"Im bothered that WOMEN CANT TELL I HAVE A CRUSH on them"... But did you tell them?

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[@alisasmith3013]

I asked my husband out. We had a mutual friend on fb that he hit him up asking what my deal was lol! He said he was worried I'd be a catfish! When we met I was working alot, so I really didnt have time to wait around. We were either going to go out, or not. I think he was taken back by me being so upfront. But he was shy, so I think it made things easier. It worked out, we are married now.

[@youngmarriage5717]

Congrats 😊

[@Groteskfull]

Catfish???

[@ericaruggles6309]

I asked my husband out also and we are now married. 6 years now!!

[@justadummy8076]

Something a lot of women don’t understand about guys is that if they wait for them to approach you, your chances of bagging them are lower, if you approach them, 9999/10000 times they will say yes

[@luxsuperbia1531]

Best wishes.

[@fbibase2835]

when girls stare at people it's "flirting" but when I do it I'm "'I'm breaking into people's homes" and "watching them sleep"

[@Covers-and-Commentary]

Lmao

[@Worry-Panic]

And now you impersonating the FBI? Respect your dedication.

[@phillippeters8229]

Do what I do pretend you're annoyed by her.

[@fbibase2835]

@@phillippeters8229 That usually ruins my "bone'er" though

[@phillippeters8229]

@@fbibase2835 better safe than sorry

[@EbenezerStella]

“You receive not, cause you ask not”, applies here.

[@mars9399]

Yeah, the more you ask, the more opportunities show up--but also more rejections. Just like the Never Give Up channel guy

[@benreilly5951]

Amen. 🙏

[@kwakugyebi6705]

"You HAVE not, because you ASK not" [3 laughing emojis]

[@samcharles3363]

Hmmm...we’ll have you written it down?😂

[@6ixlxrd]

Girls will legit have a guy they like, and instead of flirting with him they go flirt with random dudes (or even his homies) right in-front of him. And their explanation for it is that they wanted to make the guy they liked jealous so he’d like them back. I’ve even had this happen to me, but the girl went so far as to date my homeboy because I wasn’t getting the hint, then eventually broke-up with him because I was too supportive of their relationship. This “game” people play is ridiculous.

[@sorudesarutta]

That’s one of the biggest red flags ever lmfao. She uses people

[@emmakg9]

Truly only an immature girl would engage in this behaviour, so consider it a bullet dodged. The relationship would be filled with a lot of drama and chaos anyway.

[@doris2079]

I never understand that tactic. How will this logically work?🙃🤔

[@user-jd5ot8ji2w]

She had all the time and energy to do all that rather than tell you straight up how she feels 🤦 Logic 101

[@teneleven2818]

She’d probably go so far as to marry another dude too

[@trifoxstudios6216]

The second Aba started mumbling hieroglyphics my furniture started floating and my dog started speaking the ancient languages that haven’t been yet written on the Rosetta Stone.

[@Petra999]

That's good shit

[@thesnakbar]

that's a lot of languages lmao

[@jersonatilo9190]

I was getting worried here at my home but knowing that I wasn't the only one... It is comforting

[@nathanw9770]

💀💀💀💀

[@Krikitt]

Here’s the thing, if you never ask, you reject yourself.

[@38smithwessonspecial11]

This

[@agathachris9722]

Hmmm

[@conservativedoggo28]

Exactly

[@krowflin4468]

GOD IS THAT YOU???

[@SimplyMulani]

Hello!!!!

[@Audiatrix]

Preach going through the shit "girl what the hell is wrong with you" Abba: "fuck this imma go to my happy place"

[@muzikamor2923]

That's EXACTLY it!!! Aba turned into a Buddhist Monk over there 😂😂😂

[@cynialewis8020]

I scrolled and saw your comment as they started I'm cuttin upppp 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Audiatrix]

Couldn't help myself i bloody lost it laughing i there must be more 🤣🤣

[@_mark_787]

😂😂

[@CalamityJane21]

Hints are garbage. I am honestly curious how communication is such a lost art.

[@jameshendricks6738]

People are afraid of rejection

[@bunnykandi69]

In this era it is lol

[@CalamityJane21]

@@jameshendricks6738 is fear of rejection a better option than a guessing game or a missed opportunity? This is an honest question, not trying to take a jab.

[@Gahlahad431]

@@CalamityJane21 Same how some people don't want to fail; this concept is very prevalent in the immigrant community but that is the problem - We should encompass the reality of failure and teach people how to use that experience for something to benefit themselves. Most people see failure and rejection as the end of the world and that is the mindset most perfectionist parents ingrain in their children letting them develop into very insecure adults :(

[@planetaryion]

Correct ok both fronts, being rejected sucks but life is short, it will be or it won't so roll with the practical you dont want to waste more time not saying anything to someone who will reject you when your sexy yes match is walking out the other door....

[@SparklesNJazz]

PREACH CALLED ME OUT MANN i used to be like that. i used to get pissed and sad and an emotional wreck cuz guys couldn’t tell i liked them. the problem was i always ended up liking really outgoing/flirty guys who i thought already liked me and were about to make a move, turns out they were just naturally that way. i’m getting better tho! i don’t do that shit anymore. you can grow to not be stupid i promise😂😂😂

[@jodawa2504]

@Britt Lyn, Aba & Preach uploaded a react video about how women "approach" men a year or so ago. The woman, who was an Asian looking woman, possibly Asian, was giving hints or approaching/attraction hints to a guy and when none of them worked, she got up and walked out of the restaurant, calling the man of her interest on her way out a jerk. How is looking around the place in that guy's direction, possibly hoping that he'll speak or at least look at her, pushing a napkin or handkerchief on the floor, hoping that he'll pick it up and give it to you or stretching your arms behind your back APPROACHING A MAN?!! Who in the hell would interpret those things as an approach or an invitation to approach that woman or ANY woman? Who?! Like Preach said in that video, "USE YOUR WORDS! You're a grown woman. Use your words! Damn! And you have the nerve to get mad and call the guy a jerk? Use your words!" Anyway, you have said that you're not going to do that anymore. Well, it's not me that you need to convince that you can and will use your words to tell a man that you're attracted to that you want to date him, be with him or just have sex with him. Most guys, unlike almost all women, aren't used to being approached by any woman or spoken to by any woman that is attracted to him and would like to explore and enter a relationship with that man, have a one night stand or be sex buddies/friends with benefits. A minority of men have that happen to them often or constantly, but the majority of men rarely, if ever, have that experience of a woman that is attracted to them walk up to them, look in the man's eyes, and say that "I thought you are a very handsome/sexy man and I wanted to take a chance and have a one night stand with you, be your sex buddy, friend with benefits or your girlfriend and I would want you to be mine and be with me." I haven't said anything like this at all ever in my life, but coming from a dude who doesn't like subtle hints of attraction from women and prefers and strives to be direct and honest, even at the risk of not getting the woman that I want, those words can help you if you need or would like words to use in your very next encounter with a man of your interest. You don't have to use exactly those words. They're only an idea or guide for you to think of how you want to express in words how you feel about the man. Just be direct and honest with yourself and with the man in that moment.

[@ggyoungnate-_-]

I hope Women (all) turns out like you

[@The_amazing_dust]

Good for you! :) We all learn from the past (and then cringe about it) and become better people because of it

[@Nah-ah]

🤣🤣🤣

[@SirYeetus]

You won't get out of the FRIENDZONE until you speak up and communicate.

[@bunnykandi69]

True

[@KillaTundant]

maybe

[@TRUSTYOSELFMEL]

That’s facts , it’s either you get in or she give the answer and you move on with y’all friendship or kill it

[@shiranuiprestonsaga8867]

Depends on if they are willing or not but if you don't try nothing is going to happen.

[@rajakghosh6602]

A lot of guys stays friendzoned hoping someday he will get a chance while a confident guy is getting all the action.

[@artofkickz]

I was out in Chicago recently and this shorty came up to me. Telling me how attractive she thought I was. Finest girl in the whole venue. And I was taken back by it. Because like Aba said I’m not used to woman being forward like that. Think I turned her down. Ha. Nope not me

[@joshbrown8450]

I didn’t expect you to be here, what’s up bro

[@lifesucketh4923]

press A to doubt

[@heatherboz]

Nice to see my other Fav you tuber here , hope all is well AOK

[@SimonKnight1023]

@Cocoa Beanz Right, but mock men for fearing rejection. That’s why men need to pay attention to a woman’s actions not her opinions.

[@joshuadelacruz3907]

Yo, AOK! I know you didn't!

[@telightpryramid767]

My thing is creepily staring at a girl and trying to telepathically link with her.

[@thebigx68]

Shit gotta try this out.

[@bones377]

Yes totally won’t get the cops called on you.

