Indian Parents , Unki Sewa And Next Generation

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[@singhbhawana]

Sir appko thank you bahut sara. Aapki videos maine regular dekhna shuru Kara h aur ek attitude me bahut change aaya h. Aapne ek video banayi thi jisme kaha tha ki apne 101 logo ko list karo and then cut people out. I have started that. I have also started noticing how most of my time was taken away by people who were absolutely free in their life and they were feeding on my youthful, cheerful positive energy. Aapki video thi jokes k naam par log taane toh nahi de rahe, i have also started calling out people on that, aur jo nahi sudhre unko block kar diya. Aapne ek alag video me kaha tha dosto ristedari isme mat nikalo ki kal ko kaam ayenge, time suckers hain bahut log. Toh ye bhi notice kara maine. Aur ab life mostly sorted lgti h. Time h, usme ya toh nature k sath spend Karo ya career ko dene ka and there is less clutter in life. .. Just wanted u to know that aapka work change la raha h. And for that I am grateful to u💞💫

[@richasharma4312]

Sir ..yeh koun sa video hai please link share kar de Gratitude 🙏

[@sanketmudgalkar9500]

Absolutely true. I feel so pity for people who says we don't agree with Amit Sangwan ...they are staying away from this "Gyan Amrit ". Then i feel bhad me jau Mai videos dekh dekh ke sudhar jaunga then i feel selfish🤣🤣

[@anirbanghosh1670]

Sir Say, something about honor killing of ayushi yadav by her parents for marrying a gujjar boy. Ur opinion about intercommunity marriages is needed.

[@Akon1998hell]

@@anirbanghosh1670 honour killing is a very serious problem anduch more rampant among rural background feudal mindset communities especially the OBC landlord communities such as Yadav Gujjar jats and Patel's ( not bringing caste into it just giving my general observation)

[@anirbanghosh1670]

@@Akon1998hell I think if next generation be given both mothers and fathers surname. Or one child having mother's caste another having fathers caste then I don't think there would be this much resentment

[@get2dude2000]

Current senior citizens are main reason for divorce and social problems in this time. They enjoyed nuclear family and now expect joint family with same self centric attitude. This has spoilt many families by spreading toxin in their son's or daughter's married life... Hope in next 10 years our society will be better once these senior citizens will move to heaven.... HARSH BUT TRUE....

[@Pritha879]

Agree

[@Wolfa-tr5sq]

spot on man. I am a 38 year old and my parents forced me to break up with my girlfriend and forced me to marry someone with whom I had no chemistry at all and on top of that she was a nasty abusive and manipulative narcissist. She made a mess of my life and also had an affair with her sister's husband (jija) which I discovered when I already had a baby girl. Its been 8 years of our separation and she is denying divorce. The family laws are all biased in favor of women too. Why did all this happen? MY FAMILY and their REGRESSIVE mindset. Now they "chinta karte hain meri", awe!

[@heenagoyal7156]

I agree 👍

[@AC-jg2dg]

They are going to hell not heaven for all the sins they did breaking up marriages, etc.

[@Wolfa-tr5sq]

@@AC-jg2dg they're doing the right thing. Most marriages are about one party having all the fun and the other party being absolutely miserable. Ending this bs is clearing the sins, not creating.

[@manjular3678]

Some parents are so toxic by the time the children discover, its too late. The damage is done

[@sonalimhaisekar6151]

Aajkal ke parents to male child ke career tak kharab karane main jute huye hai..aur phir unmein itana guilt bhar dete hai ki vo puri tarah se unpe dependent ho jaye..mere najdik ke relatives main hi maine 2, 3 examples dekhe hai...isase to achcha wetern country parents hai..they free their children at age of 18 to discover their own life, find their own interests and make them independent person.

[@manjular3678]

@@sonalimhaisekar6151 True. The parents create fear into their child and continue emotional blackmail

[@innersoul454]

U r rt

[@thelonelysoul]

Shraddha ko bhi independence. Chahiye thi toxic parents se

[@kishoreyc]

It's been 10 years for my realisation.

[@aarthishetty2214]

Sir, the previous gen parents who are around 75 /80 are the most selfish .

[@sivankasmemoir9770]

How true

[@tarugupta2406]

Actually parents ne apni sari life baccho ke liye hi spend kari, apne liye kuch nahi kerte tha, salary bhi kam hoti thi, so they expected more from children, but now 40_50 aged parents enjoyed their life also with good salary,so they will expect lesser from children

[@ranujinc.459]

Bhsi 50 years me hi ekdum naak me dum bete ka carrier

[@amol9616113945]

Nand ka maike mai interference pe video banao bahot kalesh ho rahe hai. Maa beti ka sunti hai nanad maa ke kan bharti hai. bahu sas mai zagda our ghar ka satyanash.

[@vibha-ff1ee]

Hey bhagwan Aurate milkar kyu nhi rahti kalesh kyu karti rahti hai? Why?

