Imposter Syndrome Sucks | FEBRUARY MONTHLY VLOG 2019

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

I am reading through these comments and legit crying! It comforts me to know how common these feelings are...a KZbin friend just uploaded a video about Imposter Syndrome too and she said that apparently 70% of people experience it in their lifetimes. WE DESERVE WHAT WE'VE WORKED FOR - we need to keep telling ourselves that over and over until we believe it fully

[@ruthsdyspraxiacontent]

Yes - going to put this on my little post it wall which is getting me through slightly haha

[@kylielynne]

Hey! I was wondering if you know where I can pre-order your novel in Canada - is book depository doing it? I can't order from Amazon UK sadly and it doesn't appear to be on Amazon.ca... yet

[@lizza92222]

Was that friend perhaps Sorelle Amore? Because if you haven’t watched that video, I was going to suggest it! Also, you wrote a book and had it published! How many people can say that?! Don’t let others negativity affect you! ✨

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

ooh yes book depository does worldwide shipping & has my novel! xxx@@kylielynne

[@kylielynne]

Melanie Murphy amazing! I can’t tell you how excited I am to read it. I am an English and creative writing teacher for grades 10-12 and I truly adore the way you tell stories on video so I can only imagine the magic you’re created on paper.

[@bretteelana189]

Dude!!! You built up a following because of the hard work you put into this channel. EVERY opportunity that may fall at your feet is because of the work you have already done. You wouldn't get book deals or other projects if it wasn't for the time and effort you have already put in to shine through on the internet. Own it. 💚

[@maymadison3620]

Yep plus her talent!

[@21georgie]

Melanie You got this chance because you are intelligent, creative, talented, real, and incredible!!!!you don’t need to have a phd to justify writing a novel. You don’t need to anything other than be yourself to write a novel. You don’t have to justify your success to people that are clearly jealous and trying to sabotage your joy. Send them love and compassion to help them resolve their own issues, you are not the issue.It’s not luck that brought this opportunity to you, it’s your beautiful soul that works hard and shares all the awesomeness of who you are, and is meant to bring this wonderful book into the world!love you and all your work, keep shining your beautiful bright light in the world, it is so needed and so much appreciated💗💗💗

[@susanmccraith8963]

Can I just say, writers are writers. No matter how ‘qualified’ they are. YOU DESERVE THIS! YOUVE WORKED SO HARD! We love you and of COURSE we’re going to read your book and love it! MELANIE MURPHY, YOU ARE AN AUTHOR. AND WE ARE SO PROUD AND YOU SHOULD BE TOO! WE BLOODY LOVE YOU!!!! Xxxxxx

[@lisadgingersnaps9843]

Yeah, that👆👆👆👆

[@FoodieForce]

The saying fake it until you make it, exists because basically no one has it sussed. Everyone in any walk of life whether famous or not never feels worthy of their accomplishments. The writing of your book was no easy feet, it took blood, sweat, tears and hard work. Don’t undermine yourself, there are a thousand people waiting in the wings to bring you down. Girl boss it x

[@JudithSamp]

Melanie, don't feel like a fraud! The world has changed, everyone that does not use social media and wants to make it in this world is a hypocrite. Everyone should start with social media, if you want to do anything creative or want to start a business. Not the best ones become successful, but the ones that start with what they have and what god has granted them. You worked hard, started early, in a time where it was weird to do youtube. In 30 years, things may be different and you could say "remember the times where I had all these opportunities and I didn't use them because I didn't want to come off as a fraud". Most successful books aren't even good, it's all Marketing and coincidences. Please, use every resources you have, you have the ability to live your best life, god has granted you this big following, so use it! Do everything you can and don't care about whether people will like it! It's a book that you want to write, it comes from your heart and that's all that matters!! You are living the dream, don't let jealous people take you down, please melanie, you are amazing!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ And: every new author is advised to start their social media, it's normal now!

[@DamienBroderick]

Dude. Don't ever feel just way. You work so hard. And is there luck involved absolutely. But luck is nothing more than when preparation meets opportunity. You earned this. And many of the people that are the worlds best at that they do don't have "formal" training. Keep killing it man

[@LiviLaree]

Imposter syndrome is very hard. I am a woman in the sciences, and I experienced imposter syndrome a lot when I attended my first scientific conference. It came after my advisor told me I could never get into a PhD program with a C in my genetics class. After I did my first research project though it really solidified that I was a scientist. I think celebrating the small accomplishments helps fight imposter syndrome. Like acknowledging that you are working really hard towards a goal and no matter what other people say, you know you worked for it. Congrats on turning in the structural edit of your book! All this time you are putting into the novel shows that you deserve this opportunity because you are working so hard to finish this goal. Cheers Melanie!