[@treetreetreetreetreetree]

My type of communication

[@chiniacuna1375]

@Despair City LMAOOOOO

[@I.am.arig_]

IM DEAAAD !!! hahaha

[@becomeacodeher1282]

Honestly, as a women. I can confirm this is how we flirt and I didn't realize how stupid it was till now😂😂

[@Nah-ah]

😆🤣🤣

[@nicolewolfcry7408]

Yea.... my mom kinda gave me the crash corse in "hair flip" and "primping" flirting and it did Nada

[@imfineimokay3434]

Just a heads-up. As a male, we are not, I repeat, WE ARE N O T, mind readers.

[@UniqueLydareyL5847]

Me too

[@GregXHunterz]

glad to see comments like this

[@ajtaylor8750]

*"The one who cares the least has the most power."* Men and women are being told to act like they don't care or to not act interested and that the other person will show interest, but that only leads to people not expressing their interest and missing out on an opportunity.

[@Lottamoneyy]

My dad told me the same thing He who cares the least wins

[@xoulmannn]

Yup, but I think there's a balance. Most people don't know how to do this to the point the are too clingy or are too distant.

[@iulia.bianca.b]

And that later carries on into the relationship too... It feels like a battle for power. It's lame af...

[@isaiahben-yahweh3245]

Toxic cultural standard being spread through media

[@Quebonitoeslobonito123]

People get confused with this. You can be honest about thinking someone is cute or interesting to you, but at the same time you have to be cool because that shows self-respect. Some people are straight up thristy. They come off too strong or put in so much energy and effort when the other isn't at that level yet or at all. And that's a turn off because it makes them look like they have no self-respect or see value in themselves.

[@itskeza]

I actually told all my highschool crushes that I was into them. Got rejected a lot. Moved on. Needless to say, I'm not afraid of rejection at all, I know my worth.

[@Kuukuukaachoo]

Bruh, I wouldn't reject you. You're hella pretty

[@MusMasi]

i admire women who show some courage like that.

[@DonVigaDeFierro]

I like honest people. I wish I could have done the same, but to be honest I don't feel like a good partner to anyone. Hell, I never had a crush on anyone either. I'm very glad that this girl who had a crush on me decided to go out with other man she ended up marrying. She now has a happy family, a house, and she lives abroad. I could have never given anything like that to her. I prefer to be alone than to share my misery.

[@angieruthw]

You're so pretty!

[@itskeza]

All of y'all are actually so nice, wow! Feels like open-minded people only live across the globe.

[@vicentemorales2533]

My first girlfriend was the one who asked me, she wrote me a letter and that gave me the courage to ask her. It was a beautiful relationship

[@williambradd1800]

Wait, so did she ask you out or did you ask her out first? They way you worded that makes it sound like she gave you the go-ahead to approach her rather than she asking you through the letter.

[@vicentemorales2533]

@@williambradd1800 she asked me in the letter if I felt the same way she felt about me. Of course I was the one who asked her out, but it was because she took a chance and told me how she felt Women nowadays are so afraid of rejection they will be so cryptic about what they say so they can later deny they even were interested in you Funny enough, even women had more balls back then, not only men

[@williambradd1800]

@@vicentemorales2533 Ah ok i get it now. Yea i cant tell you how many times Ive chatted with a girl but played it safe because I dont know if they just want to flirt or or take it somewhere else and then a week or so later they act like a completely different person, all cold and detached and distant. I'm always just like "ah ok i guess that last week of playful flirting and banter just didnt happen i guess"

[@vicentemorales2533]

@Basleal S It was, she was a very lovable person, cute and sweet. I feel very fortunate she was my first girlfriend. I wasn't ready to recognize that back then that is why the relationship didn't work but the happiness she brought me still remains today. Hope she's fine and I hope the universe is blessing her

[@vicentemorales2533]

@@williambradd1800 Yup, I know that too well. You go out with her for a few dates, have fun she seems so happy and out of the blue she decides not to continue. That's Women, but I love them, so that's what comes with the territory, the good and the bad

[@tasman655]

Aba looks like he’s poking out of a tent

[@shayshay-reb]

😂😂😂🤣🤣

[@Crick1952]

🔥

[@jjay6432]

Kenny

[@Neurotic013]

This sounds so wrong 🤣🤣🤣

[@AJ-sb8qk]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@theroyal3rddd]

I’m guilty of this to a fault but women are opportunistic as hell. Her: “I had a crush on you forever” Me: “Really how long” Her: “Like 2 semester ago I used to always stare at you idk how you never noticed” Mind you I sat literally on the other side of the room how was I to notice lol.

[@theroyal3rddd]

@Complex Ez man all throughout high school and a bit of college this shit happened. But I think it was on me not making a move most of the time or sending mix signals. I missed out on a lot of opportunities being a prude and too laid back n timid. Thinking back I remember a bunch of girl who people told me had crushes on me that I was around 24/7 at the time. You just have to learn to be the initiator.

[@bryanwoods3373]

@@theroyal3rddd It's partly on them as well. You can find reddit threads on women talking about guys that didn't catch the hint, and so many of them just gave up. Like the guy thought she was asking for his class notes, so she gave up and assumed he just wasn't interested. And some will hold it against the guy once he realizes later. Of course, those guys dodged a bullet. The irony is that a lot of the women on those reddit threads will also say guys should keep trying because the girl might not have realized you were asking her out.

[@austins.1102]

@@theroyal3rddd Feel you bruh this baddie I thought wasn’t interested in me HAD THE NERVE to say she had a crush on me at the end of the school year even tho she ghosted me for like 3 months. Then she tried to flip the script like I left her on read when I hit her up and she deadass just did not respond.

[@ne9835]

@@austins.1102 Damn...

[@ne9835]

@Complex Ez Hah!! I had one!

[@yesdarling1373]

As a woman who always makes the first move/introduction. No man has ever thought I was manly for doing so. They were flattered and impressed. I always find it annoying when people, women or men, think the opposite sex can read their wants and desires.

[@mysticstrikeforce5957]

Yha don't follow others do what you do that's best for you if asking someone first works then go for it. I mean girls don't really know that guys do like it when guys gets asked as guys you never really were taught about sex talk or about your feelings when you find somebody like nobody gives a young boy the memo. And that's something i think girls should really learn about and that way they will understand and probably try it out and see the difference.

[@justsaying8358]

Same here, and they still will reject us. Yes contrary to the popular believe women get rejected too

[@MarioWiZZeL]

@New Alfa We got ourselves a unicorn.

[@yesdarling1373]

@@justsaying8358 Exactly! I've been rejected numerous times. But I would rather know by finding out myself then try to play mind reading games with a stranger.

[@Crick1952]

Straight facts, the pressure on dudes to always have to make the first move is so intense that if a girl does it we're relieved more than anything else

[@ep8590]

As an African American woman, who has been told many times that I look "intimidating" by many people, because of my athletic frame, approached my now White boyfriend because I was interested. He was down, he saw me as attractive and he was honestly a little afraid to talk to me because he thought I had a boyfriend. I never understood why females would sit for hours and stare at a guy, I understand that some guys have big egos and they can tell but others can not. Also, I yall videos!

[@luckylarry3090]

@03 mee6 Simp

[@officialasim6772]

Big body yessir💪🏿💪🏿

[@luckylarry3090]

@03 mee6 Are you calling black people cvcks?

[@coreysrevenge286]

Lol

[@user-wn3wv5bx5e]

That's cute, hope you and your boyfriend get along with life just fine!

[@TommyRushing]

It's worse to not be able to be able to tell if she's being extra nice...or flirting. I've had many people tell me they were into me or my friend point out a girl was flirting and I just thought they were being nice.

[@analysis9479]

I get all kinda of drama for being too nice to my customers instead of hating my job all the time. If I say I like your Pokémon tattoo..... I’m not flirting. If I’m at work, I’m nice, I’m not flirting.

[@Dragoon297]

Only way to find out is to ask really and if they are not, so what???

[@bryanwoods3373]

Which is the problem with a lot of the ways women flirt. Either the guy is not in a position to know, such as that she's putting more effort than usual into her appearance for you; or it's stuff they do when with friends as well, such as being engaged in the conversation or laughing. And you can't always tell if she's laughing because you're genuinely funny or is trying to endear herself. I work with a woman that will act cute when she's asking me for something that puts me out a little. That could be because she likes me or just how she is with everyone to not come off as demanding.

[@frankmex1890]

Yo, that is bad to determine whether they were being flirtatious or extra nice. I had a similar experience where girl explicitly showed me interest to the point where she said in verbatim, " Do you want to be my boyfriend?" Again, I was naive and flew over my head when this occured. Two years later (3rd year at the time), a friend of mine told me that she liked me, I did not even know. Nonetheless, I can imagine how difficult it is read body language. Thanks for the input, G.

[@jn-xw3cq]

Same bro. Some of the girls I kinda liked too but only really found out that it was mutual when it's way too late and they got a man

[@hunterkiller1440]

I'd reject them if they come up to me, because it's probably... A) a scam B) a prank C) a dare D) a prostitute E) social anxiety And if a guy rejects you based on those criteria, you're better off than being with someone with this amount of paranoia.

