Individuality is DEAD

Hi loves! Welcome back to the channel! Recently, there's been a lot of discourse about black individuality and it's a conversation I'm interested in and want to share some feedback on. This is just my thoughts and I'm curious to know yours! Do you think individualism is dead? Do you see dark skin black women as a monolith? There's a lot to discuss, so grab your popcorn or makeup brushes, and let's talk about it.
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Phil 4:13

[@jackieaina]

also - no more “everyone looks the same” takes from people who don’t even show up online as THEMSELVES (aka anonymous accounts). Enough!

[@appleofhiseye4112]

I totally agree with this statement right here!

[@rowen2264]

I absolutely believe in individualism. I wish more people would look more unique themselves, instead of looking like cookie cutter sheets of everyone else. You go and preach Auntie Jackie. 💖

[@msatxgault560]

You're awesome hun!!! 🤗 xoxo

[@lilylights]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kimigirl4794]

Waittttt!!!! I loveee that outro!!! Lovinggg the beat!! Good discussion points btw!

[@BlkMedusa]

Social media: “BE YOURSELF!” Also social media: “Nah uh. Not like that.” 🤦🏾‍♀️ 😂

[@Brwniee95]

This omgg 😕

[@Adrienne.Michelle91]

Yup 😂😂

[@shonvision5009]

😭😭🤣🤣🤣😩🤧

[@blackgirlwithaseptum5895]

YES CHILE😂

[@praisesade]

LOL

[@user-oi9ej8bk4v]

i feel like if black women wear anything outside the “instagram baddie” niche it’s deemed as weird or not for us

[@jaylanorth4101]

Yessss

[@Sparkle_reacts]

Exactly!!

[@MsElizaRae]

Pretty much

[@UnicornWater777]

Yep

[@kelsb6262]

Than break that trend. It has to start somewhere, dummy.

[@JayySonataWTF]

What's interesting is that Doja Cat is being punished rn for shaving her head and embracing the look because it ruins everyone's light skin fantasy

[@jackieaina]

and I know exactly what you mean by this

[@Alyssaj1236]

Damn that's so true 💯

[@Sarah-kv3qs]

Yep men are now running away not trying to “indulge in that” as if she not beautiful because she shaved her head somehow lol. smh

[@laurendilaurentis6467]

couldn't have been said any better

[@ElshiBumcfksz]

Could be so kind and explain what does "runing white girl fantasy" means in this context? Thank you.

[@lhoxterlh]

As an alt-Black girl for my entire life I relate. I got bullied for reading, loving metal/rock, goth fashion, dark academia fashion, wanting to be a writer, loving anime, hell I even hike and I get told that's yt people sh!t. And I appreciate Jackie for saying that the drags for being an alt-girl come from other Black people and IT'S TF EXHAUSTING 🙄

[@SoulQueenWu]

Sending you so much love. You are FREE and some people don’t know what to do with it and that not your problem to solve. Keeep bring your beautiful self. ❤️

[@ceceangel4561]

Keep doing you! Believe me there's more of us out here than people think!

[@tsunamisoybeans]

I’ve been listening to metal for most of my life. I’m a writer and an artist. I’ve also been competing in combat sports for 5 years. I didn’t find people I could relate to until college. I’m 28 now and I’ve found spaces and friends that match me. I don’t care to be understood. Most people aren’t worth the trouble of dumbing myself down for anyway lol. Keep being yourself!

[@ChosenGemInEye]

Same.

[@AriyaaLaine]

Omg I love you ❤

[@jennienguyen3343]

I GENUINELY cannot understand how they are telling her she look bad! The bleached brows, the bombshell blonde, it was such a serve

[@Theartsymuslimah175]

Such a damn serve

[@anitaabonita]

a SERVE okay??! ATE DOWN

[@xxxKida-Himexxx]

She did that shit!

[@jadyn4879]

@@Planetunknown-n9i You good?🤨

[@abeeromesele4331]

@@Planetunknown-n9i what?

[@lgfuad4lyf]

as a black dark skinned girl who is now 30 and was heavily involved in the punk scene, I think a lot of other black people are honestly jealous that they aren’t comfortable or creative enough to forge their own path with their own thoughts. It’s never been more accepted than it is now. and it’s still a problem. people have thrown things, called me a devil worshiper etc.

[@kelsb6262]

Yes 👏🏾 I love you for this comment. The only real one. Most of these comments are people caring too much about what jealous people think of them but you’re just like well, why’d it wrong for me to just be myself just cos some others don’t like it.. good on you! ❤

[@LeolaGlamour]

People are offended period when you are yourself. I don’t fit a mold and it annoys people to death. I don’t follow others and I’m comfortable in my own lane and that is weird to people.

[@Tena0582]

This!!! Absolutely!

[@breejackson9508]

Saaame here

[@hollyholly3172]

Still not accepted some places outside of certain places unfortunately. like for example dressing alt is fine at cons but outside of that is when it gets weird

[@avaphynx]

That's why Rico Nasty isn't as popular as she should be. She's more metal looking and a thinner body type. I find her entertaining and a good rapper. Also I've experienced a lot of anti blackness over being into metal music, dressing the way I do, etc.

[@jackieaina]

I LOVE her

[@avaphynx]

@@jackieaina her style is 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@naomilee9866]

Rico doesn’t restrain her creativity at ALL, which leaves the genpop audience confused as hell apparently 😂

[@MoonBeamsChild]

Totally agree and she's one of my faves!

