healthy boundaries instructional video 01

[@emerald613]

This guy is better then any therapy I’ve ever gotten !

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

I put up horrible walls and completely lost my sense of self because of parents who passed through my boundaries as if they were water! The emotional pain has been so bad that I have to come back and and reclaim my self and my life. Thank you so very, very much for these videos. if these were more widely distributed and understood as important principles the world would be a much, much better place!!!!

[@keithcrane469]

Psychological abuse (from a caregiver) when you're a child is incredibly damaging. It can take many many years to overcome and I believe it can be but the road can be hard and long. Love is the only way forward ❤️

[@openreviews1209]

My heart is racing just thinking about boundaries even just starting this video.

[@amarantheinwhite]

THIS EXPLAINS SO MUCH! THANK YOU!

[@cherylm5002]

This is so enlightening, thanks🙏

[@lsd938]

God bless u...

[@theforeigner6988]

Discussion needs to be put on hold 16:45 Noted. Thank you

[@VengefulPolititron]

I told mom I was going crazy. she didn't believe me. told me "no you're not" "don't you ever say that again" 6 days later I lost my mind I was asking for help and I went crazy.. from following her advice. learned helplessness... wow

[@karineanddanify]

Very helpful! Thank you!

[@harmonyspacecenter7668]

Thank you, so clear and so useful

[@somethingforyou345]

Thank you for this information

[@Varsha123Varsha]

Can I please get a video on establishing boundaries at work?

[@Chargesheimer]

Great video!

[@lsd938]

Please suggest how to detach... I have a problem with detachment...

[@Alphacentauri819]

Mindfulness practice helps, things like meditation and yoga help. Yoga was recommended to me by a therapist and then a Dr, and I dismissed it mostly. After the pandemic I started doing it online (I do yoga with Adriene, but there's many out there) & it has changed my life. I often wish I'd listened and started sooner. What it did was calm my nervous system, encouraging my sympathetic nervous system to calm down (fight/flight/freeze) and become more consistently emotionally regulated. I hadn't even realized how dysregulated I was (as it was my "norm") until I was way more calm, regulated, present. What a difference. I also worked on challenging my cognitive distortions, biases, limiting beliefs. I worked on healing my core wounds "I'm not good enough". When those are dealt with, we don't take things so personally. Over-identification with anything (others opinions, responses, reactions), outcomes, is the opposite of healthy detachment. Healthy detachment isn't overly invested in a particular outcome. It is the essence of acceptance and "it is what it is". It allows life to be as life is. Acceptance and commitment therapy is good for this too. I don't have it down perfectly, it's a process 😊...but I'm much more balanced, able to recover quicker, things don't affect me as often or as intensely. It's such a better way to live. Less suffering (as most of it is created by our own mental processes!).

[@alyssas3837]

Thank u this is me rn ✍🏽✍🏽✍🏽✍🏽✍🏽✍🏽

[@tanyakashyap6944]

🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@mcjayman1]

soo, how tha fuck do I fix my problem?

[@bizarrepanic2701]

Start talking to yourself about yourself.

[@christalthompkins5181]

Jordan Mccue check out Lisa A Romano

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

Go to a therapist who understands attachment problems. Keep trying different therapists until you find one who actually likes you and shows you what appropriate attachment feels like. And continue watching these kind of videos and bring them into the sessions when appropriate. If you do this diligently I promise you will heal from your past traumas. Because this is the only way that worked for me I wish someone else had told me about this method 40 years ago. But the internet was not around and very little was being spread around about the importance of attachment and boundaries. People like us are all in the same boat, Jordan Mccue and I appreciate that you spoke up about how you really feel.