Sacrificing Family on the Altar of Ministry? - Paul Washer

[@illbehonest]

How many times have we heard, "I had to sacrifice so much for my family to do God's will"? If you've ever said that, you really need to go before the Lord and repent because He's going to call you on the carpet. What you've done is accused Him. - Paul Washer

[@johndallas7770]

Amen, Brother Yun talks a lot about this in his book (The Heavenly Man), talking about how he put his ministry above his family and nearly lost them because of it. He repented and said it goes like this: God first. Family second. Ministry third.

[@edengardenlabs7773]

@@illbehonest mark 10:28

[@bunny_0288]

​@@johndallas7770 I view my family as the most important ministry God has given to me. These are the people He has entrusted into my care.

[@kalukiahbielesch1641]

A question.... are you saying that the discples were also narcistic ? Because they left EVERYTHING to go into ministry(Matthew 19:27) Jesus also said Anyone who comes to me but refuses to let go of father, mother, spouse, children, brothers, sisters-yes, even one's own self! -can't be my disciple.

[@1RalstonW]

Yes this is what Jesus says. I think it's worth taking into consideration since Christ is in fact our only authority. A soldier that is called into war Is required to make sacrifices. When God calls a man scripturally to follow the king of kings there maybe great sacrifices. I definitely hear what Washer is saying but passages such as the one you've quoted need to be considered as well. ​@@kalukiahbielesch1641

[@carolsmith9120]

My father was a pastor for nearly 60 years. He went to heaven 3 years ago at age 95. He was never in the limelight, wasn't trying to "build his ministry" or make a name for himself, and the churches he pastored were not mega churches. No associate pastors or staff. Those years (before cell phones and computers) were spent studying to prepare 2 sermons every Sunday and 1 on Wednesday, driving the bus, leading the choir, cleaning the church, regularly visiting the sick and shut-ins, counseling, marrying, burying, baptizing, endeavoring to grow the Kingdom and grow his parishioners in their faith by ministering grace and truth to the congregations he was called to shepherd, and coming alongside them with compassion and prayer and tangible help in their times of need and hurt and emergency, all hours of the day and night. He even typed the Sunday bulletin (on an actual typewriter!) and cranked off the copies on the mimeograph machine in our garage. To make ends meet, he worked as a substitute teacher for awhile and also pumped gas at a local station. So was my precious Pappy always available to us at home when we were growing up? No. Did he apologize to me for that as he neared the end of this journey? He did. Did I ever doubt for one moment of my 70 years that he loved us? No. And I can't wait to see him again!

[@tesstefera6334]

LET HE RESTS IN PEACE AND HE WILL BE RAISED IN HUGE GLORY WIT HIS LORD JESUS CHRIST

[@mjv07]

❤❤❤

[@brunnomenezes3448]

❤

[@eugenejoseph7076]

With all due respect, What kind of christians would let a pastor do everything, unless he wanted to control everything?

[@carolsmith9120]

​@@eugenejoseph7076 Hi Eugene. Dad also helped me with my homework and drove me to my piano lessons, attended our school functions, sporting events, etc. We ate supper together as a family every night around the kitchen table. And Pappy was always a cheerful playful funny patient person who loved the Lord Jesus with all his heart and life, and loved other people. So my point in commenting here was just to point out that a pastor can be fully dedicated to their calling and even put other people's needs first, and still have a family who loves and respects him and isn't resentful of him, a family who feels loved by him and not neglected by him. That's all I was saying. Thank you for not disrespecting my dad.

[@CrabMeatElite]

As a young pastor of a small church and with a family, I know how brutal it is for pride to settle in my heart and think, "Well, if I don't get this done, then ." And then I end up sacrificing my family on the altar when God never asked me to do that task in the first place. My "little church" (family) needs to take precedence; otherwise, how can I lead Christ's Bride? I'm learning quickly that fulfilling the expectations of others in the church will only feed my pride further and solidify a personality-driven church rather than a Spirit-led one. Some days are admittedly very hard.

[@RafaelGarcia-jb3me]

Pastors whine a lot and they have an easy job.

[@ramoth777]

​@@RafaelGarcia-jb3me Those who know what it is like to be a pastor would never say such a foolish thing.

[@anthonyturner5319]

Maybe not, the issue is the more load you carry the lazy ness of your "flock" Will increase. It ain’t nothing if everyone else is just turning up for some nice preaching.

[@RafaelGarcia-jb3me]

@@ramoth777 it’s not a hard job. A Preist is a hard job, a Nun or Sister is difficult but how is giving a motivational talk that you have all week to prepare for is not hard. Everything else they do they tack on themselves.

[@douglasfapp9816]

This can also be said about mother's too. My mom spend so much time with pioneer girls and teaching Bible study, that she forgot about me.

[@natg_37]

😥My mom fellowships with a congregation where the pastor teaches lies, prophecies using the name of the Lord in vain. A neo-pentecostal church. But the Lord has always been there 🥲🥹

[@hellofinney1]

My father too..

[@Thomas-yo7li]

She did not forget about you. She loved you enough to set an example for you of someone totally committed to Jesus Christ the Holy One of Israel. Go and do likewise. Obedience is a great work.

[@douglasfapp9816]

@Thomas-yo7li Did you listen to what Brother Paul Washer said?

[@JTR-]

Quote of the day: A super man/woman of God is someone who obeys God in whatever he has put in front of them. - Amen

[@laurao8099]

And none of us have done that 100% of the time

[@rbmelodyspring4818]

Balanced life is the key, not being so fanatic, only Islamic militants do that, not the true believer of Jesus Christ

[@ChildofGod315]

I keep faith even as I struggle as a single mother. Both of my sons are special needs children. They require so much from me yet I know I AM BLESSED to be their mother. Lord Jesus give me strength as I struggle providing the basic necessities like clothing and groceries. Lord Jesus please continue to carry me through this difficult time help me provide for my boys so I can hold my head up.💕

[@paulgunachander2607]

Ma'am, that's amazing ministry in the eyes of our Lord. Our Children don't belong to us, but the one who created them.

