Is "Happiest Season" good? // Ask Your Lesbian Moms // Vlogmas 2020 Episode 7

[@kobaltkween]

Aubrey Plaza actually said outright that her goal was to make people feel like her character should have ended up with Kirsten Stewart's.

[@randomalex5119]

She did a good job xD

[@isabelhoch3713]

That’s why we stan Aubrey lmao

[@blake_ilan]

She fucking succeeded lol

[@blake_ilan]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/pKGnlYiVjL6kf8U

[@alliem8700]

100% they should have gotten together

[@ezrazhang7541]

Whether you liked Happiest Season or not, we can all agree Aubrey Plaza and Kstew can pull off a blazer better than anyone else.

[@kamishy_Art]

Yeah...

[@randomalex5119]

For sure bro

[@moonnn2803]

YES

[@ingridschmitt4391]

That moment where aubrey's character appears for the first time... dead

[@lineapinea]

they sure could pull of MY blazer...... if u know what i mean ;;;)))))))

[@silverwolf28]

I forgot Claudia was a dentist for a second and was so confused when that dentist question came up

[@mm-zm8ys]

I forgot that too, but i thought about the" ask your lesbian parents "and it made sense. Like getting support from your parents.

[@laurelbs]

they actually have a lesbian christmas movie where the story is not centered on coming out and is just a happy romcom. the name of the movie is “season of love” I think you will like it

[@randomalex5119]

Thx for the info!

[@haydenbrice7317]

Thank you! I'm going to check this out

[@MayuraVyamsaka]

I'm not able to find a film with this name, it just sends me to some straight shit on Wikipedia - do you mind please linking me to the Wiki page? Thank you!

[@Andreaalvarcila]

@@MayuraVyamsaka www.imdb.com/title/tt9887520/

[@MayuraVyamsaka]

@@Andreaalvarcila BLESS YOU! For some reason this film doesn't have a Wiki page or much presence on the internet? Either that or Google is being homophobic.

[@manda.watching.YouTube]

Claudia laughing hysterically at her own joke before she’s told it is everything 😹

[@AVintageishLife]

haha agreed!

[@VaninaVlogs]

Now rewatching this after seeing their baby announcement and being aware that Claudia was going from hysterical laughter to hysterical tears. The feeeels.

[@RissaLikeLisa]

As a person with EDS whose jaw HAS dislocated in a situation like that, it is horrifying for your partner to think that they have hurt you, so warning them is good so they can kind of expect it might happen.

[@pattheplanter]

Or keep a laminated card with a full explanation of what is wrong near to hand.

[@pins3and3needles]

Particularly because you can't talk well then! Of all the things to dislocate, that's a really hard one to communicate about lol

[@kathleenanne7868]

I deleted the comment I made earlier. Just talk with your jaw dislocated, saying; “My jaw just dislocated!” Then pop it in again and have a laugh...

[@lilytanner4018]

This may or may not have been my question and ALL of these answers are EXCELLENT haha

[@francescalittle4414]

Claudia: “It had a happy ending, no one DIED! “🤣😂

[@BlackCat-hn9hs]

Ah when a happy ending is no one dying

[@alexandertimms0.166]

The bar be real low

[@Rin_Morris]

Watching this with the knowledge I now have about why she was actually hysterically crying is a little bit amazing. You guys hid it so well and I wish you the best of luck this year.

[@youngandretro5137]

"yo, I'm disabled and i can't do everything" Jessica saying yo is my favorite thing

[@BlackCat-hn9hs]

Ikr

[@KindCountsDeb3773]

she's so urban, lol.

[@lindsaywilkinson3682]

Just a quick tip with giving limits to people, I find saying " I can't manage both things, would you prefer i did A or B" hours down better than saying directly no on something

[@marrinf332]

About the dentist and phobia: exposure therapy isn’t quite that brutal. You would first just talk with someone what it feels like to go to the dentist, have the person explain the process and continue to share your feelings. In the era of Covid this might be more difficult. But you could join someone while THEY are at the dentist and just observe them. Practice driving to the dentist office and then going home. When you’re ready to make an appointment do what is shown in the video. Also ask the dentist to explain what they’re going to do before they do it. Since you probably can’t have someone in the room with you because covid, ask someone if they’re willing to drive you there and pick you up. I am very afraid of the dentist. Like, I get tattoos and piercings, and one time an brain MRI, by myself. But I still need my mom or boyfriend to come to the dentist with me.

[@pattheplanter]

Just to emphasise, the person with the phobia is always in control of the situation and knows they are in control.

[@NoelleMar]

@@pattheplanter ok that last part means a lot. It’s also important in general with medical care even though... seems it doesn’t happen much. -_- This is kind of a tangent, but I feel like if a person is stressed due to feeling out of control, whatever treatment is deemed best, will not work as well as it should or even as well as another supposedly lesser treatment might. I’m not promoting quackery or anything like that, just saying that it is physically and mentally beneficial for any patient to feel at least somewhat in control of their treatment.