[@sumitkashyap610]

Movies ka bhi thoda kasoor hai guruji...mujhe aap ek movie bataiye jaha bete/betio ki pareshaani dikhayi gayi ho...yaha movie banti hai BAGBAAN...BAGBAAN ek esi movie hai jise family ke saath milke dekho to 4 galiya to movie dekhte-dekhte mil jati hai... Kahi bhi modern human ki modern problem nahi dikhayi jati

[@hummingbird8103]

Also avtaar .. Rajesh Khanna Shabana Azmi 😩

[@meethievavlogs9181]

🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 mujhe bhi ye baat sahi lagi or mehsoos hui jab after marriage mere inlaws ka yehi reaction hota tha 🤣🤣🤣 or husband bechare bagbaan dekhte hi ghar se gayab ho jate 😂

[@arpanmadrecha946]

@@meethievavlogs9181 it happens only in India

[@sumanagarwal216]

BETA movie dekhiye aur dikhaiye( Anil Kapoor Madhuri Dixit ki)😂 Kaise MIL ke conspiracy ki vajah se barbad hota hai ghar😮

[@sapnapaul5430]

It's not that such movies are not being made. Problem is they don't get the recognition. They get labelled as saas bahu drama movies which over exaggerate when in fact they are showing the exact reality of what happens in majority of families. Rocky and Rani is a big example of that. Rocky's family is a great representation is such families. It's exactly my family 😂. Jo dialogues Rocky or Rani ne mare hai to teach Rocky's family, wo exact dialogues mai or mere Bhai ne mare hai apne parents pr. Bas itna hai movie Mai parents smjh jate hai or finally parents ban jate hai, but reality mai aesa nhi hota majority of times. But go and see the comments on KZbin for that movie. People, especially guys pretend ki ye to fantasy hai, aesa thodi hota kisi family mai 😂. Or bhi bhot hai aesi movies, it's the society jise sirf Sheela ki jawani jesa cheap entertainment chahiye art k naam pr, they are not ready to see the reality, vulnerability and depth in these movies

[@archanaverma9976]

Excellent video sir!! I wish I could forward it to my in laws.because after my marriage (24 yrs back)my mil's tagline was,"ab tak apan ne bachchon ka kiya,ab bachche apna karenge"since then she is on that"sewa"mode.😃😃.I feel like,main apne pati ki parvarish ka karz utarne hi aayi hu

[@bhuvneshwarithakur2090]

Waah kya line hai pati ki parivarish ka karaz utarne layi hun

[@Lialovesfood882]

😄😄😄aur aise parents apni early 50s me to budhe ho gaye the but 20 sal aur gujarne par 70s me Jawan ho gaye hai .pahle budhe ban ka sewa karwaye hai aur ab Jawan ban kar nayi nayi khwaishe poori karwani hai . Convince ke hisab se boodhe ya Jawan hona hai

[@namita389]

So true yar. Pathetic. It makes life hell. How to overcome it :(

[@arpanmadrecha946]

@@Lialovesfood882 of course it is India sab Kuch possible hain have not you seen phir bhi Dil hai Hindustani because of this attitude country mindset is still in 15th century

[@shalinisrivastava4236]

Very well said, uske sath beta ko kuch karna nahin sikhaya to you have to mother him too and be a servant to their parents.

[@charuprabhakar9810]

Very Practical video sir but there's a catch here... Sir sometimes parents are not interested in learning in anything and play victim card everytime one say something to make them understand 🙏🙏. With due respect

[@JumpingBag]

u r right

[@amanmalhotra9280]

Sm always play buzurg victim card. Jo krna vo ker lete .pr jo nhi krna tub buddhe ho jate

[@charuprabhakar9810]

@@amanmalhotra9280 right

[@12asaho]

So true...neither they wanna learn anything nor utilize their money...victim card, emotional blackmail, make you feel guilty and tell you each tiny detail what they hv done for you..I never thought I will tell these things about my parents...taught us everything as per their convinience, realized it so late...

[@charuprabhakar9810]

@@12asaho true

[@richaraheja1833]

My parents are among those few parents,a blessing ...They are so calm and love us unconditionally...We all 3 kids always ask them before proceeding with any big decisions of life .. They give us guidance without seeing their own benefits..They both have great wisdom and we feel very positive and love sitting around them any time...They never ask for any help for themselves rather extend their hands for our help every time.

[@Project_Tsukuyomi]

So lucky 😭

[@ashalatakamate3234]

You are also lucky and even your parents are also lucky to have children like you who respect them.

[@pcs8185]

You are really lucky then

[@shashi3072]

Arre tu idhar zakhmo pe namak mat laga😂

[@chauhiya]

Same with my mother ❤

[@SNomnamo]

So true Sir...also in India we have this stupidity of glorifying our parents....they are jus humans with their own faults...but nahi koi bhi comments section padh lo.... it's full of toxic comments like "parents must be given more importance than wife" etc..... imagine that poor biwi ka haal....the selfish husband is trying to make her repay the so called "loan" that he has taken !! She is an unpaid servant brought to do free seva of his perfectly fit parents.

[@FreeHindiAdvice]

Aaapne mere 15 years ka guilt feeling dur kar diya... thank you sir for sharing wonderful thoughts :)

[@user-ux3zq8di5f]

A very important topic. My parents worked a lot to settle us. Even after settling they used to help and wanted to die without illness and our service. But it didn't happen. At the end both were bedridden for a few months and required service and attention. We did it willingly out of our love.

