IF YOU DON'T DO THESE THINGS IN 2024, YOU ARE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE.

[@jennifer_ogueri]

Can we take a minute to appreciate Ify’s makeup and blouse?💕❤️❤️

[@Ifyskitchen]

😂thank you

[@nkechiagam2209]

Yes ooooo... Ify please I want d blouse

[@chefkemiyoo]

I kept on taking screenshot at every opportunity. She’s an Iconic Queen. She looks like an Idol

[@Glams2792]

❤❤❤❤ it's very beautiful

[@OfficallyMay123]

Beautiful

[@stephanieonwuemenyi3685]

Great points. Can we also get a guy to talk about the men’s part? Cause it seems everyone is only interested in training and advising the girl child. We need to invest in our men as well.

[@horlabisi01]

Fact

[@folashadeatare375]

True talk

[@Tina-h2j]

Well said

[@Kingofthenet2]

Exactly, I’m so sick for always being told what to do but never seeing the same for men

[@ikagbapatricia3791]

Beautiful 😍

[@STR3032]

Loool that last point made me laugh because my husband loves cooking from the day I met him. From day one we have always shared the cooking 50/50 and still do. I also love cooking and it has never been an issue for me. I think people should do what works for their families. I will add that I am Caribbean and my husband is Nigerian. And yes I cook my husband Nigerian food and sometimes he cooks Caribbean food. And I have a great relationship with my inlaws. I am blessed to have them and they equally love me. I am glad they are not super traditional and quite progressive because sometimes my husband is in the kitchen and sometimes its me 😂😂😂

[@anthoniaiafesi8202]

Hmm,I love that too my husband will always drag the kitchen with me but I don't give him space, it's my my my

[@kemiibilade5570]

Since it's not a man's duty to help with household chores,it shouldn't be a woman's duty too to be financing the family,we should all know our duty, African women are not slaves. If we women must help men financially in the family then nothing should stop men from helping us with household chores.Imagine foreign women watching this won't they call African women slaves the way they do call Africans slaves

[@oyinemaria1940]

If I find myself providing, the man will definitely do the chores. I can't be everything while he lazy about. Not fair at all.

[@favourtochukwu1306]

Please let's debunk the myth that culture should dictate our roles within a marriage. The notion that cooking is solely the wife's responsibility stems from outdated norms when men were expected to be the sole providers. However, in today's world, we recognize the importance of shared responsibilities and equal partnership. In a modern marriage, both partners should contribute their 100 percent to the household, including tasks like cooking. It's not about assigned roles based on gender; it's about teamwork and mutual respect. If one partner is less busy or available, they should step up and take on the responsibility of preparing meals. Marriage is about giving your all, without reservations or limitations based on outdated cultural norms. To expect one person to bear the burden of cooking simply because of their gender is unfair and, quite frankly, inhumane. Let's strive for a marriage where both partners give their best to ensure its success and happiness. It's time to break free from the chains of outdated cultural expectations and embrace true equality and partnership in marriage. God bless you Ify🤗

[@Chxzzy101]

You have said it all

[@kallmekoko6277]

This is how I've always felt marriage should be done as I became an adult. I thought was the weird one who doesn't agree with gender roles created by the society.

[@favourtochukwu1306]

@@kallmekoko6277 No, dear, you are not weird. Marriages where partners give their all are the most successful and enjoyable. When each partner complements the other in every role at home, it alleviates stress and fosters a fulfilling dynamic home.

[@joelnosa2757]

Continue deceiving yourself with your no gender roles bs.

[@adaezeokafor4331]

FYI, sometimes it does not work how you think!

[@victorymaganga1485]

1.Spiritual Entitlement 2.Financial Management 3.Home keeper/Keeping 4.In-laws Relation 5.Food/Cook/AwayToAMan’sStomach🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾#ThankyouMaaah🥰

[@SinaAla]

A woman who brings home money is helping the man in his job to support the household financially. A kind husband will have no problem pitching in to help keep the home clean. 😊

[@lolaestar3942]

I did everything you said Ify, but he just wanted an end to the marriage. Am ok with my son now. Thanks so much for taking time for this video. Young ones please pray not to have wrong partners

[@beewiz]

Don’t mind her they are always against women

[@ikagbapatricia3791]

Amen 🙏🏻🙌🏻

[@EstherImaetteAkpan]

Sorry about this. God will connect us with the right partners

[@ebaiobassey9813]

Prayer is the Key. Only God knows best.

