influencers are bringing back smoking

Is it just Ben or are fluxes of influencers getting into the art of cigarette smoking? Using @bestdressed as a case study, Ben breaks down the resurgence of the glamorization of smoking in online spaces and highlights the dangers of smoking while having a captive and impressionable young audience. Ben theorizes why smoking has made its way back into the lexicon and reminds us all of why we should not be swayed into becoming smokers ourselves.
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[@u.noteventhefart]

Yes people. Let’s bring back lung cancers OG form.

[@saeftuh]

you’re a girlboss -justin bieber

[@heheStoleThisSpot]

Yass SLAYYYY

[@CH50T1CFAWN]

Yes! let's die inslay

[@sablexqz]

Slay

[@malakateereh6612]

The ogs are always back

[@ixeqh]

it's pretty disappointing to see the amount of literal kids post on social media about them smoking/vaping and how "great" it is, it gives the impression to other young kids that it's okay to be destroying their lungs at a ridiculously young age and that this makes them "cool".

[@milicanis13]

fr there's a girl in my school that clearly smokes and has an addiction, SHE'S 6TH GRADE. 6TH SHE'S 12-13 like damn good lucky making it to 30s 😭😭

[@krows.demise69]

HONESTLY! Plus the amount of people in MIDDLE SCHOOLS who are normalizing vaping and doing drugs, and if you dont do them you arent cool. Its fucking insane

[@gsse6629]

​@@milicanis13 6th grade is 11 to 12 she could be 11 😭

[@marzvstheworld]

@@milicanis13 dude same

[@Harper.edits.]

Yeah it’s sad I’m in 7th grade and there’s so many people vaping and even my friends are constantly getting offered vapes. And kids are doing drugs and stuff Its sad

[@liki322]

this guy is one of the one people on this internet that has braincells 😭

[@-100CloverWolf-]

Fr! He's like the only youtuber I watch

[@3in1isa]

RIGHT I LOVE BEN

[@zenit0]

It's great that he does not only do funny videos, but also educational stuff for younger children. During the times of social media, so many issues (eating disorders, smoking etc.) come in touch with literal kids so much earlier.

[@liki322]

@@-100CloverWolf- yesss same!

[@liki322]

@@3in1isa LITERALLYY

[@yourdearestangelboy]

Smoking/Vaping has been a large thing at my middle school for a while now. 8th graders started doing it in their bathroom, then 7th graders, and eventually it went to 6th graders. There’s tons of people in our school that smoke and vape in the bathroom. A couple days ago a few girls in 6th grade got caught vaping in the 8th grade bathroom and they ratted out on everyone in 6th grade that was vaping (that they know of) and now there’s guards by the bathroom. Come on guys, we shouldn’t have to have fucking GUARDS at the bathroom because you can’t restrain yourself.

[@FlamingSkyess-ni6ri]

There's people in my bathrooms who will smoke weed (I'm in 6th 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥 wtf)

[@darolon]

Omg yes at my school we had a hug vaping problem and ppl were flushing them down the toilets so they didn’t s get caught and then the pipes got backed up and overflowed but at least we got out of school early😅

[@monney2519]

yea dude they installed literal cams outside the bathrooms so they can see who goes in and out if they think someones vaping,, then theyll immediate expel u if ur caught

[@elenaluvv1]

I have seen cigarette ashes on the boys bathroom floor when the door was open and I'm in 4th grade. 4TH GRADE

[@-charisma-]

@@elenaluvv1WHAAAT 4TH GRADE??

[@lildicky1058]

My mom smokes cigarettes and I ask her about it often. Personally for her, the appeal of the cigarettes is the head rush it gives you (which is the “buzz” people refer to) as well as the release of dopamine that the nicotine gives you. Anywho, the way that it works exactly is like how mentioned earlier, the nicotine releases dopamine in the brain, and the more you smoke, the more your brain becomes happy from it, so it starts to crave that feeling. I do not support her smoking habits, nor does she, ESPECIALLY not people doing it to look “cool”. Idk why it’s a trend once again, but I noticed it’s mostly for people who follow the grunge and coquette aesthetic

[@farrah6333]

There's also some psychology behind the whole movement of picking up the cigarrette, bringing it to your mouth and hitting it. just how everyone sometimes picks up their phones just to check it for no reason, its that little constant act that gives us a bit of dopamine as well.

[@meowmeows5692]

My aesthetic is coquette and idk if i would say that cigarettes are part of it. Never seen a coquette girl use cigarettes to look ‘cute’

[@777kate]

@@meowmeows5692 i feel like theres like a sub section in the coquette aesthetic which is like a french girl aesthetic that has a bunch of smokers but yea

[@LillianIsTryingHerBest]

As a grunge person I do not claim smoking nor do I support it lol ❤👍

[@TesiaNova]

@@meowmeows5692I think it’s kinda like the Lana del ray part on it with the cigarette lipsticks and things like that

[@ilovetaylorswiftt13185]

Cancel culture is mad strange bro they’d rather cancel people over something half the world didn’t know existed but won’t cancel people over influencing bad habits 🤷‍♀😭

[@arby133]

they cancelled a tiktoker one time for vaping and influencing young fans but smoking is aesthetic now so people are just cool with 💀

[@shoes7899]

how does their habit that doesn't impact you deserve cancellation? just because they smoke doesn't mean they're breaking into your house and shoving cigarettes up your nose.

[@arby133]

@@shoes7899 i mean them simply smoking is okay but when they're actively posting themselves smoking is where its a problem, i saw people get mad over jenna ortega smoking but she's and adult it's her choice and she doesn't smoking infront of people but many people make it "aesthetic" and thats where the problem is (i love lana del rey and her music but i have to say she's an example)

[@remigal899]

@@arby133 both are very very wrong.

[@remigal899]

@@shoes7899 oh yes! Because it doesn’t impact me specifically therefore I will turn a blind eye. That is unbelievably selfish. If you wanna smoke then you go do that, off the internet! You’re just contributing to the problematic idea that smoking and or vaping is cool. Honestly, it wouldn’t be much of a care if it didn’t influence the youngins on the internet.

[@4dracoe]

I was an ignorant kid, that’s all I can really say about it. My parents smoked around me all my life, so that’s where it started, when I had stole one from my dad and actually liked it, but it wasn’t until I was about 13 I started genuinely smoking packs, but I stopped smoking cigarettes at 18. I’m 19 and only vape now but I’m trying my best to slowly stop, but it actually does help me feel less anxious when I’m at work and stuff like that, though I never have, and will never promote it like it’s good. I’ve done irreversible damage to myself already and I’m not even 20 yet. It’s not worth the rush you get.

