Is “Depression” Really Just An Excuse?

Is “Depression” Really Just An Excuse?
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[@Celwood]

Depression feels like your mind is dieing while your body is fighting to stay alive...

[@cclark5]

Best way of putting it 🤯

[@nufcjoker9057]

So ? It’s a feeling that everyone gets .. doesn’t mean that you should be treated differently.. my brother was « depressed « and my mum lets him do what ever he wanted because she was afraid that he would do something wierd .. so yes it’s a reason but it’s not a valid reason to not work or be kind to other people ..

[@Celwood]

@@nufcjoker9057 A feeling everyone gets...? No, I know people who have claimed to never feel depressed. Also, when did I ever say it was an excuse to be treated differently...? Sounds like you don't understand what it is and maybe you should be a little more worried about your brother instead of thinking he just wants some kind of special treatment!

[@nufcjoker9057]

@@Celwood you couldn’t be more wrong be let’s agree to disagree.

[@leabeauty837]

@@nufcjoker9057I can assure you not everyone has felt like that, that explanation/depression is not just sadness. It’s different. Not everyone claims to have been through this

[@tiffanynicoley]

And CRIPPLING FATIGUE I’ve had severe depression for 15 years and I can’t remember a DAY where I wasn’t exhausted even compared to family members who are way older than me I wish I had the energy to even start to improve my life

[@frankwoods6821]

And countless missed life opportunities as a result.

[@danielgiordani7625]

Trying to explain depression to someone who’s never suffered from it is like trying to explain vision to someone who’s been blind their entire life- nothing I say will ever be able to give that person a clear picture of it. As someone who suffered from severe depression and suicidal ideations for years John did a good job explaining the illness. Extreme pain and suffering, hopelessness, extreme fatigue, anhedonia, social withdraw, viewing the world in a very dark way. These are the things I experienced for many years. It was truly hell on earth

[@danielgiordani7625]

@@nufcjoker9057 you’re an idiot. Depression is a disease not an emotion. Being depressed is an emotion. Clinical depression is a disease. Educate yourself

[@danielgiordani7625]

@@nufcjoker9057 you couldn’t be more wrong. Depression is a disease not an emotion. Educate yourself

[@jannathompson6949]

That's exactly how it feels!!! That illness makes you feel horrendous and it really is impossible to explain how it feels.

[@danielgiordani7625]

@@jannathompson6949 thankfully with lifestyle changes, CBT and medications you can overcome it

[@9liveslisa]

It is very hard for people to understand something if they have never experienced it. I started feeling suicidal at the age of 10. I just wanted to be gone. Lots of childhood trauma. Saw my first shrink at 16 and finally completely cracked up at 25. Found an antidepressant at 25 that really helped. My world went from black and white to color. Now I'm 65 now and I chose to remain on my medication. If it helps, why not. The medication allowed me to have a productive and successful life. I would tell anyone out there with severe depression that if you find a medication that helps, keep taking it. It's better than the alternative. And get some help. Don't go it alone. Find a doctor or psychologist that works a lot with depressed patients and give it time. You won't fix it overnight. And it will recur in some shape or form. Learn the tools to help yourself get through those difficult times. Oh and also cut yourself some slack. Life can be difficult.

[@TW-ps2cr]

I'd be super interested to know the name of the medication that worked for you. I took paroxetine for many years to little effect - but essentially had no alternate options.

[@9liveslisa]

@@TW-ps2cr Imipramine (aka Tofranil) It was originally prescribed to me by my internist because I was getting headaches on the left side of my head. He prescribed 10 mg. A few weeks later I wasn't any better so I told him I was going to see my psychiatrist about it and the internist asked "Why?" And I told him that I just wanted the headaches gone and maybe another doctor could help. My psychiatrist knew my issues well and he told me that 10 mg was not a medically prescribed dose. He increased it to 100 mg per day. And I've been taking it ever since. It really helped. The headaches I was experiencing went away and I felt much better. It was a surprise to both of us. If my doctors now ever wanted me to get off it, I would only do it by seeing a psychiatrist who knows about prescription medication. Good luck with your journey.

