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Stephan Speaks - also known by his given name, Stephan Labossiere - is a certified relationship coach, speaker, and author. From understanding the opposite sex to navigating the paths and avoiding the pitfalls of relationships and self-growth, Stephan’s relationship advice and insight help countless individuals achieve an authentically amazing life.
Dedicated to helping and devoted to keeping it real, Stephan’s straightforward yet compassionate delivery style attracts a varied clientele, including notable celebrities, civic and social organizations, academic institutions, singles, and couples alike, who can and are ready to handle the truth!
Stephen has been seen, heard, and chronicled in national and international media outlets, including the Tom Joyner Morning Show, The Examiner, ABC, and Huffington Post Live, to name a few. To coin a phrase by an individual who attended one of his speaking engagements, “he’s definitely the relationship guy, all relationships all the time.”
He’s got some great books out there, and after listening to this podcast episode with Stephen Labossiere, you’re going to want to hear more of his stuff. His most recent publications are Find Love After Heartbreak, He Who Finds a Wife, and The Man God Has for You, and they all teach you about how to create healthy relationships with the right people.
He’s also launching a brand new coaching program: “How to Manifest the Life & Man God Has for You.” Ladies, I’m speaking to you here - if you are looking for the right man, you definitely want to check out Stephan’s coaching program! He’s a relationship genius and genuinely kind guy, and I know his advice will help you manifest the relationship you’ve been dreaming of.
I was so honored to have Stephan Speaks on my podcast, and we literally could have talked for hours. In this episode of The School of Greatness, Stephan talks about what we all truly want in relationships, some ways we can improve our communication with our partners, and how sex factors into all of this. I learned a ton from our interview, and I know you will too. Let’s go!
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[@dhqbrandi]

Some people NEED to be single to better themselves BEFORE entering into a relationship. Some of us don't know how to communicate or LISTEN with out reacting. Meditate , pray daily, focus on the NOW...raise your vibration

[@Sydebern]

I needed to be single for 35 years, before entering my first relationship this year. So it's never too late. Also, i don't need the relationship. People don't nééd a partner. People should first learn to be perfectly fine on their own, only then can a relationship be a healthy addition to your life, not an integral part. And for some this might take a short while, for others years, decades... I really think we look at relationships in a very unhealthy way, as something that you must have to be complete.

[@cubswincubswinao]

Underrated comment, I think everyone should do this

[@blackkyurem720]

@@Sydebern Thing is there are alot of people who are perfectly fine on their own then they get into a relationship (like happens naturally) and they feel even better. Then when they lose that person they go into a depression like state for awhile, because they had something they didn't even knew they thought they needed or wanted. Plus being with that person could help them discover something about themselves that they need to work on that they hadn't noticed before.

[@Sydebern]

@@blackkyurem720 Depends on how these people spend their lives when they were single. Did they just pursue worldy ambitions, or have they explored their existence? With the latter i mean, did they have some kind of spiritual awakening? If not, they will probably be devastated by the loss of their partner. If you do not derive happiness from within, which is the source of happiness, you will be bound by objects, experiences and relationships for your happiness. And by the nature of those, you will lose all of them. In my case, i am in a LAT relation right now. I see my girlfriend about 5 days in the month, the rest of the time it is as it always was. I can say without a doubt that i will be totally fine when for some reason this relationship ends. Of course, i will be very sad about it for a while, but i love being on my own and i am happy on my own so i will be fine. The problem lies in really believing that you need the other. That is a false belief that binds you to that person. It makes your happiness conditional, dependent. Of course i do love being with my girlfriend and she is a great "addition" to my life (if you can say it like that). But she's all extra. I don't need her and i let her know that. I'm fine without her. I just like to share my happiness with her and she hers with me.

[@Sydebern]

@Nik Built Something It has to do with your mood. Depression, anger, hate, for example are low vibrational states. Happiness, joy, love, are high vibrational. It all exists on a spectrum. It's the frequency of consciousness.

[@treezief27]

If you break up from a long term relationship, never jump right into a rebound...I would advise mastering the art of being alone!

[@janicelucas6655]

I have mastered it!!

[@dinos9607]

That is advice for women. For men you can't be advising them to not have sex. At least tell them to visit some prostitute in the meanwhile! The bare minimum.

[@miab1095]

And that my friend I’ve mastered to the T..

[@global_mariii]

I Literally go for random walks and bike rides blasting music, people don’t seem to notice

[@BeverlyWhite-mk6ck]

I am a couple weeks from turning 54, Single and no children and all I have to say is, I love my life and the PEACE that comes with it. Being in love is a beautiful thing, but being Single and at peace is even more more beautiful!💕

[@daviddickendon315]

Why no children

[@lorieharris1752]

I think its to each its own. Its a different type of peace to be in real love and share a life with somone else its more soothing to be held than to be alons unless ur in an abusive relationship thats a different story..

[@claramajor470]

Wow!! You must have the natural grace to be single and have that peace. I'm single too and find that I'm complete in Christ first. However, I don't intend to be single for the rest of my life. I've always wanted a husband, my own family and a home. I believe relationships make you grow, learn and develop as a person. It's about meeting someone who's mature and confident in themselves and knows what they want that complements you and vice versa. Once we have a mutual respect for one another we can get on with life and all it's ups and downs. I'd rather experience this with my husband than on my own. I don't believe anyone wants to grow older alone?! That's just my thoughts. 😊

[@angelaberry7501]

Absolutely!

[@nicolephillips4157]

@@daviddickendon315 maybe she didn't want to have children out of wedlock.

