WHAT TO EXPECT | Miscarriage at 8 weeks + chemical pregnancy

Two months ago I shared that we had a miscarriage. Despite it being a few months after the event at the time I still couldn't talk about it in depth. Through my healing I watched so many videos here of women who had experienced the same or a very similar situation. I always knew I wanted to open up about ours in more detail.
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[@LisaBerg805]

Thank you for this video! Thank you for speaking openly about what you went through. Thank you for not making a miscarriage at 8 weeks pregnant seem like nothing happened. Wish you all the best ❤️

[@gailhenderson7196]

I had 3 miscarriages before I had my daughter, followed by another miscarriage before I had my son, then another miscarriage before my youngest daughter so I empathise totally with your situation. Don’t give up because you will get there in the end! I now have a granddaughter too! Sending good vibes to you ❤

[@annamilenamariani3751]

Did you ever find out why? Did you take any medication? I have a healthy daughter followed by 2 miscarriages, one with twins. I need reassurance that I'll have more babies, I want to be a mom again so badly😢❤

[@gailhenderson7196]

@@annamilenamariani3751 no I never found out why. I was very depressed before I had my first daughter but when I had her I realised that I could have a baby so just put it down to the fact that some pregnancy’s front make it. I think twins are more likely to miscarry, so don’t give up hope. You will have another baby I’m sure. It’s hard to deal with I know. Xx

[@annamilenamariani3751]

@@gailhenderson7196 yes that is true. I think I could also accept that maybe we are more prone to miscarry, as long as I know in tge end I'll have my 3 children that I long for I'll take the hard road to get there. Glad you were able to come to terms with it and got your beautiful family in the end. Thankfully I just turned 30 so hopefully I'll have some time to get there ❤️ every child is a miracle. All the best to you!

[@gailhenderson7196]

@@annamilenamariani3751 I was 32 when I had my first daughter, so you have lots of time. I’m 65 now and have a 2 year old granddaughter 🙂good luck on your journey xx

[@annamilenamariani3751]

@@gailhenderson7196 to you too ❤️

[@cantocant2346]

Sometimes there isn't an answer to Why? I've seen anorexic, drug addicted women conceive and carry multiple times. It is mostly out of our control. I hope whoever is reading this knows there truly is no personal responsibility when it comes to miscarrying. It is a tremendous loss we must grieve and then find peace.

[@theglowberries3608]

Laura, I was so moved by your account of such a traumatic experience. So eloquently explained you will help countless women by sharing this.

[@beckya9884]

Thank you for talking about this so openly on this platform. I went through a chemical pregnancy last March and literally had no idea what it was prior to it happening. Miscarriage isn’t spoken about openly enough and I feel like it should. Talking to my family and friends about it after it happened was so therapeutic and really helped with my healing. Also, as a fellow Type A personality, I can relate so much to you with the tracking, vitamins, pre-seed, grapefruit juice discussion. I definitely fell down the conceiving Internet rabbit hole! I now have a healthy 3 month old baby boy and, although the journey to getting him wasn’t the easiest, I can certainly say I appreciate every moment with him and do not take even the late nights/lack of sleep for granted. I wish you all the best on your journey. Sending you and infinite amount of love and baby dust from Canada ❤️

[@debrap947]

I miscarried my 3rd child at 21 weeks. To say I was devastated is an understatement. Part of my healing has been naming him, remembering him, and not "hiding" him. Even having a little goodbye "service" for him. Sadly miscarriages are all too common, I could write a book of all the friends and loved ones who have had them, 😢. You are doing all the right things Laura, so sorry for your loss. But just wait, once you start having babies your home will be filled to the brim with utter joy!!! 🤗

[@daniellealauqaili8991]

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my first and 3 more later and remember feeling so scared, heartbroken and alone. This is going to help so many women. ❤️

[@SeaTurtle515]

Dear Laura, you are very brave to share all of this and I’m sure it will help many women who watch your channel. I had 2 miscarriages in a row and I had 5 live births. Miscarriages happen sometimes for mysterious reasons that has nothing to do with our health. My only advice at this point, is don’t get too caught up in all the testing, as it will increase your stress level. Keep enjoying your life as a couple together, stay healthy and have a lot of ‘romantic’ times. Sometimes our bodies need more than just a few months to get back to normal. Try not to take a pregnancy test too early, yours could have been a false positive. I understand it is hard to not be hyper focused on this. I wish you and Ollie the best. 💕

[@janewolfe9137]

Thank you Laura, the more women share, the healthier women will be- both mentally & physically. Thank you.❤️

[@sairdie]

You are amazing, Laura. You will be helping so many people navigate a truly devastating experience and that is such a kind and generous thing for you to do ❤

[@savmhj23x49]

Thank you for this video Laura! I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks followed by a chemical pregnancy the following month. And now 4 months on I am 14 weeks pregnant with a seemingly healthy baby 🤞🏼 just wanted to say it’s completely normal to hang onto the hope of falling pregnant again/getting a pet to help you through the dark times. The only reason I was able to get through my losses was the hope I was going to be pregnant again, even now I still have days/nights where I cry for the babies I’ve lost. There’s no right or wrong way to deal with losses ❤️ I wish you all the best on your journey xxx

