Incompetent Cervix Pregnancy Loss 21 wk Pre Term Delivery. Losing my Baby

[@pikemmaxyx9805]

I recently lost my baby in ends of April due to the same circumstances just a little differences here and there. Your video helped me feel like someone understands what I felt and feel like. Especially the part when you said how you felt when you came home. Everyday gets a little better as I come to terms with it and find peace with it but I’m still grieving and I’ve been hiding It. It seems like everyone moved on and thinks I’m okay. People will never understand how painful this situation actually is especially since it just happened like 3 months ago. I hope our babies find eachother in heaven and are able to send us all the love and support we need. Thank you mama, many blessings.

[@d0misworld962]

It’s been almost 3 years and it’s still hard. I don’t think people could ever understand this BUT we definitely have each other! 💕 And I know your Angel knows they were very much loved. Blessings to you 💗

[@Saroc_]

I recently lost my babygirl at 19 weeks due to an incompetent cervix. Our stories are soooo similar. I had a normal pregnancy and never had issues with my cervix. I didn't even know what an incompetent cervix was! I am so happy I found this video, it is helping me in my grieving process.

[@sholandacharles2725]

My story is the same too .I lost my son at 24 weeks

[@shellowu07]

Exactly the same as my story except I had fibroids so mistook the pain of early labour for a fibroid pain flare up. I gave birth on Saturday at 18 weeks and 4 days. Still working through the grief.

[@kairatliff1323]

I lost my baby at 22 weeks on Dec28,2022 thanks for letting me know I’m not so alone sorry for our losses 😔😔😔

[@Aysha3724]

Same here i lost my baby at week 20weeks I was under high stress n harrasment from my in laws I miss my daughter a lot. Thanks fpr sharing

[@lalaredding8643]

I just recently lost my baby girl this past Saturday due to an incompetent cervix. Our stories are similar and my pain is unbearable. I feel everything you described and I am just at a loss at excepting this. We bury her on Friday and im tore up inside about it but I thank you for telling your story. I don't have anyone to try again with but I believe my rainbow baby will come when the time is right. In the meantime I will try to heal and hopefully be at peace with this.

[@d0misworld962]

I’m so sorry… but know you aren’t alone. Talking to other mommas helped me a lot, and may give some help/tips for future pregnancies if you decide to try again. Our girls know we will always carry them in our hearts forever. Praying you find comfort and peace 🙏🏾💞👼🏾

[@lalaredding8643]

I would love to talk to u if u wouldn't mind I am struggling especially now during the holidays please if u know any programs or any moms or anyone I can talk to please let me know

[@d0misworld962]

I’m always available. And yes there’s some great support groups out there. I’m part of Incompetent Cervix Support Group on FaceBook

[@lalaredding8643]

Yes I requested to join their group

[@janyl818]

Hello, I appreciate you sharing your story. I just went through the same thing 2 days ago. I made it to 22 weeks and 2 days. It was very difficult and heartbreaking. It’s not your fault. We did the best we could do. ❤

[@adjoy]

The way you were talking to the baby and telling the whole story was exactly how mine happened. If i knew anything at all about water braking i think it would have been better. Thanks so much for sharing, God bless you.

[@iamshay128]

I lost my first at 21w 0d sep 2nd 2023 because of my short cervix. Then October 22nd 2024 of this year I just lost my 2nd son 22w 0d bc of my short cervix. I’m so sad and scared and atp I’ve given up on myself and my body. I feel a little good seeing other women going through it knowing yall can relate but I don’t really feel good bc you guys are going through it. It’s a sucky feeling and there’s just nothing we can do about it. I love you all❤️

[@YvonnePotterton]