[@NoelleMar]

@@helenhenninger835 (agreed)

[@pattheplanter]

@@NoelleMar People who are happy and well-fed do generally heal faster. Strange that food and happiness are low priorities in many hospitals.

[@lionrence]

I had to explain this to someone today, who didn't see a problem with posting pictures are a spider on a Facebook group, she was all like it's irrational! Desensitize yourself! It's just not that simple.

[@littlestpineapple2898]

Hard agree with Jessica's take on the Happiest Season. My brother legit thought that Abby (Kristen Stewart) were going to get together with Riley (Aubrey Plaza) because Abby's original girlfriend was so distant and uncaring the whole time that he assumed it was the "mediocre partner" trope from a rom com. Harper just never cared about Abby *at all* and then we were supposed to be excited that they're still together at the end?? I think that conversations about still being closeted are super important but that also this was a terrible example. There are so many reasons that people stay closeted and Harper just didn't seem to have compelling ones? She wasn't financially dependent on her family (nor were they dependent on her) and she seemed pretty estranged from them anyway because they were cold and distant. Plus they accepted her within ten minutes of her coming out, which made a lot of her concerns seem less reasonable. If she'd been nineteen coming home with her first college girlfriend I would have understood, but she was at least mid twenties and it seemed weird that she would drag her poor girlfriend up to see her low key abusive family for almost a week without warning her first. All of this is made worse bc all the other queer characters had way more complicated relationships with coming out & their families? One had been really painfully outed, one had been kicked out of his house as a teenager, and Kristen Stewart's family was literally dead, but we were supposed to sympathize with Harper whose ultra wealthy family said like two whole insensitive things before apologizing for ever making her bad about being gay?

[@AC8X]

People's personal experiences are very different; it's not a binary where someone's either loved and accepted or rejected and kicked out. There are plenty of people whose families are very close despite being competitive and not emotionally effusive. There are loads of parents who do deeply love their children and want the best for them but who will struggle with accepting their child being LGBT+. It's not because they're homophobic per se but because being different does come with hardships, and they don't want their child to have a hard life. Those are parents whose love and pride tends to be strongly tied to their kids' achievements and successes. Those kids end up fighting really hard to maintain an image of perfection, and that means heteronormativity. It makes perfect sense to me why someone like Harper would stay closeted into her twenties.

[@jpm5042]

I agreed with the first paragraph, but I don’t agree that someone needs “compelling” reasons to stay in the closet. Even if you know 100% your family will accept you and have a good reaction, it can still be scary and something you struggle with within yourself. I disliked Harper because she was actively terrible to basically everyone, especially Abby, but her frantic need to stay in the closet isn’t a fair thing to demonize her for.

[@littlestpineapple2898]

Yeah, reading it back I don’t love the way the second paragraph comes across. I think I meant “compelling” in the sense of being a compelling character, rather than in the sense of her reasons for being closeted. (for context, I’m in my mid-20s, closeted to large portions of my family for the foreseeable future, and was thinking in part about representation lens) There are two things happening in this movie that are deeply entwined: one is Harper still being closeted & the other is Harper dragging Abby up to Christmas with her family. Harper’s treatment of Abby is pretty unforgivable. She lies to Abby, guilts her into going to stay with her family for A WEEK, doesn’t even insist that Abby be allowed to stay in a room with a lock, and then abandons her to hang out with her ex. And that’s really what the movie is *about* because Abby is our protagonist. If the movie was about still being closeted, it should have been a story centered around Harper. With Abby as the protagonist, Happiest Season becomes a movie about the importance of accepting that your girlfriend isn’t out. All of the marketing I’ve seen says that very explicitly and there’s a scene where David Levy’s character tells Abby as much. Except she shouldn’t. Harper treats Abby terribly & we are shown no reason to suggest why Abby should stick around. All of this is exacerbated by the fact that Abby doesn’t like Christmas because her family is dead & so the holiday makes her sad, which is literally treated like a joke throughout the film. Abby’s emotional stakes are undoubtedly higher and dismissed by both her girlfriend and the structure of the movie itself. The moral then becomes: you must accept your closeted partner basically no matter what or you suck. This is a terrible moral. It’s absolutely true that that no one should be forced to come out, but it’s also true that no one is obligated to date someone who’s closeted, particularly when they’re asked to lie about their own sexuality like Abby is. Harper is petty, and childish, and cruel and to have her held up as relatable representation sucks. Closeted folks deserve better and the Abbys of the world deserve not to be guilted into dating the Harpers.

[@mel_zzz_]

You explained very well everything!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽.

