INFJ | What every INFJ must learn to do? If not, your life may not be as happy as it could be.

[@groundskeeperdabs]

Damn, if this isn't the realest shit I've ever seen.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Abbie. Thank you. Always doing my best and trying to bring full transparency. What else is there...? ;) TYWC - Marty

[@sarilinko1811]

@@marty_glenn I so relate to your sence of humour, and at the end of the video, this regret-part, a deep deep diving to the sorrow for a while. Thank you for helping me to really really understand me deeply🙏💕

[@isaiahsmith7026]

You know he is a real INFJ Bc of that laugh 😂 the laugh when your explaining something and learning more about what your explaining as your explaining it or when your explanation is coming together and your excited from the deep ness of it

[@marty_glenn]

Well said. I like the explanation. Good job. TYWC - Marty

[@Listen1111]

Yes I can so relate

[@thakid4083]

I'm becoming a regular here🤣love this guy

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you. I appreciate that. ;))

[@marty_glenn]

Question: as short as you can be. What do you like or love about my channel? Me? I would always like to know how to be better and do better content. An answer is going to be appreciated and help. Thank you in advance.

[@thakid4083]

@@marty_glenn the relativity to my own life being to high

[@marty_glenn]

Great to hear that I am not alone inside my head in this world either. Thank you for sharing. It makes life easier for me, for sure, and easier to get through this thing called life. Age doesn't matter. ;))

[@markoselendic9633]

me too!!!

[@themakuachronicles]

It’s not just one loop but a complex of little loops in between😂😂😂😂 so precise on point

[@CorianderSky]

I have come to believe that Cluster Bs ultimate goal is not to have the problem solved at all. The act of engaging your time, attention, and focus on themselves is the attempt to pacify their anxiety. Unfortunately for them, they have an unlimited amount of anxieties/ insecurities, and all of you will never be enough. I say set the boundary depending on how much energy you have to give, not how much energy they want. They will just move on to the next person to talk at who seems to respond. Its not about a solution, its them self medicating their anxiety with your attention. My loop is then to alternate between being annoyed at the unproductive time i spent i will never get back, then being annoyed at myself for being annoyed ;)

[@marty_glenn]

Hi C... 100% RIGHT! - TYWC - Marty

[@marty_glenn]

Now.... Tell me why you are right? Because that is a HUGE answer and I know it. I just want to see if you do too. TYWC - Marty

[@whitneyvise7911]

This is so so true. I am having to learn that I am not anyone's drug, and that's ok. I am not here to be that.

[@MariaBM1]

coridoor71ify, you are so right. And people wonder why I get scared to leave the house!

[@2ratchet4tv]

100000000% CORRECT!!!

[@themakuachronicles]

He says what we all feel but are too afraid to say out loud. “I don’t give a fuck about hearing from this individual” then immediately goes into “here’s how you solve it “ 💪😂😂😂😂I love love love this channel.❤❤❤

[@johnalvarez84]

I am an INFJ and my mother is a Cluster B. This video was spot on, and very therapeutic. Thank you!

[@marty_glenn]

Hey John. Glad it helped. My Pleasure. ;) TYWC - Marty

[@John-ih7gp]

What's a cluster B

[@marty_glenn]

Hey John. Go and google this: Cluster B Read the basics and you will start to get an idea about it. Then either watch other videos on it or mine. I hope that helps. How old are you John? - Marty

[@johnalvarez84]

Marty Glenn 36. This video of yours in particular literally describes my relationship with my mother, and what she does to me. P

[@callumdoyle2200]

Same situation ngl I know your pain.

[@gdyong8824]

You are the ONLY Real INFJ that i can actually relate to completely on youtube. You are true and real unlike many fakes i see. thank you so much.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi gdyong8. From your comment to the entire comment section. lol Thank you for the nice words. Very cool thing to say to me. TYWC - Marty

[@sultan9886]

I have been spending my last 3 years to learn how to say "no" and set boundaries. It is easier to be said than done. I am seeing my therapist regularly. Having said that, he basically gives in this video the best gift & advice for INFJs and why they MUST take action in this regard. Worth watching. Thank you very much Marty!

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome. I have many videos on the subject. Just so you know... The last time I spoke to a therapist, after seeing her with my mom for 3 years (once a week), she hung up on me. I know for a fact why. I made her feel like shit and I destroyed her degree and experience. Not my problem. I have very little respect for academics, maybe one, but I hope you are having success with yours. Watch my videos and I am sure you will understand why I would make such comments like the ones here. Thank you for the supportive words. TYWC - Marty

[@thedude5740]

​@@marty_glenn😂 I would demolish indoctrinated individuals as well. I won't see a therapist bc I would be given all of the negative labels that life has to offer and prob end up in a looney bin😅 if they are well connected. If I did see one however, I'd have them huddled in the corner, rocking back and forth sucking their thumb, and asking for their blankey... I have a nack for removing veil's of illusion...

[@jasminemariedarling]

Annnnd that is why I live like a hermit. 🤣

[@marty_glenn]

Drop Mic. ;)) Yep. I changed my shell just a few days ago. Try that and it might help a bit. LOL Thank You for Watching and the Comment (TYWC) - Marty

[@jasminemariedarling]

@@marty_glenn lol 🤣🤣 A shell level-up is in order for sure, love those! Your videos are..intriguing...a little painful to see some infj truths said out loud. But I like it. Do you know how many times I've wanted to say to people "get to the main point", or "yeah, I get what you're saying, no need for so many unimportant details", etc? But I'm so polite, so accommodating. Have you figured out how to be more blunt, more authentic? I will check out some more of your vids, you're definitely on to something..