[@Thatlovelylady1]

Rico Nasty is THAT GIRL‼️‼️ I love you style and her music is 🔥🔥🔥

[@innocentnemesis3519]

People really tell on themselves when they attack others who are just being themselves. You can tell what they fear based on what they make fun of and it’s classic projection of insecurities. Thanks for speaking on this, Jackie!

[@jackieaina]

Very good point! I feel like it’s a way of saying “I’ve been berated for being myself and now I owe that to you too”

[@shauniseflowerreacts]

YOU SAID THIS BEAUTIFULLY!!!

[@innocentnemesis3519]

@@shauniseflowerreacts Shucks, sugar! Love to you 💖

[@Adrienne.Michelle91]

Spot on 💯 🎯

[@chelleave]

Thiiiisssss!!! Instead of hating be motivated...but that would Intel some self work and ppl scared of that 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Heydodoakskdkdjf]

When people try to hide behind “it’s just my opinion!” I share my own opinions about them…they don’t seem to like the opinion excuse then 😂😂😂

[@jackieaina]

they like giving it but not receiving it

[@hotties3v3n]

exactly

[@woodhullchick]

HA!😂

[@aliciayu7438]

another way social media is killing individuality is this whole hype around "aesthetics." i've seen so many people, especially young women and girls, feel no sense of identity outside of an aesthetic. there's people online saying they can't wear a certain piece or do their hair a certain way because it doesn't fit whatever aesthetic they want. like just wear and do what you like! everyone is pigeon-holing themselves and it's so weird to watch.

[@jinx1846]

Omg yes!! I'm starting to hate the word ✨️aesthetic✨️🙄

[@j.bandzzz34]

@@jinx1846 thats why im into esthetics not aesthetics🤣🤣💀

[@wordswithkay]

FACTS! Like babe you’re not a brand your Jessica from Long Island 😂 post a silly pic, play dress up dang

[@kelsb6262]

Yes! It’s sad because I think even I’ve fallen into this trap and it’s difficult to see a way out. Like, think outside of the box if you know what I mean.

[@maddiehall5317]

This was me for a while, I had to realize that not everybody has a label to themselves and that’s okay! Definitely learning just to like whatever the hell I like -even if it confuses some people lol

[@ULuvJanae]

The ‘Pocahontas’ quote that comes to mind that I use to check others and myself occasionally goes like this: “You think the only people who are people…are the people who look and think like you.”

[@sierradougie8559]

B-i-n-g-o

[@breeb490]

This quote is SO applicable to every aspect of our modern society.

[@OhJodii]

Cause yes she definitely told John and I loved that !

[@cameronaskenette3465]

go deeper with that quote. literally

[@pelosuelto70]

Ding ding ding!!!! 😊

[@ammeg3404]

There’s an old saying, “if you have nothing good to say, just don’t say anything at all.” Social media is saturated with the most unhappy, unpleasant people

[@adxd1002]

Truth

[@Imxel21]

If you think these social apps are bad don’t go on black gossip websites like lipstick ally

[@michelleokafor1268]

Exactly, why be mean when you can just be quiet.

[@kelechio1998]

Individuality and thinking for yourself is essentially discouraged on social media. Social media often discouraged critical thinking.

[@sophia17853]

Facts

[@dassy._.]

Yuppp

[@daintydetails]

and vehemently attacks it

[@becomingbakang8436]

Argh! This! 💯

[@Adrienne.Michelle91]

Agreed

[@Neenerella333]

JT's birthday was a straight up editorial photo shoot. People aren't waiting around for those anymore, when celebrities can make their own story board ideas. Good for her, celebrating herself, her way. Edited to add my favorite saying "Celebrate What's Great, not what you hate."

[@alishameadows8490]

No lies told!!! Black ppl are naturally creative and influence trends. But at the same time expected to stay in a box. Screw that nothing is better than being AUTHENTIC!

[@heatherlea8159]

Put in that box generally by other black people

[@glamgirlsclub7605]

@t it's mostly blacks, black people also try to put other races in a box so i guess it runs in our blood

[@tiaraw872]

@@heatherlea8159 umm no by everyone.

[@sabrinawavvy]

It’s like the ONLY aesthetics black women and girls are allowed to rep are either “IG Baddie” or “Hood fabulous” 🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴

[@Nekole1]

Right

[@shirley444]

It’s crazy how if you say that people are quick to call you anti black

[@oshunthagreat]

I specifically pick hot nerdy alternative girl lmao

[@tinytaz6668]

Since when the f*ck has looking like Grace Jones been an insult?? Her cover for “Island Life” is one of the most beautiful pics EVER!! Powerful, sexy, deep skinned black woman. EPIC!!

[@jackieaina]

period, I guess folks don’t know who Grace Jones IS!?

[@__miraaa2x]

Exactly !!!

[@thema1998]

One word: Colorism. Grace Jones is in her *mid-70s* and she looks better than most people in their 30s and 40s! Most people would kill to look like her.

[@lynylyn316]

The intersection of misogynoir, conservatism, and keyboard courage has people speaking boldly even when poorly informed. The brave creatives being criticized by less adventurous folks is a low form of human behavior, but very common. The phrase “ those who can, do, those who can’t, criticize” has never been more obvious

[@jackieaina]

facts your honor

[@cupidsulfer7504]

Conservatism is a biggie!!!! Lately I’ve been seeing this whole movement by younger people and it’s wild.

[@TerryAnnOnline]

@@cupidsulfer7504omg! People have different political ideologies! It’s almost like their…..individuals.