My heart breaks seeing so many replies of women losing their precious babies to this condition still. My experiences were 23 and 22 years ago. I had my first son at 21 weeks and then my 2nd at 26 weeks. Both were born sleeping. Sadly they didn't diagnose incompetent cervix until I'd lost my 2nd son. I needed a lot of healing and was terrified of trying again. I heamorraghed so badly with my second due to placenta praevia and was very sick needing transfusions and nearly lost my womb completely because of the trauma. I took 4 years to heal, travel, buy a house and generally restore my body. This next pregnancy I had a macdonald cerclage placed and went onto bedrest at 16 weeks. I did this twice more and now have 3 sons... 19,15 and 12! Yes... you read right, I have 5 boys! lol My reason for posting is that I want to say never give up hope. You will be a mummy! Your heart will be forever changed from the trauma of the loss but happiness will be found in time. Like me I felt very hopeless at times, not even knowing if i'd ever be brave enough to try again. I wish there had been community of ladies who had been through this to connect to who had been successful with this condition, it was really lonely. I desperately wanted to know it wasn't hopeless. So I want to post here.... its not hopeless, please don't give up on your dream of parenthood. And the grief does get easier, you will be happy again! Sending so much love xxx

[@shellowu07]

This is very encouraging!! Thank you for sharing your story ❤. I lost my daughter in November at 18 weeks and I am currently 7 weeks into my second pregnancy. I will be getting a cerclage in some weeks and believing in God for the same wonderful outcome you experienced! 🙏

[@hannaa7191]

@@shellowu07 I lost my baby at 19 weeks November 22. I was and still am devastated, I am 16 weeks now and got a cerclage done 2 weeks ago, how’s your pregnancy going? I hope we can make it to the end zone. ❤

[@ChristinaSharae]

lost my son at 18 weeks 11.14.22 to incompetent cervix as well I’m so sorry you had to go through this too wish nothing but hope and healing 🙏🏽

[@jasmineowens5052]

My story is so similar😩 i recently went through this 8/18/22! Sorry for your loss and so happy you are coping

[@breanna886]

I just lost my daughter at 20 weeks pregnant to incompetent cervix as well. I would have never imagined that I had an issue and if I did, I would have stayed on bedrest for the entire pregnancy if I had to. This is the worst thing I’ve ever been through. Prayers to you and hope that you are doing better.

[@vizcaya959]

I just lost my son at 24 weeks recently as well. I feel so much anger towards the doctors because they never told me how high risk this was, and didn’t get the cerclage done. Hope things get better for you

[@breanna886]

@@vizcaya959 And same to you love

[@pearlicap7693]

Just lost my daughter last Thursday at 19 weeks because of the same reason. I pray healing for us all. 🙏🏿

[@2611Lover]

Lost my baby two weeks ago at 16 weeks. I'm going back for a pelvic scan and transvaginal scan in two weeks. My doctor believes I have a incompetent cervix. God bless you

[@therealmellyb]

If no one has told you. You absolutely ARE a mother. ❤

[@d0misworld962]

Thank you 🥺💕

[@miaborte3561]

I just lost my son last week at 22 weeks and 1 day due to an incompetent cervix. My experience was very similar to yours so thank you for sharing and making me feel a little less alone. Thinking of you and your daughter ❤

[@cloudygigi2270]

I'm so sorry for your loss and for the loss of the other women that went through the same. My daughter just loss my grandbaby to this, 29wks everything perfect like the lady in the video and most of you. I'm here because as a mother to my daughter, I don't know how to help her other than listen and be there the best I can. It hurt so much to see my baby hurting 💔 I guess I'm just venting! I am praying for each you!! 💚💚🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@d0misworld962]

Thank you! 🥰 Try to be there for her however she needs and encourage her to talk to someone. Therapy was sooooo much help after. I found a therapist that specializes in infant and child loss 💗

[@jadeasante4992]

Thank you for this ..3 months ago we lost our son at 21 weeks .. PProm . Same incompetent cervix. It literally is an I describable pain that no one can ever prepare you for.