[@DC-kd5ki]

We on the same wavelength Girls during my highschool days would do it as a prank

[@thatboi9740]

That's sad, go get some self respect bro.

[@princeazaiah8679]

I rejected a girl who tried to do that since i noticed her friend with a camera and she just randomly asked me without knowing me

[@brandon-toddhutchinson3798]

This hurts to read I hope the severity of your anxiety subsides (or subsides more if you've already found the resources to manage it)

[@nickb6425]

Isn't it crazy how a lot of women based on our experiences would basically only approach as a prank, to make someone feel shitty, but not approach to actually ask someone out 😂

[@kensy9693]

If ignoring someone is a new way of flirting I’m old.

[@emanueldargan9934]

If that true I'm gay

[@mskishababy3014]

I used to approach dudes like... "Aye shawty, you looking good like butter milk biscuit with honey dripping down sides". 🤣🤣

[@thegodquestion4503]

@@mskishababy3014 hahhaha

[@e0jay]

How my man found out I liked him. Me: "You're goofy, I like your sense of humor! You free? How my man found out I love him Me: "I've fallen in love with you" How my man learned I wanted to move to the next level. Me: "I booked a hotel room for the weekend. I'll drive up there in bit" How I learned my man wants to marry me. Him: *bought a ring* "Here, put this on." We don't do the hint shit, it's a huge waste of time. We're up front, blunt and literal. Girls, your "cute" hinty-hinty act will get old in 10 minutes, if at that.

[@CaptainCJ97]

hold this crown queen

[@10NobodyElse]

I've brought her the scepter, too

[@BilalAhmed-xd4hj]

I k k k klkkl Ol

[@jodawa2504]

@Erika L, as admirable as you may be for doing what you did to your man to attract him in the way that you had, most women are still going to do the "hinty hinty" act, get mad at that man for not knowing that she wants to date/bang him, complain about that man and men in general as a whole, and feel like crap for the rest of the day, night or for however long she allows herself to sulk in pity when she allowed that situation to happen by not doing anything direct and honest at all, but instead assume that men should know women's attraction cues and body language from non attraction cues and body language, which we don't, despite the men that do know, which isn't a lot of men, and women take it for granted. As far as you're concerned in your situation, that wasn't direct with your words, so you still were hinting at your attraction for your man because in that scenario, you did not say that you want to explore a relationship with him, date him or bang him, unless you stated those things later or you're keeping your speech Rated PG or PG-13 for KZbin's censors, but it's probably more applicable to men than women being censored. Anyway, good job on attracting your man, although not entirely direct in the words, unless he knew and noticed what you said and behaved by how you said your words and behaved in your actions. I don't like, do nor pick up on attraction cues from women in their body language, but I can on the non attraction cues. Of course, I'm learning to be more direct and honest with women in expressing my attraction to them and risk being shot down, even if it's a gentle shot down or harsh shot down. Nevertheless, I'm happy for you.

[@phillippeters8229]

You need to teach these women nowadays.

[@mastercleanseNOTdiet]

😂 "Booboo honey chicken cherry child honey bunny honey bunch with a slice of lime and a cherry on top" while Aba's over there doing monk meditation😂

[@raashid_kf]

4:01 for those too lazy to find it loool

[@merafsergoalem3276]

They’re too good

[@azzyazeez]

💀💀💀💀💀

[@lionessstarseed6812]

That part goes in their Hall of Fame Highlight Reel for sure 🤣🤣🤣 They’re so organic with it, that’s the perfection of it all

[@kimbonice]

That whole ambiguous flirting thing is going to trigger a TON of guys. We haven't even gotten into the "When I said no I actually wanted you to be more assertive because I did want to be with you" that a lot of women do. That crap is TOXIC.

[@brainiac.computer]

Well, isn’t that the case? “No means no”? If a woman says no, that’s it. It’s done. Goodbye. Piss off, etc hahaha Edit: I get where your point is though and it is ridiculous because then why the whole mind game business, ya know?

[@Billieraysson]

I agree but I think for a different reason.... when I say no it’s a no. So when other women are saying no but mean try harder it makes the line very fuzzy for men in the future. That is very toxic instead of just speaking up, you can get a “chase” without blurring the lines of consent

[@soso-mx8nb]

Social media has wrecked people's social skills, especially people who already didn't have good social skills. If you can walk up to a girl and speak directly with confidence while being respectful you already got a BIG leg up, or at least that's what my ugly looking ass likes to believes

[@soso-mx8nb]

@Valer I agree cause there's a lot of older men who don't know how to talk to women either, it's just we are getting a BIT too comfy with just being random memes and rambling lol. We should uh.... Aim higher in life and in our interactions with women. Social media and how popular online dating has become has created a strange version of normal, people don't feel pushed out of their comfort zone cause when everyone's just shooting random shots online, whose really trying ?

[@brandonsterling8026]

@@soso-mx8nb Maybe if the women tried it would balance it out and at least encourage other men to go out there cause the good girls hiding.

[@jouskehigaskita8835]

@@soso-mx8nb why am higher when you'll never get much If you are unattractive. Why run the risk of a girl Maybe roasting the fuck out of you for approaching. Slinding in dms and stuff like that is attractive for men because we don't have to face brutal rejection sometimes

[@soso-mx8nb]

@@brandonsterling8026 yeah women are guilty too, and their expectations versus the reality of who they are can be very screwed up lol

[@soso-mx8nb]

@@jouskehigaskita8835 she can still roast you in the DMs but actually walking up to a girl and getting rejected it's character building. Ok so you walk up to 10 hot girls and 8 or 9 reject you, you still have made a lasting impression on the girl who likes you cause you had the balls to walk up and talk to her which so many people don't now.

[@Alemanimage]

Once in my younger years, I went up to a girl who was with her friends to as her out, I never asked her in the end and I’ll tell you why. During the conversation with them, her friend told us that she had a crush on me for a very long time. I was very happy to hear that and ended up getting with the friend instead of the girl I planned to ask out.

[@PortraitofAsha]

Wow!

[@bigfoot7k]

KING. SHIT.

[@abhiwagh2312]

That's some Naruto level shit you did there bro (if you have seen Naruto)

[@dreamkitty]

yeah and we all clapped 💀💀💀

[@natalianat5736]

Some girls like the thought of you as their crush more than getting to know you and letting you know

[@lolgames8179]

Thats dont make no sense

[@jasper8961]

It's true in a way.

[@natalianat5736]

@@lolgames8179 its like when you're afraid of making a move and you'd rather it stayed a fantasy. Fantasy is safer you don't get rejected. I think many teenage girls could think like that. I was referring to the part of video when she had a crush for 2 years or smth.

[@alion4574]

@@lolgames8179 He means that sometimes the idea of someone is better than that person themself

[@g_thbaa4909]

This is the Truth from a girl, I know it’s sad but we’re scared too

[@steven16748]

I’d rather have “oh wells” than “what if’s”

[@mbeatz17]

#Bars

[@scoott8605]

Man is spitting grandpa wisdom

[@steven16748]

@@mbeatz17 I’m dropping my mixtape soon 😂

[@MrShadownetwork]

I rather have the “what if” over “creeper”

[@steven16748]

@@MrShadownetwork you only come off as a “Creeper” if she doesn’t find you attractive or your game is whack

[@talianstallion9386]

One girl told me in the first year of college that she thought I was really cute in freshman year of highschool. “Damn would have been nice to know that someone didn’t think I was fugly when I was depressed af”

[@lololandify]

LOL soo true

[@SilentHotdog28]

I've had girls say that. Frustrating. Although one time I was going home from school on the bus, I would have been in like year 7 or 8 and these 2 older girls from like year 10 or 11 came and sat behind me and said "wow, you're so cute, I love your hair, can I touch it?" I said "yeah sure" They continued "Wow your hair is so soft and I love the colour" I was so happy hearing these compliments, the older guys at the back of the bus were all cheering and clapping saying things like "get in there mate, the older girls like ya, woohoo" The girls said "come sit up the back of the bus with us, we'll look after you." So I went up there and hung out with them, chatting and was such a kool experience, I had no idea how to engage in any sort of relationship or anything, so nothing came of it. I don't think they were actually looking to date me, more so just thought I was cute and wanted to tell me, who knows maybe they wanted to boost my confidence.

[@TheOnlyHollywood1]

@@SilentHotdog28 That was nice of them

[@batsnake]

I confessed my feelings to former-coworker before he left just to get it off my chest, and knowing he already has a gf, I didn’t want to pursue him out of morale. And though I was rejected (I expected that), it felt like a huge weight was off my chest. We’re still good friends to this day and I felt so happy when he told me afterwards, “I really appreciate you for having the courage to tell me this. You’re a really great person.” He gave me a hug and he was really sweet. Not all rejections are bad. Go shoot your shot and don’t be scared of the results. If it wasn’t meant to be, it wasn’t meant to be and that’s okay.