[@TheeBratzDollxox]

@@TerryAnnOnlineI doubt it’s about the politics itself but moreso the hypocrisy that comes with their intentions: they’re pushing these conservative values on OTHER people who clearly don’t subscribe to it, rather than on themselves.

[@maybemablemaples2144]

@@TerryAnnOnline it isn't opinions when you're bringing some hateful vibes. Look you can be a centrist but I'm telling you you don't want to step up for those haters.

[@edithv220]

People project their own insecurities that are deeply rooted, and so it’s almost like “ how dare you be confident enough to be unique and unapologetic “.

[@piroshk1968]

spot on 🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@Narcissisticbehaviors]

Right

[@l.a.perrotte9908]

This is the comment right here. I have experienced this and it is quite true.

[@infinitedreaming222]

Individuality is allowed but if a woman has a deep complexion there’s this strange desperate need to “humble” them. Also some the trolls are bots - just sent to cause destruction

[@TrangaTanga]

Right! It’s such a weird fetish almost 👀🤣

[@missiamtwinkles0169]

This is very much so!!

[@indiganoir]

Heavy on the bots…

[@jinx1846]

It's also "stan" culture that messed up individuality. I feel like people have a hive mind/mentality when expressing their opinions. They're so fixated on being associated with a particular group/"fandom" that they're afraid to deviate from that group. Btw your makeup is BEAUTIFUL as always 💖💜

[@jackieaina]

actually yea, stan culture has definitely cultivated group think and echo chamber behavior online

[@Ashleighrenee42]

Will always support alternative/emo Black girls. I was that girl in my teen years but had no other Black girls to be that with. So I love seeing the babies thrive out here together 🖤

[@JessResourceful]

As a dark skinned and plus sized woman, when I was a girl I wanted nothing more than to look like the it girls or my light skinned friends because of the very apparent positive opinions and love they received. Fast forward to 2020, when Kevin Samuels told Black women that are fat we’d die alone because no one wants us. This one had me on a spiral for a little bit. I even had an up and coming influencer once tell me that if I wanted to get married one day I needed to lose weight. Today, I couldn’t give to Fs or a damn about how society thinks any longer. I’m healthy, in-spite of my chubb, and I know who I am.

[@noproblems3192]

Tell them to eat some grass tf!

[@krisjackson6567]

Yes girl!!!

[@sydneywilliams4796]

Love the growth for you!!

[@daisiemae65]

Not only are you healthy, you seem to have a beautiful spirit as well. Have a Blessed and wonderful holiday!

[@pianosong25]

See how they project their issues on other people, they never wanted you to know who you are, a threat to them. Strut sis!

[@corricjjohnson126]

Missy Elliott is a prime example of creativity and boldness. Her videos were weird, funny, creative, and still remained lit.

[@TsubataLately]

Jackie, you are the reason I have completely stopped commenting on creators' physical appearance on all social media. Both seemingly positive and negative comments have the potential to be detrimental, and I don't want to subject another person to that, particularly someone that I admire. I think that my KZbin comments in particular have gotten a lot more thoughtful as a result. I genuinely appreciate you letting us know how our comments were having an impact on you, because it gave me an actionable way to be better. ❤

[@jackieaina]

🥹🤎

[@m_v_s497]

I hate that everyone looks the same thing because clothes stop becoming readily available as trends cycle through. Company’s will literally mass produce to fit trends and its hard to find different pieces

[@Neenerella333]

I understand the economics of mass production, following trends in the bigger picture. But I agree that you have to go to resale/vintage places to find something special. Or spend a bunch on custom/bespoke/tailored items. There are DECADES where I just don't shop. The fits or patterns just don't suit me.

[@gensai93]

@@Neenerella333 That's true, but I noticed a lot of thrift stores nowadays sell a lot of discarded fast fashion, the last time I went to Goodwill it was like 90% SheIn clothes.

[@OhJodii]

@@gensai93 also remember they are buying these pieces for quick wear and when people usually go to goodwill and donate the good stuff , they were the generations before. Also try another area , further out you will definitely find the good stuff. If I thrift I'll go to west palm or Naples I stay in Florida . But the ones close they discard the fast fashions. It's also good for the families who want trendy clothes for children hopefully. I'm about to just transform my grandmas clothes to give me what I want. Because stores just don't appeal to me anymore.

[@erickab8555]

@@gensai93 this is so true. I’ve lucked up on Fashion Nova & SheIn pieces that I wanted to buy but couldn’t justify the shipping times at my local Goodwills. It’s to the point where I know which ones have the most pieces from specific fast fashion brands with the tags still attached!

[@Neenerella333]

@@gensai93 Ugh. That's true too. Ten years ago, our fave Buffalo Exchange (I used to shop at the original Tempe AZ one) was starting to serve as the dumping ground for big batches of unsold fast fashion. There became no room for the cool vintage stuff. And it wasn't resale prices anymore either. You used to be able to get well made, unique things. RIP blue velvet pants suit.

[@MoChi-ep6er]

I have been dressing in J fashion like decora, Gyaru etc, and my family is very supportive but I’m too scared to post my looks. But it gives my confidents seeing more black people dressing alternative makes me happy.❤❤

[@milkflavored]

I bet you look amazing! I’m so glad you exist and can enjoy your hobby, even in the safety of your home 💕

[@BackStreetChippets]

I follow a lot of black women in Lolita and j fashion. I’m sure you look great and will the support of many

[@vnessaw]

I also feel like you shouldn’t feel pressure to post the looks. The internet can be toxic and it’s ok to just enjoy for yourself. In some ways not posting and just doing it for yourself is a form of individuality

[@etaperily4947]

i started being more confident in wearing stuff like that after seeing a lot of black people with alternative styles on tiktok!! like if they can do it, so can i

[@Flustered_Potato]

I love those looks! There’s definitely a community of Black women who dress that way and would support you. Don’t feel pressured to post though.