[@TW-ps2cr]

@@9liveslisa Thank you so much for responding.

[@suen5006]

"Depression lies to us" so true! And I believed those lies my brain told me. I woke up every day and my first thought was "I hate my life" and I pulled the cover back over my head and didn't get out of bed until 4. I felt nothing. Eventually with trying multiple medications, community involvement, and counseling I found my way back, but I still relapse in to despair at times. It's very real.

[@eric6853]

People don't understand depression and will attack you by calling you lazy and unmotivated. If they only knew... I wouldn't wish it on anybody.

[@StoicJohny]

Actually if you actually forced your self to work out and get in a cold plunge you'd find that feeling dissappear, I'm talking out of experience, so there for my conclusion was that it was lazyness and unmotivation

[@jannathompson6949]

​@@StoicJohny What an uneducated post!!! Depressed people try stuff like that all the time. In true medical depression, it does absolutely nothing, and over time pushing yourself becomes more and more of a burden until you absolutely can't exercise, etc. You're just trying to get out of bed.

[@theworkingmanpodcast]

Some people (not all) do use it as an excuse.

[@lovely1641]

Yes and no. Some people like this young man here, mistook it for sadness because in our lexicon, we are starting to use words in our everyday language that do not have the same weight. I see it everywhere. This video correctly explains though, they are in fact worlds apart.

[@lxrdeknives5412]

If you have real depression It’s a valid excuse. I’ve been through real depression and trust me it is next to impossible to do even the littlest of things like eating, brushing your teeth or showering. And it’s almost like your mind creates a roadblock that prevents you from doing anything or seeking help

[@JLJ8039]

@@lxrdeknives5412 completely agree.....Dr John described it perfectly

[@moonkatmagic5599]

Yes, some people have absolutely no symptoms as long as they can do what they like and say what they like and laugh and hang out with friends with energy and all but when asked to be there or help their partner or the partner calls them out on something mean they did. They have a big tantrum and say I’m depressed. 🤷🏻‍♀️👎🏻

[@thelimey351]

Depression is real, but is it often used by people who are not clinically depressed as an excuse for bad behavior ? All the time...

[@btaywj]

I lost my mom over depression she committed suicide last month 😢

[@lynnebucher6537]

I'm so sorry. Lost my dear stepfather to suicide. It's devastating. Our family survived but there were some sucky years afterward. Please for your sake reach out to friends and family for support. Hugs.

[@jenniferboyd6556]

I am so sorry. I’m sending prayers to you.

[@newt4050]

My condolences, friend.

[@suebarnard1734]

I’m so sorry

[@sophiasmythe6221]

Okay, got to say something about this one after reading a ridiculous comment about depression being looked at as a desirable trait of using it as an excuse or crutch. The ignorance is astounding. I'm glad you watch John Delony, you need to listen, though, doesn't matter how good looking he is. Depression could represent with sadness, but oftentimes as in my case there are times of extreme anger, lows so low you feel as though you will never be happy, a distinct lack of joy for anything, an ambivalence about whether you live or die, NO one would miss me anyway. A degree of loneliness, hopelessness and despair of the likes you could not even imagine. I look at it like a condition that your day to day problems that should be little mole hills but they get bigger each day until you are surrounded by insurmountable mountains. You are lucky if you have the desire to make your feet hit the floor. That's depression. It is definitely real, it can be treated with the right medication for most, therapy for others in conjunction with meds. What you can't do is talk yourself out of it, if you can you are sad NOT depressed. You cannot talk someone else out of it either, especially telling someone "smile, it can't be that bad" because to them it can be and probably worse. Until you walk in someone else's shoes please don't judge someone based on what you think you know and how you would act or behave. I can't believe in this day and age there are still people out there holding onto that stigma that I thought USED to surround mental health. How wrong I was. Be kind and understanding, they should be given freely anyway.