[@Chareads]

Thanks so much for making this Laura. It's clear from your level-headedness in filming that you've done a lot of processing, and it's really admirable to have the confidence and peace to share your journey. I know most days are rougher than this, but it's wonderful to see you feel positive and hopeful about the future. Rooting for your family! Also re: documenting, I've made a couple of vlogs about having long COVID and they are so precious to me, I'm 100% sure you will treasure having captured your state of mind at this time, no matter how things progress. Sending lots of love x

[@saraidancy4958]

Thank you for this video. I recently suffered from a placenta abruption which caused my son to be still born at 32 weeks. I have spent so much time looking for women’s experiences like my own. It’s incredibly helpful to talk with other people when you are in the thick of it. I’m so sorry for your losses 💔

[@Vickssszhhh]

Thanks for sharing ❤ I had 3 miscarriages since 2020 and I had 3 failed rounds of IUI, this year I had a appointment for IVF but two months before the appointment I found out that I was pregnant again, now I am 11 weeks 🙌🏻 I’m trying to be positive and have faith that everything will be alright this time…

[@stelladowsett7151]

Sadly, I don’t have children or ever been pregnant. No medical issues, just wasn’t meant to be. However, if I were in the situation where I could be pregnant and suffering a miscarriage, I think your video would be so good to watch. Just to know what is happening, when it is happening. It must have been hard to go back over and talk it out, but to know you will be helping others by sharing your story, I hope gave you comfort. I wish you and Ollie the very best outcome to your journey. You will make great parents. Sending lots of love to you both. PS. I am now going to Google ‘chemical pregnancy’ as I’ve never heard that before - every day’s a school day! Take care Laura.

[@lauramitchell6725]

I have never heard of that either,let us know what you find out.

[@stelladowsett7151]

@@lauramitchell6725 Glad it’s not just me then! I did Google it. It’s a very early miscarriage that happens within five weeks of pregnancy.

[@lauramitchell6725]

@@stelladowsett7151 Any explanation for what the term “chemical” means?

[@stelladowsett7151]

@@lauramitchell6725 It didn’t really explain the term ‘chemical’ but whether it’s because the pregnancy can only be detected by a pregnancy test, not by any external clinical input like an ultrasound. The pregnancy would end so early that there would be no signs of the pregnancy that could be felt or heard. Strange term.

[@lauramitchell6725]

@@stelladowsett7151 Thanks,strange term indeed.

[@deborahdoll4111]

Dear Laura and Ollie, from my heart so sorry you had to go through this. You have to do do what you need for knowledge. Before you start your journey of discovery, try this…. Dive into your remodel, fill your time will activity, don’t focus on getting pregnant for awhile. Letting go will surprise you. Nine months of trying and crying then we moved. I was so busy I forgot about it for awhile. Five children later, it was the best thing I did for myself. My mother had 5 miscarriages yet 7 children. You will have a baby. Truly relax and let the mysterious beauty of new life to happen to you. Love to you both.

[@samanthaw1419]

That was my best friend, obsessive TTC, nothing for years. Accepted for IVF, she relaxed and waited..two months later pregnant, then another baby 18m later. Sometimes I think science can hinder us in someways, a few years back you wouldn't have known you had a chemical pregnancy..you would just have been late. Information can be stressful and cause worry. Relax.

[@deborahdoll4111]

Your right. I’m 65 and we didn’t take a test till we had skipped two periods. Several times I was late and yes, who knows. I had a friend who experienced three miscarriages. I had three by then. I took my antique bed to her house. Set it up when she was out of town. I wrote a note saying it was the baby making bed. She and I had babies two months apart. It’s not scientific in body but in mind!

[@anniereck501]

I really appreciated your honesty in this video. My husband and I are on our fertility journey and it’s so tough. Hoping for a happy and healthy baby for you!!

[@samanthaostrowski6755]

Hi Laura, great to see you. One piece of advice I would like to pass on is please remember the positive things. You are both still young, so you don't have the biological clock ticking away. Also try not to let getting pregnant become an obsession as it can really put a strain on your relationship and your mental health. I know this is easy to say . I must admit that I have never had a miscarriage, I just found it really hard to get pregnant in the first place. I was 36 when I got married and I thought I'd get pregnant on our honeymoon but it didn't happen. My age was against me and every year that passed was heartbreaking. I just wanted to know what it felt to be pregnant. Anyway , long story short, after 5 years of trying and 2 rounds of IVF I was pregnant with twins. In 2007 My son and daughter came into the world and now they are 15 years old. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Take care.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@emu9520]

It’s powerful to share your story Laura…it can really help. I had 6 miscarriages and 3 rounds of ivf. My baby is 1…I hope it gives hope to anyone who needs it

[@lindawilliams7347]

Linda, I had a miscarriage at age 39 after being told I could not have another child after the first at 21. I was so happy after having surgery for a repair caused by a coil put through the wall of my uterus. In two weeks I was pregnant and so happy all was well until I got to 12 weeks and I had just told everyone and I miscarried. The disappointment was terrible and was into hospital for a d and c . No internet then no friends in a new area and no mum. Husband felt I needed to do something and bought Fabric for me to redo the dining room chairs. This was not the answer but getting pregant again was fantastic and just before my 40th I had my wonderful ben who is the love of my life and now he is 30 and I am 73 and I still can feel the pain. Lovetoyou

[@madeleinelewissmith1229]

Right there with you--miscarriaged at 8 weeks in November and still not pregnant afterwards. It's weird and painful, but sometimes okay too. Wishing you luck with testing! We're starting ours this summer too.

