Interviewing My Ex-Girlfriend (things get personal & gay)

[@anka9405]

please tell alex he did an amazing job and had me cackling with his edits

[@ashgavs]

i think ive made clear to alex im obsesesd w/ him but in case he doesn't know.

[@stephtaylor6292]

@@ashgavs Would love an episode where you interview Alex!!!! :D

[@ErinMark11]

9:42 absolutely SENT ME! LMFAO!!

[@shilohatkinson1119]

THE BONG RIP LMAO

[@howdyshell123]

@@stephtaylor6292 there may or may not be bonus content on Patreon that has exactly that. Only one way for you to find out!

[@lunanight8145]

this aged INCREDABLY

[@leahpinault1617]

RIGHT

[@Frankie_Ozzie]

Fr

[@lillyc5567]

are they back together?

[@gibob323]

@@lillyc5567 yea and they both feel like they’re gonna get married eventually

[@breathebeloved]

Truth

[@shoggy1713]

Who else is rewatching now that they’re together again

[@twildabuckingham]

Does the timeline place them as not together right here?

[@lelemsays]

mE

[@alevtinabor3984]

i went to the comments to see if they are together again 😊🎉

[@RioRav]

yeah yeah and looking for this comment!

[@melissaobrien4860]

Ashley: everyone is going to read into EVERYTHING Me: literally reading into EVERYTHING

[@PuncakeLena]

Same energy

[@azxzn]

After watching the break up episode and then coming back to this... I am reading into everything lol

[@twildabuckingham]

Well, now they're back together!

[@notrelevant545]

@10:42 OMGGGG JEN TOOK A SIP OUT OF ASHLEY'S COFFEE CUP WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?!?! ARE THEY IN LOVEEEEE?

[@freewave04]

Omggg they’re getting back together!!!!! /jk

[@abbyehrenstein2550]

Welp look who was right

[@NOBODYNOSE1]

It means they're gonna be back together in *checks watch* oh INSTANTLY!

[@ramaadole9514]

@@freewave04 oop u were righy

[@littlewolf2330]

​@@freewave04 Yep they are

[@v0mit4br4ins]

after watching the main main reveal podcast episode i think it's safe to say there WAS something behind that coffee sip

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

The little looks, the smiles, the mutual respect and adoration... the chemistry is leaking through my phone and I'm absorbing a fucking vibe. Makes sense why you two are together, it really does.

[@i-leean]

Small side point: I'm glad someone else is using the term "emotional self harm" to describe psychologically self-destructive behavior. I came up with the term to describe my own behavior and I don't think I've ever heard it online (granted I haven't looked for it either, but it's good to know I'm not alone)

[@Daisy-nd7iw]

It's actually something you read about when u study psychology, so it's a legit term!

[@i-leean]

@@Daisy-nd7iw Dang I didn't know that! I hope more people use it because it perfectly described what I was doing and helped me realize that it wasn't very healthy 😅

[@astromoonie]

“normalize sti’s, talk about your status” i know she was joking around and stuff but i have literally never heard this anywhere and its so sweet 🥺💖

[@ashgavs]

I’m not joking! We should, it’s important!

[@Heather-fz6xe]

Im straight as fuck, yet my role models are lesbian women. Feels like mainstream media doesnt have any women half as mature or insightful (or funny). Love this podcast

[@miad6160]

Because they’re all suppressed under men and needing their approval. I realized- to really grow as a person, I was going to have to leave men behind. I will never get a husband, and that’s okay.

[@nyxie2877]

Mature is a strong word

[@lyndseyglasko5571]

Ashley can we get an update video in this format??? Now that we know Jen is main main

[@RioRav]

yeahhhh!!

[@hadss6878]

I truly believe that Ashley is the strongest woman in the world. The restraint she has of not jumping Jen every time those piercing eyes looks at her amazes me.

[@mahoganyk]

Agreed

[@pansexualdickhaver6878]

Yeah them eyes are something ❤️

[@LamAnopro_]

👀

[@elizabethgreeson6624]

Wow 1. This was an incredible video. Watching two people be so vulnerable and honest was really beautiful to watch in a way I didn't expect. 2. You said it, you two definitely have some chemistry. It almost felt like I shouldn't be watching but couldn't look away? 3. Maybe it was different in person but I thought the makeup looked great lol obviously Ashley should wear what she feels good in but I thought Jen did a great job under those conditions lol

[@crazywolf9715]

Oh well, they are sitting too close, constantly look straight at the other eyes, and constantly touching. That's some sus af ish

[@cucumberr01]

we've come full circle folks

[@MrDwinstead]

This gave me a lot of feels. This affection and connection you two have for each other, even at what you call a friends level, is more than so many couples I know. Beautiful.