[@Scary_Sary]

Amen may Jesus bless your faithfulness and provide for you like He did Ruth and Naomi. He is with you every step. Jesus bless you.

[@jolaawokoya6668]

I'm not a parent, but as someone who's had to babysit kids with special needs and had a glimpse of how much sacrifice their parents make, i want to say: Know that your labour is not in vain. The Lord will uphold you and will remain your strong tower. The work is hard, but very honourable

[@Philippians2verse3-4]

Quotes & notes: "The will of God is perfect." "In order to fulfill the will of God in this area of my life, there is never a need for me to violate the will of God in this area of my life." "You still have a daughter of God to take care of. Don't neglect God's daughter or the children He gave you."

[@ruantristancarlinsky3851]

This is so so important and Countless ministers make this BIG MISTAKE!! In the end it just harbours resentment from your wife and children because DAD was never around when they needed him.

[@bunny_0288]

And I think it's even harder because they are then called selfish for not putting the church above themselves and for not being happy that their husband/father is doing such amazing work for God. This is why churches are supposed to have deacons and elders. Many hands make light work.

[@anthonyturner5319]

@@bunny_0288yeah the "church group "really needs needs a good admin person to organise all the biblical ideas that might be presented, so the people attending can feel they can be involved doing Gods work and have things to do in community with one another, not just sit thru a sermon and some nice music every week, then talk about sport, and the weather afterwards.. The preacher on Sunday is no more important than the guy or girl taking meals to the sick, or things to those in need.

[@erindaph7]

I love how true testimonies bring the Bible to life again and again and again. It's alive! Paul wanted so bad to do something great for Christ, but Christ said no, it's me who will do something great for you! Look at how he gently showed and continues to show Paul his idolatry! And then not to leave it there, to then cleanse the heart and soul .. Is he doing the same with me daily? Yes! It's an incredible life!

[@angelabrown4844]

Can also happen to caretakers in medicine. Empaths who over-care at work with nothing left for home.

[@lunchandlearn]

I can relate

[@Squirrel-2551]

I cannot believe the headline!😮 I came up with these EXACT words for my own fam, after seeing my own husband serve for 20 years in a church. It was the Lord who showed me this reality recently. The Biblical truth is, the right order is God, FAMILY, then everything else. Most ministers don't understand, nor are they willing to prioritize in this order. That is why our families suffer, and there are disasters taking place in more ways we can count. For the ministry, God can always find somebody else to fill in that gap, but for our families, we as parents are IT.

[@emf49]

Brilliant answer! Much needed in the church today.

[@AddioReid]

This is very sobering and rooted in truth.

[@StealThisRiff]

This is why we need to walk by the Spirit who will guide us based on the Bible. If we instead, walk by the soul ( emotion/ machismo/logic/ reputation/approval of people etc) , we will be doing " good" things which may not be what God wants of us. I'm an Indian who went to England. I left England to sit as a mission doctor in an Indian Village. While I'm happy to do what God wants, I know the reputation of my ' sacrifice ' is building up and God can call me away anytime..i pray i will be sensitive to the Spirit and not go by my emotion

[@arthurmagoola7808]

This is a very helpful exposition of being faithful in the little lesson to being faithful in the much. It is a principle that you can see all the way through the Bible.

[@CapoHJB]

“Do I really want to do the will of God, or do I want to build a ministry?”

[@faithijn8338]

Praise GOD! What an excellent WORD! We never have to violate the Word of GOD, to do the Will of GOD we are called to do to serve GOD. 🙏🏼🎯🙌🏼🔥

[@Amaberean]

@HeWhoIsHasSentMe What burr got under your saddle? Nobody brought up anything regarding the Lords Table. You just looking to air out some pet peeve? If thats the case, you just need to walk that out of here.

[@gablejr6]

We serve the Lord as a family and try to follow the Lord's plan and only go through doors that He opens, trusting he'll give us strength to do it. If we want to impact our children, I'm convinced we must follow Christ all the more and trust Him with the results.

[@Thomas-yo7li]

There is only one way to follow Jesus Christ the Holy One of Israel. Surrender to His will. Don't be afraid to seek God's face with all you are.

[@felixtorres6826]

Amazing brother Paul, God bless you!

[@rosalianaduva2148]

Ex husband has left us to "seek God and be happy"... and i warned him... but he didnt heed.. so iv released him over to God's wrath and judgment. So far, i see such a seared conscience and decieved/off revelations

[@thewordforlife1157]

So insightful. This is wisdom from the Lord.

[@annababcock3948]

This is so good and such sound wisdom.

[@trail4166]

WOW. So well said and clear! Thanks for posting.

[@nildameers3772]

The children of Billy Graham know this to well. They wrote books on how their father was always traveling and they were alone with their mom. It's sad back then they made it about the ministry over the family

[@aiamthuc4694]

I wish you lots of light and wisdom on your journey! 🕊🕊🕊

[@TexasManny]

You never sacrifice your family for ministry. Your wife and children are your first ministry. God is not interested in our sacrifice, he’s interested in our obedience!

[@Thomas-yo7li]

Our family is deep and wide including all believers. Ministry is non-stop for those who love Jesus Christ the Holy One of Israel with loving others.

[@BM5K007]

Wow this is pure gold, thank you Mr Washer

[@pislaruveaceslav3395]

Wow, such clear explanation! Thank God for you!

[@oophelia46]

How you treat your family is part of your witness. I know someone who led ministries, charities, gave millions for Christ is publically preaches the gospel, but his adult children won't speak to him. He cared more about what others thought of him than his own family. It's sad to watch.

[@rbmelodyspring4818]

Cannot agree MORE to this one.