[@charlotter224]

I study english literature and i would never have the passion or commitment to write a whole book, studying texts just proves how much effort you must have put in to achieve this!! So, so proud of you- don’t let jealous people ruin what should be a time of celebration 🎉🎉 love you and your channel 💚

[@constancellc]

It's not your job to wonder whether you should be writing this book, that is 100% the publishers job. Let's be honest here, everything in life has a huge luck component. All we can do is feel grateful for the opportunities provided to us, and do the best we can for those who gave us the chance.

[@rewopnelle]

Melanie, you don't have a degree in film making, yet you've won an award for your short film. Just because you don't have a degree in English, does not mean your novel won't do equally well! There will always be begrudgers in this world, but as my granny always said "don't let the bastards grind you down". You've worked hard for your success and I've no doubt that you'll reap the rewards xx

[@charlottedawson6166]

You do not need to have some terrible tragic backstory and you don't need to be rejected before being accepted to produce and to create something successful. People don't just 'get lucky' with things like that, you can get lucky by winning a competition or by winning the lottery but you have worked so so hard to be where you are today, it has all came from dedication and hard work that you have put in. You can see your dedication and determination though the screen, especially when you're talking about things you're passionate about! Thank you for sharing that thought with us also. You deserve everything good that has came your way and all of the good that is going to come your way

[@kyliemonson2815]

Also, my boyfriend is in the military and we are counting down the months until we get to see each other again in “monthly Melanie vlogs”. 2 vlogs left! 💚 They make me so happy and uplifted

[@thea1347]

I know this video isn’t about ibs but thank you SO much for making videos about it because it gave me the push to finally go to the doctor and get diagnosed ❤️

[@marissaclifford4882]

I'm sooooooo proud of you for writing your first fiction novel! I never heard of imposter syndrome, I'm so sorry to hear you've been feeling that way and the loss of your Grandmother at 16! You should not be ashamed of your imposter syndrome! I'll be sure to look it up and see if there's any suggestions I can find on what might help it!!

[@memoirsofagenevieve]

I was impressed by your writing style and voice in your memoir. I’m excited to read your novel. This talent and skill is also why you’re getting an opportunity to write a novel. Congrats

[@marianeenriquez1782]

I love that you shed light on the behind the scenes nitty gritty life of a writer. It so nice to see that I'm not alone in feeling these things, and as an english major, can I just say my degree does not spare me from these dibilitating doubts. Good luck to you and I hope to see your work in bookshelves in my corner of the world.

[@aammyylusjuds]

the music used in this video, so calming makes me sleepy! you deserve to use any opportunity open to you, everyone does so take it and enjoy it!

[@TheMakeupChair]

Firstly - LOVE the dark hair!! Twins!! I was gonna change mine back to light brown but now I'm like Ohhh she's rocking it maybe I can't try to rock it half as good then cause it looks so good on her!! Second - I know exactly what you mean, my book, the whole thing - was so difficult. I struggled with it all, I had been writing my book since I was 14 and here was this chance and I could barely cope, it was overwhelming I rushed to finish it because I couldn't deal with it because of the headspace I was in - I kept saying - Sineadycady is the one writing the book while Sinead is just broken inside. I am writing a second one slowly, no deadline, I am scared of the headspace coming back again so I am taking my time, even if it's like 5 years till it's done, I wanna do the one the 14 years old me wanted! I think when you give so much to something you run on empty but you are Melanie Murphy gosh darn it!! You aren't an imposter, THIS IS YOU, this is who you were ALWAYS going to be, road less travelled but you took it and you used it to find your way and worked to this, you deserve this!! Thirdly, I know the grandmother feeling, mine sadly has dementia so it was bitter sweet when I showed her my book but I know she's proud and your grandmother is too and I am proud of us xx

[@melaniemurphyofficial]

awwww SINEAD!

[@allisonschardin7132]

I came across your channel looking for advice to deal with IBS and I love your energy and the broad range of topics you cover. I think your personality is so engaging, relatable and your accent is so fun! PS you are so beautiful and I love your message of body positivity!

[@jade_maus_]

Sweet Mel, you have to remember that all the people saying you’re only getting this deal for being a KZbinr are discrediting all the work you did to become that person. You know in your heart you’ve been a book and writing lover from the moment you had bones to feel it in, so whatever path you took to get there and live this out MEANS you deserve it. X Y and Z aren’t the only letters in the alphabet, just because you start below, behind, or next to the “right” starting point doesn’t mean your end point is wrong. I started school as a marine biology student, graduated with two degrees in communications and psychology, now I’ve been accepted into art school as an interior designer which I’ve recently found is my true calling. I’m so passionate about this field, artistically talented and creative, but I felt I didn’t deserve this admittance in comparison to the others who have been focused on this path since the start, whatever that means. F*ck it. I’m gonna kill it, you’re gonna kill it, we can’t be imposters if we are only being ourselves.