[@rachnasingh3991]

Caring for months and even for one to two year is always needed be in any age group. He is saying about 3 to 4 decades of being parents in laws or senior citizen

[@RareSweety]

If some parents are actually medically ill, or are bedridden then the story and situation is different. But what he's trying to say is, parent who can do household chores, who have no major illness where they can't move arround, should not depend on their beta bahu, as now we have technology for everything, washing machine for washing clothes, dry and wet moop for cleaning floor, refrigerator so you don't have to cook everything from scratch everytime. Because in age bracket of 50-70 years most parents are capable of doing it. But they prefer not to and want their DIL to do it for them, from today's generation DIL viewpoint they're all educated and have careers they're not willing to do anything for their in-laws. That create friction in relationship and ultimately she won't do anything at all when parents are going to reach age bracket of 70-90 years and they actually are not able to do anything for themselves or are having major illness. He's trying to say in expectation of "sewa" from DIL, the moment she walked into your home when you're capable of doing everything yourself, you have created so much bitterness, friction in your relationship with your DIL that she won't be there to help you out when you are actually bedridden or seriously ill.

[@triptadogra26]

Sir please make video on that ... In-laws want their daughter to live separate but Interfereing in beta bahu life.... Very toxic in-laws.... Calling their son in law and daughter many times but not caring about son and daughter in law.

[@kekdacreates5599]

Problem is that some parents do not want to learn and become independent because fir unhe lagta h ki humne seekh liya to beta hume poochega hi nai... us scenario me kya karein? Unko sewa ka rona bhi rona h aur empower bhi nai hona hai...

[@sumanverma1626]

Mujhe to laga tha sirf humare parents hi aisa Karte hain humare saath but apki baatein sunkar to lag raha hai Har Ghar ki ek hi kahani hai aaj

[@hello-cj7yn]

Baghban worst movie it should be banned.

[@pollytheparrot8929]

My father is so dependent on my mom for almost everything.. Bank wrk, serve food ,mobile wrk etc He does bazarr and physical wrk outside and inside , help in cutting veg But can't do without mom, doesn't want to learn to use apps, only knows to talk on phone and everywhere

[@mrinmoyeemukherjee1420]

I am unable to get married as all guys are asking me to do sewa of their parents and live with in laws. I am not comfortable with it. Pehle se hi lifestyle ko control karne ki koshish. Shaadi me ab delay ho rahi hai. Unki expectations and meri khud ki life expectations match nhi ho rahi.

[@JaanoTum]

My mother says Buda Bacha ek Barabar. Now pamper her like a child. Whole day she is on phone watching, watching and watching. She is dependent on brother for online services. My brother in turn gets cooked food from her and inheritance promise. My brother is playing divide and rule.

[@anirbanghosh1670]

Sir intercaste marriage pe kuch boliye. Aur iske sathe bangali and North East community pe bhi kuch boliye.

[@priyachandrasekhar6557]

We are a 50 plus year old couple and we follow ur philosophy completely with our kids .. we hope to be completely independent as we grow older !

[@aishabavani8789]

😊👏👏

[@leena4989]

I am a 34 year and I have same mindset as you

[@himanshujovi]

Such truthful statement no one will say and admit in Indian society.. Baghbaan effect was so spot on !!!!

[@baijuv3]

The day we learn to be self dependent, 90% of problems of expectations will die naturally. The remaining 10% also can be solved if we put systems in place through learning and adequate monetary returns which the doer desperately wants. Nice topic Amitji.

[@PoonamVerma-i2n]

Hamare yahan to mitti kharab kr rkhi h 25 saal nikal diye abhi ji shanti nhi 25 saal mai ek bar bhi pati k saath kahin bahar nhi jane diya or bed pad gye h ab aise hamari life barwad kr rhe h .Seva mujhse karani h maal apni betiyon ko or bade beta bahu ko dena h. Jeena haram kr rakha h

[@divinesoul1313]

to Mt kro na

[@jaish3722]

Every word you said is golden. I was so confused just blaming myself and bitter all the time. Can’t believe how parents can destroy their own children’s life

[@kiransharma7848]

Such a good piece of advice. I'm so grateful to my son who has bin constantly teaching me using paytm, uber & lots more before he left for Canada. Till date very patiently he on video calls explains whatever queries I have. His latest message is ' Mama please dont fortget to get your drivers licence before coming to Canada. ' we are fortunate to be blessed for having him in our life. Self help is the best help. I love watching your fun filled videos with great messages. With kind regards....🙌❣

[@kiransharma7848]

@@thefoodpriest6614 He is recently married. That is his problem not mine...

[@Jay-rv4ee]

Sirji, this comment is on your most favourite movie Bhagban and am sure will be of great interest/information to you. Baghban is a remake of an old Kannada movie, POSTMASTER- which was released in 1964. It is a complete rip-off, including the famous 'broken spectacles" scene 🤣🤣🤣 What we in the south left behind in the 60's was recreated and glamorized by the Bollywood in 2003 😭 Regressive much? 😜 Love your channel, Sirji! Kabhi kabhi South ko bhi include kijiye ji 😀🙏

[@rgseven6557]

You had to bring in north vs south right?