[@tenwaystowearit]

I get comments all the time from people who seem literally irritated because I don’t dress like their favorites or because I don’t wear things how they would wear them. I guess people really need us all to be just alike.

[@milkflavored]

Love your earrings in your icon! You look celestial ✨

[@tenwaystowearit]

@@milkflavored thanks so much love.

[@kelsb6262]

Blame the libras

[@charitychin7170]

Growing up, I was bullied for being the plus sized, funny black girl with natural hair, when everyone else had relaxers and were thin. I eventually grew thick skin, embraced who I was and who I am still becoming, and stopped giving a f*ck. I dress how I want to dress and wear my hair and makeup how I want to wear it. I’ve always been true to myself and my aesthetic and will continue to do so!

[@marianne6373]

“Be yourself!” “No, not like that!” Ugh. I live under a rock and don’t know who she is, but she does look very cool!

[@sierraalexis3940]

As a Darkskin girl I’ve felt the hate since elementary like I shouldn’t wear certain colors like yellow reds blue soooo as an adult I go out my way to wear those colors and do wtf I want cause they most def won’t say it to your face irl and there’s a block/report button👏🏾

[@universal5313]

Omg remember when everyone was saying how darkskin girls shouldn't wear bright colors but now everyone's loves to tell us darkskin girls that bright/neon colors especially yellow or red is made for us like it does look good in us but it's so funny how people switch up

[@unofficialbeautyqueen6624]

@@universal5313yesssss

[@hilo6243]

For every person who hates on those looks you’re doing, I guarantee there’s just as many if not more who love & support it. I know it always means a lot to me when I see Black women doing what tf they want aesthetically, and if I’m thinking like that plenty of other people are as well. Keep doing you, babe!

[@naturallyflawed5472]

Although I’m nt a dark skin girl I’ve always felt like brighter colors look good on that particular skin tone. White especially looks good on dark skin in my opinion.

[@starlight1818]

I watch a youtuber named Miss Darcei, she gets so much hate in her comments section, saying she is asian-fishing just because she does a lot of makeup looks that are trending in East Asia. I've even seen her callout on comments literally telling her "why don't you do black girl makeup instead?" like wtf? Then of course there were comments like "this makeup doesn't suit someone of your skin tone" like why are you saying this? omg. I just don't understand society. It's just not lacking individuality, but also basic human compassion!

[@jackieaina]

I love Darcei and I do not understand why they are ALWAYS messing with her

[@hollyholly3172]

DARCEI!! ❤❤ Girl I saw another comment that said that people only like it when black women stick to the baddie aesthetic and honestly this is just an example of it ringing true, because that’s the “black girl” makeup/ aesthetic those people are referring to. I’m always confused as to how she is “Asian fishing” by just wearing makeup…? So now apparently makeup defines what Asian people look like?? These people are so ignorant they don’t even realize it. lol also good lord the way people acted when they saw her with an Asian guy is… another thing altogether. These people can’t see black girls and leave them alone.

[@coeurgourmand]

Honestly!! Black women should not be expected to follow one style, regarding both fashion and makeup!! I actually love her "Black Girl Tries" séries, bc it shows any race can wear any aesthetic or style ❤

[@someusername4129]

Social media is so toxic... And it's getting worse year over year.

[@Olivia-qi3cp]

Totally agree. I saw a post on Twitter the other day about how social media is catering to extremes. Attention grabbing things to shock us and keep us scrolling. It’s polarising people more and more and making the experience of using social media (particularly Twitter) very jarring and not enjoyable

[@maribuzzz3558]

Being projected on can feel very much like being held responsible for other people’s feelings, fears, insecurities. Then being told you’re arrogant or cocky when you’re firm on *not* staying in that box for their comfort. Thank you for speaking on this!!

[@MusulynMassaquoi]

Facts

[@nopereradicator]

It feels that way because that’s exactly what they’re doing. Holding us psychologically responsible for their insecurities.

[@yolandamoise3719]

I was literally speaking to myself earlier of how everyone looks alike. For example, I seen this cool outfit on one influencer. TWO DAYS later I seen 5 girls with the same exact outfit. It’s wild

[@loviaroberts293]

Yessssss

[@rachelesmith3342]

This is where I feel like influencers who’ve made a living off of influencing come off rather hypocritical talking about the lack of individuality when they are some of the main pushers of certain aesthetics and literally advertise to death specific products, clothing items, furniture, etc. that contribute to some of the prominent aesthetics that many subscribe to today. All their swipe up links that sell them the same exact outfit they’re wearing and then they act confused when they see people dressing just like them or begging for more links to literally everything they own. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Dani-qh6ho]

@@rachelesmith3342 My niece sent me a video of an well known TikTok influencer. I don’t have an account but was able to look at a few of her videos. I was appalled at how much information people wanted. Down to what kind of shredder she was using. I’m older and not really into social media like that, but I was just like do people really not have a mind of their own? It was mind boggling.