[@cateyyy567]

I think imposter syndrome impacts all creatives. I think anything creative deserves to be out there. No matter who the person is. What their background/education/following is. You're doing amazing Melanie. Keep going. ♥️

[@kimtreadway8543]

Hey Melanie! As one of your older subbies, I want you to look back on this time of your life with fondness. Please do not sabotage your joy and success due to the ignorance and insecurity of others. Social media can be a blessing and a curse. You worked hard and deserve to reap the rewards, so do not doubt yourself for a single second! Embrace this wonderful time of your life! Molly is so pretty- I remember when you brought her home. I so enjoy your vlogs especially when you travel- seeing every county in Ireland is an exciting idea! I have long wanted to do that in my state of Tennessee. You take care and keep a smile on your beautiful face, ok? XXOO

[@vaalbikers]

February for me was also the month for Imposter Syndrome, it felt soooo bad and it brought me down for the majority of time. It was such a negative month for some reason and I felt very guilty because life’s good you know? I’m luckily feeling SO much better now... I swear, mental health is distirbing sometimes. Hope you get to feel better sometime soon, love you! 💕

[@diamondp143]

You work hard! You deserve EVERYTHING you have achieved. Anyone who tells you otherwise is projecting THEIR jealousy towards you. Positive ppl exude positivity and negative ppl exude negativity. No need to pay any attention to them. Do not question yourself...you're here because of your talent & dedication!!!!!!

[@bextree]

Melanie, as someone who has followed your channel for quite a while, I can say that based on my own observations you've been a storyteller for a long time. Your KZbin content is a reflection of that. And who cares if your path to publishing was a little unconventional? Plenty of people have unconventional paths when it comes to writing. If you have the time, I recommend reading Victoria Aveyard's publishing journey. It's very different from the typical, query 100 times until you finally get accepted, journey, and she's still a successful author who has respect in her genre. There always going to be people are jealous of others. You are you because you put in all the time and effort to be successful. Be proud of that and own that!! Much love 💚

[@TheAubreyNichole]

You’re absolutely NOT a fraud. You’ve been given book deals before, you were born to write, don’t do that to yourself, the whole vlog was my favorite, It’s appreciated that you share so much with us, you’re an inspiration to other people trying to do the same as you.

[@bettinak.4]

I like this: The creative process 1. This is AWESOME 2. This is TRICKY 3. This is SHIT 4. I AM SHIT 5. This MIGHT be OK 6. This is AWESOME No one "deserves" anything. Lots of people have their chance that they miss. Keep your chin up girl!

[@es2595]

Melanie, don’t stress about being “not good enough”! You are perfect and we need your books. I once heard a writer saying: “Your stories don’t belong to you. You have to share them with the world, someone needs them”. For some reason those words inspired me to write.

[@heatherjo1906]

I LOVE your monthly vlogs... your music especially is just so jolly and relaxing and I love that you are visiting all the touristy places, I feel connected to you because that’s where we visited when I first met Ireland 💚

[@InshasChoice]

I can't begin to imagine the pain of losing someone. I always hear, read and see it with my own eyes, but I've yet to experience it - nobody can escape death. There's no denying that a part of you goes along with them, but you learn and you grow and the memories they've left can bring you solace.

[@user-rp3kn4pr5j]

Please keep going Mel, and remember that we all love and support you so much!!! I know how physically and emotionally draining writing can be, with all the rejections and negative responses from other people and yourself. Please don’t feel like you’re only getting this deal because of your KZbin following, if what you were writing was crap, you would NOT be getting this deal. Please please please believe in yourself and your ability, and write about what you want to write about, not what you think will sell. I know it can be so horrible and degrading but PLEASE hang in there and know that we all love you so much and it will all be worth it in the end when all your beautiful writing is out there 💕😀

[@wanderingwallawalla]

As a fellow English major let me assure you that I know first hand how pompous English majors can be. At the University I attended creative writing was included in the English degree which meant I had to take multiple writing classes where we read each other’s works and just because they are English majors doesn’t mean that they have the talent, imagination, or ability to tell a riveting story. I can relate to imposter syndrome, and just discussing it I think will help a lot of people come to terms with the feelings of inadequately, self-doubt etc...

[@ciarax1448]

I’ll never understand people who sit behind their phones/computers and send hate towards people they know very little about. You’re not an imposter, or a fraud. You deserve every award you’ve received and the awards coming to you. I’m really excited for the new book! Enjoyed the vlog too.