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Jasmine. Thank you. Painful? Yes and here is the main point that you bring up: " ...a little painful to see some INFJ truths said out loud " You said: "you're definitely on to something.." Me: I hope so and I think that has been the goal from the beginning. As for your comment and question, I think the answer is the stare you give as you listen in pain and the internal: WTF and then the mind wonders to your own place of misery and while you are listening to them and actually conversing with them; they have no idea you checked out and with every word are reminding you of how shitty it is to be a an INFJ typed person. But wait there is more... Wait for it! " Where do I sign up to be one because I want to be one so that I can be and feel and say that I am special" lol - Marty

[@jasminemariedarling]

@@marty_glenn 🤣Yeah, it's so special. Never understood the online infatuation with the infj personality type, it sure hasn't been great in my experience. Anyways, thanks for yr reply and I hope you're doing well, & taking care of your needs these days! ✌

[@martcichocki5571]

Unfortunately, I too have resorted to isolation & self disrespect.

[@UnexpectedAmy]

Listened to this 4 times in the past day, this vid is so critical. I just realised I live my life in the painful places where most people will never go. I love the abyss, because I know I can navigate it. Surface-dwellers are so damn shallow I just feel like a different species.. It's as you say, I can't live my life caught I'm caught up in others problems. Fighting for boundaries. Thank you!

[@marty_glenn]

Yes. Boundaries. They are critical to life. TYWC - Marty

[@gauraveazy]

Oh my fucking god,trust you me youve not wasted those 15years, you have gone through all that so that you can teach million infj's on the right track.Your content is timeless

[@marty_glenn]

I appreciate the words and vote of confidence for sure. Always doing my best. Happy to hear the content is worthy of your time. Thank you. TYWC - Marty

[@07alamthahmina]

This is the first time I'm commenting on a youtube vid. I've watched soo many vids on the INFJ loops and the way you put it is 100% accurate, its scary how accurate it is. I had to comment. Please keep making vids, theyre amazing.

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you and here is the best part when I get comments like this... I was not even trying. I just turned the camera on and did the video and then as the video goes it creates the topic. So when I get comments like yours, I really am thankful for them and very glad the video was worth your time. (TYWC) - Marty

[@exdamariis]

“I DONT GIVE A F*CK”😩🤣 Your videos make me laugh out loud. every single.time. the relatability is through the roof... oof. Good to be understood, and also good to learn more about self. Thank you!

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Exie. Glad to make you laugh and glad you can relate to me as I often wonder if my videos or my message or just me, resonate with those younger on the same level as the message I am trying to send. TYWC - Marty

[@mstanley97]

OMG thank you. Mentally Tired and exhausted. I just want to be alone. This is so helpful as I want to be happy!

[@marty_glenn]

Hi mstan... You just took your first step. Now look inward... ;) TYWC - Marty

[@renatah_90s]

Hi Marty! I had to write a comment under this video because it’s was just too effing good. I never felt so understood! I loved the way you helped me to visualize this mental process. I’m a very visual person. And, god damn... I hate when I’m in the anger and regret phases on these cycles. Please keep making videos and keep talking about all these intricate details and nuances related to being an INFJ. I’ve never seen videos that go deep like this and talk about all the intricate things we do in our head lol It helps me so much to continue to learn and understand what needs to change in my life. I’m getting better at walking away from people who don’t want to heal or grow. It’s exhausting and like you said, I just want to go do shit for me to be honest. Ugh, I could say so much about this video but I just want to keep learning from you. Keep up all the good work!

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Renata. You are welcome and to be honest you can thank: Jerry. Walter. Conor. Steve. I know for a fact I am forgetting 100 other names and here is the point: "I found out from my viewers the direction I needed to go and what I needed to say. I did not have a clue other then just being me and some other person(s) giving me hints and tips. I can take credit for seeing the door and opening it but I cannot take credit for creating the door. That belongs to my viewers and to those who comment with such IQ and care." Just like you just did! It is my pleasure and thank you. TYWC - Marty

[@_._gyokan_._]

4:16 - 4:37 So, basically, INFJs are Mr.Meeseeks lol

[@iamanobody-n9l]

My mouth drops open in surprise to hear such a profound and accurate explanation about myself that I wasn't even aware of it until now! Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!

[@roseballew2626]

Wtf!!! Oh Dude, Marty!!! Juz turned 48, & this is the story of my life. Thank you for your videos. Oh man, Thank you!!! I just discovered your channel. And I'm absolutely amazed. Finally feel like I'm understood. Thank you for being so transparent and authentic!!! ♥💯🔥

[@marty_glenn]

Always doing my best. Being honest and transparent comes with a price and your comments help me pay that price. TYWC - Marty

[@roseballew2626]

@@marty_glenn Respect it immensely!!!♥️

[@marty_glenn]

:) - M

[@sizzlingsquid7451]

This is probably the reason why I dislike unstructured conversations. My combo of Ni and Fe would like to dwell on what a person is saying, trying to find solutions, looping and analyzing every facet of their conversation, but I'm at a loss because they're not there to ask for advice; they just want to talk -- whereas I'm already wired to give advice or some brilliant insight that they can use. If I don't know the topic, I don't know how to respond. If I know the topic, I want to get to the 'essence' of it and help them learn, but they want to stay at a surface-level. I find it hard to be with them in the present. Multiply that by three, four, five, or ten or sixteen people in a group, talking everything under the sun, jumping from one topic to another, each sub-group probably having their own bubble of inside jokes and insider-info rapport, connecting effortlessly..... No wonder why they usually ask, at some point of their conversation, "Am I okay?" because I'm as silent as a rock, not knowing what to contribute. And then the group disbands, with people still not figuring out what's going on with me, what's my deal, what makes me tick, who is the real ME -- almost nobody knows how to deal with me. 🤣🤣🤣

[@marty_glenn]

I love that... How many times I have been in a meeting and I know that most people, if not all, are confused and I can see it on their faces and feel it in the room and I am like: WTF! This was a complete waste of time. TYWC - Marty

[@Thysta]

Very, very, very true. Leads to something we call learned helplessness. After a while the most capable person (INFJ) will feel helpless.

[@marty_glenn]

This is about the same as a person standing in front of four shelves of mustard and they are asked which one to pick? They cannot pick. The human mind shuts down. TYWC - Marty

[@YOUAreTheSecretToLife]

Ugh. And I'm still over here trying to figure out if what I experience is cluster b bull shit or four letters put together.