[@charlieelioooo]

I’m proud of you. I hope that you’ll be okay in the future. I’m just a stranger on the internet and you don’t have to listen to a word I say but please please try your best to stop vaping. I believe in you!

[@4dracoe]

@@charlieelioooo thank you! I have been getting better, the pods or disposables last a lot longer because I hit it less and less, so I’m showing some progress!

[@charlieelioooo]

@@4dracoe aaay that’s great :)! Take your time :)!

[@sushiroll7419]

@@4dracoe u got this bro

[@user-pt5cl2ro6f]

One good thing about smokers is that they realize it's wrong eventually and don't promote it. That's why it's not the adults that's the biggest problem. It's the young adults who promote it to even youger ones.

[@whosaudra]

i’ve never hit a vape before, and don’t plan on it. people call me innocent but i don’t want to rely on a usb stick with flavored air that gives me popcorn lung to make me happy💀

[@tiger_and_smokeyYT]

Lol air really should not be flavored. It’s like water it helps us to live we don’t smoke air. We breathe it.💀

[@asylumrain]

Not smoking doesn’t make you innocent. I think being ignorant on certain things makes you “innocent” so don’t worry. Also smoking anything gives you popcorn lungs not just vapes

[@wenfriii]

as someone who is forced to live with parents and siblings addicted to cigarettes my whole life.. IF YOU PLAN TO HAVE KIDS DO.NOT.SMOKE. I have been bullied for smelling like smoke at school and was constantly embarrassed to bring friends over to my home because of how much it reeked like cigarettes and NOT TO MENTION!!! it turns everything white in your house yellow (including the cieling and walls). do yourself a favor and dont put ur kids through that kind of trauma because it's not easy to get rid of a nicotine addiction.

[@tiger_and_smokeyYT]

In my opinion, they should just get rid of cigarettes like why🥲

[@resultofeatingborax]

@@tiger_and_smokeyYT because people want money :((

[@Sobanoodles610]

Ur so real for this omg

[@LeafscaleTheRainwing]

SOMEONE SAID IT

[@evelynstemen4939]

Sameeeee

[@Mienarrr]

I smoked for 7 years from when I was 18 because of how "cool and artsy" it seemed to me back then. Didn't help that I went to an art-school where drugs and smoking seemed like such normal things, that went hand in hand with being rebellious, creative, fun and a little daring. It took me over two years after realizing how stupid it is, until I could finally quit for good. Looking back, it's idiotic in every sense of the word. It destroys your body, makes you smell bad, makes you look like a fool and definitely doesn't help your creativity. People underestimate how easy it is to get addicted to cigarettes (physically and mentally) and how hard it will be to get rid of them once you start feeling all the repercussions. Don't even start. Smoking is dogshit.

[@Kami_music26]

Facts same with vaping but vaping isn’t as bad but still terrible for u.

[@BeanBeanMcBean3000]

Fr plus cigarettes are mad expensive. Spend that money on robux

[@bralaney]

@@Kami_music26 actually, i’m pretty sure vaping is worse for you because it releases not only 20x the nicotine, but it puts lead and other metals in your lungs. i learned that one cartridge of “vape liquid” (idk what it’s called) is actually the equivalent to 20 cigarettes. please don’t smoke or vape guys. it’s sooooo bad for you and causes cancer.

[@b_l_b_r]

same here, i was from an art school ( bc im not a senior anymore ) and in my entire high school years i was surrounded by people smoking, literally everything. now three of close classmates/friends to me started smoking and vaping at 18, two of them are not addicted to it, my one of them actually still smokes and it’s been for more then a year now. plus i took a shot once and from then i actually understood why people can get addicted, like its crazy. don’t start for real ( btw sorry for my bad english since it’s not my first language 😀 )

[@Mienarrr]

@@b_l_b_r your english is great! dont worry! im happy you dont seem like you want to keep trying it, its a really nasty habit, i hope your friends will be able to not get fully addicted or stop soon as well

[@sienamations7134]

It’s a serious problem. The kids at my school vape and smoke 24/7 and it’s gotten so bad to the point that we’ve ended up closing the bathrooms for days or weeks at a time because they get so littered and cloudy with smoke and vape that you can barely see and breathe. Who on earth thought that inhaling toxic chemicals would be a good quirky and trendy idea. I sincerely hope people get the help they need.

[@lasrie9689]

ima be honest i vape but not everybody vapes to be quirky n whatnot, ts be helping me thru the day ngl cuz you get nic rush idk what it’s called but basically it rlly calms my anxiety, i see where you coming from tho but you guys fr needa stop being close minded

[@motherofpea4rll]

@@lasrie9689 “helps me get thru the day” no one acts like a miner working 12 hour shifts than a nicotine addict 💀 BFFR we all know y’all don’t get shit done at school anyways

[@lasrie9689]

@@motherofpea4rllI alr said it “calms my anxiety” cuz i dont have money for other typa methods to help w my mental shi n besides dont act like you know me, “don’t get shit done at school” if that was the case I wouldn’t be a straight a student 😂 next time if you gon assume shi get it right

[@user-pt5cl2ro6f]

@@lasrie9689 Nah nah. I get using it as a coping mechanism, esp for nxiety and such. But us being concerned because we KNOW it's _objectively_ bad, is not being "close-minded." And you know what? People who have been addicts for YEARS _KNOW_ it's bad. In fact, they are the ones who _vehemently_ advise people not to smoke. Addicted people due to problems don't push it into innocent children if they know better. Defend your reasoning but Don't. Defend. Smoking.

[@user-pt5cl2ro6f]

@@lasrie9689 Also, there is no such thing as being "close-minded" about smoking. EVERYTHING, from what's in it, to how it's made, to what it does, is no secret to anyone. Like the video says, there's no real health benefit from it aside from what the person is feeling from inhaling it (which is not a health benefit. That's why it's just a coping mechanism. Yourg good feelings aren't real), because it literally only destroys from inside of you. But honestly i'm not here to stop you, smoke all you want if it helps even just a bit. I just have beef with you promoting it like it's godsend and has secret benefits that peole don't know about. Smoking has never been and will never be good. No one in history ever met a good end with it. No one.

[@louise.g80]

once heard someone describe vapes as “glorified pacifiers” and it changed my whole perception on them. it’s unfortunate but many people trying to quit dont realise that they’re not just hooked on nicotine but also typically have an oral fixation due to being used to having something in their mouths all of the time.

[@Snickers4Kawaii]

It’s so true 😂

[@Idklmfa0]

I was vaping for 3 years+ and let me tell you something, that was a terrible idea, I am now a biology student and i have realised how bad it was for my whole body. the only reason i started vaping because my life was at its lowest. I didnt do it to be famous, Im glad i quit and im doing much better. Don’t smoke kids.