[@Marion-tz5hb]

This will help so many women Laura. My heart goes out to any woman going through this. Such a vulnerable time ❤️

[@sharlenekennedy5380]

Thank you Laura. For myself after seven years of trying and many IVF treatments I was finally pregnant. At around the same time as you I had a gush of blood and I remember the doctor saying to me on the phone “If it’s going to happen, it will happen”. That was one of the worst, most fearful nights of my life. I am pleased to say that my beautiful boy held on and was born later that year. We were only blessed with one child but he is my heart and soul. Don’t give up, when the time is right, you know the rest……….❤

[@charkisseslotte]

Thank you for making this Laura, it takes real strength and grace to share such heartache. Sending you and Ollie all the luck and love in the world. Be patient with your body and be kind to yourself always xx

[@robinzaleski5]

Thank you for sharing your experience and helping to normalize conversations about miscarriage. I've been following your channel since the video about washing the nicotine off the dining room walls and I love that your content is about your real life and not sugar-coated. Wishing you and Ollie (and Otto!) all the best. 🤍

[@CharlotteRumsby]

My heart aches for you, but your positivity is so warming. A lot of TTC videos all have very positive outcomes and never show the struggles, so thank you. It’s not an easy journey for a lot of people and it absolutely needs to be spoken about more ❤️

[@sheiladouglas5258]

Thank you for sharing your journey. ❤ I am 70 years old and I still remember the pain and heartbreak. I had two miscarriages at 3 months into each pregnancy. It was devastating and my heart breaks for you having to go through that. It does take a long time to heal physically and mentally from a miscarriage but you will. My husband and I finally had a baby at age thirty, a miracle for sure. I had another miscarriage at age 40. We quit trying after that. We have a beautiful daughter, son in-law and and 11 year old gorgeous granddaughter. Blessings Abound. ❤ My prayers are with you on this journey!🙏🏻 May God bless you in a mighty way!❤

[@snapshot1386]

I understand the heartbreak of wanting to conceive a child. I was trying to have my third child and believed it was going to be as quick as my first two. But about 7 years had gone by and I guess things changed in my body. From going to being sure I had conceived to getting my period was crushing. I cried so much. I just prayed every time hoping to hold on to each pregnancy. Finally, I missed my period. I was so hopeful. I felt my body going through changes. Then, I started staining. I went to the doctor and he said I was pregnant, but I was losing the baby. He gave me vitamins because he said I am going to be losing blood. I just cried all the way home. I had already falling in love with that baby. That next day I noticed I wasn't bleeding anymore, Then the next day and the next day no bleeding. I started taking so many pregnancy test not being able to believe I was still pregnant. It took me up to the second trimester that I could really believe I didn't lose my baby. I loved your story. It was so very informative for women. I really believe it will happen for you both. You are a lovely couple who deserve it. Thank you so much for sharing!

[@hollywood7702]

You are so brave to share your journey. We were so stubborn and tried to get pregnant for almost 4 years and not once did I get pregnant, looking back I cant believe we didnt just seek help after a year. But no, I (since I thought it was all my problem we didnt fell pregnant) had to try all the things first with lifestyle changes, vitamins, ointments, yoga, meditation, rituals and god knows what, and the whole long list. After we finally visited an IVF clinic and found out my one ovary was obstructed and I had to remove two fibroids during two surgeries we also found out my husband had a low sperm count, so we were sent tome on a whole foods vegan diet full of fresh fruit and veg and supplements and after three months (this was our own choice as we wanted to go about it as well as we could) he had upped his count from 13mil to 22 mil so we were super happy. We proceeded with IVF and now have twins, boy and girl =) Good luck and Im so happy to hear you are willing to find out answers, it takes all the guesswork out, there is no way I could have done anything personally about my blocked ovary and those fibroids and we would have never known my hubbies low sperm count either. Some people sneeze and they get pregnant others have such a different journey.