[@vegana13]

i think it's a brainwashed person who cares only bout their kin and not about anyone else, it doesn't matter what kin think, it matters what the Maker thinks and what everybody in general think : they always want to pray for relatives, not for non relatives: they always adore their relatives, they can't adore anyone who ain't their relatives i think: they obsess over relatives but not over persons generally: i think this is sad and wrong, evil, immoral: only kin exist to them, no one else: so it's good when persons love others who ain't related to them and it's good when persons CARE bout others, who ain't their kin

[@oophelia46]

@@vegana13 You're talking about the other extreme

[@vegana13]

@@oophelia46 i think the other extreme is most persons, i think most persons could not care less about people, for they ain't their relative, they only care about relatives: very few persons on earth i think don't care about relatives

[@oophelia46]

@vegana13 you're very lucky to have that experience. Narcissists, including religious narcissists, care more about impressing strangers than caring about/for their own family.

[@gibi4828]

Thank you.

[@manichairdo9265]

My late husband was in ministry. Away 4 to 6 weeks at a time. When he was challenged about our family life, he got his diary and worked out that he was home 24/7 for as many weeks. Unlike the 9 to 5 workers plus extra hours for travel 5 or 6 days a week - where their children only saw them properly at the weekend. I hope you do have support when your husband is away and that he is fully aware of any concerns or stress you feel. These days, we have face-time, which must be a help. When my husband had his time with our 2 children, absolutely nobody got to interrupt that. Boy's night with our son. Lunch date with our daughter. That kinda thing. Our kids adored their dad until the day he went home to glory. Love and all of heaven's blessings to you and yours.

[@Thomas-yo7li]

Jesus Christ has you in a great ministry. Serve Jesus Christ in this ministry God has faithfully given you. Blessings are for servants. Be a light burning for Jesus Christ the Holy One of Israel and He will be your strength.

[@AndrewKennyBelfast]

If you are an evangelist and are not prepared to be a good husband and a good father you shouldn't get married.

[@goodolearkygal5746]

Is an evangelist a pastor?

[@AndrewKennyBelfast]

@@goodolearkygal5746 A pastor can be evangelistic and an evangelist can be pastoral. Paul was both, as was Jesus. The point I was making was that if a Christian minister gets married and has children he must strive to become a good husband and father. That is the Lord's command . Some ministers become ''eunuchs tor the kingdom' as the Lord describes them, in that they devote themselves to the ministry without the distractions or blessings of a married life. But if a minister gets married , everything changes. Paul Washer makes this point well.

[@goodolearkygal5746]

@AndrewKennyBelfast I understood your point, it was an actual question. Thank you for answering

[@paigew7]

@@goodolearkygal5746Biblically, an evangelist would probably be what we call a “missionary” today. Not a pastor. Even though a pastor should do the work of an evangelist, he is not an evangelist in name.

[@goodolearkygal5746]

@@paigew7 thank you. That makes sense. I appreciate the answer

[@manichairdo9265]

At the outset, my pastor refused to put his wife and his kids on the alter. Nor have them known as pastor's kids. He isn't a one man band. Our entire church plays a practical part in everything. We read the bible for ourselves, we can challenge anything he says, and we have the freedom to check the finances. He's only missed 3 meetings in 45 years. Except for holidays. We don't meet at Christmas so that we can be free over that week though we have get-togethers in our homes if we want to. ❤

[@thePULSE87]

Thai was so good.. good breakdown, yet could have went a lot longer in some areas.. I’m currently doing a study and teaching on my channel about the characteristics of a shepherd. So important

[@mac8179]

Here’s something to chew on. THE MODERN PASTORAL MODEL IS A LOT TO BLAME. If you have a church led my multiple bivocational elders, then you don’t have to worry as much about a senior pastor “being all things to all people”. Also, bivocational elders can model serving in the church and working. Basically, they can’t do everything so the church body needs to step up and serve.

[@roccofelder1551]

I'm falling God in my thoughts

[@morriswilburn9858]

Wise man.

[@kaymojil7669]

Thank you

[@jamesw6111]

John 6:40 - And this is the will of him that sent me, that every one which seeth the Son, and believeth on him, may have everlasting life: and I will raise him up at the last day.

[@benjaminhoffman3848]

Luke 18:29-30 says that those who leave wife, kids, parents for the sake of the Kingdom of God will be rewarded in this life and eternally.

[@joshuahalonen3056]

If they refuse to trust in Christ

[@marv1an]

That would mean family who are not part of the kingdom. It’s for those people who have to choose either Jesus or family.

[@marv1an]

And also those who can make a choice not to have a family. Why would there then be a command for a husband to love his wife like Christ loves the church if it was okay for a husband or a father to neglect family for ministry?

[@rachray83]

​@@marv1anExactly, Pilgrim in Pilgrims progress...and they get family back in the kingdom,

[@andreeaasofronie1027]

So, sooo true!!!

[@thehappythriver]

Noah had a good relationship with God, cared for his family and did what God, the father told him to do. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you.

[@familybuildingblocktv6114]

Your family is Gods Kingdom and not things as in belongings

[@WilliamOpferman]

I was raised catholic but wasn’t born again until I was 23 years old. That is when the words of the Bible came to life for me and I realized that not all that is taught from any pulpit; catholic or the many Protestant religions is the truth. I went to many different churches and all have seemed to latch onto some belief or interpretation of men rather than the Word of God. For a while I followed the “faith alone “ doctrine but that is a false teaching and causes confusion. God is not the author of confusion. I am 67 years old and every time I hear a preacher say “faith alone “ I know that he is a false teacher or a was deceived at the beginning and is so deceived that he has made himself unreachable. It is best to run from any preacher who believes in faith alone or even grace alone.

[@born2winx7]

It’s sad how many pastors there are that have become divorced because they can’t find the balance of family time.