[@daniellehurrell6620]

I'm late to the comment game, but MEL, we love you and everything you have to offer us. Your candor and transparency into your real life is amazing. You are NOT an imposter. You're one of the most real KZbin people i can think of and I am forever grateful for that. Thank you! 💚

[@WernerEdgar]

To be honest, I would be worried if you didn't have imposter syndrome... NOT BECAUSE I THINK YOU ARE, but because anyone of sufficient intelligence and empathy will feel unworthy of great success... simply because none of us are, but that doesn't mean you should feel bad about it, you worked very hard and got lucky and that's completely fine! I would not be interested in reading your work if you thought you did deserve any large level of success. Your reality check will keep you grounded and make sure you will not settle for anything less than greatness. So what I'm trying to say is that you don't have to think you deserve your success, but at the same time accept it and make the most of it. You are awesome because you are humble, never forget that. Now stop worrying and just make great works of art, not perfect ones, no one has ever done anything great by only accepting perfection.

[@francescadevito1603]

Melanie nobody deserves this opportunity more than you xx you are so talented and so many people rely on your little corner of the internet 💚 don't ever feel like your not good enough 💚 WE ARE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU 💚

[@clandestinecxv]

THANK YOU for mentioning imposter syndrome in this video!! I have been feeling so much of this as I am starting a new job in 2 days with a lot more responsibility and experienced people around me. It can be so difficult to process but I have to keep reminding myself that hard work and talent provide the foundation and those "lucky" things that happen are just giving us the opportunity to capitalize on what we have worked so hard to create! You're such an inspiration and I know you put your heart and soul into your novel and thats what matters! 💚

[@lizstubbs2969]

My favourite part of the vlog was seeing you all smiley and happy with Thomas 💚

[@mollyaitken4399]

Melanie it's so normal to have imposter syndrome as an author. I got a book deal this year and as soon as I got it I didn't feel like I deserved it. What's really helped is chatting to other writers. Your book will be loved because you are loved. It won't be for everyone but that's good, everyone likes different things. Don't feel guilty for having a following either. You have worked for years on building this lovely community. I say all this but I know myself that it's hard to get rid of imposter syndrome but I hope you know you're not alone.

[@zoekam5499]

Thomas startling ya and your off camera accent: best parts. 💚💚

[@thatrunningirl]

i've been a freelance advertising writer for 7 years, before that i was a writer for 5 years. being self-employed is also a bit 'imposter syndrome' territory since it's very feast or famine. sometimes you're stacked out with work and other times all your clients vanish and you wonder whether anyone will ever get in touch again. i've written for so many big household names and i didn't follow a linear path. my degree is in graphic design/media studies and i got into copywriting when i left uni. i just worked my way up, it took a LONG time but i finally got there. ever since i was 9 i wanted to be a writer and at 32 now, i feel like i have accomplished a lot. you can do it, just keep believing and don't doubt your ability or passion x

[@laurenmichele6806]

Most of my favorite writers never studied English or writing formally at university. Don't let the fact that you don't have the "right" kind of degree stop you from pursuing your interests and dreams! 💚

[@Sandarrraa]

I love you Melanie, I really do! I came to Dublin for 6 months and the first thing I bought was your book, my first book in english. And let me tell you - it was amazing!

[@emeliekjellerstedt6837]

The feeling of not being enough or that you are not as good as everyone seems to think that you are is definitely a feeling that I bet many well know people have had at least once in their life. However, these people are still successful to this day! If you are still worried about the unrecorded mass that wasn’t successful in what they were doing, remember that they are probably still trying to this day. Their lives aren’t over. I’m telling you though - you’ve got the right prerequisites to not walk that path. You have worked hard. You have an amazing, honest personality and a KZbin channel to share these thoughts on. Your subscribers are here to listen to you, not because we would like you to be someone else, but because we like you for YOU. If your hard work is going to pay of differently than you thought it would, that will only give you the chance to choose another path which will give you what you’ll need. We are still going to be here and support you, and so are your family and friends. I am however, still convinced that you are only worried for nothing. It is going to be fine. 💚

[@loonylenny96]

Been suffering with Imposter Syndrome this month after losing weight and getting fit, but the success isn't mine! I haven't really earned it! Advice I've found is to surround yourself with people who know you're doing great, who'll assure you your success and achievements are well earned!! As an aspiring author, you really resonate with my brain recently! Chin up, Melanie, you're amazing!!

[@Sarah-xy7dx]

Melanie, I would just like to say that as long as you put every bit of yourself into the things you love, you will never be a fraud and will always deserve the good things that come your way.