[@MeiaSoQuick]

I'll never forget asking a guy I liked out for prom and him straight up laughing. Only to find out the fool thought I was joking when I asked him. 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@Jamfar777]

Women asking men out is so rare, the first thought is this chick trying to play me. I remember a chick asking me on behalf of her friend, and I said no. Not going to make a fool of me, laugh at me for being "thirsty". Same thing with certain compliments. Specially women my age. I believe older women. But younger women, I'm suspicious. Like is that sarcasm and you trying to clown me. I just say thanks and let the convo die. It may seem paranoid but I have seen women brutally clown dudes after faking interest.

[@MeiaSoQuick]

@@Jamfar777 As much as I hate to say it, I think attractiveness is a factor also. A guy is more likely to believe a woman he doesn't find attractive could actually be interested in him, whereas someone he thinks is cute too it must be some sort of prank. I've had guys not say anything to me because they assumed I was taken or wouldn't be interested.

[@mysticstrikeforce5957]

Yha men have more self a steam and also so nervous since nodody talks more about sex stuff then people telling girls about sex talks then girls do and that's something i think girls should know about

[@nerored6235]

That's because were taught it doesn't happen by society and that if it does, they're just messing with us. Not to mention we get rejected so often, most of us don't see ourselves as capable of being desirable enough that a girl/woman would go out of her way to approach us. Not to mention how insanely rare it is for us to get a compliment, unless you're movie star/model grade in looks. Even then the compliments tend to seem halfhearted, just a plain statement by a friend type. Like "yeah, yeah. You're handsome."

[@futureanimator522]

Not going to ly. This is a true story: when i was like 17 or maybe 18 in high school for adults and or kids thats trying to graduate early. I was the shy and dont talk to ppl. I didn't like anyone an or trust them what so ever. Skipping a little bit I was in a class room with 3 other students. 2 dudes 1 girl. I cant remember y it was only us 4 but basically the 2 guys are basically what girl in that school be into. I was plain an just doing my work or what tf i was in there with them for. But basically the guys ask her a question. Who would u rathet go out with in that room? I stayed quiet but was bores so i listened. He pointed at himself. She said no. He was like what? Then she said no to the other guy and she straight up said me. I ong thought she was lying so my dumbass laugh bc im very self conscious and didn't think no one liked me. But she was dead ass serious an hated me soooo .....yea 🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️. I wanted to hurt myself. So many ppl play tricks on me an all that so i thought she was doing the same. I even had asked her y after i laughed 🤦🏿‍♂️

[@manzell]

This dude got like anti-confidence. He needs to hang out with Skippy.

[@emanueldargan9934]

😂😂😂

[@dwaynepayton7190]

If skippy can go on so many dates we can go on dates

[@trulytobi6464]

I found it upsetting that skippy got dates before me until i realized those were pity dates.

[@dwaynepayton7190]

@@trulytobi6464 right but if you have confidence you can get anybody

[@dwaynepayton7190]

In your league

[@kalfaxplays7899]

social anxiety is the worst when it comes to dating & meeting women.

[@JmgStrength]

True. I still deal with that, and I’ve been approached by women in public asking for contact information. I ended up scaring them off by asking who they hell they were.

[@DonVigaDeFierro]

@@Claireradusha99 Ah, yes. Women like full balls, amirite?

[@miguelmejia4656]

@@Claireradusha99 enjoy your blue balls

[@xfranchise5127]

😪

[@dustyruffin12]

I'll never forget I wrote this guy a poem back in high school to profess my feelings... He said he wasn't interested and read it to his friends 😂 needless to say when I approach men after it's wayyyyy less romantic

[@mixvideos616]

It's so romantic! 💗

[@FLaSHFReeeZ]

I imagine receiving something like that and if I did reject the girl I would never have shown anyone else the note. It's just baffling the type of dudes that get all of the attention instead of the ones that would actually appreciate it.

[@dustyruffin12]

@@FLaSHFReeeZ exactly. I don't really flack him for it because we were kids. But hopefully he's not an asshole anymore lol

[@FLaSHFReeeZ]

@@dustyruffin12 imo most of us are still those same kids, just older. There's a difference between being genuinely nice and just choosing not to be an ass because society would punish you for it. A few of us do genuinely change due to some big circumstances, just a few.

[@dustyruffin12]

@@FLaSHFReeeZ I could see that. I think that as we get older we just learn to tolerate our negative traits. Slightly working on them but never truly getting rid of them

[@reet7060]

Most people can’t read body language AND most people over estimate body language. We’re not primal enough to know off the bat.

[@adrianchatman5734]

Thank you! Body language is the most misinterpreted form of communication! So sick of people saying "well you should've read their body language!" No....they should've used their WORDS.

[@preciousbrown7962]

Right most people can barely read period! I love this comment !

[@emanueldargan9934]

Speak for yourself their is no we're

[@esairosado188]

That's the thing, everyone's body language different. So it's impossible to read some people's body language is blinking fats like what?!?!?!?

[@emanueldargan9934]

@@esairosado188 im not like you average people

[@jeremyreed4951]

This girl gon' tell me "I had the biggest crush on you before" I said I had no idea. She responded "I let you borrow my Brian Mcknight CD"..... Well my best bud Mike let me borrow the SOULFOOD soundtrack, I didn't think it was because he wanted to f*ck me......lol

[@johnserosanguineous1886]

WTF!?

[@butterflymorning1904]

Lolol

[@sauceturner5070]

😂😂

[@catarinahenriques2011]

😂😂👏🏼👏🏼

[@sauceturner5070]

😭😂😭😂

[@phaedra5283]

A guy having a crush are like those people who want to win the lottery but, wont go buy a ticket. If you don't play, you won't win. Lol

[@MusMasi]

sometimes it feels like playing the lottery lol

[@toppleplans4266]

No one has mentioned the me2 factor electrifying the scenery it's not just rejection now It's harassment and possible assault allegations Women have to learn to ask and be direct more That's just the way it is now

[@MusMasi]

@@toppleplans4266 yeah a lottery where not only can you win, you can also get prison time.

[@jamilzayas5808]

@@MusMasi nice profile pic

[@6ixlxrd]

@@MusMasi A lottery you can go to jail for by buying a ticket and playing the game fairly. A lottery where having a ticket isn’t even a guaranteed roll (let alone a win) since the machine might just spit the ticket back out. Is the machine busted, or was it your ticket? Did you insert it wrong? Was it the right machine? You start going paranoid.

[@freedomofspeech2420]

I asked my fiancé out in high school, I knew his sister and we all ended up having the same class. I just really thought he was a interesting guy, so I pursued him and we’ve been together for 11 years now. He still kisses my hand like he did in school. Ladies, don’t be afraid to pursue something when you feel strongly about it. Go for it, rejection still builds character imo. Life is short.

[@ethansant6738]

Had a dream when I was 18, a girl I knew asked me out. I woke up in tears because that ended up being one of the best dreams of my life, the kind where you hate reality when you wake up.

[@darkyoumemento5307]

Bro....

[@Politickticktickin]

Dude....

[@edvinsebastian1290]

My guy...

[@schokococoa575]

Fam....

[@Jessicaokolie]

Bruh...

[@missy1e23]

I'm glad y'all blurred the guy's face out. He's gotta work in his confidence...or at least the confidence in his voice. He might have to fake it until he makes it.

[@watertribelife1280]

I'm not gonna lie, there was a girl that wasn't my type in college, who straight sat on my desk while I was sculpting (art school) and said, " I want to go on date with you whenever you're free and not studying" at the time I was also Traumatically in love with a Graphic Designer 15/10 that I had just scored a date with. So the first time a girl ever approached me it sucked to shoot her down, but it was really cool not being the first one to make the move. Even though I wasn't into her , just that act alone I would've gone on that date if I wasn't already with the other girl.

[@bobobilal3000]

I feel you bro I went through a similar situation. The first time a girl ever approached me with a confession, I saw us as just friends and really nothing more so I had to reject her. But I still admire her to this day for having the courage to do that, and I really respect that trait in women.

[@joyandpeacefullaughter5307]

And the other chick dumped you.

[@watertribelife1280]

@@joyandpeacefullaughter5307 I'm currently married to her sooooo, no booboo not yet

[@joyandpeacefullaughter5307]

@@watertribelife1280 And you didn't say, my wife in the original comment?😂😒 Have a nice life, homie. 👍

[@halalgordonramsay4983]

thank you. im one of those girls who asked first and actually never ended up dating anyone. though, one of those guys is my good friend now. this comment give me some kind of sweet closure i never knew i needed because i never really believed what he said to me as he ended up dating another girl but now that i know i am grateful i did it.

[@Sada-xg9ew]

All my past failures are flashing before my eyes. 🤯

[@devynlove6191]

i’m like boo boo honey chicken cherry child honey bunny bunch with a slice of lime and a cherry on top

[@zighizaw3227]

Hahahahahahaah....nailed it

[@visualcreative]

That it hard.. 😂😂😂😂

[@adonisgadiel4138]

Lmao I read this right when he said it 😂

[@brooklynforever1990]

🤣⚰️

[@TerryHesticles]

Don’t be scared of rejection folks. The worse thing a person can do is say no, and if that happens just keep it pushing.