[@debbie6896]

My dad is a pastor. He left us in 2002 to the US. Suppported us financially, saying he’s doing God’s work there. He never went home to us in the Philippines. 21 years later we met, he wasn’t happy with the situation I was in with my now husband. He didn’t come to my wedding and when I asked why, he said its against his principles, never even asked how it went. I got married, it was a mixed born again/catholic wedding in a catholic church. 2 yeears later, he still not responding to my messages. Sad

[@osheajoel]

Will pray for your Dad to be convicted and come home and love his son in law amen

[@joshlagrange3150]

That was helpful.

[@LuDerzon-mn2oy]

It's not about doing extraordinary things in the ministry. It's about being obedient. 💯

[@oompaloompadoompa-de-doo3614]

This verse comes to mind if you replace “money” with “time” since they’re both valuable resources and “father and mother” with “wife and children” or just “family:” 3 But he answered and said unto them, Why do ye also transgress the commandment of God by your tradition? 4 For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death. 5 But ye say, Whosoever shall say to his father or his mother, It is a gift, by whatsoever thou mightest be profited by me; 6 And honour not his father or his mother, he shall be free. Thus have ye made the commandment of God of none effect by your tradition. (It’s talking about giving money to the church instead of to your own family which is in need. In the same way, a man’s wife and children is in great need of his time and his money).

[@CounterIntelligence-em7vy]

Great timing considering recent Steven Lawson scandal! He traveled much, alone, like Ravi. Sacrificing family !!

[@pantygwydrbaptistchurch5206]

Sacrificing true faith on the altar of reformed theology

[@Sunburst6520]

Matthew 25: 1-13 Then shall the kingdom of heaven be likened unto ten virgins, which took their lamps, and went forth to meet the bridegroom. 2 And five of them were wise, and five were foolish. 3 They that were foolish took their lamps, and took no oil with them: 4 But the wise took oil in their vessels with their lamps. 5 While the bridegroom tarried, they all slumbered and slept. 6 And at midnight there was a cry made, Behold, the bridegroom cometh; go ye out to meet him. 7 Then all those virgins arose, and trimmed their lamps. 8 And the foolish said unto the wise, Give us of your oil; for our lamps are gone out. 9 But the wise answered, saying, Not so; lest there be not enough for us and you: but go ye rather to them that sell, and buy for yourselves. 10 And while they went to buy, the bridegroom came; and they that were ready went in with him to the marriage: and the door was shut. 11 Afterward came also the other virgins, saying, Lord, Lord, open to us. 12 But he answered and said, Verily I say unto you, I know you not. 13 Watch therefore, for ye know neither the day nor the hour wherein the Son of man cometh.

[@tkdky]

Matthew 19:29 (KJV) 29 And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life.

[@musimod3610]

What about Jesus says : Matthew 10:37-39 New International Version (NIV) “Anyone who loves their father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves their son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Whoever does not take up their cross and follow me is not worthy of me.

[@austinemajella6673]

The problem is, many families ruin their peace because of fake pastors. God alone is true. It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence on a man.

[@rosahacketts1668]

Bottom line is this: Paul the apostle said it is better not to marry as you will invested to the family with its concern. I just think if you decide to marry it would be better to wait for them to grow up so the burden wouldn't be so heavy.

[@taylorharbin3948]

I heard one of Billy Graham’s daughters had real problems because of this very thing.

[@nildameers3772]

She wrote a book on it and Franklin had drinking problems rooted in his missing father

[@turningwrenchesautorepairm5017]

Remeber what the prophet Samuel said to King Saul. 1 Samuel 15:22

[@mimmydino7247]

obedience not sacrifice?

[@nitin3869]

Please Pray for my marriage restoration please

[@teedoubleu9602]

I prayed for you and your spouse now.

[@OBelvoir]

This is somewhat unrelated but still on the subject of family. Anyone's advice would be great. I do not know what to do. My father is telling me to study something that I do not like. I have asked him if I could at least double-major, he says no I should focus on my career. He wants me to have a stable career, which I understand. I am torn because I have suffered breakdowns, feeling I am heading towards a career I dislike. I do not know where I should go in life. The Bible says "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right." (Ep. 6:1) and to Honor your father and mother (5th Commandment)... I do not want to disobey God, and I am struggling... I don't know what I should do. My mother tells me to double-major and do what I want to do. What is the biblical response to all this? Thank you for listening.

[@sarahhayashi1567]

The Bible calls us to always honor our parents, but only children need to obey their parents. Children become adults in scripture at age 20. This is when men first served in the temple, the army, and were counted in the census. Daughters are different in that they remain under their fathers authority until marriage.

[@Pamsouthdakota]

Perhaps you can work at that career he wants for 20 years or...years and then pivot toward your career ? Just giving another idea...my dad suggested I be a nurse, but I went for teaching...he wasn't against that choice though. But Life events..good ones ...I am now a factory worker...Not unhappy there. I'm 53. Get other godly peoples advice who know both you and your dad I pray wisdom for you

[@jamesprice6381]

Matt. 19:29. And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life. AMAZING.

[@alexdavid6105]

God bless brother.. Message from KERALA (INDIA). " THE MINISTRY OF NOAH" ****************************** All Glory and Honour to our Lord and our master alone. Hallelujah

[@nathanaelaldred8885]

2:50 - Jordan Peterson coming out

[@ro2789]

This is so important. Please can I repost this on my channel?

[@stevieb5058]

For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;(Romans 3:23) Jesus Christ the Son of God, God manifest in the flesh(John 1:14; 1Timothy 3:16) died for our sins, shed His precious blood for the remission of sin, was buried and rose again the third day.(1 Corinthians 15:3-4; Hebrews 9:22) By believing on Christ Jesus, you receive eternal life.(John 6:47; Romans 6:23) Salvation cannot be earned/merited, it is a free gift of God’s grace received by faith in Jesus Christ alone.(Ephesians 2:8-9; Titus 3:5; Romans 4:5, 3:24; Revelation 22:17)

[@TerryChambers7]

Jesus demands forsaking of family to put kingdom first. Sacrifice of family to do religious activities is not good. The whole family should work together in the kingdom. The real problem is the clergy laity system, too few doing kingdom work, spectators.