[@MONET8iAM]

I work at a store, and young girls are always coming in for products that went viral on tiktok, from clothing, to beauty/self care products, to candy. Candy!!! Lol

[@lexiaussi237]

Fast fashion labels like Shein and FashionNova are a.) part of the problem and b.) horrible for the environment.

[@sugarahhhoneyhoney9290]

".. .I think thoughts and I keep scrolling." My sentiments exactly when it comes to other people's differing style and often opinions on social media. I don't feel the need to denigrate strangers and I don't understand those who do.

[@PositiveWomenTV]

"If you can stay positive in a negative situation, you win."

[@Rno352]

I do think it’s getting worse and it’s sad…. I’ve wear my 4c hair shrunken most of the time because I like how it looks and how I feel just being a non-manipulation natural black woman. People judge me so hard and have told me, “I must not love myself”, which is bizarre. If anything I really love my kinky hair and I want to show it off..

[@jackieaina]

you do not deserve that 😔

[@sierradougie8559]

People are just weird and project their insecurities onto others. I find people that are against individuality are envious of the people they clown because they wish they could dress/look how they want without second-guessing it.

[@angelicarogers9711]

Such great points! People take social media way to seriously ands it not even the business that’s pays them! Also another person to add to the list is LIZZO! People are obsessed with hating on her

[@kelsb6262]

Especially men! I’ve heard men online say all sorts of things like “she’s unattractive because she’s fat but even if she was skinny she’d still be unattractive”… and it really gives me racial aggression undertones.

[@laura1less]

"opinions are not facts." dude, people should know their opinion aren't absolute truths but I feel like they think that's the case because of how much they expect other people to care about what they think about SOMEBODY ELSE'S BODY OR LIFESTYLE/ CHOICES, it's hysterical how people really be expecting you to change something in yourself to please them, because _they think_ it's weird/ugly/tacky or whatever. these people online are incapable to understand that: everyone's a different person; they low-key expects everyone to be like them 🤡

[@mayabrooks7900]

Those same people are the main ones that are jealous of you.

[@theKKRose]

I’m just happy to see the content today but I totally agree there’s literally no individuality anymore but JT and Uzi are the perfect match and I love that she unapologetically herself

[@tondaniraluswinga2590]

I hate that individuality means looking extreme or totally different from "normal" for me individuality is being independent and thinking for yourself and not always going with the crowd.

[@Prysnn]

@@tondaniraluswinga2590 amazing point! Having a sense of individuality is very multi faceted and doesn’t just come to how someone looks. It’s a way of carrying yourself and thought process.

[@DeeLa82]

@@tondaniraluswinga2590 great point!

[@sweethoneymilk]

@@tondaniraluswinga2590 Individuality is straying away from the status quo…which is often perceived as extreme and different. I don’t think you understand what individuality actually means. If your sense of ‘individuality’ essentially follows in line with everyone else and isn’t perceived as ‘not-normal’ then how is that you exhibiting a sense of individuality? Words mean things, and not just definitions that you come up with.

[@tondaniraluswinga2590]

@@sweethoneymilk you didn't understand my comment, I clearly said individuality for Mr means thinking for yourself and not being afraid to do what you think. I did say that people associate individuality with dressing differently or looking different from normal but I thi k it's more than just a look, its mentality and freedom and independence to think what you want and create a life for yourself that you desire. Dressing differently doesn't always equate to individuality. Dont know where I missed the point you are trying to make

[@Chemisegrise]

I looove this video and this topic becomes it’s something I heavily am attached to because I used to be the girl who wore whatever and didn’t care but as social media became a thing I became more and more toned down and I feel like I lost a lot of my individuality trying to fit in or fly under the radar! I think social media had so much to do with it, people feeling entitled to everything they see even if they don’t follow you etc. it’s so exhausting seeing the way individuality is demonized! I let those people take my uniqueness and I think im finally getting the courage to reignite it because a world where everyone agrees with everything (oppressive & negative evils aside lool) is not one i want to be in! And respect is free, kindness is free, it’s terrible to see the way people cannot give either nowadays and then wonder why “everyone looks the same” i loved this video!!

[@jackieaina]

I love this self realization for you and I understand what you mean 100%! Here’s to living out our truest selves more and more 🥂

[@Chemisegrise]

@@jackieaina yesss absolutely!!! 🥂🥹🤍

[@aneshalove226]

The most heartbreaking thing is that it’s other black people that are trying to put you back in your place (the strong warrior archetype that they’re used to)

[@mwright0428]

Someone once said SM was the death of reality and I see it in a lot of ways especially when it comes to physical appearance. Individuality is definitely not encouraged as it should and it’s weird. And it happens in the same space where there’s a vocal counter movement against shaming individuals. It literally takes all of us to be better and to be kind

[@Just-YOLANDA-T.C]

@Jackieaina, not saying your other videos didn't hit, THIS ONE HIT DIFFERENT. As a 51yo black woman, I felt all of this.

