Is Marriage for White People? - Kevin Samuels Started this Conversation (Ep 94)

[@thisneedswinepodcast551]

Black Americans don’t prioritize the institution of marriage as a culture, she is right on the money with that statement. Which is what adds to the difficulty of dating in our community. It’s interesting that her outlook on the black community in the US is the same as mine, as I am also Haitian-Canadian.

[@EarthFireWindWaterHeart]

And we should. It's a shame that we don't.

[@americanindianempowermentp2958]

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[@clintonwizard]

This woman is Caribbean. The diaspora can't wait to paint BA in a bad light.

[@RM-uk4xq]

The Indian woman who was the CEO of Pepsi said she submits to her husband at home. I spoke to a WW who makes 4 times what her husband makes who said ‘I was raised to serve my husband and I do.’ It has nothing to do with money it’s attitude. The number 1 cause of divorce for women is when she starts making more than the man. Avoid women with this mindset.

[@marcusthomas6998]

Most Hispanic or other races do also. It's a western mindset that's the problem. Get rid of onlyfans and Instagram things would fall back in line. Since it won't then a major event will cause it.

[@JT89fobreakfast101]

@@marcusthomas6998 Aaaa

[@kippreggelogan9570]

She said she does!I don't believe that. I think she gets along with him.submit?nah.

[@SemperCogitas]

American culture is so focused on money that relationships are leveraged on who makes the most. Meanwhile, in other nonamerican communities, the family makes the money.

[@lemuelhanna1255]

When she was talking about the white couples who were going through the issues but they still ended up married at the end and the Black people didn’t other than one couple I think it truly comes down to compromising and black women don’t want to compromise they want it all for the most part not all

[@furiousgtribal4325]

She didn't give good examples either. I mean. One guy married a woman who said she didn't wanna have kids. And I'm sure he did. Would you marry someone who says something like that? Especially if you want kids. Or stay with a woman who wanted to have sex with someone else on live tv? I wouldn't.

[@AlexMinor]

My mother made more money than my dad my entire life. He was a preacher. She was a lawyer. They both worked first for the army and then for the government in different places. My dad was ALWAYS the clear leader of the house. My mother always respected his opinions and made sure that we (the kids) knew the final decisions were his. Submission isn’t domination. It’s TRUST. The problem these days is most modern women don’t TRUST men. They think if a man doesn’t make more money and have more status than them, there’s something wrong with him or he isn’t capable. Also… women have this delusion that just because THEY accomplished something EVERYONE can do it. The majority of Americans will NEVER make 6 figures. But all these boss baes, IG models and only fans girls are convinced that everyone should be able to have a “business” and have finances like theirs.

[@Dwyr15]

Very well said. Trust, respect, devotion, duty. Something I saw from my parents also. Military brat.

[@jaystew7045]

I lived the same life as well

[@joejett5084]

Submission is trust 🔥🔥🔥

[@karyt1375]

I think the other part is men dont like that its a process that leads to trust i.e submission. Women should demonstrate the ability to be submissive through the vetting process & men should demonstrate the ability to be trusted through the vetting process. No one is entitled to provision or trust....

[@kreativeforce532]

essentially women aren't using their brains. its a basic thought exercise. if even 70% of people made 6 figures and had their own business what then would be the cost of goods? who is going to buy from and work at these businesses? We all know goods would skyrocket because money wouldn't retain value OR each business wouldn't really be making much value (which actually is the case with many BW's sole proprietorships w/ 0 employees).

[@kreativeforce532]

4:03 there's a woman who was on fresh and fit who claims she makes 200k and she cooks 3 meals per day from scratch for her husband. That's 2 more meals than brothas are even asking for. She has no issue submitting to her man who makes less. It's her cooking that keeps the relationship together not her $. The wealthiest woman may be the top woman to other women, but she's not the best woman according to men's ranking of women.

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

Idk what this major focus on cooking is, it’s a basic adult life skill. To me the woman’s general disposition (agreeableness etc) is far more important, I’ve been cooking for myself since I was a teenager. This attempt to boil submission down to cooking and cleaning completely misses point, those are just basic adult life skills.