[@jolenecochran]

@@littlestpineapple2898 One hundred percent agree with this--I haven't thought about it this way and it makes wayyy more sense. I think Harper's struggle is a compelling storyline as a main character, but viewing her through Abby's eyes it becomes very difficult to root for her.

[@dsum6377]

I couldn't possibly cheer for Harper and her family after feeling they weren't good humans. We saw Harper's pattern of horridness with exes and then all of the family behavior and somehow we were supposed to root for the relationship. UGH I would have rooted for therapy and lots of it.

[@caspian8650]

Sooooooooooooooooooo *takes breath* ooooooooooo tired of coming out narratives. We do other things, Hollywood! Coming out is not the end or the highest arc of our stories!

[@generic6552]

same! i came out many years ago and i haven't really been arsed about my sexuality since then, there's so much more to my relationships and stories than that :)

[@maitesoto1953]

Yes! Why can't we get a classic romcom about people finding each other and being in love but where the couple is same sex? Why can't we get gay The Holiday?

[@cleverfeather777]

@@maitesoto1953 I would DIEEEEE to see gay The Holiday.

[@alliem8700]

Maybe it's because my "coming out" was a complete non-issue, but I totally agree, I'm very tired of coming out stories.

[@Lisa_Flowers]

@@alliem8700 I think stories about LGBTQ people being in the closet are still important, because for a large majority of us especially globally, coming out at all, let alone coming out being a 'non-issue', is not at all the norm. I certainly wouldn't want being out to treated as the taken for granted norm because i'm not sure i'll ever be out, and I am in the majority. But, yeah, it would be nice to see other narratives, diversity is important.

[@rayne333]

“I came out exactly at the right time for me.” That really got me 🥺 ❤️ thanks claud!

[@Thatsmrladytoyou]

"Kristen Stewart is miniature!" *looks up her height= 5'5"* *I'm 5'3" 🙃💀*

[@randomalex5119]

I'm 5'6'' MWAHAHAHA

[@emmacarter6033]

I'm 5'0". People who are 5'5" are tall to me.

[@pollyflores418]

I’m 5’0 🥺 But I do come from a short country so...

[@randomalex5119]

@@pollyflores418 what country?

[@Noel.Chmielowiec]

5'3" gang 😊 but I feel tiny when I'm around people, sometimes they don't see me 😔

[@pinkmountains]

Carol! a somewhat holiday film. Christmas is the courtship instigator lol

[@joysfulljourney]

Carol is THE lesbian Christmas movie, you're so right!!!

[@teeandessing12]

Love that film!

[@pinkmountains]

i blanked on how much Christmas was involved in the movie, yes it is indeed THE lesbian holiday film! I also remembered Carol is the reason for the meme "Harold, they're lesbians" 😂

[@mollyd6647]

my fave Christmas film!!!!!!

[@karoinvintage]

I watch Carol every December and it's one of my faves!! And one of the most beautiful movies in my opinion.

[@dolphin325]

There’s “Season of Love” starring Jessica Clark(A Perfect Ending) & Dominique Provost-Chalkley(Wynonna Earp), “A New York Christmas Wedding” and “City of Trees”.

[@Noa......]

I watched them. I still happiest season was better.

[@Bea_Cannelloni]

Claudia's laughter in this video was everything tbh. It was so cute. Don't feel bad for sharing Claudia, that was so relateable.

[@sarahkoebler7428]

I want to share my experience as a mom of a "girly" boy. My Bo is going to be 7 very soon, he is now in first grade. He is obsessed with dresses and heels, he wants everything to be sparkly and beautiful. He is my little fairy princess. I can tell you that the first time he got to pick his own sparkly clothes, he was over the moon. When he got to pick out his first dress, he radiated joy. He exploded with this energy of awe and..... Rightness. It gives me goosebumps. I am forever grateful and incredibly lucky to have a very good teacher for his kindergarten year. She holds a masters in education and has close connections with child advocates who specialize in LGBT+, at risk youth. They would attend and speak at seminars to promote equality, support skills, and how to foster an inclusive environment. I understand that this is something I am blessed to have access to. I'd like to share some things I found helpful. Find as many people, other parents if possible, as you can to set up inclusive support. Not only will the child feel validated by other adults and people of authority, those adults are likely raising inclusive and empathetic children. Even if it is only one, it can build their sense of authentic self, and that is the biggest shield against bullying and suicidal ideation. Speak with the school and set up a safety net there. Again, even if it is one single teacher, one loving and tolerant space that can create a safe haven to exist authentically. Something that I have personally experienced is that as he is given more and more space to safely be his genuine self, the more people see that this isn't some weird affliction that is wrong or needs to be fixed. This is just him being happy and inclusive and "normal". The young kids have an easier time excepting things at face value, and when that is all they know of No, they don't think twice about it in many cases. "That's just Bo being Bo." Of course you still need to be present and understand that there will be kids that will cause problems. But those are easier to cope with when there is support.

