VLOG: thoughts on marriage & children at 29 years old, casual day at home

[@KJane]

Your relationship/life isn't a community project, it doesn't need to make sense or be approved by anyone else.

[@weylie_hoang]

I love this, thank you!

[@AnimeBeefRandoms]

Your eggs have an expiry date.

[@SG-mk4ni]

@@AnimeBeefRandoms thank god for egg freezing and options :)

[@khalea6525]

this!!!

[@daisynmama]

100% AGREE WITH THIS COMMENT!

[@bri_mendoza143]

Girl live your life you’re still young. When God blesses you with a bby and marriage then you will know it’s that time. Do you girl and live your wonderful life !!🫶🏻

[@usagimoon.x.o6256]

I'm the same age and no children yet either. so glad to hear your input!

[@Eva-ge7ct]

You are so young and have so much more time to have kids...enjoy your life girl!

[@eastxena]

I can relate to being a dog mom as I have dogs my self and sitting them too ❤

[@veniceblair]

I never wanted a family marriage kids or any responsibility stress worry for another person. BUT i found my soulmate (something i didnt believe on ever) til u find that person who understand u, the one u're so comfortable with, never get tired or bored of each other, I really never thought the person for me existed, I feel lucky now bcuz i'm aware not a lot of ppl in this lifetime find their soulmate. we live our best life with our dogs, a peaceful stress-free worry-free comfortable life. BUT ppl always every year bring up those questions about kids, I got tired of hearing it so much, but my husband is super respectful n will never do anything against my will like others have suggested "mistakes happen" to get me pregnant, BUT he always say "i cannot do that to her, she doesn't want kids" SO we will have 10yrs anniversary soon n i feel by now on our 30's we have to complete this task of having a kid i want to just get it done, get it over with n stop thinking about it every year, is annoying but is something we need to do before we get too old n cant turn back time. BY now it feels like is a task to complete bcuz i will never change my views of what i want, i said what i said n im not taking it back, i never wanted kids but we need an heir n i dont want to live with regrets when i get old, im capable n healthy to do it now n time goes by super fast we enjoy our time together n i wish i had another 20yrs to not have a kid,. but i cannot stop time n i just have to get this out of the way n move on with it. we have plans n our plans in life will not change drastically bcuz of a kid, i will make sure the kid also knows he has to be better ahead of the rest, dont follow the herd mentality. Many ppl like 80% of the population are not fit to have kids - not mentally emotionally physically financially - but they are the first one to have them. I know i seen it many times ppl struggling, the least educated they are the more pregnancies they have, those kids with unfit parents dont live their best possible lives, they dont get the best of the best bcuz these ppl dont have resources neither financially or stable partners, family nor anything to provide a perfect environment for this kid to grow n be a decent successful citizen. Those kids who spend more times at the babysitter or daycare than their own parents are not being educated or raised the proper way. BUT i say this fact to ppl n they start attacking me like if they dont see the root of the problem. PPL who live in denial will never see the truth until they want to see it, Most ppl live in a fake reality they created in their brain to make themselves feel better but ultimately u cant fake the truth forever. Is better not to have kids if u haven't found ur soulmate in this lifetime. Dont make the mistake the majority of ppl do, get pregnant with the first loser who crosses their path. Also stop populating the world with useless ppl who grow up to be losers n dont make any improvement with every next generation. That's the goal to improve the gene pool for the next generation, to improve the life for u n the next generation. If there's no improvements, no better life for the next generation then why have a kid, makes no sense NO LOGIC.

[@ilovejesus3659]

Does wah want kids and marriage?

[@cheeseebun]

not with her

[@khalea6525]

I think you're committed to more than you gave yourself credit for at @5:07 Ive been following along with you and journey for about 10 years now or even a little over (ever since you taught how to put on a tampon-- it was a monumental turning point in my life) so you've been like a big sis to me ever since- Ive learned at you age what means to own my own femininity through the ways you've shown up, taught, lead and embraced within yourself. Now I'm rn I feel like I wanna return favor 10 fold and just say girl you are committed!! - to your relationship with Wah - to the animals you nurture - you are committed to your health, - to this channel - your daily routine - Taking care of yourself, your home and this just from the outside looking in I've noticed that also committed to being a friend to people - I mean, you've been friends with some of the same people for how long now? girl you are L O Y A L, dependable, nurturing !! Not only to friends and to those you're in relationships with (platonic or romantic) but also to and within the relationship you have with yourself to living a genuine and true life. I noticed even, you lead from a place a love. thats a commitment to certain values you have. and yeah as people, we all have duality, strengths in one areas, challenges in another. All are valid and worthy. I think even if you are/have struggled to commit to certain aspects of life, give yourself the credit you deserve for doing a damn good job at committing in the other areas. Because truly, you're doing a great job even if it doesn't always feel like it It's important we big each other up and put respect on each others names, but its just as important to big ourselves up & be gentle with ourselves in the process-- something you've taught me. Thank you, Weylie. I am much more gentle and forgiving with myself because of your authentic and self compassionate way of exciting. I appreciate you Weylie and I am so grateful you exist. You've taught me a lot a lot ❤‍🔥🌱✨

[@jesseeec]

Generational trauma is a legit good reason not to want to bring any kids in the world

[@NannyDiaries23]

THIS!!!!