[@mrmoe110]

The reason why so many people find relationships so hard nowadays is we live in an extremely narcissistic culture. People feel like no one is good enough for them. And when they see someone they think IS good enough for them, THAT person thinks THEY'RE not good enough.

[@YSANROCHEOfficialYoutube]

so so sooooo true lol, best comment here

[@allyb4298]

I think you might be right 🤔

[@trafficcontrol2420]

Damn.

[@cjennings6179]

Be HAPPY!!!😃 BEING SINGLE IS FREEDOM!!! Having FRIENDS IS HEALTHY IF TRUSTWORTHY, TRUTHFUL, Caring:Looking AFTER EACH OTHER Is important! (Care for each others LIVES with REGARDS & TRUTH!!!✌🔎🔑🔑🏆🏆🎼🎶Honesty.

[@shiaspiritual962]

Best comment so true

[@dallassallad]

Happiness literally has to start within. When you're living authentically, you'll attract who you're meant to be with.

[@michaelangst6078]

@Jane lane Nobody is truly real baby.. Everybody has a price in life to fuck people over depending on their status in life/mental state

[@blissreframed1681]

@@michaelangst6078 THIS is ABSOLUTELY not true!! There are many of us who do not and will not fuck someone over Period!! Look for better quality people

[@c.l.montoya2972]

Dallas LeMons I totally agree with you. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness. We never want to put the key to our happiness in someone else’s pocket. (Unless he’s gorgeous & wearing tight jeans🤣, just kidding!) Rhetorically speaking who wants to hook up with an unhappy someone? Our happiness shines from the inside out & enhances our beauty. We have to authentically be like who we want to attract. Stefan knows his stuff!!! *Stephan

[@agentsmith8568]

@@michaelangst6078 BITTER. WHO HURT YOU????

[@agentsmith8568]

@@c.l.montoya2972 I agree 👍

[@Kenji1685]

I'm still single because I like to be. 🙂 People need to learn to love themselves and not blame others.

[@sunnyday6408]

Being Single is way underrated.

[@scottl.1568]

But loneliness is overrated

[@sonyag5249]

🤔Try tellin' that to ya Mamma tho😂😂😂🤣😂😂

[@jsocials]

Research is proving that single people with purpose and ambition are happier than married people. The single people acting sad don't hv life goals

[@jsocials]

Part of the problem is people live on the same street their whole lives, meet a partner down the street and think they've found their soul mate 😆

[@shondathomas7825]

@@scottl.1568 you can be in a relationship and still be lonely....so being with someone else doesn't cure that.

[@benjones621]

We are all viewing each other through a filtered lens. Social media has blinded us to what people truly are. Heck, I barely recognize women anymore because I'm used to seeing them through filters used in all their pictures, and men are showing the highlight reel and not the daily grind. We all have to start being honest with ourselves and each other. I had to take a break and focus on God and myself because it is getting to crazy out there.

[@ckinahan1]

I totally agree. I refuse to filter my personal pictures anywhere. Unless it's clearly and obviously a picture that is part of my photography portfolio and the picture is clearly meant as art. I respect and appreciate your opinions. I feel like the second we created an entirely new vernacular for our current behavior and approach (and exit) to relationships in this day and age. I've chosen to just chill with me because I like my company. And I am truly impressed with your choice as well. Stay righteous. 😁

[@tainocris9664]

Why is there only three comments here? This the nest statement ive heard in this whole thing

[@benjones621]

@@tainocris9664 thanks. I think people don't like facing reality and would rather be told pleasing lies.

[@claramajor470]

Yes. I agree -100 percent Ben. Find yourself in Christ first and He will send the one you need to complement you. Amen.

[@michaelvamper5793]

I'm just going through this

[@Lauraisgreen]

I did some of my best healing while in my previous relationship. People shouldn't be scared to enter relationships if we don't feel 'healed'. It is dangerous to think we have to be a perfect human before we enter a relationship. The best foundation for a relationship is the willingness for both parties to grow on their own and together in the partnership. I wouldn't be the woman I am today without the 6.5 years of my last relationship. Relationships can also be catalysts for your own growth. Get rid of perfectionism and needing to be 'healed' first.... That can be dangerous and toxic. We learn about ourselves through our interactions with others x

[@ms.turquoise6341]

Thank you for the comment

[@Coco-hl8vg]

I totally agree, only thing is that not everyone learns whilst they are actually involved, but they should!

[@melaniebrown4947]

You make a good point.

[@pearlytiger564]

Yes!!! This! I was thinking this very same thing and you put it into words perfectly. Everyone has a story and we are all imperfect people.

[@chinadoll534]

Something my brother-n-law said to me one day. He said “ being in a relationship is really not about the other person, it’s more about learning who you are”. Meaning when you enter into these relationships you learn what your going to put up with and what you’re not going to put up with” I have to agree. It’s just some things I’m not going to except. Period

[@manoniemoments]

“They have to surpass the person you have had the strongest feelings for.”

[@mayanabranigan3452]

As a woman, I find it so helpful to listen to men's perspectives on relationships. Thank you both so much!

[@tamerlane1]

Being single rocks!

[@allyb4298]

Sometimes...

[@Msalike]

Until it’s not. Don’t put men on the back burner

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤....❤

[@michaelangst6078]

Not really.. I feel like killing myself sometimes and i'm wealthy.. I didn't feel that way when I had steady realtionships

[@louduva8599]

@@Msalike can't put us on the back burner we are the engines..

