you choose to do it now or life will eventually do it for you and youll see if u choose not to do it out of fear then life will do it for u but dont choose not do it out fear CHOOSE to do it out of LOVE love for yourself and LOVE for your children

[@relaxwithme__]

Boss Lady Tee yesssssss queen 👑

[@merongirma33]

Hop you are well

[@ballet1m789]

I hope all is still going well for you and congratulations on choosing joy

[@angela.lv0191]

"When you think you already know you stop growing" - that is spiritual 🔥🔥🔥, because the real growth means you realise how much more is necessary to grow, that you need different skills. My focus is on self-mastery because I realised that you cannot pour from an empty cup no matter how much I want to help others. That it is not about an emotion, it is about resources I can offer and I've learned to never say I know enough. What else I can learn? How can I get better? Keeping that fire burning is self-mastery for me.

[@SledgeScarves]

Angela .lv01 exactly!!! always keep learning. if we are not better or know more then we did yesterday, then the current day is a waist of time! im with you on this one!

[@MyStutteringLife]

Yes!!!!! I finally woke up and started to IGNORE negative people !!!! It took me 30 years but I FINALLY did it ! Thank you for this video.

[@maabownallh7386]

Glad to hear that, Happy for ya :)

[@Chaseaphenderson]

I had this exact discussion with one of my mentors yesterday. I’ve always had this issue that I feel the more I learn the more I realize how far I have to go and how little I really do know. It’s an ongoing cycle, but when I look back to where I’ve started, I’m leaps and bounds ahead of where I was before. Thank you for your content Tom, very powerful stuff.

[@chully99]

Seven people who thumbs downed this, needed it more than they know.

[@ballet1m789]

Sadly it has gone up and is now in the fifties but this is still true

[@terriesmith8219]

100% agreed and i love this video. Sadly, I noticed majority of our current society, people nowdays, are emotionally and mentally weak af. They are so sensitive that their feelings get easily hurt and is offended by anything and everything. You can see this reflected in our current society. Sad, really.

[@SledgeScarves]

Terrie Smith I have notice that too. Not sure if its because of the changing society and how we have become disconnect with talking to each other 1 on 1 in person as oppose to through text and social media. Alot more people are being diagnosed with anxiety as well which is crazy to me. we dont support each other as much as we use to. were more likely to put someone down or talk negatively about some one over giving them a compliment. maybe that is where the issue is

[@chaosdweller]

It's the current ubiquitousness of Social Media Imo. I think I've noticed this too. What's sad for me personally is that I deal with more than anyone I know psychologically, and A: that causes confusion cause people sometimes accuse me of being overly sensitive or anxious, when in reality they don't know what I was or have been dealing with before it ..."appears"... that Im sensitive. B: It makes me callous to those who are struggling and then I always!!!! feel guilty immediately afterwards, its because I look at the weight I'm caring and then look at them thinking in disgust how weak they are psychologically, sometimes I wish people feel what I feel, and that's just wrong! wishing that on others even if it's just for a few seconds or minutes, but I believe this is all human nature. It's took a long time for me to get this way especially the last part.

[@natasaandmarkbone2547]

Thats maybe because they are more spiritual and sensitive to negative energies wheres you are more on neanderthal energies and dont give a f about anything.

[@balsarmy]

I think it was like that before as well. And we have ability to change it

[@ir4355]

fatima you did nothing wrong you just posted your opinion

[@benson6159]

I have this problem. When I ask for someone's opinion and they give it to me I usually don't react well. Like if I ask someone if I'm good at something and they say I'm not get angry and I can't accept it. I feel like I'm worthless when someone says I'm not good at something I'm passionate about.

[@benflood1077]

Then work on it if your passionate about it

[@AndreLVaughn]

Great message...I don't give credence, time or space to negativity of others who are deliberately trying to derail my road or otherwise. 💯➕💯💪👍

[@chopstickgirl90]

It's so hard to learn to do! I have an even harder time with not giving space to those who aren't deliberately sabotaging, but are just so self-unaware they don't realize that's the impact they're having.

[@ariana19055]

@@chopstickgirl90 i completely agree. some people need to think before they speak ngl

[@sonne2351]

The Bible calls that taking your thoughts captive and submitting them to God!. Below commentary seem to suggest that it is so easy to ignore other people's opinion about ourselves and yet exactly that is how we are raised. Our parents are the first who have an opinion about us and ~ like it or not ~ eagerly share it with us. That's how it starts. I am old enough now to know that shaking that habit off is not as easy as people below would suggest. But the good news is that it is quite possible. Unfortunately the Church is not as eager to teach on this topic as much as society is now. The good part is that a couple of years ago I learned that all things work together for good for those who trust in him. Meaning even though the Church does not teach this I am blessed by coming across videos like this that teach on the topic anyway. We just need to remember who we give thanks to! God is amazing!