[@_InsertName_]

Dammit. I'm sitting here with my hands over my head after finishing watching this video. This was amazing. Seriously. I've dealt with this problem ever since, and I end up being with people whom I can't even stand, who drains my energy, and I'm terrified to tell them the truth bcoz I feel like they'll be hurt. That's what happens all the time and that's why I end up having a toxic circle of cluster B's. I knew this problem, but I never really knew how to end it. I realized just now that it's better to smartly express myself being uninterested in them, and this way they'll never be my "friends" who drains my energy, neither will they be hurt nor will I feel guilty. Thanks for the video.

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome. Yep. Just do it. You will smile when you realize how easy it is. TYWC - Marty

[@ewucha]

THE BEST INFJ VIDEO OFF ALL TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you. Very nice compliment. Bug one at that. TYWC - Marty

[@MsKingwa]

Whew.... I'm dancing as i watch this, life has taught me to become a boundaries-Ninja, but recently was thinking that i may be too extreme because i have been turning strangers that approach me away without 'giving them a chance' as potential friends or clients, but this reminds me that it is good and necesary because i am clear about who i want to fraternize and work with and i seek out the groups and people i choose to based on my goals and plans, rather than random peoples whims and wishes.

[@farahjones1413]

Thank you! Omg. Ive taken the test 3x over 3 year got INFJ. Just now researching it. Never have i ever been more understood. 🙏💗

[@marty_glenn]

You know people tell me I am not INFJ right? lol TYWC - Marty

[@taanyahleecat8090]

This journey of self has led me to you. Thank you as growth is so valuable. I refuse to be a victim, ever

[@marty_glenn]

That is great. The victim never wins... ever! TYWC - Marty

[@AmaraAlban]

Oh. My. Goodness. Such authenticity and insight. And that rant! Haven't laughed that hard in a while. So true - you have me SO pegged! Hooked on your videos. Life changing. Thank you -- A new fan

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome. ;) TYWC - Marty

[@cherylogden1425]

Marty, this is crazy! I was getting so sucked into his insanity that I questioned my own. I was surprised and amazed that someone else goes through the exact same thing.

[@marty_glenn]

Watch out for that. It is a serious thing. TYWC - Marty

[@Kriller66]

AND if you are trying to tell them the solution they will cut through your words and just go on with telling you how bad their problems are. It's just ridiculous. Your videos are a blessing, keep it coming Marty. Greetings from Austria.

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you and I appreciate it. TYWC - Marty

[@Mientjie1976]

Nobody has ever described this as clearly. Talk about a cluster f*ck. So bloody tiring to be miles ahead of everyone all the time. Thanks for this Marty.

[@marty_glenn]

That is because there is only one Marty Glenn. Just kidding well No I am not but you get it. TYWC - Marty

[@darealinviz]

Top 5 most relatable rants ive heard in my life. Thank you sir!

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome. TYWC- Marty

[@KelvinWKiger]

This is a prerequisite. I fell so many times in it, people share unthinkable bad stories happening to them, and it just consumes you. The last time I literally got sick for 5 days trying to help someone without hurting them feelings. I needed to watch this, it confirms what I said to myself in the 5th day: "If people don't show any serious move letting me helping them, I go busy". It's a bit heartbreaking. But I'm almost convinced that some people like the smell of bacon coming from their burning back. I wish them all the best, life is short... mine too.

[@marty_glenn]

That is funny. The smell of bacon... Well said and I agree with you and it is that which makes me stay home. TYWC - Marty

[@brucebruno842]

Realizing that you can't "save" anyone and that you can't "help" someone who doesn't want "help" or isn't asking for "help" was and is immensely useful. "Help" is also defined as helping someone help themselves to become independent in their growth in that area. If they aren't helping themselves, then they are laying on your leg and using you (whether it's intentional or not). You must see continuous action from them, and if they always have excuses, then they are using you. If it's intentional, then you are being used, so stop condoning that behavior. If it's unintentional, then you are enabling them and preventing them from going through what they "need" to go through to grow, so stop. Other people's emotional states are not "your" responsibility! You can give them advice and "some" help, but it's for them to figure out. "Your" emotional state is your responsibility!

[@SaltedHope]

I'm and INFJ and was emotionally exhausted just hearing this. I just learned that I'm this personality type and found your channel. Absorbing everyone's thoughts and feelings, almost better than they feel it themselves it's seems, has been such a challenge for me my whole life. This is all so accurate. I can't wait to learn more about all of this to work through these downfalls.

[@marty_glenn]

Takes time and many answers you are looking for are within the comments. I only start it with a video and the rest is what I call GOLD in the comments. TYWC - Marty

[@katerinamaximus4900]

Dude you just helped me learn why i struggle to say no at work and that after a phone call that impacted a key performance target for me. Thank you like I should have figured this out myself but now i know. Thank you! Why can't people just be like that direct more often like this is your problem this is the solution and accept that someone is trying to help. But yeah thats kind of the problem here is it not. But I do appreciate it thank you!!! Thank you for figuring out something that I didn't even think was the problem.

[@marty_glenn]

Cool. Always doing my best and being me so that is great when it works or is accepted and believed. TYWC - Marty

[@paulakapablo1749]

WOW. I have never heard such a detailed recap of most of my life.

[@UnexpectedAmy]

Wow, you are shadow embodied, saying all the things I want to say to people. I feel so seen with all of this. Thank you so so much, my personal hell is so much clearer now ahahaha

[@marty_glenn]

Boundaries. lol You know this. Try it once and you will never NOT say what you want or feel or should. TYWC - Marty

[@jodiegrech3711]

I’ve learnt that when someone starts telling me their problems I’ll ask them... Do you just want to vent and have me just listen or do you want my advice? I feel like then I have some sort of control/power over the amount of energy and time that is sucked out of me.. If they just want to vent I don’t even bother with asking questions anymore, I just let them spill their guts so I can get on with my life.