[@koroglurustem1722]

A ton of truths here. Heal first, then get into a relationship.

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤....❤

[@jerseysteelfitness6927]

The relationship was the reason for all the hard work to get back to zero. No thanks

[@koroglurustem1722]

@@jerseysteelfitness6927 that's curious. Then why do you listen to him?

[@Cleopatra12ification]

My Relationship Blogs archangelcleo.blogspot.com/2019/12/my-relationship-blogs.html Excerpt from Wikipedia Tinder en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tinder_(app) Nancy Jo Sales wrote in Vanity Fair that Tinder operates within a culture of users seeking sex without relationships. Health officials from Rhode Island and Utah claimed, that Tinder and similar apps are responsible for uptick of some STDs

[@amybedell3909]

Transmute your sexual energy into healing and your goals! We must go in as a healthy person for a healthy relationship. We don't want to put our partner to be our therapist. They are not here to make us happy. We need to happy and have self-awareness. Don't under estimate emotional intelligence!

[@katarzynaklos6527]

For myself self love is having a before bed skin care routine, using essential oils on my bedsheets for better sleep, running first thing in the morning so I can hear my breath and my heart beat, reading my positive/inspiring notes after, placing one hand on my heart and saying to myself “Kasia I love you”, meditating for 30min before I have to face difficult situation/conversation, eating healthy, drinking green tea-my body is my home, being attentive to the energy and remove myself from toxicity, accepting and allowing every emotion to run through me without judgement, list 5 things I am grateful for at the end of each day.

[@DnewNancy]

This is perfection

[@TiffanyShanell]

❤️ this

[@karenobana4255]

This is pretty amazing. You are a very wise woman. Thank you for sharing with us!!!

[@katarzynaklos6527]

Karen Obana thank you Karen. Your message touched me ❤️

[@katarzynaklos6527]

Phil LeBorgne how come?

[@patriciapage4625]

I was dating a guy and it was after dating him for 2 months. I learned a lot ,by listening to him. He was fresh out of a 6 yr on and off relationship. He wasn't emotionally ready for a new relationship. Because he hasn't healed. He is emotionally constipated. Unfortunately, I knew he wasn't relationship material. I broke it off and I feel so much better.

[@paulahunt3508]

@Patricia Page I’m so glad You feel better. But, I do feel for him because I’m in a place of healing and it’s so very hard to not date really quick.

[@sprintemps01]

I need him to do an episode on breaking up. Because they are many people that don't know how to end things with others. Breakups don't have to so ugly.

[@La_abbess]

Breakups also don’t have to be prolonged or avoided. Ppl always fear making that move, once they realize this is the step needed. Breakups also need to be FINAL. No take backs!

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..💕❤

[@jimtorres1523]

exactly my take the best a couple can do in a break up is try to communicate civilly and be a good listener, i guess 2 ears 1 mouth right. listen 2x as much as you say. ANY break up is going to hurt and scar the key is to MINIMIZE hurt and scarring with a mature civil approach to communicating.

[@jimtorres1523]

@faith umuk some have no choice because the woman they love and would love to loyally spend forever and more unconditionaly with is unreachable and closed of to them. even breakups can be handled in a civil and somewhat constructive manner I'm guessing.

[@holyroller7743]

@faith umuk Good luck. Being single is a long road traveled alone. At least you were married for a long time and experienced it even if you weren't happy.

[@cheesy2970]

This interview was truly amazing and insightful. I met my husband on tinder after 3 or 4 years of cycling on and off the app (not using it for a year going back on then deleting again when the results were abismal). My bro also met his wife on tinder btw and they both cycled on and off for a long time before finally finding each other. If you are a genuine person, don't give up hope.

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for your feedback🙂

[@Donnellatilery]

I enjoy hearing him talk. he always gives direct responses and tells men and women realistic tips. he's also not in his car telling you how to get a person lol

[@tainocris9664]

@Joys Destiny oh hellno.

[@blessedn4614]

Hey y'all singles out here...👂🏽😘🤩

[@ana-mariaalrasul9231]

Hahaha

[@Xtina2525]

hey hey hey!! 😉

[@mamamagere]

💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

[@ProjectDre]

This was amazing. You two should have a regular show! ❤

[@lewishowes]

Thank you!

[@brick_housedee6711]

Too many damage and broken people who didn't take the time to healed then they jump right back into another situationship going around and hurting other people instead of trying to find some self love. Hurt people hurt people. 🤦🏽🤦🏽

[@mortalkomment8028]

True

[@carrom1920]

I disagree. I’m single because I’m not settling for BS. Some stuff are out of your control. Even if your in a good space doesn’t mean you have to be in a relationship. I don’t want to be single but I don’t want to be treated like shit either. Which is why I believe single people are more stronger because their not settling. I know a lot of people who are in relationships because they don’t want to be alone. Which is worse. I’m very feminine and get approached by men all the time. It doesn’t make sense to say it’s wrong with single people

[@mrscott01]

Only thing is your clock is ticking for the highest quality males.

[@MichElle-py8lk]

@@mrscott01 there's always adoption. Plus not everyone can or will have children.

[@mrscott01]

@@MichElle-py8lk What I said has little to do with children. It's about a woman's sexual market value. The decline starts around the age of 25 and with each year reduces the quality of man she can get. In general.

[@MichElle-py8lk]

@@mrscott01 women are not cattle! Grown up men do not think of women as having a sexual value market!

[@therealselenaselena]

Amen!

