If you EVER see me on a dating app…

[@laurabellefontainevlogs362]

Healthiest response I’ve seen thus far. Power dynamics are way off to date a fan?! Why isn’t this considered creepy?! When it’s so creepy. Your content changed my life; going to Patreon.

[@PrismOpal]

Saaame. I can't imagine.

[@Bagsy454]

This is what we call personal and professional boundaries!! Thank u kat

[@liminal-refridgerator]

I am so mortified just at the idea of talking to people I follow, I can't imagine trying to have a relationship. The asymmetry! The parasociality! Am I talking to you, or my idea of you?? What a mindfuck.

[@violettbellerose1173]

Saaame

[@larasgate3]

but why is it weird though? youtubers are normal people. I wouldn't even care if the person I dated had a youtube channel with 1 billion subs

[@dutchik5107]

I mean talking yeah sure. I can have a normal conversation. Don't really get starstruck. Dating on the other hand.... nope. Especially not if they are big. I don't want to live in the public eye. One of my best friends however is a very very small streamer. I do pop into his streams on occasion

[@liminal-refridgerator]

@@larasgate3 Personally, that is why it is weird. They are a normal person, but if I follow them, I know so much more about them than they know about me. It's like reading someone's diary then trying to pretend like I know nothing about them. I'd feel really creepy.

[@2020-p2z]

If I saw you on a dating app, I'd honestly think it was a fake scam account. There are lots of scam accounts made in the image of famous and semi-famous people. I've even heard of actual people getting their accounts banned because the platform thought they were pretending to be themselves.

[@ellanina801]

I thought that’s where this was going … i miss the marker on a lot of this stuff 🤣

[@ivana5618]

Not you gave him a chance against your judgement and he fumbled. Weve all been there queen 😂

[@KatBlaque]

He was tall lol

[@aje-olokunsChile]

​@@KatBlaque😂😂😂 FELT.

[@KatBlaque]

😘

[@m0rkim00]

Totally understandable, queen

[@foxfoxelliott]

This is at 69 likes and I can’t possibly ruin that.

[@enlightenedone1424]

❤

[@SAOS451316]

Fan to friend is a possibility and then friend to lover can happen afterwards, but a fan doesn't know much of the real person they have a parasocial relationship with. When both parties have nothing but a dating profile and some chatting it's much less imbalanced.

[@pending2707]

Thanks for the reminder that now that i have money I wanted to follow you on patreon lol

[@weylinwebber4180]

Ls in the chat for the guy who fumbled a date. Also I hope this is an acceptable funny. If not please file a complaint against whoever you wish.

[@MegaLight4Ever]

Thank you!! I don't have your level of following but as a person with two podcasts, I often am frustrated by people who feel like they already know me because they follow my content.

[@sparrowspotty]

V ethical, v considerate, v mindful, v demure

[@mustanggox]

i’m scared of seeing people i know irl on dating apps lmao, can’t imagine what it’s like as an influencer

[@dutchik5107]

For me it depends on who it is. Friends? Hell yeah swipe right girl! Someone not one of my close friends "left left left!"

[@br33anoia4321]

Exactly. Show my sis your appreciation by giving thay coin. 😂 You look beautiful as always. 😍

[@DaysieRose]

I would brag about being with you no matter what your profession was ❤ but honestly, it has to be rough being an influencer in the dating pool I hadn't thought about it until Contrapoints mentioned in her gamer gate tangent that she's glad she's no longer single because she was always fearful someone would go public with some bs.

[@dutchik5107]

I also think the imbalance is like different if someone is a fan and has like a parasocial relationship already. Or someone who like vaguely recognised you and was like "oh yeah she exists!" Like just being vaguely aware of you existing

[@NickNightfall1711]

Oof, people who try to do that are seriously crossing a line into very uncool and uncomfortable territory. Good for you for asserting your boundaries.

[@SunnyBeetle1922]

This makes sense. You need to get to know folks on your terms. As the old saying goes, never mix business with pleasure!

[@SXJAYSX]

Hope this doesn't encourage some psychos to lie about it then 😅 Least if a fan messages you you can swipe left right away instead of one being sneaky 😅

[@user-xe2hf6fi8d]

I had that thought too 😬🤮

[@greedbun]

AHHHH i would be way too embarrassed to do that, the gall of some people lmao

[@enlightenedone1424]

❤❤

[@kestendavis8753]

Well said.❤

[@YoungLakesMischa]

I love you sharing your boundaries! ❤❤❤

[@ellanina801]

I guess aces are on dating apps, but this is a realm that i have no interest in anyways. If for sone god forsaken reason i did attempt to date, it would be a very case by case irl thing. Believe me I TRIED dating apps when i was trying to be “normal”, but i got WEIRdos who didn’t understand the concept of boundaries. And maybe i was in denial that I was ace all along.

[@metropunklitan]

youre the same age as my mom and the way you talk reminds me alot of her so sometimes you feel like the ideal mother figure to me, so wise and kind

[@Reed5016]

I agree that it is a little weird for a fan to hookup with a content creator, so I agree with swiping left.