[@maerorable]

You spoke beautifully about your experience Laura. I'm sorry it had to happen. Thank you for sharing so generously! I think Mr. Otto Paws will be a big brother in time :D

[@kimberleycharles776]

Thank you for sharing your story. I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks 2 years ago and I can still hear the words "I'm sorry there's no heartbeat" as clear as day. No one does talk about it as I think people don't want to upset you. We did have genetic testing of our foetus through the NHS and it wasn't a molar pregnancy. We found out our baby had trisomy 18 - Edwards syndrome. We haven't been lucky enough to concieve again since but we have a beautiful 5 year old daughter. I wish you the best of luck on your journey x

[@HelenBeeee]

My daughter has had the exact same experience it is no small thing. Very traumatic and then the IVF experience is something else in itself. What the whole experience has shown me is that women, their partner and families need emotional support, time to process and adjust. I feel like it is not appreciated just how traumatic this is for the mother. Good job for telling your experience plainly and with all the detail this will help a lot of women. Two miscarriages and 4 IVF rounds later we still have no baby and now my daughter and son in law are facing their future reality what it will look like without children. The grief the pain is real they will not get to be a mum and dad I will not get to be a grandmother so much grief and sadness. My daughter is having a break from IVF going on a holiday to Japan and then making decision on what they will do when they get back. It has been lovely to see the healing that Otto brings to you both dear little fur baby. Everyone has a different experience and I wish you and Ollie the best on your journey keep positive ❤

[@Wendy-xx4me]

Thank you Laura. I have found that in the midst of something traumatic and heartbreaking, facts give some small measure of control and comfort because you understand what is happening and so it's not perhaps quite so frightening. Thank you for sharing your story so thoroughly. I think it will help many going through this. I wish you well xx

[@ngaiosbrain]

Thank you so much for including the actual details. I think for so many people part of the trauma is having no idea what other people have experienced because so much of this is taboo. This was beautifully explained and I'm so grateful

[@BehindtheseEyes]

Laura & Ollie, thank you for sharing difficult details of your loss. Rarely do women openly share specifics of a miscarriage and I know so many will benefit from your post(+others). Hoping for best positive outcome for you both(+fur babe/Otto)going forward.

[@GeorginaDavies-ow4qd]

Laura, I have been where you are. I got married at 24 and immediately wanted a baby. I got pregnant straight away but sadly had a miscarriage at 7 weeks after a couple of months tried again and fell pregnant straight away and then went on to have my daughter. Then 2 years later we started trying for another baby and again got pregnant so easily but then miscarried at 10 weeks. We were devastated but determined so after waiting a few months tried again and again got pregnant straight away and all looked good so when we went for our 12 week scan and was told that the baby had died my heart broke into pieces. I didn’t understand why yet I knew that I could do it as I had my beautiful Chloe. My husband and I agreed to wait for a few months and then tried again and got pregnant straight away and even though I was so scared that I would miscarry again I didn’t and we had our amazing son. They are both grown adults now but watching your video it brought it all back like it was yesterday. I wanted to share my story so that you can see that although it is so painful, these things happen but not to lose hope because dreams do come true. Good luck with the testing, you and Ollie are in my thoughts xxxxx

[@g.spyracheak3943]

Thank you for sharing. I’m still bleeding from a miscarriage on 3/21/24. She would have been our 4th little girl and it was the exact situation you had. We went for our first ultrasound at 8w4d but she was measuring right at 6w with a low heart rate (71 bpm). We knew she wasn’t likely to make it so we did an early gender test so we could name her. That ultrasound was on a Friday and i lost her the following Thursday. It’s now the Wednesday after that and I’m still bleeding but i has an ultrasound yesterday and my body has cleared everything out except for some blood, so that’s where we’re at. It’s such a helpless feeling because there’s absolutely nothing anyone can do to save the baby. Usually in this situation, it’s just that the baby isn’t genetically strong enough. Anyway, thank you for sharing again. I feel much led lovely knowing you had essentially the exact same thing happen. We’re hoping to try again soon for another.

[@andrewford9287]

Dear Lady Making this vlog was very brave of you You could feel the raw emotion in your voice I am sending you the biggest virtual hug I feel for you & Ollie Sending you both lots of love Andrew 💐💜xx

[@rosanneinnes7872]

I don’t normally comment, but always follow you both, now three with the absolutely adorable Otto. You are incredibly brave to tell you’re sad story and to let other people who are, or who have experienced the same pain of miscarriage. I also feel that one day soon your little family will increase and you will be telling a different story of happiness and great news soon. All the very best wishes and good luck to you both, you are such lovely happy people. ❤️❤️❤️💐

[@desig23]

I just went through a miscarriage and this was so healing to watch. Thank you for sharing. I’m happy to see you have a healthy baby now. All the best to you and your family ❤️

[@alexisquinn2784]

Thank you for reaching out to other women and their partners during a difficult personal time. Interdependence is much more helpful then independence when we need information as well as support. Thank you Laura and Ollie.

[@rosemaryjanerichmond]

You and Ollie are so strong and practical - a quiet word of warning about Mumsnet - post pregnancy its not the nicest forum -some very entitled , toxic and opinionated people on there . My advice to you and Ollie --- TRUST YOUR MUMS !!!!