[@rkhona]

Why are all the relationship experts single? 😂

[@vikinglass5496]

Rachel Khona 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@AnnieinKC]

I'm on the floor laughing!!!

[@chiefsmoketheprophet]

I always ask that too. Shouldn't they being in a relationship let alone married. That's like a business expert being jobless

[@viceanterra3]

I'm married and some of the best advice I've heard and applied came from a divorced divorce attorney. 🤷🏾‍♂️ You don't need to be a pro baller to be a good coach.

[@rkhona]

Annie in KC I mean even the title!! 😂😂 So do these experts follow their own advice or no? 😂😂😂

[@socalcrow3408]

He's exactly right!!! Call it chemistry...spiritual..gut instinct. You know it when you feel it

[@Screenplaywriter]

23:55 lmao. I wrote down all my insecurities and then burnt it after writing the opposite traits I decided to have. Unfortunately, I closed the fireplace flute (thinking I was opening it) and all the smoke filled my home where I had to call the fire department. Hahaha

[@La_abbess]

A good ending would be that you ended up on a date with one of the firefighters 😻

[@mp6645]

When you find that crazy connection.. just to find out yall not meant to be lol worse feeling ever

[@infowazz]

i had a connection like that but i wasn't attracted to her. it was a deep connection but missed that spark for me. she had a highschool sweetheart boyfriend at the time but our connection was crazy. he found our texts and flipped out. so we broke it off, which really sucked, and they got married shortly after. we could not have been friends because it just made no sense long term. it was so weird.

[@agentsmith8568]

What is a crazy connection?? Is it like oh i found out she watch ninja turtles 🐢 and dragon ball Z?

[@infowazz]

@@agentsmith8568 if its that and 100 other things. or if its like you are telepathic.

[@bohorocksuchee5796]

I would say step six is as follows: find one goal to fulfill. Take flute lessons, learn to drive, take yoga, read a book you have always wanted to do... Do one thing just to prove you can accomplish goals for yourself.

[@bohorocksuchee5796]

I am learning flute on a hot pink flute!!!

[@francesjenkins5455]

@Tony John scam

[@sabrinaalston1243]

I remember a much respected Pastor once said that a married couple that falls out of LOVE is a married couple that stopped having fun in their relationship

[@malcolmnicoll1165]

I once asked a wise old pastor, "why is there so much stress in marriages"? I'll always remember his one-word response "selfishness."

[@samanthafoster4788]

Transmute your sexual energy into healing and your goals! We must go in as a healthy person for a healthy relationship. We don't want to put our partner to be our therapist. They are not here to make us happy. We need to happy and have self-awareness. Don't under estimate emotional intelligence!

[@gioovannabp]

Thank you for your words, Samantha. It was good help!

[@chokeonthis2932]

Yh its true, it hurts because I know im broken and currently shouldn't be in a relationship, but it really showed how broken i was when it didn't work out thank god she was understanding I think lol

[@samanthafoster4788]

@@chokeonthis2932 sending love and healing your way. You are not alone in this.

[@chokeonthis2932]

@@samanthafoster4788 Thankyou

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..

[@RealRickCox]

Lots of gold nuggets in this!! If people paid attention to these things - every relationship in their life (business and personal) would improve.

[@diamondunicorn2421]

I’m single by choice .. it’s difficult to find someone who gives of themselves 100% towards building a relationship and bond, that I give. So since I have not met that individual.. I default to the choice.

[@gioovannabp]

I agree with you, me too. I'm not going into something just to trick myself that I have somebody when I only am with somebody that is not really invested or has feelings.

[@msfabulousflyfree2533]

❤💛💙

[@Cheryn77]

You must be a scorpio we love Soo hard

[@diamondunicorn2421]

sharonkanipe I’m Aquarius. We are naturally detached. So relationships aren’t as important, we value friendships more so. We also get hurt and love hard, because we wait a long time to invest in such an endeavor. And when all that time we lost or let’s say a learned a lesson in relationship failures. We tend to remain single as I forementioned. Plus I’m 47. I’ve had plenty of years of marriage experience and relationships. Living my life on my own terms is my mantra till death calls me home . 💋❤️

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..

[@cicichambers3887]

Staying in a “situation” too long, not a “relationship” too long. The former is a distraction and space keeper. The latter is something to grow by.

[@Kabaselefh]

Don’t be fooled, it’s a blessing to be single the bible says that.

[@wisesavedone2721]

Yessss!!!!💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@blackblack697]

True but at the same time it says it is not good for man to be alone

[@whitneydellafosse_]

What verse?

[@arisa373]

I', like what's wrong with these people I'm having a blast single and I intend to keep it that way for as long as I can possibly get away with it!

[@ayabaheera]

@@blackblack697 Being single does not equal being alone

[@michaelafletcher1546]

“What if their shoes are wrong?” Hahaha. Love this!! Being single pretty much for the past 4 years has fought me soooo much about myself. Happy being single but would love to be in a healthy relationship... either way is fine. I won’t “settle” just to be in a relationship. Thanks for this!! Much love ❤️

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤....❤

[@placebo106]

I had connection without chemistry many times. Emotional connection doesn't mean sexual chemistry! I am single as I am not someone I would date at the moment. I don't meet men I would like as I don't live in an area where those men are frequent and at the moment I can't move. I'm fine being single. I was married before, settled, so I will never do that again. Also, I'm not sure I want to live with someone. I would definitely need my own bedroom and space, a lot of space. But the problem with meeting another introvert is quite difficult as they do very well on their own too.