[@Jay-rv4ee]

@@rgseven6557 of course! Otherwise how would you know that the movie was plagiarised? One needs to keep you guys grounded from time to time!! 😜😁 Otherwise we will only end up paying most of the taxes. 🤣

[@mybangaloredays]

Wish everyone gets a dadaji like you❣️❣️

[@SangoLifeSutras]

I am quite young. Baal gyaan ke safed ho gaye hain

[@mybangaloredays]

@@SangoLifeSutras fir to aur accha hai😍😍 Sorry for my misunderstanding 🙌

[@manjular3678]

@@mybangaloredays Glad, You got Sango to acknowledge your comment

[@jkishan1964]

@@SangoLifeSutras sir you are near about 60-62 yrs 😁

[@proudindian-73]

​@@SangoLifeSutras😂

[@meenakshikoul1846]

Uncleji if all older people think like you families will be much peace living🙏🙏🙏 hats off to you and your thinking

[@Neha008sharma]

Sir is topic par video bnaye - shadi krne ka concept chnge hona chahey....shadi k baad sirf ldki ghr nhi chodegi ,ladka b apna ghr chodega...is se socity me kafi badlav aa skta h

[@endlessjoychannel71]

I support you

[@Problemsharing]

Right Mai aur mere husband apne ghr me rehte h ..Han unko sewa krni h wo kre...waise to wo meri sewa kr rhe h kyunki Mai pregnant hu aur bed rest pe hu .aur such me koi b kam nhi ata h rishtedar aise tym . isiliye apne khush rho kisi se ummeed na kro..Mai to apne bache ka pehle ghr bnwaungi ya itna paisa wo kma le tbhi shadi kre ..aur alag rhe

[@deepabharti3966]

Wow uncle ji....I wish aapke jaise samjhdar yaa apke 50% samjhdar bhi in laws jisko mil jaye wo bahu depression aur mental illness jaisi problem se bach jaye. Great work.

[@happygoluckygirlsud..]

Sir, (sorry to be harshed) but India mein old generation thodi corrupt hai....aur saare ladko ko apni wife se sewa Karani hai pata nahi khud kyun nahi kar sakte ....aur ladki ki ma baap ki sewa ka to koi point hi nahi hai....kyunki ma baap to kamjor bas ladke ke hi ho rahe hain lagta hai....bhayankar dogulapan hai

[@endlessjoychannel71]

U r right

[@yashasviverma4349]

Sir, please shed some light on the aspect where parents are well to do and sons are not taking a single penny but still these parents want money from sons who are married and have their wives and kids who live in metro cities and are only in the age group of 30 to 35 where they are still building life for themselves but the father who is a retired engineer from railway, getting pension have side businesses and still wants money from sons who are salaried employees and living their lives without taking anything from parents. So much toxicity they have grown in the relationship and now sons have stopped talking to parents just to save their mental peace but obviously this is not helpful in log run so please share some wisdom on this where parents are creating Unrealistic pressure on sons and daughter in laws for money 🙏

[@vksomji]

In short Bharat expects All Rounder Bahu . The Bahu is always compared the with Ghar ki Beti, if there is no Beti then comparison is done with the Bahu or Beti of the Next Door or in worst case the Bahu is compared with the Prospective Bride who was short listed by the Parents but rejected by the Betaji ..And this is Clinically proven by the Psychology.. On Practical ground being a Millennials (Generation Y) and having Stayed outside India for Employment, Generation and Bharitya Population like me who have returned back to India, don't expect a THALI on a Khat to be served by any Kakiji or Bhabhiji in absence of Mataji or by Nanandji or by Sasuji if married or by anyone else. I personally believe in Self Service and Self Cooked Food at Home. Please Exclude Hotel and other paid Services from Self Service.

[@vikasmalik02211]

the bestest part of the video for me starts at 15:49. Me bhut hi jyada pareshan ho chuka hu apne ghr ke mahol se. completely mentally exhausted

[@amritanaidu4753]

Uncle aap ek ek baat jo bolte ho na taali baajti hai.... Aapki to Netflix special aana chahiye. You are doing God's work Uncle.... All power to you

[@kalyanichatterjee1711]

You r absolutely right sir . I have heard my mother , her mousi repeatedly reminding themselves that humara to asey hi kat Jaye hath paon chalatey huay. Seva na Leni padey kisika aur bacche khush rahey . Yey bhi khtay they beta agar hum kisi bimari mey salon uljhey aur Paisa kharach ho to poison lakey rakh Dena to hum nikal lengey😮😮 lengey.They talked about euthanasia imagine ( I will not tell anyone about this ) My mother passed away at 60 years in 2000 of cerebral attack suddenly . .🙏 Now people talking of seva 😂😂😂😂

[@satyabuddaraju7368]

You are amazing Sir. Every parent material should watch this. The reality is they are happy. But they want to ensure that their daughter-in-law is not happy and should be struggling 24×7.