[@nikimelek7092]

its shocking how common this is and how little its spoken about. keep going! its crazy to think about how many little things need to be lined up perfectly to create another human being. i have 33 i had a missed mc at 10 weeks in novemeber and thankfully did fall pregnant again 4 months later and so far 14 weeks along and no issues. you really do have to push for testing and have to end up doing all your research yourself. i think what helped me was continuing taking my very high quality prenatals since my first pregnancy and especially increasing my vitamin D which was very low originally (my dr didnt even mention it). i went crazy with reaseach and ovulation testing - i found i was way better off not usng them as they caused way too much stress and my period was super regular as yours is, it was way easier for me just to focus on every other day during my fertile window. it was a really hard and sad time but stay hopefull as you are

[@benandsarahhutchinson6581]

Thank you for being so open about your experience. It makes me so sad that miscarriage isn’t talked about as if it’s a taboo subject. Thank you for the detail too. It really helps to know what happens and how it can feel physically. Thank you. I’m so sorry you have gone through this. xx

[@blubimnotafish]

My sister had three miscarriages before she conceived my eldest niece. Like you, getting pregnant was relatively easy, but they wouldn't stick. Before conceiving my niece she got diagnosed with a cow's milk and egg allergy, so my guess is that that might've thrown her body off for a while. Since giving birth to her first, she's had a second 1.5 years later, so definitely 'successful' now 😊 Good luck on your journey! I hope you have the baby you wish for soon ❤

[@meljacobs4227]

I had a miscarriage 28 years ago and still cry about how I felt that day.

[@jillgaunt8942]

I just want to say, it was very brave to share your personal experience. I believe it will help others too. I have never been in your situation, but I was told years ago that I may never have children. My beautiful daughter is 21 and a university student. I hope and pray for both of you ❤️

[@lornawood3260]

Thank you for sharing this part of your lives with us, Laura. You’re so lovely and yes, if you feel lead to make this experience known to others, you may, indeed, help another through it. Thankfully, I never had a miscarriage. I’m a grandmother who had to google “yoke sac” and “chemical pregnancy!” Ultrasounds were not typical in the late 70’s-mid 80’s. God bless you and Ollie. 🙏♥️

[@francesthorley6074]

Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability in this video ❤

[@TheTattooedCrafter]

Thank you for this video. We’ve just experienced a miscarriage around a month ago which was heartbreaking, but moving forward feels the right thing to do I am a planner too so trying for kids is hard work, I don’t do well with spontaneity either so wanted to get things right. Ours was all about timelines too and has been hard to go past those dates knowing what could have been. Additionally, One thing during all of this is I never realised how impactful pregnancy would have on my mental health, even if it was only for a short time. We sadly had bleeding from week 6 and despite the early scan, seeing everything was ok and a heartbeat; sadly at 8 weeks it was gone. Our frustration was with the NHS saying the same advice as I never experienced that “extreme” moment, so felt we were forced into a false sense of security until the next scan. We’ve done the same research and will see how we get on when we start to try again at some point. I’ve kept a journal and I must admit it’s good for my mental health and grief. We are hoping that when we try again we are able to continue to carry but will see what happens. Knowing you’ve had Teddy shows and gives me confidence that we will get there one day xx

[@iloughrey]

Laura, so brave of you to share such a personal and devastating thing to have happened. There will be many women who can relate and will thank you for being so open. Wishing you and Ollie the vest best 💐🙏

[@valarya]

Thank you for sharing this story, it's so important to normalize things women go through regularly. 🙏 - I'm so sorry for your loss, and it's really encouraging that you guys took the calm science approach as a way to heal through it while it was happening. All the love.

[@mklarson2980]

Having been through this too (unfortunately further along) I am so grateful that you chose to share your experience in detail, I know it will be incredibly helpful to other women. I was so amazed after my own experience, that when I would open up about it, I found there were so many more women than I could have ever imagined whom I knew or were close to someone I knew who had also had miscarriages. After the first I believe I also had two chemical pregnancies. I just want to share that despite extensive testing, we never found a reason for the cause or anything that could predict what our chances would be of it recurring. Sometimes there aren't answers. At one point a specialist I was seeing said "becoming a parent is always a leap of faith, you will just have to take a bigger leap than most." Three years later our son was born, and we just celebrated his 28th birthday❤

[@melomana91]

it's so crazy to me that miscarriage within the first trimester is so often made out to not even be worth mentioning. I'm glad it's changing and women are chosing to talk about it more and more! sure, it happens a lot. but that doesn't mean it's any less traumatic for everyone involved. we need to talk about these things so people can get the support they need to get through such trauma

[@norafleming8304]

Your statement starting at 12:13 was so beautiful and resonated with me so much. I feel exactly the same way, that we are able to move on with our day to day life but you never really heal from the loss of your baby completely. Sending you so much love and hugs on your fertility journey together ❤❤❤

[@natalieboyle4967]

I second all of the thanks and admiration for sharing your story and putting it out there - well done Laura 💪🏻. After having had 3 miscarriages, a TFMR at 20wks and a few chemicals too, I know only too well how important it is to get more info out there. To everyone too, not just those who end up in a ‘journey’ with TTC. I found that people who haven’t been through these things, were the ones who most found it uncomfortable and don’t like to - or know how to - talk about these things. Don’t take it personally if it’s your closest friends or family that aren’t good with this topic and lean into the people that do help you in this new part of your life. Some advice in case it helps - first and foremost, the mantras - be kind to yourself and treat yourself as you would your best friend. Secondly, know yourself and your body, take ownership over this whole process, no one will champion your needs more than you and you deserve it so don’t feel guilty or overly polite, just go get what you want. Next is tommy tommys tommys. Need I say more! And then lastly, def focus on what makes you happy in life and making the most of things but don’t sit in the queue and wait for others to take notice. You might not, but you might be years waiting in these processes and no one joining the dots etc. We requested an appointment with a consultant recommended through a friend. He’s part nhs and part private so you know you’re getting the best of what you need but still under the care of nhs unless you decide otherwise. And they found out in two months more than my previous years of being picked up and put down with each event. Sending you love and hope 😘x

