Ignoring red flags, losing my marriage to finding true love in a man who took care of me at my worst

When Valentine got the grand wedding in a posh rooftop, she had no idea the red flags she had ignored during the dating process would cost her the marriage.
Deep down she confused love bombing for true love and the price was lonely nights, heartbreaks and a son who the husband refuses to acknowledge
Then during her worst period, a Doctor who had just come in to fill for another Doctor asked her one important question,..How are you?
Little did she know that this man who had also been left by his wife with two kids would end up becoming her long life partner
On this episode of LNS, she walks Lynn theough her journey, the price of ignoring red flags to finding love again and the joy of raising a blended family
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[@LynnNgugi]

Hello team LNN, What are your views on today’s show? You can reach Val on My email address is [e-mail] social handles ms.kathambi on IG Valentine Kathambi on FB @niskize on IG Or her office on [phone] Niskize To share your story with us, Please send a summary to [e-mail] for consideration Thank you so much for watching ❤

[@davincimaths9492]

Hi Lyn... I would like to share my story

[@roznduati633]

Watching from Berlin

[@jaynenjenga3718]

@@davincimaths9492 send Lynn an email regarding the same.

[@annanjoki6151]

Morning

[@dorismugo6123]

Do you allow your son to visit when the other children are visiting their mother as per divorce agreement?

[@sallynduta7155]

My take home: ' Be the right one before looking for the right one' As a single woman waiting to find love, that will really go a long way.

[@findinglela]

Yes

[@sonyia7521]

Even me i never thought i would date a man who is not saved leave alone getting married to him. I got married in church by very saved guy but he show me hell in that marriage. We divorced and God blessed me with a good man, not saved but 12 yrs now and he loves me n my 3 kids so much. Infact he is the one who has brought them up, baba mlezi. My kids esp last born daughter looks like him kabisa, ata mi huambiwa nadanganya eti ni wake. But mi sina mtoto wake cos hatukubahatika kupata but he is a good father to them.

[@nderitulucia9878]

Am happy for you

[@annmurimi3130]

Oooh Glory to God im happy for u

[@lyn254]

Wow that's great

[@angelineowade2650]

Wow

[@puritymwende6312]

Wow

[@jayleoo1]

Hi, am appreciative of your husband, 5 years ago my Son was hospitalized and I was loosing my mind in hospital and other nurses thought I was too aggressive to be handled, he was very encouraging, warm and kept on reassuring me my Son will be ok. Even after discharge ,he used to follow up to ensure he was ok. For sure I can attest he is a good man. Pass my gratitude and appreciation from my family.🙏

[@danieljohn2184]

God sent Doctor.

[@doreenmwenda939]

Love is not something you go out and look for. Love finds you, and when it does, ready or not, it will be the best thing to ever happen to you.

[@lifesportwithjossy3806]

Wow great comment, God bless for the revelation

[@susangitau2864]

Love found me was a single mother of two and now am a happy woman now a mother of three, 7yrs done the line.

[@wanjiku28]

May love find me. 🙏

[@susangitau2864]

@@wanjiku28 Amen

[@alicekabuki5986]

@@susangitau2864 hoping one day love will find me....am also a mother of two but my daughter is special kid

[@beatricemuringi4120]

I paused at Min. 7 to shout a big AMEN. " A child is not looking for a father and a mother. All a child wants is a stable home and a stable parent" and I dare add "all else are details". I am parenting solo and the one thing I vowed to myself I will not do, is chase and fight. My child is my only assignment.

[@berylats4646]

Amen mama.....

[@MissT292]

It's in my status already 🤣 Very insightful

[@lucienjuguna3589]

No

[@damarismochama6966]

So inspiring

[@charitymuthoni929]

My twin.

[@teshi481]

When u marry a wrong person..they block ur blessings

[@emilymuthoni7022]

Even a boyfriend and girlfriend can block your blessings

[@jedidahmathenge8292]

Very true

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

Ask me

[@margaretnjau1595]

Very true

[@evangelistgrace5278]

I totally agree with you! You can get married to a family and all your virtue's and blessings vanishes! Simple because of covenant in the family!

