INFJ Purpose in the World | NDE Wisdom

[@kt1048]

INFJ here, and I’ve been watching those videos for about 6 months now. I can’t get enough

[@waynerobinson979]

U make me feel not so alone in the WORLD.. Good to see an INFJ SISTER OUT THERE. 💕🕊️🙉🙈🙊🐵🐺🙏😔

[@marcelinogalicia7612]

Amy Lyne your topics are very inspirational and interesting. Spirit beings do exist, and INFJs can and do communicate with these beings when the need is present to do so. Love is the Key to Everything, INFJs I feel has a purpose in this world and must never under any circumstances give up! the world needs you because we are all seeking peace in the world. and you and others like you have the power to manifest these powers that were given to all INFJs. this is a Quantum Reality Entangling Dimensions.

[@dakotawinston7677]

The last 25 seconds 😂 I know that sense of humor so well cause it’s the same one I got! 🤠

[@figmodaddy2996]

You are so interesting. I listen to your words and then do a rewind to marvel again at what you just said. I know I could easily have a three hour conversation with you. I am now 78 years old and wish so to go back in time taking my knowledge as an INFJ with me to better use my gifts. I am envious of both your age and awareness of all you are. It is so comforting to hear that you absorb all around you; then, sort through it all to place it in your own personal format to use when needed. I am glad you have decided to tell us what you believe we need to know. Thank you.

[@BrJon-uh8cm]

I am a INFJ and surprise, I have been a monk for 35 year! We practice meditation, it is an Eastern religion. When I found out about this type it really clicked for me, always have relied on my intuition, and gauged people by their vibrations, rather then what they say. Years ago before entering the ashram a man came up and offered to fix the dent on my car, I sensed that he was ripping me off, but also that he and his wife and child needed the money, so I let him proceed and do a terrible job on the car, I then gave him the money he needed. I have done things like that many times, pulling aside the curtain of reality, to see the need at the moment... Having meditated for more then 45 years, it has really helped ground me in the "now", like you said in your other video, this helps me to be more aware what is going on around me. Nice videos, keep up the good work!

[@danielp255]

TY Amy. That was an excellent production. Getting better with each video. I believe every person is where they are meant to be. If my soul was born into your life, I would be exactly where you are now and vice versa. It's not about right or wrong, good or bad, It's about unique experiences. Billions of people born to this life and every one is unique and beautiful in their own way. I feel more of a spectator than a participant now, always observing, afraid of making waves. Thank you again Amy, this pond I swim in feels warmer with your wave. Your admirer, Danny.

[@amy-lyne]

Beautiful ❤

[@franzjosefmueller-alban509]

That was... profound what you wrote and that part of being a " spectator " is a deep contemplation. Fascinating. I may borrow that thought if you don´t mind because we ( mature INFJ´s ) do really prefer at some point to be at the rand of the society like reading a book, you become part of the story but from another angle so we don´t need to participate " directly " into it. we tried many, many times until we learn that no matter how hard we try we won't be able to change much. It is not resignation but rather acceptance I´ll guess. Really, really interesting ... now I have a new project to think about ... love it and thank you. Stay true Regards Franz

[@TheAnonymousHippopotamus]

Aloha Amy! Not going to lie, sometimes it's hard to watch these vids without getting emotional. I've learned to download them and watch them while I'm out hiking 😅 A few months ago I was deep in the NDE rabbit hole when I found a girl named Claire Wineland. Claire had Cystic fibrosis since she was a kid and talked about what it feels like being in a coma, and her near death experiences. She posted her opinion about bucket lists and said something I really feel relates to the idea of INFJ purpose and meaning in life. "I don't want a bucket-list! I want to feel okay about myself, I need to feel like I'm a functioning person who's contributing something to the world. I need to feel useful to society and useful to the people around me. I need to have some deep connection with other people. You know... maybe you can count that as a bucket-list in of itself?" You've taken the time to share so many helpful insights, I wish I could repay it in some way. If there was only one thing I can pass on to you, it would be the true meaning of the word Aloha. As a native Hawaiian, I understand most people think it's just another way of saying both hello and goodbye, but the word "Aloha" is the most powerful and deepest word in our vocabulary. "Alo" meaning in the presence of and "ha" being the breath of life. Traditionally when we greet each other, we placed our foreheads together, took a breath, and exhaled. Taking a moment to literally be in the presence of another's life and share each other's spirit. True Aloha comes from deep in ones heart and from a genuine care and love for one's self and others. It's a word that doesn't so much needs to be said, but felt. I don't know if you've ever been to Hawaii, but I definitely feel Aloha in your words 🌺