[@marty_glenn]

This is a great idea Jodie. Does it work because it has never worked for me. It is probably the fact that my delivery sucks and I am a guy. I am glad it works for you. TYWC - Marty

[@mohitm1911]

Wow commendable indeed...

[@Medietos]

Jodie Grech: Would you just give advice without asking some well-directed questions to firstly get what their problem is+ And what they want/ need help with, seek and answer to? Because blind advice is only frustrating and also crumbling, disintegrating, because of the sensitivity and openness and high inner speed and complexity and powerful energies to harness makes it difficult to stand my ground, stay stable, if the other says untrue things and claim them to be about me, while they don't' even know me. I believe the video-maker has got this wrong still, - one is subjective and fantasizing when advising without finding out thj facts first. And unfortunately, one then does more harm than good, bu the stress it gives.

[@YOUAreTheSecretToLife]

@@Medietos you need to read her comment again. You completely misunderstood. If the person is asking for advice, she would then engage and ask said questions ect. If they just need to vent, then she's keeping her mouth shut and letting them vent. I have to practice this every single day. Because my daughter's come to me a million times with a million different problems. Even when my girls tell me they are just looking to vent, I have such a hard time just shutting my mouth and listening. But I'm trying, I'm building a skill I suppose, because my children deserve not only advice from me, they deserve to be listened to.

[@ArchAngel435]

​@@YOUAreTheSecretToLife thank you for this comment. This is all so new to me. Guess I'm not an INFJ ( haven't taken the test ) but I'm wondering why I don't stop to listen - just want to jump in with advice. I've learned though not to give unsolicited advice - it's never appreciated. I have kids too

[@dragonof10jc63]

Wow, just wow. Spot on. Makes my stomach turn.

[@marty_glenn]

...in a good way, I hope. Like not a - I need to throw up - lol - I get it and glad you found it worthy of your time. TYWC - Marty

[@JaneTheOnly]

That blew my mind. Especially understanding the anger regret and resentments that come in. I could not relate more to when you expressed the boil over of frustration with them and self as you are kept from ever taking care of your needs as they pile in the background because you’re too busy fixing everything else but not really because only a special few actually put your advice to action and make positive change for themselves. I feel you on the “I’m 50 and where did my life go - to them”, I’m on the precise of 40 and feel the same way (well, that and alcoholism which I began and remain in recovery from over 10 years ago). I have, in SIP, gotten closer to my core identity and exercise boundaries more with friends instead of avoiding the conflict of their potential hurt feelings, I do see that most of them don’t worry about mine, not in the same way or not thoughtfully. This is very helpful as I would like to feel like I am cared for enough by my self so I can enjoy being there for others without the guilt of resenting the time it’s taken from me circling back to my mounting pile of needs unmet, tasks undone.

[@marty_glenn]

You cannot fake the content of this video nor your connection to it. INFJ or not. MBTI or not. I am glad you found it worthy. TYWC - Marty

[@nataliableu6390]

Today is the first time I seen someone explain the INFJ so well and this is so me. Great video.👍Oct 28th 2020.

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome. TYWC - Marty

[@xamorus]

Marty I really enjoy your channel. Ive really tried to grasp this whole MBTI thing, which Ive only known about for about a year now. So much in my life didnt quite add up and now it does. You give a raw and unscripted take on what our process entails. Thanks for helping me overcome feeling that I need to be a goddamned Meyers-Briggs scholar in order to be able to talk able what makes me tick as an INFJ

[@marty_glenn]

Hey Shawn. And there it is.. Fuck! The words I have been looking for... " You give a raw and unscripted take on what our process entails. Thanks for helping me overcome feeling that I need to be a goddamned Meyers-Briggs scholar in order to be able to talk able what makes me tick as an INFJ " HAHAHAHAH Well said but you know... I need to be so you are off the hook but for me, shit, not so luck but I am glad my approach works because at my foundation we are on the same page and I think that is the right way to be. TYWC - marty

[@barbrathebuilder]

I'm glad I saw this video Marty.. I'm currently asking myself where 1.5 years of my life went to 🤧 I'm really glad I discovered you

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome and great. Thank you. TYWC - Marty

[@maplecofefe]

This is the most therapeutic video ive ever watched. Marty’s little laughs of frustration after every moment of "you dont GIVE a SHIT" are so freaking relatable. I’m doing the same laugh every single time.

[@marty_glenn]

;) TYWC - Marty

[@eyeMBatman]

Dude. Try being 30 and living with your parents who are both cluster b's, who constantly argue and contend against one another and look to/call upon you as to be the Judge/Jury . Compressed, the stress moves in deep. It can totally freeze you up. Then you'll break, as your innermost fibers of being rip and tear apart. As pieces of you disconnect and wither away, then, you finally set a boundary. I was physically sick and nearly completely destroyed before i finally began to set boundaries. It"s a misery and a blessing. LOL Great content though, sir. Thank you for creating and sharing!!!

[@marty_glenn]

Hi The Color... Wow. I cannot imagine but well done... boundaries. TYWC - Marty

[@danielbast352]

I’ve always a lot to say when watching you explain me.. but really,,, your understanding brings a smile and a sense of relief

[@marty_glenn]

Very good. TYWC - Marty

[@busogkayaako]

I can't believe how accurate this is!!!!!!! Mindblown!!!!!! 🤯🤯🤯

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you. Always doing my best. TYWC - Marty

[@hippohugz9966]

marty glenn i see myself in your laughter and frustration and in the way you explain yourself. It is crazy how much it feels like your videos are secret keys to my most important questions. And some of the things you say are even answers to questions i didnt even know i had. Youve literally given me confidence, instantly at times.

[@marty_glenn]

That is very good and thank you for telling me. Appreciate it. TYWC - Marty

[@SoothingBelle]

This is my entire family and me. I stopped talking to them for long periods and I don’t get involved in the drama anymore. It’s too damn exhausting for my life force!