[@kreativeforce532]

@@themarathoncontinues4211 cooking is an extension of breastfeeding which men cannot do. They're both part of nurturing and nutrition. Hence why in older couples its the wife restricting the husbands diet for his good health. Well if she can't cook, she can't do that and he will steak and potatoes himself to death. Thats IF he has time. Since the husband typically will work more he has less time to prepare REAL fresh food. The lady was talking about cooking not microwaving hungryman meals, not ordering fast food. We got a lot of ppl dying by 50 from a lifestyle of doing that.

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

@@kreativeforce532 I understand the value of cooking and agree with what you’ve said - but cooking isn’t some major feminine skill at all. As a man I work full time, go to the gym , have social life and still cook good meals for myself. The whole thing is completely overblown… Maybe I’m just lucky but the women I deal with are proficient enough with cooking. That’s not the issue goin on here with these women

[@bigtrell8792]

Liked this interview but I must say I think the 80 percent divorce stat is still valid because it shows that a man can be just as unhappy as the woman but still chooses not to throw the marriage away as unhappy as he is he was at least willing to give the situation room to improve even when it would be easier to "do him" if he left

[@Cahluvca]

Feelings vs duty and sacrifice....I'm I happy

[@Ben-Ken]

Especially when children are involved. Men are more likely to recognize their duty to raising kids in a stable home.

[@karyt1375]

Men dont typically just sit & stay in unhappiness in their marriages....they find it somewhere else. That's why infidelity is one of the top leading causes of divorce. Women typically have to then decide if they not only wanna stay unhappy but ALSO deal with infidelity.

[@Ben-Ken]

@@karyt1375 all the studies have shown that men and women cheat at almost the same rate so stop with the victimhood.

[@karyt1375]

@@Ben-Ken "Almost the same amount" my a**. It's twice as much. Plz go lie to somebody else who hasn't read these self-reported articles that aren't valid forms of data reporting as i.e people lie, omit information, exaggerate, etc....So again men aren't sitting at home unhappy, there finding happiness somewhere else as divorce stats support.

[@alvinsaulsberry398]

Mature men are starting to sit back and watch to see how far these women really get with the 2 or 3% of men that are in that status

[@U4ia28]

It’s not men who are glorifying “traditional” 1950s relationships, women are. They’re the ones who despite gaining their financial independence, still want a man who is better than they are in every metric. All because they ultimately don’t want to be the providers. They’ll do it if they have to, but will inevitably end up being resentful of ANY man who allows/forces her to be in that position and when given the choice, the overwhelming majority of women will prefer to have a man be responsible for that role because traditionally that has been our role from the beginning. Women only wanted the POWER that we had without the RESPONSIBILITIES attached to that power. Also the divorce stat is 100% legit. The top rated reason given by women for divorce is irreconcilable differences. Which is usually code for she got bored, started making more money than her husband or found a better guy during the rocky moments in their marriage.

[@AaronStarks]

They want traditional gender roles for MEN, not for them. And man's "duty" is still to "provide and protect" and but they're free to do whatever the like.

[@heruapocalypse2021]

Absolutely ✊🏾 😎 She sounds just like Black Women in The States.

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

@@heruapocalypse2021 this is all American women, not black American women. A lot of y’all like to hold onto idea these other women are better, they aren’t. All the same stupid thinking process with all American women

[@Cahluvca]

Traditional for selfishness....not truly about the family. Had a elder tell me that a helpmeet is about family not overcome by her selfish female nature. Thought he was overboard but I was young...he was spot on

[@Cahluvca]

@@AaronStarks modern feminism is about selfishness

[@skills504]

this show is soo consistent 👏!