[@passionnekrafts7740]

Ask me I lost everything by being witha wrong person I had a six figure pay, a car living poshly but the 2 years I had with that person I was left homeless no job no car no money no food but who is like God. I met the love of my life and my life turned around and God restored me.

[@godsown4683]

My take home is loose the victim mentality, children need love not much, be right before you look for the right person, go for intentional premarital counseling way before the wedding, love your steps and treat them as your own. I love the fact that she didn't badmouth her ex, which is a breath of fresh air. Thank you Mr Isaac for loving mama. Thank you mama for sharing. Hugs

[@eureliakedi2044]

I'm too emotional rn, especially after watching this show. I'm a single mum and I'm doing everything I can to give my 4year old baby everything she deserves. I remember sometimes back I overheard my neighbors asking my baby where her dad was, and to my shock, she pointed at me saying that 'ndio huyu baba yangu'. I've never felt this hopeless because I don't know what she could be thinking, or what her perception about life is. I have always considered myself a victim, that's why I haven't been able to move on though I don't have any contact with the man. However, this show has been an eye opener because I know the world has a lot in store for me. Thanks Lynn

[@letelakhoza8215]

🇿🇦🇿🇦I'm a Man but it touches when you say yr neighbors 1 day you heard them asking your child about her dad & she pointed at you 😢😭😥 it is tearing to be honest. But u are not alone my dear, is a journey of majority. As long as you are there for her that is enough for her my dear & I hope she will recognize you 1 day ok. Thanks for that huge support from your child keep it pouring 🌧🌧❤️🌧🌧🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@gladysmorwabe8412]

All

[@angelam4136]

Actually I find what she said to be the ultimate compliment. She could have said "sina baba" . Instead, her statement suggests that you have filled in the gap and indeed given her everything she deserves. Spoken by the adult child of a single mum who has been both mama and baba and who truly lacked nothing. You are a wonderful parent.

[@catherineselah.9063]

It is well dear sister. Your tomorrow is definitely greater than today. Hugs Ma.

[@cpaannwanjau6044]

Yeah,you are the father now until God gives one.I just told my two daughters I am their mum and dad and the little one couldn't help but laugh and hug me.I lost my ten years marriage & now on my three year of singlehood,I forgave myself,him prayed God to transform me and surely He helped me overcome bitterness,resentment and anger.I handle my kids with the highest love and care and their have never bothered to ask where their father is after I sat them down and explained everything to them we have the joy and the peace that surpasses human understanding

[@evangelistgrace5278]

I was in marriage for sometime, from day one my spirit was very grieved! I lost my Job, my Joy, I went through so much rejection, I used to beg even for food! This story has given me hope that I can find love a second time! Now I know I have to deal with my childhood rejections and pains that I went through!

[@nyamburarachel8184]

One day you'll overcome darling 😘

[@nanciela3755]

I get you..there are some relationships that suck everything good out of your life

[@evangelistgrace5278]

@@nanciela3755if you marry a wrong man and a wrong family

[@wambopesh2641]

Same story but we shall overcome

[@evangelistgrace5278]

@@wambopesh2641 Amen

[@emmaomusebe171]

You've just talked to me. Yesterday I was screaming to my kids because of their dad abandoning them with nothing. They went to hid away from me and left this morning when they were asleep. I feel helpless and need someone to tell me that "it shall be well"

[@anithakalekye8819]

It shall be well

[@Marilynmollie]

It shall be well

[@priscillandungu1066]

Hold on Mum, it shall be well with you... Sending love and light 🤍🤍

[@janetjay2020]

It shall be well,keep your faith strong...