[@pucks4754]

I’ve only been to Ireland once and I visited Glendalough, it was so beautiful but I kind of forgot about it. So when I saw your video I got transported to my trip to Ireland again. That’s the power of KZbin!! And the power of you. You are so intelligent, hardworking, and very kind. I am happy that KZbinrs like you exist. So thank you for existing. I hope that you can find peace with your well deserved success. 💚

[@canineeverything]

I struggle a lot with impostor syndrome too. I try to remind myself that most successful people in the world have some amount of luck involved in achieving their success. You can acknowledge that you are lucky and still believe that you are worthy and deserving of the opportunities you get (which you absolutely are!). It's hard though - sending hugs 💚

[@zeapippilottevanderelsken425]

I’ve been to Glendalough and it’s so GORGEOUS!! Also Mel.. You’ve put SO much effort into this channel, so it’s only logical you get these oppertunities! It’s hard earned, love 💚

[@daughterofmu]

Melanie, never apologize for living your dream. Unfortunately many people will project their own negative thoughts onto you. Perhaps because they are not reaching their own potential. Hopefully someday they will. Please don't take that energy on. Feel proud girl, you earned this. Xx much love. Xx

[@ryantrue4844]

I'm not sure if I have imposter syndrome but I've been employed by the same people for 4 and a bit years, 19 months of that was training and learning the job yet I still feel like I shouldn't be sure and don't know anything at all and that I'm shit at the job

[@raewojcik5612]

Thank you for sharing, Melanie. I'm working on my second novel and have totally dealt with those feelings before. But if there's one thing I've learned, it's that a writer is someone who does the hard work of writing. It doesn't matter if you went to a fancy school or have read all the classics. If you wrote the book, you're a writer! And you deserve to feel the joy of seeing your hard work released to readers

[@Jyoka]

The feelings you are experiencing are so relateable. I´m pretty sure almost every writer is doubting herself/himself and has some kind of "idol". What helps me while actually writing is the thought that I´m writing this story right now for me and only me. It`s just me and the story. I´m writing it because I love the characters, the story, the world I created. It´s mine and my experience and no one else has to do with this. Sure I want others to enjoy what I created, like I enjoy books someone else wrote. But in the moment it is all mine and I´m writing for the joy. All the thoughts about other peoples opinions like "Is this good enough to be launched?" "What would others think about this decision?" "Is my writing style good enough and enjoyable?" These thoughts are not helping while you are writing. Sure, you have to think about the quality of your writing and have to improve your skiil. But it will shut off your process. You should think about this when you have finished, settled down a bit, got a bit of an "emotional distance" after some time (not just hours but days or weeks) to your work. At least this is whats helping me. Kinda doing it like a kid who is not thinking "is this good enough" or "do I deserve this" but is just enjoying itself.

[@akanksharawat4235]

These vlogs are soo soothing and honestly they bring me to focus on my goals again . You motivate me Melanie 😘 💚💚💚💚💚 and ive been following you for soo long now. I thing precisely 5years and three months . And trust me you are doing wonderful and all that success is well deserved. Thomas is soo supportive and he has such a clarity about life. Both of you are my favourite . Lots you love to you ❤️💕💕

[@victoria-louisesweet767]

You completely deserve the book deal. I'm working full time and trying to make animation videos for youtube at the same time as writing a play for the stage and rehearsing for auditions. It has made me realize how much work and dedication goes into creating a following! I feel like I need to dedicate more of my time on videos because my channel will grow quicker if I post more regularly but I also need to concentrate on my mental health. You've done it! Every week you've shared your life which takes so much courage and that vulnerability has, in turn, connected you to hundreds of thousands of people. I'd recommend mindfulness because it really helps me when I'm stressed. Every time the thought that you don't deserve what you are getting comes up. Notice it accept the thought and how it makes you feel and let it pass like a cloud. Can't wait for the book!

[@molly5376]

I love watching your monthly vlogs and remembering snippets that I’ve seen on your social media’s in full! ❤️

[@molly5376]

also to those who say you shouldn’t have got the book deal... didn’t you get offered one years and years ago before you were as popular on KZbin as you are now? you’re a brilliant writer and I can tell by how well written your first book was. fuck em

[@serendipitytwo777]

Ur not a fraud. The fact that u got ur dream after working hard and going through ur own struggles...is the story of ur life!! Let this doubt be a chapter at most from your book. The doubt keeping you grounded and then you get to take flight again. Ur a lil inspiration melanie. X

[@bloodrayneg]

Wow, this video and another one by Sorelle Amore, both mentioning imposter syndrome, released in the span of 20 mins :D

[@tashan9141]

i was looking for this exact comment!! haha

[@laranorrish2238]

they are right beside each other in my sub box, such a coincidence!

[@nala3055]

@@laranorrish2238 same omg!