[@d0misworld962]

It is! My daughters third birthday is next week and it’s still hard. But continue to speak about your son and carry him with you always 🙏🏾💙

[@nasteha874]

The moment I see when you are at the hospital I broke down into tears 😢 stay strong dear sending ❤

[@shellowu07]

Same- that part made me cry. On Saturday we tried to do the anatomical scan but my daughter had already left the womb and was entering the cervix so I couldn’t see her but they could hear her heartbeat. The physical and emotional pain was some of the worst I have ever experienced. I don’t know how I will get past it for now but I will by God’s grace 😢

[@Kay.1117]

In April of 2011 I had an experience almost the same as yours. I was 24 weeks the nurse laughed in my face and told me I peed on myself. I told her I know I hadn’t peed. Tested and it was negative. I had set up an infection and they didn’t even test me for it. That night doctor showed up checked me and my felt my sons foot. By that time, I was extremely sick from the infection and all they had me on was fluids. I got rushed to a high risk hospital. They told my mom that my son and I weren’t going to make it. Before this I told them if it came down to it to save my son. These doctors didn’t tell me nothing only my family I was left in the dark completely. Next thing I know I’m delivering VERY ILL. Somehow god had other plans for me and I’m still here. Got pregnant in 2017 and had a very similar experience even tho I changed doctors so many times and explained to them my situation. Until I made it to my final doctor at 20 weeks. She knew what was going on but it was too late for a stitch or anything. They gave me the test to see if I was going into labor within the week. It Came back positive. My dr then gave me steroids and admitted me. I went on to stay pregnant up until 34 weeks. It was a miracle. He’s now a healthy 6 year old. I’m so sorry for your loss. There’s no feeling like leaving the hospital not pregnant and without your child. I’ve wanted to get pregnant again but I’m so scared to. Edit: I hope you have your beautiful rainbow when you’re ready.

[@talonnieross1496]

I just lost my baby boy Monday at 15 weeks because of a incompetent cervix and it was a very traumatic experience your video gives me some comfort

[@d0misworld962]

I’m so sorry for your loss! It is extremely hard but I promise it does get better. Nothing will replace your angel but there are options now that you know you have IC 💞

[@samycja]

Went through this same thing yesterday, lost my son at 20 weeks. Everything was going so well one night just contractions and pain went to the ER my sons feet were literally coming out. No choice but to deliver. Worst pain ever thank you for sharing your story. It relieves me seeing your radiance and your positive outlook through the hard times ❤

[@d0misworld962]

Thank you… and so sorry to hear your story Momma. I pray you find comfort and know your little angel will always be with you 🙏🏾💙

[@YvonnePotterton]

So so sorry for your loss! I had 2 losses, my sons were born at 21 and 26 weeks. Both were stillborn. But now I have 3 strapping boys after having the stitch placed. They are teenagers now. Never give up... you will be a mummy again and get to keep them with you. Sending so much love. The pain of the loss is unbearable.... so sorry x

[@akeloshan8973]

How long did u wait after loss​@@YvonnePotterton

[@YvonnePotterton]

@@akeloshan8973 We took 5 years off from trying to emotionally heal. We travelled, bought a house and just recovered some from the trauma. x

[@AquaBritt125]

Thank you for sharing your story and I’m so sorry for your loss. It gives me hope. My story is very similar to yours. Also have PCOS, conceived a perfectly healthy daughter, and two weeks after the anatomy scan on December 22nd she was gone. 😢 I had a cerclage and it failed. I am not well right now and it’s so hard to see a light up ahead because I feel like even when I do get pregnant again, I’ll always be looking over my shoulder for her still. 💔 I am starting a support group like you said. Hoping that helps my husband and I somehow.