[@maryxiong1798]

Weylie, I relate to you so much. I’m 27 and have been with my boyfriend since we were both 14. I never really cared for marriage and kids either. Just wanna travel and be with our fur babies right now! 🫶🏻

[@CarolCao]

Omg we are exactly the same!! I’m also 27 and have been with my bf since 14 too! We’re also not married yet because we are still in school and enjoying life as it is. 🥰

[@kwindon55]

Omg me too my man and I been together almost a decade now never cared for marriage or kids I just want to travel the world and try and do new things. Settle down life not in the cards for me.

[@looseeemvoo]

Is it strange that we’re all 27 (26 but 27 at the end of this month) and have also been with my boyfriend since 14. Seeing this thread gives me reassurance that I’m not alone and our relationship isn’t “strange” like the people in my life have said urging us towards marriage. We love our life currently and plan for marriage we have no dates planned because we’re just trying to live in the moment.

[@ShuraKawaii]

I'm also 27, I've been with my bf for 6 years. I knew since I was 14 that I don't wanna have children! Over the past years I always had to defend my decision and I was met with "You'll change your opinion, you will see". Now we are looking into "terminal protection" since we just wanna spent time with our dog and enjoy our life to the fullest!

[@CarolCao]

@@looseeemvoo omg that is such a weird coincidence!! I love this space 🥹🫶

[@jeannelle_]

Love this. Whatever you think is best for you

[@weylie_hoang]

I feelssss you! I think most of the time it's harmless, but they just could not stop asking that question!

[@3ssential]

I totally agree with your view on the state of the world being a factor in deciding to whether have children. It is great that you are being aware and taking time to decide. Bringing a person into food scarce and over populated world when current country policies don't support it, finances maybe stretched thin, social media impacts on child development etc. Being able to have children and raise them in the state of the world is a privilege. I wished the norm was 'why do you want to have kid(s)?'

[@alisaspear3382]

Yes yes yes!

[@franthomas23]

This is so idiotic and childish, and quite frankly "privileged". It's privilege that grants you unlimited birth control. If you think the world you live in today is worse off then when your parents or grandparents procreated, you're kidding yourself. The world is not overpopulated, and "food scarce" (it may be scarce to the foods you like but it's not scarce).

[@grayonthewater]

We aren’t food scarce or overpopulated those are just myths by the way, you just have to research it. It’s fine she doesn’t want kids just cuz she doesn’t want them.

[@MamiYankeeMusic]

LMAO FOOD SCARCE LOL

[@la381]

Your last statement AND question is SOOOO IMPORTANT!

[@AliSakurai]

I don't know why people have to ask influencers if they ever want to get married or have kids. I'll admit, I do get curious but I keep that to myself because whatever an influencer I like does with their life, it's none of my business.

[@freshyx3]

I’ve been with my bf for over 10 years and I haven’t reached 30 y/o yet. It’s so exhausting having to explain to people, especially the older Asian parents, why I’m not married, have kids, work this kinda job, or living away from parents. I’m not interested following anyones timeline except my own!!! My parents came here to give me a better life and this is the way I want to live 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Emmiiii267]

If marriage is a thing you want it’s weird to see someone be in relationship for years not be married yet it’s telling about the people and relationship involved. That said i don’t think marriage is for everyone and not everyone wants it and that’s ok !!! Like that’s an option. But a man that stays with a woman for ten years with no marriage but does want marriage itself is definitely red flag

[@jaymarie_95]

It's weird because if you listened closely to the video she states their relationship may not look like the "traditional" relationship everybody expects. Tell me, what is it telling about a person in the relationship? And how is it a red flag? Because there are many cultures and even people today who been together decades before they decide to get married or end up not doing so due to timelines 🤷🏽‍♀️ this is exactly why I get Weylie is so tired of bringing up the marriage and children topic because it puts so much pressure from society and it becomes redundant. At the end of the day, it's their relationship not yours. People can change their views on marriage/children over time as she said per video as she's getting older she's becoming more open and tbh, with marriage and children comes with great deal of responsibility. Yes, It's not for everybody! So if she changes her mind again later down the line, don't be so surprised. Marriage is not their main priority right now I don't get how hard is that to understand.

[@cheeseebun]

EXACTLY

[@OpenToChangeNaturally]

I feel you except I'm 30 and single. Every conversation with my relatives involves asking me "do you have boyfriend? It's time to get married and have children." This traditional Chinese thinking used to really trigger me that I would argue back. Now I realized that their opinion doesn't matter and I don't need to engage, so I just say OK and keep repeating OK until they change the topic. I acknowledge I hear their thoughts (honestly I think they just want to feel like heir thoughts have value) but I don't care about what they think and they can't put a gun to my head to make me get married and have children. So yeah do you, live your life as you want girl. You 100% deserve it!!!