[@Polyglotjem]

Watching this just after the pregnancy announcement and I can deffo see Claudia’s little bump 😍

[@ajsunsetgirl18]

Claudia laughing like that genuinely made my day better. Thanks for leaving it in!

[@EmpiresPrince13]

Me looking at Jessica’s outfit in this video: I am looking 👀 respectfully 😌

[@peacechickification]

Right? She keeps reaffirming how not straight I am, so that’s a fun addition to her already great videos! 😂

[@beanbagonfire]

Skdhdakjdn saame 👀💀

[@alexxhristova]

I'm straight, but that cleavage is everything 😂

[@alexb4185]

Why did u feel the need to comment this? Gross

[@peacechickification]

@@alexb4185 because we're appreciating the way that she's presenting herself? everyone's been respectful in my opinon, why do you think it's gross?

[@pace2386]

Please adopt me.. I'm tired of being misgender and being forced to like men.. i don't want to stay in my home anymore. my mental health is getting worst. Jessica and Claudia seem like good parents and are really supportive. I love them so much.

[@Divya-ry1uu]

I look forward to you guys reviewing Prom. It's supposed to be about a teenager who wants to go to prom with her girlfriend but who's school doesn't allow it so broadway stars put pressure on the school to allow them the prom experience

[@wolfsmadchenfrieda7369]

I absolutely loved that film and cried like a baby when she started to sing unruly heart 😍😂

[@billy101cat]

The cutest, loveliest couple. Also so relatable to laugh hard at your own joke before telling it!

[@oubigene2466]

to the person with the dentist phobia: seconding seeking out a dentist who works with people w/ phobias specifically,! i couldn't go to a dentist from ages 7-16 because of Childhood Events, but the dentist i started seeing in my late teens specialised with kids & people with phobias & it really, really helped

[@pollyflores418]

I really liked Happiest Season but I really wish we had more movies not about coming out and I feel like people those are made more because it is a time where cishet people feel like they have power over us

[@preciousgem5458]

this!!! but more won't be made unless we support those lesser-known ones that have already been created, It does take some work to find them though!

[@randomalex5119]

Yes!!

[@martha-hy7vq]

EXACTLY

[@randomalex5119]

@Max Tang yes! This is one of the reasons I don't watch many Lgbtq+ movies.

[@emyoswald]

I liked it a lot and I cried real hard at John’s monologue. Also the weirdbad family dynamic was relatable af

[@alexandramaclachlan7597]

That entire beans laughing fit was so real, thankyou for keeping that in xD

[@DragonBloodShepherd]

You look ADORABLE together! You complete each other so well, it melts my heart. It's always such a pleasure to watch you!

[@certifiedmenace6941]

Hi! I just have a cute story to tell. So, i went to my best friends birthday party last year, and her party was sea creature themed. There were four people at the party including her, so on her cake there were four sea creature family's make up of small toys. Each family of toys had a girl, a boy, and two female children, all turtles. Except for one, which was made up of two women, and two girl children, that were whales. I asked my friend why one family was different, and she said because " I told my mom to make your family with two Lesbian moms, because, your Lesbian and i thought you'd like it better that way." I tell you, i almost cried because i wasn't even fully out yet, and she was already embracing me as who i am. Still one of the sweetest things anyone has ever done for me.

[@kitbracadabra]

That's incredibly cute omg

[@abbydoodles6902]

What I want for a gay Christmas movie is one that isn’t focused around the fact that the person isn’t straight, like the Christmas Prince but gay💙💙💙💙💙

[@serenaj1821]

Young’n’s In Our Rainbow Family should be put on a t-shirt

[@sunnybugz]

The last question was from me !! This was actually so helpful. These videos make me feel so safe, as someone with a less-than-amazing (if I'm putting it delicately) family. You two are so wonderful !!

[@nerdyfangirl1]

The jaw thing actually happened to me once. My partner was on top and they were heavier than me. I popped it back in and finished the job and I'm still proud of that

[@eruis3139]

I think your ‘real’ family IS the one you choose, the one s who love, respect and care about you. ❤️💞💕

[@anikacredico1897]

I actually really liked this movie, what I've been hearing is that "we needed a coming out holiday film before Hollywood could move beyond that", which I understand, although it wasn't the happiest film I'd seen, but it was a good movie. I did love the fact that it had Kristen Stewart, whom I think every lesbian has had a crush on.