[@marty_glenn]

Great move. Great! TYWC - Marty

[@Urthking99]

9:55 to 11:20 was probably one of the realest parts of any video I've ever seen in my life. It's like reading my freaking mind, nearly verbatim. I am beyond being able to conjure the correct words to truly define just how much I appreciate finding your channel. Thank you again, sir!

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome. Thank for the kind words and I am happy you find the content worthy of your time. TYWC - Marty

[@evemoore9066]

Yah I've been through that too. Also from experience with this dynamic it makes it infuriating to deal with negative people who don't want to fix their issues. Or what is worse if you have the misfortune of dealing with a narcissist. But With just regular conversations it's so draining. This video reminds me why I get mad at people, and why I feel crazy. These are very helpful videos thank you.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Eve. Thank you for the kind words and also please do not forget to use the word malignant as it will help you understand better the reality of healthy narcissism vs malignant narcissism. I hope that came out right and makes sense to you. TYWC - Marty

[@june4mbs510]

This all makes sense.. as an infj i like to get to the heart of the matter and offer solutions to friends' problems. I have one friend whom i always feel angry after our meetup... it is because i've just 'sat through' all of the details.. when i've already solved the problem months/years ago!!! I feel a lot clearer now... i hadn't associated my anger after visits with them with the meetup.. it all makes sense. Thankyou so much.. i really needed to hear this.. for my own self development. Great channel. Thankyou for all you do.

[@marty_glenn]

Simple is normally correct. Hard is easy to find and not normally correct. TYWC - Marty

[@maxcrowe]

Thank you for your content, Marty. 30 yr old INFJ male here currently going through a deep process of learning and self discovery since discovering MBTI. Your charisma and honesty are great attributes and I look forward to more of your advice.

[@marty_glenn]

Hey Mack. Thanks. From your comment to all the hate I get. Yep I do! A lot! TYWC - Marty

[@wellengaenger9366]

Marty, this one made my heart race! For the first time I really feel understood. It is something completely different to be the only one who understands. How often I have tried to explain this to my fellow beings and to ask for some empathy and understanding as well. And you never got understanding. Of course this is just another part of the INFJ-loop. Thank you from the heart for your work and this video, Marty!

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome and the pain is very real. TYWC - Marty

[@amberdawnlawrence5515]

Thank you so much for your videos Marty! I appreciate your authenticity and your advice. This video was the most accurate discription of the INFJ Loop that I've seen yet. 10/10 Would Recommend. And Subscribed.

[@marty_glenn]

hi Amber. My pleasure. Not always right and not trying to be. Just trying to be me and share my thoughts and life. TYWC - Marty

[@HeraAndHyde]

This is one of the few places where INFJs can just vent out their frustration of dealing with people, and we all here completely get it. Marty got so frustrated explaining "Anger," in his hypothetical example, that it triggered in me all the moments I wasted time listening someone's else problem that I didn't care... The feels are real!

[@marty_glenn]

;) Yes they are real. TYWC - Marty

[@yrgarcon]

Thank you this is so appreciated, confirming these loops on loops on loops and the way out. I reached this conclusion irl as this video reaches me. I was just pondering how to exit a conversation politely. You made it obvious they must be a, as I like to call them; clusterb. Ofc they are. Ofc, the confusion, the energy that went down the drain, all from listening to them.

[@marty_glenn]

Set solid boundaries. Worry about who they hurt later. Try it. You’ll like it and smile more often. You’ll also realize that they didn’t even care in the first place. TYWC - Marty

[@yrgarcon]

@@marty_glenn Thanks again. You know I figure it might be best to just moonwalk your way out such a situationship without telling them where they overstepped, that way we wont teach them how to improve their BS with the next person.

[@marty_glenn]

That is funny and a great idea. ;)) - Marty

[@iinv913]

Thanks for the videos Marty. This content is like watching a play by play of my inner conversations. Much appreciated!!

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome. TYWC - Marty

[@SKHartman]

O. M. G. Frighteningly true. Regret...and resentment. And ludicrous that the fear of hurting feelings that prevents the setting of boundaries just insures that the anger and resentment will arise and lead to epic hurt. For nothing.

[@marty_glenn]

Yes. TYWC - Marty

[@andidimarco3820]

Your videos are helping me sort my self out, thank you so much, Marty :D

[@marty_glenn]

You are very welcome and thank you for letting me know. TYWC - Marty

[@marijajerinic8504]

I'm an ENFP but I go through the same process... And this is not the only one where I feel the same as you explained it, majority of your videos (that I watched so far) I feel deeply accurate for myself as well. What I find interesting is that it especially resonates with my values when I was younger, before the world covered me with tons of other shit and made me kinda "lose track" of who I really am, so my heart lost it's shine and got tougher (at least on a surface level, with some cracks though :D). But my man is INFJ and that's why I watch your videos (want to understand him better, on a deeper level, to feel and get every silence as much as possible, every breath and all the ticking in the background of his mind), and I'm glad I got him to remind me of who I really am. I'm glad that it all finally makes sense with him and feels right (even tho I can see already it's not going to be easy, cause I became kinda lazy in this half-functioning shitty all-about-shortcuts world, and now I'm dealing with someone who values the right things and sees through shit), that I found someone who supports and lives as who I once fully was, while the rest of the world was whipping me tirelessly, to fuck the idealist out of me. I do have some questions and concerns regarding the moments when we have a fight and apparently both of us think for ourselves we are right (and in those moments, for me it seems he stops being able to be rational and to provide arguments, and I think that's how he sees me in those moments as well), but I haven't went through all of your videos yet, so I will come back here with a question after some more info input. Thanks for your videos! 🌱

[@marty_glenn]

Read this comment. Do not pass it... This comment is pretty much what I have been trying to say since the very beginning of my channel as it relates to MBTI. The types are so close to each other and yet so far apart. It is the nuances and the intricacy of the person, during all facets of life, that create a persons ability to claim a type or to be unsure at times. I believe all types can relate to points within my videos. That is not MBTI; that is the unique beauty of life to each and every person. The view and thoughts and feelings a viewer will have when they watch drives emotion and emotion is the inner child. How long before the understanding and knowledge of each and every type becomes the goal and not claim any one or dispute the claim of others? To know the positives and negatives of each one and apply that to life for that path is the one I want to travel down. Well said. TYWC - Marty

[@ArchAngel435]

​@@marty_glenn Soul growth, becoming a better person - that's the path I want to be on. I would appreciate a primer on MBTI

[@divyagoyal50]

So damn relatable... You are helping many people like me to figure out themselves.... Thank you so much.