[@cheeseebun]

you are mad copinnngg. you used to comment on wanting be married a few years ago. he has wasted & will continue wasting your time for as long as you allow him to or until he moves on himself. it must be rough af to leave someone you've known since a tween but geez it often seems he is holding you back & its sad. nonetheless no one can force you to do anything as it is YOUR life. but take into consideration the comments pointing these things out. something to think about.

[@jaymarie_95]

Stop projecting your insecurities on when a person should get married. They both agree to it whether or not they want marriage. And if it's a dealbreaker in the end, so be it. I see you always commenting like you know everything that goes on in their relationship. Find a hobby

[@21stcenturymermaid34]

Wah is using her as a placeholder and shes tryna normalize it. Ever since she told us her doctor thought she had an std tht wah could of given her yrs ago plus his supposed work trips i dont trust him. The fact tht if not pushed wah will not even propose is ridiculous. And it sucks cause i really love weylie i been around since the tampon video days. We all been there sis.

[@cheeseebun]

FACTS

[@Lovetwister12345]

I'm 31 years old and still single and no kids. I'm still 50/50 if I want to get married and have kids. I just don't want to regret not having any as I get older but at the same time, I'm enjoying life right now. I just don't know if I'll ever think if it's the right time

[@weylie_hoang]

I recently had a conversation with some girlfriends about freezing my eggs. I'm also not 100% sure what I want to do, but also do not want regrets in the future. If that is a possibility, maybe you can check with your doctor if freezing your eggs could be an option? Good luck to you ❤

[@twoserene]

I’m 31, married with no kids. I didn’t even realize it was an option to not have kids because of how society pushed the idea. One thing that solidified my decision to not have kids is that I’d rather regret not having kids later on than regret having them. I love my life currently and i have nieces to spoil and cats to love on and cuddle 🥰

[@marielamartinez4545]

Bout to be 30 single no children and lol same pressure for Mexicans. Of being expired like whatever, just let me be 😂

[@CosmicUnicorn2]

gurrrll! you do you. i didn’t get married until i was 39 & my dogs are my children. just minimize exposure to people who keep asking. its no ones business. i am sorry to hear about Michi. Its hard watching our pets grow old & leaving us.

[@izzaweihaas]

I couldn’t agree with you more about marriage and kids…also I LOVED ‘Extraordinary Attorney Woo’ it’s such a feel good show!

[@rosemwende8982]

I LOVED 😍 that show too!!! It had me bawling each episode!

[@X0XjulietX0X]

Not saying you need to get married, but marriage does give you certain rights (for example, if your husband were to go into a coma, you would have first right to make medical decisions for him). A wedding isn’t necessary, but I do think if you are sure about your significant other, being married (on paper) offers very important benefits that many don’t realize until they end up in a sticky situation.

[@Wewhosee-im3ii]

People need to seriously stop asking these type of questions, this isn’t the 1940’s, nobody has to get married or have kids at certain age. Everyone has a different lifestyle, what works for you doesn’t mean will work for others. Weylie you do you girl, don’t let anybody else tell you otherwise! ♥️♥️♥️

[@pear92]

Idk why people always say the phrase “marriage and children” as if both have to exist if you have the former. I’m married, been so for 6.5 years now, and children are not part of it. They never will be. Marriage doesn’t HAVE to bring children. It’s just a piece of paper that gives you better legal and financial benefits with your partner. (Not saying you have to get married though. Lots of people are perfectly happy without tying the knot.) Also, if anyone ever asks us when we’re going to start a family, my answer is: “We became a family the day we got married. Not having kids doesn’t make us any less of a family.” We and our four cats are perfectly happy as we are.

[@lkive]

always love hearing your progressing thoughts about marriage & children. i’m in the same boat and it’s nice & helpful to hear someone who feels the same way about these topics

[@saharvarona]

I used to want that life.. married with kids.. but the limitations brought about by my father leaving, having no money for school, growing up in a third world, just migrating to a first world in my 30s… it’s like I’m just starting to experience how life can be all over again and i cannot imagine bringing a child into this world only to not give them a beautiful, comfortable life because I do not want them to have to go through what I did… and should i not be able to reach any of my goals because of a child (focus, priorities, finances), and then project my resentment or frustrations on to them will be unfair for them.

[@SamFournier]

I can completely connect with you on the children subject. I am 35 and still don’t want children and neither does my husband. My fur babies will forever be my children🐾🫶🏽

[@Kira-vz7eh]

Been with my bf for 15 years now. For most years I was helping my family out and finishing college, I’m 29 now as well and we are both now talking about marriage and babies now that we graduated from college, and my dad is getting the medical attention he needs.

[@AWJada12]

Girl you do you !!! Marriage ain't everything! You are happy that's the most important thing !

[@Smilessz925]

i know for a fact if you were to even meet that special someone, and he actually proposed you would say yes. wah is s good guy, but maybe he is holding you back on finding the love of your life. 10 years is a loong time. in spanish we call it “costumbre”.