[@BattyButtercup]

re: Holiday Fatigue, having your family (chosen & otherwise) AWARE of your issues REALLY helps? i spent a few Xmases in a row fleeing to the car to have panic attacks or dissociate, followed by passing out - then, through some communication between my parents & extended family i hadn't really thought of, one Xmas i was surprised by how much support and understanding i received. i'm in the southern hemisphere and summer is the WORST time of year for me: i dehydrate incredibly quickly, with several chronic illnesses escalating in the heat, and, to top it off, i have a severe phobia of flies & struggle massively with eating if i know they're around. given that summer christmases are almost always "outdoor" occasions, i often found myself not eating at all. having safe spaces (cars, rooms set aside for you, perhaps just finding the nearest pet & sticking by them outside) REALLY helps. open communication really, genuinely helps. for me, it also lead to my feeling less isolated and distant from my extended family, when i'd felt so dreadfully an alien among them previously. in this instance, i'm hugely grateful to my parents for bringing the subject of my health up without my requesting it. i HAVE instructed them not to share it with others without my permission since then but, in THIS example, it was immensely helpful. good luck this holidays and remember to stay hydrated!

[@moonnn2803]

i think if we had more insight into abby and harper's relationship other than that little intro the ending would be more accepted(?) because the audience would feel more connected to that relationship

[@theweatherwitch2492]

I came out to my parents by slipping a letter under their door. They were completely fine with it, but they are the type of people to accidentally lecture you when you tell them something, and I just didn't want to deal with that. Also, it gives them time to process it by themselves, and then talk to you when they are calmer. Great suggestion Claudia.

[@michelleswanson6347]

I laughed so hard at the beans part😂! That's totally how my partner and I are!

[@shoshanapatocka216]

Everyone thinks she should have ended up with Riley. 😉❤️🤣

[@icenightdado3826]

you two are simply heartwarming! so kind and loving! tbh your vlogmas videos are the only thing that puts me in a christmas mood besides seeing all the lights on the windows when I'm out for a walk

[@DassMorris]

The movie (Happiest Season) I think is more of a movie about someone having a dysfunctional family, and begging to come to terms with that and grows beyond it.

[@dragoniraflameblade]

Agree, I replied to the wrong comment

[@DassMorris]

@@kristinemichelle8100 exactly! If she was at the point of about to propose, then clearly there's a significant background that we just didn't have.

[@AvoryFaucette]

Ha I love the mental image of Jessica trying to set a sexy mood and Claudia being like "feeling a bit farty today!" #oldmarriedcouplewin

[@evmcindoo2285]

ikrrrrr

[@kathleenbrashier2579]

On my God, the beans killed me! Hahahahaha! Thanks for that laugh, ladies. :D :D

[@tf7602]

About being scared of the dentist (I'm not, but I've had many dentists *sigh* ), having a dentist that knows how to deal with patients that are afraid could really help (for when you're actually there). Also letting the staff know in advance, maybe they can make stuff more comfortable (e.g. waiting outside the office where you can't hear the drill noise, I dunno). I feel that not hearing the drilling helps, so I have some 2013 dubstep mixes on my phone and the *scrrrrrrscsprshsc* of that really does well in masking the drill sounds, but it's also the opposite of relaxing... so your mileage may vary :) My former dentist had special training for people that are scared of the dentist. What I noticed was, that he narrated everything he did, not graphically, but like "ok, now there is a bit of cleaning up to do here" or "almost done, there is only a little bit left and then we do the filling". So that I'd always know what step we're on, what's happening in my mouth that I can't see, how much longer it might take etc. I def noticed that the way he talked and did stuff was really casual and anxiety reducing, the best dentist I'd ever had.

[@XSemperIdem5]

I finally found a good dentist a few years ago after basically a lifetime of bad experiences with other ones who even acted very dismissive, argumentative, and only increased by stress level. My current one has a waiting room that looks more like a living room at a house than a generic waiting room; he even has a Keurig with some coffee and tea. They don't overbook people so you're not waiting in a crowded area. I did let them know about my past bad experiences. You can listen to music on your earbuds if you want or he always has music playing. You're offered a blanket so you don't get cold or let's face it, a balnket provides comfort too. He is repeatedly checking in to ask if I'm ok during the procedure and like you said, explains that he's about to do something next. He's always been honest about the work I actually need without trying to sell me extra services and unlike so many other places, I actually spend more time with my dentist than someone from billing. He always tries to do the least invasive procedure possible and makes sure to explain likelihood of success or for how long the success could last, and what would be the next step and I'm able to make informed decisions. I really appreciate having a dentist I can trust, especially after years of bad experiences that even resulted in surgery because of a dishonest dentist.

[@Nessarose75]

The beans made my evening. 😂😂😂

[@repprezent6593]

Jessica’s shock and disgust at the hypothetical of her checking out a man’s “package” 🤣🤣🤣

[@Mobile_Dom]

i dont understand why im still so shocked at how awsome Claud's hair is, esp. when I loved her hair before. Also, as a boy that did ballet and was bullied to shit for it, i definitely hope that's changed.