[@ILoveSkyz]

Your a real one bro

[@Idklmfa0]

@@ILoveSkyz thanks my guy

[@ILoveSkyz]

@@Idklmfa0 I’ve never been called a guy before but it was surprisingly nice 🤠

[@Idklmfa0]

@@ILoveSkyz oh,😅 well at least it felt good ✨😅

[@blucolife]

Smoking isn't vaping and vaping isn't smoking. Why are you confusing the two?

[@AbigabaOnlineNews]

"Vaping/smoking is borrowing happiness from tomorrow" -My mom 2023 [Wise words to take seriously!!]

[@111jade]

as someone who smokes, i think posting ab it is SO CORNY idk it always makes me cringe so hard its just so??? I think smoking's a pretty gross habit and im actively trying to quit. i don't think everyone needs to be ashamed of it but it's def not something to flex

[@ily.madison]

proud of you xx

[@malialmao]

YESSS like those mfs that post themselves doing ghosts and shit or post a new dispo like idc that u j illegally bought an aloe grape from the neighborhood plug 😭😭

[@111jade]

@@ily.madison thank u!

[@blucolife]

As a former smoker, I don't appreciate some kid getting uppity over influencers smoking.

[@111jade]

@@blucolife idk if you're referring to me or ben lol but i should've clarified that i meant specifically like high school/middle schoolers. I don't care what grown adults decide to do or post.

[@soggysocks4461]

i don’t understand why lana stan’s think that smoking is croquet and aesthetic

[@islaizzy]

that’s so hammer hitting a ball aesthetic omg

[@shitterfarter6960]

HDLP CROQUET 😭😭

[@meowmeows5692]

I’m a lana FAN not stan and i don’t smoke never smoked a cigarette and never wanted to. The ‘lana fans’you’re talking about are them like weird ppl that are also fat shaming her.

[@Sofia_2502]

Literally saw a video of one fan saying that her having a vape on stage was iconic like what-

[@finnuhhh]

@@Sofia_2502HELPP I SAW THAT 😭 I LOVE LANA’S MUSIC BUT THE COQUETTE GIRLIES SCARE ME

[@rimiag]

The worst thing about having people that smoke around you is the smell. Plus it stains over time if they smoke in the car or house🤢

[@zoebrugg7594]

Yes. Thats one of the things I hate about it too. And I have family members that smoke, and my uncle did it in grandma's house. It took a while for it to go away. Sometimes I do get a whiff of it, even with the cleaning, painting, changing of carpets.

[@lolasstuff]

We recently had a talk about vaping in school. I think it’s important that everyone realises that vapes were originally for people who were already smoking. There’s a massive problem with loads of teenagers just vaping from nothing and the advertisements don’t help either. Vaping ONE elf bar is equivalent to having 50 CIGARETTES?! It’s crazy and it needs to stop

[@l0v338]

Its crazy how one vape pod can be so many cigarettes like my family says "Im smoking less now" but no youre prob smoking more tbh😭

[@froghog]

bro i've always been so afraid that my parents would one day get addicted to smoking or drinking 😭😭 and like as someone who is into art and aspires to be an artist, it is so fucking weird how ppl romanticise this shit on insta in their art like it's hot or something 💀 like no bitch u're gonna die

[@dahgunkeyvough]

then they pull the "i'm here for a good time not a long time" card, like you can still have a good life without destroying your lungs at a young age 😭😭

[@FlamingSkyess-ni6ri]

My mom warns us about cigarettes and vaping SOOOO much because my whole family immidiatley gets addicted when they start nicotine, the addiction gene is very strong in my family

[@Mxtxloverr]

Fr! It's a problem in the art community bc artists with big platforms draw it into the picture for attractive, cool characters. I see it especially on instagram a lot.

[@mkz9693]

@@Mxtxloverr yeah why they always gotta make them so attractive 😭😭 like I'm on Pinterest trying to save attractive boys but they're all smoking and i cant save cause it would seem like im into that

[@ihynjn]

THANK YOU FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS OMG. i'm so glad you spoke about this and i couldn't explain it better than you. honestly im someone who cannot STAND smoking, my parents don't smoke and i've never tried it, even if I've gotten "forced to" and told how good it feels blah blah i've always said no. people from my class started smoking at 12 years old and there's almost no one out of a class of 30 at age 15 that doesn't smoke, and if you don't smoke, you dont fit in. as well as kids vaping at the age of 9 wtf?? i also genuinely can't stand the smell of the smoke either, i feel overwhelmed, uncomfortable and anxious with it, and i can't control that, so i have that constant feeling since smoking is such a thing. I've never understood the appeal or reason as to why people start smoking and why its like an aesthetic?! when it's clearly known that it harms you, giving cancer and horrible diseases. i also relate a lot to little you thinking "how is it possible that people will continue if they know how bad it is for us?", and hopefully it will come to an end at some point (but if we're honest probably wont happen any time soon), although unfortunately there's a very low chance it can become something illegal as the government earns so much money from it. anyways if someone read this, thank you for reading my ranting about this stuff that no one ever understands when i talk about it, byee

[@limpcheesestick]

bro literally, I've seen kids smoke since we were 6th graders, this is my last year of highschool and my classmates finally started quitting because they started smelling bad and their teeth got yellowed 💀 I always hated exiting school and being greeted with a bunch of smoke, I have asthma

[@halfmoon106]

Do you scream at people who eat cheeseburgers?

[@ihynjn]

@@halfmoon106 girl whats that supposed to mean

[@deffonotacatgirl811]

Bruh we were supposed to be the generation that ends smoking and then flavored air came in to drag us down

[@tiger_and_smokeyYT]

Like air isn’t supposed to be flavored just exactly like water it’s helping us live it doesn’t need to be mango flavored tf

[@halfmoon106]

You aren't "supposed" to do anything, you were brainwashed by government lies.

[@marslovesyou17]

FINALLY SOMEONE SPEAKING FACTS ITS SO HARD TO FIND SOMEONE MY AGE WHO DOESNT SMOKE WEED OR VAPE

[@halfblinded]

Guys air tastes better. Trust me, I’m an official part of the CAB (Certified Air Breather)

[@halfmoon106]

No it doesn't.

[@Raynecloud414]

Im 17, I have never smoked nor vaped. And I hope to stay that way. But the amount of people who I see vaping or smoking is just disappointing tbh. Everybody please stay safe. Especially kids, if youre in school and your friends are vaping or smoking, please do your best to tell them to stop. And whatever you do, dont hop on the "trend" keep your lungs and yourself safe. Never start willingly and never start because of peer pressure

[@benny1089]

Yes, I agree. I'm 19 and I have never smoked or vaped, and I plan on it staying that way.