[@lovely1641]

Exactly. Depression basically carries far more weight than sadness but the effect of using the two as if they were the same has a consequence of confusing people as well as other word pairings like this (like being clean and OCD for example) in everyday speech and written language can have confusing outcomes like this for some people.

[@mustangthings]

I see you’ve never been on tumblr.

[@paulstandaert5709]

Yeah I have heard that "just smile!" thing a lot. Blah. It's like telling someone with seasonal allergies to just ignore them. Uh huh. Good luck with that. I believe that I have learned to manage my depression over the decades. It's not gone. I have accepted that depression will always be there. It's different for everyone. I do, however, treat it as myself making excuses.

[@eekaye24]

@@paulstandaert5709 I used to do that, but it just lead to a deeper pit, or a brushing it under the carpet type of thing. It's only when I started calling it what it was that others around me took it seriously too, even myself. Then I was able to research and learn about how sleep, nutrition, exercise, my faith, and exploring the things that bring me joy, along with talk therapy could help.

[@mustangthings]

I think Joshua is referring to people who self-diagnose themselves as depressed (or OCD, or bipolar, or BPD, etc) because they see mental illness as a desirable personality trait.

[@wijcik]

Why would anyone want to be mentally ill?! I hate my depression. It's like trying to run in water.

[@77thNYSV]

@@wijcik you would be surprised. My wife has cousins who like to outdo each other on how suicidal they can be. They are all self- diagnosed and use their "diagnoses" as an excuse for why they don't get what they want.

[@moonkatmagic5599]

Or to get out of doing things they don’t want or feel like doing

[@nickybee7920]

Desirable? I may use different labels as a way to make sense of what I’m experiencing. I wouldn’t put mental illness and soul sucking depression on my worst enemy.

[@nickybee7920]

Unless you live with it, no one has the right to assume they know what you’re going through. It is a real thing and just be glad you haven’t experienced it, you’re the lucky ones. Or your just in denial

[@COINsimp2024]

Many use it as crutch, like your depression has nothing to do with going out of your way to be an a'hole.

[@melanieanderson8357]

Agreed!

[@snail2734]

I have dealt with depression my whole life and Never knew what my problem was - medication is not really helping but my insurance does not cover the better and much more expensive psychiatrists - I’ve been suicidal in my 20s and again much later on in life - Been suicidal the past 6 yrs after my husband died - and was just hospitalized for it - therapists and psychiatrists have treated my condition litely and as result I became increasingly suicidal. And my case mgr at the therapy place I go to - told me out of nowhere “your ONLY JUST a LITTLE SAD” w/out knowing anything about me and w/out knowing I was extremely suicidal - what a sick evil twisted evil cruel thing to say to a mental health patient - I complained about her to the office lady and she defended this cruel woman - arguing that she never had complaints before and ignored me when I told her I was borderline suicidal and that comment was cruel, evil and hurtful.

[@abrahamflores2566]

Depression is real, but so is negative affirmation. If you tell yourself, friends, or family everyday you are dumb, useless, or introverted it will continue to happen but at an accelerated rate thus making actual depression worst. There is a difference between sharing your feelings with people and telling people the negative things you think you are.

[@CloakedC]

Love that you started by explaining its physical and biochemical. That's what really helped me recognise and understand depression in the past. When you see the physical signs, you start to understand that its not just in your head or just your personality/outlook.

[@evelynbecker4916]

I've heard a lot about magic mushrooms, DMT, LSD but can't find a place to get them, I've got terrible depression and anxiety

[@freddonovan2978]

I did two grams last time, it was a thrilling experience and I enjoyed it

[@joachimlunares4871]

(doctor_spores) Got psych's**

[@freddonovan2978]

@@joachimlunares4871 where to search? Is it IG ??

[@joachimlunares4871]

@@freddonovan2978 Yeah, he's got magic mushrooms, LSD, dmt etc

[@evelynbecker4916]

@@joachimlunares4871 alright, I'll reach out to him immediately to get some

[@DaniAlbert]

Doctor John how do you explain when I lived in the 3rd world country for almost 20 years people's life was miserable but everyone was happy because they did not expect much from life and then I moved to United States and I've been here for 15 years. And I see people sad and depressed even though they have the best life compared to those countries ?