[@d0misworld962]

Yes! I know it’s rough and I felt the same way. Seems like you’ll never be happy or feel joy again, but you will. It takes time. And talk to someone… that was the best thing I ever did. Not because it changed what happened, but it can help change perspective. I joined a support group on FB and there are so many stories of women who were successful after loss. It will never replace our angels but I’m glad I’m alive and healthy and able to try again 🙏🏾💕 If you guys choose to try again I would find a OB who is patient and supportive. This will help ease some of your fears and handle any future concerns. Wishing you healing and peace Momma 💗

[@AquaBritt125]

@@d0misworld962 thank you so much. ❤️

[@jeojones9656]

My story is also the same would be interested in joining a support group as my husband and I are devastated. Sorry that anyone has to experience this type of pain.

[@gayathrikittu3285]

Which month did u go with cervical cerclage

[@d0misworld962]

@@jeojones9656 I am in a PCOS support group on FaceBook

[@jabeenk9476]

Your story touched me so much . My story is very similar to yours . It’s so hard and I grieve her everyday. It’s only been 2 months since I lost her. My heart feels empty.

[@d0misworld962]

First and foremost I’m sending hugs and so much love your way 💕 I can’t say it gets easier but time really does help. Also finding a way to channel the emotions and just let it out. I went to therapy and started walking. This helped a lot with relieving the anxiety and just overall depression. Even though your angel isn’t here, you still get to carry them with you every day 🕊💗

[@jabeenk9476]

@@d0misworld962 ❤️

[@justlooking4me]

Thank you for sharing. I lost my baby girl Monday at 16 weeks.

[@rachelfeist8122]

I lost my twins, Amelia and Felix, 2 weeks ago at 21 weeks due to incompetent cervix. I miss them everyday.

[@d0misworld962]

I am so sorry to hear that momma. Know they are always with you. And when you’re ready talk to your doctor about options for future pregnancies 🙏🏾

[@shanigayle3637]

I feel your pain I loss my twins on September 5 2023 they were just 21 weeks I cry day and night

[@ericaf.5468]

Your strength friend!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@ekanayakalahiru2210]

Thank you for sharing.I lost my two babies.

[@peppleA]

Thank you 😓 it’s hard

[@robelynpalima5561]

I lost my first baby boy last April 2, same story , incompetent cervix. Until now I’m still coping up .

[@d0misworld962]

Yes. My daughter will be 3 in a few months and it still feels like yesterday 🥺💗

[@beckyalero4909]

@@d0misworld962 I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter 💕 how are you coping now? I lost my baby boy to IC in February 2021

[@rachellephillips658]

Sorry for your loss

[@teeredd3313]

This made me hurt so bad I love babies so much it hurt for babies to go before even getting to live life❤️💗

[@michelled9321]

Your story is also like mine.. currently pregnant with twins at 18 weeks. Cervix completely open. No options for me at this time. My babies are ok and in sac which hasn’t ruptured. My only option is to terminate. How can i take their life. In the end its either my life or theirs and I already have a child. This is so hard

[@d0misworld962]

The difference for me is my bag broke. They can test your amino fluid to see if there’s infection, if not you have the option for cerclage. If they refuse get a second opinion. Also ask about bed rest and vaginal progesterone. You still have options! Don’t let them push you to terminate. I had to be induced because of broken water and infection. I would’ve never been induced otherwise. Good luck Momma! 💕

[@d0misworld962]

We also tried several interventions before. Termination should be last choice once all else has failed. If they aren’t even talking about other options and just pushing you to terminate go to a different doctor immediately!

[@musicbeats8559]

Emergent cerlage can be done . Why doctors dint gave that option

[@sholandacharles2725]

Your story sound so much like mines ..I lost my baby at 24 weeks same thing happen to me.. I have a emergency circlage but it still didn't help my baby still keep coming after the procedure.. my baby had an infection. I had to make the decision before my womb get infected..

[@sholandacharles2725]

I had to deliver my son at 24 weeks because of infection..I had to push that baby out

[@sholandacharles2725]

My son also had a heartbeat when he came out

[@sweetcandyyams]

@@sholandacharles2725 Omg. I’m so sorry for your loss. Did they try to save your baby? I had an emergency c section at 24 weeks because my cervix was 10cm dilated and my baby was breeched. He is currently in the NICU fighting for his life he has been in there for 18 days. I’m so sorry that you had to go through this.