[@amy-lyne]

beautiful ❤ thank you

[@amy-lyne]

I was going through some of my older comments this week and this one really stood out to me. Aloha! Soul breath! I did my most recent video on Kahuna wisdom and I mentioned that the word Uhane has some essence of "Soul Breath". Thank you for this comment (again 💛)

[@TheAnonymousHippopotamus]

​@@amy-lyne Mahalo Amy! The esoteric and unconventional topics are my personal favorites 😁

[@DearYoungerSelf111]

I have also listened to dozens of NDEs - I agree 100% with all 5 points - to add to the convo - All of the NDEs I listened to whonhad attempted suicide said they regretted it and that was thankful to have a second chance to live the human experience. I thought this was intriguing and wondered if this would be the same conclusion for others who have transitioned via suicide if they weren't successful.

[@francescomeyvaert7543]

Very lovely lady summing it all up. Thank You for these profound insights!

[@cavemanrob]

Oh! Indeed! Hit every bullet point directly! Every bit of this resonates harmoniously with my own experience. Good talk!

[@edgar.espinoza]

Great video! Thanks for sharing your valuable and unique insights. Very inspiring!

[@DanielSingerX]

Wow I enjoyed this SO much! Talking about the near death experience I’ve always been so interested by that. I’ve had similar experience! I think about this meaning of life probably way too much, I’ve always done that since a kid. I wish I could meet more people like you in the real world and just have endless conversations about this. There’s so much that goes on in my mind and it’s really tough to find others who just get it. I can see this true INFJ nature in you. Keep making these amazing videos and happy new year 🥳

[@amy-lyne]

Thank you :) happy you found this video. INFJs love philosophy, meaning, and purpose it seems

[@BR-ig9el]

Even if i dont comment on this video what i want to, I honestly think it doesn't need to be commented because of who you are. Sounds weird but you actually would understand everything i would say the same way i understand everything you say. Even if i never get to meet someone in person that can connect with me in that way its nice to know other people like that exist. Literally last night i was going through a whole bunch of thoughts that made 100% sense on how it would play out in the external world on my relationships with people and that understanding helps me accept being alone and misunderstood by everyone, I am fully content with anything that happens good or bad and being alone

[@funnshinesunshine1312]

Infj rare Infj male rarer Infj male loner. Women can always find a simp. But I like to think all infj don't settle so easy

[@royceholmes6013]

That was a great Video…. U taught me a new word. It’s in my subconscious now but it was a great word that jumped out at me. The meaning or purpose that we overlook is each other. We walk the earth as though we are separate individuals. However, the connection is greater than any introverted thought or instinct. I feel Collectively our mind is awakening to create a ultimate universal “ Reality” So to speak that will connect and the perceived life and collective reality will be what we were moving towards. If that makes any sense.

[@danielelijahjoseph]

Wise lady

[@Monkwhispers]

Beautiful words. Thankyou.

[@alexgonzalez5590]

Interesting, we choose this life or are we chosen 🤔

[@TheDiveWatcher]

Oh my that was great! My mind is in hyper drive a million things I feel, and as well say. I am making myself digress with one area of your awesomevlog that I as a philosopher who is a complete visionary that my mind rarely even allows me go to sleep. A constant struggle. I am very much now ever since my awakening have become too self aware to a point that I stay utterly exhausted but I crave what my mind sees thus I require to fully understand and comprehend by way of logic that is in many ways that of beautiful symmetry and vivid clarity which to me I feel or wonder if I near the state of insanity. OK I'm stopping here I have to. So much more I could sit and have non stop time stand still type of hours upon hours of truly meaningful conversation with you that would be unmatched and I have to imagine simply to be absolutely that of sincere beauty. So I force my self to end here with this which I've spent years in my head in my mind that these four key elemental factors offer and as well encumbrance the equation to life. Each word while finite can be broken down to its root core and still act the end root cover each and every avenue to life. The equation, Hope, Faith, Meaning and Reason. They all are irrevocably dependent upon each other to live what is a true fulfilling life. You may life without one of the four but it will be a life that of a great deal of struggle unrest to even misery and I see it, I've myself lived it and thus I know it that one needs all four to achieve life at its fullest and most truly satisfaction if you will to be a life to be of as much joy one can have and the most peace withstanding possible. A life that isn't self gratifying but a life that sees and gives to others without any expectation to gain in return other than the knowledge to hope you made a difference that was needed and that being the reward in self. So much more I could add but I have to stop right now as I've already written far too long. Awesome vlog girl. The best. I'm in no way saying that my equation is correct anther it's something I have put years of thought into so it is still that of a philosophy but I hope one that is of insight and holds a strong validity. My best to you and your incredible channel. Kashton These type of topics I become extremely passionate about so my apologies for the far too long book I wrote. Thanks and take care