[@ooooo3624]

Huh?? It’s perfectly normal to not want to get married right now, it doesn’t matter who the guy is. It’s a personal preference, and it seems that they’re happy enjoying life together right now.

[@Smilessz925]

@@ooooo3624 i never said it wasn’t normal. 10 years is a whole decade. they’re just used to each other’s company at this point.

[@sowanderlost]

Not only asian, as an african woman my family also put pressure on me to get married otherwise « my man would marry someone else ». It sucks that our peers don’t see the vision but we must continue to do what makes us happy. Rooting for you Weylie ❤️

[@crystalliu8322]

This is so relate!!! The past weekend we just celebrated our 7 years of dating anniversary. We are 24/25, high school sweethearts. We got those kind of questions a lot and up to the point we don’t even wanna explain that we just want to follow our time zone and finish what we considered as priorities first. can’t agree more with your thoughts!!

[@nininana972]

Currently 28, been with my partner for 7 years. I don’t really see kids in our future marriage anytime soon. My family keeps giving me talk about how stressed they are for new but meanwhile I’m happy and thriving living my life how *I* choose to. ☺️

[@dollface106]

I am 29 and I dont want to be a mom, I realized I would probably be a great mom but it is so much work. I also think about the school systems being defunded and the school shootings, having kids in america is another level of concern I think

[@user-np5ld5wk8j]

Happy anniversary weylie! Hope you get into a relationship that serves you because you deserve it. P.S. Please tell Wah to stop filming his face so close while eating. No one wants to see him (and his mouth) that close. Thank you.

[@dreamer626]

I relate so hard to the not being married by 30 stigma. I just turned 27 and my mom has already brought this up a couple of times and I get so stressed out and pressured by it. My mom is also the stubborn type. I am nowhere near ready and I mainly want to focus on my career for now.

[@laughaholic13]

I haven’t been really been keeping up with your vlogs for a while cuz of life and everything but I’ve always adored Michi and always felt like she is the best sweetest dog I’ve ever seen in my life and hearing about her illness is so heartbreaking. I really hope she gets better ❤️

[@NO-um6hc]

I’m a 30 year old asian woman who isn’t married and doesn’t have children. I totally understand not feeling ready especially with the state of the world. Getting married and having children is a huge commitment and it doesn’t matter how long you have been with Wah. You are not on anyone else’s timeline. The thought of having a child and also caring for all your pets is just so overwhelming to think about because each life deserves so much time and care and you seem like the type who wants to put 100% into every single baby!!! It’s STILL okay to do your own thing and it’s not at all toxic to be living how you want to as long as you aren’t hurting anyone. 🤗

[@dianemitchell1161]

To clarify before I comment on this topic, Weylie, I am an older woman, happily married with children. However, I cannot believe that anyone would have the audacity to ask another person , male or female, whether or not they are going to get married/have children, even if it is disguised as ‘what are your thoughts on marriage/having children.’ It is none of their business, ever! Live your life according to your own compass, Weylie. Simply love your blogs!

[@JYYB]

I thing we have to remember is 1, when people ask these questions they are looking out for you. 2, its a convo starter, and 3, its old fashioned mind thinking BUT we have to remember we dont all think the same so we cant not get offended because sometimes we do or ask the same thing without thinking really. I realize as i am 30 no one is like me i cant be picky when it comes to people's way of thinking or life. I have to understand thats how they are and i cant change that. I use to judge small things about people but i realize i too am being judged for being me. So i do my thing and i remind myself to NOT get offended when being asked a question. No ones perfect 👌 you live your life as you want and dont mind others opinions.

[@loislyons3724]

It's not problematic. I hate living up to other's expectations. I totally understand your wanting to move for your safety. It's so sad what is happening here in the US.

[@ashleighfriends840]

Weylieeeeee I used to watch you 10 years ago and I just thought of you the other day and rediscovered you!! So glad to see you doing well. You look fabulous 💓💓💓

[@portitta]

I relate to this so much. I've expressed to my family that I'm not really on the child path in my life, and my mom dismissed what I said and quote, "Oh you just haven't met the right man" Listen, live your life the best way that fits you and I adore how you stand up for yourself on what you want. Also Attorney Woo is one of the best K Dramas I've ever watched!

[@maiko2022000]

I know you wouldn’t like my comment.. but if you want to have a baby in the future, please see a doctor first to make sure you are capable. I am late 30s and try to conceive second baby. It’s really tough now.