[@eternalserenex]

Melanie - I had to pause the video to let you that imposter syndrome is sooooo real. I qualified as a mental health nurse last August and I have struggled with imposter syndrome so much. You are going a GRAND job, and you can see and feel your passion and enthusiasm for what you do. As long as you love what you’re doing, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks ❤️ xxx

[@huzatron_]

Don't listen to negativity, PLEASE!!!! I know it's easy to say, but just try and realise your worth. I personally cannot wait to read your work, and you should be proud. I love you !! 💚💚💚

[@TheresaAlberti]

Aw Melanie -- don't let the bastards get you down! I'm a writer in my 50s and I've had my share of rejections over the years as I struggle towards my own successes. Don't worry, you'll have plenty of more opportunities for rejections in your future! ;-) You have worked so hard for many years on building up a KZbin channel and putting out quality content, and that has given you an audience. The world of publishing has changed so much, and writers now have to prove that they do have an audience or the potential for one. GOOD FOR YOU that you have built that part already and so now you are able to get book deals. That's wonderful. And I've been so inspired to hear about you working on your books and putting in the long hours of writing and editing. I look forward to seeing what you've written.

[@toriwolvesful]

you do not need a degree in English to write, it comes from talent and hard work and maybe a bit of luck. You are talented and everyone is excited for your book to come out, YOU DESERVE THIS.

[@denisemendoza507]

Oh gosh Mel, I follow you almost from the beggining and I have seen you grow up, went to so many things, blessings and also bad moments but I am proud of you because you have achieved most of the things that you wanted to do and one of them is writting that book, so go ahead Mel you are so lucky to have this opportunity and I'm sure you are going to do the best with it. 💕

[@rebeccasatchell1547]

You 100% deserve this chance and thousands of people are so happy that you’ve been given it so they can read your book! Working hard pays off 💪🏼 x

[@SazBerry]

1. 33:27 - 33:30 just keeps getting funnier the more I watch it 2. I have two cats, male and female, and they both LOVE having their bums scratched 3. There is no one I can mess around with (and scream at) more than my little sister and it's the best! 4. I'm currently in the process of submitting my art portfolio to colleges and the imposter syndrome is *REAL*, thank you for talking about it so openly

[@gilliangalloway9001]

The way Thomas looks at you 😍 It gives me hope that there is someone like that out there for me! I fully understand the imposter syndrome feeling... In my experience you are usually your own worst critic! No matter the circumstances don't ever doubt that you deserve success... If you work hard and have passion for something you have earned it no matter what the circumstances! ❤️ Keep being the amazing human that you are!

[@natalieastravars]

I’m so sorry that you feel this way. Even a stranger like me or any other subscriber knows that you’ve worked your bum off to get to this point and you do deserve all the love and support and recognition. Also, I’d love to see a favs video, I’ve been missing them a lot!

[@maneskinnnnn7190]

a lot of people who will be reading your fiction books might not even watch youtube or know that you are even a youtuber, you will probably gain a whole new audience from just your novels, who won't even consider that you only got your novel deal because of the fact you are a youtuber. So just ignore the haters, youtube is full of them. You could be the next jk rowling! your books could even be made into a movie one day! we as humans are programmed to constantly doubt ourselves, and anyone who says they don't is lying. good luck, you deserve this xo

[@heartbreakerink8696]

I never really knew what imposter syndrome was but this video has opened my eyes a bit and it really stuck a chord with me. I didn't realise that what I was experiencing was a real thing so thank you for spreading awareness about it. I hope it improves for you.

[@tehmedulla]

It's so sweet how Thomas is so supportive! 💚

[@whoisjohngalt17]

You teach people to dream big. That you can do anything with hard work. Thank you, thank you, thank you. It's your life. No one has a right to be bitter towards you.

[@bcahill17]

GIRRRLLLLLL, you got a god damned book deal! No ifs, no buts, no maybes! No jealousy will bring you down or take that from you. Totally understand the feeling and it's easier said than done sometimes but enjoy every second of the process that you can. You have a following because you are a creative who has EARNED her audience. And you now have an opportunity to show that creativity through another avenue. Believe in yourself, back yourself. Others jealousy is nothing to do with you (and I mean that only in a positive way). Your having a book published is taking nothing from anyone else. There is room for all of us and those who work hard and are good enough will all have their time. Keep going dear.

[@dbandia]

You've got your journey. It's no one else's. Accept the opportunities that come your way. You absolutely have earned them.

[@celinefitzpatrick5309]

Your hard work and your writing will speak for itself! Don't let people put a damper on your dreams and blame you for taking advantage of opportunities that came your way because you're brilliant!