[@jendrikschmidt]

I think we are smart beyond our years whatever that means

[@Whims-isms_1776]

Happy Almost New Year!

[@grantdouglas632]

Hi Amy , hope U r well and I hope U have an awesome 2022 , i think of infjs as forerunner in the world , we teach through our actions as we try to understand and learn about ourselves , as an empath I think I not only feel the energy around me I believe I also radiant , my bigger purpose would be to learn who I am which brings me closer to knowing God , radiating love through the collective and bringing a clearer picture of a more divine existence , as I grow the concept of God within the collective also grows , an ever expanding ripple , everyone has free will and contrast is the karmic key in our lives , then again I truely have no idea 😆 , take care . Namaste 8 ) .

[@amy-lyne]

Beautiful ❤

[@erik_1953]

The milk in the bottle is the milk. And we could write many books about this milk and still don't know everything.. We should not stop dead in our track's by asking questions about the whole universe involved... Or try to find the best partner, or best job, most love, most happyness... When i ritired 3 years ago i asked myself what is the best thing to do??? So, after 3 years i gave up. I find my peace in daily live...

[@papepa5629]

Hi, infj male here. Well.. as male I recognise I'm full of contradictions. But for me, I think, if I can change for the better someone I feel satisfied. But what's better? So sometime I just try to give some insight to let people start to think instead to be passive. I read some comments about other infj's and I think when you are young your horizon are not so wide. I tell these people to give themself time to grow. All pain we face during our live make us stronger. About 16 boxes.. Well , we need to start from somewhere.. Right? If you (as generic person who read this) think about anything is in a category. A stone (category stone), a supernova (category supernova) , a cat (category cat) , a human with two legs( category human with two legs) , a spoon (category spoon) and so on... This help us to communicate. We can make a more wide MBTI , for example, but what will be the right size? We know two infj (or any other personality) are different, even 1 million of infi are 1 million different infj. So can we identify each of them as infj1,2,3.... 1.000.000? We can but for me is more simple to have 16 generic MBTI personalities than billions, right? ( well, each of us is a unique personality and we have our identity already - name, surname, age, sex, ... and so on)

[@joselozano0528]

1 advantage we have as infj's is we always look attractive af.

[@amy-lyne]

Hahahaha 😊

[@damianr98]

To be honest, I am a little skeptical about 16 personalities and putting people in a box / category. BUT, I have been consistently getting INFJ-T as a result and I tend to really relate with people with the same personality type, so I guess there is some truth in that. Also, at this point of my life I am quite desperate and right now I crave to be understood, so here it goes 😂 For the most part of my life, I have been afraid of people. This had to do with a little rough childhood I had with a damaged mom. Anyway, at the age of 23 (now I am 24), I decided to go into therapy. Best thing ever. 1,5 year later, I feel like I am really able to experience and enjoy life to the fullest. That said, for 23 years, my life has been dominated by fear and there was not much space for anything else. But since therapy had helped A LOT with (almost) eradicating that fear and giving me the proper tools, suddenly I have space in my mind to think about other things. For instance, I was suddenly able to establish real connections with people. Also, I suddenly began thinking about the meaning of life. Something that I was not able to do at all before, because my life was only surrounded around fear. Only now, that exploration of the meaning of life has turned into an existential crisis and depression (sometimes suicidal thoughts) and I don’t know what to do… Did anyone experience such a drastic existential crisis and how did you deal with it? I realise that there is no specific reason we are here and that we can give our own meaning, but I still don’t know what my meaning is and I am feeling quite depressed about it. I feel like there is no point to life. We are born, we live and die like everybody and when we die, the things we have done probably won’t matter anymore. What is the point? Or, why should we help other people in life? All of the old problems will be replaced with new ones anyway. I am not sure what to do with my life right now and I feel like I am hanging on to a thread. I think the worst thing is that I do not feel like I got many people to go to for emotional support. I left my country after graduating, because I didn’t have any connection to it due to my fear for people. Now in my current country, I have learned to connect to people, but my best friend has left and I got no one to turn to here. I do want to go back to my own country, but currently I can’t, because my dad’s house is now full. Any insights / tips / advice would be very welcome. Maybe the answer to my existential crisis is not the most important right now, but I guess I just want to feel a bit understood. Sorry if I bombarded you with all this, I am just not sure what else to do at the moment…