[@jsfoyer5769]

Your family is supposed to be an actual part of the Kingdom. So serving your family in God’s way is serving the putpose of the Kingdom.

[@TerryChambers7]

@@jsfoyer5769 any redeemed members of your family are part of the kingdom. Many people have replaced actual kingdom priorities with family. Family cults have taught family importance, but the gospels and Christs words are opposite of this. 5 seconds after you die, earthly family for you ceases to exist, you will only have Christ, or you will not. Setting correct priorities is very hard. Family hinders the calling of many saints.

[@elizabethaguilar4281]

Wow

[@MichaelLirette-rx5rs]

How do we find this whole video?

[@musimod3610]

Jesus does not have the same idea as Paul Washer::: “Everyone who has left houses, brothers, sisters, father, mother, children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times more, and he will obtain eternal life. But many who are first will be last, and many who are last will be first.” Mat 19.29

[@charlespetchu8412]

I don't think that we agree on this. Life in the flesh is one type of life. Life in the spirit another. No matter how hard you take care of your earthly family, you cannot guarantee that they're going to get saved. Do yourself a favour. Do what Jésus did. He wasn't cracking a joke when he said in Matthew 12:48-50. His family will always be those that do the will of God. Do not try to modify that définition. Your earthly family will always stand against your spiritual family. Jesus said "a man's foe shall be those of his household". Why, because even big pastors think that they can put their Earthly family way ahead. They're just being carnal with reason. Does it mean you have to ignore that family. Not so. You have to cause them to see the greater picture and to follow you with that in mind...

[@akaJackLugar]

The maniacal pastor/ missionary who sacrifices his family for evangelism is a fairly modern phenomenon and dispensationalism certainly contributed to the problem.

[@StarAccount-km1rt]

The Fathers teaches everyone that God exists. Through the creation! Not one will have the excuse that they do not see God exists, being understood from observing the Creation Romans1: 20 For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities-his eternal power and divine nature-have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse. The Father is not the saviour, that is the role of the Son, The Messiah, The Lord Jesus, The Christ! Those that then desire God , they are taught by the Father as this verse shows: and the Father sends them that believe that God exists to the Son. It is written in the Prophets: ‘They will all be taught by God.’ Everyone who has heard the Father and learned from him comes to me. John 6:45 So when Jesus said that: “No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws them, and I will raise them up at the last day. John 6:44 It is simple saying that the Father makes all men aware that God exists and sends those who respond to the Father to Jesus. The will of the Father is in verse 40 For my Father’s will is that everyone who looks to the Son and believes in him shall have eternal life, and I will raise them up at the last day.” BUT! not all men will respond even though they have no excuse. They know God exists but they made their choice. For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22 Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools Romans 1:21-22 Paul verifies this to Timothy: This is good, and pleases God our Savior, 4 who wants all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth. 5 For there is one God and one mediator between God and mankind, the man Christ Jesus, 6 who gave himself as a ransom for all people. 1 Timothy 2 : 3-6 The Holy Spirit comes into play in a special personal way only once a person whom the Father sends to the Son for salvation is born again. Those who willingly desire to be right with God. Those who Repent and are Baptized. The Holy spirit indwells the Christian as counsellor and guide. John 14:26 But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you. (Such as deformed 5-point Calvinism.) JESUS John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life Truth in love

[@Drspeiser]

None of this is really a problem, though is it? Because God meticulously determines everything that happens and there's no such thing as free will, RIGHT??

[@vegana13]