[@evos469]

Marriage is for everyone that understands its about duty to creating a family

[@TheLuvAngel22]

This is a title of a book by a black man named Ralph Richard Banks. I wonder if you will reference it…

[@kylerbunton1675]

I still need to get me a copy

[@oneup7238]

Other cultures like the Chinese and Indians understand the power of marriage and unity. There are some awful marriages in those communities but they dont break up because they know we're stronger together than apart

[@SL-fx9bp]

You are absolutely right,that is how they generate generational wealth. I know that systemic racism holds us back,as individuals, but as a family we can probably do as the southern Europeans did when they migrated here. Coming to this country with nothing and ended up making empires ,mainly from the streets. Now,I know they didn’t go through slavery,but they lived in ghettos and had high crime but through marriage they succeeded. Peace,my apologies for the long comment.

[@fafilingdo]

It really sounded like she was making an argument that black men need to simp and become beta for the black family. I hope that's not what she meant, I man shouldn't have to marry a women who wants to sleep with other men or marry a women who doesn't want kids. Black men are allowed to have standards.

[@juliusmoore2176]

So if you're a man who wants to make things in a marriage, you love your wife and she loves you back, that makes you a beta or simp?

[@fafilingdo]

@juliusmoore2176 if you listen to the conversation, the lady stated" that the white couple were getting married even though the yt women were sleeping around or didn't want kids. Yes that makes you beta to marry a 304. Stop being the clean up guy for these 304. Full stop.

[@sircharles820]

Yup.. I'm glad I retired from dating years back in 2017. 😆

[@myafrosheen]

So as the higher earner is she gonna mow the lawn, take out the trash and defend her man from physical danger since she believes that she's now the man of the relationship?

[@calvinrichardson5852]

She caught up on income but what do you do when the power goes out and natural disaster happens who will you listen to then now you gonna want a man to step up and be a man

[@CassCream]

You don't even got to start there. You can start with the idea that BW in most cases don't want to be the sole provider. They aren't even mentally prepared to be the head of households which is why they are stuck in the cycle of trying to find some guy that doesn't exist that they think they want.

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

Tbh it isn’t wise to make these decisions off instances of power outages and natural disasters, that’s less than 0.1% of your time together.

[@Cahluvca]

Income for her selfishness not for the family. Provide is for necessity not wants

[@chasehlee7197]

It seems like men make money for his family. Women make money so they won’t need a family. “I don’t need kids. I’ll be the rich aunty.”

[@Angelinoah8]

Great conversation ! I love this guest. Her voice is so soothing and gets your attention to listen. Her view and perspective are valuable, sensical and enlightening. She and Kiana W. are the most headstrong and objective debaters on both side of the spectrum.

[@King-ns7it]

🤣🤣

[@j.tradeforexinc.2819]

I was about to click off until he started speaking. Great words and wisdom... Thank you for clearing that up...

[@Ben-Ken]

The damage to black people in general was done over many generations and it will take several generations to undo it. We seem to be moving in the wrong direction since the 60's so it will now take even longer. If we don't rebuild families, it will only get worse.

[@onice33]

I dont have this problem.. My 1st marriage had got annulled. She checked out, but I checked out last and noticed that we weren't right together for the future. I found a consistent partner who adjusted outstandingly in the past 5 years. And our mission and goals line up and i'm trying again to be married in 2024.. 🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️

[@lovelychoka9456]

Congratulations! I pray your union is blessed and last a lifetime.

[@MrDreskee03]

I don't understand for the life of me why women don't understand that your money means nothing if I can take care of myself besides financially. Women try to make men base what they like off masculine preferences. We as men base our likes off of feminity. If bombs were dropped right now and you had to survive in the terrain, that $200,00 goes out the window immediately. If your man knows how to survive and protect I bet 99% of women start submitting in minutes. MONEY ISN'T EVERYTHING! That's protecting and provisioning are just as important. If I kill a Buffalo is she going to be able to knit us some warm. People have gotten to use to what society has become and don't realize that it can all be taken with one huge dispute. Especially in today's climate.

[@King-ns7it]

And the Bible says it will be taking away, and we see it everyday

[@AaronStarks]

Women tell on themselves all the time. FIRST thing out of her mouth is money. Basically admitting that THE primary thing women like her want from men is access to their money. It's more important than anything. So if she has money, she doesn't need to respect a man that has less money. And these type of women are always the ones complaining about lack of good men.