[@miad6160]

I mean, the only difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship is sex

[@luise5339]

Just so you now, there has been a reveal recently, they actually have been seeing each other while filming this episode

[@sha2424]

i saw this pop up in my sub box and was immediately like "oh shit no way" like, im concerned about whether this was a good decision but im very excited to watch either way!!!

[@grouchypseudopod354]

Eeeee yyyyyeah

[@iamsoundmich]

Hard same on both accounts!!

[@sophiel4773]

Same I was like TF

[@bossyboots5000]

Ashley, your channel does matter. You normalize mental health, self care, self reflection, good boundaries, gender non-conforming, and sexual agency. You balance humor with honesty and vulnerability, and that creates a very strong connection with your audience. I'm still so isolated bc of the pandemic and gas prices being so high, and that gets lonely. I've found myself watching WHGS to vicariously be part of a social setting and with the queer community. I'm an Old Baby Gay (bi-erasure + comp het) and listening to you, Kate and your guests gives me so much insight into WLW and the wide wonderful world of gender. It feels like the home I want, though don't yet have. I also love that you talk about sex in a very real, non-judgemental way. I think women should have the space to do that in a normallized direct manner, like men can, and female desire should get as much air time as male desire. Your podcast is important. And also ridiculous. And that's a great combo. Please keep doing what you're doing, it means a lot right now.

[@CM-dx5pb]

This comment is literally everything I have ever felt expressed into words. I am a young baby gay(?), and had boyfriends because I thought I was bisexual but realized something didnt feel right and that comphet among other things were at play and that wlw is what feels right deep on the inside. I only found the podcast super recently and wish I had found it sooner. It has helped me so much with being comfortable as I figure out my sexuality and hearing all the stories about and relating to gax sex, queer community and more has helped me so much in my journey. I still havent figured it out completely yet but I am feeling much more comfortable and open to wherever i might find myself.

[@CB-fq2ye]

I second this!

[@remionil]

Kudos to Ashley for handling things so well. It's must have been really hard. I wish you two the best. May you both find what you are looking for ❤

[@NeidaTeresa]

Not this yassified Ashley OMG

[@theembersinside1420]

As someone who has seen the ups & downs of this relationship on this channel, I'm scratching my head wondering how Ashley can stand Jenn's hands all over her face while sitting inches from each other! 🤔😜💜 PS- This was sooo cute! Would tip, but I'm unbelievably poor. Ughh.

[@Zaddy-Lu]

Staying friends with your exes is definitely something the straights don't understand, and I think our community is stronger because of it.

[@Sansankoneko]

I mean... Hard for straight women to want to stay friends with a guy who abused her... XD LMFAO but go off, I guess.

[@Sansankoneko]

@@leti1569 I'm pansexual too. I'm all about staying friends, as long as the relationship wasn't abusive. XD Like "you should stay friends with that person who damaged you horribly, so they can continue to do so." Is a bit "yikes".

[@Sansankoneko]

Lol I know tons of cis people who stay friends with their exes. It's funny to think that there's people who just assume that only "this group" or "that group" are a certain way, when in reality, it's about how the relationship itself went, not the sexuality group. XD Unfortunately, through my years as a psychiatrist, most abusive relationships just happen to be between cis couples, than LGBT community. 🤔

[@Zaddy-Lu]

@@Sansankoneko I didn't speak in absolutes and there have been multiple studies that show LGBTQIA+ people are much more likely to stay friends post-breakup than cis/het people. It's theorized that it's due to our community being significantly smaller. I would think a "psychiatrist" would know that.

[@Sansankoneko]

@@Zaddy-Lu That's where you're mistaken. Another reason our community is successful with friendship after breakup is because as minorities, we fight for healthy relationships and understanding, not just because we're a small group. As a psychiatrist, I know that studies and statistics have many flaws depending on where, whom, how many, culture, etc applied to the "study". Just because numbers are thrown out on paper/online doesn't mean it's 100% accurate, it just means the studies "this far". I'm not trying to debate with anyone, just acknowledging what many misunderstood as "fact". Science is fluid, after all. I mean, it's fine if it makes you feel better to belittle me/my profession, but just be aware that singling out another group of individuals with assumptions is the equivalent of many assuming about our group too.

