Is ‘Lookism’ REAL and are you a VICTIM? (EP 169)

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Today’s Episode is about the difference between having Charm vs Charisma, The pros to being attractive in life, and why Incels are DANGEROUS ‼️
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Timecodes (Episode #169):
00:00 - Intro
00:23 - Skip Intro
04:29 - Charm Vs Charisma
22:50 - What Fictional Characters Are We Like?
37:53 - The Lawyer Putting Super Villains Back On The Street
47:55 - Being Attractive Is The Ultimate Life Hack
59:01 - Incels Are The Most Dangerous
1:12:42 - The Worst Versions of Guys
1:21:15 - Cheating or Not Cheating
1:45:30 - People You NEED To Have Fun At The Club
1:57:06 - Dollar Store Therapy
2:04:08 - Outro
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[@anthonyrojas3646]

I like how Viet has gotten progressively smarter and grown over the course of being on the pod.

[@MsTee349]

Describing charm as rizz, when rizz is literally short for *charisma* 😂

[@alexare6655]

I kniw right theyre so dumb

[@shaun5047]

lol True but good Rizz ends up coming off like someone’s that’s charismatic

[@alexare6655]

Lmao i know right theyre fumb

[@Kanyewesther]

@@alexare6655they’re so fumb!

[@alexare6655]

@@Kanyewesther my phone screen is broken but glad you have a sense of humour sometimes you all say the dumbest things fr. Entertaining though.

[@rodsitamara]

jeremy didnt mean it this way but just to clarify, extremist groups have nothing to do with islam in fact theyre breaking all the rules. adultery isnt allowed in the religion and it is encouraged to lower your gaze because the only person ur intimate with is ur partner. so comitting to God isnt about reward like that but obvs these men feel posessiveness or smth that is very much against the religion

[@caracarabonitaa]

i feel like a lot of the times charisma is aligned w the confidence a person naturally exude, whereas someone who is charming doesnt have to be the most confident person but just have to try a lil harder to show that theyre a likeable person

[@rainecare]

This the typa Christian podcast you wouldn't guess is Christian 😂

[@jxxxvii]

This is so true lmfao 😂

[@whatsgoodEz]

Should be an instant red flag to any1 with discernment

[@KS-kj4lg]

I wish they'd do more mini skits, that was hilarious! 😂

[@queenofthepote]

I feel for the person who wrote in to Dollar Store Therapy. That battle of finding a middle ground between creating a life for yourself and where you want to be but also just enjoying the life you have and where you are is one that never ends. Definitely show yourself some grace & give yourself time ❤

[@Offlineee_]

37:50 Yall leave Esther aloneee 😭 Esther you’re always looking great 🫶🏾 only nosy weidos would point that out

[@amyeatsdrinks]

tbh i love it when they go off track lol its the perfect balance of questions and conversation!! love u guys

[@damage0311]

I feel attacked cuz I'm usually shadow boxing everywhere. Not only around women, I have shadowboxed in front of dogs at the dog shelter too. 😭

[@caracarabonitaa]

Jeremy: Charming Wootak: Charismatic Esther: Charismatic Viet: Charming

[@alexare6655]

This is correct.

[@soerjandi]

Viet: "Ya guys ever seen a woman so pretty that it throws you into a depressive spiral" Wootak: "Only when I look at you." /caresses Viet's face Viet: *giggle* Yes that was cute!

[@morganlori9743]

Ima need a time stamp

[@B00TYclapperCLUB69]

15:50

[@soerjandi]

​@@morganlori9743 Okay, I forgot but I basically watched the first half again hahaha 15:49 there ya go

[@morganlori9743]

@@soerjandi bless you fr

[@Jo-bu3fr]

I can't with the Jeremy-Viet relationship roleplay 💀

[@ashlygomez9698]

new podcast ep= best 2 hours of my life

[@carbee123]

I just saw all of the section topics… y’all are going to have me cackling today 🤣🤣

[@J8den]

I love this episode so much

[@queenofthepote]

someone needs to do a compilation of Wootak & Viet moments cause their lil bromance is funny ash 😂

[@jxxxvii]

Can u guys cook Vietnamese food then have Viet eat/rate it lol

[@jennifercrystal1157]

Wootak is definitely Cassie from euphoria Viet is Maddie and Jeremy would be Jules 😂

[@alexare6655]

Esther is more jules imo.

[@evaa2000]

So Jeremy would be like Awkwafina !! I look forward to listening the podcast every week thank you for making my day better 🩵

[@queenofthepote]

The Jeremy & Viet roleplay 😂😂😂 a whole production

[@queenofthepote]

Esther and Viet are charming , Wootak and Jeremy are charismatic .

[@Youngmoneygettinmoney]

Fire episode as usual

[@Mari_lit]

Viet zoning out so hard at the end is funny cuz i literally do the same thing (I’m a Isfp 😭)

[@ashleynicoleee98]

you all should have Harry Jowsey on the pod also Quen Blackwell & Larray would both be great guests they’re hilarious!