[@melonnelon855]

It is well ❤

[@xxeteron1680]

Wow, this was real and raw. I thank God I have never told my son off regarding his father, not once have I badmouthed his father and I encourage him to talk to his dad when he needs to. I have never asked the father for a coin for the sake of the child. I do what I can and leave what I cannot do and my son and I are happy. Thank you Valentine for this narrative

[@atienolynne]

I love the way she's intelligently bringing out the whole story without hate , she's respectful despite her pains , heartbreak, misfortunes and that's what gives her the outer and inner beauty she owns , amazingly strong lady ♥️

[@Deedor72]

Amazing...just watching

[@nellywairimu8085]

I feel like Val is telling my story,.,.the fact that her sister is also called Njeri like mine,having supportive parents.The man I've been dating loved me with no judgments,he's very calm.God bless him for accepting my daughter❤ ❤ ❤

[@carolkami.671]

Wow, that bit she says she didn't marry the man she knew and maybe even him (ex-husband) didn't marry the woman he knew....the fact that she doesn't want to badmouth the ex; now that's what I call humility, self acceptance and growth 💪💪👍 Alot of us complain about our exes and fail to realize relationships are two way.... they too may have been disappointed by us!!

[@damarlswanjlru6935]

Its protecting what she shared and also what she loved..#maturity

[@mzuribeauty4287]

It's always easy to blame other people that way we don't have to look inside ourselves and see how we contributed.

[@cw2783]

Eveyone tells thier story their way and we always appreciate however they choose to tell it.and its ok for people to tell details or not.

[@carolkami.671]

@@cw2783 yes..life seasons also determine the outcome of our story whenever we tell it...I'm sure this story would be very different if it were told before this lady got married to the good doctor... right?

[@chulehirbo7397]

Me too,I didn't know the man I got married to..I wish I was told earlier

[@justinanthenge619]

"don't go out looking for the right one, be the right one" Well spoken !!!Amen!!

[@muthonimuthoni]

This lady is really eloquent and really wise😊

[@teresagitonga8749]

I can listen to this girl repeatedly like a movie. You are mature and your conversation is candid.

[@janevergathii5335]

I believe there are second chances in life after watching this story Praying for my second chance to find love again

[@axad6672]

I'm single mom of 4kids for almost 6yrs I hope one day I will get such a wonderful man who will appreciate me & love me of whom I am

[@lucyndege7679]

Sometimes women find themselves and their purpose after a breakup. See her now .. weight loss and she look so beautiful.

[@carolkami.671]

Say that again!! Ati Sometimes women do what??... after what???....👍

[@totozworldkenya]

Say that again… after 10yrs I found myself

[@hildamavuso1620]

Lynn I wish I saw this 2 years back. I wouldn't have fallen into depression. This woman is God sent. Forward I will go. I will fight until I get up on my feet again. what a wonderful woman

[@EllaKabami]

Rarely comment on here...but what an absolutely sobering conversation this has been. Thank you Lynn for so many things, but mostly being the kind of person anyone feels so safe around to share stories such as these. Val, you are a true picture of Gods love and faithfulness if ever we needed one. Thank you for sharing your story, you have no idea how much healing this has and will bring to people on this page. You are a phenomenal woman! #Grateful

[@nemysown1645]

Narcissistic abuse = Love bomb, devalue, discard, hoover…..rinse, wash, Repeat 🔁. This country has beautiful women who don’t deserve this kind of abuse. However, “my people perish for lack of knowledge”. Knowledge is broad.

[@marynjuguna8667]

Wow...I can relate..but I thank God coz I discovered early b4 I got into marriage. Later ,God blessed me with want I was praying for 🙏🙏

[@rosamariewanjiru8659]

Yes yes this is the cycle I've always wanted to put words to explain the steps. This is the exact cycle I went through. But I'm glad I escaped.5 months now. And going strong.

[@Caroles_CreativeCorner]

U are saying the truth... personally I didn't know anything to do with narcissism until it happened to me..I got married for two years.at first it was love in the air..boarding flights,gifts and such until we moved in.The guy first stopped me from going to work and school.I couldn't leave the house anymore infact I also left church.no friends just us and his kids from a previous marriage.Verbal abuse began...I mean heavy words that u cannot imagine,beating me especially if I question his infidelity to a point of calling police on me,he severally abandoned me on the road at night...in one instance I was abandoned in Nairobi and he seized my money and phone and again reported me to kilimani police for theft...when we have visitors he could just badmouth me Infront of everyone..."this woman has no money,I feed her like my workers and she does nothing in the house" and he even tells workers "let this woman never tell u anything coz it's me who pays you she has no money" devaluation showing me how other women are better than me,cheating on me until I just felt like I was gonna die and looked for a way to escape...thank God I did in November last year...it is hard for me to love again...I haven't consulted counseling yet it requires money..still in wrecks and traumatized

[@shikuliz4134]

The number is rising day by day of narcissism people should raise awareness because this is what is causing death in many relationship's and marriages ..the moment you trauma bond with this abusive marriage or relationship you're damn done!.