[@Raynecloud414]

@@benny1089 good on you

[@rcguy902]

Good kid don't ever start I started smoking cigarettes at 13 I'm now 35 don't do it

[@Rae1336]

I am currently in high school and I don’t want to hate on people too much, but it is absolutely disgusting how often a group of girls are vaping in the bathroom.

[@tiger_and_smokeyYT]

Fr like what if someone has asthma?💀

[@halfmoon106]

Those girls sound much cooler than you.

[@vivitronn]

im a senior in highschool and smoking and vaping has always been around. and my school was always known as the "druggie" school in my district. but this last school year got worse. my school had to close all the bathrooms during lunch and installed vapor sensors over each stall. and i think its so cringe, and it's sad seeing my peers knowing theyre gonna die way before their time if they continue. but being friends with these euphoria ahh mfs does make holding back difficult too. same when most security guards dont care and actually cover for u if ur cool w them. ive struggled with drug usage myself, it being incredibly availabe with me being best friends with dealers, plugs n shit. but i realized how stupid it was and how toxic it was for my health, mental and physical. im lucky enough these friends are supportive of my journey. they dont do it around me much, they support me with taking care of my body. ive almost recovered from my drug addictions, eating disorders, ive cut off harmful people, ive been hitting the gym, and tbh, ive never been happier. moral of the story: dont do drugz kidz

[@JustineCooksVegan]

Much needed PSA!! I have ALL the same feelings about cigarettes and when I see influencers/models etc with big followings posting “sexy” pics smoking it’s really off putting & feels reckless. And apparently vaping is as bad or worse for you and they target younger ppl with the added fruity flavors 😤

[@tiger_and_smokeyYT]

Fr it’s disgusting how addictive it can be scary as well big W (Win) to you

[@halfmoon106]

Veganism is more unhealthy.

[@shineluvvs]

I MIGHT BE DUMB BUT AT LEAST I DONT WASTE MY MONEY AND MY LIFE ON FLAVORED AIR.

[@luvlyys]

AYY WE ❤AIRR

[@gizele538]

as someone who smokes and goes to a ghetto high school, yes. this is what we need. I smoke myself, i smoke weed and nicotine.. but i KNOW how bad it is and how it’s going to affect me. most people do it because they think it’s cool.. and i grew up with people smoking around me, still growing up with people smoking including myself. I personally do it to escape my reality from trauma and abuse, but the people who do it just to seem cool actually need therapy. I smoke and i STILL agree with this opinion.

[@halfmoon106]

It's exaggerated bullshit, tons of people smoke their whole life and nothing happens to them.

[@siennadark]

i was just having a panic attack and saw ben posted and im fine now. the amount of times this has happened is insane. he saevd me:) love you

[@charleyfarleyy]

love you too ❤

[@justonedayy_]

I hope you're doing better now 💕

[@bloodygusherunicorneye6639]

Omg same😭

[@MarsEatsStarz]

As someone who grew up in an environment with smokers, it is not only dangerous for your health but also for the health of others who live around you. It is not at all "trendy" or "cool" 🐺

[@mrzlamagla]

Coming from a casual smoker (still smoker, nonetheless), I've noticed a lot more middle school kids around the ages of 11-12 starting to smoke and it's saddened me. I'm trying to quit and be better, trying enjoy myself at social events w/o the need to reach for a cig.

[@ZmajesticPandaz]

Im with you.

[@gwens_drawings]

One of the closest people who have influenced my life heavily, died from lung cancer from smoking. A few years ago her husband died as well. They were the ones who influenced my love for littlest pet shop’s and gifted me one of my most prized possessions.

[@charlottemille5986]

Thankfully my parents has never smoked or drinked. They’ve always mentioned and talked about how stupid it is. Im always very open about what happenes at our school and i’m glad my parents taught me well enough for me to know how stupid it really is😌

[@dontlookatme5278]

My grandma started smoking at age 15 she's 58 now and hasn't stopped smoking once and is very sick bc of it and I feel terrible about it.

[@starrstruck]

#lungcollapsechallenge!!

[@FlamingSkyess-ni6ri]

Yummy!!! Flavored lung cancer!!

[@halfmoon106]

There is no proof that smoking causes lung cancer, it's government propaganda.

[@sammyhatessalami]

15 year old girl with a vape addiction here, I started vaping last year and ngl I tried it and hated it the first time but somehow I kept hitting it, I became hooked and I've never had one myself my friends own them and let me hit it but I wish I'd never started because nicotine withdrawal is one of the most horrible things I've ever experienced.

[@rcguy902]

Quit as soon as u can I started smoking cigarettes at ur age

[@halfmoon106]

Embrace and enjoy your addiction.

[@viviennewestwoodsn1fan]

so me and my mom are constantly getting in fights. it’s mostly because i don’t talk to her about my feelings but when i do she yells at me. i’m 15 and i don’t know what to do she basically hates me and makes me feel like a burden. what do i do?

[@eviek3071]

Hi boo, I went through this problem with my dad, I told my mum about my feelings instead and i got into counselling to just let some of my emotions out and it really helped me get some weight off my shoulders, I would definitely recommend just talking to someone outside your family about it because it’s really nice knowing they won’t tell anyone your feelings, stay strong hunny xxx

[@indubitablyamy]

NO BECAUSE LITERALLY SAME OH MY GOD. Like for me it's my dad and he's sooo convinced I hate him so I think he read a parenting book or some shit and it said something like "be involved in your kids life. ask them simple questions like how their day went". And it's like, okay like its good advice or whatever but every time he asks me how my day went he'll either not listen at all or when he does listen, he'll belittle me and turn every small mistake/inconvenience I complain about a 2hr long lecture FOR NO REASON. AND WHEN I TRY TO EXPLAIN THAT THATS JUST THE WAY I FEEL ABOUT IT AND I KNOW ABOUT BEING GREATFUL OR WORKING HARD OR WHATEVER TF HE'S LECTURING ME ABOUT HE REFUSES TO LISTEN. SO NOW ITS LIKE "okay James. If you're never going to listen to anything I tell you about my day and make it more than unpleasant to talk to you, I'm gonna stop talking to you then." Which I, personally, think is a perfectly reasonable way to deal with him because every time I've tried to talk to him about it in the past he makes it out to be "rudeness" and "ungratefulness" and he'll insult me and call me names. So by this point I'm like, "okay, really, what is even the point. like is it really worth it? Is it really that deep?" and I've decided that it's not that deep. So now when he asks me how my day went I say "Fine." and move on or whatever right? BUT NOW HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH ME SAYING THAT BECAUSE HE THINKS I DONT TRUST HIM AND DONT LIKE TALKING TO HIM. WHICH IS LIKE YES. YOU ARE EXACLY RIGHT JAMES. WHOS FAULT DO YOU THINK THAT IS? WHO'S JOB IS IT TO FIX THAT? and I used to acc try but I realized that as the child it is not my job to fix our relationship. because really, it's never that deep so it doesn't really bother me too much, but it DEFINATELY bothers him that "his baby girl doesn't like spending time with him anymore." AGAIN, I ASK YOU JAMES, WHO'S FAULT IS THAT? AND WHO'S JOB IS IT TO WORK ON IT AND FIND A SOLUTION?! yh but I have the same question. what do I do? Because my strategy of being nonchalant is starting to fail and I'm starting to get sick of dealing with his shit.