[@PrinceInawRakah]

Bro when we speak to women we have to understand that we’re to talking to them, and to the lies they’ve told themselves for an undisclosed amount of time.. so you’re conversing with 2 ppl who may disagree, not just 1 woman..

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

Women care about 1. Your physical attractiveness + masculine behavioural traits. This is early on from puberty to 30. 2. How much money you can make so they don’t have to work. That’s it.

[@Cahluvca]

In this system is mostly about selfishness not family...feminist aren't about being a helpmeet

[@malikaustin9087]

Most women are not WIVES and especially in our community love BW but it izz what it izz. Broken Family Structure

[@phillipwilliams7679]

I have heard on the Internet and personally have spoken to a lot of women over my lifetime. Very rarely have I met or spoken to or heard a woman answer questions and give more than just her answers. Time stamp 18:29,... You went from logic to fantasy to your version of interpretation of a whole continent culture. God-bless your husband.

[@rohanstadhard9267]

It's sad that most of these modern women equate submission with money. And most of these modern women are not sleeping with guys that makes as much money as they do

[@biggmixxo]

It's from the lack of God. When u put money 1st, u will never b happy

[@King-ns7it]

And love to quote the Bible and talk vows. Show me where God says submit to your husband based on how much and what he has? Ask this same question, if wives don't give it up when he wants it, does that mean he has the right to get it elsewhere? See how crazy that sounds? 🤣🤣

[@malikaustin9087]

@@biggmixxoCHURCH!

[@kreativeforce532]

19:59 No, women aren't forced to walk away from the relationship after her actions cause the man to check out mentally. (a situation she was the catalyst for ergo she is at fault for wrecking her home). Women COULD choose to check out like men do since women are interested in doing everything else men do. They don't do that though because it would not be financially, nor socially advantageous to her to stay married for life as promised. The other course of action is that women could CHECK IN with the man to initiate repairs especially if she caused the initial damage. Sometimes its some outside stuff that has him checking out i.e. work, family issues, quantum theory, etc. So its still smart on her part to check in (like pre-welfare wives did).

[@deepeyton]

I had with what she said at the 4:12 mark….Home is supposed to be a sanctuary ants safe haven… it’s harder to focus on a mission when your home life is in shambles

[@kreativeforce532]

24:15 the women don't "find a way to take care of themselves." The state takes care of them via the safety net of welfare & housing, and the white society has earmarked jobs specifically for BW. So a sista can walk in off the street and be a middle school drop-out but still make min wage-$17 an hr (depending on area). Then with a small bit of application in certifications & night school move up to a $36 an hr job sitting on her backside i.e. in-house over night CNA. There is NOTHING like that for BM. Our housing welfare and employment are all prison/ slave labor for pennies. Those that did apply ourselves & stay out the trap get resumes torn up by prospective mid-high level employers or told flat out "you couldn't have graduated from there. these n****s are up to all sort of new tricks". our parents did us dirty by hyperfocusing on $ success and disdaining social development, black unity outside the family and mate vetting. They treated children like a ticket out of poverty, a 🏆. instead of as human beings who will extend the family. We need those interpersonal skills for ubuntu.

[@StriderXan]

My thoughts exactly. You don’t look at the result to justify whether someone did a good job or put in the work, you review the journey. Women have money because the state coddles them until death, especially black women to make them feel empowered.

[@chasehlee7197]

How pissed would women be if a man said “I can cook and clean so I don’t need a woman”. She would say that there is more to bring a woman than just cooking and cleaning. As long as a man is expected to die for the family then he should be given the most reverence. Also she said she doesn’t see a lot of bum women. They find a way to take care of themselves. And her example of a bum man is driving his woman’s car. Part of women “taking care of themselves” is finding a man to take care of them. If she is driving his car then she is still recognized as taking car of herself.

[@Ben-Ken]

So many women like her believe that women are earning more now so men need to "step up" and double their own income. The fatal flaw in that logic is that if most men went from $60k to $120k, $120k becomes the new average so women will then demand the men that earn much more than that. It's all relative.