[@gaganbadwal8981]

Very true, you haven't lost anything you're still in the same position. Only place to go is up.

[@GalesGames69]

Or laugh at you

[@Reshme77]

Sometimes its the best thing

[@jouskehigaskita8835]

The worst thing is them roasting you

[@VioletIsBulletproof]

Honestly i can totally relate. Ive been rejected few times and..its an unpleasant feeling. And even most of those end up being dating sites (ghosting or unmatch) for a little while you feel unworthy before u get ur head out of ur ass and remind urself that theres more men out there lol. But i can understand the fear. I just dont let it get to me longer than required.

[@sirensoftitan]

Aba meditating is me whenever someone starts to rant about a problem theyve talked about before but haven't done anything to fix it

[@pikalee3492]

I felt this in my soul 😤

[@dullpoint1072]

I can't flirt and I never realize I'm being hit on. When I get the courage to say something I I'm awkward. The sad thing about this is I get hit on a lot friends tell me all the time. I just stare and hope they come over and when they do I'm clueless. My dating life will NOT suck. I'm watching these videos to do better.

[@deathrager2404]

go over there hey how are you? if she replies with fine and you? you continue. if she replies with fine, you keep it movin she dont even have the interest to ask you how you re doin. from there on it ll be easy. just watch if she also shows interest in you. if not? again keep it movin. if so, you re good.

[@dullpoint1072]

@@deathrager2404 I'm a woman 😂

[@deathrager2404]

@@dullpoint1072 dont worry honey, no woman knows how to flirt.

[@calumbarry1829]

Doing any better now?

[@jacobsowell8469]

The fact that someone created Bumble where girls are supposed to make the first move, shows that dudes love that.

[@Gchildwarrior]

And I've seen some Bumble screenshots of women effing up by just saying: "Hey." Literally one word 🤣 on Tinder, I at least put thought into my messages

[@logan9971]

yeah but based on society men are supposed to make the first move

[@lawlessx9]

Women on bumble message with one word messages lol

[@ls.campana]

@@logan9971 true but why do society standards apply only in this facet of life whereas other facets of life women buck societal norms? Lol just say something.

[@emiliosnic]

Real men dont love that. Losers do.

[@TheSirRaptor]

Doesn't matter who asks who, If I like her and she asks, I'm definitely saying yes

[@CapeEniEer]

Ive had guys be into me and then drop me for not playing hard to get...

[@joecool2721]

@@CapeEniEer sounds like you dodged a bullet

[@TheSirRaptor]

@@CapeEniEer well then they arnt good people. It's good you didn't have to go further with them. But like, it's social norm so I'm not expecting every person to jump on women asking instead but PERSONALLY if someone asks me, I would put that person at a much higher pedestal then anyone I would have to get vague signs from. You would mean so much more that way.

[@violetl.4615]

Would you say yes if you didn't consider her before, and she asks?

[@TheSirRaptor]

@@violetl.4615 It depends on the girl, not every girl I see I will say yes ofc, but that's what we as men have to risk everytime. So if you get rejected, so what? It's part of life, but like they said, you'll ignore it until it leaves right in front of you

[@user-zv3xs2ly7e]

Fuck no it wouldn’t happen!!!!! the woman of my dreams asked me to be her boyfriend and I damn near cried from excitement!!!! She means the world to me but she also said she was tired of waiting for me to ask her so she asked me!! I love her and was scared of rejection! I didn’t know she had as strong feelings (even stronger) for the way I act and am! Especially when she was nervous about meeting my family because she’s black, I told that to my mom, and my mom wants to meet her even more because of the way she treats me and loves me! I can’t wait to meet her mom and her meet mine!!!

[@user-eo9to7wd2t]

Aw that’s sweet. I’m a black girl and I was scared to ask out a white guy that I like. This story gives me a little more confidence. He’s been giving signs but he seems to be really scared of rejection.

[@mandu6665]

@@user-eo9to7wd2t Go for it. A woman making the first move is not only refreshing but also incredibly flattering and very attractive.

[@picodegallo18]

@@user-eo9to7wd2t My black daughter in law (very shy by nature) didn't make the first move verbally, but she started hanging around my son (extrovert), smiling a lot, she acted interested in what he had to say and he noticed. They were coworkers in different departments so he'd seen her around for a year before that. It still took him a minute before he realized, "D'oh, she is iNtEresTed!" They got married a year later. Been together about 4 yrs now. Come to think of it, my white daughter in law basically made the first move too, but she got drunk to do it. Those two ended up married too.

[@Crick1952]

You giving hope to us brother 👊

[@aj3706]

@@user-eo9to7wd2t oh no, not the signs again

[@imansaza2336]

I told this guy in high school that I like him.. He answered me last year.. 9 mf years later saying *I had a crush on you too * I was like.. Got a boyfriend now sorry. And he said oh if you would have told me... B***h why would I tell you?? You didn't ask!! And he said he's been waiting this whole time for me to tell him again so that he can answer.

[@spacebars9677]

Bruh I would’ve blocked him at this point wtf 😂 nine years??

[@KevinSmith-xt8xr]

Simp

[@PrincessPowerUp]

I spoke to a guy in the grocery store and he said yes but then he asked me if i date wyt men. I said im open to all peoples. He then went on a rant about how a black queen should never tarnish herself with the wyt mans seed. Yelling...until i left the store 😒

[@MH-yj5ed]

@@PrincessPowerUp wow!! What is wrong with some people smh

[@yvonnet6399]

Lol wut...

[@misshisokapaints109]

MY WAY TO FLIRT IS 100% TO COMPLETELY IGNORE SOMEONE

[@moon230686]

🤣🤣🤣

[@luisveramendi8646]

It works

[@scottpilgrym2562]

treat her like she's nerdy too

[@annalorenzo75]

Works every time.

[@thejordankarim]

Is that why this girl was into me one day and started ignoring me the next??

[@TheMissiIe]

Preach: *ranting* Aba: living his best life

[@emanueldargan9934]

Don't impersonate Jesus he doesn't take stuff like that lightly I think

[@bigmemer4398]

@@emanueldargan9934 Impersonation implies that it's believable , which it isn't

[@TheMissiIe]

@@emanueldargan9934 hail Satan

[@adenferguson2647]

@@TheMissiIe i raised you wrong

[@Kat-dm2pr]

@@adenferguson2647 you're just a sperm donor. Didn't even raise him.

[@ShadowBlade972]

Real talk women don't understand the difference of rejection between genders, I can't say I wouldn't turn down a woman for being interested in me, but the small amount of times I've been approached the first thing that comes to mind is that this has to be some kind of set up or trick.

[@salvadormontgomery1819]

One day, after a long day of classes, around 8pm, I'm waiting for my ride to pick me up. I come to an area right near the exit where I can see any cars pull up. Girl sitting on the bench, I stand to not make her feel uncomfortable, she gets up after a bit and leaves, so I sit down. She comes back a minute or so later and sits right next to me and starts talking to me. During this whole conversation I'm questioning if one of my friends set this up or something to prank me. Feelsbadman.

[@80slimshadys]

Yea sadly this happened to me once in highschool. I've only ever had two girls approach me before, the first was a girl I was currently going out with, the second was while I was going out with this girl from another school, one of the hottest and sluttiest girls, way better than my GF, in my school that I had a massive crush on nonchalantly asked If I was seeing anyone and wanted to go out with her in a class we were in, and because she was in the ''cool'' group and I wasn't I deadset thought it must of been a joke. I said no because cheaters sucks and I didn't wanna do that, but all these years later I can't help but think she was actually serious. It kills me haha. The GF later cheated on me. FML.

[@mariamhamed9688]

I deffo think there’s a difference between men and women in terms of rejections. I’ve never gotten rejected and I’ve rejected too many guys in my life so there’s no doubt about that.

[@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty]

Apparently you've never been the victim of cat calling because as a woman ALL through out middle school and highschool boys would yell at me about how their friends "like" me or think I'm cute, like the idea that I'm attractive is so laughable and its embarrassing to think that. It's gotten to the point that most women can't trust ANY man whose upfront because they think they must be playing some kinda game. It's WHY women hate cat calling, y'all are just mocking us and then getting offended when we don't find it attractive. More like YOU don't understand how OTHERS feel.