[@emmacarter6033]

Jessica, I think you should watch/react to the movie A Christmas Prince. It's about a reporter who goes to a kingdom to report on the prince, and falls in love with him. The cool thing about it, though, is the prince's little sister, Emily. She is disabled and uses a wheelchair/crutches. I think the movie did a good job of representing her disability.

[@Divya-ry1uu]

That sounds so interesting. I shall add that to my list!

[@emmacarter6033]

@@Divya-ry1uu It is very interesting. There's also two sequels, which I haven't watched yet.

[@pattheplanter]

Also worth watching Jenny Nicholson's analysis of the insane dystopia of the country where it happens. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eKSrhWScjtSoj7c

[@amysingleton9859]

Dude, Claudia talking about farts ruining the mood is so MARRIED LIFE! My wife and I laugh a lot normally, but we laugh in the bedroom too. We're both 40...and bodies will be bodies! XD

[@mamaowlbear3366]

For the dentist question, my current dentist does an extensive survey for new patients that asks if you've had bad experiences before, and if there are any things they can do to help you feel more comfortable. Best dentist ever.

[@otakukid11]

I suggest watching Happiest Season twice. The first time I watched it I disliked the girlfriend as well, she was a horrible girlfriend and I questioned why Kristen Stewart's character decided to stay. After seeing it a second time, it made me reflect and realize that at some point (before coming out) I was in the place of the horrible girlfriend. What made me really appreciate it though was when the best friend's explanation of how it's different for everyone. The first time I saw that scene I was like "yeah, that's true." But hearing it the second time made me think about the people in between he talked about. Happiest season does have it's moments, it's not perfect but it does make you feel good. Which is what Holiday movies are supposed to do.

[@ryansg9]

this look on Jessica is giving me some real Mae West vibes, and im loving it. Looks FABULOUS

[@n.t.772]

Last time I went to the dentist, I talked myself out of giving them this whole speech about how I have become terrified of dentistry. I said it when I made the appointment, I wrote it down in the questionaire they handed me when I got there, once in the comment section and once at the end and I said it when I came in. Dentist did not take it into consideration starting the treatment, which made me spiral and have a whole anxiety attack going from crying to shaking like a leaf all over while the procedure was ongoing. She eventually caught up, about when the crying started, but that was too late for me to catch myself. So utterly underwhelmed by the standard of care ppl administer.

[@melissam8939]

I had given up a bit on getting my hair into lovely vintage curls. Yet once again, Jessica's goddess-level curls are calling to me. I guess I know what I'm doing next hair washing day... Anyway, Merry Christmas ladies! Hope you have a lovely holiday.

[@keriroeder7521]

OMG. A subscriber expressing a phobia and Claudia basically just saying "Suck it up, buttercup" was hilarious!

[@everentropy]

I feel like you've done a bad job when most people don't ship the main romantic leads

[@dragoniraflameblade]

At least give us a little "prologue" for how they met or SOMETHING to show us more of them together.

[@anyawillowfan]

When it comes to feeling pressure to do more than you can (especially with a chronic illness limiting your energy, but I also know abled people who try and do everything in a short period of time over Christmas because they think they should), my advice is decide on your priorities. I love Christmas/Yule and would probably go all out if I had my way, but I've learnt the hard way that doing so will mean I have no energy to enjoy the time with my family or I'm in excess pain for weeks after and it doesn't always feel worth it. For example, sometimes I prioritize decorating my flat because I know it will make me happy to see it every day, so I plan ahead and do it a little at a time. I think the biggest thing I learned was to stop feeling bad if I didn't get to do everything on my list. Christmas comes every year so if you can't do it this year you may be able to do it in the future. And in a few weeks will anyone remember that you spent all that energy on cooking the perfect meal, or will they remember you being able to enjoy the meal with them?

[@lauramillard8265]

Totally agree with Jessica I wanted her to end up with the other girl. She seemed like a nice woman who the character was bonding with.

[@MissBee13]

You two never cease to be adorable. Even when discussing beans and tooting your own horn. ♥️

[@fairboxie]

I have TMJ and prefer men but I do tell them "Hey, I super enjoy doing this activity but can't keep it up super long due to jaw issues" and it's always just fine because they're too excited I'm about to perform the activity to care. It's totally fine.

[@kathleenanne7868]

True.

[@PrincessGoth574]

I have bad anxiety disorder, and I find the best way to deal with doing something scary is to do it before the anxiety 'catches up'. Also telling relevant people is always helpful.

[@randomalex5119]

I loved Happiest Season for me it really captured the fear of coming out (which I haven't done to my whole family) I am only out to my mom who loves and supports me (thank god). I do think Kristen and Aubrey would have been a better coupling though.