[@evachameletika340]

I lost my baby at 21 weeks last month on 28/03/23 I understand your pain to lose your daughter God is good 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@sangeethakandasamy4394]

I lost my baby boy at 20 week on 22/03/23😭😭😭

[@NaseemAkhter-xm1yk]

I lost my baby boy at 24 weeks 23 /.10/2023😢😢😢

[@ankitasen4668]

I lost my baby boy at 22 weeks.. this November……i just want him badly….everyday is a torture for me….

[@d0misworld962]

So sorry to hear that momma. Sending you prayers and lots of hugs 🩵

[@nidhidhar9542]

I lost my baby girl 45 days back to an incompetent cervix at 22 weeks. This is my story too.

[@d0misworld962]

Sending Lots of Love your way Momma

[@thehindsfamily2023]

Just lost my triplets at 23weeks +

[@d0misworld962]

I’m so sorry! Sending lots of love your way Momma 💓

[@jennyrahman2403]

Sorry for you I also lost 2 baby coz of weak cervix

[@gayathrikittu3285]

Did u done cervical cerclage

[@beckyalero4909]

Our stories are so similar ❤️ thank you for speaking on this, I know it must have been hard ❤️❤️

[@d0misworld962]

Aaaaaaw ❤️ Shout out to you momma. And yes this is my first time actually publicly speaking about exactly what happened. It’s just so personal… it was hard 😩 but I know I’m not alone. Wishing you well and lots of baby dust if you decide to try again ✨💗

[@Infinite-count]

I am just 5 weeks with an open cervix

[@Luckyamma312]

When did you conceived again??do you have a child now

[@bergemarie3249]

I really don't feel like planning another funeral is there a way to avoid that

[@d0misworld962]

Yes there is! Talk to your doctor and come up with a plan of action before you even get pregnant. We really should be doing this anyways. I did before I even started trying. They usually call it a “Family Planning” appointment. After I lost my daughter me and my OB went through all the preventative steps we will take next pregnancy. And If you don’t feel like you’re getting the support you need from your OB find another one! While there are no 100% guarantees things like the stitch or TAC greatly improve your chances of a successful pregnancy. And if you’ve had multiple losses you should qualify for an abdominal and that has something like a 98% chance of you making it full term. So there is hope!

[@bergemarie3249]

@@d0misworld962 thank you so much for replying. i had a vaginal cerclage that just failed I'm trying to not to be so hard on myself but i just can't see myself having a funeral

[@d0misworld962]

Yes. But thankfully there are different cerclages and also options on when to do them. The earlier the better! That’s why I would come up with a game plane with your OB. Good luck mama! Dont give up 💕

[@bergemarie3249]

@@d0misworld962 thanks you.... Many blessings to you. Thank you for the video and the information

[@DMG.91]

@@bergemarie3249 hey if you don’t mind me asking when did you get your cerclage put in? Me and my fiancé just lost our son at 21 weeks

[@maplebunny3089]

I thought babies can get help stay alive at 21 weeks why didn’t they help your daughter. I’m sorry for your loss I pray a rainbow baby in the future for you and your family

[@mlishiairby3555]

I'm so sorry. I lost my son last October. Pregnant again but now my cervix is short. I'm on progesterone and may have to get the stitch if it continues to shorten. It's been normal until my mom came to live with me. I'll be 21 weeks tomorrow but having mini contractions I'm writing this from the ER right now. I'm so sorry.

[@d0misworld962]

Stay strong Momma! You got this 💪🏾💗

[@mlishiairby3555]

@@d0misworld962 thank you. Got the stitch about 2 weeks ago and doing good. I feel like imma go full term this time

[@muskanmaan3455]

​@@mlishiairby3555 which week you delivered your baby. ?