[@amswestyorkshire8048]

Agreed, have connections doesn't necessarily meet have chemistry.

[@MariaMedina-lj4kt]

Introvert here, so yes, I confirm it's a lot more difficult for us, because we actually like being alone. Well, many of us. I don't put myself out there, I rarely meet new men, so it's settled: single for life. And I'm fine with that. It's the best choice for me, as an introvert with standards.

[@user-dp4bu8jy4b]

Could it be people are introverts because they have had too many bad experiences with people..l dont see how anyone would be introverted if others loved and accepted them

[@placebo106]

​@@user-dp4bu8jy4b I'm not sure you understand the difference between introverts and extroverts. everyone’s nervous system has two modes: parasympathetic and sympathetic. When we use the parasympathetic side (nicknamed the “rest and digest” side), we feel calm and are focused inwardly. Our body conserves energy and withdraws from the environment; muscles relax, energy is stored, and our heart rate and blood pressure slow. The sympathetic side (a.k.a “full throttle”) puts us in a state of fight or flight. Our pressure and heart rate are elevated, we are alert and poised for action. Introverts thrive when they are operating in parasympathetic mode. This is the reason for the constant desire introverts have to be alone. Their desire and pension to engage in quiet, thoughtful activities away from others is not antisocial or moody behavior. It is a physiological need they have that is driven by their brain chemistry and function. When introverts are deprived of their alone time they can experience: Fatigue Mental and physical exhaustion Inability to concentrate Irritability Increased anxiety Depression The causes of introversion and extroversion are directly linked to how our brains operate and respond to neurotransmitters. So the best thing you can do for the introvert that needs time by themselves is to leave them alone.

[@MariaMedina-lj4kt]

@@user-dp4bu8jy4b Not really, I was always an introvert, since I was a child, I believe it's more genetic than environmental. Now being shy it's a different story. It may be because of insecurities. Introverts aren't necessarily insecure.

[@carlafoglia1873]

God has to be the center of our life in everything we do, specially in the most precious relationship like marriage. Chemistry and looks will fade at some point, so one have to connect in a deeper level, but not just to the other person but to God. Each person should love God more and be complete in Him, because a spouse cannot ever fulfill the emptiness of God in the other person heart. And how can anyone become wiser or make wise decisions without readying the Bible or being connected to God?

[@angelmcmurray]

Totally agree with your wise words Carla.. I’m praying for a man of God especially in these uncertain times we live in. 🙏

[@TheTread123]

Also , what you think about the book 101 questions before engagement?

[@janellamurphy5665]

AMEN🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💥💥💥💥!!!!!!! #REALTRUTH 😎

[@cjennings6179]

Personality & KIND EYES, Manly male VOICE, & VERY HEALTHFUL HABITS daily AVERAGE BUILD, Clear Healthy SKIN , THICK Full head of HAIR: wavy. Not curly. & KIND SOFT Green Blue EYES ON SOFT ROUNDISH Shaped face!! Beautiful SMILE. HAPPY PERSONALITY!!!

[@benjones621]

Totally correct. We cannot use another person to fill the void where God belongs. Wishing you the best.

[@juliuscaesart]

People not even tapping into themselves 💯

[@renchemarais8419]

Single and love it!

[@chokeonthis2932]

Tell me your secret, the loneliness is making me more insecure as the years go by lool 15 years and counting. The pain is my partner at this point, married to misfortune

[@NetSkillNavigator]

@@chokeonthis2932 You got to do something that makes your life worthwhile..

[@chokeonthis2932]

@@NetSkillNavigator to be honest, it's just acceptance. Living life for successes just brings more pain, if you don't achieve them successes or if you get it then lose it. Goal chasing will never make us happy, only content whilst weve got it, but when the novalty fades, well this is when you get rich depressed people. Life's only worth living, when we decide to stop living for circumstance.

[@chokeonthis2932]

@Jay Sha I respect that bro, there's more to life than just tryna settle with someone. I suppose there's so many things you can do in this world, having a partner is just one small part of it.

[@louduva8599]

@@chokeonthis2932 if your partner doesn't elevate you then she isn't worth your time. You have to realize that YOU are the value in the relationship and maintain control or you will WISH you stayed single...trust me man don't underestimate the power of working on yourself and loving yourself and your own situation. Once you make a your woman THE priority you will get trampled on in .any different ways....just my 2c

[@Mrsquepza]

Stefan is so wise, loved this material! It’s just amazing, thank you!

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤....❤

[@guisellalosa7557]

When the relationship is over? When one or two parties is not going to make the work to fix it. I don't need any more than this answer. THANK YOU!!!

[@ajamrealtv9329]

Matthew Hassey

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤....❤

[@ernestinabimpong5443]

Scammer!!! Stay away from this platform.

[@pinkygirl1975]

Mind blown. I was resisting watching this and kept trying to shut down when certain subjects came up. I am so grateful for the info shared. It has shed the mother load of light onto my situation. Single and searching. ❤️

[@juju7530]

You are on the money about healing. Now that I've healed, I can see straight to someone's heart. As soon as I see that the person doesn't really like me I quickly get away from that person. People can't hide what's in their heart even with a smile on their face. For the life of me, I can't figure out why people refuse to follow their heart. I can't resist my heart's desire.

[@vitocorleone1462]

Best tips: - Men be masculine, women be feminine - Put yourself first - Set boundaries, no posting underwear selfies online etc. - Communicate, listen an do not get emotional in arguments. - Never go to bed or leave without resolving an argument, ever. - Surprise your loved one now and again, be spontaneous. - Don't obsess over them, especial if you're a man, never make the woman your God. - Make them laugh. - Be sexy for each other - Get in shape together, it's win win. - For men, be a father to your girlfriend/fiance/wife, guide her and love her.