[@xtianjeshi]

@@Caroles_CreativeCorner may the Lord Jesus mend your heart. You'll be in my prayers.

[@millisifuna6322]

Your grandmother was the most intelligent in this all. Those children you found are what will define the success of your own.

[@angelinenabwire5133]

True Love absolutely exists. When I had just given up, God brought my way the most amazing, loving, caring Husband. When you meet someone that you feel like you are home, then you know. May God continue to bless your marriage.

[@victoriakikuvi1983]

I like her advice of don't go to therapy with victim mentality

[@angelinenabwire5133]

@@victoriakikuvi1983 true that.

[@Kasweetie_254]

Love is a beautiful thing when you're with the right partner

[@TechAlphax]

...and he is not broke. You forgot to add that, can any woman here deny this?

[@andrewlemayian]

haha lynn knows u by name👏🏽

[@garycrockett414]

So you are the kasweetie Lynn is talking about. Haha thanks for always getting us to the actual story quickly

[@Kasweetie_254]

​@@TechAlphax 😂😂aki wewe

[@Kasweetie_254]

​@@andrewlemayian 🙏

[@willykaduka265]

Have learnt something from her🥰😍...same here am 26yrs and the man am dating he is 36yrs... we met at cairo airport last year june and exchanged contacts...july I became sick went for operation...but this man chipped in to help with the hospital bills... mimi husema God alimleta my way with a purpose 😊🥰😊

[@shazzysymon6835]

Just make sure he is not a family man soo you don't end up breaking someone else home. Wish you all the best

[@kishngatia]

Chipping in to pay your bills should not make you overlook so many other things....take it slow

[@lyn254]

This is what we want to hear about good working marriages .

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

God men still exist

[@lyn254]

@@graciakinyanjui6937 yeah they do

[@susangitau2864]

@@graciakinyanjui6937 yes.

[@nawesafatuma9229]

Thank you Val thank you Lynn I relate so well with Val's story. Its not different from what I have been through. Mine was delayed to 20 yrs until I decided to move on. Currently I have met the right person and all is okay. Am Ugandan and wish it was easy to visit Val in her office for further guidance. God bless you all and Glory be to Him for His endless mercy

[@chania80]

How come at the 1 Hr mark I feel like crying? This show has blessed me. Lynn, Lynn this time you've done it. Your guest deserves all the happiness and I also like how classy she is. She doesn't tear down her ex. Your husband also saw that your drama was for your baby. You are a beautiful spirit, inside and out. Indeed let's ''be the right one'', not search for the right one!

[@makingitwithmelvis2644]

Her first relationship is a typical pattern of one dealing with a Narcissist, such relationship start very fast with excessive lovebombing in this stage you are made to believe they are your knight in Shinning Armour only to turn around and abuse you,stay save above all stay away from Narcissist.

[@geewangare]

What a sober and beautiful story of speaking and owning you truth. Val's story resonates so well with mine. Ladies please, guard your mental health and well being, it is the most important thing. If someone (a partner) threatens it, (your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual well being) in a marriage, LEAVE! Don't stay for the kids, because you will be doing more harm than good to them. You may struggle in the beginning, especially if you were dependent on your partner, but it will be worth it in the end. God will see you through the storm, he's a God of restoration and love and he will raise you up once again to the glory of his name, and you will also give your testimony like Val, from a point of overcoming, healing, forgiveness, renewed hope and empowerment.

[@wambopesh2641]

I can't wait also,my time will come....I have gone through alot but I still give time time... trusting the process

[@nemysown1645]

Ms.Ngugi, thank you for all you do for your country. Please consider educating people in your country especially women about NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a serious issue and 90% of your audience are victims of it. Love you.