[@ssqqquiiddd]

i’m so glad you’re saying this it’s so true

[@blueedits.comofficial]

I vaped once in my life so far and let me just tell you... NEVER AGAIN. I felt terrible, dizzy, and sick right after "that buzz" 😪 and the worst part was my anxiety got worse I was paranoid and my mom looked at me and thought I was going to pass out because I looked yellow and sick. I get why people smoke or vape or whatever. Especially teens because most are anxious and idk but for some it "helps" so I get it. But still like. Your mental health will just get worse and it be an addiction which means withdrawal will be terrible and will be hard to stop. It's worse when influencers do it because their young following will feel like it's normalized and like it's okay because their fav influencer is doing it. Addiction of all types isn't good but things like cigarettes/smoking anything have effects that you can't turn back from.

[@halfmoon106]

Keep vaping and you will get used to it, you don't stop after one hit.

[@charlottemille5986]

I really just think it’s disappointing😔 So many ppl in my class vapes, smokes, drinks etc. 14 year olds!!!! Recently there was a case in our classroom where ppl from other classes came and so many ppl (my class included) started vaping in our classroom, even some of my real frineds I thought didn’t:( It was disgusting😞 Someone ended up snitching and names were spread around the the school. Eveyone took it really seriously… Vaping in Norway is illegal, it isn’t sold in any stores, and it was clear the parents didn’t know their own children had been buying vapes from older ones… i guess kids nowadays are just stupid, irresponsible, dumb and are born with no braincells🥱

[@xmanu_]

After having teeth problems, I can’t imagine doing something that would ruin my teeth even more besides my health. People cancel brands but why not boycott the cigarette industry that ruins the life of so many people? it doesn’t make senseeee

[@sophie.elizabeth_grace]

A few years ago, there was this girl in my class who vaped at the age of 12. My parents told me to stay as far away as I could because she could have made me try and use her vape and get me hooked on some flavored air. I think she still vapes and so does her friends.

[@Xylophone1010]

Not the whole video being about smoking- Nobody: Ben: "wE'rE cLeAriNg ThE AiR!" Had me dying- I see the potential Ben

[@chrys8991]

Ugh I'm so happy I'm out of highschool and I'm not hanging out with all of my classmates that smoke cigarettes/weed so heavily. 2 years ago we had a reunion dinner and there was only 3 of us who didn't have a cigarette in their hands all the time 💀 I really hate smoke, both my parents have been smokers for 40 years and I hate everything about it. I alread have to deal with that at home, I don't necessarily want to do that with friends as well. Also, it's so liberating that I don't have anyone anymore in my life pressuring me into smoking at all, since most of my current friends don't. And now that I'm older and I think about it I'm like: what's so cool about having an addiction (nicotine) that causes you a metldown if you don't smoke every hour or so? What's so cool about being pressured to potentially ruin you health? 💀 LMAO Many times my classmates told me: "It's not that deep, I only smoke every once in a while, I'm not addicted, I can stop if I want". Well, guess what happened? Yes, they smoke a pack of cigs a day now 😍

[@chrys8991]

I wanted to add, actually, that the university environment is not that different. The amount of people outside of campus that I see smoking everytime makes me kind of sad. I feel that in university you're not smoking "because it's cool", but more because "we're adults and we can do what we want" - which also implies poor life choices, apparently.

[@hinatanaki9120]

when somebody insults you for playing roblox but their hobby is inhaling flavored “air” from a electronic cigarette

[@yagirldaiziii]

This Is a Sad story from me (aka my drama). Two kids in my school have been smoking and got caught with weed in my classroom. Teachers caught both of them and both were SUSPENDED. We even had lessons on not to smoke and yet they sadly don’t litsen. UPDATE!!! They got expelled 🙃 i love your channel❤ Story From Daisy

[@floorcollapsing]

Drama of the week: I hadn't socialised in 6 yrs because of agoraphobia and I went to a youth club, I found a friend, who introduced me to his friend, and soon enough I was part of the friend group. We had a nice time (at first) but one night at a sleepover, my closest friend revealed he was a sociopath narcissist and the next day, the other said he was a neo-(you know what) They talked about me behind my back during group so I went up to the neo (yk) and punched him in the face TWICE, then outed the other guy's horrific actions and drug use to his mother, now the friend group avoids me and I don't have friends anymore.

[@chickenslovespaghetti3410]

Damn

[@awak3100]

they weren't your friends in the first place if they talked about you behind your back. I'm proud and happy you did that!! You don't need them in your life! keep your head up!

[@idaji]

honestly i have asthma and i've smoked for about 4 years since i was 14 and the thing is that i'm already just tired of being mentally ill and wishing for death that i don't/didn't ever care about the symptoms that came. Nowadays i can't sleep well, laugh or run even a minute to get a bad asthma attack, it really is hard on the heart too to be constantly hard to breathe.