[@vv-cv6ud]

Exactly !! If you name it something then you will able to sell it..

[@lovely1641]

The same way you have celebrities who take their own life due to depression. We can't understand why someone with tons of money, fans, opportunity and influence can be hit by depression but....they can.

[@SB-yy3uq]

I was going through a major depressive episode (professionally diagnosed) and my mom told me that depression is nothing but the highest form of self pity. 🙄

[@amit_patel654]

She's wrong. She probably hasn't experienced it. It's not sadness or self pity or something that you can just "snap out of". It's an oppressive force within us that robs us of any joy or energy in life.

[@blessedtobealive]

Sometimes i wonder how you cant be depressed. Like HOW??

[@simonesahlin2160]

Depression is like a broken dream that you cant wake up from.

[@debpearce3786]

Depression is real. It is also a tool used by some to make excuses for their actions.

[@Livelaugh44]

Idk I do agree depression is real however I think it’s very environmental and that’s what triggers the chemicals in the brain, also it can be inherited if family has had a history of depression. But some things in life are meant to be sad and that’s just life. Sadness isn’t depression…yet there are some people that do use this as a crutch and say they are depressed when really they are just sad from a bad situation. I do believe that Jesus cures depression and prayer, that’s what saved me. However our society now focuses on just the “chemical” aspects when really depression I think is at attack on the spiritual level as well which medications cannot help your spirit

[@slCHARACOUNSELING]

It's an interesting perspective. My form is familial and hereditary. It's also environmental. It does affect everything. But there is help. Please don't give up. It's a liar and wants you to believe things will never get better. Don't give up.

[@christys.3912]

I have tried to seek help for it but all anyone wants you to do if you're depressed or anxiety ridden they just want you to take a medicine to cover up the symptoms. So in my point of view what's the point of seeking help.

[@elainecoyle2704]

Dr. John is right about sadness vs. depression. 2 different things.. im depressed, its a horrible painful thing.

[@thecommonsensecapricorn]

i’m conflicted on this. because you can’t just live with depression forever, i do believe you can make a concerted effort to get out of it… you have to… if you want happiness. just like i overcame severe OCD that went on from childhood to high school (i have zero ocd anymore at 24) i believe you can overcome most mental health issues by retraining your brain and making a consistent effort to change your thought patterns / reactions / etc.. it’s hard, hard work… but it’s necessary. I have been through some thick depressions, one was 5 or so years ago when my alcoholic dad still lived in the house (though my mom and him have been separated for 10 years) and they were constantly fighting, he was fucked up and acting crazy a lot of the time… my older sister and her bum boyfriend lived at the house too, my sister physically and verbally abuses me… so yeah you could say there were a lot of reasons to be depressed. I developed anorexia on top of the depression. Then i moved to New Orleans to “find myself”, got rid of my smart phone, and i did heal deeply. Overcame my depression at that time. But i’ve still gone through bouts. i just do my best to keep moving and find the reasons to be happy… find the things that get my spirit high. and being active is one of those things for me. i force myself to go out and skate even if i don’t want to.

[@eekaye24]

Your story is wonderful and inspirational, but please know that it's "your" story and every individual will be different, mainly because depression is layered, and each layer or case is different in each individual. You were young when you overcame yours, but many people don't even know they're depressed, until they have a mental breakdown and are then diagnosed. Others confuse it with grief, or a job loss, breakup, or some other major life situation, when in fact they're suffering from chronic depression, and as a result, and length of time,, their body is changing chemically. When that happens, just saying take a walk, or take a shower, or go see a movie, or do something fun, is very difficult for a person who's chemical makeup is distorted. Do you need medication? For some yes, but for others counseling and yes an exercise plan along with a balanced diet could greatly improve their overall mental health. But, they will need some type of assistance to do that, because for many their life has already changed and what are normal everyday things for some are very difficult or impossible in their mind. Their main focus is usually just the basics, if they can even do that. So bravo to you. Maybe consider writing an Amazon book on what helped you. This may be part of your purpose, to now help others. Thank you for sharing your journey.