[@unkaheesibaatein]

My dad is 55+ he keeps calling me 10 times a day and also checking me that why I am not receiving call immediately. He wants that I always do video call to show my little daughter and everytime it is not possible. If I explains him then he scolds me and his bp rises and then he blames me for his health. Sir, can you make video on how to deal with parents when they starts interfering on how we should do upbringing of our child?

[@Sheru---679]

Mere parents me unki life me kuch bhi ukhada Ni hai kuch Kara Ni hai na unhone mujhe acchhi life do hai ab me college me agaya Hoon meri college ki fees pay karni hai aur Paisa kamaane ki umra me mere parents roj din me 3 gamte takle pradeep Mishra ki Katha sunate hai aur uske baad 3 gante bageshwar sham ki Katha sunate hai Katha me woh bate hai ki bacchho ko maabaap ki Seva karni chahiye ab jab me apne parents par depend Hoon toh yeh mujhe acchhi life Ni de rahe hai Paisa kamaane ki umra me Ghar par baithe hai aur upar se yeh expect Kar rahe ki me unki Seva karunga

[@anahitanavneet3042]

Thankyou SO much for this video... My parents have the idealogy of being independent and are actually happy in their life... Seeing world demand sewa I used to tell them why they don't demand.. It would actually make me upset.. I would find ways to do their 'sewa' ...But they say the same thing, we pray that not a day comes where we need sewa.. I'm even prouder of my parents today :) I'm one of those very few kids like you mentioned who go and ask for opinion of my parents for every small thing in my own freedom.. Not coz I was ever taught to do so.. But Coz of their wisdom and maturity..

[@kamalaganapathy2020]

Your way of looking at things is very modern and upto date. These days unfortunately there are a lot of parents who believe it's their right to get service from children because they themselves worked hard to please their parents/ in-laws.

[@rohitdadhich706]

आपको डेली सूनने लगा हु बहुत अच्छा लगता आपकी बाते सुनकर आज कि सारी बातें मेरे घरवालो पर एकदम सटीक बैठती हैं मेरे घर वाले मेरी शादी ऐसी लड़की से करवाना चाहते है जो घर के सारे बर्तन साफ कर दे आने वाला समय कैसा है उससे उनको कोई मतलब नही है , वाकई मैं समय बहुत बदल गया हैं

[@alameludevanathan7399]

Sir you told about the people born in 60s. Jo late 60s aur 7s ke hai unka haalat hi teek nahi. Inka parents ko poore "Seva" chahiye aur bachhe bhi chahte hai unko help karen parents. Hum hi drum jaisa hogaye, dono se peetke 😅

[@kusumrastogi5672]

Donon taraf se bajj rahe hum

[@amanmalhotra9280]

Y born in 70and 80 .we have become sandwitch

[@amanmalhotra9280]

Humse dono generation karwa rhi sewa

[@somaessar7947]

Gharelu problem india me itni hai ki wo kya desh k bare me achha soche...isse bachho me v negetive asar padta hai...bade bujurg sanskar k naam pe bahu ko sewa karnewali bana ke rakh dete hai...

[@leenabharadwaj4966]

Very nice words of wisdom..but I hope parents watch such videos and try to understand the situation of their children who are struggling in their lives...Instead of troubling the children,parents should guide nd support them

[@somaessar7947]

Jo independent parents hai wo jyada khush hai....self respect k saath jeete hai

[@sumandhingra3633]

Thanks for covering this topic, I had suggested sometime back. You seem to be my "mele mein bichhde hue brother" 😄 because we share same views

[@Growingwiser]

So true, sir!!! My MIL is so dependent on others, she can’t even recharge her phone, get a new gas cylinder, or even change the bulb or tube light. We are living away from her in a foreign country and have to send money from her account through some random neighbor or relative only because she can’t even go to ATM to withdraw money… we are so tired of her constant nagging and cribbing… she struggles to use mobile even after teaching her several times. She won’t pick up the call, read messages. She will call only when she needs something. Sometimes, I feel she does it deliberately, to show to world that she gets support from her son. 😢

[@kavitagupta7572]

My in law left crores of loan...i never complained in front of any relatives....but now my mil is crying in front of every one that my dil sewa nahi karti....and she is physically very active still

[@bhavikasharma3262]

boldo

[@433nehasinghal]

Rondumal..the right word.. parents use them for parvarish ka karz...

[@lazydamsel]

Yes.

[@dr.b.p.sharma3213]

Great 👍 sir ji. You always bring important topics related to society in prevailing scenario. Your talks are definitely immensely helpful to overcome such difficulties of day to day life. Hats off 👏 to you. Best Wishes and Regards.

[@sonuk1814]

You are so ahead of times. One can learn from western culture as to how old people in West want to be independent . It is not that kids don’t want to take care of their parents . Parents want to be independent . Once they reach an age where they can’t do anything, kids step in . They either stay close to the parents or parents go to old age home. We have make old age a disease. It is sad.