[@o.livi.o3]

drama mamaa: There’s this kid who lives near me, he’s only 10 years old. Recently I found out he vapes with his friends, he even asked me once if I wanted to vape w them.. that’s crazy but idk what tf to do, he’s only 10😭

[@haleyelizabeth5501]

I have a lot to say. I have been vaping for about a year. the addiction is bad. I don't wish it on anyone. it's to the point that I'm constantly thinking about nicotine. it's always in the back of my head, no matter what I'm doing, of when I'll get to hit it next, who will have some I can hit when I don't have any, and how much all I want to do is hit my jone. it sucks. I grew up with both my parents smoking cigarettes, and most of my family. I swore I would never do anything like it. but when I got to high school everyone was doing it. but I didn't want to do it to be "cool" or whatever. I had one really close friend who was kind of a hypocrite about it. she would always tell me how bad it is and how I should never do it, but then turn around and tell me how it helped with her anxiety. I have really bad anxiety, and it was getting to the point I couldn't go a day without having at least 3-4 panic attacks. so I decided maybe it would help. so I started hitting my friends in the bathroom sometimes and it would genuinely help. I would get a really nice buzz and I would be less anxious. but I started craving it more and more and even though I knew I'd be extremely addicted the second I got my own, that's exactly what I did. once I got my own all hell broke lose. the addiction was almost immediate. I felt like I needed it at all times, and I still do. and it sucks because I know logically I don't need it. that my mind and body will be better without it. but I can't stop, because deep down I don't really want to. in order to stop, you have to want to stop. it even got to the point of stealing cigarettes from my dad because I couldn't handle not having a vape for the next week until I got paid. it's bad. if anyone reads this that's thinking that they want to start vaping or smoking, because it's "cool" or because they think it will help with anxiety or anything else, just don't do it. be smarter than me. don't give in because you think it will help. all it did for me was make me more anxious, with or without it. it's not worth it a second. it's not worth thinking every second of your day about when you'll be able to slip away and hit your vape, when you'll be able to satisfy the craving that you can't seem to get rid of. because while it damages your body a LOT, it damages your mind as well. and that's a hard thing to recover from.

[@33dog4wa]

I once had a substitute teacher and she was missing an arm. My class was quiet and respectful then she asked if we wanted to hear how she lost her arm and my class said yes. This is the story, " usually I would tell the first or second graders, a shark bit it or she would act surprised and say I left it at home, but I will to you the real story. As a young adult, I would always smoke. Then I got ( I don't remember what it's called but the name has to do with the word hamburger so I'll just call it hamburger) hamburger. I went to the hospital and they had to cut off my hand. After they did that they told me to stop smoking because it will happen again. I didn't listen and I kept smoking. Then my arm felt numb and I went to the hospital and I had to get my arm removed. t that moment I felt really bad. But I have learned my lesson. " also, another story, in 5th grade one of my friends bought a vape pen to school, but she got caught. A lot of kids were sick that day because they wanted to try it. Including my close friend. My ex friend tried it and said they would do it again, but after she got caught she made up a lie how after the girl shoved it in her mouth, she punched her. That is all. 😊

[@jakob1566]

The „buzz“ isnt actually just withdrawal. If you vape or smoke for the first time you‘ll understand what it feels like (not defending nicotine tho)

[@x_x2359]

This society, sad. Just sad. 😔 Last year I had a really good friend (16 year old btw) that I found out smokes weed, my other friend told her that she was basically killing her self and her response was “I don’t fucking care,” this crushed me because I legitimately cared about her. She now goes to a different school then me

[@kruggyy]

weed doesn’t kill you…

[@x_x2359]

@@kruggyy ether way it’s bad and long term can do some fucked up shit to you

[@kruggyy]

@@x_x2359 that’s false. weed has been proven to help a lot of people with psychiatric issues, like anxiety, amongst other health issues. it is in no way in the same class as nicotine and tobacco

[@tristan12424]

@@kruggyybro I’ll be flexing my healthy lungs later in life

[@x_x2359]

@@kruggyy ok stoner

[@7Peanut.05]

I’m used to the cigarette smell, my cousin stayed with us(she’s 36) for about a year, She smoked regularly and it was on her clothes that she gave me. Never will I EVER smoke,it is disgusting how people do it in public, but it was nice to hang out with her while she smoked.(outside,she still cares about us and respects our boundaries)

[@maebbp]

hey ben! first of all i love your pod and your videos, you brighten my days!! this is my drama for you. so my best friend in the whole world, ive known her for 11 years now since we were toddlers etc. i feel like she copies everything that i do and that i like (my hobbies and such), idek if she means to, but i feel like i can't tell her anything i like for fear that it won't be mine anymore. i don't want to have to gatekeep but i also don't wanna share every aspect of my life with her. what do i do???? (sorry this was a bit long!)

[@loony6073]

Ok here’s some drama Basically my ex friend (who also had a blatant crush on me, I had even been told by their friends) just started hating me randomly. They just started ignoring me and stopped talking to me one day after I had given them so much, I had been their therapist, messenger to other people they wanted to unfriend and best friend really. Apparently, it’s because “my humour is stupid.” My friend thinks this might be a manipulation technique called love bombing (suddenly removing affection from someone so they will want it more) Sorry if this was too long haha- Love ur vids byebye ty for reading this if you do

[@Ludwigvonkoopax3]

My old friend’s mom was addicted to smoking and eventually it influenced my old friend and she tried smoking at age 11 and ended up trying to convince her new friend to try vaping with her..

[@chairpajaro]

it always starts with peer pressure and i stand by that

[@thespadeexperience]

I have a very close friend who became addicted to cigs back in 8th grade. She realized how big of a problem it was, and came to me for help. I was one of the few people she trusted, and I helped her get out if it. She’s over a year clean and I’m so proud of her. Don’t smoke, kids… it will become a problem, and you may not realize it until you’re too far in.

[@Me-ll1gh]

ben, I'm at school. but I have no choice but to watch your videos. help I'm being held captive at school and I need to watch your video

[@eloisemae]

ok ben here’s my drama: there’s this girl who i am not really friends with but i know of her if that makes sense. i’m worried that she has an ED because i have known her since the beginning of this year and she has gotten really small. on top of that she gives away her lunches everyday. plus she passed out like yesterday and i’m worried about her. i don’t know how to ask her if she’s okay without sounding mean. that’s all love u ben

[@islaizzy]

ask her first, then tell the counselor

[@eloisemae]

@@islaizzy ok i will tysm!

[@islaizzy]

@@eloisemae ofc! btw i love ur pfp

[@eloisemae]

@@islaizzy aw tysm i love urs too🥰🥰

[@eshitagoel8604]

This video is everyyyything I think about smoking and vaping. Like the part where Ben says that it seems like everyone is vaping these days, I felt that so much. When I was in high school, kids from the 7th and 8th grades had also started smoking, and I was just like, "What? They're kids!" and now even in university, so many people around me (majority) and even some of my friends smoke and vape. I don't know how I've kept off of them, but I think it has to do something with how hyper-aware I was also of the negatives. Like my parents had told me since a young age as well, and even in movie theatres in my country (India), till when I was a child, they used to show these ads of how smoking affects you and showed like images of mouth and lung cancer patients, before they played the movie, which were a little bit scarring but so effective, because I saw them and i was like, "Oh hell naw I'm never gonna smoke." But since the past around 8-9 years, this kind of "scaring off", I would say has been missing. They stopped playing these informational smoking ads so I think kids who did not grow up seeing them before their movies are more prone to and more accepting of smoking. So, I think collectively media needs to show this side, and of course influencers need to stop influencing their impressionable audience into consuming such substances. I think this was a great thing to talk about, Ben and I am so glad you did. You tackled it very well, keep up the good work :))

[@HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHok]

why cant they bring something to better society back like complaneting others or crack cocaine or even opening a comunity fridge smh whats wrong with people

[@HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHok]

spelling sucks but yeah

[@dihiyaa]

DRAMAAA: Hi Ben. I broke friends with this girl because she spread a rumour about my bsf that she cheated on her bf. She nearly ruined the entire relationship. A few weeks later, she started a rumour that I was dating this random boy in my class that I barely knew (I thought he was cute). Luckily, he somehow didn't hear about it. That was until she told her mother about the rumour. Her mother knew the guy's parents and talked to his mother about it. Obviously, she knew nothing about it so she asked her son. He also knew nothing. So, he found out the rumour from his own mother!! I'm so embarrassed because now he probably thinks that I'm some psychopath who spread a lie for fun. What do I do?