[@dawnr6381]

I’m glad you where able to overcome OCD and depression not everyone can. My husband’s cousin has really bad OCD she’s had to be hospitalized for it at time. Please always show compassion to people not as fortunate as you.

[@thecommonsensecapricorn]

@@dawnr6381 so why do you believe i could heal it and your husband "can't"? honestly wondering, what would make him different than i? you know nothing about me.

[@thecommonsensecapricorn]

@@lovely1641 yeah idk. i've definitely been in depressions, but i always come out of them, they're just phases to me. i suppose for other people it takes on a different form and they don't find that relief. i have pretty strong (unpopular) opinions about mental health though, and i do believe it always comes back to what we're eating and the environments we're living in. our modern society doesn't compliment our needs for sunlight, rest, clean & fresh drinking water, clean & fresh air, etc... But i have dreams of one day having my own commune where people can come to heal their mental illnesses in a place that honors all the above.

[@dawnr6381]

@@thecommonsensecapricorn It’s not my husband that has OCD it’s his cousin. The causes of OCD are unknown, but the risk factors include:Genetics,Brain Structure and Functioning, and Environment. I think it’s probably what caused yours is different than what caused hers.

[@ponyhaly6131]

Yeah, I’ve experienced depression and anxiety (professionally diagnosed) for 3 years. I’ve heard people saying “just being positive” thankssss

[@paulstandaert5709]

Yeah, I really hate that, "just think positive!" mentality. It's kinda like coming home to find a pile of steaming dog poo on the living room rug and putting strawberries and whipped cream on it to make it all better. It doesn't change the fact that it is still a steaming pile of dog poo. Maybe it works for some people, but definitely not me.

[@jimpalace4367]

I understand Joshua's point of view. It's tough to understand what it is when you've never experienced it.

[@uncle_creepy2743]

Chicken or egg... symptoms randomly grouped together equal a disease?? Hmmmmm... not sure.❤

[@lynnebucher6537]

I'm mostly a happy person but am certain I went through a depression spell when I was going through a divorce. Felt dead inside. No joy. No sleep. Couldn't function. Thankfully I got past it.

[@eekaye24]

Quite possibly. A divorce is life changing event and could definitely bring on situational depression. Glad you're feeling better.

[@eekaye24]

@@lovely1641 Possibly, but if the separation was unexpected, just like a death, it could cause depression. Maybe not long term, but in a person with childhood trauma/pain or past relationship issues, it could linger more.

[@s1n4m1n]

It’s pretty much irrelevant from a practical matter. People with depression have the exact same behaviors as emotional abusers. Go to any video about living with a spouse with depression and you’ll swear you are watching a video on how to live with an abusive partner.

[@StoicJohny]

Dana White Voice: whats this depression shet everyone keeps bishing about?! 😂

[@ascheuring1]

My guess is Joshua is about 15 years old and has every hormone known to man coursing thru his veins he will know better in about a decade

[@rz6549]

Some women use Depression as an excuse when they caught cheating 😂😂😂

[@Clueless2019]

THANK YOU, John!👍🏻

[@Alex.Rivers]

I have had anxiety and depression since I was younger than can I remember. Thank you for explaining it so well! I do think panic attacks can contribute to death though, once I was so convinced my friends hated me I ran out away from them- into a road going the wrong way for 2 miles until I collapsed from lack of oxygen , woke up in the ER. 😬 That was years ago, much better managed now. Sleep is a huge factor!

[@DavidPavlovich2]

Depression is your being telling you that you are not not living up to your potential

[@atomicgeisha]

depression is anger turned inwards

[@Tamolwv]

I've had a pastor tell me to stop having a pity party.