[@amy-lyne]

When it comes to intuitive types, even the best advice can be a waste in comparison to what our "inner knowing" has to say. So my advice is to simply dig for that deep Inner knowing and peace which often reveals where your next steps will be. Always know: everything will be okay. Hold that belief and always look up.

[@damianr98]

@@amy-lyne Thank you ❤️

[@kt1048]

This reply is long too late, but it sounds like your shadow had taken over. ESTP is the shadow/mirror of INFJ. Those are your non dominant and weaker cognitive functions. This is where doing shadow work comes in, the key is balance and not suppressing any functions

[@infj-tguy6275]

My individual meaning of life is to enjoy life with the ppl I love, as long as my family is safe n happy idgaf if this tiny planet burns

[@dakotawinston7677]

Your life IS a movie. They’re taking it to the Silver Screen to share with the world 🌎 🌍 🍿…who plays you in the film?

[@facetsofgrace]

It does cross my mind that I'm meant to make a difference by using the gifts I'd been given (still trying to figure out what they may be), but when I think that way it makes me feel like I'm being delusional or an egomaniac. Does anyone else feel this way?

[@briangreen8033]

I, too, have been fascinated by NDE. It is hard to determine the veracity of such knowledge, and yet, perhaps that in itself beckons further inquiry. I have traveled along a variety of paths in pursuit of an explanation, but none offer a truly satisfying answer thus far. That said, I shan't be dissuaded, because my curiosity will not allow it. Was choosing New Years Eve to discuss NDE a coincidence? In regards to symbolism. As I was watching your video, my mind when off on a tangent, briefly, and I began to wonder if we go through the stages of grief, regarding our own death, as we go through life's journey... We are born innocent and naive to the knowledge of good and evil. When we first learn of death, or are confronted by malevolence, our eyes truly open for the first time. Although now aware of our vulnerability, we remain in a state of denial in regards to our own pending death. Upon getting seriously ill or hurt, we enter a stage of anger towards the fragility of life. Time passes as we attempt to bargain with the aging process, believing we may yet regain that which we had lost, but had taken for granted in our youth. However, time is unrelenting, and so, we enter a state of depression as we face the decay of flesh and deaths of those we shared connections with. If we are blessed to reach the twilight of our lives with the wisdom to have sought to come to terms with, and courage to accept the impermanence of our existence, we may rediscover a faith which words fail to convey. A faith we instinctually knew to be true as children, but had forgotten with the passing of time. It is here, death's door, where one may ultimately choose fear or love. -"Let go, let God." The truth is that I am as lost as the next person. That said, on this eve of death and rebirth, I would like to wish you all a safe and happy New Years! And as always, thank you for taking the time to read my comment. Take care and God bless.✝️

[@amy-lyne]

Beautifully written ❤❤

[@briangreen8033]

@@amy-lyne I appreciate the positive feedback, especially since I rarely share such thoughts in my day-to-day interactions, as such would likely be met with disdain. (🤔Perhaps I am not crazy. 😏But I definitely don't wish to be "normal," because that'd be boring.) Joking aside, thank you. Happy New Years! 🎉 Take care and God bless. ✝️

[@franzjosefmueller-alban509]

Interesting... but then again, maybe I am different? the mention of re-birth makes me cringe at the thought of going thru life " again " nope, never. I don´t fear death, it is simply a part of life and when it happens I ( hope ) I will embrace it like I have been embracing life. Even now that I finally learned what I was, I haven't changed my view since who I was, I knew it always. Instead of fighting it, I learned to accept it and for the time being, I am in the most content and happy stage of my life enjoying every dam minute of it. Another great point to think about it, so thank you Stay true Regards Franz

[@brianrussell5277]

Well said it sucks when you aren't feeling fulfilled in your life purpose

[@jesseschearchlight1865]

Nde Look into dmt More specifically the pineal gland

[@Save21]

💯

[@asibangoura8067]

That's just how i am naturally for 48yrs, does this mean we infjs are constantly living as an afterlife experience ? Feels more like the walking dead.