[@dennisjohnson680]

Paranoia at its finest lol

[@rcll6304]

I’ve actually had a guy tell me this girl’s crazy because she shot her shot first. It was ‘emasculating’ to him

[@m.a.156]

@@Rocky-hr4pg It depends on the man, too many different people act differently, I reject all women who ask for me dating, I don't do dating and girlfriends ... if the woman comes and tell me she want to marry me and want to interview me and discuss the issue, then I would accept her ... that is different

[@rcll6304]

@@m.a.156 chances that a woman you don’t know comes up to you and asks to marry you are immensely minute though. Not many people want to go into marriage without having taken the time to get to know the other person (which most popularly is seen as dating)

[@fuzei]

Honestly, I definitely was the girl who had a crush on a guy and would get anxious about being rejected, as well as imposing my feelings on someone when it's not reciprocated (told two guys in my life I had crushes on them, rejected both times LOL). That being said, I NEVER held it against the guys for not knowing. That's stupid. Personally, that's why dating apps have worked really well for me. Takes all the questions of interest out of the equation: they know I'm into them, and I know they're into me. Been with my handsome, shy guy for years now.

[@jzhvaeduh]

Girl what? You found success on dating apps and not just a bunch of men trying to have sex?

[@fuzei]

@@jzhvaeduh lolll well there were plenty of those types, too. But I wouldn't give guys like that the time of day. The moment they're not having a conversation, or were being creepy, I would drop them and move along.

[@brainiac.computer]

@Ryan D how about if you got 0 matches, though?

[@lulubugs2752]

I'll drink to that spot of happiness

[@MrsNicolas]

@@jzhvaeduh Agreed, I had to closed down my dating profiles because that all the guys seemed to want. B.O.B keeps me company, I might end up being the little old cat lady and I don't even have any cats. 😭

[@austins.1102]

They can’t read your mind unless you man up and communicate you’re gonna be in the *friend-zone for ETERNITY.* This man didn’t even make the bench bruh is in the reserves while the dudes who are speaking up are in the starting lineup.

[@captainripley]

And it crazy cause he PUT HIMSELF IN THAT SPOT smh. All he gotta do is speak up and he could probably take one of those starting spots 🤷🏾‍♂️.

[@HotCheetoGirl_]

Honestly, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and say maybe he has crazy social anxiety but he did this to himself.

[@austins.1102]

@@captainripley Facts bruh unless he fix his jumper and and build up his courage she’s gonna trade him and he’s going to Cleveland🤷🏾‍♂️.

[@sweatergod4755]

Hey you the same dude from berleezy?

[@kfox5301]

The friendzone only exists because of shit like this. That's why people have the fucked up thought guys and girls can't be just friends because there is usually someone waiting around hoping you notice them instead of just saying I'm interested.

[@4xdblack]

Story time: There was this girl I had a massive crush on. Problem was we were young and her dad forbid her to talk with boys. So skip several years down the road, she's still the cutest girl I've ever met, and I still have a massive crush. We're older now, so I get her number, and we finally get to know each other. I spent a solid couple months playing this "coy" (stupid) game where I'd tell her about this super pretty girl that I had a major crush on, so I could eventually tell her that the mystery girl was her all along. I thought I was being smart. Nah, I was being a coward. A stupid coward. She rejected me of course. But ever since then I've promised myself that if I ever meet another girl that I like, I'm not going to be a coward and be upfront about my interest. Learn from my mistake fellas. It ain't worth being a coward.

[@chinchu7000]

Lol why the fuck would you talk to a girl about another girl, you really had no skills in talking to girls 🤣

[@RA-jk4gn]

The Mystery girl confession is quite a cliche/cringe route to go about

[@4xdblack]

@@chinchu7000 you ain't wrong. I was homeschooled

[@4xdblack]

@@RA-jk4gn yeah I can just imagine her rolling her eyes every time I did it.

[@RA-jk4gn]

@@4xdblack nah all g we've all started somewhere lmao.

[@aliquidgaming1068]

As a man who suffered from severe anxiety I can kind of see where these guys come from. I over came my own issues but my advice would be say fuck it. Yoire gonna embarrass yourself and get rejected. What I learned as I kept going was it gets easier, then your game gets better. I also became much more social as a person in general doing this and in my life personally I felt just better. Talked to people and girls with ease now. Also workout. It isnt for everyone but I got really into MMA and self trained and that helped me as a bonus to my confidence. Also started noticing when women were checking me out and when they'd hit on me. Takes time trust me. Shit didn't happen over night for me but put in the work and you'll reap the rewards. Got to say fuck it and just throw yourself out there.

[@omnium_gatherum]

People in general who decide to shoot their shot when that person is now in a relationship are trash. So much disrespect in that one gesture alone. Be better

[@TheCastedone]

A day late and a dollar short

[@kerarants3550]

Agreed

[@johnchristopher3032]

If she's not married, she's single. I'm free to ask her out, and she's free to tell me no.

[@mysticstrikeforce5957]

Yha i watch to many movies and tv shows to know how much lost it can go even in real life it happens and i'm always like why. I mean one of my cousin did this and now she regretted it as the guy she used to date never dated someone and now he found someone and as a good kid and a nice house where my other cousins visits him and he's wife more.

[@VestaPridePkChannel]

Why are they trash? Bullets don't care if you are in relationship or not

[@Crowbar11115]

That goes both ways. I had an "Intervention" with 3 female friends once in High School. They sat me down to tell me I had blown it with all three of them because THEY had crushes on me. I said gimme a sec...took a walk around the block then laid into all of them for being cowards when it counted (possible relationship) but bold when it was pointless (YEARS after they had like me) The funniest part was 1 of them had a BF at the time she liked me, 1 was a friend of a girl I would have rather been with and the third was my Best Friend's Ex. Haha. I wasn't going after any of them. Hahaha. But somehow it was MY fault.

[@cressmoon340]

That was funny to ready. I feel bad for u.

[@aren7138]

Imagine them telling you, YOU blew it. Nah... it's all them. You were decent and didn't hit on a girl with a bf. Hope you got someone better. None of these games.

[@sigmaboi2946]

Sometimes they just say that they liked you but did not really.

[@brainiac.computer]

@@sigmaboi2946 even dated you as a joke/dare.

[@yurangudo6919]

Bruh, you're legit telling MY story😂😂😂 It's almost exactly how it went down in 8th grade. Two of them stopped talking to me.That sucks man

[@StupidBirdChannel]

I would even add a little extra message, especially for you ladies. I don't remember all the women I tried to pick up. But I do remember every woman who made the first move. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM! Since it's usually up to us to make the first move, it's always a big plus when the woman does it. I remember almost every compliment I've ever gotten and I remember every time a woman approached me on her own. Man, I even carry a letter in my wallet that a woman left me in a bar asking me out on a date, so I can read it when I'm afraid to end up alone!

[@theprettypaw4615]

This is such a wholesome comment ❤️

[@anthonyt425]

I feel this on a spiritual level.

[@elizabethortiz152]

Aw that’s cute

[@pimy3507]

facts!

[@StupidBirdChannel]

Thank you all for those likes and comments... You're the best!

[@illestvillain1971]

I love how Aba is just meditating while Preach goes on his monologue. Lmaooo

[@Reofenja]

Never understood what is so difficult about asking people out. She isn't special. He isn't special. We're all just people.

[@shaquillebazzey8111]

Exactly...it ain't that deep.

[@PlumpPotatoRump]

Well if you don't understand, you're definitely build differently, which makes the asking out thing easier for you. So you do you, and you do you the best you can homie =)

[@Reofenja]

@@PlumpPotatoRump the easiest way to minimize rejection is by always trying to improve yourself. Introspection is your greatest tool. In life you can only control what you do, but everything else is subject to the influence of others. Never let rejection determine your self worth, but never let your ego determine that you have no room to grow.

[@alexandratavares6612]

People are afraid of rejection. Specially if the person is rude, it can deeply hurt someone's feelings. Different people have different personalities, you have confidence, but not everybody does.

[@laurieannegagnon]

Confidence. When you got bullied and rejected, and think that nobody could possibly like you, you won't ask someone out because you're sure they'll reject you so what's the point in getting hurt.

[@audictivomusick9121]

A girl gets so many compliments on a daily basis that it is easy for her to take all that for granted. A guy gets a compliment from a girl and he will be thinking about it the whole day.

[@QuietSnake-xs5vx]

At most 3 days

[@superuberjedimaster]

At least 20 years.

[@nicopaduamusic]

Currently going on 3 years

[@CassidyStarke]

It depends on who compliments you. If it’s the random old man from the supermarket I want to forget it as soon as I can. If it’s someone I care about or whom I like I will remember.

[@user-gn2hl4kl6j]

No. I prefer if men stayed in their lane. I don't need your attention.

[@yokonono2171]

''your way to flirt is to ignore people,' HAHA FACTS 😔

[@keely-lornekirby7370]

That job hunt grind had me dealing with rejection everyday 😂 it started to crush me, applied for over 250-300 jobs in about 8 months and only got two interviews and 100s of emails saying “unfortunately we will not be taking this any further in the application process”. People would tell me that I’m presentable, a good conversationalist and have a well structured CV but I would never get a look in on a job. But when I found that perfect job for my current situation all that rejection seemed like nothing.