[@angieornelas8147]

Thank you Wootak for putting me on Lookism !

[@kyl0m0m]

Yessss SÜP is so GOOD I’m glad y’all like it I’m from BP

[@w.endylizeth]

omg pleaseeee ! we need a segment about anime in an episode !!! 😍

[@kaydinkaterynuik9771]

What kinda hat is vet wearing 😂😂 6:18

[@aoe99]

Wootak, as you seem to read manhwa a lot you should really read Windbreaker!! It's so good

[@juandeloera9924]

Bro I am ugly and it's rough out here fam

[@queenofthepote]

Lmaoooo Esther’s like Wootak’s gonna be a big booty latina 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Ang-1Vids]

Woo that mango margarita 🔥

[@jazzvanz]

Viet looks like chowder with that hat 😂

[@JoseRizzal93]

Naw the role playing segment took me out 😂😂😂

[@Nate-op5vs]

Viet I feel like you should try get Jason the weenie on the pod especially since he’s in la for the next 2 weeks

[@anaismontoya7]

For the food thing honestly same if im hosting everyone is getting fed its nothing special lol

[@sgg111]

Ay Viet! You and i have the same MBTI! We're loving but also depressed twins! 💀

[@jasmineluong248]

off topic: for the best pho you guys should go try phoholic on rodeo 39 and beach in stanton (there’s 3, but stanton is the best one) . free soup and best broth

[@gourisharma655]

Esther is so pretty omg

[@MrTenInHell]

The Vikings and Celts stuff gets mixed together alot. Celts were considered to be tall, blonde bleached thick haired, with pear shaped shields and were considered warrior like Barbarians. This definition fits a lot of what we consider people from Scandinavian and Nordic countries were Vikings mostly likely originated from but 2000 year ago most of Central and Western Europe were filled with those kinds of people who slowly got Romanized and Slavicized in the next 2 millennium.

[@debhino4517]

40:06 from the h3h3 podcast lore they would bring the lawyer on the pod and it was a common thing to talk about for a while so I’m guessing that’s why they had gotten mentioned

[@dahliah7764]

I’ve unfortunately gained about 40 pounds since me and my fiancé have been together, tbf we’ve been together for 6 years. Part of it is happy weight but I’ve gained the most weight when I was on bc, it completely messed me up lol. Happy weight is real tho.

[@noseexplorer]

Omg Wootak and i are exactly alike. Toxic.

[@janelgozum603]

I watched Lookism after this podcast. SO GOOD. can Wootak drop a list of anime he recommends pls!

[@queenofthepote]

The way Esther was talking abt Jeremy’s female version was hitting a lil too hard cause why did i know EXACTLY what she meant 🥴🥴 felt like i was catching strays

[@kathunt2083]

Cheating or not: I do not touch people unless it would be rude or offensive to refuse to touch, like an offered handshake in a business setting or from an elder

[@xot3rmxo]

I think you can have both but people don't necessarily need both. A Charming person without charisma would be the quiet mysterious type. Charisma without charm would be the energetic, down to do anything type. The combination of both are most probably the cool kid in school type.

[@allglorytogodthankyou]

the cheating segment was so funny

[@lammlife]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@aral4672]

Y’all should do the Enneagrams test it’s like the mbti test

[@queenofthepote]

Everyone has charisma but not everyone has charm. I feel we all have a natural attractiveness in some way but many don’t know how to turn it on and use it to its full potential lol. People who have charisma but no charm = tea People who have charm and no charisma = sodas People who have both = water 😂

[@keishaondongo9593]

the way Viet answered the cheating scenario with Brad Pitt honestly mad him hotter ❤>

[@davidc1555]

Lmao I thought I heard charizzma

[@cheemengxiong4811]

Ya should bring Nectar to Minnesota huge Asian population minneapolis and st.paul area

[@HiroMoto-ww3ry]

Well during Ramadan it's not that we Muslims don't listen to music like for me I am a muslim and if I really want to listen to some nice song I would and that's because I am also a dancer so I practice dance with music of course during Ramadan as well . then it's again the whole month is to teach the humans how to control themselves and their desires in which food is a big one cause like nowadays we see literally everyone eating junk food all the time and it's like you are what you eat so it's to teach people to learn to control themselves and the same for music to everyone nowadays when you go out we see everywhere people with headphones listening to music all the time it's like they are addicted to it like it to Ramadan is not only about fasting it's about what we call this is like fasting of the eyes ears that's how it's translated in English well in not my language but it means that not listen to bad stuff or see bad things or do bad things with your hand like you know being a positive impact on this world just overall to remind people to be humble and have better control of themselves

[@queenofthepote]

Now I have to watch Lookism .