[@paulstandaert5709]

As someone currently dealing with "depression", I can say a few things about it that may or may not be the same for others. For me, what it mostly does is prevent me from doing stuff. I know that life isn't particularly bad. I know that everything could be worse. I know that I will be dead eventually anyway. None of my lack of motivation or desires to move on and be productive makes *any* logical sense. But there is this darn mental block which just gets in the darn way and causes me to want life to just go away. Certain things trigger it. It is an incredibly stupid mode of thinking, but it is there and it controls a person. It's almost like explaining how seasonal allergies work to people who don't have any. Can you over power it? Yeah, but it's still miserable.

[@eekaye24]

I believe this is what's it's like for many people, and what causes depression to progress is how you feel after letting life pass you by. It's such an odd feeling to wake up one day and realize that months or even years have passed and you have little or nothing to show for it.

[@Black_Jesus3005]

Great video Doc. Thanks

[@truthbetold6942]

Omg! You nailed it! Thank you.

[@BlackfeatherAlexander]

You are the spitting image of Patrick Norton during his younger days! WOAH!

[@amit_patel654]

It's one of those things that you can't comment on unless you've experienced it first hand. It feels like 100 lbs strapped to your head 24/7 that just wears you down constantly. Now imagine that while you still have to tackle life's challenges, work, etc.

[@michaelshannon9169]

I always love(and despair) when I hear ppl who never had mental illness talk about depression. It's like Hollywood stars attempting to talk about life as experienced by regular ppl, you cringe, you roll your eyes and realise that Hollywood stars are so removed from the the real world that they come off so tone deaf.

[@alankates2866]

Just to share. I have been dealing with this among other symptoms related. Have been most of my adult life. I can related to someone not understanding nor accepting what depression is. What it can do to you. This condition can result from various events, life issues. We are truly misunderstood people. Yet I will agree on some observations. That there are those who cop out medical condition labels. As suggested from this viewer. Unless you have been there you really firsthand can not relate.

[@GlassJack]

Depression is something that you can't explain, it has to be felt to truly understand. The most important thing he said is to not get into the habit of diagnosing people. It's easier and better to lend an ear or give a hug.

[@JJJJ-he8bz]

Depression is an unstoppable opponent. If it gets bad enough it can adapt to everything.

[@Mansini77]

Tony Soprano used depression as an excuse of his repugnance.

[@lynnF-pj1iv]

it is real i had people tell me get over it and move on i am sick have to explain it

[@ChadZeluff]

What is it about the DSM that Dr John doesn’t agree with?

[@seaportsthename]

i just got written up by the top supervisors for calling off “too much” (which was once a month) because of my constant battle with depression/chronic fatigue. some days are just… too much for me. there are days i have just sat in the bathtub and cried silently. i would be hurting so bad and have no explanation. for the most part, alot of my problems are physical. lethargic, no energy, can’t focus, etc. i try very hard to push through it. i’ve also been through therapy several times, which only helps so much. i’m scared to try medication, not just because of the side effects but also because i’m scared of not having insurance at some point and not being able to get it. so, now my job is at risk because even though i’ve been praised dozens of times, even by other department heads, of how good i am at my job (also have never left them with no one to cover)… they won’t accept depression/chronic fatigue as a valid excuse to miss a day here and there even if i had a doctor’s note for it. my direct manager even apologized for having to write me up, because she doesn’t want to lose me as an employee and knows it’s a no win situation.

[@irina383]

In my experience there’s no ‘magic pill’. Medication makes it more manageable but doesn’t completely get rid of it. And when I stopped medication abruptly I didn’t have any adverse effects, so I wouldn’t really worry about that plus right now there’s alternative ways of getting appointments with doctors via video calls, it’s way cheaper. I believe plush care is one of them, it’s much cheaper if you don’t have insurance and you don’t have to have appointment every month. They will schedule first 2 months to observe if you have any side effects and then prescribe you meds for 3 months. And good rx membership will allow you to purchase meds for 10-15$ a bottle without insurance. Also I would strongly encourage you to take supplements-multivitamin and b vitams-directly impacts your energy levels but most importantly adaptogens such as rhodiola or ashwaganda, they help your brain activity, help focusing on the task, clear mental fog and adopt body to stress. You gonna love it. I also keep myself on lazy keto, because carbs impact our insulin levels. It first rises and then crashes making us tired. There was a period in my life when I had to take a nap after every meal-not any longer. Keto diet will keep your insulin level even so there’s not going to be significant energy crash, I also didn’t get hungry on keto, you just feel tired and that’s your que to eat something. I was also 45 pounds overweight when I was most fatigued, after keto and increased exercise I lost 25 pounds and have another 20 to go, but I’m feeling way better and less fatigued-well only 10 days before my menstrual it’s pretty much a constant because I have pmdd.