[@radharani2739]

Very nice and progressive content. Very truly said that ladko ko apni wife se seva karwani hoti hai apne parents ki, khud nahi karni hoti... I also feel that it's bit too much expection that a woman should do household chores, earn money, manage the home, attend to husband, and in-laws. It's unfortunate, and this is the reason we are so low in happiness index

[@sangeetaghaisas3186]

True said,,,i m facing the same issues since years like 25 years of my marriage......

[@anjalichaudhary6679]

Sirf in laws hi nhi unke rishtodaro ko bhi attend kro sewa kro

[@meleens]

Soo called progressive people think wives who r at home coz they were not supportive, are free all day, mental.

[@arpanmadrecha946]

@@sangeetaghaisas3186 one more reason for people to not marry some one who has parents like these

[@abhaysoni926]

@@sangeetaghaisas3186 I'm seeing my mom Doing this since 23 year's.. really such a cheap Indian pathetic harsh society.. log apne bahuo aur unke bcche ko apna naukar smjhte hai unka kaam bhi kro unki tanne bhi sunlo

[@sowmyasureshkumar3641]

Sir in-laws tho never think daughter in-laws are non stop worker even if daughter in-law has reached 40 plus they expect to have speed n strength of 20year . Sweet toxic

[@kiranarya5030]

Sir ji aap dekhne m to bujurgh lagte h pr aapki soch bahut hi young hai.great job sir ji🙏🙏

[@sapnasood1814]

The best video I've watched so far among all the motivational videos I've come across.

[@amritanaidu4753]

Uncle aap ek ek baat jo bolte ho na taali baajti hai.... Aapki to Netflix special aana chahiye. You are doing God's work Uncle.... All power to you

[@alkadeshpande6628]

एकदम सही!स्ट्रेट फॉरवर्ड और सिंपल सोल्युशन.कई बार मै भी मन में यही बात सोचती हूॅं की हमारे हाथ पाव चल रहे है,कितनी अच्छी बात है!हॉं थोडी थोडी देरमें थक भी जाते है,स्लोभी हो गयी हूॅं,फिर भी यह सुकुन मनमें रहता है की हम अपने पाव पर खडे है.जरुर सर आजसे यह प्रार्थना भगवान को करुंगी की हमारे बच्चोंको हमारी सेवा करने की जरुरतही न पडे.आपके विचार सुंदर है,सही रास्ता दिखाते है.इतने सच्चे विचार ऐसे बातमें कोई नही बताता था.

[@gyaankatta]

Nice learning..the issue in our society is jo maine Saha wahi agle generation sahe..

[@singhbhawana]

Sir Aap ittni jaldi jaldi videos la rahe hain uske liye thank u, kaafi achchi hoti h aapki videos.

[@rashmi6276]

Uncle ji kash aapke jaise parents sabke hote.

[@nehajindal3208]

Meri saas aashirwad deti hain "khoob seva karo humari"😂

[@WYyXXX]

Aye haye

[@RareSweety]

Toxicity at another level. 😂🥲

[@rich2204]

😂 so sad

[@veenashrivastava3959]

That's true

[@thehumandiary]

😂😂😂😂

[@nishasharma4238]

Mai apni mummy ko 50 times Bata chuki hun ki no. Save kaise karna hai vo vahi nhi sikhti hai Har baar jab bhi Mai jati hun ek list pakada deti hai ye no. Save kar de mobile me unn ko technology sikhana mushkil hi nhi namumkin hai

[@KPKomal]

Really annoying

[@adaintydream8759]

Sir, my mother in law has done a lot of physical work in the village, and she has undergone a few surgeries, she says my body isn’t like other women bodies, my body will need sewa in future, to which i agree and say i will do it , trust me , but she never trusts me and says you will let us rot, it breaks my heart. She has always been that way, she low-key hates me. She always tell stories to my father in law about how bad of a bahu they got. I came to make her my mom , i acknowledge her loss and am empathetic towards whatever she has done in life, i RESPect her but what have i done, she won’t talk to me the whole day and expect me to treat her like a princess, she never got me a gift on my bday or anniversary or anything, but she wants dresses and jewellery my hometown,she has always been bitter with me , she praises other bahus in the family, sometimes i loose my calm and confront her, she says you are the worst bahu ever, it breaks my heart and my husband says you should put efforts to lighten her mood, when she doesn’t talk , you should. and i do the same but still at the end of the day he says you could have done better.

[@Prit2004]

Why will you care if she doesn't trust you. Just be normal like others. Uska medal leke aapko kaha jana hai. Think of yourseld and your husband, kids. Husband ko hi bolo maa ki sewa kare

[@kirtiangolkar1409]

Sir can you please share the impact of current television serials on Indian families. My father watches a lot of serials and behave exactly like these serials parents, trying to only control children

[@srilakshmisuresh6587]

Some of them of 1980 s used to treat the ones with them as though they are dirt and way below the other children who are either abroad or in different place.By the time they discover that the one’s who are staying with them are the real support ,time would have elapsed.Those children staying with them and their kids would have developed low confidence.It’s my personal experience. Plus the bombardment from relatives.