[@dorachan9609]

watching this while smoking 😦 but yes i agree with the video, it's really bad it's an addiction literally.

[@silly.yayaya]

i saw this whisper on pinterest that was "smoking>>>>>>vaping" and all the comments were like "not having lung cancer>>>>>"

[@faeriestears]

I SAW THE SAME ONE

[@lia.lia.lia.]

when ben said '' *i actually needed the lean* '' i felt that! but fr i love how ben gives such elaborate takes and takes the time to speak on his own experiences so openly and how that informs his opinions, while also taking the care to consider how others may perceive things differently as well. very genuine and thoughtful episode, as usual! also, if ben posted a pic w a pic of him smoking a cig i would think it had to be for a bit for a video or something tbh and not think too much of it.

[@emlonie]

0:32 "I wanna talk about smoking" "We're clearing the air" AHA GOOD ONE

[@kennedyleigh1462]

I feel ya man, I have bad asthma and one breath of a cigarette can kill me so I don't understand smoking either.

[@xfionaxfionax8216]

This channel has FOLLOWED me for the past few days so fine I’ll subscribe, I enjoy your content ❤

[@_hanni_bunnie_]

People who vape at my school believe that vaping is good and not addictive because it doesn’t have “nicotine” in it and it won’t give you cancer or your lungs won’t collapse and when I tell them they have the exact same risk as cigarettes they tell me in crazy and vaping doesn’t do that 💀

[@Sun.daytravels]

Vapes have so much nicotine 😭

[@maria-beatles2692]

lung cancer but make it ✨aesthetic ✨

[@marelythecrybaby]

I started to do it on my own at 14 because I wanted to die. No one in my circle thinks that it's cool, or even introduced me to it- I simply began to do it because I purposely wanted to wreck my body since I hated it and myself so much. Doing it numbed me to any negative emotion I felt and allowed me to think things through more logically so it became addictive because of that. Don't get me wrong- from the very beginning, I knew how dumb it was because let's be real- it does NOT feel good the first like...20 times lol. I kept on doing it for what I previously mentioned- but if I had to take a guess...most people probably just like it because of the vapor, hence why vaping is more popular now. It's a pacifier, really. I also tried vaping but I didn't like it because it's literally just gas candy and I could tell that it was made to make you feel good when what I wanted to feel was simply nothing- death- rotting. However, I can tell that it's just a decoration at this point for most people- or a thing that they just do. Like, those people who have gum to randomly take out and chew throughout their day- or those people who put on balm on their lips throughout theirs. It's become such a casual thing that because of that- makes others think "Well, what's really wrong about it?" or on the contrary, they only do it because they know that it's wrong.

[@leoterrell9848]

Vaping is actually WORSE than smoking cigarettes because cigarettes have effects down the road, but vaping is putting vapor into your lungs which is liquid in gas form, and with the added stuff in it, it's sticky vapor that has some get stuck to your lungs which builds up over repetitive use and has side effects which take less time to show up. And vaping is more addictive because of the flavors to choose from.

[@isabellagraves-bq8vo]

if i seen ben post a picture of him smoking i would be disapointed and kind of taken by suprise but i love you ben and you make me so happy i love the podcast btw💚💚

[@SuperBelle33]

I would use these substances as a child with full awareness of the health toll because life was never worth it in the first place when coping with a severe anxiety disorder and chronic pain. To answer what nicotine "does," even if the calming effect were to only last a second, that second is equivalent to an utterly euphoric high others might compare with harder drugs for kids who otherwise never feel a second of relief from their own nervous systems. I think it is more helpful to focus on why more kids feel that they need to go to this extent and risk their lives just to have a "break" from their own bodies in the first place and support them from there.

[@user-kv2xe9rs3k]

This is wonderfully put! More people need to see this perspective and truth.

[@kadolade]

My “friends” helped spread a rumor that I was dating an annoying person I know; and when I asked them about the rumor then they finally told me about knowing it, then an actual good friend of mine told me that those fake ass friends helped spread the rumor and never told me about it. Yikes…

[@sflwr236]

Drama Mamaaa I wanted a break from my bf for around 2 weeks but it turned into a breakup, I made him cry and his brother noticed and told their mom. His mom and family got mad at me, and now his mom won’t let me go back to him. I miss him a lot. Any advice ? (Side note- you’re my comfort person, Love you ! -Alissa)

[@HappyHarp914]

“MmMm I Am So EdGy WiTh My MeTh PipE” 😂😂😂

[@jasmine-ge1jd]

I saw someone "smoking" incense as a joke which was pretty funny ngl. smoke gives me sensory overload so omg I hate when people smoke in public

[@Poop-lu8ms]

I was supposed to make tea for my dad with a fever but I watched this instead

[@yoonbred]

Bruh listen to this in the BG and make it 😭😭

[@SaltedRain]

Evil

[@jesskat9395]

Mateeeee. I just came across ur channel and ID LOVE TO JUST HAVE A CONVO WITH U SOMETIME!!! I love ur vibe and ur ideas. Such a refreshing video ✨🫶🏻

[@fairy_classic8581]

0:36 BRO YOU SCARED ME I WAS LIKE, WAIT REALLY? FOUR??

[@filmedbyeloise.]

hi ben i’m two days late but here’s my drama: My school is really small and there is only two friend groups of girls and like one big group of boys that are extremely annoying and say slurs all the times.but the friend group i’m in is kinda annoying cus they gossip about everyone even people in the friend group. their is this one girl let’s call her mia but once i walked over the the friend group during lunch and they were shit talking mia behind her back and then mia walked over to the group and they completely stopped and acted like they are best friends. and they do this with a new person every week. im scared they do this about me and i don’t know what to do because i can’t be friends with the other friend group because they are furries and bark at people. i already hate school cus it’s so draining and this makes everything worse and they are really bad for my mental health but if i dropped them i would literally have no friends and no one to be friends with cus my school is so small. what should i do??? Also I love ur videos it’s the highlight of my week when a new podcast or video comes out :)

[@damnedifidonut]

Hi I know I'm not Ben, but if you have any one you're especially close to in that friend group, you could start hanging out with them more rather than hanging out as a group in general

[@filmedbyeloise.]