[@NyakaisikiIvon]

I did all these buh he finally dumped me for another woman... Peaceful marriage is just luck

[@Walikelechi-vp3yr]

I'm still a young boy But I'll keep everything you said here in mind 😅... I know I'll need these points in the future

[@Eoris2.3]

I really love this! So refreshing to hear in 2024.. I hope people listen to understand. Especially keywords like “responsibility”.. And of course every marriage has peculiarities but this is very sound advice generally speaking.

[@Ifyskitchen]

Thank you for watching ❤

[@FirdaousA.Ibrahim]

Wise words You are my role model I always enjoy whatever you say and preach even though I'm a Muslim. I don't know how you do it, but you do say what I need every time. Kudos to you. May God continue to help, I pray to see you physically one day. My warm regards to your family ❤

[@damdam2589]

And do you think women haven’t been doing this ? Just a Honest question, if it was this simple , don’t you think all women would be married or in a relationship? Before the advent of genz ladies , weren’t there women , who did all this and more , did that help them keep a man? Wasn’t it because irrespective of these points , they were will still not loyal , were violent etc ? So much , that these genz baddies learned from their mothers and upgraded? There is no smoke without fire . Do you think the mess in the now “dating scene” is , cause women can’t keep a home or aren’t financially wise . You think a married woman finds it hard to cook and clean? Or she finds it hard to spend wisely , or she finds it her to cook for her own children and family? Or she willingly didn’t want to be friends with her in laws ? And the women that did all this , how many of them did this, only for the man to pour his resources into someone that didn’t even life a finger? Lol it’s well.

[@Winnergurl]

I agree no matter what you say or do, a man should want to be “kept” first, if not, nothing will keep him. I’ve seen this firsthand

[@maureenakran1934]

I don’t agree with you about pretending to be who you are not for your in-laws. Be accommodating, loving , treat them as you want to be treated but you must have boundaries. You can never please everyone. Period!😘 Just be your authentic self without any pretense all in the name of marriage. If they value you, they will accept you for who you are.

[@twinomujunivictoria6862]

Thanks Ify,am watching from Uganda the pearl of Africa. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@confidencedokubodokubo6167]

I agree but not to a woman who have gone through hell in their past relationships and is financially stable, such ladies it takes grace, patience and alot of counseling to be able to be a maker

[@ruthyedwin]

You see this hospitality towards in-laws and husband's friend. Its indeed a key. Women should please get rid of this "I'm married to him alone mentally" ee should lesrn to accommodate.

[@mabel.e.kgalley9710]

This is very insightful and glad watching this video, thanks for making it. Beautiful outfit there too. Keep the good work up.

[@YolandaSmith-zs1rl]

I agree. You need to humble yourself and have some class. You cant get everything you want. Be appreciative because it can be gone in a flash. No ego,pride or cockiness

[@Ifyskitchen]

💯💯💯

[@rebbymo]

Thank you for being honest and realistic on this topic, Ify. Love it. I'll like to know your opinion on single ladies that intentionally foster friendship with married men, disregarding their wives. Their flex is usually along the lines of "I don't make friends with girls..." they also feel like an achiever when they drop statements like "I'm closer to her husband, actually..." I'll be really happy to see/hear your thoughts on this, please ❤

[@theekachi_]

I won’t contribute more money to my home o and still come back home to do house chores. The first problem is marrying someone who you earn more than, don’t make that mistake.

[@AbubakarShafatu]

🎉😂see you can marry someone who you earn more than but who knows the person will later earn more than you. We have different potential.

[@Yuriunashamed]

I've been waiting for this video since you announced it on Whatsapp I love you Ify❤❤❤❤❤

[@Ifyskitchen]

Love you right back❤️

[@ADEKUNLESOFIYATADEBUKOLA]

I love the 'primary responsibility' you used! Thank you mama😊

[@lydiacLeonard]

Never knew you, haven't even listened to your message but I already followed and liked 😂😂 because girl you're so beautiful, from makeup to wears to background...girl I love you ♥️🥰 I will listen all through from today

[@Ifyskitchen]

Awwww this means a lot to me. Thank you and welcome to the family 💕

[@LizB8772]

ALL the points ARE very IMPORTANT!! Thank you.

[@Ifyskitchen]

My pleasure ❤️

[@itumogodstime5197]

Learning financial management for me is hard as a student but I am gonna work it out. Thank you Ma ❤.