[@marty_glenn]

Hope so. ...and thank you for the uplifting comment. TYWC - Marty

[@the144ooothdarklight]

oh, this. this is so true. i have often felt like a deer in the headlights when someone presented me with their problem. me thinking i want an island just for myself. i am so tired of peopleing.tired of being someones trashcan. i just want to be alone. i am learning boundaries. its hard. and here you come waltzing in with an explanation so real and true it hurts as i laugh. you even present a solution: "i gotta go". i never even thought it could be that easy, but the more i think about it i see it IS. wow, this helped me understand so much i could never put into words. thank you so much Marty. i am slowly watching every video. they/you mean a lot to me. i am very grateful i found you

[@marty_glenn]

Fantastic. Have a great day. I gotta go! ;) lol TYWC - Marty

[@ArchAngel435]

Now, I feel like a Cluster B 😢 Except that I was married to a borderline with MN and didn't know what the hell was going on

[@ethanwalker6084]

Wow, that's accurate. It explains why I can handle one person, and why I get drained in large social gatherings. This week we had some family come up to visit me in college. I had to check out after the second day because I couldn't handle it. The only difference, I was thinking of, was that I take the circle much slower than you demonstrated in your examples. That circle, for me, can take days-weeks to go around. It rarely happens in one conversation. Usually, the first three are during the social interaction and the last three occur in between the interaction and the next time I see them. Thanks Marty.

[@333pinacolada]

Omg I so relate to this. I’m so glad I found your page

[@marty_glenn]

That is great and I am glad for it too and hope I continue to provide content worthy of your time. TYWC - Marty

[@otoniellemus27]

I swear this guy reminds me so much of myself. 😂 I keep laughing at his jokes, the same way he is. 😂

[@marty_glenn]

So close yet so far. Well said and the more different the m,ore the same. TYWC - Marty

[@gelu125]

100% ME. Marty, stop talking constantly about me! Don't bring my personal stuff out in every yt clip! Subscribed! :)

[@marty_glenn]

Okay I will stop. But you like the content and the videos right? Cant have it all INFJ. lol TYWC - Marty

[@gelu125]

@@marty_glenn love it!

[@JN-dj5xh]

And now it all make sense. Glad I found your channel.

[@sunnysharonlund6230]

Nailed it.... End of story

[@teebee5326]

Holy Balls!!!€ YOU are the voice inside my head!!! Swear words included! You are in my 50 yr old head!!

[@marty_glenn]

Always doing my best. That is a compliment right? TYWC - Marty

[@shaylasanchez100]

Marty I just want to say that you summarized it all. You said it all. It’s amazing. This will always be your best video. Who could ever explain it? What it’s actually like to be an INFJ. And yet you just did. OUTSTANDING!!!

[@marty_glenn]

:) - Marty

[@victoriashort6148]

So spot on, it's scary.

[@marty_glenn]

So great to read yet so scary to accept. Even for me. TYWC - Marty

[@Thysta]

Marty I owe you a thank you for this. Weeks earlier saw this and I realize that I am really dealing with Cluster Bs and thinking about them, talking to them 90% of the time. Thank you.

[@marty_glenn]

Yep. Set the boundaries. TYWC - Marty

[@robinallums4541]

LOL! That little rant he had toward the end of this video about people and there problems is a whole mood. I had a similar rant in my mind while I was at work today. Seriously contemplating an INFJ doorslamming this lady I know. I think I had enough 😐

[@marty_glenn]

Funny how easy that rant is. TYWC - Marty

[@mortal3115]

You're doing great buddy, the best INFJ Psychological Mentor I've ever seen, your explanation plus all the drawings make it more clear understandable. Keep it up and don't surrender...!!! Edit: Seems like you're really expert on accurately interpreting INFJ's anger 😂

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you and always doing my best. With that said, you cannot run from being transparent. TYWC - Marty

[@hawksilverdragon]

When you realize that Cluster b's are really just soulless empty shells like gumbas on a supermario game and are hardwired as part of the matrix program to enslave you suddenly it becomes easier to detach from your empathy when you are a living soul. I have no more empathy for my captors

[@marty_glenn]

The way you say this is not what I like or want to hear but the message is clear so who am I to do anything but agree with you so that others can hear the call as well. TYWC - Marty

[@hawksilverdragon]

@@marty_glenn I appreciate what you're doing here, I need to see many perspectives to put together this puzzle

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you and really great you notice. TYWC - Marty

[@mohitm1911]

Lol

[@marty_glenn]

This is all I can say: Please take this fucking shit that you just said and please find an academic, male or female, matters not to me and shove this comment up there ass because that is where it deserves to be since you obviously picked it up in a therapy session off the floor in front of you. TYWC - Marty

[@TeaInTheEarlyMornings]

Damn man you just nailed it. I know that exact feeling and that exact inner monologue. Once took a road trip 800 miles around Oregon for 5 days, my friend never shut the fuck up. Never. Day 3 I said something. He expresses respecting me for that. And then, no behavior changed. By the end of it, I felt like my mind was emptied w nothing left in it but his useless, boring, self important grandiose stories. The next day when I finally got away I felt myself come back to myself and got to hear me thoughts again. Thanks for sharing this breakdown. It’s spot on. And I’ve had my fair share of Cluster B experiences. Finally know what they are...

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Ren... Welcome to Malignant Narcissism. ;) TYWC - Marty

[@solutions4tenants141]

Marty I love your INFJ rant on this video.! I am an INFJ female and this is what I do.!