[@weylie_hoang]

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this and I appreciate you for looking out! I've actually decided to look into freezing my eggs just in case. Sending you love! ❤

[@nay8446]

@@weylie_hoang thats great if you're considering freezing your eggs for when you're ready to conceive one day, at least there will be no regrets. TTC is a whole lot of mental game which most couples are not aware of and not everyone's lucky young or old, especially for women unfortunately

[@juliethelam]

tysm for this very relatable conversation about marriage and having children 😭 me and my bf have been together since 2011 (anniversary twins!) (I'm 25 he's 27 yes we were babies when we got together haha high school sweethearts) and every time we get hit with the "when are y'all getting married?" or even "are y'all getting married?" it just rubs me the wrong way every time and it's so frustrating! but I'm also slowly learning to let go and not care about these questions or remarks, and accept that it's not my responsibility to teach people that my relationship is none of their business ❤️

[@orangejmoothies]

it's interesting that you think that people still are pressuring women/asian women to get married because living in an asian country, it's normal for women to get married and have kids in their late 30's or not even have kids at all!! if anything, there's a huge birth rate crisis in some places like japan and south korea because people just dont have the time or energy to raise their children and the education costs are also ridiculous. i think times are changing! i think a lot of people around the world are consciously making the decision to not have children or even consider marriage~

[@JennyDawnPH]

I really agree that being an Asian we kinda have this "rule" created by however that we should settle down before 30. I even have this thought in mind before that I should be married once I turn 25 and now I'm 26 and still consider myself a child (childish?? haha) and can't imagine raising my own kids haha. I'm in a relationship for 5 yrs now, and currently hearing the "when are you going to have kids/ when are you getting married?". I still want to enjoy life and it should not be bounded by age.

[@WokOverEasy]

If he wanted to he would.

[@cheeseebun]

👏

[@ifreakinluvthis]

hey Weylie! If you are thinking about moving to HK, please dont do it. Its expensive, stressful and definetly not as glamorous as you imagined. I live here and I'd kill to live in LA.

[@dino9607]

That’s so crazy to here. Reminds me of Karen from Kareno move to HK bc she couldn’t bare to live in Cali anymore due to the stress and Asian hate. I hope she’s doing fine there and that things get better for you as well

[@Xtinaa0080]

You’re going to move to Asia??? Omg gurlll good for you but what made you want to do that? Do you have friends or family there?

[@101ruike]

Where in Asia are you going to move to??

[@nayeliolivas37]

Weylie I’m so proud of you and I admire your perspective on so much that’s hard to put into words as it is. I started watching you waaaaay back to them “ remember to lock your door” days w a close family member, who unfortunately passed in 2017. Seeing a snippet of your life reminds me how fast time flies, and really, how precious life is. Even though we are living in uncertain times, I admire your ability to pour your soul into what you have now. You’re strong, and Asia will be beautiful!! Ima really try to manifest meeting you before you leave lol🤞🏽

[@frang3001]

Very much can relate to this! I'm 30 now and I've been married for 8 years, and we don't have children and we are not sure if we will have either. We have decided to leave it for now and perhaps chat about it again in a few years. Times have changed sooo much and we don't need to have 2.5 kids by 25 anymore LOL. So refreshing to not feel alone in this though! xx

[@Every1ShouldSparkle]

Nothing wrong with not wanting kids or not wanting marriage etc. The reason women need to think about kids if and only if they may want one is that over 30 fertility is decreased and over 35 again it drops massively. Over 30 is classed biologically as an old Mum. Yes many people do have healthy pregnancies and babies but many do not. Getting pregnant, staying pregnant and risks to Mum and baby short and long term are much higher when you are older hence if you want kids don't wait too long.

[@indimist390]

Oh give me a break. Most people have kids over 30 nowadays

[@Every1ShouldSparkle]

@@indimist390 Biology is biology I am afraid. Risks to Mum and baby over 30 are higher and over 35 higher again. Yes people have kids bit getting pregnant and staying pregnant is harder and risks higher. They are facts

[@beebeebee12]

While I know the question about marriage and kids can seem annoying, I love each time you talk about it because I start feeling like my thoughts change on the topic too. In my hispanic household, the woman is supposed to cook and clean and bare children and while the man works, I have also fought this way of living. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years and I’m 23 and i’ve had that “you’re expiring” talk as well. There is a lot of pressure from his side of the family since he has cousins who are younger or the same age as of having children. Always do what’s best for you, because at the end of the day marriage and children is a HUGE responsibility that only YOU know how much you can handle.

[@saranguyen2788]

Are firm mattresses really better for your back? I’m 28 almost 29 and I’m asking for my back 😂😅

[@meimeimei2082]

hmmm not sure if its a good idea for ur dogs to travel(moving to asia?) in these old age, it’s dangerous 🥺 but u do u~

[@aznsouffle]

Hi Weylie!! I swear your videos are so timely and just the things I needed to hear :) the late 20s has been such a confusing and uncertain stage of life for me, it’s been so reassuring and comforting to hear your perspective on many similar things I’ve also started to wonder about. Appreciate you sm and keep being you 💕

[@britta2494]

Here to let you know you’re not alone and I read your message at the right time too.. Feeling reassured that others are on the same boat as me during this time of my life 🤍 wishing you clarity and all the best on your journey

[@2BOLD4U]

That typewriter keyboard looks so pretty.

[@LauralB.]