[@joannekim6671]

Jeremy’s girl voice just sounds like Gingy from Shrek 1:36:40

[@AJBuddha]

Charisma = extrovert Charm = ambivert / introvert

[@yasmeennassar704]

Hi 👋🏻

[@tink6225]

the black background is back let's fucking go

[@queenofthepote]

I don’t like the impact looks has on society. I see people differently so I get everyone won’t see things the way I do, but the way that society treats people based on looks and just the beauty standards in itself is sad asf. I know it’s been that way and no telling how worse it’ll get but it’s just sad how looking good and feeling beautiful even to yourself has become a myth. Like you can have high confidence and good self esteem but society lowkey has the power to knock you so far off that pedestal and it’s just ugh. I think everyone should feel like they’re beautiful and the sht but society makes it seem as though you have to subject your beauty to a tier and compete with ppl from entirely different walks of life to have that validation (which i guess can come from those who seek that validation so there’s that). It’s nothing wrong with being attractive. It’s making everything abt beauty or having no substance outside of it that just irritates me. Like “yeaaah her attitude is stank asf and she has no morals but she is stunning” or “he’s nice and all but he’s just too ugly”. It’s an ick and I wouldn’t even want to bring a child into this shallow, over saturated market of a world we call society. 😭 Imagine raising your child to love themselves and all this just for them to turn 18, get an Instagram, & society starts shtting on them OR they start changing who they are to appeal to another simple human OR society strokes their ego and they become the shtter instead of the shtted on. Yeaaaaah , Im good.

[@gpslaurel]

If you say you’re a lawyer to enough people they’ll believe you viet

[@yasmeennassar704]

🥰

[@queenofthepote]

“I’m Brad Pitt.”

[@chicharita8544]

Headlock guy is the worst bc not only is it a turnoff, a drunk aggressive man is scary

[@user-dk3dd4sk4l]

❤️🧡💛

[@MrTenInHell]

Frodo is not a bitch. The ring corrupts everyone and so Frodo doing everything in his power to resist the rings temptations and it uses all the emotions, pride, fear, anger, envy, etc to do it. Frodo basically suffered some of the worst mental torture you could imagine and only he could do it to save the world so he suffered. Frodo is probably the most resilient character in The Lord of the Rings. The basically reward him with heaven because the torture makes him unable to have a regular life after Sauron is defeated.

[@_Hanako.]

Wow I feel like this is really targeted towards me!

[@Moco_Cork1]

Steven Kelly is fiiiiine but i hate the moustache

[@cyberpunkalphamale]

Don't start beef with the exoticals

[@ruthdsouza169]

is that a promise ring on ester's finger

[@Kanyewesther]

No it’s a SHEIN ring

[@sof5611]

25:45 Yeah, thats cuz he's literally a Protagonist (ENFJ)

[@connieyang4744]

They say when ur in love you gain weight from all the dates and eating out to favorites restaurants or home cook meals you eat, so it’s a lovely thing but to put a prenup as gaining weight then yes it’s a superficial kind of marriage and I think it’s such an LA thing where LA is very superficial …. Coming from and LA native moving to Texas. To begin with a Pre-up like that it’s so superficial. Be happy to gain weight and true love to be a solid couple.

[@liyinchong4493]

Wootak charismatic. The rest charming.

[@user-lt9gt4qn6z]

Get Elle Lee on here

[@ttjjsnwosnws]

The audio is kinda terrible, too much thumping!

[@andresmontes6113]

Only ramen

[@user-qo7hd2ju3t]

I prefer the blue wall paper

[@rodsitamara]

white boys get hyped up so much like harry jowsey isnt all that - height and money doesnt make you a 10

[@renukanayak5402]

#VIETAK in the comments.

[@alexare6655]

Im an infp too viet but im an a

[@queenofthepote]

Esther’s idea of their female versions was pretty accurate lmaooo

[@XxforevercandygirlXx]

Lol esther has a stanley Wait why do people like Angelina Jolie? I don't understand

[@MrCowabungaDude]

///SMS…nOsHit GUYS!/?!/? Uh?!… I’m on my third “The Beast”!…???… I can respect that venturing. I can! But…???… “The Beast”!?!? Red Bull is classic! It is! Mixers?! I’m not that cool; for serious. I’m poo’ing right now and plan on misadventuring. Along the way?!?!?!?!…MY FOURTH!!!! Don Quioyote?! El Poncho?! Poncho Via?! I couldn’t care less; even more! When the stories stop and reality sets in… the distant future is inevitable. I really don’t care. Anyways, I tried your flavor lychee! It’s good with carbonated soda!!!

[@ngeowngeow]

its sad how yall talk about muslims and islams tbh.

[@Soojin1847]

First😻

[@AshleneSebastian]

thugerly write that down

[@KatYu-ws6yv]

They’re both so fkin lame

[@F-N-Z-01]

Did you guys drop the N word at some point? Viet and Wootak in particular?