[@JessicaMacKlein]

I haven't seen Happiest Season yet but I'm looking forward to it. Loved Claudia's bean story, lol.

[@arosedances2333]

Love you guys so much, seeing lqbtq+ and disability represented and asking questions is so nice and makes me feel so warm and fuzzy

[@MissSeraphine]

I really felt the note advice. Not only because I often am overloaded with tasks from my mamma in Christmas, but this year because of COVID-19 and the borders between Brazil and Argentina being closed is the first Christmas I won't be spending with my biological family. And I am so relieved. I am not being told to watch the panetone in the oven, or writing cards to stranger's, or wrapping up presents and cleaning and decorating and stuff. Is just me and my partner and we don't even own a Christmas tree, but is just so chill I didn't know Christmas time could be a time to relax also. And the last years it was so frustrating because my mamma doesn't like my partner so she's exploiting him all the time with cooking and arranging things and I got stuck in the middle of one's anger and expectations and the other frustrations and sadness over not being accepted as family. Think you lesbian mom's. You really are some beautiful ❤️

[@nellekelaroi7246]

I have the luck that my parents are aware of my limits, and actively help me get around them. That being said, my golden tips for Christmas preparations would be to see what jobs can be done a day or two early and do them then. The other is naps. Plan a nap (or more if you need them) and make the people around you aware of the fact that you’re going to take one. If it helps, tell them what time you’ll be available to help again. Take a nap and you’ll be able to enjoy the rest of the day better.

[@sajteapot]

I love the way the wreath in the background gives Claudia a halo 💓

[@tant_benny]

I'm very happy that my parents have gotten more understanding of my limited energy since I got diagnosed, so im allowed to go away in the middle of dinner and such

[@doesntreply]

I thought I wouldn't like Happiest Season as much as I did, but I really loved it and spent most of it crying cause I'm still in the closet and I felt like that movie accurately shared my pain when it comes to family holidays. I agree with Aubrey Plaza that her character should have ended up with Kristen's character, but all in all it was just the kind of sappy silly movie I needed to end 2020 with.

[@chandranelson2772]

I’m 5’4, and my wife is 6’3. More than a head taller. I can’t surprise her with a kiss, that’s for sure.

[@theladynim2]

I'm 4'11 and my girlfriend is 5'11. The struggle is real!

[@realpassionlife]

I'm 5'2 and my girlfriend is 0 because she doesn't exist Hahahaha 😭😂

[@sydneywilkins9999]

Not a lesbian but I am married to someone 6’1”. I like to wait until he’s sitting down and then swoop in like Batman for a smooch.

[@kitbracadabra]

That's so cute, omg

[@gabriellecarr3070]

Happiest Season basically falls to the same fault as Love, Simon in that the overall premise is very cute and fun but the lead character ends up acting like a total dick to their friends/partner in a (poor) attempt to hide their sexuality. And in both films they are completely forgiven at the end. Personally I don't think hiding your sexuality is an excuse for hurting those that you love (in thee modern day and in the West that is, obviously if your life, freedom, safety etc are at risk it is different)

[@Visplight]

Yup. Harper actively throws her partners under the bus for her own benefit and "I'm afraid to come out" doesn't justify it."

[@kitbracadabra]

Haven't seen love Simon bc I feel like I'll hate the main character omg

[@Hmm...Whats-Their-Name]

10:47 this giggle fit is the cutest damn thing. Omg

[@chefboyarzee]

Jessica casually saying ‘Yo’ at 17:38 is my favourite part of this video 😂😂😂

[@aiko.55]

Re going to the dentist, I work for someone with bad anxiety and they were looking at needing to go to the dentist. I called the dentist and they were happy to send a video entering into the building, the waiting room and actual exam room so that my employer could have a good picture in their mind to prepare for. It doesn't hurt to ask and you might get some really helpful accommodations! Another thought is that if they are really rude or just not very understanding of your request then it may not be the right practice for you :)

[@sweetlorikeet]

Happiest Season is like... not romantic or comedic, so I don't think calling it a Christmas Rom-Com was accurate marketing. A Christmas... frustrating drama with an unsatisfying ending?

[@mindofafangirl2224]

not me being confused over the inclusion of the dentist question for almost a minute before i remembered what claudia's profession is.... 😂😭

[@DoorbellQueen]

I don’t have EDS, but I do have TMJ and have had jaw dislocation during sex among other times. I basically have told people that sometimes my jaw will dislocate while I’m eating.

[@kathleenanne7868]

Wonderful...

[@kitbracadabra]

@@kathleenanne7868 :/

[@mltorrefranca]

Also had a dentist phobia until I found one I could express that phobia with and listened. Now, I’m much better with that.