[@deaundrecummings3469]

This woman will be single for a very long time

[@malikaustin9087]

She talks nice but her MVP are off

[@Brookyo222]

Also, I keep hearing about all these high salaries, but what do we do with the money, we still come up BROKE and in DEBT when we cannot work these jobs, or our health fails. No one talks about this is the problem.

[@dizruptivemindz]

Men have learned to suffer in silence. I don't know if it is taught or just observed by older men before them, however I know it is done. So yes women file divorce more. Men just tough it out.

[@unreasonabledoubt165]

I don’t this it’s suffering in silence, I think it’s realizing things aren’t sweet as we were told growing up and leaving them alone 😂I know understand that quiet oldhead that plays his role and minds his business.

[@Cahluvca]

Running to break up families does damage. Silent generation that had those long unions went through rough seas...we aren't built for that anymore imo

[@gummislayer1969]

Wowser. Sweetie...if bruh-man makes $500k a year...I can guarantee he ain't checking for you. 🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️ It's NOT bout "Blackman catch up". If you want your "equal" ladies, you have to COMPLETELY blow his mind by what HE sees. See, I REALLY think most women NEVER entertain the thought of "how EXACTLY is HE viewing me". The host said it best: the secretary has got a better shot at having the HVM than you do. NOT because you're "less than" him. On the contrary. He had to fight like hell to get to the top - WHY IN THE HELL WOULD HE WANNA COME HOME TO YET ANOTHER CHALLENGE? Ladies, listen: he's NOT intimidated by your success. MOST of the time (quite frankly) he's avoiding the the masculine personality that comes with YOUR success. You usually can't turn that on & off without impunity, dearies. You're at the top of your game. So is he. But, unfortunately...just like 95-98% of men that make less than you that are provebally "invisible", so do you become when he's making $500k. 🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️ Better hire a dynamite match maker, Ladies ...🤴🏾❤️🙏

[@malikaustin9087]

Church!

[@rasronin]

No marriage is for smart, cooperative and grown women.

[@dontrebiggins4052]

Wow. I’ve asked this question. Is our culture even one that supports monogamous relationships; The ideal family structure?

[@footworkfighttalk163]

The things a man does to make 100k+ annually can translate much easier to being a better man/husband. The same can’t really be said about women. They’re usually good wives in spite of having demanding careers

[@phillipwilliams7679]

Time stamp 20:20. Very enlightening in your heritage and where you reside compared to the answers that you actually give which are your honest answers

[@mraaron6924]

Duty honor respect real love comes later you build it like your house

[@jaystew7045]

I'm only 3 mins into it and I just wanna say MAKING money and MANAGING money are 2 completely different things. So just because a woman makes more doesn't mean she still shouldn't be submissive to a man who makes less

[@malikaustin9087]

#BRILLIANT!

[@SL-fx9bp]

She needs to be obedient. I don’t care how much she makes.

[@malikaustin9087]

CHURCH!

[@Dwyr15]

Most don't get it. 200k....all about money. I get the sense women only want a house and a luxury car. Choose to do better and grow together with someone who gives you more choices. Life happens and when life happens who will be there for you.

[@megamarcx84]

I don't really think there is a legitimate alternate context you can glean from women leaving more often..All it proves is that men value the institution of marriage over their own happiness, much more so than women. Women value their happiness over every obligation of marriage and often that of motherhood, independent of the proven consequences.

[@amakadius75]

She brought a lot to the table and I have witnessed first hand the Haitian aspect of males being spoiled. Even in the USA.

[@cojo941]

Are we going to skip the fact that the average man still makes more money than the average woman? And why are we using a “woman who makes $200k/yr to frame a conversation about the topic of submission?

[@silentlamont]

Because it allows for you to not have to address the really harsh it's the really harsh and inconvenient truths.

[@Cahluvca]

2% I say again....2% of black millennials make 100k or over! If this isn't the most delusional era....