[@michelle-zy5mo]

“how do I know she doesn't think I'm a CREEP!” 😭😭😭😭😂😂💀💀💀 WHEEZE

[@hanadsolos]

The girl I like doesn’t know I like her did you tell her No

[@mattmart1345]

Yes

[@brainiac.computer]

@@mattmart1345 what happened?

[@Axel-qu7qk]

Aba came prepared with the raincoat, hood on, still wasn't ready for this bullshit

[@reikun86]

Kenny dropping bars.

[@jonathanortiz6212]

I needed this, found this girl, like her, ask to hang, hung out few times, told me she didn’t like me, hung out one last time, ask her if she’s free, she already knew I like her and she told me we need to hang out less Edit: what I’m trying to say is at least I did something then being a introvert and daydream about her

[@_1_2_34__]

As a girl I can only imagine how difficult it must be for men when they feel the pressure to make the first move. I have to sympathize for him because that’s not easy. Either way, hopefully he can gain some confidence after watching the video or getting the advice

[@jmard3101]

u know whats fxkd up? being anxious not to come off as a creep xD

[@onegativenuggets7802]

As a naturally introverted guy, it’d be great if more women approached men. I’ve been given hints and missed them and I have misread actions that seem like huge hints. So now I just ignore all of them because misreading hints sucks and at this point I genuinely can’t tell what is and isn’t a hint.

[@AbaNPreach]

FELLAS. IF A GIRL CAME TO YOU AND SAID SHE THOUGHT YOU WERE CUTE. WOULD YOU BE TURNED OFF? REPLY We got another live this sunday, 2pm EST. If you wanna call in, we're prioritizing relationships where two partners are from different cultures or religions and it causes problems.

[@MaxBowyer]

Bet,I’ll be there

[@MeiaSoQuick]

What about one being religious and the other not?

[@xoxo4687]

on discord?

[@AbaNPreach]

@@MeiaSoQuick Sure

[@sethmiller805]

Just found your channel a couple weeks ago. It's probably the channel I watch the most right now. Keep up the good work! Keep that same energy!

[@Alassandros]

I've had a few women approach me of which I rejected. I was flattered, but acknowledged my lack of attraction. Sure, I was lonely and don't get approached ever, but I also won't compromise on whom I spend my time with if I'm not attracted.

[@GoldenBoyDims]

Same also I kinda felt weird when I got approached

[@AdityaPrasad007]

Are you still single? I'm in the same position... I'm wondering if I have some unrealistic standards

[@willcee4966]

@@AdityaPrasad007 you either have extremely high standards or you suck at finding girls to date. Also the more dates you go on the more attractive you become to girls. You gain relationship experience and become more confident around women. Also you’ll really get to test what you value or need in a partner.

[@danielhogan6255]

@@willcee4966 I dunno ive always had more "success" with women, when i just didnt entertain the idea of them liking me than when i go looking for dates, not saying its for everyone, but its always been better for me. Its easier to read people that way. Takes your ego out the question too. Makes it easier to see what things you want in a partner, as long as you can keep logical about it(which is something i gotta work on tbf😂)

[@wshadowgaming4854]

Once at work a girl, she was a customer, came to me and asked me out. I was in a relationship at that time, so i told her i am really flattered but i have to say no because i have a girlfriend. The rest of the interaction was a little weird, but for the rest of the day i felt like the greatest man alive! xD That was the only time a girl made a move on me.

[@sillyrockstar1984]

The only time I was ever hit on was by a customer at work. I told her I was in a relationship but was flattered which made the rest of the interaction weird but it made me feel like the greatest man alive for the rest of the day

[@theworldisimmense]

@@sillyrockstar1984 weirdo

[@Ivan-xk4uy]

The female form of Rejection is that she isn’t the one being asked out, by a guy she’s into.

[@charissemodeste6489]

Correct. Because some of us are "trained" to believe, that a man goes after what he wants. So if he doesn't come to you, he isn't interested.

[@phoenix-element]

FACTS!!!!

[@SMD2x]

@@charissemodeste6489 dumbest excuse in the history of excuses. Not coming at you as a person but the logic behind that statement is wild.

[@anne853]

@@SMD2x Yeah it's dumb and wild. But it's still what we're taught. From parents, friends, books, etc.

[@hdjones89]

Men don't always go after what they want. Especially if we feel she's out of our league. Sometimes we will settle for what's guaranteed. Doesn't mean we don't want you. But rejection is a bitch.......no pun intended 😜

[@ricardopagan7637]

The cost of misinterpreting hints is soooo high that even if they're obvious I won't bite. Tell me directly what you want, we adults and don't need that ambiguous bs.

[@oussiel6459]

Adding women that send mixed signals makes it even harder to know who really likes you. The only real way to know if a girl wants you is if she is very clear about it.

[@vishuk]

I have read this many times, girls saying "I am a strong independent women but when it comes to dating, I want the man to make moves because I am traditional in that way" Reminds me of Kevin Samuels "You want a traditional man, but you're not a traditional woman"

[@wzupppp]

2 times I told a girl I like her and I was rejected both times. And both girls did show interest at first. All the other times that I was more successful, I did it through flirting until they made a move. When you tell a girl you like her you basically give your power away. Instead talk to her, make her laugh, ask for a date but never utter the words ''I like you'' or something similar.

[@deathrager2404]

NEVER give a broad a compliment. NEVER.

[@Strwbrychaee]

this is how to avoid FAR worse heartbreak too. you can't be lead on or mislead if u both are honest from the beginning.

[@johnnyestrada6993]

You can literally hear the lack of confidence in his voice. He should really work on that first. He’ll be dead in the water asking anyone out sounding like that, but practice makes perfect.

[@justapassingbycommenterrem5642]

i'm worried he gonna get hurt cause he confessed, gonna be one of those nice guys that act all passive aggressive like ya know, that shit happens cause you ain't confident at yourself I should know, I've been there

[@robertoortiz1210]

It’s actually hard working on confidence, tbh idk how some people the same league as me have so much confidence in themselves. I’ve always had problems like these and it feels like sort of a cycle, I don’t show my feelings for a girl, I eventually lose my chance, I lose more confidence in myself, so I don’t want to show my feelings for a girl even more. I’m turning 19 soon and so far I haven’t gotten close to getting a significant other.

[@4xdblack]

Confidence is a lot easier to master than people think. It's all in the body language. Stand with good posture, make eye contact when you talk to a person, and smile. (If you got a creepy smile then try a grin.) If you keep that up, you'll look confident on the outside. And if you look confident on the outside, you'll feel confident on the inside. Fake it till you make it.

[@HenryDube72]

@@4xdblack confidence is more of mental thing that outside appearance.

[@robertoortiz1210]

@@4xdblack you see, that isn’t necessarily true. At least in my case, so many females and males have brought me down, calling me feminine or saying that I look like a child. I don’t think that females would want a feminine looking child and it just brings me down. I even considered becoming trans since so many people viewed me as feminine. I also considered becoming gay since my father would always question my sexuality that it would make me question myself. I eventually threw the idea of becoming gay and trans because they were based on what others thought of me. I don’t see myself as masculine, but I don’t feel feminine so I didn’t become trans. I also like girls so I didn’t become gay, but at the end my confidence is still low.

[@UFOhunter4711]

Men aren't psychic, neither are women

[@mrmeaty2140]

ive definitely been involved in the whole "prank" approaches, to many times infact, so now even if a girl tries to strike just a conversation my mind just goes to "ahhh shit here we go again". which i know is sad and pathetic, but thats just how my mind works

[@deathrager2404]

it's hard to break routines you ve been through for so many eons.

[@jshooper7819]

Shy or timid guys get NOTHING in our society. As a man it's impossible to be taken seriously unless you are confident, brash and outspoken. Unfortunately I speak from experience and empathize with the dude on the call. If you're a Man and you lack confidence for any reason...you're pretty much considered invisible.

[@bluetears2]

My brother is a pretty shy guy himself and I’ve always told him that rejection sucks, but if you never speak up, you will never get what you want. And mostly, if you approach a girl and ask her out and yes like 90% of the time it will be a no, she will at least be polite, given that you asked politely, at the very least you’ve confirmed, rather then hating that you never took the risk. We all face rejections in life, but growth is about bouncing back for failure, and if you’re getting 100% no all the time, then it’s time to took a good look at yourself and figure what it is that makes you undesirable, ask around, people will tell you what you need to change. Even for women it’s the same, lots of the women who end up with shitty boyfriends, end up with shitty boyfriends because they wait to be choose rather than choose. When you make the ask, the ball is in your court.

[@robertoortiz1210]

I have extreme troubles finding confidence in myself, like how am I all of a sudden supposed to be confident? As you can possibly tell by the pfp, Im a nerd and have nothing masculine about me. Many people have told me that I look and act very feminine and it brought my confidence down a lot. There was even a point in my life where I thought about being trans since everyone viewed me as feminine. I even questioned my own sexuality since my father always asked me if I was gay because he thought I did things that he viewed as gay. I eventually threw those thoughts away because they were based on what others viewed me as, I don’t feel very masculine, but I don’t feel feminine at all. I also very much like girls, so not gay. I’m almost 19 and I haven’t gotten close to a relationship :/ I simply don’t know how to gain confidence.