[@endlessjoychannel71]

Thanks for sharing

[@anjaneya2987]

Meri mother hamesha पापा के कान भरती रेहेती है ki बेटी को कुच्छ भी property nahi देना...sab property बेटे के नाम करदो

[@LoveYourself-my9nz]

Indirectly vo bs apne liye hi chahti h or bete k samne jaanbhojhkr ye sb krti h taki kl ko uski Bowie ko pareshan kr ske ye tana dekr ki dekho hmne to property di h. Ese log kisi k nhi hote.

[@RareSweety]

Let her, aapki mom hi openly ek bache ko prefer karti hai to karne dijiye. Bhot bura lagta hai, i know but us chiz ka moh hi kaisa jo aapki hai hi nahi, naa aapne wo property kmai hai, aapke papa ne kmai hai to kya karna us chiz ka moh rakh ke. Bs is situation se ek teaching lijiye ki future me aapke bhi agar beta beti ho to aap kisi bhi tarah se dono me farak na kare, pdai me, gharke kamo me, kapde kon kya pehnega usme. Or abhi apne aap ko itna kabil bnaiye ki wesi 1 kya 3-4 char property kharid sake. But agar aapko bhi lalach hai unki property ka to fir to kuch nahi ho skta, ladaiya hi ho skti hai.

[@jagdishvenkatswamy7952]

my father ( Govt retired servant ) wants to recharge monthly even after i pressure for yearly recharge , the reason i always get is its too costly , the mind set is not changing :( , but my mother learned very fast , Gpay and mobile courses etc , even zoom calls with weekly spirtual course :)

[@sunilmore7761]

Your video was very interesting and practical. I fully agree that younger children should empower old parents rather than make them dependent in today's techno savy world. It is quite easy to use computer,laptop smart phone, app etc to complete maximum tasks as online purchase of groceries, vegetables, clothing,home delivery of cooked food th' Zomato, Swiggy when required,travel reservations, mobile recharge,banking,etc etc to utilise time, effort, and money in smart way and thereby reduce dependency on children. After certain age children have to focus more on career, their spouse, their children and so their time resource is definitely divided. Agreed that the concept and perspective of seva has changed a lot in 2022. Thanks a lot for this video which may be definitely usefull to those who are expecting seva concept of 1940s and 1950s.

[@manishvalbani7335]

Exactly very good point taken for discussion.... My parents have not seen the corporate and work life in there prime... They dont understand whats the presurre and way of living in todays working environment... They continusly keep nagging and shouting when i dont get time and or i try to destress myself from work presure.... They expect me to contribute in home like a sarkari babu who gives fix hours in office without stress

[@theairwaydocdrmanisha]

Uncle you are great, where were you all these years. You have made this current generation so guilt free, which itself is given by parents and in laws. Every parent should watch this and should understand current generation time constraint and their own melodrama created by it. You are in true sense unbiased.

[@vihaanbhatia464]

Parents must try to acquire good wisdom and try to be valuable to help their children. It’s not easy but worth trying. Parents should not intervene in lives if grown up children but if they have great experience, children shall do come to them to seek their advices.

[@poojachand4553]

🙏 empowerment is such an appropriate word here and parents take it as though we r trying to get rid of them by trying to enlighten them

[@lionsnetonu]

You choice of topics is very realistic and core to the current scenario.

[@aparnad100]

Excellent video sir , I do exactly what you have asked not to do !! Eye opener ...I think my demand from my children will be more reasonable going forward and the relationship will improve

[@djrowlingable]

My father in law is very ambitious. My husband is youngest child and burdened with his left over ambitions (things he wish to do for society, socialising, returning favors, social work, care taker of asset, care taking of daughters etc.). He left me for his father.

[@MamtaSingh-nn6qc]

On your videos i see maximum audience are female... These days ladko ka itna mind wash ho chuka h wo bhi ye videos dekhna pasand ni krte unke liye parents bhagwan h... Wo sach sun ni sakte

[@itreallymeans2709]

देखते हैं भैंस

[@kusumrastogi5672]

Just to check parents ki sunta hai ya ni😃

[@ushabhat4568]

Aapne tho 'dho dala' i can say. U did not leave any point. Lot to learn from this as my children are leaving the nest.

[@mahendradubey6974]

There must be a balance between both the parties. If we talk about parents sewa only, that will be unfair. You must make a video on toxic young children also. Especially boys, when they are unemployed and doing timepass in preparing govt exams or chiiling and rely on parents money till age of 30.after marriage his wife wants to get separated. Arey bhai agar itne hi practical ho to jo khilaya pilays, padhaya likhaya uska hisab chuka ke jao aaram se free hoke. Both sides are guilty as well as victims.

[@ushakamble3673]

U r great Guruji. Want to listen Your ideology but can u make it available in brief text such as it should display as in comment 1st message so that everyone will first read it and understand u according to it. Just I felt, I may be wrong u can correct.

[@sn8597]

There are no benefits of individualistic societies so trying to advise Indians to follow western values is quite unethical. There are greedy parents who want their sons to fill their banks and do everything for them .. I don’t think they are majority. Please don’t preach selfishness among youth. Youth are already quite influenced with western culture.