[@hidaayah2327]

5:13 😅😅😅😅 It's the way she said respect yourself for me 😅

[@Ifyskitchen]

😂

[@sophiechinwe5285]

Your makeup and hair gets me every time

[@sophiechinwe5285]

❤❤❤

[@FaithAdirika-zx1bt]

Thanks for what you said but some men don't appreciate the effort of a woman.that lady found grace.that all I can say

[@yvettemason4118]

Wow, I loved the advice you're giving to those looking for a partner or hubby. Will definitely be sharing it with the young people in my church. Strong sound advice. Look forward to the next one.. 🙏🏾

[@Ifyskitchen]

Thank you❤️

[@EbullientViva]

Madam Ify, thanks for these tips, i love your example of church and hospital. honestly attending worship services at designated centres should be primarily to praise God and then all other things desired will be added unto us.

[@Presh_jumz]

This is really insightful tbh, just as a woman wouldn’t wanna be with a wasteful man with no concept of money, a man wouldn’t be with a woman with d same that trait too, it’s True that what works for a particular person might not work for another but there’re some attributes that makes a woman stand out as being virtuous, physical appearance can only get a woman so far but your ways is what keeps a home & a man. That’s my personal view tho.

[@pkr_247news9]

Ify you do this onee♥️ Pls comtinue with these type of video... Alot needs to hear this

[@Ifyskitchen]

Thank you, I will❤️❤️❤️

[@obebho5924]

You will attract men but there are high chances you will attract men that will use you with this mindset. That's all I have to say and I am talking from experience

[@mirabeljohn1067]

I love you more for this Mrs Ify You said it all my love… all you said is true n am not bragging I do this alone…. I wanted to pause for a while but this talk you have given me the strength to keep it up.

[@Ifyskitchen]

Keep going love.❤❤❤

[@bodundeesther7889]

Weldone ma'am,don't wanna sound spiritual but this is so divine...God bless you ma'am😘😍.

[@PatienceUdoh-hx7ly]

Please raise the volume momma,give it to them ❤

[@basproperties2451]

I agree with you a 100%, great video Ify, I pray they take your advice.

[@SUPERNATURAL433]

So much wisdom here. Thank you so much, big sis. God bless you,ma.

[@hidaayah2327]

Very beautiful. I thoroughly enjoyed this, ma'am. Thank you. Looking forward to more of this as a young lady preparing for marriage.❤ 23:08

[@padminisamuels3264]

Ify I older than u married 40 years my experience money and material things don't put that in font yhe person u love or want to spend rest of Yr life true love comes from Yr heart and not want u looking for in a man or a woman when u first meet u got everything to share with each other but after years down the line u becomes separated from talking from when u first meet but that doesn't mean Yr love gone it mean u become Yr own self of living and not sharing the same conversation any relationship u go in it well always becomes like this so stay with the one u have and learn to accept and preciate what he or she has to offer in Yr relationship this women like to have everything and put pressure on men the men go and try hard to work to gave them so they can keep the peace be happy with each other have respect and love for each other put god in front Yr relationship and let God do what u can't do to make it work hod bless

[@Real_estate_with_kanye]

Let God do what you can't do, to make it work! ❤ This is me and my partner... When I bring up stubborn girl vibes, he will say we need to pray / fast! Before you know I submit to God in him😊

[@_.Dinmaa]

Yes ohh!!! pride needs to be put aside

[@RitaExcel-jc5jo]

I Wished We D Singles Find D Best Of All,It's Not Easy Indeed; But May God Direct Us To The Right Partners......

[@FavourChizitere-ry5bq]

You bring out your heart to teach,instruct Nd advice 🤦🏿‍♀️You carry everyone along both small Nd big..thank you so much for Existing😔❤️I Thank Our Lord God for this unique creation😔 I don’t mind using my last data to watch your KZbin videos💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@Ifyskitchen]

Awwww this touched me. Thank you so much❤❤❤

[@FavourChizitere-ry5bq]

May Almighty God continue to increase and strengthen you in Jesus Name 🙏🏾

[@makuochukwuabiaeme1186]

Thank you for this video Ify. These are important issues that people hardly want to hear these days, yet they can't be overlooked or avoided. I love that you have a sound mind and you are reasonable too. Lots of love from here. By the way, you look so beautiful. ❤❤❤

[@Ifyskitchen]

I appreciate this❤️

[@ChimaraRosy]

I'm not yet married but i love this video and I learnt alot from it ❤

[@binsehqueenivette3157]

Thank you I really learned a lot 🙏🙏🙏

[@HadunniFavor]