todos los días , ayunen , oren : oren lo mismo para las 2 gallinas que estay guardando : oren ray ( perro ) : oren mis seis animalitos no sufran, no fallezcan , no se enfermen por b ni cualquier motivo : oren mis seis animalitos no se vuelvan minusvalidos : oren mis seis animalitos puedan caminar : oren mis 4 gallinas, 2 perros , no tengan paralisis I oren no quemen viva a jennifer : oren el Hacedor sane kylie, orejas, no orinar , rompe vejiga , dolor de piernas, dificultades para caminar y respirar : oren el Hacedor sane de cancer a mis animalitos ( no sé cual va a tener cancer ) o futuros animalitos : oren Dios sane de parálisis mis 4 gallinas o perros I oren : jennifer, brittany, , kylie , brian, chelbey , brianna , ray : 4 gallina , 3 perros : oren Dios dé paz a mis animalitos , los bendiga : oren Dios mande legiones de ángeles para que protejan a cada uno de mis animalitos ; oren milagros para mis animalitos ; oren Dios proteja del mal, peligro, accidentes, problemas de salud , a mis animalitos : oren Dios tenga misericordia de mis animalitos , los sane : oren Dios de excelente salud a mis animalitos , cancele toda b que han hecho sobre mis animalitos : oren Dios de dicha , larga vida a mis animalitos : 15 octubre : !!!! les queda una semana de vida !!!?? r ha dicho 6 dias : NO, !!!! quién o quiénes ? jennifer , brianna, chlelby , brittany ? perro , gallinas o ambos ???!!!! oren Dios cancele todo esto y vivan todos mis perro y gallinas !!!!! oren contra el o los b que quieren hacerle algo a kylie, brianna, brittany, chelby y jennifer ( perro y gallinas ) : oren Dios me castigue a mi , no a mis animalitos !!!!! oren que yo salve a mis animales de la ira de Dios !! oren que Jesus salve mis animales de la ira de Dios !!! oren que yo haga lo que Dios quiera para que Dios no castigue a mis animales y cancele los TERRIBLES CASTIGOS para mis animales !!! oren que yo no haga nada malo, nada pecaminoso, nada terrible, nada blasfema , para que Dios no haga morir a mis animales ( gallinas, perro y futuro cachorro ) !!!!!! oren yo no peque para que Dios no haga fallecer a mis animales !! oren que yo no haga abominaciones para que no enfermen y mueran mis animales !!!!! peco tan grave y tanto creo, que si adopto un animal, no duraria ni un mes, ni una semana ! animales que deberian vivir 4 a 15 años !!! ayudenme !!! quiero adoptar animales pero no para que vivan unos dias, sino una década !!!!! creo que r habian dicho octubre y otoño : mueren todos en octubre , en el otoño ?? NO !!!!!! 23 octubre : raul fallecio : era catolico creo : espero que no esté en la gehena infierno : gracias por haber orado por él : oren gato, lo arrojaron del 4rto piso, su badomen esta mal, su pata delantera derecha esta rota, le van a a hacer operacion vital : oren el Hacedor sane este gato, haga milagro por este gato y oren viva este gato : oren echen a prision los que arrojaron al gato : oren salvacion : todos los que trabajan por BD y su creador : sergio, teddy, ann, bec, iwoma, ali, april, sandra, carlton : zineb, series , helene : patricia : solange : oren s b cesen de torturar y asesinar animales, gatos, perros, y humanos, para halloween en el mundo entero : oren cada perro, pajaro, pato y humano que vi hoy : un perro lulu , un perrito blanco chiquito, ect : oren todos los sin hogares que vi antes de ayer : diana : otra diana : roger : ricardo : jaimito : luis, brie, jamie, shawn : dan , eli, tim : oren que dejen vender peces para torturarlos en tienda decatlon de montargis : oren salvacion cada quién trabaje en esta tienda y oren salvacion cada cliente de esta tienda : oren salvacion todos los que trabajaron en novela si Dios me quita la vida : oren todas las cabras en foto : oren salvacion todos los de esa asociacion que defienden a los animales : oren salvacion todos los de igualdad animal, y de animal equality : oren cada animal que todos ellos salvan : oren salvacion italia : 24 octubre : oren salvacion irina, caroline, lorraine , lisa, grasiela ( veganas creo ) : real ( todos los de ) : oren todos cuervos, urracas, pajaros, perros que vi hoy : oren salvacion cada hombre que vi hoy : belle : todos los que trabajen por compléments : todos los que trabajen por boho : oren cada cerdo del mundo : oren cesen de comer cerdos : oren cesen torturar, esclavizar, hacer sufrir cerdos en todo el mundo : oren sean veganos o vegetarianos por piedad por los cerdos : 22 octubre : oren salvacion : pili : rita : wayna, elodie : oren jaime dolores horribles de espalda : oren patty, problemas de salud, diabetis : elodie : magaly : marcy : oren salvacion todos los que vi hoy : todos los sin techos de bussy : el hombre que nos saludo : oren todos perros que vi hoy : samoyedo, dos perritos blancos, ect : enfermito que dibuja con su caca : todos los que conoci en el internado ( alumnas, monjas ) : todos los de alcaldia de bussy : alcalde de bussy : tanguy : julien 21 octubre : oren salvacion : isabelle : oren dejen masacrar, hervir vivos perros y gatos, torturar gatos y perros en china y en yulin : oren salvacion : kim, na, luis, vegan, messy, jodie : lucia y sus dos perritos : oren cesen vender trampas con goma en el entrepôt de bricolage de la isla d’abeau : oren cesen vender trampas de goma crueles en todo este mundo : asi sufren, mueren, agonizan, animalitos : 19 octubre : oren todos los animales de granja samma y todos los que se ocupan de esos animalitos 13 octubre : oren mi futuro cachorro viva una vida larga, en buena salud , pueda caminar , no se vuelva invalido : 3 septiembre 2024 : d dijo carracsco : un s haciendo b sobre … ? oren carrasco NO haga b sobre mis 5 animalitos !!!! DEJEN de escuchar mis pensamientos !!! SE LO SUPLICO !!! NO oren por mi NUNCA : si oran por mi, SUFRO demasiado 5 julio : carrasco : s b a punto de hacer b sobre ya saben quiénes ? oren carrasco no enferme, no asesine a ya saben quiénes con b : quique va ha hacer b sobre ya saben quiénes ? oren quique NO asesine , NO enferme con b , s , a ya saben quiénes !!!! pobres brittany, brianna, chelby, jennifer , kylie ! oren quique CESE hacer b sobre animalitos y hombres : si tortura y asesina a s animalitos y hombres cruelmente, oren CESE de hacerlo !!!!! r no dejan decir : murió , todos murieron I cerca a 23 octubre 2024 chelby ? cerca 27 de octubre , jennifer ? cerca 26 octubre brittany ? el 25 octubre brianna ? cerca 24 octubre kylie ? todos … antes 31 octubre ?

[@musimod3610]

Paul Washer has repeated in several sermons and teachings that he would kill for his daughter! Is this really a teaching of Christ? If he speaks in his own name I understand but if he speaks in the name of God and he should never say these things! I have known people who lost their children to murder and they had the grace of God to forgive! As Mr. Washer has said to several it is that he would do it! He has a flaw in his teaching and he has perpetuated it

[@eagle7757]

Salvation If you believe that Jesus is the Christ (Messiah), The Son of God, and that He gives you eternal life simply for believing in Him, you have eternal life (John 20:31; 1 John 5:1, 10-11).

[@lorrancelewis7120]

I used to be a fan of Paul Washer but there is no picture in scripture of salvation being a lifelong angst ridden meditation of one's own sinfulness . He's always so filled with angst

[@oompaloompadoompa-de-doo3614]

I agree. Christianity should bring joy and freedom, and this guy always seems absolutely miserable. And I do think it’s fair to criticize Christian teachers that are in the public eye because so many people are following them. Being discerning shouldn’t be thrown out in favor of “not causing division.” The more famous a Christian teacher is, the more careful we should be as a body about discerning the teaching and fruit.