[@convertedbrownsfan4433]

@@robertoortiz1210 value yourself on the things a women will see in you rather than the women you have around you. Get yourself a job that makes you feel fulfilled, pay your own Bill's have your own car just take control of your life and once you stop feeling like you need validation from a women then it becomes alot easier to connect with them

[@dominiquesmith7680]

@@robertoortiz1210 Nigga you need some self reflection and time to yourself. Love and find yourself first and foremost before trying to love others my guy. And stop putting yourself down with that “as you can see I’m x y and z because of” bs. You’re 19 I’m 20 we got ways to go and much more to learn keep your head up

[@bluetears2]

@@robertoortiz1210 even if you’re not confident there must be something that you’re good at, even if you’re not good at anything, there must be something you like right? You said you’re almost 19, so you’re still very young and if I could give advice as an older sister I recommend you focus on yourself and build up confidence first. If you’re struggling with your identity a relationship will only make it worst, people bring their best and worst into relationships and if you are not strong in yourself the relationship will most likely just break you down further. If you have no confidence, start from a place where you feel the most comfortable. You said that you’re a nerd so maybe you have a subject that you excel at or even a hobby, gain a foothold from there, bring the confident feeling you have in that and start to expand that to other areas of your life. It’s going to be extremely difficult, I promise you, but think of the alternative, being stuck in a place where nothing changes your whole life, which is worst? Look for mentors, read books, start interacting with people ( at a pace in which you’re only mildly uncomfortable) offline. Luckily, if confidence doesn’t come naturally, you can build it as a skill. Think of it like learning to talk, or walk, or write, all of it was hard at one point and you keep practicing and even if you’ll never be amazing, you’ll be decent, you can do a whole lot with decent. Also a balance person is both masculine and feminine, it’s something that the older generation overlooked and ours is only starting to learn.

[@yankaclementi1935]

I got rejected. I went up to a guy (in high school) in front of his friends and asked him if he wanted to go out. He full on, loudly said "Why would I want to go out with you?" and started laughing. It was great, I always ask guys out now because nothing will be worse. Take the L.

[@DreJr]

Women don't get that there are numerous other women giving the same 'hints' who when pursued have absolutely no interest in you for whatever reason. Friend zone, it amuses her, etc. After a while many just ignore hints unless it's blatant. It's a trap.

[@beefmode1119]

Idk are we talkin blatant disrespect/rejection or shit tests? There is a difference in the two and the outcomes vary vastly. I’ve had initial shit test which may have seemed like disinterest turn into a good night/few months 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@TheUnique69able]

True. Those “hints” always are because she wants to stroke her ego in someway or just mess with a guy so that the girls can laugh about it.

[@mcpoopypants4195]

@@TheUnique69able oof. well, no. we're not stroking ego or messing with you to make fun of you later, we arent that malicious in that sense. the "hints" are because some of us are just as scared of rejection as you are. that mindset is going to keep you from finding someone. women are not out to get you :I

[@bunnihunniexe]

I've gotten rejected everytime AND IM NOT JOKING LITERALLY EVERYTIME i've asked a guy out and i always make the first move by saying "i like you" Bc that hint shit is so stupid but like it rly gives me anxiety to even think about how embarrassing it would be to hear the words "I'm not looking for a girlfriend rn" again and afterwards they just go after somebody else.

[@annefrank4652]

If only white women were like u? But gud for u. Takes a lot of courage 🙃🙂

[@BrookMaboyi]

As a guy, I respect you for that, it takes a lot to make the fist move, sad thing is that shits never guaranteed for either side.

[@henriquebilbao1851]

Mixed signals and hints is not how you ask people out. The day a girl walks up to me in public and asks me out... IDK, I might go crazy

[@onegativenuggets7802]

It’s happened to me before and holy shit was I freaked out. It caught me by surprise because I always thought I was really ugly. I ended up being anxious for the rest of the week trying to figure out if I was selling myself short.

[@MelissaLona]

Yea I've been throwing BLATANT hints for a minute and he was just clueless. I finally told him and he was like sayyyyy wordddd (super happy) 🤣

[@calypsoqueen]

This video is 100% facts lol. Easier said than done, but just go for what you want. Rejection is part of life. It sucks, but you learn and move on. SN: I LIVE for Preach’s shimmy’s at the end 😂

[@ebf336]

My friend's dad always used to say "Nothing from nothing is nothing." Perfect example in this context. If you ask someone out and they say no, you've lost nothing in the process

[@sedled2829]

Yes and if a girl I'm not interested in comes up. I'm way more sensitive to her feelings. Cause I've been there and been kicked while I was down. So why would I do the worst

[@novawolfx232]

I agree with y'all that if you like someone doing little coy hints aren't gonna be useful and you shouldn't get mad that they didn't get them but some people like me have genuine communication dissorders and issues. I'm autistic, have extreme social anxiety that's so bad I can get panic attacks just from women talking to me extremely forward and that's on medication. So for people like me we can't just go up and tell them either so I wonder where does that leave me. I don't believe giving small coy hints will tell them but also I struggle to even communicate to most women.

[@jamesvanbergeyk2353]

Aba and preach can’t really advise you on what to do because their goal, who they are, and their audience is people who are regular and capable. I guess my only advice to you is this: be antifragile. Condition yourself to get slowly get less and less anxious around women.

[@novawolfx232]

@@jamesvanbergeyk2353 yeah thanks for the advice I know they can't help and their not here to give advice to fucked people like me I just thought I'd give another perspective on it for people who aren't "normal".

[@Cat-mk6yl]

Dating apps are great if you have social anxiety! Plus it gives you a wider variety of people, you could meet someone who understands where you're coming from. I met my husband on tinder lol

[@user-eo9to7wd2t]

@@jamesvanbergeyk2353 There’s no such thing as “normal.” We’re all different and you don’t need to shame him for his disability.

[@bellagarzia9653]

Lmfao. When I asked out my current bf I literally just went up to him, told him he was cute, and asked him if he wanted to go on a date. 2 yrs now😭

[@user-eo9to7wd2t]

I need your confidence😭

[@creativityunblocked6816]

Interesting. Who paid?

[@philu3]

You're a unicorn. For one of you, there's four thousand other women who will say that they've shot their shot simply by being in the same club as the guy.

[@jayhovah5621]

Here's the thing most people in general are going to be weirded out when a FIRST happens. First day of school, first time having sex, first time driving. I would assume the first time a woman got asked out by someone they didn't notice before they were awkward about it to. Chances are if the guy isn't within the 7-10 range on the looks scale, he's never been asked out before. Just add their awkwardness into your game plan of asking them out. Expect and work with it.

[@6ixlxrd]

Bruh, that profile pic had me for a moment 😂. I was like: “How tf KZbin letting him slide like this?”

[@kingfriday.]

@@6ixlxrd I thought the exact same thing

[@judywalter9412]

The pfp my g 😂🤚🏽💀

[@ithem0nst3r]

I hate it when women give signals at work. The last thing I want to do is dip my pen in company ink. I don't want any drama or get falsely accused again.

[@Bomtyers0161]

Again 🤨

[@ithem0nst3r]

@@Bomtyers0161 unfortunately, I got kicked out of college and almost lost a job by two different fefails at the same time. The last college I went to feminists made a facebook and instagram of me and we're making racist and sexist post to try and kick me out but by that time the college was on to them so nothing happened. They had cried rape so many times that finally nobody believed them. It pisses me off that they claim we live in a patriarchy when all it takes is one lie to destroy a man's name and reputation.

[@SOOS_23]

One time some girl i was crushing on straight up asked me out and i panicked and said no cause I didn't know what to do 😭

[@Cosmiccoffeecup]

😂😂

[@amiedaniel1591]

Damn, I get the feeling tho

[@unapologetic7281]

You silly🤣

[@durnel2001]

If a girl asked me out I'd probably get a panic attack lol

[@onegativenuggets7802]

I’m a super introvert and I’ve had a girl approach me and it was so awkward lol. Especially since she asked my age, said “oh”, walked away for like 5 minutes then came back and THEN asked me out. After she walked away I looked stoic and calm but inside I was scared and anxious af. Second time around I got a good look at her and she looked much younger than me and must’ve thought I was her age Bc I’m a short guy. And I fumbled over my words trying to reject her politely. Ruined my mood for the rest of the day.

[@VestaPridePkChannel]

It's a trap!

[@MW-dd8vk]

Do you ever get put in the situation where you know you like each other and she asks you out. But instead of saying yes the nervous adrenaline kicks in and you say something awkward like “Maybe we should get to know each other first.”

[@graffaths]

"You're letting your fear hold you back. You're in stuck in purgatory, you're not going to heaven or hell." Wooosh needed to hear that. Also you took this dude's problem seriously and gave him a sincere answer, I am impressed.