[@thetruthbetweenthelines8521]

This is amazingly powerful especially when Tom spends the time to reframe it. There are so many of us who have an amazing music inside but we don't have the courage to sing it out loud. It's easy to say "we shouldn't listen to other people opinions", but truth is first we need to acknowledge that we are affected. On top of that we can build a healthy self-esteem which will grow from assumed vulnerability. It's a process. Thanks, Tom!

[@tdona77]

Very Informative! Western societies tend to focus on individualism and too many times we find people who struggle with self-esteem issues, anxiety, depression etc... Our culture is now based on how we can call people out, disrespect the ideas from others. Most people are finding themselves in a rat race competing for the top but I believe that if we focus building self-esteem and self worth we can get a place where we can empower others instead of tearing them down.

[@Personaltraining4seniors]

Tom I just want to say that I am very grateful for you and just six months of listening you I went from being a loser drug addict going nowhere guy to now being a successful entrepreneur who is sober and has become a great dad. Watching your videos everyday all day has really changed my mindset and I have really learned and become actually great and manifesting things into my life with my visualization techniques everyday and right now it's 4 in the morning and I'm getting ready to kill in the gym again and about to win this Ironman competition that I'm in touring in a couple months. I have really done a complete 180 on my life and not to be cheesy but I am very grateful for you and I just wanted to say thank you

[@Personaltraining4seniors]

PS sorry 4 the typos in my paragraph I am driving right now LOL damn autocorrect lol

[@amymoore371]

Yes being happy for others success and witnessing they're hard work and being in awe and feeling the joy in it rather than feeling envious and bad about yourself lifts you up and your potential.

[@willis4685]

Perception is a reflection if you always moving forward you dont worry about opinions to just keep you stagnant..

[@yourlocalgamer9701]

People on Twitter need to see this.

[@zachoryfostor7368]

Those are the ones who gave up and wont do a damn thing about it, failed to their own visions, they wanna drag you down with them to make them not feel alone, sorry buddy your gonna be alone the rest of your life unless you make something of it, I will never go down with you nor fallow in your footsteps, this is my life and I'm on my own way. Stay positive or fail is all I can say

[@gz3582]

Wow, negative people down voting this great video. Amazing how many, even though a minority, of those folks that don’t get it. Les Brown is a great story to listen to of coming from nothing. Awesome individual and inspiring work.

[@michaelanthony2530]

Thank you for who you choose to be today brother... RESPECT! keep taking care

[@Jesuspunkergirl]

I really needed to hear this for my hypnotherapist recommended me to watch this and it really made me stay away from negative people

[@timur5241]

Internet Some people force others to think like this instead of having personal opinion. For example. There's movie/videogame. Some people like it, others hate it. And so fans yell that it's the best game/movie and want everyone to love it (sometimes even praise it like something religious), haters want more people to hate it and insult it's fans. I'm usually reacting negatively not to hate/praise itself, but that they want other to be like them. Let people have their own opinion!

[@faysalsumon3927]

Every video you upload is a diamond. Wish you happened to my life when i was younger.

[@faysalsumon3927]

What an inspirational comment, bro! I loved it. I'm gonna subscribe you.

[@faysalsumon3927]

It's a pleasure.

[@samuel.langhorne.clemens]

“We get to decide who we are. There’s no objective truth that you’re going to find or uncover. You’re simply the collection of the things that you believe to be true about yourself. And once you begin to form that opinion of who you are, you’ll act in accordance with that belief. You begin to shape a vision of yourself in your own mind, and that becomes the reality. So letting other people influence that-letting other people come in and degrade what you think of yourself is one of the most dangerous things you could do. Because they cloud your ability to craft a vision of the person you want to become....We’ve gotta have intention in creating that person we want to become.” “It’s not about trying to reflect what you think is true. It’s about reflecting what you want to be true.” Tom Bilyeu

[@artistchucka4769]

I Pray for everyone who has watching this video God loves you all

[@maabownallh7386]

Thank you so much, that's very nice of you :)

[@SledgeScarves]

I always think to myself, if i am not doing better then myself yesterday, whether it be with learning, growth, or an achievement, then today is a waist of time. it helps me to compete against myself because i know if i push just a little harder then yesterday to DO BETTER, LEARN 1 MORE THING, or ACCOMPLISH ONE MORE GOAL, Im ALWAYS moving forward and growing into a better me. and any progress is and accomplishment.