[@kammyc1573]

👏👏👏

[@lewis76ad]

And there’s a gap for the mistress just in case ( as back up)

[@arielaava2102]

Do you have any tips on how to get over from being mentally abused by friends? Letting big things slide in the past and not talking back when they're disrespecting you?

[@madelinedurand5632]

I am loving Lewis Howes. He asks the most intelligent questions and dig very deep into the what ifs and core of the real issues. Lewis is the most excellent interviewer who takes me to another level of where my potential and growth can be accelerated. The interview with Sarah Jakes Roberts was amazing. I had it on repeat because you and Sarah awoke the giant within me. Thank you so very much Lewis. I enjoyed this conversation between you both, although I think that there are many people who chose the single life because they just love being single. Its not that they can't find anyone. You are the best on KZbin and I subscribed. I have also shared with family and friends.

[@Peace-lt8bc]

Yes.. It's not about being in a relationship..it's about being with the RIGHT person. Thank you! Relationships are easy to get into

[@mrsbobbicisse]

I totally self sabotaged my relationship because I wasn't healed. He knew but approached anyway, he told me it was selfish on his behalf but he didn't want to take a chance I'd date someone else. I told him every step of the way.. right person wrong time.. we're in separation, broke up Aug. 7th.. still in contact as friends. I am happier than I've ever been because I had my awakening, healing, self love and forgiveness of my exes and - myself..Thank goodness I seek consult thru the universe and ancestors and I'm a fast learner!!! open and allowing to reconnecting to my great mate be it him or someone else. I've been healing for 5 years with some derailments.

[@Michelle-bg3mo]

So many gems in this interview. Thank you Stephan for your work and Louis for all the incredible questions you asked 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@TheFreedPerspective]

I’m BLOWN AWAY by this interview - it was exactly what I needed, at a personal turning point. I have SO much more perspective now on coming together with someone and thinking about: is the type of person I’m wanting, desiring the type of person that I am? Not just having the attitude of: accept me how I am, flaws & all, I’m amazing!😁 It’s not about vanity but it’s about becoming a truer version of yourself as well, learning from your desire towards someone else! Being the reflection of what you desire...energetically and emotionally. Also I’m going to have a VERY focused & special new moon ceremony tonight- I’m writing letters and identifying those pains to let them go. We’ll see if the letters are sent but I’m committed to healing. Dudes. I love you both so much!!!!

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤....❤

[@colleenmoore9920]

Stephan has a lovely voice....dont waste time with wrong guys....time flies....

[@fredjohn3015]

Hello Colleen

[@korbandallas8931]

when a person says "you're mine forever" , GTFO

[@user-FUCKYOU18]

@Joys Destiny that really work,yeah right?? 🤣🤣

[@rzvrzv9894]

You're not mine... it's just my turn

[@monikaballah931]

Oh my gosh..Thank God i didnt even start anything and someone said that. "You are mine for ever"

[@carlawilson8806]

Stephan's insight and ability to explain is amazing!

[@mayragarcia2906]

Ive noticed that Lewis has never talked about a girlfriend more then he has with this current one. He glows every time he speaks about her. 😊

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤....❤

[@jaykaye562]

I've seen this before and just watched it again. I Love Stephan's answer and the end when asked if he was seeing someone or still single. His answer is exactly how I feel 🙏🏽❤️

[@debcambria665]

He is in alignment and understands what a lot of other people do not. Great talk! Agree 100 percent

[@fredwilliam575]

Hello Deb

[@chocolatecity6488]

I rather be single for the rest of my life, than be with someone, I'm not happy with.

[@dallasbrat81]

Your classic narcissist

[@iloveamerica4891]

In relationship or not in relationship -- every man pays with his hard earned money and expiring time. You decide for yourself how much to which woman you pay up. For example for 100 get 1 hour on bedpage 24 hours a day you pick and you do anything you want for that 1 hour. We are only alive for 80 years in the end no one ever says I wish I did not bang so much.

[@onyxlotus7126]

I agree. I'd rather be single for the rest of my life, than settle for someone who I am not physically attracted too or someone who tries to control me, or irritates me. Nor do I wanna be with someone who expects me to love them more than I love myself. Its NEVER gonna happen. I will ALWAYS put myself first & foremost. I'm not obligated to contend or deal with anyone & I honestly believe people can be replaced. No one is that special that they can't be disposed of. So with that said, I love & put myself first at all times & I retain control of my emotions. I never allow anyone to have emotional power over me. This way I keep the upper hand at all times. Anyone that I am not satisfied with gets the boot & no I don't care about how they feel.

[@onyxlotus7126]

@@dallasbrat81 no this person isn't a narc because they refuse to settle. They are intelligent. There's no point in being in a relationship with someone you really don't want to be with.

[@JaimeeRae]

Stephan is brilliant and I always enjoy him on the podcast 😊 Great episode guys 👍🏼

[@sherrijohnson3399]

Amazing, amazing, amazing! I learned so much and some of it I actually already achieved. Thank you for this podcast and having Stephan as a guest🌼🙏

[@MARIAM_M_AYOUB]

When it takes you months to know if he/she is the right person it’s you over analyzing and trying to convince yourself you made the right choice when you know in your gut feeling (within few minutes of meeting the person) that you didn’t. One knows immediately, the later just doesn’t want to accept defeat, but calls it determination to make it work... the only hard work we should be having is the inner work, not the trying hard to make the relationship work because you’re trying too hard to change the other person...