[@SirLoinOfHamalot]

This hit home. The curse video, relationship and dating video. Everything is right on the nail. It's easy to get lost inside, I've been a bummed hermit for 2 years, I'm 22. Now I don't have many people around, everything is easier and less stressful. I miss a lot of people, but I know it's better this way.

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Ramon. Do what is right for you but always keep an open mind to opening up. I get it. I also think that the path of closed off drives more closure. Keep in mind. Well said. TYWC - Marty

[@Ay23312]

I AM LAAVING THIS GUY. LITERALLY LOVING... 😂❤️

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you for the support. TYWC - Marty

[@ericlirow4595]

Awesome explanation Marty. You hit the nail right on the head. Going through it and learning it now. I'm so glad I found your channel. It would be wonderful to talk and learn from you in person. Thank you once again. INFJ from the Republic of Palau. Sulang

[@marty_glenn]

Wow you are far away. maybe one day in person is possible. I have plans but you have to wait for me to talk about them. Thank you for the kind words. TYWC - Marty

[@ericlirow4595]

@@marty_glenn Thanks for replying. My apologies, to clarify, I didn't mean in person. That would need more calculations. I'm a bit busy here working as a physician so I don't think travel is in my plans anytime soon. Anyway, thanks for the videos, I'm learning alot. Much appreciation. E:L

[@marty_glenn]

I get it. You are not the first to say that but I do have a plan and you will see it within a video soon. But thanks for the details. wow... physician. Really?!? I am among greatness within the book of study. :) See you in the comments and thank you for the kind words. TYWC - Marty

[@adelinethomas8625]

You're the best! That is sooo me and my encounters/experiences with human doings. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. I enjoy learning how to better myself.

[@marty_glenn]

You are welcome and thank you for the kind words. TYWC - Marty

[@adelinethomas8625]

@@marty_glenn You're most certainly welcome.

[@thedude5740]

This was AMAZING! absolutely love the rant! 100% feel it!

[@rahulspatil1729]

Hi Marty! I am an infj from india 🇮🇳.I am 16 years old,being a Indian I spend most of my time with family,I really don’t want to talk to them,because I am a victim of that loop ur talking about this video they constantly try to hold me( I feel I don’t have any freedom of expression too),my mom is really a good person put always talking negative things it’s so far extent that just passing beside of my mom I feel all the negative emotions which stop me from doing anything,my dad didn’t have any friends in his time he expects me to have no friends and always judge me(in a negative manner),I have hardly 2 friends to whom I only call don’t meet because of the my family, even if I call them I really have long conversations(deep talk) my family just hates that , I feel like a bird in prison who has told now toto not even breath, I really have freedom from everything as a top priority of life, I feel suicidal as the only options sometime because it’s been 4 years I am in 70 doing in realtionship there the 30 relationship in that everyday they are just hurting me, I have tried to tell my parents about these when I told them they are now thinking my friends are making me to do such things rather than finding solutions which is really hurting me a lot,hope to see a reply.( I am not allowed to go out of house I should only go out in exam days even I am not allowed to open balcony or make food on my own in my house) I feel this is not a house too me, I always think 100 times before talking to my parents that much unopened minded they are.if a don’t talk them in a day they make me to talk to them forcefully which disturbs my mind I am in a loop now. Completely fucked😢.they don’t even understand my vision what am talking about when I talk.they always scold me just too remove there office furstation to mee . I feel I am tissue paper every one is using me even my parents too Question:I feel to a entrepreneur with my best friends as partners what do you as infj as entrepreneurs? Because it gives freedom

[@marty_glenn]

I did a video on Entrepenuer ship and business ownership for the INFJ and it is a difficult road. Watch it please. On the side of your family, I know the culture, do your best to break away in a good way and be your own person. The INFJ in that environemtn is going to have a very tough time of it. I do not believe in cult like family organizations because I believe we are born to travel our own paths and not be owned by a group of family members their or the belief system of said family. TYWC - Marty

[@rahulspatil1729]

@@marty_glenn thanks it means a lot

[@RyB717]

I’ve never seen such an accurate video on our personality. Emotional vacuums... Brilliant, Marty.

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you and always doing my best. Talk straight. ;) TYWC - Marty

[@yoshiperspectives4880]

I wander how many people that aren't INFJs can listen to that ramble/explanation the first time through and full track what you're talking about 😂😂😂😂 that's how the explanation goes in my head, but i doubt anyone could follow lol

[@marty_glenn]

Nope. NO WAY!!! TYWC - Marty

[@ArchAngel435]

​@@marty_glenndoes that mean that I'm an INFJ. I totally got it !

[@devine_noise]

This video came right in time for a situation where I'm trying to tell someone who only wants to ask me for favors that this isn't a real friendship.

[@marty_glenn]

Good for you Kyle. Well done. TYWC - Marty

[@JasonHyde32]

That rant you went on around the 11 min mark had me in tears....I can soooooo relate.

[@marty_glenn]

The great thing or the worst is this: I was calm! TYWC - Marty

[@JasonHyde32]

@@marty_glenn I get that as well... often my passion is misunderstood and comes across as being confrontational. That is likely because there is a lot of pent up frustration attached to the passion. It's unintended and I honestly have to monitor myself.

[@marty_glenn]

Yes. You do and I am guilty of it as well. On the daily! TYWC - Marty

[@ArchAngel435]

​@@JasonHyde32 I can relate to that. Pent up emotions, you see what you see, but all around people are walking with blindfolds on. Especially frustrating is family, you'd think they'd understand because your telling it to them in black n white, even some color added for effect ? No, I'm being sincere. Is this what the world does to people ? Makes them oblivious to the pain of others. Soul growth, that's the answer, it's made me calmer in decades

[@calvincrow5749]

You are awesome! I feel what you are saying on a whole different level I never thought possible. You have put words to things I have felt but couldn't explain to myself.