[@ArchaeoV]

You’re kind of like magnetised to each other, it looks physically difficult for you both to turn to the camera 😱💗

[@rebeccatorrence7258]

here after the main main announcement:)

[@CGA1]

17:05 made me go through a rollercoaster of feelings! I love the honesty and the trust you continue to have on each other. Amazing content as always Ashley

[@themrs9407]

This was chaotic and lovely to see you still be friends. Alex top tier zooming! Lol

[@krytoxic122]

Yay! Jen's back! She's funny too. It's also kinda funny that at one point I saw in the sign "We're Having Gay's Ex" (on the show) and I chuckled to myself.

[@daxmonkeyfeet2574]

Love this episode . It was HEAVY and Jen doing Ashley's makeup lightened the mood just enough. So glad to see you guys able to hangout and have fun together . I was really worried for you both after the breakup . Ash you look great definitely giving us very femme vibes but we love the ashley we know ! Your content for sure makes a huge impact to so many people and really helps them navigate their own life .

[@jgeworkjan3102]

watching this after the recent new girlfriend review and i am just astonished... the chemistry between you two is just amazing

[@MikeGrahamDSM]

I love this. Thank you for creating this. The dynamic between you both is hilarious but the discussions and the topic is healing for me being that I have survived two major break-ups this year (one of them being my ex-fiancé) 😅.

[@ashgavs]

Oh man rough year!! Feel better

[@bluepurplepink]

It’s so awesome that y’all are able to hangout as friends after breaking up

[@noorvipatil792]

Rewatching this after the main main reveal... All their interactions and small looks and expressions look so much different now👀

[@meghinson4153]

Clicked for the content. Stayed for Alex’s phenomenal editing (and also the content, love you all)

[@astoldbybianx]

Why am crying. Love the chemistry and this friendship.

[@Raddiebaddie]

~this about to blow up again~

[@lillyc5567]

now i see why she likes jen’s so much

[@hurricanecatrina9548]

Ohhh Ashley I’m hoping this doesn’t send you into a spiral 😭😭❤️❤️

[@ashgavs]

i'm good! no hurting myself for content, lol

[@ecs8837]

another day another ashley gavin selling her pain for content!!!

[@22kelseydillabaugh]

I’ve been hoping Jen was main bae pleaseeeee let the announcement of Ashley’s new girlfriend be Jen. Y’all are too precious.

[@Converselvr2011]

She announced it in the last Podcast!

[@22kelseydillabaugh]

@@Converselvr2011 I just saw it! So freaking cute!! Thank you!

[@Beverly-v4f]

So glad that u all r back together I could have cried when u said her family took u in I know that means alot to u

[@laurararararara]

OMGGGGG. THEY ARE TOTANLLY IN LOVVVVE

[@chelister27]

Jenn quickly asking if Ashley deserved it was so cute 😂 she knows her too well

[@tris5602]

I'm still very good friends with my ex from highschool. We dated for like a year, and have been friends for over 15. I'm so grateful that our spouses have always been supportive of our friendship because I don't know what I'd do without him.

[@formerfuture00]

I love the editing on this one.

[@Novur]

I broke up years ago with the person who ended up being my best friend, and who remains my greatest love. Even though us two queers were in what would likely be described as a Hetero Relationship™, SO MUCH of this episode - especially the stuff about shifting between forms of love - resonated to my core. I haven't come across another channel or podcast or PERSON that so often makes me feel seen, that makes my experiences feel valid. I often get the impression from your comedy and social media persona that you're focused exclusively on lesbian matters and that you're perfectly content with staying in that lane, but I wanted affirm that your stories reach the hearts of a wider audience. I doubt it's anything new or unexpected for you, but it still seems important to say it ❤️ Edit: goddamn it I jumped the gun with this comment lmao, you practically directly addressed my comment within the NEXT MINUTE after I'd paused the video to write it 😂

[@misssir2373]

The communication you 2 have is beautiful. This channel was just recommended to me recently so I’m new to your stuff, but I’m loving the content :)

[@miaismyname1]

17:42 - 🎶a healthy dose of prolonged eye contact (prolonged eye contact)🎶

[@Xhadray]

find people in your life that will look at you the way Ashley and Jen look at each other