[@jessaabraham]

Unless and until we have investments our money will end after we retire. For some few more years. Savings don’t help. Earlier atleast we had ancestral properties but now what. So all these people complaining many will also expect seva. Look at your bank balance and earnings then type. Agreed people no matter who, 1 in 6 are narcissistic and overall many are toxic. Also stop staying with your parents and in-laws. Find your own houses and income from marriage to the rest. Expects parents to provide money till marriage and then expecting nothing to give.

[@manyagarg6608]

By god seriously, kal tk m apne inlaws k family issues ki vjhse se itna jyada preshan thi, jb b kuch bolne lgti thi mera rona start ho jata tha, lgta tha koi ni smhjega muje, shi words ni milte the muje bolne k liye Pr kl sunddenly apki ek video popup hui, dekh k lga ki han yhi meri b prblm h, Apki videos se married life ko le k bhut clarity milti h Thank you so much🙏

[@NeelamGupta-er1po]

I wish aapke session sab k kaano tak pahuch sakey... Life will be so peaceful if every body understand their part in life...

[@Nits2054]

My mother in law keep my husband near her by showing health issue and his job go out

[@pritu87]

Very good video..bahut apt hai. Main NRI hoon and aur meri maa literate nahi hai toh kaafi dikkat aati hai to get ppl to help her as ab mobile pe seekhne ki ichha Nahi hai unko. NRI hoke bhi unka sab manage Karne ki koshish karte hai and medical insurance bhi cover Karke rakha hai..Par tu mujhe chhod Kar foreign Chala Gaya aisa soch health aur relationship dono kharaab karti hai. And sabse bekaar rishtedaar and dost unke aur Bura feel karwaate rehte unko and examples dete rehte unke Shravan kumaron ke badhaa chadhaake inko Bura feel karwaane and Roz call karta hoon mom ko and Roz negativity yeh sab cheezon ki wajah se milti rehti hai..but still I love her very much and hope she understands NRI hone ka reason hai aur paise kamaana and humaari standard of living improve karna

[@arpanmadrecha946]

But some parents boast that their children are abroad then why complain later

[@RohitSharma-on1ye]

Yeh budda bohot logo ke ghar todega. Phir 5 10 saal baad jab parents nia honge tab log unki yaad me royenge aur phir pandito ke chakkar latenge pura saal shraad karte rahenge...

[@partha384]

I feel what you are saying sir. Mera baap mera life ka 20 yrs kha gya. Aur aaj ehsaan jtata hai. I hate that man. Shakal dekhne ka b mn ni karta sir. Ek ek choti choti chiz k liye salon sal wait karwaya hai. Aur pta hai on chizon ki kimat hoti thi 100-200 rupye. Na deta tha na kuch kmane deta tha jisse wo khud buy karne ke liye kma sakun. Bat bat me oski naak kart jati thi. Aaj swiggy me delivery karna pad rha hai.

[@sunitajain8731]

U are absolutely right!! They says we want time.. not money.. but new generation don’t have time!! Great video

[@solutionsbyshaileshsir9597]

"Bagbaan" type movie ne to puri bhasad macha di hai. Parents ko lagta hai , hamara beta saas sasur ka ho gaya. Lekin bete ko pata hai, wo na ghar ka na ghat ka Raha. Usko koi support nahi. 😠😠😤😓😓

[@aparna3111]

I forwarded this video to parents of all ages starting with my parents and my brother ! 👍

[@rinapanda7224]

Jai Jagannatha sir ji. Excellent job 👏

[@EcmGp-op4zx]

This is man is biased AF. His suggestions encourage people to leave their parents alone and justify that.

[@meghavyas1485]

My parents suffered because of similar grandparents wrong attitude . You are very right sir.. i lost my mother because of this drama at home

[@AnjuSharma-xm7dc]

Some parents educate their daughter to take in laws as their dharm ka maa baap and respect them. When their daughter do the same thing then in laws take her as kaam vali and no equilant they should not give proper things to eat omg what not bahu aa gai matlb ab hm bed pe rahenge Or taane marenge Or nukhs nikalenge. And finally daughter have to go with husband. No one can't handle this torture

[@priyankashah1416]

Yeh sab problem mere yha bhi thi. Fir mainy apni MIl ko phone dilaya or unhy chalana sikhaya. Ab vo sab bhul kar usi phone sy meri chugliya apni betiyo or behno sy karti h. Kya he boly.😅

[@amritneeru]

Sir aapke videos I feel hm log jo so called buzurgon k sataye log hee jada dekhte h kyunki hme hmari aapbaati sunti h, buzurg toh chilannae wale baba dekhte h bhakti channel pr jo bahu bete ko gali dete h

[@kritiagrawal7633]

Absolutely super truth My mom helped me in raising my kids and from then she stayed on saying she has done for me which Noone has done in our society. Sewa is.not only by parents ND in laws. Even spouse want sewa as they have a good job and feel that his wife is getting lot of benefits. Actually it's not so. The spouse does whatever he wants and his statement ," I know what shld be done." Mom has given loads of money to her mom [ Nani, mama, mausi) saying I have enuf. Pre marriage counselling is necessary for spouse and parents both.i just keep.quiet as my kids.are the ones who suffer seeing the situation at home.