Weylie you are my favorite KZbinr! 😊 I've also been in a long relationship, for 10 years to my highschool sweetheart, and we are engaged but we are sooo not ready to get married or have kids lol so I feel you girl, this world is so bad nowadays that it is scary to raise a child. But also, we don't wan to be rushed either. But I TOTALLY agree with you, no rush into anything unless you are happy 😁👍❤️

[@therealmykag]

Just clicked in but I saw a post recently: “Pets are the new kids and Plants are the new pets” Lmaoooo the way I looked over at my problematic bougainvillea and my cat

[@WHOAyouguys]

I instantly cried when you cried. Thank you for being such a positive light even when you are going through a lot. Just remember to take time to yourself when you need to. Much love.

[@destinylove93]

Wah is wasting your time. You can find love again if you’re brave enough.

[@Bottlenosedolphin_]

For real

[@Smilessz925]

i think he grew up in a broken family, thats why.

[@mimomimo8685]

That's so true

[@entice444]

I absolutely agree with you on marriage/children. I’m 34 and have a son with my boyfriend of almost 19 years. No matter how much everyone wants us to get married, it’s literally not up to them. We’re happy the way things are. You would think they’d be happy as long as we are. Everyone has to prioritize they’re life based off their wants/needs, no one else’s.

[@Iwayu92]

Do you listen to Japanese songs? There is this song called Leo by Yuuri and it's about the life of a dog named Leo, sang from the dog's perspective. I cried my eyes out! You will too, especially if you're dogsitting Leo 🐶🤗🥰😭 But it's a very good song and will def revalue the existence of your furbabies ❤️

[@mssmith9227]

I totally understand I also am ok with not getting married or having children. The world is getting overpopulated with global warming becoming aneveryday issue. It's totally fine for some to not want to procreate.

[@kling8460]

Total nonsense that humans are causing global warming. Anti human agenda.

[@jessieperson]

I'm 29, and while I'm married, I'm not sure I want to have kids. My husband feels the same way. With the world as crazy as it is and me still processing generational trauma, I don't feel confident that I could give a child the life they deserve. And, also, I'm finally starting to take care of myself, and I don't think I could continue to do that in the same way if I had kids. Once you have kids, they are (rightfully) the priority.

[@ella62]

I‘m curious about your plans on asia… i‘ll pop a few questions in here but obviously feel free to answer as many or little as you want! 🥰 - why do you want to move to asia and what are your plans with the new house you just moved in etc - did you already choose where you would want to move and why there - how does it feel knowing to leave your friends and families - what about navi and sesame I guess that‘s it 🙊 hope you don’t feel bombarded now 🙊

[@84prettymoon]

my boyfriend and I are german (and we live in germany), he's 33 and I'm 37... I keep getting asked by my family when we're going to get married and when we're going to have kids! we will marry at some point, but we just don't want children and most ob them just can't understand that "you're missing something, children are so great etc."... children don't fit our way of life and we already have several children, our pet rats! we live our own lives and don't let ourselves be badmouthed just because others don't think it's right! extraordinary attorney woo is on my list... but my list is so long that I can't keep up with watching!

[@lousbruise]

why would anyone devote their life to raising another human being? something I never understood. I'd rather spend that time money and energy enjoying the finer things in life.

[@kenzielaing4112]

God I needed this. I am 29 and this new year hit me so hard about the fact that I am not married. I want to have kids but I need to be with the right person and the biological time bomb scares me a bit. I keep wondering how I made it this long without being lucky enough to have met someone I could spend a long term relationship with. I feel like a failure some times because of that since its something I want. It feels safe and secure but I was never really ready and just put my studies and work first. Now as I know my 30th is coming I am just stressed on making things work. My BF and I are long distance and have a ways to go before being together is feasible but I am hopeful things will work out and be okay.... which is better than my anxiety and depression over my 20's.

[@kenzielaing4112]

As an addition I wanna say even at this age I feel so young still. I always think that I have achieved much in my 20's but MAN I sometimes do not know how I will take care of a child let cause lets face it. I feel I cant take care of myself (Making meals, chores, Stress), So how will I do that for a family. I dont want to be old with young kids but I was never ready for kids. I only feel like I want to think about them more now. Plus seeing so many relationships fail and struggles with kids always made me feel both scared of what could happen but also blessed that I dont have to deal with certain problems. Its slowly coming together but its hard not to judge myself and be hard on myself.

[@danyettahartman2271]

I literally loved your response on the marriage/kids questions. At the end of the day someones opinion and choice on that should be theres and not pushed onto others around them. I also think its a lot of maturity to sit down and think about the pros and cons of having children and not just thinking "oh Im a women and im this age so I should just go ahead and do it." P. S. Please don't forget about your American followers when you move to Asia 😭

[@AutumnS264]

Can you talk more about family issues? I was just having a discussion with someone that there is so little representation of people without blessed family dynamics. Most people in the media are Like "thank god for my upbringing" etc which is absolutely wonderful, but what about about people who lack that. This is an even more dire need in the Asian community, where it's taboo to have any disagreement or negativity towards your elders/ family.