[@misslashae6860]

It’s so refreshing to have your content back on KZbin😫🙌🏾

[@thatssopheebs]

Yesss people hate when you don’t stay in the box like everyone else

[@thatssopheebs]

Some Black people want ourselves to look the same while simultaneously telling nonblack people not to generalize black people…

[@tigerlilly9038]

@@thatssopheebs giiiiiirll. this 😳

[@cat56789]

@@thatssopheebs PHEWW PREACHHH😮‍💨👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@RecaJ333]

TBH the world has ALWAYS put black women into very specific categories. It's so strange. I had the pleasure of reading "Even the stars get lonesome" by Maya Angelou and here's a quote, " The larger society, observing the women’s outrageous persistence in holding on, staying alive, thought it had no choice but to translate the perversity and contradictions of the black woman’s life into a fabulous fiction of multiple personalities… for they could not have existed without the romantic racism that introduced them into the American psyche. The heartbreaking tenderness of black women and their majestic strength speak of the heroic survival of a people who were stolen into subjugation, denied chastity and refused innocence."--Essentially, they had to view black women as "men" in order to be okay with themselves for enslaving us and having us work such harsh conditions. They striped away our feminity, but such a huge part of a woman (mainstream, whatever) is feminity. So they made up these weird categories to try and place us in. But its DEEP in our psyche at this point. Many people get hostile when they don't understand something or it doesn't fit into the box they deem it should. When you're healed, its curiosity. But most people, aren't healed. "How dare this person express themselves, when they look like this, but here I am and I can't even speak my truth, what's wrong with me?" ---insecurities. people need help lololoolo thanks for coming to my TED TALK.

[@breepandora]

I don't think it dead it's just not celebrated onlije but I love that fact that individuals are stepping out in their "truth" despite the hate and another perfect example is the whole Wednesday Adams trend. Everyone loves how quirky she is on screen but give the emo quirky ppl hate online or in person. And I was thinking this the other day that I like the alternative aesthetic, I've always been attracted to it from I was a kid bit where I am Jamaica, the countey on a whole isnt ready for that.

[@jackieaina]

I don’t think this is just an online thing, this is very reminiscent of middle school and high school behavior tbh😭 anybody who is remotely “different” was teased for it

[@afrikaira]

something else i’ve noticed is how people on tiktok basically demand you to do something (like “show us xyz) vs. simply asking (can you show xyz?)

[@jackieaina]

I get this a lot about starting new brands or projects. Comments like “give us a pajama line” “drop a makeup line for us” it’s actually a lot of pressure and I feel like people don’t really realize what they’re asking of me constantly 😭 I gotta be fulfilled in everything I create too, and I’m not going into debt for every “ok now start this brand!” that’s suggested literally everyday!

[@afrikaira]

@@jackieaina and that’s 100% fair! i truly think with the rise of tiktok people have an even greater sense of entitlement and forget the work that goes behind making content (or brands). everything appears so easy to do but if it WAS that easy everyone would be doing it.

[@jackieaina]

this exact issue is why I had to take a step back from KZbin this past year. this push/pull started to deeply affect me and people started to (sometimes) talk to me and treat me like content was owed. I was shocked because I’ve never previously experienced anything like that and it kind of took the fun out of doing it tbh

[@melisdantou]

i honestly prefer these more casual videos where you’re just speaking your mind!! the “video essay” girlies just regurgitate the same point these days

[@jackieaina]

thank you for the feedback! I do feel when I have talking points it helps with flow of conversation but the more scripted the harder it is for me to express myself while filming

[@Dina8485]

I definitely realized I often speak as if my opinions are a collective thought from a group, and I've begun to correct myself and say "let me speak for myself." because I don't know what people's takeaways are and I've also had some trouble differentiating my own opinion from what the internet is saying.

[@carlacookingvegan]

People with anonymous accounts have the most smoke 💨 for people who are actually sharing their real image 🤦🏾‍♀️.

[@chloescorouches]

as an alt black girl, this topic needs to be discussed!! i started out feeling & being called boring cuz i was never super “feminine” & was never admired the way others following the status quo were (still not lol) but now i live my truth. I have been critical of the “IG Baddie” aesthetic i will admit because of envy of not being admired but I had to let it go (for the most part lol). Proud to represent for the alternative black girls in my little corner of the world 🤞🏽

[@gemini8620]

Same

[@jaelasam]

I think people need to let people be whoever they wanna be. Let's all practice 'If you have nothing good to say, then say nothing and keep it pushing' 💯

[@feji88]

Just wanna say I’m loving the old school Jackie long chit chats with elevated production vibe!

[@kclovie]

I agree. I thought I was trippin. When Doja Cat (love her) when she shaved her head and eyebrows people loved it soooo much that they RECREATED her look. But then when a black woman of a deeper complexion decides to make a decision to cute off her hair or wear something unconventional she is deemed as “crazy” or “dumb” because she is doing something that isn’t the same but when someone of a lighter complexion does something that isn’t conventional then they are “innovated” “amazing” and “a trend starter.” Like ion understand why but also I understand why

[@channn1101]

Doja definitely was dragged for that too. Ppl were saying she was going crazy, on drugs, going thru her Illuminati humiliation phase etc. they was letting her have it 😂

[@kclovie]

@@channn1101 YOU RITE but shoot I saw some people recreate them and I was like HUH but that was me personally

[@Ten.ofcups]

For my own sake I cut a lot of apps off my phone like tik tok and twitter and that is been helping me to one to make my own mind on stuff to figure what I like and don’t and also it’s been Tremendously helpful for my mental health

[@ChosenNBlessed1111]

A lot of people wanna be like everybody else online 😒 let’s bring back being yourself ❤ if they don’t line you for you ? Oh whale 🐋 they’re not meant for you ! Period !!