I really love your blouse and you spoke right❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Ifyskitchen]

Thank you so much❤️

[@HadunniFavor]

Wise Words you spoke right here ❤

[@Chiithecreative]

Use me as a like button, if you think Ify should do more of these videos

[@MarianaNosakhare-so6pm]

We can communicate through your channel without reacting to your channel Miss Ifys

[@MarianaNosakhare-so6pm]

We can communicate through your channel without reacting to your channel Miss Ifys

[@bamideleoniesther2162]

Great point ma It's really helpful I would make sure I don't slack myself

[@jessicaakpomudje9225]

Thank you ma for your sound words of wisdom. You have shaken and in fact broken the table but it's for the best. More videos like this please 👍👍👍

[@anthoniajonathan1117]

I like what you are saying.

[@basproperties2451]

Flawless makeup, beautiful top, you are glowing Ify.

[@Odibeze1-e3w]

Cooking is never hard I love cooking 😊 Cooking is my hobby ❤

[@harry-ucheukala5501]

Eating is my hobby o! Abeg give me location to your kitchen oo

[@miracleezike5785]

You just gained a subscriber ❤

[@Ifyskitchen]

Welcome onboard❤️

[@peaceogunka4039]

You have really done well with these teachings of yours. God bless you.

[@farnetporter6754]

Weather it's to get a husband or not It's GOOD to have a GOOD kept Home AND we need to have attitude of Gratitude 🙏🙏🙏

[@VechuiyiehBlandine]

For all persons not just women

[@adamsmodupe9184]

I totally agree with you D last one is unarguably right But take caution wen it comes to in laws be wise Wisdom is profitable

[@salamisegun2012]

Ify, it is Oyaya (Acceptance/Accommodating).

[@blessingsolomon4675]

Wow this is what I call motivation thank u so much lfy for this advice

[@Ifyskitchen]

You are so welcome 🤗

[@estheroke6656]

Ify you look great. You are just glowing.. You have spoken well.

[@Ifyskitchen]

Thank you Esther ❤️

[@AdewaleAdetunji-or4us]

This is very true and I do agree and appreciate it but it's just the truth and nothing else, but some people will still not have sence, whatsap family for life,we need more of women like you that can teach our ladies of today

[@Ifyskitchen]

I see you and I appreciate you ❤️

[@ucyflemmings]

Truth be told This is a Pure 💯% Truth ❤ This Entitlement i just listen to now is enough... Even though is a #1,000 say thank you and be Greatfull. Maybe is better for me to wish them well without sending Money

[@lamlat24]

SOME good advice here. However, life is NOT linear.

[@oladepoolamide5014]

Words of wisdom 👏 thanks ify, this will help a lot of people

[@olaniranifeoluwa6978]

I learnt a lot as a single lady ma. Please we need more of it .

[@Ifyskitchen]

Sure❤

[@Revelator831]

❤ I wish I could meet a woman like you thank you . 🙏🏽

[@ajayimichael220]

Pure truth. All ladies need this priceless fact.

[@Adaeze_Nwachukwu]

I just liked & subscribed....too good❤❤

[@Ifyskitchen]

Thank you and welcome ❤️❤️❤️

[@mphosa995]

Why is it that it seems like most female KZbinrs who like giving relationship and marriage advice on KZbin are Nigerian ladies while Nigerian men outside of Nigeria have nothing good to say about you guys???

[@olubolablessing9188]

Those men are stupid, there are good ladies in Nigeria which I am one of them

[@njokuaugustina7357]

Ify this video is really really helpful!! thanks for sharing...

[@Ifyskitchen]

You are welcome ❤️

[@AxelGrease-fr7ze]

That goat 🐐 recipe I knew they were more than milk 🥛! Thank you for that 🎉❤

[@olufunmifolasadesmart9817]

I love your charisma. And thanks for this great piece. Kudos.

[@Ifyskitchen]

Thank you❤️❤️❤️

[@adaobiokobi]

Thank you so much Ify ❤ Love your outfit,hair and makeup up

[@Seyida-moryamGiwa]

Thanks big sis 🥰 U are truly one of a kind ❤️

[@Ifyskitchen]

❤️❤️❤️

[@enumsarwah7342]

Ify God bless for these points. Please next time touch on kitchen safety and kitchen economy.. Thank you

[@Ifyskitchen]

Noted❤️❤️❤️

[@ogbemudiagift6680]

Ma'am you are good in everything you do.. you should do this more often

[@Ifyskitchen]

Will do and thank you for watching ❤️❤️❤️

[@stelladaniel5555]

Social media is crazy, everyone wants to do what someone else is doing, dairy of a kitchen lover started telling stories few days back and now ify’s kitchen is doing same thing, una no wan dy cook again?