[@20fsj-63shoker]

I get the point you are making, but the Bible is full of many different characters. Abraham and Isaac are rich, but Lazarus and Epaphroditus are stricken. Sarah is a laugher, but Jeremiah a weeping prophet. There is joy in the Lord, but others have burdens that not everyone carries. We are all blessed and assigned differently by the Lord, so, “Only, as the Lord hath distributed to each man, as God hath called each, so let him walk.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭17‬

[@lorrancelewis7120]

@@20fsj-63shoker nothing in the new Testament shows we are supposed to be in a constant meditation of our sinfulness.

[@20fsj-63shoker]

⁠@@lorrancelewis7120 I don’t know what’s your definition of the phrase “meditation of our sinfulness”, which you are applying to Paul Washer, so I don’t know if my answer will be satisfactory. But in the New Testament, Paul wrote to the Corinthians confronting them on sin, and praised their “godly sorrow that brought them to repentance” He also told them to “try your own selves, whether ye are in the faith; prove your own selves.” (‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭13‬:‭5‬) And to the Philippians, “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling”. I was addressing more the accusation of him being “constantly in angst”, which I think there is a principle for it in the Bible.

[@FoodFreedomUSA]

This is why Priests are Not married… so they can dedicate their FULL attention and time to the Church and their flock!! ✝️

[@cactusblob1688]

Sacrifice family for God and you just got divorced and raised Andy Stanley. YIKES!

[@jsfoyer5769]

Nobody can’t sacrifice family for God because God is for the family. People sacrifice their family on yhe altar of their own fufillment, while thinking they are serving God. The Bible teaches that is anyone neglzct his household, he/she is worst than an unveliever.

[@lontongstroong]

The same with the Osteens. Osteen Sr. married way too early (I think he was something like 19 years old), preoccupied too much in ministry works with that immaturity which paved the way for the divorce and raising a generation of apostasy.

[@eldiablort1461]

As usual….it’s a condition of the heart. If you were following the will of God, as He was directing you in your life….and you were meant to be devoted to ministry, you’d never have been married or had kids in the first place. There’s also seasons…..so yeah.

[@reganoryan2292]

His going to call you on the carpet??

[@house_church]

The stand alone pastor is a clever fabrication. Churches are to be overseen by pastorS. Also known as elders.

[@edengardenlabs7773]

Mark 10:28 says the opposite of what he just said so believe him or the Bible

[@edengardenlabs7773]

28 Then Peter began to say unto him, Lo, we have left all, and have followed thee. 29 And Jesus answered and said, Verily I say unto you, There is no man that hath left house, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my sake, and the gospel's, 30 But he shall receive an hundredfold now in this time, houses, and brethren, and sisters, and mothers, and children, and lands, with persecutions; and in the world to come eternal life.

[@annmarie2964]

Amen, thanks for using scripture over feelings. I think people use their families as an excuse.

[@oompaloompadoompa-de-doo3614]

Meh. Kind of out of context since it’s talking about men that actually lived physically with Jesus on earth and was commanded audibly in person to leave their families and follow Him for a specific purpose. This verse also comes to mind if you replace “money” with “time” since they’re both valuable resources and “father and mother” with “wife and children” or just “family:” 3 But he answered and said unto them, Why do ye also transgress the commandment of God by your tradition? 4 For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death. 5 But ye say, Whosoever shall say to his father or his mother, It is a gift, by whatsoever thou mightest be profited by me; 6 And honour not his father or his mother, he shall be free. Thus have ye made the commandment of God of none effect by your tradition. (It’s talking about giving money to the church instead of to your own family which is in need. In the same way, a man’s wife and children is in great need of his time and his money).

[@edengardenlabs7773]

@@oompaloompadoompa-de-doo3614 meh? Lol so my verse I quoted doesn't apply to me but yours does Lol none of us were with Jesus buddy and the Bible still applies to us none of us crossed the red sea but that applies to us so let me use your own silly arrogant argument against ya SORRY THOSE VERSES YOU QOUTED DONT APPLY TO US NOW

[@edengardenlabs7773]

@@oompaloompadoompa-de-doo3614 best way to win a biblical argument is tell the other side their versus don't count a tale as old as time lol

[@acanadianislandgirl1187]

So I was waiting to see what Paul washer would say about these verses? But he did not.... Unless there is a part 2?

[@csmusix]

Thank you a very important message. I would suggest the wife commandments were not dead to you because you were commanded to get a wife.

[@istandinawe6319]

Testimony: I’ll t try to keep it short- I remember being a part of a small church. I was a single mom set on fire for God and the Pastor saw this. I started in the Praise and worship ministry, then asked to do children’s church, part of a young women’s sisterhood and soon asked to start and oversee a children’s choir (but “seasonal”). BTW: I lived an hour away from the church and enjoyed doing these activities. I brought my girls along and had them involved in these things too hoping that I was “guiding them in the way ….so they won’t depart.” I whole heartedly believed this. I was wearing all of these hats and started to prepare and gather children and parents on board for the youth choir. I was so excited.🤗 2 weeks in, I developed a cold like sore throat but there was no mucus. I never experienced anything like that. The Pastor and wife saw this and panicked. A week before we were to sing, my throat was getting worse to the point that I couldn’t talk. He was so afraid of me talking that texting was his preferred way of checking in daily. The day came to sing. My throat was only 20% well but the kids was pretty much ok to sing. I prayed as I drove there. My throat seemed to get better as I drove but still not 100%. It was a small church which kinda was like family so I thought that they would understand if I sounded off. After all, I would only lead the kids but they sang the majority of the way. Once it was time to sing, my voice was at 100%😮. It was a good service. Strangely enough, my voice went back sore as I drove home. What pressed on my spirit on the way home was that I was doing too much. I was involved in too much. And God didn’t need all that. During my sickness, I played with my daughters. They were 7/8 and made me tea. They loved to see me home. I enjoyed that time. God spoke to me through scriptures and one of Paul Washer sermons supporting what God was showing me. I realized that although I was on fire for God, 2 things were happening: 1. I should never let someone to overload me 2. My first ministry are my children

[@aleguitarra]

Its all wrong... washer is just a false teacher... open your eyes!