[@matchl1273]

I'm not sure that I would like to have children, but this information and how you shared it with such empathy and clarity has given me some insight into what the process could be like and also what my friends that are going through this could be experiencing. Thank you for your bravery x

[@sikugord03]

My daughter has a son. He was 8 when she decided to try for another child. She had two miscarriages back to back. Then third time even though she bled heavily in the first few weeks she kept the pregnancy and I now have a two year old granddaughter, but I didn’t know you could send the foetus to be tested. My daughter was never offered this. Positive vibes sent to you. All the best on your journey. X

[@johannaarroyo6832]

Thank you for sharing your story with us. When my husband and I found out that we couldn’t have babies it broke our hearts but our faith is what has given us the strength to continúe our journey. We decided to enjoy life! When is time it will come. Like you said enjoy life with your love ones. 💕

[@julietyler8864]

This was incredibly brave & selfless of you to share Laura, I can’t imagine how hard it must have all been, the fact you will help other women/couples by sharing your experience ❤, I admire you greatly & thank you. Much love x

[@jillychandler]

When I had a miscarriage, back in the 90s, nothing was done to help me. We had been trying for 15 years to get pregnant. They just told me that my body had absorbed the fetus, and there was nothing there, so gave me a d&c in those days. I was just left to get on with it, with no help from anyone. No one spoke about those sort of things in those days. I am glad you can talk about it now, and get so much more help. I love your puppy dog, he loves you and you love him soooo much. I wish you all the very best, and prey that you will have that special someone in your life, to share with your, your husband and puppy, very very soon. Love, and big hugs from Jilly in Devon, England. xxx

[@mumoffour6860]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m so very sorry for your loss. I have had 7 losses over the past 8 years. But I’m also so blessed to have 4 beautiful souls (including a set of twins). I’ve had almost every test under the sun, did everything I physically could. I agree about Mumsnet; a wonderful resource but taken with a grain of salt. I share to give hope to whomever reads this. The path can be quite checkered for many mums. And the dark moments feel like they’ll never pass, but they do, whether you do happen to hold your rainbow or your healed heart. I’m so glad to find out you are expecting your rainbow. Congratulations 🌺

[@lisaspencer3971]

I’m so glad you had support from both family and friends and the early pregnancy unit. I unfortunately did not have a good experience and would never want someone else to go through that.

[@helenesafajou9116]

My heart breaks for your pain, loss and courage throughout all of it. Thank you for sharing all the details. My first pregnancy ended up as a miscarriage 30 yo ago and I had NO information whatsoever and I went through it alone with extreme pain down my legs for 2 days! What a lonely time... Recovering? I don't know, it's like any loss... you get used to it and never forget. I have now 2 beautiful daughters who came 18 months later...

[@rebeccafrancis8227]

You are such a brave woman to share this. There will be people out there that this will help. God bless you and Ollie!!

[@TheEberharts]

Laura, what a brave and wonderful person you are. Your generosity in sharing your journey is an absolute gift.

[@tararuest4737]

Thank you sooo much for sharing, i can imagine how devistatingly hard this video was. My heart goes out to you both and hope for a future healthy and amazing pregnancy. We as women were never educated in pregnancy beyond conception. My husband i and i never were able to conceive, but the journey did bring us closer. We just celebrated 20 years together 14 yrs married. Best of wishes.

[@TheAwakeningangel]

Ah Laura this was a tough video to make but I think therapeutic also to be able to talk about this is Good, I had 4 miscarriages every one at 4 months. and yes It was very hard as I blamed myself, back then in the 80s you got the basic help and you just had to get on with it. I never thought I would have children but I did ,one girl 3 boys, all perfect, the only thing i did different was a lovely Dr said take Folic Acid eat healthy as I did anyway so I did not need any extra Vit, and yes I got my babies. And you will as well, take your time dont go for so many tests as it makes you think something is wrong, and just say you leave it in the hands of Fate and live your life. I will keep you both in my thoughts and thank you for this video, love them all. Hugs Dede xxx

[@fayefoster5756]

Thank u Laura this video must be a great help to lots of Lady’s out there but please don’t put so much pressure on yourself it will happen my love just relax don’t do to much planning and timing on things u said yourself u have to plan everything one day at a time sending love to u and Olly and Otto xxx

[@mbazeley1]

Thank you for sharing and I loved the detail as this is so common and I felt totally in the dark when I went through mine the first time ❤ I had three miscarriages and found out that I have a gene mutation called MTHFR which caused my pregnancies to clot out. I was able to take blood thinners and now have a 2 yo daughter and 10 month old son. Keep your head up, modern medicine is amazing ❤❤

[@dianesexton2697]

Well done Laura, that was all so sad but you told it all so well and I’m sure it will help others who may be going through the same thing. I wish you well for the future.