[@marty_glenn]

Thank you. Always trying my best. TYWC - Marty

[@blueliar]

waow i just realised how valuable you are ....am sure u haven't wasted 50 years of your life ..... You are leading a herd and leaving a legacy I used to be baised at you thinking that why only infj like others are not worthy and also that your videos are too long and that too without any timestamps and so on ,but now i feel bad about that 🤐🤐🤐,and also i haven't watched much of your videos but i am sure i will ... And Thank you ,Mr.Old man😉

[@marty_glenn]

Very good and well said. I think you know the difference now between honesty and transparency with hard work. Very good and thank you for the positive words of support. TYWC - Marty

[@gyoung7]

This is amazing. I didn’t even realize I was infj until I watched this video My brother called me this weekend wanting advice about his relationship. I told him… this is very important there’s a full moon eclipse this weekend DO NOT GET INTO ANY ARGUMENTS, or you will break up your relationship. He laughed and said I don’t believe in that moon shit. Well guess who calls me yesterday and is crying and saying she left him…. And yet I said I fucking told you. And still he says I don’t believe in that stuff 🤯

[@mashmirentertainment]

I hate details because it drains me more especially once i know the solution but truth is they never accept the solution when they can but only when they have to and have no other choice.

[@marty_glenn]

Hey Mash... Nothing to add. Well said. TYWC - Marty

[@mashmirentertainment]

@@marty_glenn thank you again!

[@peylev9035]

It’s insane how you slowly described and unfolded how exactly I fucked up when it comes to a community of people I found myself really enjoying The conclusion was so satisfying in a masochistic way

[@marty_glenn]

Well if you like the pain, keep it up doing what you are doing. If not, time to have some self feeling and thinking and take care of you. TYWC - Marty

[@dingirr]

wow. i’m not sure i’ve ever resonated with something so intensely.. my only relationships have been with girls that have bpd(not that i seek them out.. it just happens..) 2 years, 5 years, and 3 years.. within the first 6 months i realized that i didn’t want to be with them, or rather it was too straining on my mental health to be with them. and in every single one, i stayed because i didn’t want to hurt their feelings.. more than a 3rd of my life wasted because i was afraid of hurting somebody’s feelings.. i really struggle to set boundaries for myself, and saying “no” leaves me with palpable guilt and shame.. i’m thankful to know i’m not alone in feeling this

[@ArchAngel435]

I married my borderline husband 26 yrs ago because I did not set boundaries. I did not seek him out, it just happened. Talk about emotional vaccum. I stayed because I was afraid to hurt his feelings, and spent the last decade raging internally

[@ACROPHOBY]

love it when you laugh thank you!

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Mai. Me too and thank you but I am not so sure many know why I am laughing but I KNOW some do. TYWC - Marty

[@kiraborachealjmahg736]

Damnnnn i know why. The truth of trying to step out yet jeezzz you can't. Once again am so exhausted by being an INFJ. I would trade it at anytime yet still in a way i wouldn't DARE

[@Eagleoneradiogod]

This is exactly what I experienced. When I use to fix peoples electrical prombles with there vehicles. All they wanted to do was tell me all about how they can not live or make there living without there vehicle. The worst ones are the ones that would insist on staying and watching me work on there vehicles. They would always use the excuse that they wanted to learn what I was doing. I knew right away that they themselves would not understand a wire diagram or electronic schematics on there vehicle. Truth is this is always what I have experienced when dealing with people. Well needless to say I stopped diagnosing & reparing peoples electrical prombles and I went back to school cause I realize that people have not realized that they have the potential to fix there own prombles, but all they want to do is have somebody else fix there prombles for them and at the same time have me be there sounding board. You hit the head right on the nail I do not give a fuck about people's prombles I only want to solve it and move up .

[@marty_glenn]

Hi Eagle... Well said and so true: " I went back to school cause I realize that people have not realized that they have the potential to fix there own prombles, but all they want to do is have somebody else fix there prombles for them and at the same time have me be there sounding board. You hit the head right on the nail I do not give a fuck about people's prombles I only want to solve it and move up ." Those boundaries are so important yet so elusive. The Cluster B's. TYWC - Marty

[@emilyblack1715]

Thank you so much for this video and everything that you do. That was perfectly explained.

[@marty_glenn]

Glad you enjoy the channel. I appreciate it. TYWC - Marty

[@c.m.b.1676]

Oh my gosh...I don't feel so alone anymore. This is SPOT ON💥💥💥💥

[@marty_glenn]

Yep. TYWC - Marty

[@fatimamenesesdiaz657]

Thank you for this one. I am undergoing mental therapy for being an INFJ-T. And yes, I recently understand why all of my events are like loops of failures and regrets and why people dont understand me and why I truly hate myself at that time. Right now I am being handled by an INFJ-A for my recovery. Thanks to this video I am understanding on how to handle more of myself to others.

[@marty_glenn]

Very good. I am not sure about the academic you are speaking with but your comments are very positive and no matter what: That is awesome. TYWC - Marty

[@fatimamenesesdiaz657]

@@marty_glenn thank you so much Sir. Marty! I will always looking forward on your vids that give support and inspiration to us. ❤️❤️❤️

[@marty_glenn]

;) - M

[@fatimamenesesdiaz657]

@@marty_glenn Hahaha forgot to tell you that, I'm sorry for my wrong grammar. It's quite funny the time that I post a comment about this one. I did not apply any thinking due to dwelling in my head against myself for being perfectionist. I did a lot of mess just to dwell something what's in my mind at that time (which also triggers my panic attacks). Yet thank you for your reaction on it. 😊

[@marty_glenn]

My pleasure but do me a favor.... Sir? You can lose that word. I prefer Marty when I am good and Fucktard when I am not or really anything in between but 'Sir'. Ya that one is like me calling you: Mam lol - Marty

[@bridgetromeo8607]

🔥🔥🔥This happens to me ALL THE TIME 🤬 Thank you for articulating this loop... arrggghhhh 😆

[@bespoke4187]

The reason for my avoidance of most every social situation. I can't help not get sucked into people's problems and get pissed with why they don't see the solution as clearly as I do.

[@marty_glenn]

I have no words. lol Spot on. TYWC - Marty