INTJ Strengths and Weaknesses

[@thebowandbullet]

As an INTJ, nothing causes me more anguish than a loved one struggling/suffering with issues that I could solve, but I can't be involved in fixing them. I hate feeling powerless.

[@frankethomas1248]

I am an extreme INTJ, a Five on the ennea­gram, and I definitely agree that when an INTJ offers a critique, it is rarely (if ever) a criticism of the person. It is almost always a criticism of either the *_data_* gathered, or the *_reasoning process_* employed. The person is incidental, and theoretically interchangeable. That doesn't mean they are unimportant; it just means that they are not what is being critiqued.

[@LaMach420]

Yep I can power through almost anything, the struggle lies in the interpersonal. Even when I believe to be doing good, I always manage to make someone feel unwanted or angry despite that not being my intention at all.

[@patriotsports7745]

I just found your channel. I'm not sure if you are still doing these, but I'm a 53 year old INTJ, but I just recently found that out. I've very confused because I'm very confused about the personality type. Thank you for your explication of this topic! I have struggled most of my life, not knowing why, and now I understand completely.

[@alphadevoir6310]

The picture in the background is what life as an intj feels like. Constantly pushing the boulder up hill.

[@INTJIsland]

Back in 2016 when my wife and I had a financial crash and we had to move to a cheaper place, I spent the day loading the U-Haul with my headphones playing the song "Against the Wind" on a loop. It kept my anger going to motivate me to keep moving and to get the job done. From that day on, when something we had to get rid of wasn't available, my wife and I said we "lost it in the fire." But after we moved, we just picked up continued on with our lives. Nothing really mattered, as long as we had each other. But now....

[@cathygunsch7353]

I really enjoyed this video. This video does describes you well. I loved you speaking from your heart.. Love you brother!!

[@PuaroGo]

I can relate a lot to these. For me, combining these weaknesses is recipe for internal disaster. Usually I am over analytical and self analyzing and when I am mixing it up with emotions I get a nasty cocktail if I don't catch myself doing that. For example when I am dating and being in relationship when something goes wrong or when I break up with someone, especially without a closure, I start to analyze all angles of how and why did it happen and trying to pinpoint exact reasons what went wrong, but emotions are not logical and I end up in a frustating loop of self reflection, getting various scenarios in my head of what could had happen, trying to solve it like a math quiz. So usually I have to stop stomping on the "solving a problem" clutch and realise it is what it is and I can't always get a answer, so I let the time to set the mind in peace.

[@INTJIsland]

I think you summarized my Broken Heart video pretty well there. Trying to solve emotions like a math problem is a very painful place to be.

[@alphadevoir6310]

In the past five years I've realized that I can't have expectations for romantic relationships because it could cause me to become obsessed with the idea of being with that person, or put me in the possum effect.

[@First12love]

Thanks for the post. This reminded me of my ex-fiancé that I’m still healing from, it almost feels like a broken record that may never be fixed. I’m just trying to get to a place of reflection, acceptance, and transformation.

[@Lamp-Light_Ministries]

Feels like a breath of fresh air hearing someone like-minded describe how unbelievably particular and irrationally irritated I get at certain things in just about the same way I would! (INTJ-T) I have a fiery passion with restoring things. Love restoring old German cars. Especially older Mercedes-Benz/Audi's. It's fascinating to reverse Engineer and a joy to repair and rebuild. Unfortunately, I have a very particular vision on how I would like the finished product to look like. Perfectionistic, you could say. Which is partly why I do most of the work myself. If I don't have the tools for it and I can't will it into existence I have to take it somewhere. Half the time I feel the work I could have done given the resources is sub-par. But, I realize, getting older the process takes time and like you quoted: "The price of perfection is often prohibitive". So I unfortunately have to deal with that. Fantastic content, by the way! Discovered you a couple years back and have throughly enjoyed much of your content!

[@IkeOg]

Not "connecting" with the emotional side. Yup... and the flip side of this weakness is where most of our strengths reside.

[@the823rd5]

I can relate to all of them.

[@steveunwin830]

So you studied electronics too. That's interesting. I'm up for proof-reading.

[@alphadevoir6310]

I've had a rough go with my stepdad both as child, teenager, & adult because he's too sensitive, can't take any form of criticism, is book smart, but has no common sense. In the last two years I've had two elderly people in my family pass away, but they were my two least favorites on both my mom's side, & fathers. I was criticized for not making condolence phone calls/home visits to their immediate family members. I've noticed that management doesn't like it when I let them know I don't have a specific tool needed to do a job they just want it to get done. I'd love to talk more but my lunchbreak is almost over.

[@INTJIsland]

Thanks for taking some of your lunch break to post a comment! The closest I've come to hitting anyone in years was when some deacon or something from my mom's church tried to comfort me for the loss of my mother's husband, while I was in ICU with my mother, while watching him die. (She once made the mistake of calling him my dad. She only did that once. I only had one dad and he died in 1973 when I was 21 years old, and already a father myself.) I wasn't bereaved and I wasn't sad, except for my mother, because she was unfortunately in love with that man. Then this yahoo put his arm around my shoulder to "help." Don't touch me when I am dealing with an emotional charged situation. Bad call. Fortunately the guy got the message that his "comfort" was not welcome and he backed off. I didn't even know the guy. I was angry. People.

[@alphadevoir6310]

@@INTJIsland huggers freak me out. The guy in the group that's missing a tooth is always the smart ass.