[@sanctuaryyogadarlington]

Thank you for sharing your story. I had a missed miscarriage around 13 yr ago. It was so hard and the image of the little one will never ever leave me. I am also a timeline type person and really struggled too when special dates went by. I went on to have two gorgeous boys, and I had two little ones before the miscarriage. Well done for sharing it's so important to talk about this. A pregnancy loss is a pregnancy loss regardless of where you are on that journey and deserve compassion xx

[@lisabarry8738]

Hi Laura,so brave of you to share this.I’m sure listening to this will help a lot of people who are going through similar experiences. It’s so heartbreaking for you both to go through this as we all take for granted that we’re going to be able to just get pregnant. You are such a lovely couple I hope & pray that you get all the tests done and that sometime in the near future you will have a brother or sister for Otto…lots of love to you both xxx

[@treacysabrina1]

Thank you so much for posting i dont think people realise how emotional and mentally draining trying to get pregnancy is. I am sure this video will help so many people going through it.

[@lelaitcestlavie4504]

It took a year and a half after my miscarriage for me to be ready to try again to concive. It's a very difficult time to go through, I'm sending you all the courage in the world!

[@elizabethstrong1780]

I admire your openness about this. It is so hard to talk about. I am so sorry for you and Ollie.

[@ladyangelaIII]

I thank you form the bottom of my heart. I too miscarriage. I was 33 years old. And for my disgrace, my first boyfriend was my cousin. We didn't know but he left me after weeks of him asking me about my mother's background. I travelled to Italy in Venezia, because I wanted her names to appear on the Italian passport as Enrichetta Amalia Elisabetta Maria Teressa. Long story short, it was my daughter who in a dream showed me that she would not make it. The right side of her face was normal, but the left side of her face was deformed. But for me, she was perfect. And even if she would be born, she showed me that she would die. And that was when my body released her, after I woke up, I was in bed and the blood was brownish. I still cry about it. Is an erasable emotion.

[@amyloubates]

Wow thank you so much for sharing that and being so open Laura. I really appreciate you sharing your experience in detail even if it is hard to hear. I have no children and have never been pregnant so had no idea that is what happened in that situation. I hope you find some comfort knowing your bravery is supporting and educating others. Lots of love to you, Ollie & Otto. Best of luck with your pregnancy journey. It will happen for you I just know it xxx ❤

[@SimplySuzy33]

I've been pregnant 9 times, 8 of which failed. I found the book "Is your body baby friendly" extremely helpful :) Wishing you all the best

[@kerrytinsley2310]

Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking experience with everyone. Some people go through a miscarriage alone and haven’t got a clue what to expect or how to process it. You were very frank and honest and literally told people what might happen along this upsetting journey. Speaking out may also help you process your own experience and aid with your healing. You also gave people the opportunity to move forward on the clip and not listen to the details. Well done you for being brave and honest. I have had 2 miscarriages so know exact how hard it is to talk about it and how painful it is. Take care my lovely xx

[@marleneciborowski4343]

I'm so glad you are considering progesterone support when you do become pregnant. In the US, there is a medical protocol called NaproTechnology for which there may be practitioners in the UK. There are some issues with the reproductive system that really require treatment before conception. One of these is polycystic ovarian syndrome. NaproTechnology is one of the few protocols that really try to find the reason for miscarriage and infertility. My best wishes to you.

[@SKRIBBLEproductions]

Thank you for this video, there was so much I was unaware of. I've recently split from my partner so babies aren't on the cards for me right now but one day they will be and I find these video SO informative. It's so helpful to know this, I'm the kind of person who wants to be prepared for the good or the bad. This journey will be so helpful for so many and I know that you guys will become parents one day and that will be a joy to watch ❤

[@ruthedwards-shirley9042]

Laura, I’m so sad to hear about your conception struggles. Of COURSE you have bad days - you lost a child, no matter how brief your time together. I’ll be praying for a healed and comforted heart, and of course for a little person to be yours very soon. Lots of love xx

[@alisedelacey7138]

My prayers and wishes to you and Ollie…and Otto…🙏🏻

[@MammarellaClarisa]

It’s funny how we know immediately. I had an ectopic pregnancy and at the first sign of a little blood discharge I knew something was wrong, although my husband kept telling me that sometimes that’s normal. It took me one week to get a diagnosis and a surgery to remove my tube despite going every day to ER. The worst week of my life. I’ve never felt so lonely in my entire life. Thanks for sharing Laura. I wish you and Ollie the best 🌈🌈🌈

[@karenashworth5743]