[@MarshaJO]

Ian go with daddy? Daddy stay with ian? Most "Cats in the cradle" thing I ever heard.

[@LaymensLameMan]

Almost confused washer for Lawson again lol

[@Amaberean]

I don’t know Mr. Washer, so I could be way off-base here. I’ve listened to his sermons and watched his sermons, for years and years. And one of the biggest impression that I get from Mr. Washer is: (and I could be completely Wrong) He strikes me as the most UNHAPPY christian I’ve ever seen. He is simply not one of the people that I would think of when I hear the words “joyful Christian”. And believe me, I hope I’m mistaken, but I just find him depressing.

[@tesstefera6334]

HE CARES ABOUT CHRISTIANS ....AND OUR WORLDLY WAYS...

[@austinwickline550]

I know Paul personally and am close with him. He has much joy for the lord! But he has a lot of heath problems and a huge burden for the unsaved so it can come off as depression but it’s he’s demeanor

[@Amaberean]

@@austinwickline550 I hope he has “joy in the Lord” but if so, he hides it well. Lol. I remember seeing an interview with his wife. Apparently she would have some of those “nagging doubts” that (correct me if I’m wrong) that most of us Christian’s can have sometimes. I know in my fifty years of being a Christian that sometimes I would get so overwhelmed by the sin(s) I find within my own heart that I that I start “down that road” of “I’m so messed up right now” that I’d wonder about my OWN salvation. Well, if my wife was in that phase I hope I would be a little more understanding and relay my own experiences in that area and say ‘let’s work through this together’. But all he would say was “I don’t know if you’re really a Christian. Maybe you’re not.” Basically telling her she’d have to work it out with the Lord herself. I’m Sorry, but when you’re so dour (sour) that you feel you can’t even comfort, encourage, or show some support in her hour of need… Well, all I can say is I can’t even comprehend responding to my loved wife with a response like that. But the point I want to make is- After watching and listening to him for years, What he said did not SURPRISE me. I just hope that there’s more on the INSIDE than he shows. Maybe it’s a “Calvinist Thing”. I attended Grace Community Church for years. And quite honestly, while I learned a lot and benefited from going there, I always thought that a lot of the “Doctrine” in their heads just remained there in their heads. Not a real joyous bunch. If a person knows they get to spend eternity with the Lord where there is “joy and pleasures evermore”, You’d’ think they would seem a little more happy about it once in awhile. Btw, I do not in the least mean this to be critical. I really don’t. Just relating my observations.

[@tallese]

Christ Jesus did not serve for certain languages. He served everyone. You should also open the subtitle language translation function to all languages in your videos. This will not cause any extra cost to you..

[@heisaltogetherlovely7235]

Why are the questions asked in such a strange voice. It is actually quite off putting. Is he even there?

[@illbehonest]

This is just a quick voice-over I made because the original audio was barely audible, as there was no microphone for the person asking the question. My apologies for how the question is read.

[@heisaltogetherlovely7235]

Thank you for the explanation. That is fine. As long as it was a real question!

[@MichaelLirette-rx5rs]

@@illbehonestcan we watch the full video

[@GiftofGod289]

It’s always hard to listen to Paul because he’s a works trusting Calvinist who believes that Jesus Christ’s payment on the cross was not enough.

[@kathygraham9708]

Not true! Listen properly to his sermons. He ALWAYS emphasises that NOTHING we do EVER earns favour with God. He is totally Christ centered and Gospel entered

[@GiftofGod289]

@@kathygraham9708 I’ve listened. I understand he does not typically front load works (i.e., explicitly saying works are required to be saved). He’s far more subtle. He back loads works by suggesting “of course works do not save, but saving faith is always accompanied by works.” Hogwash. Works are not required to be saved or to prove we are saved.

[@GiftofGod289]

@@TatumHildebrand to spread the one true Gospel of Grace, by faith alone, instead of by trusting in our own effort. 1 Cor. 15:1-4.

[@YAHWEH-YESHUA-MINISTRIES]

​@@GiftofGod289 you don't understand the gospel.

[@GiftofGod289]

@@YAHWEH-YESHUA-MINISTRIES the Gospel is contained at 1 Cor. 15:1-4. It states that believing in Jesus Christ’s death, burial, and resurrection are all that is required for permanent and irrevocable salvation. John 3:16, Titus 3:5, Romans 4:5, 1 John 5:13. If you believe that salvation requires works, you are unsaved and on your way to hell.

[@johnknop6825]

This is pretty horrible. This is what happens when following Jesus becomes a pejorative. Jesus is clear that unless you hate your family you can’t follow Him.

[@sauliruottu5871]

Sounds like you didn't listen to the whole thing at all if you came to that conclusion. God is not a God of disorder. If God gives commands on family life, you can't just ignore them no matter what ministry you're doing.

[@jarodchronister3522]

Paul is a false teacher that teaches lordship salvation. I would use great caution when listening to him.

[@raymondhorton4664]

What is Lordship Salvation?

[@jarodchronister3522]

@@raymondhorton4664 Lordship salvation is the idea that one makes Jesus Lord. The biggest problem with this idea is Jesus is already Lord and to claim we make his Lord strips Jesus of a title He Himself claims. The second problem with this is it claims we repent of sin when the Bible clearly tells us we cannot. Repent means to change our mind, if it means turn from sin then God turns from sin every time he repented in the Bible, therefore we know repent cannot mean turn from sin.

[@GiftofGod289]

Correct. Mark and avoid Paul.

[@WilliamDeanIII]

@@jarodchronister3522 Well said. Jesus died once and for all. You might like Bob George, he has a lecture on the New Covenant discussing similar things.

[@jarodchronister3522]

@@WilliamDeanIII thank you, I will look him up.

[@danwolfanger3942]

Run from this Pharisee!

[@cotydanger4071]

Horrible explanation