[@esthermurugi4995]

I agree with you I being a victim of narcissist abuse

[@Nancymutahi66]

I recommend my ex to be educated on this 🙈

[@mercymukari771]

Narcissists have the same script; my story too

[@balancedviewpoint7418]

Indeed it is true. Just as Lynn recommends clients for therapy so should she because these kind of stories may weigh her down. I have been reminding her the same.

[@shikuliz4134]

Even before she explained herself I knew she's was married to a narcissist ..I'm a victim 😭😭😭 very painful expecially when kids are involved they don't love kids 🤔

[@kyokushabashine7193]

Wow,My take home as a i start to watch , as a single mum, instead of chasing the baby daddy,shift that energy to loving your child😘🥰

[@connieshalitauwineza]

I just loved everything about this interview mostly because I can relate so much with her and I have learnt a lot. I also love that she mostly spoke English so it was easier to follow because sometimes you have guests whose stories could be inspirational but we don’t understand cause they speak Swahili 90% but I thank u Lynn and this lady you interviewed she was amazing ❤ Lynn I love your interview skills and empathy u give your guests a safe space

[@veronicahmukami1416]

God bless this marriage..God bless doctor Isaac..he treated my daughter in ICU in 2018

[@lucyitot2468]

This is Awesome

[@freeasabird5239]

No woman would just leave her own kids just like that . There must have been something else with the (husband)Doctor too . Vitu Kwa ground ni different

[@Mike_Ogana]

Didn't you hear her say he acknowledged his role in his marriage breaking

[@jos_macharia]

Her authenticity, self-awareness & ownership to her journey is just on another level. So much to learn. Thanks for sharing the story. May God continue to bless your union and family.

[@SoulWhisperer]

What a beautiful, smart, humble woman. I'm so happy for her. I love hearing about her beautiful her family, her marriage, and her own growth and development. Amazing. Like you, Lynn, I am sure this woman lights the darkness for many people. "Don't go out looking for the right one. BE the right one." That is EXACTLY correct. 💯 Asante for this beautiful story.

[@mzuribeauty4287]

It took me 2 years of counseling to even know how to talk to my children about their dad in a sensible way. They were so confused. I had money but instead of spending it on my kids I was paying lawyers to take ex to court🙆‍♀️

[@victoriabosire4259]

Amazing,kindly lead me to that counsellor l really need help

[@ja9293]

no judgement ..... you deal with it the best way you feel at the moment..

[@helenwaithera]

It's amazing how calm she is. It's clear she's been on a journey where she faced her traumas head-on and dealt with them. She healed to a point where she was able to attract the man that was meant for her. I wish them more years of joy and laughter and to keep choosing each other. In a world where we read/watch horror stories, I celebrate this beautiful family. Much love.

[@tecmediake]

Wow! That man must be very happy to hear such sweet words from her, most ladies don't appreciate their men, you are blessed🙏

[@monicahmuthui3630]

the guy has being a blessing

[@carolinenkatha2902]

The best story I have listened so far. And I love how Kathambi is so calm, composed and eloquent! She has truly healed from her trauma! And thanks for showing us that second chances and true love is still out here! And that blended families can work! I/we love you!🤗🤗

[@kyokushabashine7193]

I am so excited everytime Isaac is mentioned ,I recently met a guy called Isaac ,he is so lovely, loves my daughter as his own.There is magic in that name.I praise the Lord

[@Vhhandle]

That’s amazing, happy for you 😁

[@oliviaochara8440]

For me he was so bad to me but i believe God will connect me the right man

[@kyokushabashine7193]

@@oliviaochara8440 amen.Your season is coming dear.Hold onto God and wait

[@mealcars3223]

This name is just hell... wuueh,I don't want to mention

[@Jed_Wang]

Is there a more soft spoken person? One can listen to Val forever. Much respect to you Val and wish you well with your family. 👏

[@TalithaCumi1]

God help each and every narcissism victim to rise beyond the past traumas. May every love bombing victim get to know what true love is in Jesus Name 🙏🙏

[@selphaadweya]

We need more Isaacs in this world.God bless him, val and family

[@monicahmuthui3630]

hapa ni necessary and well said

[@lornachendenda1186]

She holds such profound wisdom, this is a woman intune with her higher self, may we see more of that in women out here. You cannot wish away your pain, you have to face it and overcome it.