[@hobiwaterandrose]

Omg at 9:08 you said exactly what I’ve been saying! I made the decision a few years ago to not have kids because of this exact reason. Everything on the news, gun violence, racism, etc. . it’s just too much and I don’t wanna bring a child into this world with all that going on. And when I made the decision to not have kids, I had to really dig deep- having a huge responsibility and having to constantly worry about a child in this shitty world and how stressful that must be. I had to think that way unfortunately because if I were to have kids, that would be something I’d have to think about. That would be my reality. And it sucked to make that decision about not having kids because my whole life I wanted to be a mom but then life happened and it seems to be worse every day so I didn’t want to be selfish by bringing a child into this hell hole just because that’s what I always wanted so I chose to sacrifice my lifelong dream of wanting to be a mother. It was hard for a while but now I’m 28 and jeez do my family constantly remind me that it’s “getting too late” to have a baby 🙄 even though they know I’ve made up my mind. Lol I’m so sorry for my rant but just letting you know you’re not alone on this topic and also I love you and your videos always make me happy! ✨❤️💖

[@sienavelasco]

totally relate to not wanting to bring new life into this crazy world! At this time in my life (28) I just want to travel!

[@TheHeyMiki]

I have wondered this for you and wah for a long time but it’s obviously none of my business. What i wonder is do u ever thing about your “next chapter”? I feel like living in this stagnant stage of life forever would get bland and boring. But maybe not if you did it right. Not saying kids are the answer to making your life fulfilling, but when i think about my life i think about how i am going to grow and change next. What are those 30’s years going to look like for me? Hopefully not the same as my 20’s.

[@weylie_hoang]

Good question! For us, the next chapter feels like moving to a new country, experiencing a new culture together, possibly finding new careers in our 30s, just to name a few! I think life can feel stagnant at any age if you’re not looking forward to something new. That “new” thing can look different for everyone. For us, finding new hobbies and experiencing the world together feels like the right thing right now.

[@MTHorses]

@@weylie_hoang love that!

[@MaryroseMandarin]

In my opinion, the current state of affairs in the world should be an encouragement to have children (within marriage). Guiding them and nurturing them in the right way will allow them to be the light in a world of darkness. If we only left it to evil people to reproduce then that only makes matters worse. This sentiment that you express is clearly popular and I think mainly down to feminism which has destroyed the concept of family. Jordan Peterson has a lot of good points to say on this. Hopefully for many women who actively choose not to have kids there won’t be regret when they enter into retirement age or earlier…

[@ruth-ann9522]

Thankyou for sharing truth in a generation of lies.

[@cheeseebun]

👏

[@Cindeeshu]

I love your vlogs like this! it feels very personal :) Thank you for always being so open and vulnerable

[@rnrnrina]

Why do you always equate getting married to having kids? I don't get it 🤷‍♀️ Being legally acknowledged as partners you've been with for so long doesn't sound bad to me. Is marriage truly just a piece of paper to you?

[@Tramarind]

I am in the same boat about marriage and children with you. It’s not a priority for me, and it never was. I’m open to it if it presents itself to me but I am so content with my life as it is. :)

[@MomDateWithSashaJay]

I love your honesty with the marriage and kids topic. I have 2 kids and I had my first at 30. I’m 34 now and it’s true you’re never truly ready, you just get ready haha. I think if I was in the now with no kids I wouldn’t have kids either and it’s only cause of this crazy world. There is so much crime, gun violence, inflation. I think about their future all the time and it scares the heck out of me. Just do whatever is right in your heart. Nobody should be shaming you for the way you want to live your life.

[@StaceyQ22]

Jen Im, Sophia Chang & you make the same type of content… and your not married yet bc he didn’t ask you. Don’t even have to watch the video

[@jaymarie_95]

Lol if you've watched their previous q&a's they're both on the same page when it comes to marriage.

[@cheeseebun]

@@jaymarie_95 if you've watched for years it seems shes changed her mind over time bc of him not changing his mind

[@jaymarie_95]

@@cheeseebun People change their mind all the time over time. And I don't see it being a problem as long as both parties are on the same page about it. Sorry they don't got the same urge as everybody else that rush into marriage 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@jaymarie_95]

@@SK-ed1gs LOL everyone's timeline is different that's what I'm trying to say. Ofc she gonna be happy bec they both said they would eventually get married. Get that through your guys heads LOL. Stop projecting your insecurities on when a couple SHOULD get married. Have a nice day.

[@jaymarie_95]

@@SK-ed1gs you make no sense. Lol you haven't given any facts to back up your point. So that's invalid.