[@tracytracyWM]

Boots at the beach is actually genius. I hate sand in my shoes. 😅

[@theyb_]

watching you do your makeup and just speak FACTS is such a joy. I wanted to add that when people say "this is what you've signed up for" is such a form of gaslighting wtf, also normalises toxic online behaviour and acts as a form silencing people :/ not here for it

[@ali_sparks]

Being harassed and picked on was never what people sign up for or deserve. People are going out their way to share a piece of themselves and that should be celebrated instead of being critiqued all the time

[@linalouwillis]

Love your social commentary videos

[@jamiliahtate]

A lot of people only like different when it’s trendy🙃

[@jackieaina]

and with some trends, there’s almost always someone who did it first and got made fun of for it 😭

[@rasheikarp]

Personally, while I think individuality is necessary, a lot people just want to fit in and I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing. I see a lot of persons making 'being different' their whole personality, purposely shying away from/avoiding things that they would genuinely like or even love just because it's too 'common' or too 'mainstream'. One thing about me, if I like it, I like it... I couldn't care less about it being trendy or not.

[@vnessaw]

That’s true. There is the other extreme too. Very interesting!

[@CupcAk47]

You're one of the few people that inspire me to create content. You're a reminder that real is still valid in this internet space.

[@tarynrobinson4865]

I am ALWAYS thinking this! that doja cat can wear all this with no judgement! And I've experienced this too (I know I'm pale af) but seriously mixed/light skin people ARE judged differently and it's not ok. The colourism is so obvious and palpable

[@kayysagittarius]

People were making fun of Doja and literally said she needs help

[@uranus2849]

@@kayysagittarius They say that bc she shaved her head off. If she never shaved her head off then people would have never made up those Illuminati rumors. ( and this is not me saying her bald head is ugly. me personally i think its gorgeous & suits her really well.)

[@dianabryan7421]

I love blush and I love that you use it unabashedly! Us chocolate baddies look so good in blush! Also thanks for the thoughts and conversation I have taken notes and I have vowed to be more open in the future!

[@kristinaward3949]

I think that individuality is dead. I think individuality and being unique is so hard in today's society because social media wants cookie cutter and all the same. Black women in general get torn apart from all areas. I think if someone isn't getting hurt, creating and living their best life let them do and be who they want. Social media does not dictate real life to "most" people but a lot of people let it. I hope that makes sense. Love your channel and you look stunning as ever.

[@samanthadavis5825]

No fr everything is that deep! And I feel like people get soo offended by out of the box looks, life styles, etc is because of internalized fears and insecurities. A lot of people live life’s false to them because they are too afraid of what others would think or say. So when they come across someone doing them, it’s a trigger.

[@Latebloomer731]

Great topic! As a child in the 80's my mom didn't dress me like my peers. Today my 15 yo doesn't want to look like everyone else at school. So, I have hope that individualism will continue in the future.

[@shawnleonidas]

ALT BLACK GIRLS I LOVE YOU!! You are loved here and got a friend in me! Do your shit big homies 💪🏽❤️

[@ShaySunshyne]

I keep telling people, does your “opinion” encourage or discourage? Like baby some things you can just keep to yourself

[@jackieaina]

and if you’re sharing an opinion over something that can’t be fixed immediately (someone’s hair, skin, etc) then shurruppp

[@TheNonMuslimNiqabi]

Another great video! For me, people use my age and body as a 'reason' why I shouldn't dress how I do. I have been told by men and women (mostly by people I know personally but others too) things like: "you're young!" "but you're so cute and skinny, you should be showing that body off" "why do you cover up your figure in all these long skirts and dresses? " " I don't know how you do it ", etc. May edit If I think of anything else.

[@cetriyasArtnComicsChannel]

"you should be showing that body off" "why do you cover up your figure in all these long skirts and dresses? " yep, this has been more of a trend these last few years. its always framed as 'oppression' or 'not loving your self' just cause you find different ways of dressing when it should be about a persons personal choice.

[@ShereenaD]

The only person you owe anything to is yourself. If YOU feel good about how YOU choose to honor YOUR body, that's all that matters.

[@TheNonMuslimNiqabi]

@@cetriyasArtnComicsChannel Yes, you're right on the money about people thinking it has to stem from someone oppressing you (this doesn't mean I'm ignoring or denying what goes on in other parts of the world) or there being some lack of self-esteem, when for me it is so much the opposite it's [almost] laughable. In a world of over 8 billion, why should it be so hard to believe that some choose to dress in a way that is scrutinized or even simply goes against the grain [in a way], especially without any religious influence? (like my case) (rhetorical question) But all in all I agree. Thank you for your comment 🙂

[@TheNonMuslimNiqabi]

@@ShereenaD Thank you for your reaffirming comment. Yes, I don't feel the need to justify or overly explain things, I just get dressed like everyone else and head out the door. That's it that's all. 🙃 Have a great day!

[@Lill2895]

Just trying to dress comfortably and everybody wants you to walk around looking like their ideal Bratz Doll 😭🤦🏾‍♀️ They just be projecting.

[@catchapatcha]

I appreciate your commentary Jackie!! ❤ Be kind + have courage ❤

[@QueenDeeTV]

And this is why I’ve been watching Jackie since I was 13 (27 now) ALWAYS kept it 100

[@elijahlove12]

this is why I lovveee Jackie, this conversation is well needed within the black community& ofc the rest. I hope everyone watching this video is really INNerstanding what she is saying. Those thoughts flowing to her are literally words of her highest self ( God )

[@ameeradouse944]

Being from a southern black family, back in 2013 I got into kpop and I was and still am into anime and the moment that I expressed that to my extended family they would constantly make comments and “jokes” about how I wanted to be Asian and how I fetishized Asian people and genuinely I stopped talking about the stuff I liked because I was ashamed since “you can’t like kpop if your black”

[@oliviaangelie9249]

I think what irks me the most is people saying that the person who became a celebrity, or the person who decided to post some thing "signed up" for. I'm so glad you point that out and the thing about that is the fact that the argument is weak and really isn't beneficial to anyone in the end!