@@damnedifidonut every in my friends group is closer with someone else :( but thanks for the advice

[@pickleBOB405]

please dont smoke just because it looks cool, i have family that smokes and I always worry for them. It's not cool, it becomes an addiction you can't put down very quickly.

[@shyaf3091]

I live in Germany and I feel like it never really left ( for teenagers especially). Like in my school all the "cool kids" smoke. Some of my friends literally started smoking in elementary school like when they were 12 (wtf). I think it's stupid and therefore I never even tried it so far, but honestly, that wasn't easy. For like 3 or 2 years all my friends are smokers and they do it constantly, so when I want to spend time with them I have to passively smoke. And they are often just blowing the smoke in my face, sometimes people even said that I can not be with my friends during the break because I didn't smoke. And honestly, I think these peer-pressure movie situations are actually kind of close to the truth. I've been in multiple situations where people tried to peer-pressure me or other people. A former friend of mine made smoking their whole personality and she felt so cool, so she enjoyed giving drunk people at parties cigarettes, she kind of got some people starting through that. It's kinda funny because now the time starts when they all realize that they don't like smoking anymore and they regret ever starting.

[@user-qf5kl6cv2y]

In my opinion it depends on the locality in Germany. In my area smoking isn't that common amongst people, though you can still encounter vaping people in schools, but it barely happens (or not that I am aware of it).

[@dau__]

I'm twenty six and when I was in highschool everyone smoked. I was one of the only kids who didn't with maybe one or two of my friends who were considered losers. I remember during break time the whole school met outside to smoke. I myself grew up with a mom who smokes a TON and that was the reason why I never started. Never smoked, never vaped to this day. I always get a suprised comment by dentists and other docs when they realize I do not smoke nor drink. I think it is a rareity, even in my generation. I don't think smoking was ever seriously discussed at my school, maybe just the general it is dangerous and that is that. It would def be more productive to explain why people do it. It is the same as any other drug. People don't just take them for nothing.

[@111jade]

MY DRAMA: my best friend of 7yrs dropped me kind of out of nowhere. The story is incredibly long but if anyone wants to reply for more details or any Qs ill answer fs!! Basically i dropped out the beginning of this past school year (junior year) which is a decision I'd made this past summer and that my friend knew about. Bc of us not being forced into the same envirinment everyday like we'd been for the past 7yrs, we stopped talking as much bust still considered each other best friends bc of all of our history and bc whenever we would talk or hang out it was like no time had passed. After all we didn't have literally any beef. ffwd its february 2023 and her bday is coming up. She says she's having a party but she doesnt wanna invite me because I dont know her school friends and she wanted to have a celebration just us. This wasn't a red flag to me because it made sense and it'd been a while since we'd hung out one on one anyway. But then she changes her reasoning for not inviting me to the actual party to "One of my friends is bringing a blunt and i know that you dont't smoke so i wouldnt wanna make you uncomfortable" so i said "Actually i have a few times and idm it at all! But that's okay" and then literally like 30 minutes later she texted me saying that she thinks we shouldnt be friends. there's actually soso much more that i just cant fit but if u have any qs reply ORRR my ig is @fakeamarii lol TY FOR READING IF U DID

[@techwin2]

I’m sorrey :c

[@111jade]

@@techwin2 it's okay :) thank uu

[@HeiduhDrawz]

When he said he smoked cigarettes I thought he was genuine 😂

[@silly.kelly_]

I've always hated smoking but for the Reversed reason, its because my dad always been smoking since I was born he always came back every night with smoking smell coming out of him and I used to be 7 at the time and I used to cry and tell him why 😭 since I've lost my grandfather (his dad) I was terrified that I'm going to lose him that way too :(

[@Jared19isme]

So glad someone actually speaking on this

[@strawberryjuice3677]

that intro scared me ngl..

[@dollluvdolly]

No one: Ben after pretending to smoke with a coffee stirrer: bOnJouR!!🤯😘

[@rocks744]

My drama: i have a friend who dropped out of school last year due to bad mental health and i think that they literally only talk to their immediate family and one other person so their social skills are really bad now and they just come off very rude so now I don’t really like them. i feel bad because if anything they needs friends to get better socially and mentally so i feel obligated to be friends with them but they are not open minded at all so it’s just us speaking to each other about our own opinions and when they don’t agree then they make fun of me and strongly disagree instead of obviously seeing that ppl can have different views and opinions. I am not sure how to end the friendship because the only things i can think of are ghosting them, get them to hate me, or obviously be an adult and tell them the friendship isn’t rlly working out, but idk how one does that to begin with? P.s. i’ve only known them for about 8 months so feel like i’m not in too deep at all. psps. do you think if i start smoking cigarettes they will not want to hang with anymore lmk

[@user-xg2up2ot9y]

hii ben ! ive got some drama for you. so ima try n keep it short but basically my entire friend group has turned against me even though ive been there for every single one of them when they didn't have anyone else. ive been going through alot lately and they are fr just making it worse. man ive cryed over them 3 days this week AT school. and im not the type that crys at school. anywho i love your videos sm! have a good day buckaroo.

[@l0v3r_izzy]

i hate people who act like its "cool" or "fancy" to smoke or vape like lung cancer is NOT "COOL" OR "FANCY" my grandma smokes and its effected her so much mentely and her heath she now cant walk for long and she cant run at all becuse her lungs are so bad its truely sad she said she would like to stop but she cant :(

[@Maeveliffeyx]

hey ben my drama! so i used to be freinds with these ppl in a class above me, we stopped being freinds and this girl in my class was like "oh i get why u hate them there so rude" AND LITTRERALYB 2 DAYS LATER I SEE HER AT AT A FUNFAIR WITH THEM LIKE WISPERING AND SHIT? idk what to do cause rn i have no irl freinds and ive been feeling like a turd

[@111jade]

OH MY GOD SOMETHING SO SIMILAR HAPPENED TO ME LAST SCHOOL YEAR. i cant stand fake ppl fr

[@techwin2]

you’ll have irl friends trust mee, mostly from school tho I guess

[@celinaa_3]

i think this fr needed to be said

[@JaviontaviousIII]

Finally someone talks about this