[@hedgemist691]

...protect yourself from other's opinions...yes

[@carriedolha788]

Wow, this brought tears to my eyes. Your work is so empowering. I practice the learning from yourself and others like you to help empower my life so that I may be able to give back and empower every single person that I come in contact with because I have a fierce passion about breaking down the bullshit rules, the fake society that people are addicted too, to create tangible fucking ways of empowerment and health, and doing so through my story of overcoming the obstacles that have held me back for 41 years and becoming what I dream about. Thank you for teaching us how to make our dreams become goals and breaking it down into tangible fucking behaviors that are so uncomfortable and raw but create the results we desire. It's a courageous road that I for one am not just walking in, I'm fucking running towards it! Did I mention I'm scared shitless!?! But I'm doing it!

[@teddrankin6064]

Thank you Tom, may your search for TRUTH and MEANING lead you to the ULTIMATE TRUTH

[@GAMEBEATER6000]

I have toxic siblings who constantly criticise every thing I do “your singing voice sucks” “remember you did (this bad past habit I am trying to fix),” my whole family can be full of criticism, some is good, but most is bad....I constantly live my life based on others’ opinions because of this...I just wish I didn’t...but I will try not to.

[@ayannag1363]

Learn to love how little you know while learning to love that you can keep learning

[@corinaturcan7080]

I just listened to the first words and put like straight away, gold.

[@bangtansmm6607]

I think I had to learn about this and learn how to don't care ,how people think of me today I had anonymous questions and someone wrote me to quit my job and get married and I'm 24 and working at one of the top company Amazon, when I read this I really felt sad and I started smirking of this negativity

[@SumitSingh-sd1xj]

Every video is your energy drink for me

[@jussafineface4364]

learning to understand and criticize someones false perceptions of you should just be common sense. (maybe not directly to them.) I understand what he is saying. If you truly cared about sharing optimism you would see past any sort of negativity someone chose to specifically spew at you, maybe not to agree with them but to just understand what other people might be going through and get through to them with anything, no matter how insignificant or life changing your actions may be. That there is a difference between self imitation/arrogance and the desire to truly impact a life.

[@rogerthat6395]

*Well Done....😇👍* *This was really Eye Opening....*

[@mizmaclean]

Recently I posted a video about the pitfalls women tend to fall into in relationships, and with every word I spoke, I kept second guessing myself. I kept wanting to reword things in a way that would be as least offensive as possible. I kept remembering all of the ridiculous internet fights and seeing how someone would be pissed off by my words. In the end I didn't change it because hell, apathy is the last thing I want to make people feel, which they will if I'm a watered down and diplomatic fool...but man...it's a real battle.

[@sylvanszmul]

That made me tear up i am so strong and everyday i slam myself and other people down but i am strong enough to not only be good for me but also for others🗡💪🏼

[@hejallihopa4304]

Opinions are all about a persons way of thinking. Getting upset over another person's thoughts is childish. That's pretty much saying no you have to agree with me or you're wrong. That's not how opinions work. Opinions can't be wrong Because others say so. That's how to explaine it. If you want to argue with me then don't.

[@tysm3255]

Thank U for this. I was feeling so Hopeless. But Im hopeful that this will help me

[@bhaskartiwari3478]

If you want to lift yourself lift someone else thanks tom

[@ahofiah3388]

can someone else’s opinion change the way you think, cause obsessive scenarios in your head that you never thought of before until you revisited their opinion? to the point where you believe what they say because i can’t even see myself the way as i was before because i revisited and overthought their opinion about me

[@lorenzobejaranolibreros]

"The last chapter of your life has not been written yet"

[@jennifercooper3547]

Please understand that sometimes your pure indifference is more poignant, carries more weight & packs a bigger punch than the opinions & words of others and their dislike of you and your choices. Remain true to yourself. There is no match there. 🙏

[@jeffkamen]

Thank you so much for this. Much needed.

[@Alwaysdisciplined100]

LOVE THE MUSIC so inspiring 😊

[@SportsFan-vq9kk]

I'm glad to watch this video as people are telling me not to watch sports as that is the thing I like to do

[@franciscandelaria3535]

It is a weakness when you don't know and fully understand yourself. This is one reason why we care about other peoples' opinions.

[@blanethegoat]

my mom calls me hopeless, loser, piece of shit, so many names all the time and i notice i live my life feeling as if thats what i am. thats why i searched this video. not even a minute in and hes talking about how we become what we believe we are. well my mom has drilled so many of those words (like hopeless, loser, ect) into my head saying thats what i am. i have totally let her “opinions” shape my entire world and life. and i wish i was able to just snap my fingers and rid myself of all of the feelings and behaviors that resulted in me from the things my mom has said to me, but i cant. thats why i searched this video. im hoping this will help me rid myself of all this negativity my mom has put onto me. saying i am this, i am that, i am destined to be this, i will do that, i wont ever do that, i am similar to him, ill never be like her, i wont accomplish anything, ect.