[@jackieaina]

just an awful excuse to bully people. literally no one signs up for that lmao

[@prettylittlesyko]

If it had been doja nobody woulda batted a damn eyelash, when I saw Aaliyah's look on Twitter I didn't even read the comments I just thought oh that's cute AF, then I saw the comments and I was like 🙄

[@jackieaina]

and Doja is unique in her own way but she can’t be the only alt girl 😭 let others explore the looks too

[@neciajax]

❤️ People definitely need to stop forcing so called societal norms on others. I enjoy seeing black women in particular step outside the box because black women do not have just one aesthetic. Enjoyed you take❤️

[@evylacy6706]

Love the look. Great conversation and I'd say growth and maturity are key. I've always been brave enough to do me and defend myself against unsolicited opinions. I believe if you don't have something kind to say, keep it moving, trust me, it works.

[@theunyet.curatedlife]

I loved JT’s birthday look it was very editorial.

[@ForbsieLaLa]

I have felt that way for a long time. It is one of the reasons I started watching your videos. I have never been into the full face makeup but your application was always still more appealing to me and not what every one else was doing. I also love the little chats. You have that above others. You speak of things that are actually important, to me at least, at bot what everyone else was/is talking about. You rocked the boat. I have always promoted individuality and while I don't always agree with the extreme some go to, at least they are not just copying what is trendy

[@AntonetteShay]

I’m beyond excited that you’re back to making KZbin content. I enjoy the conversational content and transparency. && You touch on the unspoken hot topics….Literally like a breath of fresh air because you share your thoughts/opinions and you don’t backpedal. Anyway heyyyyyy Jackie ❤

[@dr.brendajoy2480]

I admire how you handled a complex subject in such a skillful manner. You prompt us to consider the tension between individuality and conformity. Excellent!

[@jaybebold]

That dystopian comment was 👏🏼 No one’s speaking for me or on behalf of me. That sort of thing has room in the corporate world when speaking to change on a team effort but not when it comes to individual influencers EVER!

[@milkflavored]

AGREED. Even in YT comments I emphasis that this is *my* opinion, I’m speaking for ME

[@goddessglows]

This topic along with your commentary is so important! Social media in general has been a blessing and a curse. It’s all by design if I must say so myself.

I honestly just think it’s the power of uniqueness. Embracing it is a beautiful thing but I honestly think it’s all about intent. If the intent is not Ill-willed-you can hurt/learn and do what’s necessary to restore the child-like perspective in you and come back with your truth and let it evolve. Maybe helping the next person. Gratitude helps many through life in general. Everything isn’t for the public eye but many things aren’t to be ashamed of. Life sucks sometimes but the winning moments are always worth remembering your why. I mean the losses too but just enjoy the journey.

[@xoKaylaMay]

Yes chileee I just vented about this and posted a video I’m so tired of not being/seeing authenticity! God has given me a vision and I’m stepping out into it now. You’re a blessing Jackie I pray for more love to come your way ( and the world and black woman🤍). I’m tired of being put in a box for society to make other feel comfortable around me. I want to be comfortable! So no more!

[@trxphywaifalt]

Same

[@LonjeMarie7]

No matter what you do people will judge gossip and criticize about you. Wear EXACTLY what YOU WANT WHENEVER YOU WANT. Be the REAL YOU!

[@Make_it_Make_Scents]

Fellow Sagittarius here👋🏽JT definitely read the comments & she’s pbly going to go harder with her creativity 💅🏽

[@jackieaina]

this is a sag safe space!

[@Make_it_Make_Scents]

@@jackieaina 😩 this means a lot!! Not everyone can take us 😚🔥♐️

[@jackieaina]

the fire sign energy is def appreciated on this side!

[@arianikolleortemoreno5225]

23:33 totally! People like originality as long as it fits within the standard/hegemony 26:27 my opinion on indiviality is that ONLINE is getting worse but IRL I feel like it's getting better, idk if that makes sense

[@Fbinta]

I'm so glad I'm not on social media like that...KZbin that's it! 🙌🏾 it seems wild out there!!

[@Datb2]

Fr

[@inmyOWN_world]

It is….

[@jessicaw4808]

Whew, I’m so glad you’re back on KZbin. I love your conversation pieces. Real topics.

[@niaroberts9567]

I 100% agree which your points Jackie, which is why I don't even use my Instagram that much anymore and have no desire to return to Twitter. People have gotten too carried away with their self-entitlement and unsolicited opinions because they can hide behind an account and spew their thoughts freely, as if someone is on the receiving end of their words. I hate it!

[@Lee-im2bn]

i was always the "emo" black person though i was not even in the realm of emo all i did was dress a lil bit different and LORD when i tell you being in highschool and not being the norm is such a CONFIDENCE KILLER, i slowly started to quiet myself down but i loved being loud w my braids and makeup and now in college I'm like damn i fr let ppl who had no sense of self RUIN MY SENSE OF SELF and honestly at this point just do you cuz what else are you gonna do

[@nayatanis3085]

One thing I’ve noticed (via social media) is when non-black people do or say something regarding black people doing a certain aesthetic/look, some like to point out history or how black people/poc started that trend (I.e. alt, country) but when people actually have a non typical ‘black’ look/aesthetic they get called white, etc.