[@x0x_that_one458]

obsessed with the hair ❤️

[@sad_doggo2504]

Love that hairstyle! 🩵

[@SEmme-ov6yy]

I’m loving your hair ❤❤❤

[@shybutsly8453]

Off topic but the makeup is making you glow extra today ✨✨

[@wellofhavoc]

Thought u were gonna say "that's not me ur being tricked" sjdhjsjd

[@Karamazov9]

If you met someone who knew of your videos but wasn’t a fan would that be a deal breaker? I’ve always wondered how people who are famous or well known navigate this, it’s one thing to not date huge fans but to exclude anyone who knows of you seems mad limiting

[@larasgate3]

yeah, I mean I get it when people are pushy or intrusive, that's a no-go but why couldn't you be friends/date somebody who watched your videos? there are people out there that see youtubers or influencers as normal people, like it's just a job.

[@KatBlaque]

My experience is that even when people aren’t intimately familiar with your content, they still project things onto you when they know that you are a content creator, whom a lot of people listen to. So even if someone isn’t necessarily intimately aware of everything that I post, often times the pressure to, acknowledge the difference between your personal and professional life is a bit overwhelming. I find that my relationships with people who are familiar with me, but not followers of mine don’t really thrive. it’s a lot easier for people to meet me as a stranger and be impressed when they discover who I am

[@jamieu7667]

please leave the girl alone y’all! 🧚🏽‍♀️

[@writheagainsoon]

I know you know, but still bears saying, you look so amazing. Like literally glowing.

[@foxfoxelliott]

TL;DR: If you want to show appreciation, show coins. If you see Kat on a dating app, no you didn’t.

[@Starsongzz]

On a similar note, there’s like three or four guys I’ve seen pop up in my likes several times after I’ve swiped left and that’s so concerning, how do they keep getting there 😭 like I swear I’ve never seen anyone else’s profiles keep coming up, I thought they fell into the ether once you swiped left

[@InvisiblerApple]

I hate to think what prompted this video. Couldn't even imagine trying to date while famous

[@mellowthm566]

We need to normalize that para sociality is mortifying and cringe to some. The one time i ran into a fave i almost gushed in front of her during Pride and then checked myself reflecting on the sheer mortification I'd feel at being perceived that way by a stranger. Ewww

[@BlubberingAnarchist]

Thats okay i dont really understand why people would want to actually date a content creator they watch like with a future and everything. I wouldnt be able to tell if I was in love with the parasocial relationship I had with them before meeting with them or actually in love with the real them you know what i mean? Maybe some people make it work idk still doesnt sound like its for me.

[@christinafay]

Don't be parasocial weirdos! Be normal weirdos!

[@hexzyle]

Oh that's totally fair and makes sense now I stop and think about it

[@jovanreid6782]

Well... So much for any chance of my fantasies becoming real life... 😢

[@DawnOfDragonz]

Flawless loop

[@sageisbored]

She's so so right and i totally get where she's coming from ofc. But saying Patreon is the best form of showing support kinda rubs me the wrong way. Like why does it have to be financial? Couldn't she have said "just leave a nice youtube comment" or something?

[@crazylizze98]

And on the off chance you do date a well known content creator you are familiar with, don't treat them like a content creator. Treat them like you would any other person

[@zayahthedoll]

Type shit!💝💀💎

[@TobyIsAWoman]

I know a youtuber who exclusively dates people from her audience. It is weird.

[@faerieangeltaitai]

People be so fuckin weiiiiiird! Like, WHYYYY? How is it not immediately understood that public figures should not be bothered in personal spaces???

[@imenehaddad2860]

FetLife is a dating app now?

[@g.y3ti]

With love: please do your eyebrows ❤

[@KatBlaque]

My eyebrows are literally done. Let’s see yours

[@g.y3ti]

@@KatBlaque​​⁠I mean actually colouring them in and making them match your wig and hair - can’t send photos of my pristine eyebrows in YT comments ❤

[@l01230123]

@@g.y3ti Her point was she looks great and you only seem to be projecting your ugly thoughts on to her. You are being weird (and not in a sexy way) telling someone how to look 💖

[@bjam89]

What does the swipe do? Cos i am ace in Norway so i am pretty sure if I see you on a dating app something is up

[@bespectored]

Swipe left means you won't try to match with her, you can't talk with her, and the algorithm is less likely to put you on her swiping page.

[@bjam89]

@@bespectored ah, thank you, also would the algorithm not take the left swipe to mean no more matching with this person, not less matching with the person you swiped left?

[@user-xe2hf6fi8d]

​@@bjam89depends on the app. Some apps show you the same people later on, if it thinks you're really compatible, and some apps show you to the other person still (and might notify you if thry like you)

[@BlueBeetle1939]

Who did he brag to?

[@KatBlaque]

Mostly other women. That’s how it got back to me actually lol

[@thedrakonishe5138]

If I saw you on a dating app I wouldn't match with you anyway bc you're not into people of my biological configuration lmao. I understand what you're saying though, it's an ok boundary to have

[@Avamarie38]

Naw imma swipe right like a mf

[@NathalieCwiekSwiercz]

Respect her boundaries babe

[@tqnnisss333]

She literally just said not to do that……………….

[@Avamarie38]

@@NathalieCwiekSwiercz calm down it's a joke luv

[@Avamarie38]

@@tqnnisss333 so I take it you don't understand jokes? Go sit down

[@Professor_Brie]

The point of jokes is that they should be funny.

[@JaneAustenAteMyCat]

Love the new hairstyle. I'm off to the hairdressers later to get something very similar