[@joycechege]

Her story sounds familiar to how my ex husband was and listening to her gave me alot of strength to accept myself and move on...even if some of us it maybe difficult to get a therapist just listening to her story gave me hope that all is well ...such an amazing story

[@daphinemary5269]

Yeah.. Aki listening to her is therapy itself to some of us

[@njerimbugua5350]

Waooh! Isaac Nderitu Kihurani..(uncle).we are proud of you! You are a gentleman indeed. God bless you and your family.

[@sheilahendrich6995]

Narcissistic abuse is rising to another Level in kenya or rather in the world. Lynn ,pls create a segment for Narcissistic Abuse, many people go through it Women and Men, and the majority don't talk about it. They die in silent through depression and suicidal😏😏

[@annitachirie4895]

"'A child is not looking for a mum and Dad, all a child wants is a stable home" take home message for a single mum

[@pamelariungu3390]

Dr. Kihurani is an amazing doctor. He loves children so much and he always shows concern to the parents. He was my daughter's doc one time she was hospitalized. Well done Kathambi for holding up and being a blessing to so many people through Lynn.

[@ann5582K]

Aki nothing beats the gift of a loving and supportive family... beautiful ladies, beautiful talk...stay blessed.

[@annengethe4122]

That family is the best ever, ie her mummy,dad sister and even her aunties were all there for her.God bless them. Tho I feel hajafungua roho kabisa...coz of her ex..angetoa tu uhondo wote bila uoga.

[@annesmith5633]

I pray to find a man who would love me for me and my son I would love a blended family 👪

[@JJones-oh3dd]

As a single Mom of 2 I had given up on Men but after watching this i'm gonna give it a try

[@judiekerry8499]

Allow God to direct you.Hugs🎉

[@rosebosibori5483]

Me too

[@rudiahgechemba8403]

Where are these men Lynn? I wish I can feel and experience true love before I die.

[@LynnNgugi]

There are here among us dear:)

[@rudiahgechemba8403]

Let me hope one day I will come across one who cares.

[@christabelmusila2021]

Still hoping for it too

[@beatricechebett5958]

Let's keep hoping ❤️

[@mwariwachegeh385]

You will not die, God is connecting us to the right men soon & sooner

[@marthaharriet1706]

Lyn This is free therapy!! I cannot thank you enough personally for this platform ❤ God bless you The words here that your guest shared are way intense and very divine

[@rosemaymonyangi]

Lynn’s show is so Aligned mpaka 80% of the time the guests have color co-ordinated with our Lynn ❤️❤️❤️ thank LNN you are angels ❤

[@damarlswanjlru6935]

Even i thought they had talked what to wear😅😅🤗❤

[@carolnyakio5287]

7 years as a single mom to my son and he has never asked me who his father is..Accepted fate the moment he said i get an abortion ..I can surely agree all these kids need is love

[@christinenzilani5273]

Haki sorry .caro.am prepared to be single mom athough life is difficult for me bcoz I don't have job ad the same time I have one month pregnancy.bcause my boyfriend keep telling me he is nt ready to raise a kid .I feel distrubed alot I lack peace .I don't want to kill my innocent baby.i just pray God to bless me with a job I move on with my. Life.right now am stressed.advice me kindly

[@stellaokumu2801]

Hi Carol, Keep your child dear, I promise you God will take care of you both. Praying that you get something to keep you busy.

[@mgdigitalhub]

@@christinenzilani5273 God will see you through dear. Cherish your miracle.

[@jacquelineanyango7871]

This story is a whole lot educative and gives loads of hope thanks Val, Lynn and team for feeding us this amazing information, I'm just wondering aloud, how one would go about the issue of a dad not taking responsibility of the children after separation, would you beg him to take charge? And let's say he refuses," for those who tried ",how do you feel afterwards? Is it not more traumatizing, unlike if you take responsibility and provide what you can manage.......

[@stellamoraa8340]

Letting go of "bitterness" is a strong point to note in this life. I'll try my best to practice this cz am stack somewhere because of being bitter 😍

[@maryjohn4459]

my hope of being loved again is being renewed.Thank you God for this lady

[@nancyn175]

Parents play a crucial role when marriages don't work for their children. They are the cushion that their children can fall back to.