[@seaportsthename]

@@irina383 thank you for that advice. I will try it :)

[@Trapper4265]

That said, I've had a couple of friends who suffered with depression. I was extremely sympathetic, and I also asked what things are you doing to manage it. I.E. professional counseling, focusing on personal interests, hobbies, exercise etc. The answers was always "nothing." That's when I put the responsibility back on them. They were looking for their friends to make them happy by posting how depressed they are on Facebook. I've even gone through a list of possible things they could do to occupy their free time. No mater what I suggested, the answer was always followed by an excuse. That's when I backed off. Other then just being there, I did not know what else to do for them.

[@irina383]

You are not a fixer. Nobody can ‘fix’ people like a problem. The best you can do is just being present in the conversation, listen more then talk, give them body contact, like hugs or hold their hand, give them sufficient eye contact and give them a reality check-drag them to a therapist if you can. Depression is a monster that sometimes won’t go away unless treated with the right medicine. Sometimes it’s just chemical or hormonal imbalance that causes it

[@eekaye24]

You had good intentions, and that's very commendable. However, depression isn't like boredom where a person just needs something to do. Trust me, because I'm a very social person, but many times we'll keep busy to avoid depression, but it's like grief, it will catch up to you at some point, mainly due to whatever is the root cause of it in the first place. It's usually something, or series of things that were never properly dealt with or processed. The best thing for your friend, is talkin. If you're patient, just let them talk about there pain, or anger, loss, shame, grief, getting fired, loneliness due to a move, etc. All those and more could've caused it, even something that occurred years ago, but was brushed under the carpet so that they could focus on work, school, family, etc. And ultimately they need a counselor who has some experience with depression. Many churches have low cost or free services, as well as places in the community that may be free or have payment plans.

[@Trapper4265]

@@eekaye24 Correct! My point is it's their responsibility to figure out or brainstorm possible avenues to take. I was just being proactive in moving in a positive direction. Beyond that, I can help them, except just being supportive.

[@sarahsavesit]

The Huberman Lab podcast is probably the single greatest thing on the Internet.

[@danielgiordani7625]

Robert sapolskys is better

[@TimothyCow]

Depression is like love if you don’t believe in it it won’t happen

[@janelleg597]

People throw the word depression around A LOT. It's a good question

[@priusa8113]

Dr delony can you please do a full episode on binge eating disorder?! I truly appreciate you approaching this subject. Thanks

[@tucky3191]

Thank you John

[@GR-uc1gq]

Yes Andrew Tate said so

[@JamesSimmons]

Joshua is very right on this. "Depression" that 90% of women seem to suffer from these days is absolutely a crutch and victim card so no one calls them out on their toxicity.

[@sandialoser]

“Do you have a depressing life?” I think answering that question first goes a long way in understanding and dealing with depression.

[@mckennareynolds4582]

Thank you so much Dr. Delony. Can you please add a link to the podcast you talked about? I don’t think I’m getting the spelling right to be able to find it

[@Nah-ah]

Depression, to me, I’ve described it to feel like a “hollowness, bottomless, pit” like a very dark, sickly void that expands and is more pronounced and noticeable when you have a bad day. When you have a good day, it’s somewhat ok but never the less, that hollow pit is just below the surface. I haven’t felt that in a very long time and I’m grateful. My thoughts go out to those going through a tough time and wish you the best on your journey of healing ❤️‍🩹❤️❤️