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..💕❤

[@susanomondi2029]

I’m so grateful for Stephan’s wisdom!💖

[@bex8364]

I hope Stephan is getting compensated adequately for this video as the views increase, he’s a gem

[@fredwilliam575]

Hello Becky

[@lindadevuyst9311]

I read a book a long time ago that said “what makes us think that if one f*^d up person meets another f*^d up person we can creat a whole relationship…..totally resonated with me

[@mariaoneill6506]

I’m 17 years single, age 46, got my 2 girls, grandson n still got granddaughter on the way!!!! Single is brilliantly beautiful! Took me 8 years to tolerate me. So me happy u happy we happy!🙏🏼💙👊

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..

[@militur33mind]

Okay cat lady you are happy

[@heidihurn9828]

I’m single because I prefer it u don’t have to put up with any crap from anybody relationship s are overrated x

[@reggaejamgurl]

Exactly! Singlehood is peaceful.

[@heidihurn9828]

Chan_RainOctober I love it I wouldn’t have it any other way now x

[@heidihurn9828]

Jay Sha Better off been through it all never again like my freedom x

[@jenowens9990]

Hearing him talk about his girlfriend, I just kept saying “awww”! 🥰🤣🤣

[@littlecat2222]

I like that “you are mine forever !!” after 5 minutes !!! What a powerful woman 👩 💕💕💕💕I wish to meet someone whom I can say this to !!!

[@ScaryToRemarry]

Powerful conversation. I met my Wife on Instagram and married 6 months later. Everyone relationship is different

[@sprintemps01]

Thank you for saying that

[@La_abbess]

How ppl find love on Instagram and Facebook? Is there an add on to these apps?😅

[@lizzie2301]

SpellboundTonight Facebook has an app built in called “Facebook dating” and there are singles groups

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..💕❤

[@rd4469]

@It's Scary to Remarry...did you have that overwhelming powerful feeling they described in the video when you first interacted with her in person? The, "she's the one" feeling?

[@bougiegal2074]

I agree with what Stephan said about willing to make changes to better themselves. At the same time we are in the hookup culture and it’s not making things easier for people who want healthy relationships and marriages.Everyone is out for themselves.

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..💕❤...💕❤💕

[@LibraLove1717-us8qp]

I so agree with having a deep connection with someone so the relationship has a good chance of surviving. This is why I'm divorced right now; there were no deep soul connection in my marriage. It took me 3 decades to find someone that I spiritually connected with instantly and it happened during my failed marriage. This person and I are not in communication but my heart is with him. Once he heals his heart he will return to his true love. Since we met and connected, no one hasn't even come close to matching the vibration I have with him.

[@marielogan5406]

I am taking all of these steps to heal me after a death of a spouse who I manifest in my life. I stayed to long in this relationship. Now I am free and free to love another for I know the tell tell signs as to weather is coming to via the Devine. Haven't read your book but I am doing the work.

[@MzzTPC]

Self care vs. Self love. There is a huge difference. Sometimes self love requires doing difficult things for your growth. Getting a pedicure or purchasing something for yourself isn't difficult but gratifying.

[@Blessthemicciphers]

True indeed, everything must change. You must look inside yourself and change what hinders your relationship and repels your partner.

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤....❤

[@rebeccaholt8965]

Simply AMAZING video. Stephan Labossiere is the REAL DEAL!!! All the pieces FINALLY PUT TOGETHER!

[@powermovement247]

I listened to this video last year and enjoyed it. So when it came up in my video feed again I thought that would listen to it again. I can honestly say that there is so much wisdom and good information packed into this video. Thank you Stephan for sharing. Much love, peace and continual growth.

[@misslady5029]

This was one of the best episodes that I have seen on KZbin! Thank you brother for recognizing that The Spirit of The Lord is your source !

[@fredwilliam575]

Hello Mary

[@okeilvaccianna2139]

Great questions ask! Great answers/solutions! Refreshing interview 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@razarraz8276]

The thing about connection, compatibility chemistry really hit home with me!!! There's this girl I went to college with I liked her at the time but she was incompatible with me! She smokes, drinks and started to do drugs during when we where at college, I loath drinking alcohol, drugs and smoking. Because of those reasons I never asked her out and tried to ignore her completely to get over my feelings for her. (this was 8 ago when we where 16) I took her out last August to catch up because it had been 5 years since we had last seen each other and I wanted to see if we had and "compatability" (looking back on it) and it felt so easy being around her, we had a Laugh, Reminisced about college and just felt so great being with her, nothing felt forced at all. I didn't try to escalate with her because I found out she started drink a lot heavier, so smoked and does/ tried a lot of drugs and those are my biggest NO NO's when it comes to someone I look at romantically. We are just friends but I would say she's my closest friend

[@karinesavard2016]

Nothing wrong with being single👍👍

[@elizabethschilling7178]

The part about they have to supersede a previous relationship, connection, feelings, that confirms in my heart my late husband, I have yet to meet anyone who comes close to the connection I had with him, I hope I experience it one more time in my life.