[@dianamutokoma4577]

This is what I needed to hear as a single mum. Am so encouraged ❤ This woman just sounds like she’s a good woman. Lynn may God keep blessing you for this encouraging show.

[@Partystreet_qa]

I am so inspired. God of second chance will locate me too. I can see it coming and I'm ready. LNN is the best show hands down

[@Claudia-hk6fv]

To be honest, these shows blesses me , especially since my siblings and I came from one of those broken homes and families, we were raised by a step mom, unfortunately back then therapy was not embraced like today , and this caused so much pain and scars that are being treated and cleaned even to this day , As a grown up when I hear stories like this I sometimes just cry , even thou we are all grown ups but I can say it wasn’t easy , and still is not easy to this day, my life story and stories like this is what helps me to stay focus in school and punish on my goal to become a counselor and therapist, thank you Lynn for making your channel a reminder of my mission, I have so much love and respect for you all the way from America

[@helenajames7743]

Hi Team LNN. You are a blessing all over the world. I watched every episode. What I love about this episode, is the respect that Val has for her ex. More than all after and during a Job experience God provided the love of her life. I could see the love in her eyes whenever Isaac’s name was mentioned. I have counseled couples and after introduction, I always say, ‘tell me about your childhood’ because a lot of the problems that causes divorce is the unknown/ unidentified trauma of childhood. Please seek counseling when you start dating. ‘Big up!’ Madam Lynn. You and your team are doing an awesome job: ministering to people in Kenya 🇰🇪 and around the world. May God continue to bless you.

[@dianamumbi2307]

Val is a whole vibe.. I would do anything to be her friend.. Such a lovely being.. I wish her Endless happiness 💓💓

[@anneanne893]

Lynn, thanks for the good work. Wish i could meet this woman. I am in a worst situation right now and listening to her makes sense to me. Great woman, great mentor. I am in the deepest stage of depression and need help. Kisses to this woman and my love to her. Writing from Cameroon.

[@NashJoy1]

Let me tag one of my friend who is a relationship quagmire she hasn't moved one from a big wedding to being divorced The marriage lasted for 5 months and they have separated.. She needs to hear this story

[@Maryblessedgirl]

Tag her. I was there, and now I am free and laughing... Only by God's grace.

[@claireninsiima73]

My story is a sister story to this, am a mother of 4 beautiful kids out of love, its like she's telling my story..wow..thank you Val Thank you Lynn, am always watching you from Uganda 🤗

[@julianyambura5147]

Wow...Victim mentality,childhood trauma... This is so me,it reached a point I started doubting my existence wondering how come everything I do I really have to struggle. I will now start focusing on me.I crave for peace,rest and more peace for the sake of my children and most importantly for my sake

[@victorianzembi9201]

I just like the way Lynn asks how are you 🤣 it can be normal to people but just know those words are so powerful to ask

[@dianaprincess617]

Guys it's the kids resemblance for me ...wow.... just wow... Isaac and Val's boy look alike completely .....see God's miracle.....Val+Isaac=Forever and ever. Much blessing to you guys 😍

[@joynyambura9715]

Lynn, this is your best conversation ever! This lady is just a breath of fresh air. Just what we needed to hear. Her story is really encouraging. Thank you Lynn

[@maggykk]

We should stop turning red flags into pink,if it's Red it's Red

[@susanwangui8223]

This video is very timely for me. I'm going through an almost similar situation and watching this helps me know there's a light at the end of the tunnel

[@sarahn8095]

Very good advice. Many women always ignore the red flags but God will always show the way. I like the way they said "the right package that was delivered at the wrong address"

[@MonalisaMusa]

This lady is a powerful, kind and wonderful mother and wife. However, the ex is a true narcist still playing the game by not acknowledging his son he does not even deserve a hello let alone a hug stop playing his little boys' game. I wish you all the best in all you do and your beautiful family.