[@luftschloss2352]

It breaks my heart that people are saying these things. Anyone who actually read your autobiography knows how talented you really are and that you legit earned this second book. I can’t wait to read it 😊💚

[@annabellebuttery6565]

I felt similarly after getting into performing arts college. After 6 months I still have my moments where I feel like I don't deserve to be there surrounded by such talented people who have been classically trained since they were babies (unlike me). It feels like a flook to be put in the same category as them. What we need to remember is luck doesn't exist. I didn't get lucky I killed my audition. You have worked so hard to get where you are today you didn't get lucky. It took you years of hard work, sacrifice and focus to get here and you're now living your dreams. Enjoy it count your blessings everyday. ❤❤

[@eviesharp17]

I hope you’re doing well Mel! (rhyme not intended!), thankyou for being real with us about your emotions and experiences. sending you all the love and i’m super proud of you 💚💚

[@amandagosio]

I love you so much girl, not as a fan but as a human being. I think you navigate this public life so well but I can see how heavy the pressure can be for genuine people like you. Know that not everyone watching is hyper-critical of you. I sincerely am excited to read your book (especially as an English major who loves magical realism!) and I get excited every time you post because I think you bring something very real to this platform that I strive for in my life as well. I SEE a real-live flawed beautiful human being when I watch you, the same kind of person I see when I look in the mirror. You are not an imposter because sharing that self through your videos has been a force for good in so many peoples lives. You worked for it, you're finally here achieving your dreams, and I really hope you savour it and can feel joy because of it. Keep fighting that negativity

[@graysonj.8235]

I love to watch these while I wait for the next to come out

[@kyliemonson2815]

Melanie this was one of my favorite monthly vlogs!

[@justlizashton]

I’m crying right now! Your words hit home so hard when you were talking about Imposter Syndrome. I am struggling with the same feelings currently and I just want to come right through the screen and hug and kiss you so hard!💕 I guess life is about feeling these sort of things sometimes and we just have to stick together and support one another as we go through them. Love ya bunches! ♥️ (Also, I love to write poetry and I suppose it is just a natural talent of mine because I have no degree in English or writing of any sort! ♥️ 🙈)

[@jessicamarie7721]

thank you for making a slow day at work bearable! lol. ps: you worked hard to get here, you have the support to accomplish your dream of being a writer because so many people care about your voice and what you have to say! the fact that people would say it's irrelevant because you didn't suffer more to get there doesn't negate any of that. you deserve to be where you are, and the world needs you to share your stories and ideas. thank you for your inspiring videos, they push me to meet my writing goals and chase my dreams as well💚

[@kaitey233]

your story of imposter syndrome had me balling. Im in my first year of being a lawyer and had 3 different mistakes I made come up this week so imposter syndrome has really been kicking my ass all week. thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing

[@fionabeansidhebanshee1161]

My dog loves bum pats as well :'D Fun aside: Melanie. You deserve writing and publishing this book! Even though you haven't got a degree in English literature. It doesn't measure worth nor quality. You put so much effort in your book and so do literature PhDs! Don't ever doubt yourself and if people are rude, never take them seriously. I think what Thomas told you about the teacher in the class is so very true! Much of love to you and cannot await June and your book!

[@BelindaArchaeologist]

Mel, imposter syndrome sucks ass. I’m a PhD student and I battle with it everyday. Luckily, I don’t have strangers on the internet telling me I can’t. But you can and you are and your book is going to be released and the feeling of accomplishment is going to be next level. Focus on the outcome. Focus on how excited your Grandma would have been holding it in her hands. I know it’s hard to cut out people bullshit and hard to not talk so negatively to yourself too. But you can. Because you are going to be a publish author. I am proud of you.

[@manonwell6947]

I enjoy your vlogs sooooo much!! All your videos in general, but especially your vlogs. They are always interesting, very well made and edited. And the musics you choose are always bomb! Don't let a few people get you down, you know the work you put into your novel, and the book editing world isn't handing out candy, so if you made it, it's because you deserve it and you owe it to only yourself

[@EmilyHeartsCookies]

I love how you incorporate Irish elements in your videos, like the music etc. I love learning about countries through youtube. Los Angeles is not the center of the universe :p

[@Zoe-pw8eg]

Qualifications don't prove anything about yourself, if you have talent you have it don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Lots of people feel like this and it sucks, especially when it is a talented well deserving person like yourself that is doubting their amazing qualities and skills . I really liked your first book and I have been looking forwards to getting my hands on if only since you started talking about it in your videos. You have helped me so much with how I view myself and how I feel with my mental health from your content in your videos so I want to the k you for that and just say how much I appreciate your honesty, openness and make people feel like they are not alone. You are amazing and I love you content, I love what you do

[@ruthsdyspraxiacontent]

So proud of you for talking about impostor syndrome with emotion! I'm sure you're 100% a great writer (I struggle with writing and it's not even just mindset). I'm possibly struggling with impostor syndrome too (certainly depression and anxiety) about dissertation and final semester of uni even though I've got good marks so far. It's a hard thing to go through so all I can offer you is positive affirmation/love and kindness meditations, doing a hobby you feel confident in your ability at and letting yourself be looked after so you can get some slow stability in life and you're not too pressured x