[@waynerobinson979]

Look AFTER YOURSELF OUT THERE OKAY 🙊🙈🙊🕊️ INFJ SISTER

[@BR-ig9el]

Take this as a compliment and not anything weird but i feel i could actually have mutually meaningful conversations with you even in silence and be able to connect the exact way you want someone to connect with you. Didn't mean to make that uncomfortable or anything but thats honestly how i think it would be. Not delusion or just daydreaming of connecting with someone but i can really see someones character and understand them completely. I have no friends and am very distant from family because letting out the real me and not being the fake me i have to be in order to not offend anyone or break their ego and self in any way is impossible unless they too have the same thoughts and knowledge on stuff like that. If only people could see what i see the same way i could see what they see then they wouldnt think im trying to challenge them or anything, even in presence im a huge challenge for pretty much anyone i meet and i have the most amount of respect for anyone who can challenge me in any way thats not superficial and comes from a place of love and understanding. Dont know if i made sense on that with the way i said it but i know you would understand all of it if you knew me and thats what i mean from what i said in the beginning. I just went in a ramble lol but i really appreciate you for who you are and your videos massively. You have my utmost respect.

[@amy-lyne]

Thank you, love your comments ❤️

[@franzjosefmueller-alban509]

Hi there, well, if it helps, since joining this community and being able to communicate with others like us, I can tell you honestly that I have been too many times to count awestruck, speechless ( and that happens very, very seldom I can tell you ) and amazed by comments that literally could have been written by me. That level of connection I haven't experienced my entire life. And then... Amy´s eyes ... yeah I can see thru them too. so you are not the only one. Stay true Regards Franz

[@BR-ig9el]

@@franzjosefmueller-alban509 Thank you Franz

[@funnshinesunshine1312]

It's hard for me to think such a pretty girl can have the kind of infj personality. I wonder why the infj infj pair is considered hard. We both understand. We both have the love deeply ingrained in us.

[@bradg.3306]

👏 👏. interesting to take those nde insights and apply to infj, i would naturally compartmentalize those two apart not thinking that way…🤔. also sync because i was having the ‘what is love?’ discussion today with a friend(infj). imo, love isnt something that requires reciprocity, therefore romance cannot be love. I dont think you can be loving to one person and unloving to another in its pure state. you are either loving or not. that’s why jesus could say ‘love your enemy’. because it’s about your state, your beingness of love , not your transactions. And yeah, the only thing that makes sense to me as far as purpose to this existence has to be for experience, and we have to exist apart from this realm also for those experiences to merit any benefits. that’s all i got though 🤷🏻‍♂️…. 🤓

[@amy-lyne]

Yeah, loving as a "state of being". Totally agree.

[@bradg.3306]

@@amy-lyne 😇

[@johnnyavilaJourneyman]

!3+ NDE :) Same 100%

[@russellcoight6190]

🙂

[@kuangtien3980]

Fountain Source of Occultism...by G. DePurucker.......ancient universal wisdom....after death , rebirth , planetary worlds, root races , cosmic cycles , chela initiation, ascension , Great Brotherhood. Buddha's, Bodhisattvas. Theosophical University Press.