[@ckinahan1]

We will girl, we will. It will be a different kind of wonderful though and that's taken me a while to get used to after I lost my husband. He was one in a million and I'm so lucky for that. I don't want a version 2.0 that will always be second best. I am struggling to figure out how to shift gears and it's hard. But just like our husbands, we will have another moment where someone shocks us by being amazing when we didn't expect it. I am holding on to the idea that when a door is closed, a window.... Much love sister! Xo

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..💕❤...💕❤💕

[@jessicadefeo7678]

This is a great interview, thank you both so much💜 such a good conversation

[@jessicamariposa6726]

Thank you guys for having these talks. It is healing of itself.

[@audreys3279]

Wow, if there were just more single men like Stephan! I think he gives the most grounded-in-truth advice I've heard from any KZbin coach. Solid🙌🏼

[@Sirenity01]

It’s been about a year since my ex and I broke up but to this day I still feel she’s that one for me. Everything was genuine, we instantly connected etc... it was just the wrong time for me I wasn’t in the best space. I pray the universe let us cross paths again once I’m where I need to be. She was a great woman

[@Dreamsareareality]

I feel like you and my ex.

[@rzvrzv9894]

If she's your ex then it wasn't meant to be.

[@Sirenity01]

@@rzvrzv9894 been starting to feel the same way lately

[@d.secchi89]

Very good contents. Continuous eye opener! I love both of you men! Keep your good works!

[@enlovegyjourney]

Please don't take me as I am because I grow every day and changes of improvement is on the rise of greatness... 💪 Strong relationships not only with a partner but with my family, friends and who ever come in contact. I have one first-time impression so I make it my best to be in a positive state 😌 energy is so real.....

[@LS-zq3td]

these two guys are just absolutely amazing this is some of the best Life advice I've heard in a long long time

[@williamnesh223]

I gotta watch this every day

[@AaloPhoto]

Love it! I already feel uplifted and it's only 5:30 in the conversation. Love the energy

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..💕❤...💕❤💕

[@sandraschultz3104]

This was good overall. I have one comment about “ knowing” the person is the one. Sometimes certain triggers like covert narcissism and co-dependency masquerades as knowing and/or replaces intuitiveness because it’s familiar from past dysfunctional family or past romantic relationships. The person hasnt healed like you said. You have stated this in basic terms for those who don’t know about their/ these dysfunctions which is great. I also believe the spiritual higher power side if you are healed. Great discussion!

[@pspr1149]

Great relationship advice. LH, thanks for this.

[@kenyajosey8817]

This was so so amazing I enjoyed every bit of it I can’t wait for the next podcast and more I’m learning so much Thank U so much

[@BlessedDivine77]

This Interview is Outstanding Brilliant. Great Job both of you🙌🏽🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@lewishowes]

Thank you!

[@carolegonsalves1614]

I totally agree , I felt it right away instead connection . It felt comfortable and right .There was no doubt or fear .

[@dejamalaysia]

He asked the perfect questions! I love this ❤️

[@georgianatiller4442]

Love it! So much truth in this! Thank you Stephan for all you do!

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..

[@atlantasfaithsmom]

I find there are a lot of drunks and unhealed men with anger issues online.

[@Nykoooo1]

You have no idea how much most men are suffering...

[@Nykoooo1]

@En Joy wander on reddit/feminism and forums like this. If you've never met one especially in new york you're either very rich, blind, or one of them...

[@Nykoooo1]

@En Joy a feminazi is a hysterical feminist who pushes the idea of feminism to the extreme, where it's not so much about equality but revenge and domination, which produces those glorious slogans like men are trash, kill all men, cancel white cis men and other highly intellectual motos. In a feminazi's mind, a man is guilty of everything, even if she fucks up all by herself, as she's unable to take responsibility for anything so as to remain in her permanent victim mindset. Feminazis push for idiotic revendications that they already have such as equal rights or the oh so famous wage gap. They usually also push for islam, though it's the most violently partriarcal model of society in the world, thus proving their incoherence, idiocy, and in the end their not really caring about women as much as their simply wanting to destroy the symbol of the white male. Usually easily triggered and overweight, they sport weird fucked up and often failed hair tinctures which make them look like obese hens on acid. If you want to meet real specimens, i suggest going to womens march, go at your own risks though...

[@louduva8599]

@@Nykoooo1 well said. But its our fault. We allow too much shit...have gotten too soft.

[@Nykoooo1]

@@louduva8599 Damn right, it's like the Bill Burr skit where he goes "i'll just agree with everything she says maybe she'll touch it!" It's rewarding negative behaviour. We need to stand our ground and teach that to our sons. Respect yourself first and foremost. No matter how pretty she is.

[@liz_A.5280]

I did not know who this person was, but he’s great in every point! Thank you for this.

[@southerngurl.speaks4901]

I always love hearing him speak. And he speaks the truth.

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤....❤

[@GadgetsGearCoffee]

well I would say that being a woman who has been dating women in the last several years, statistics are against me along with all the other complexities it brings (people exploring etc), although I for sure have things to work on. The issue I have right now is I've taken the time to heal, work on myself, figure out what I want - everyone I'm meeting just seems down for casual, got out of a serious relationship or exploration and I'm very secure in saying I want a relationship but having been single for 8 years, it's not just anyone - as in people hear relationship and freak out at just the word but I'm not going to jump into just any relationship. If the fact that I want an actual meaningful connection scares you, then ya leave

[@cruisefit1142]

Good Luck!

[@iamceceanderson]

As always, a great interview - excellent questions and brilliant answers! Thank you both 🙏🏾❤️🇬🇧🇯🇲

[@tonyjohn7839]

*[phone] ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💕❤..💕❤..💕❤

[@idahughey3304]

I like Listening to these two men talk about relationships they’re good makes a lot of sense thank you so much