[@Hello_Spaceboy]

Seeing this kind of open and honest and beautiful communication between two people who care about each other makes my heart happy. And also makes me pretty sure I'm not gonna date another straight dude hahah

[@shannonbolton6005]

Nooo way! I haven’t even gotten more than a minute in. I watch all of your podcasts… BUT THIS ONE! I’m extremely interested to hear! 👀👁👁👁👀👀👀👂👂👂👂

[@someoneelse7629]

Oh gosh, Jen is so pretty, so softspoken and so mature, I fell in love with her persona (I won't be sliding in to her DM's) I totally understand why you want to keep her friendship, and I wish you both well.

[@The_Soulful_Ginger]

I was 5 mins in and thinking, “These two clearly still like each other and everything about their body language and chemistry tells me that.” I really hope they end up together, I ship them soooo hard!

[@charlottefrantzen4579]

Uhm. This is a joke right?

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

They're together!

[@The_Soulful_Ginger]

@@charlottefrantzen4579 haha clearly not cause they’re back together

[@wadnold123]

Lowkey disappointed this wasn’t a WHGS podcast episode because it should’ve been longer. BUT HAPPY YOU TWO ARE STILL FRIENDS ❤️

[@ashgavs]

patreon.com/whgs you get the full hour

[@gemmalittle6206]

This was beautiful. Love your openness, vulnerability, humour and kindness towards eachother. You are both genuine and gorgeous people and I hope you have a lot of happiness and love for eachother in whichever form that comes in in future 🤗💙

[@CM-dx5pb]

I love Ashley's embarrassed behavior/face its so adorable. Maybe its just the gap from the top-heavy person from the standup, but it really makes me smile and warms my heart. I wish the best for Ashley and am so excited for the day that Ashley meets her wife!! Best of luck!

[@Frankie_Ozzie]

The friends title wasn’t there to stay

[@halezii2225]

Your content is more important than you’ll ever know. Thank you for sharing your heart and humor with us 🥰

[@starbucksthiholsters]

This video is really comforting to see exes who have come through multiple stages of difficulty and have come through. It makes sense that you’re friends because partners have to pass all of our friend tests and more to become partners in the first place. Completely cutting off contact forever if it ended healthily doesn’t make sense to me.

[@howdyshell123]

Such a great one! It’s so nice to see y’all as such good friends after everything. Now off to Patreon for that bonus content!

[@azxzn]

Oh my god. I am crying. You guys are just toooooo pure. That is so true though about the shift from romantic to platonic love, sometimes it doesn't happen, and that's okay. There's just an understanding and reconciliation that happens for things to be okay.

[@ladylegion93-]

I just wanna jump in and say your really cute 🌹

[@RoguePanda93]

Not me low key wishing Jen to feel ready before Ashley is finds someone else 😭 Damn it, now I’m invested in these two!

[@ariellediaz1227]

Kate should have been here to be uncomfortable with all the chemistry haha

[@nehir9218]

You guys drop a vid like this and expect us to not go "OMGG THEY ARE SOOO IN LOOOVVEEE😍"😭😭😭

[@derpherbert3199]

2:28 "Bisexual Boo HATES Bisexual community" and the article starting off with "American refusal to give a detailed schedule of US troop withdrawals from South Vietnam has caused the communists to hold back release of prisoners..." just fits so much better than it should.

[@thuhlia]

Alex is killing the game. Ashley put me in the ground a long time ago. Great job guys

[@shivaninegi9779]

I can't even tell you that how many times I have re-watched this video, I knew it was going to be a roller coaster of feelings 😬 but what an incredible video and "content" 😌. Loved the editing and kudos to both of you for sharing your feelings and vulnerability❣️🥰 Love from India 💕

[@bluepursue8542]

Addicted to the chemistry in this video 👌

[@bluepursue8542]

I want someone to look at me like Jen looks at Ashley

[@lindsey416]

This is the first video of yours I've watched. Quite the wild ride in terms of introductions haha.

[@tjwithersauthor]

I'm soooo confused by all the feels from this video, why am I so sad right now? 😢 how do you be friends with an ex without constantly being heartbroken all over again?

[@ashgavs]

It’s tough and takes time and it’s not always worth it!!!