[@ruthsdyspraxiacontent]

and I totally get this thinking about the work when you're not in work thing.. that's awful! Sending you love and luck (sorry spamming your comments :') I've finished watching the vid now aha)

[@Yvonne1137]

One of my favourite series ever is written in a style I don't like. A bit to teenage-y and cheesy. But the story is amazing and it is STILL one of my favourites. Also, I can't stand some of the classics. So your book doesn't need to be perfect to be amazing. As long as the story and emotions are there! Also, the publisher would never want to publish your book if they did believe in it and you. And there are loads of people that don't have a degree in their field and still excel. You deserve this chance, you earned it! I just needed to vent this, cuz every time you spoke about feeling like you didn't earn it made me sad and made me tear up.

[@anasofia87mex]

Yessss on the reusable coffee mug! Not only for the plastic lid.... But for trees, cutting less trees, and changing the reckless culture of single use trash endless creation. 💚💚💚 Also kissing reusable glass Mason jars for those smoothies...

[@chloerosewescott3097]

Would really love to point out that just because some writers do have English degrees, it doesn't mean that we are good fiction writers! Academic essayists, hopefully, after three years of writing them. But creative writing comes from a different place. It always helps me to rationalise my imposter syndrome thoughts like that! You're killing it Melanie!

[@valeniricibar6644]

Right. Had to hit pause and comment. My mother always says “imagine if those people invested the same energy that they’re using to be mean in something different. Where would they be in their lives?” Maybe if those idiots spent less time and energy trying to bring people down, they’d be much more successful. The following you have is a result of years of effort and consistent content creation, it isn’t “luck.” And if they think that just because the book deal may have been facilitated by your following the process of writing a novel is any easier, they’re absolutely wrong. You’re putting in a monumental effort and deserve your successes. Their petty frustrations reflect nothing about you and it’s a shame that their low blows hit home like this (it makes sense that they do, though: don’t compound the imposter syndrome with guilt about having it!). Last thing: I’ve also suffered from this and the most important things is to talk about it. When I did, I found that people I admired were in the same boat. You’ll find that MANY in your life are going through the same thing and in the end, absolutely nobody feels in control or completely deserving all the time. So you’ve already taken a very important first step to tackle this, sending you so much love and good vibes! Apologies for the long comment, hope it helps! 💚💚💚

[@raquelalbert6283]

It is absurdly normal to feel that way, you shouldn't tho, because you are really deserving of all the great things that are coming your way. Remember you worked hard enough to get there, you invested in yourself throughout your whole life to get your where you are. The work you put in in your education, youtube channel, instagram and all areas of interteriment made you hit your goal. You did got lucky too, and you might not have struggled like others had, but that doesn't mean you didn't work at all and recived everything on a silver platter. I feel so inspired by what you have accomplish, and i wish you can see that about yourself soon as well.

[@lisasmart91]

For anyone suffering with TMJ.. I was in pain with TMJD for SO long. I did everything that was recommended.. Including splint, facial massage and exercises and reducing stress. I eventually had a wisdom tooth removed from the side that was in pain.. VOILA! TMJ was gone. (I had a weird root that they thing may have been the cause) Wisdom teeth are actually pretty redundant so if you're suffering maybe it's worth trying to figure out if your wisdom teeth are the cause :-)

[@mirandamarvin6489]

Mel, I’ve been watching your videos for 4 years now and your passion for books and writing is one of the things that has kept me coming back as I love them too. I remember you talking about your fantasy story that you were offered a (bad) book deal for years ago, which proves that you have talent! As a person who has a lot of friends working in creative fields and struggling to be successful, I understand where these people are coming from, but they clearly don’t know your history with writing. I think jealousy and envy in creative fields is particularly potent because it is so hard to be successful. Also with so many KZbinrs releasing books (of varying quality, many of whom probably did only get they deal because of their following), I think unfortunately you all get lumped in together. However, you SHOULD NOT feel guilty or that you don’t deserve your success! You are super talented and the fact that it’s the relationship with your grandmother that you associate with your writing journey is beautiful. You deserve all the amazing things that are coming to you, and I for one am super excited to read your book!! 💚💚💚💚

[@mirandamarvin6489]

Also I love that you went to Glendalough, it’s one of my favourite places in the world 🥰

[@beadc7627]

I love the celtic-like music in this vid so much

[@megan1282]

I absolutely love you, you are the most exciting part of my month! i feel like we should live our lives for the people we love who have died instead of not living at all, it makes me feel better to think that my grandma is watching down being proud of me 💚 i can not WAIT to read your book with my shite chocolate 💚💚💚

[@fabiennehurkens]

37:55 I love how we see you buying your reusable cup in one shot and having a full plastic cup in the next haha 😂 love you