[@franzjosefmueller-alban509]

First of all... Your eyes, wow, they are so deep, incredible .. Second, I know, I know Cogito ergo sum is mostly attributed to Descarte but ehemmm ... I was actually Socrates :-) And then... Interesting topic but my brain is like on fireworks trying to comprehend what " those " people are saying since it is in strong contrast to what the " modern " society has been moving towards the last 20 or so years. I don´t know if you folks notice this trend but (especially) since social media our society looks like extroverts, egocentric, egoistic people spreading like monkeys everywhere. One may think that extroverts are 90% of the population but all research/studies indicate that it should be a 50%-50% extroverts/introverts ratio, so my calculation is that 90% of the introverts spend their entire life ( a miserable life I must say ) trying to fit into a category they don´t belong and pretending to be someone they are not. Here is the thing... egocentric people only act towards their needs, their desires, me, me me. So... Maybe, just maybe the theory of the 3 entities from Sigmund Freud is correct, our subconscious is the real self that in course of our life is " filtered " thru our front cortex, we INFJ´s are excellent at noticing when a person thinks something and finally says something else... most o the time is what our "brain " tell us what we believe the other person should listen ... well not me because I really don't have filters ... ha ha, sorry, anyway ...and when we die everything that remains is our true self...otherwise I can´t understand that people that apparently give rats s*** about other people have those type of thoughts when they go thru the " tunnel ". Hmmm, I have to dive deeper into this, fascinating topic. By the way... great video, my brain is in extasis ha ha ha Stay true Regards Franz

[@amy-lyne]

Hahaha that's what I get for not consulting the history books before making this video (Descartes/Socrates). Glad you found my channel, great thoughts, and I love the uninhibited thinkers of this world 😉

[@franzjosefmueller-alban509]

@@amy-lyne thank you 😊, on top of that I’m a Sigma so I came to the conclusion that in many ways I’m an INFJ on steroids ha ha . True to be told, my mother was a literature professor so I “ literally “ grew surrounded by an entire bibliotheca so I like to read… well, that or spending my weekends with people I didn’t fit sooooo Ohhh , I have a beautiful quote from another member that I would like to share with you, so enjoy “ we learn not just to sing in solitude, but to learn that solitude sings “ Matthew Yang 2021 Regards Franz

[@franzjosefmueller-alban509]

@@amy-lyne , Well, not your fault since it is universally considered a quote from Descartes, it´s just when I read it, the Latin quote popped out in my mind and I remember a lifetime ago reading some texts from Socrates, which, by the way, didn´t put it in exact same words mind you but he was expressing the theory of the " self "... yeah, yeah, boring stuff. Anyway, my mother was a polyglot so she decided that the only way to understand the " geist " from an author was reading it in the original language so she learned Latin, but she wasn't able to find someone to teach her ancient Greek, It made her furious at that time ha ha. I found it to be funny. It happens when you grow up in a house where you need to move sideways " El Quijote " to turn the light on in the hallway :-) so It became the first book I read at the age of 6, loved it, it make me cry every time I read it ha ha ... I think even for INFJ´s I am even weirder than most. I enjoyed chatting with you. Stay true PS: ohhh, it just came into my mind that there is another famous quote which indeed is an original from Socrates and it says: ¨ the more I learn, the more I learn that I know nothing " It has been used by many people, the last I know of was Einstein, everyone has interpreted it with their own " twist " but the end meaning is the same. by the way, Plato answered: " Ignorance is a bliss " since they are both sorts of the same " time you know ... Socrates from ( if I remember correctly 468bc and Plato I think 30 years younger) ... hi hi

[@RelentlessRoxas]

One thing is for sure, INTJ's and INFJ'S are quite different. I think if I was going to get high, I'd definitely want it to be with an INFJ. The difference between the two is like razor blades and cotton balls.

[@RelentlessRoxas]

Super good vibes, really enjoyed your energy 😎

[@jacksonthomas5030]

🙏🕊👣📈🌈👼📉🌏😎🤜💥🎁ed

[@Grimshin1]

I think you´ll find theese videos very "food for thought", I find different meanings in them depending on the mood im in when watching them: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eXXdZmdueaengqM and kzbin.info/www/bejne/jprRh4KmmciVjMU and - Happy New year! Keep on kicking butt my fellow INFJ weirdo! ;)

[@raulturturean2497]

I'm sorry, I don't believe in death Experiences and I don't believe in God or in the fact that we have a clear purpose in this world. Everything is about the decisions we take in our lives, if we choose wrong, we will suffer bad consequences, it's not about destiny. Yeah, it's weird, but I'm INFJ too. When I was younger I supposed to think exactly like you and I was interested in depth experiences, but not anymore.

[@amy-lyne]

@raulturturean1549 I wouldn't be sorry about it. In my experience, many require evidence to believe, but even for that to show itself in your life, you have to have the humility to realize you don't know everything.