[@Jay-ku9hl]

She’s gorgeous

[@ccaatttiraffe]

Firstly, exquisite editing Alex! Thank you both for being so vulnerable. I have been wondering lately if I should reach out to my exes (all of whom are men) because I don't think any of them had proper closure after I ended things. Turns out it was because I'm gay 🌞 but then Ashley, your comment on not being friends with some of your exes got me thinking. What would reaching out even get me? I'm not interested in being their friend, so it would only be to selfishly wash my hands of the breakups 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@horsesgirl16]

How the turns have tabled with main-main 🤭😊 they're so cute ❤

[@caseyneill7015]

Ash..love this vulnerable side to you.. Jen cute as ever.... Age gaps etc are so difficult to navigate..

[@kevinruby9241]

Love. Honesty. So beautiful to see two people who care so much about each other, be so real. Thank you for sharing that with us. How you two managed not to end up cuddling is beyond me, the magnetism between you is palpable.

[@Jessie-oz3lp]

im not reading into the coffee bro, im reading into the WORDS

[@monesquely]

watched the uncut and came here to re-watch for Alex’s edits 😂

[@jessicam9048]

What’s on the uncut?

[@ashgavs]

@@jessicam9048 its the full hour without any edits (other than time and private information) but yeah, about an hour of this. more of your questions answered.

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

This broke my heart, AGAIN. I so love you both.

[@valpulaski8298]

not a bad job on the make up. it's not super loud. looks natural. I loved this. I'm the same way though as I just don't feel like myself in make up. anyway yeah. this was great content. loved everything about it and yes what you do is important Ashley. we appreciate you.

[@lt8059]

This is so wholesome to watch, thank you so much for sharing that!

[@jordandiaz2590]

I love all the edits in the video! Hilarious 😂

[@gracelarmee]

not this showing up on my recommended after the most recent video and it being so obvious

[@chelsiexplores3021]

Alex, the edits on this are 🤌 *chef's kiss* 🤌 ZOOM ZOOM

[@lezlezzin]

loved loved loved this video, so funny and real and also alex's editing is so funny and intuitive to the comedy of the actual video

[@shainetaylor9344]

Main-main

[@SwtBeat]

Wow this was such an interesting look at your relationship. Idk if I could ever be with someone seriously if they had a relationship like this…I think it would feel like I was filler until the other person was ready to commit. I’ve never been in this situation tho so this is all speculation I’m curious to hear more about serious partners pov in the future

[@ashgavs]

We don’t have serious partners and I’m sure if we did it would affect our friendship and chemistry

[@claireheadrick8856]

This edit is everything and more. Thank you alex

[@hannsolotx8568]

Just discovered Ashley's comedy today. I'm glad yall could remain friends. ✌️

[@starbucksthiholsters]

This is a really sweet video and a great example of open communication and healthy boundaried friendship. Proud of you two for being both realistic and optimistic.

[@lincymoonen228]

Omg i really loved to see Jen on the channel again. Did not expect that at all

[@asselamangeldi2192]

the makeup is actually goood!!!

[@alexia2099]

So this is THE GIRL?!

[@angiekoch5865]

Jen Jen Jen ..please come around sooner rather then later ..you two have such great chemistry! Until then ..let the friendship reign!

[@tatianagranger2427]

Wow. They are so meant to be. Hurry up and play around and then get back together. That’s all y’all need.

[@nmbinder10]

Together and apart yall are so cute. Thank you for this c:

[@rebekahmurray9223]

You guys seem like you have so much chemistry still ☺️

[@Rising_Pho3nix_23]

Ashley has my sense of style and very similar personality and Jen is the kind I'm attracted to. This was an interesting video

[@stephanielastname8271]

great video, thanks for being so open and honest!!

[@Duke00x]

It's her age. That is why she moved on so fast. Young people move on faster after breakups.

[@snowkat7566]

You guys did a really great job of being vulnerable and talking about these things. Being able to talk and joke about such an emotional time if your life without being bitter towards one another or passive aggressive really says alot about the work you have done to stay friends. That's a hard thing to do without falling back into a relationship or it being just toxic. I hope that you will both be able to continue to weather storms and find what your looking for. *side note* Ashley please add Ft. Lauderdale to your tour list. We could use the laughs!

[@sarashea6827]

The editing is AWESOME! I was DYINGGG

[@kimberlydidia39]

Excellent video! I love how mature and honest you both are in your answers and explanations of your feelings. Really great to see it’s possible!