[@NicoleAllisson]

I’m 29 this year and about to give birth to my 2nd child in a few weeks. I still don’t think I’ll ever be truly ready. 😂 Nobody really is tbh. How does one person be ready for the unknown? If I didn’t have kids rn, I probably still wouldn’t be ready either. It’s a huge process and it really helps when other parts of ur life feels more settled. Also, u never have to explain the dynamics of ur relationship to anyone. ❤️

[@itsluciim6672]

Hey Weylie,I just want to say that your videos/vlogs always make me feel better. When I come home from work tired and disscouraged or just feel not good,your videos always make me feel better and comfortable! Hugs from Germany! ❤️

[@weylie_hoang]

Sending you a hug back! ❤

[@xxAlexixx88]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over 10 years as well, and still not married! Whatever floats your boat boo 😘

[@rthapa4871]

ohmygod that’s exactly my feeling about not having kids, i don’t know if i should bring a new life into this world, and i am 30 and am still unsure. i don’t think i’ll ever be ready for kids🥺

[@Porcelynnn]

If I could afford to, I would freeze my eggs! You just never know where your mindset will be in a decade or two.

[@bbittersweet]

Where’s your butterfly necklace from? And what breed is Navi? So cute 🤭

[@nemoneon]

Where in Asian are y’all moving to?

[@Calcifurr]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years. We love our furbabies and that’s all we really want at this moment. My dog also had a tumor and was given 6 months to only live. We spent so much on his surgery and am starting him on chemotherapy. He’s getting care from the best facility, UC Davis, but there’s only so much we can do. Having senior dogs is really difficult and heartbreaking. I hate that it’s apart of life, but I really hope Michi will be okay. You guys are such great dog parents. Spend as much time as you can with your furbabies. 💗

[@Spham99]

I think the best thing we can do is create the family space that we wanted with our children- like I grew up in a toxic family environment - my goal is to create the best loving family. The best way we can help is having kids and creating better and kinder human beings, creating a better generation for the future. The kind of world we want for our species.

[@marieflower8763]

My husband and I planned our son and it wasn’t until after he was born I started to really think about the kind of future he may have growing up. I love my son to death, I’d do anything for him, but I can’t help but think to myself if it was wrong to bring him in this world, to expose him to all the violence and injustices our country is experiencing. I totally get your view on it. If you aren’t ready to have children, don’t have them. You don’t need to explain yourself to people who keep asking because, frankly, it’s non of their business. Same with marriage, why can’t two people who love each other be together without being married, how is that bad? They are committed to one another and that’s all that should matter, I would think people would understand that. You do you, girl, I’m so glad I have been a long time subscriber of yours and seen you grow up to become who you are today!!

[@EmilyBeggs]

It must be very frustrating to always be asked about such a personal thing in your life, but I am very grateful that you chose to share your thoughts and life with us. I'm sure there are many people like you who have those same thoughts. The pressures of every single person living ONE certain way is crazy. I definitely have had the same thoughts on if I want to bring life into a world that is so dark and scary. Growing up, I always thought I wanted to be a mom and have a family, but that was before I learned about how the world really is. It's truly crazy and scary. However, I also thought about how I am adopted. I was abandoned at a police station in Nanning, China and adopted from mid 40-year-old American parents at 8 months. My two younger sisters are also adopted from other countries in Asia. Like every other human, I've experienced so many good and bad things in the world. But I do feel lucky and thankful to have the life I was given. I can't imagine what my life would be like if my parents had not adopted me. I know there are many different views on adoption, but from my perspective, my family truly feels like my family. I've known nothing else, and I'm so grateful for my life, despite this crazy world. I feel like often times, people go through many struggles with deciding on having kids, trying to have kids, etc. and I often wonder why adoption isn't talked about as often. Maybe the idea of giving a loving life to someone who is alone and needing a loving family - could be an option for people to think about as well ❤ I will always respect you, Weylie! You are so thoughtful and caring. I am always rooting for you and your happiness/fulfillment.

[@inmyhead22]

People should stop focusing on other women lives. If you are single why, if u are with a partner, marriage? If you are married- kids? Just let people live their life and stop pushing your narratives. Focus on your own life, your own growth and this would be rewarding. It’s not easy to take ownership of your own life, but stop pressuring others. 💙

[@showyou_hi]

Weylie, you always have helped me through so many confusing times in my life and I appreciate your content and voice so much~ I am a dog mom and dedicate a lot of my life to them so I appreciate the love and care that you show your fur babies

[@HappyDays-75]

I got married at 39. And decided not to have kids. I really wanted a child in my early 30s, but my desire for it changed as I was about to hit 40. So, your thoughts & desires can change.

[@jaymarie_95]

Can I ask what made you change your mind about it? Because I'm only 26 and contemplating marriage/children the same way Weylie views it.

[@UnbrandedLifestyle]

People are having kids at 40 these days lol. It's not everyone's cup of tea. And it's okay to have kids or to not have kids.

[@BaileyBlurbs]

I’m 29 and I’m in similar space in terms of how I feel about marriage/kids. I just want to fully enjoy my life with my 2 doggies before fully dedicating myself to that commitment. It’s really nice to see someone in a similar space. Love this content Weylie!

[@merryr3236]

She renting for free🤣😂😂❤️

[@espoir8131]

Thank you for sharing Weylie. We support you 200% and your words mean a lot to me as a female Asian American who is yet to be married. I want to have a family and at least 1 child one day, but for me personally, I need to be able to be stable enough in my life (e.g. emotionally, financially), so that I can give my future family a good quality of life.