[@Ifyskitchen]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 I am sure you are new on this channel. Take a stroll down past videos and enjoy yourself. You are welcome dear friend.

[@stelladaniel5555]

@@Ifyskitchen i mostly watch cooking videos, i watch ify’s kitchen, sisiyemima, foodies and spice and the rest of them, don’t worry I’m not new on this channel madam Ify 😊

[@Ifyskitchen]

@@stelladaniel5555 thank you for watching my videos. I appreciate you💕

[@mathabosefatsa1968]

Thank you Ify for the lovely advice Ohhh wow I've learnt a lot here ❤❤❤❤😊😊😊

[@Ifyskitchen]

You are so welcome 🤗

[@amarachibertilia6020]

I agree with you. Love it! Thank you Ify.

[@colinsoru2976]

Wow ❤ i love everything about this gorgeous woman 😊 thank you for this wonderful teaching ❤❤

[@Ifyskitchen]

You are so welcome🥰

[@Seyida-moryamGiwa]

Thanks big sis U are truly one of a kind 💕

[@goldenangel4412]

This is really making a lot of sense beautiful Sis❤ Wise words Sis❤ Ride on 😊 More of this hooo Sis

[@Ifyskitchen]

❤️❤️❤️

[@doreenyummymawusi5963]

Ify, you look stunning, i admire you from afar.Keep it up.

[@Ifyskitchen]

I appreciate you Doreen❤️

[@PreciousAniji]

I agree ❤ these are wise words Ify well done ❤❤

[@debbiemattsson4331]

I only agree on the part of knowing how to manage finance that is true but the others you mentioned about cooking and knowing how to keep a home is solely for husband marital not boyfriends 😂

[@perpetualemoebe5243]

Thank you mama Ify for this, God bless you❤❤❤

[@Ifyskitchen]

Amen. God bless you too❤️

[@OmodolapoSoyoye]

Wise one... Even me that i have all dz qualities,am always scared i can't take full charge in my fiancée household, cos he is a pastor, in fact all his family members are pastors, and I came from a Muslim family i don't know anything about the life of a pastor's wife,any day i attended the church i used to feel less of myself that i can't even sing talk more ,i can't even face the crowd and he told me am not going to be doing somethings anymore, like wearing of trousers and so on,am really just scared sha.

[@Cassidy8864]

Beautiful video, insightful 👌 👏 ❤️, facts 👏 💯

[@Rahmatdiamond]

Pure truth ma'am,I've added your points to the one I know before.Thanks ❤ Anyways,like your style and make ups💋😊😉

[@mawusivivor5546]

Thanks for sharing sis Nuggets of wisdom

[@olubusolaajibodun6127]

WISE WORDS! Thank you for this video ❤ Ify you have your flowers 💐

[@Ifyskitchen]

So nice of you❤️

[@BariseredumTambari-wu8si]

Thanks for sharing this, it goes a long way and trust me, I totally agree with you... We pin 📌 ❤

[@omolabakeadegoke1479]

As much as I don't totally agree with what you are saying, I want to agree with the financial aspect. We don't have men that provides for the home anymore. Why must we have to bend to take up their responsibility and they can't do any domestication. I don't agree with the African aspect. We can't tilt towards "African" when it doesn't favour the men ... It's only the entitled men that will definitely disagree with me

[@_Official_Blessyn]

I 💯 percent agree with everything that has been said, na partner remain

[@OffiahSylvia]

Thanks ma But a lot of guys out there don’t value all this ma I’m looking forward to meet my man that’ll reciprocate with same energy

[@Ifyskitchen]

You will meet that man by the grace of God❤

[@OffiahSylvia]

@@Ifyskitchen Amen 🙏🏼 Thanks for your teachings I really appreciate 😭😭😭😭

[@debbiemattsson4331]

U can type that again in this messed up generation

[@olaiwonbolanle6762]

As being part of Gen Z I need to educate my classmates abiut this and I am learning myself despite being a guy ❤❤.

[@agoiobunso]

So refreshing I really love this video so much thank you sis look so beautiful❤

[@olusolahassan9478]

Wise words Ify. I agree totally.

[@tolufavour]

This is why I love you!! God bless you ❤❤❤