[@Newfuturebuilder]

Love his message but I'm just as interested in the strategy to put more than one of these videos in here. Wonder what the analytics are. Can't just listen...have to watch what you're too! Thanks Tom!

[@nailnisingh9601]

Thank you Amen I totally agree Love and Peace.

[@anagroszek7743]

Very inspirational. Thank you Tom!

[@TEDVoice]

Best video in this channel. Thank you so much!

[@markuslindroos6250]

that was a great speech in the video thank you it helped me feel better.

[@FreeJulianAssange23]

This makes me want to grab a motivational quotes calendar, play some instrumental music and read slowly building up each sentence.

[@skamesch]

Well done, Tom.

[@NassirIsMyName]

Thank you Tom.

[@aureliomario2507]

I loved it. Well done. I wish you all the best. Keep up the good work.

[@allantayawa193]

I love this message Still listening 💙💙💙

[@deadline3142]

Betrayal is the worst , bc it doesn’t come from your enemy, but my own fokin friend…

[@exposethefraudsr.i.p.tokir3336]

Im done helping ppl i rather help myself they'll never appreciate what you've done for them and when you need help they sre nowhere to be found for most ppl anyways ik its a very few good ppl out here

[@manifestationwithsami]

opinions of others do not define your reality.

[@sjoglekar14]

This is just so good. So many times we distract and trick our selves into thinking that maybe this is all that we can ever have. But from this moment I will always ask, where do I want to go? What more can I learn? Which skills do I need to acquire? Thank you so much Tom! Shubham Bhavatu! May all that is auspicious happen to you!

[@clarkmain1438]

Inspirational...keep it up Tom!!!

[@BrittanyBurgunder]

You have directly impacted my own brain plasticity in the very best of ways Tom!

[@maxs.5881]

Neuroscience talk ayyyyy

[@sophiagodinez3500]

Thank you so so much! I needed this 🙏🏻💕

[@teal1010]

"Where do I want to go? What skills do I need to get there?"

[@tysm3255]

I'm almost broken. Need Prayers 😭😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏

[@WaldemarBorn]

Beautiful message, thank you!

[@creativecompanion]

I aspire to release my own opinions about people, life, politics, progress or lack thereof.

[@reenadelusional2994]

I told my friends online that i don't like boba tea and they got mad at me what do i do

[@Hazel_61]

Please bring some great people from Pakistan. Love thy video. :)

[@genarocasas6101]

I don't have much words to say to you bro just thank you

[@oscarpalacios7198]

GREAT VIDEOS THANK YOU SO MUCH

[@user-zr5kv3pk7h]

I really love to see this video all the times but, I don't know why I can't download it 😢

[@roseschmucker2462]

This is a problem I want to overcome soooooooo bad.

[@syedmuzammil667]

Your videos with team fearless is awesome

[@castle4328]

Damnn bro.. you got so much passion for this thing you doing please recommend what video to watch to help discover ones true calling

[@robertbrady7715]

Beautifully said and felt!

[@jillylilli]

Amazing!

[@shokieplays8167]

Watched this because my own family says I’m ugly and I’m fat and a failure I get affected easily I’m a softie i just want a person who can make me feel good I’m always lonely

[@majesticopinions5453]

Thanks so much!!

[@l3n693]

Amazing Tom! As always, thanks :)

[@ZenModePhilosophy]

Man.. Love this message. Epic upload

[@adamakanu7179]

Amazing message ❤❤❤❤

[@woodcrystal19]

thank you tom

[@NICKASMRCINCINNATI]

I dont know why why you stopped producing short affirmations. Theres so much room to improve this. I will show you.

[@brinksy5703]

Hey Tom! Have you ever interviewed Bob Proctor??? If you want to, let me know and I can try to help set that up, he wrote the foreword for my book :)

[@theself5738]

There IS an objective truth of who we are as we were created by God. We don’t create ourselves or make ourselves up. That is ego talking. Ego wants to invent itself as a self concept instead of accepting the truth of who we are.

[@michellec3905]

Thank u

[@-AnonymousUser]

100 percent of this is true

[@gianniskontos1696]

Please Tom bring Paul Chek!

[@RayanaG885]

Not me playing this and letting them hear🤣

[@superdupeninja8149]

Amazing video keep up the good work

[@excusemybeauty7916]

is there any medical for this, because I really can't take it no more, trying to control it on your own seems to be not enough