Laura and Ollie, I am so sorry that you have had to go through this. If it is any comfort my daughter had a miscarriage at 12 weeks just over 5 years ago. My daughter never cries but when this happened she bawled her eyes out for two hours over the phone( I live 250 miles away from her) . I felt so helpless, nothing I could say or do would make things any better for her. It took two years before she concieved again and she didn't tell anyone until she was past the 12 week mark, she was so scared she would lose this baby too. Thankfully she went to full term and now has a 2 year old little boy. Never give up hope, there will be the right time for you both. Wishing you all the luck in the world x

[@helenalexander2567]

Laura I’m sending you and Ollie a big hug 🫂. You are amazing sharing your story to help others. You will be a wonderful mother of that I have no doubt. Love to you both and Otto xxxx

[@Britbabe53]

I'm almost 70 and am just now learning about what a chemical and molar pregnancy is from this video. In my day we never heard those terms. Bravo on you for documenting all of this for others to benefit from. It may not be what anyone wants to hear when going through it, but the body does seems to have the perfect mechanism for expelling what is not viable. I hope you and Ollie have good success really soon! xo

[@lauramitchell6725]

I’m 64 years old and have never heard of those two terms before either.

[@LaTrebbin]

I didn't watch your video (I'm passed child bearing), but i had a chemical pregnancy and a 12 week miscarriage after my daughter was born. I could have used a sensitive and open video to help me through the experience I had. I still think about what could have been, but count my blessings every day. I wish you all the best 💕

[@SabbyMU]

I can not thank you enough for sharing much a difficult experience! Sending all the positivity your way! xxx

[@wandaroach765]

I think all are on the same page about you being so open about the highs and lows of pregnancy and miscarriages. My heart goes out to you and Oli for sadness and also joy. Sending love from across the pond ❤

[@ruthwoke9275]

Thank you for talking about this. I also had a miscarriage in my eight week and I found this so comforting to watch

[@katiewright1987]

You’re really brave sharing this. I’ve got 3 children. But I’ve been pregnant 8 times. A few chemicals. 2 traumatic D&Cs. One baby flushed down the toilet to torture my heart forever. I was under the recurrent miscarriage team recently and tests were fine. I actually think it’s just not spoken about. Probably most women suffer loss. What I will say is that loss is the thief of joy but you will enjoy your pregnancy again (when it comes). And when you have your baby you’ll oddly be glad for your losses because the baby in your arms wouldn’t be there if you’d had the other baby. And the idea of that is horrifying. This will one day just be part of your story. I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. Lots of love. X

[@beautyandthebudget3642]

I'm so sorryfor your loss 💜 It might not be relevant but I wanted to mention MTHFR and folic v folate just in case its not been raised before x

[@katiewright1987]

@@beautyandthebudget3642 oh I’ve been well and truly full of supplements! I’m not TTC anymore. I had 4 losses in a row before my 3rd and final baby… she’s 10 months now. Just wanted my story to give hope that just because you’ve had losses, doesn’t mean you can’t have healthy pregnancies x

[@bethan3355]

So sorry this happened Laura - I have been trying for 20 months and now under nhs fertility and although I haven’t miscarriaged a lot of what you said in here helped, like timelines, tracking, thinking it would happen in month 1 etc. thanks for sharing xx

[@sarahoehrtman623]

Thank you so much for sharing. I'm so sorry that you had to go through this. I haven't had a miscarriage, but my husband and I dealt with infirtilty. We end up doing ivf. Now we have a beautiful 14 months old little girl. I'm praying that you will get pregnant soon and have a healthy and easy pregnancy 🤲🤍

[@annwilliams9214]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are so amazing to open up about this devastating experience and share the details no one else does. My prayers for you and Olly as you go for testing and all the next steps. Praying for healthy, full-term pregnancies. 🙏❤🙏❤

[@helenconnors4524]

Thank you so much for sharing!!! You sharing this experience has helped me deal with my own fear and is giving me some control into something that seems so uncontrollable. I started to bleed in seven weeks, scan was fine… baby was ok until birth. My daughter was born with a genetic condition that my ex kept hidden which mean they didn’t fully explore it. Life saving surgery on a new born and ongoing treatment is not fair on her. She’s due in for another surgery any day now. She will spend the rest of her life dealing with the genetic problems that were given to her. I adore her and I am completely dedicated to her but I wish I could take that burden off her. I am terrified of something like this happening again in the future. I can’t watch my child suffer like that again. I think it’s great that your promoting so much pre pregnancy work. I will be reading lots about pre pregnancy health now. I hope with all your dedication and love you are gifted a healthy child that fills your life with joy ❤

[@janieannwilliams4466]

So, so brave of you to talk so openly about your experience. I too had two miscarriages in quick succession when I was 24 but then went on to have two healthy babies now aged 32 and 30. There was no support, tests or information back then. Hopefully things have improved now. Stay healthy and happy and it will happen ❤

[@helenm4575]

I have had 3 miscarriages ( 2 of them have been in the last 6 months) and I wish I could have come across a video like yours when they were happening. Thank you so much for sharing this. I am sorry about everything you have gone through

[@karenlangley8254]

Thank you Laura for sharing your journey for all women trying to find answers. You have such strength and a beautiful light and I’m sure your blessing will come when the time is right. Hold on to positivity and joy and lots of puppy cuddles. 🥰🦋