[@marykafietrasha4532]

The caption/introduction itself give me hope that I should keep pressing ad moving even after he left me in the labour ward ad never come back to check on me. My time is coming God's time is the best.,

[@LynnNgugi]

Glad to hear this:) Please don’t give up

[@marykafietrasha4532]

@@LynnNgugi Thanx Lynn 🙏 😘

[@nairobi_girl5808]

She emphasized counselling so much. Kindly share contacts of psychologists, counsellors etc

[@happilydivorcedtherapistnosi]

That message to herself was directed to me💚💚💚It’s only a matter of time before I meet my Isaac.

[@achiejowiti4945]

Listening to you Val I could see some of me in you. I am making my exit plan because my son deserves better and I own up to the choises I made. I am seeking therapy because I am too broken handle it alone. You have given me hope. There is someone out there for me. But i need to work on me so I do not present him with the broken,bitter and miserable part of me.

[@abainelydia9456]

1.True love exists. 2.Don't go out looking for the right one, be the right. Much respect Lynn and may God continue to bless that family. She is so inspiring.

[@Deedor72]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@ibelieveinjesuschrist8911]

but she did not work on herself before he came.. she just was.. and he accepted her.. God will and can do anything with anyone

[@nyawirajuliah5504]

Your story is almost similar to mine...though I underwent alot of physical abuse...it's been close to 3yrs since our separation and all I can say is, to God be the Glory... I lived in alot of fear and pain. I am now waiting God to bless me with true love someday

[@carolynendinda3839]

Dr.Kihurani is so human and understanding.Wishing him and his family all the best and all Gods blessings

[@ken4722]

Story well told. Glad we get a picture of what went on. It's good to tell our stories so someone else going through the same thing can realize they can leave.

[@babusmusings]

This is a such a sober discussion of how God can transform pain into gain (love, peace, well-being etc) so long as we're willing to receive His help. Thank you Val for sharing your story and Lynn for hosting her. God bless y'all

[@shunemmukami7743]

Her story line is exactly like mine ..I ignored red flags till I walked away. I took time for me to forgive him but I choose to forgive for my peace of mind and because my kids needed their mothers love more. I have not lost my hope in getting married someday.

[@tutwochengtv6768]

If only you knew some of us your viewers do not understand the language being spoken apart from English and yet I love watching your interviews. Remind your interviewees to speak lesser of their language though I feel that they really want to express their story deeply makes it stronger in the language

[@emilymuthoni3529]

This is so good and educational @lynn..she is so beautiful, intelligent, humble. I have learnt alot. I recently walked away from the proposal of getting married this year bcz I feel that as much as I am old enough and the society is definitely asking questions, I do need to get counseling. Especially bcz most marriages of close friends plus relatives are struggling. It has really scared me. 🥺 Of course everyone's story is different. I still pray and hope for a healthy and successful marriage.🙏

[@annkamau995]

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[@davidmutiso2241]

This was such a nice story. The lady was clear, an excellent communicator. I would want to hear from the Man. Clearly the husband has set the bar very high. Big shout out to him. Such men never get heard, we always get to hear about dead beat fathers, or absentee or just men being highlighted in negative light....until this story. Now, I'm sure there's many others. But big S/O to this lady & most importantly, her husband. Oh and Lynn Big S/O to you as well.

[@MuncheezFlavaz]

Accountability!!! Some of y’all are not ready for this conversation. I admire this lady for an amazing testimony of her marriage before and after. We serve an awesome God!

[@sitshengisomabhena931]

Val you've shown these children,they will always respect you come teenage stage nothing will change because of the way you've brought these children up God bless you abundantly

[@charitywanjohi884]

“ Allow God To Work On You” Is what I Have Caught Val. Mine Quite Different. Married n True Love Exists.

[@janetwairagu4462]

Awwwww valentine . We went to school in C.U.E.A together and she was such a ray of light and such a believer in inclusivity . Valentine was a lover of everyone . Ever bubbly . Ever ever happy. So happy to see you have a happy ending .

[@carolyneonsando7117]

I truly needed this 💗💗 I really did Thank you Lynn

[@amputeeinfluencer]

She looked so familiar. Was in CUEA as well. Val, so eloquent.

[@consolataogola976]

Ohh wow...no wonder.CUEA alumni too...i was like...this face is not new.Inspiring Story😊