[@Zero-fb2ec]

I love to have lesbian moms

[@katms11]

I really appreciate that Claudia shared a bit about her realizing she was gay and coming out. My coming out story is fairly similar and Its really nice to hear a story similar to mine!

[@annam.6494]

I liked happiest season but it definitely had some issues... It actually did release in cinemas in Australia and New Zealand because ours are open again but at least it’s available legally online for those that can’t see it in cinemas 🙂

[@meld_maker]

Yep, I'm in NZ and went to see it in the cinema with the local sapphic social group :)

[@nishapan1376]

I can relate to what Claudia says about coming out. I came out to myself for the first time this year (I am 26), and I don't think I was trying to be someone I wasn't before that. It was simply because it hadn't really occurred to me that I was anything other than straight until I met a girl that I liked in that way. Also, I think it is important to say (and I know you have mentioned this in another video) that coming out doesn't have to be the application of a label like lesbian or gay or bi, it can simply be, "I know I'm not straight." For me, it actually does my head in to figure out whether I am bi or lesbian beyond that. Also, I know you mentioned this in other videos, but where did you get your Brighton star map from? I have seen similar posters on other channels and it is such a lovely idea.

[@ashlynsmith4327]

11:28 makes so much sense now after the pregnancy video lmao ahhh congrats!!

[@nanamiharuka3269]

I agree it would have been SO fun to see the family trying to adjust and be comfortable with the lesbian gf/fiancée and making mistakes and high jinx ensuing.

[@fakeusername92]

IMAGINE ME AND YOU! My childhood best friend was obsessed w that delightful film 💜💜💜

[@mannycrusher]

As a teacher, I can promise you. Adults care way more than little kiddos. And when kids have something to say, it is almost an echo of an adult in their life.

[@jaroneller1525]

@the person with the sexy question: if it's just about a hookup, maybe consider telling the person once it's clear you're both gonna end up doing the deed. usually there should be a conversation about boundaries and such, where it would be convient to bring up your joint may pop out!

[@emblarovardotter]

CAROL IS A CHRISTMAS MOVIE

[@rincentvanuggh1911]

My family has lots of disability and we make sure there's always space each of us can escape to when we're tire which helps a lot for Christmas

[@maxkirby1889]

Hey jess you was apart of my tutorial work last Tuesday it was about different disabilities and that some people who use a wheelchair can walk but sometimes they can't it was really good and I was the only person in my class who actually knew that you are a youtuber

[@C-SD]

Ugh the dentist question! Fear of the dentist is a very common phobia. Some dentists where I'm at will do "sleep dentistry", but depending on your health is not always safe. My kid developed a fear of the dentist when she was young and I had trouble finding a reasonable dentist. A friend of mine deals with asd, and for a lot of people mouth and gum sensitivity makes it difficult. She suggested a wonderful dentist, and he made a huge difference for her. It can be nearly impossible to find a dentist around here with even a little compassion or empathy. It makes me so happy that Claudia is a dentist, we need more professionals like her. I find just saying it to them generally works. Have other issues as well with my chiropractor, and pretty much anything where someone is right in my face. Most people understand fear, ptsd, nervousness, etc. A good doctor will take your anxiety into consideration.

[@jazliek9941]

Not a christmas movie but Saving Face is one of my favorite movies. Its about a Chinese-american lesbian that hasn't come out and her widow mom that recently moved in with her because she's pregnant and won't say who the father is. Its super cute, feel good, dealing with coming out/dating while not out but resolves it really nicely. The director/screenwriter is the same woman that did The Half of It

[@Noel.Chmielowiec]

Thanks mums! You both look gorgeous. For a dentist one I could say that you go with someone who isn't scared, we did that with my cousin, because she was terrified, we asked if I can come with her and have my tooth fixed first, but she's 9, so maybe that's why the dentist agreed. And after seeing that I laugh afterwards, haven't taken numbing, she's no longer scared.

[@QuynhNguyen-qc4ng]

Just come from the new Rose and Rosie's video. How can i go to sleep early if both of my favorite lesbian youtubers upload at 1am? 😔

[@ameliajohnson5006]

Same!

[@kamishy_Art]

You don't, you just don't :)

[@alienorfrei6867]

Move to a different time zone ;)

[@GM-pn2bi]

With the dentist thing my grandmother had the same issue. What she finally did, instead of not going for years and years, was went to her doctor and got a prescription for a few anti anxiety pills. She'd take one the day she'd go and be fine.

[@tf7602]

My dentist also has the option of laughing gas. That's of course extra charges and it doesn't help with the problem of actually going, if your anxious beforehand. Could help with having a "that wasn't bad" experience at the dentist.

[@Kotapises]

I went to this video to see if I could tell a difference in your face since the botox, jumps right into Claudia talking about dentist anxiety. I will actually call and get an appointment after way too long, thanks for pepping me!