[@OthoWilliamsJr]

Interesting.... I thought she wasn't go be Echo Chamber of Mentality about Black Men versus what ever. Seem as Black Women, from African to Amerikkkan THINKS less of Black Amerikkkan Men such as her. ANd equating Money once again to SUBmission. Good interview

[@Cahluvca]

American history already emasculated BM..if one has a feminist mindset best believe she doesn't respect BM

[@cedricbost4478]

Great point with the men checking out in a marriage but the biggest reason for divorce is finances. That tells you that yes women are in fact waking up and leaving marriages. we have the information about when a woman starts making more divorce is on the horizon. In fact earlier in the interview you stated how useless women find men who make less than them.

[@najumabirthing]

This was an excellent segment especially towards the end. It definitely shed light into our condition as a ppl across the diaspora. Thank you

[@bezglover]

I heard the feminist thinking throughout the conversation but it came to a head at end when she said that women were more responsible than men. She used examples of male homelessness and women’s ability to find money/employment. I understand that this comes from her perspective and circle of influence but this was really misandrist. Women have shelters, social services, and simp dudes who are their safety nets and that’s the ones without children. It is east to look responsible when you have systems to prevent you from falling in the first place

[@malikaustin9087]

King TALK THAT TALK! They need to go with Massa AKA Zaddy!

[@thespiderman630]

Only the black woman would equate money with how much she should submit to a man. You don’t see this with no other woman except the black woman. That’s why we have the lowest marriage rates. If a black man is making more than a woman she will submit with no problem… But if a woman makes more than a man, the man has the damn near be a superhero in order for her to submit.

[@91zulu]

See this Is why the great KS is going to remain the GOAT. I think Alan is out of his league with some of these topics. KS would have explained why the black woman should still submit to her man even if she out earn him and he would have done it in a way only he can and left her speechless. Number one if she married a man that made less than her , all that means is she got who she QUALIFIED FOR and it has nothing to do with her gadam money. Black woman if you are a 4 making 200k a year you qualify for a 4 man. Count yourself lucky if a 5 man pick you.

[@rwwdzzm5608]

I understand the premise but a woman would have to be a bucking idiot to allow a man to take over the finances who can’t generate them….. Just saying

[@Juntao1989]

FACTS THOOOOO

[@91zulu]

Yea especially if she's a 4, the size of a NFL line backer. She don't have the luxury of being picky. These females got some darn nerves..

[@rwwdzzm5608]

@@91zulu of course they do…..anyone can be picky you just have to except the consequences of your choices some are willing……just saying

[@91zulu]

@@rwwdzzm5608 and that's the problem. For them they want only great/ fantastic outcomes and all glory. Nothing bad is acceptable or it's someone else fault, never theirs.

[@Demiedren]

She completely neglected the abundance of resources available to women to keep them in a house, off the street, and fed. Women aren't more responsible. They're actually worse if they actually allowed them to fail like they do men.

[@formerjzm]

Thing is if she was making 200k and she did get with a 500k making man...that's 700k if they combined their income..

[@curtiswesley3261]

If she makes 200k a year, she's not married to guy making 60. She doesn't even see that man. More than likely she's not married at all. Submission isn't even the discussion.

[@221blu7]

Submit - Accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or will of another person. Submission is simply the act of submitting. I think we need to change how this game is played and act on a case by case basis and quit with the generalizations. It's not all about finances, it comes down to overall balance. If a man is making less and working less than the woman, that man should also be willing to do what it takes to take care of the household as a whole as well, even if that means absorbing some "domestic" duties. The woman in that situation needs to understand that making more does not mean she's absolved from doing anything, but to balance home life out, she needs to still accomplish some domestic duties in proportion to the available time. Relationships are partnerships controlling the house. Do what's right for the house and stop caring what your guys or your girls think about the particulars of your partnership.

[@greeneyes7392]

She would be a fantastic used car salesman

[@malikaustin9087]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tuxedo38114]

Women just don’t want to accept the truth about men. Your degree, money, and car don’t make any difference in if you get chosen.

[@King-ns7it]

@crosstudio they don't even make 41, they make 35k

[@thegreattreon0177]

Man there hadn't been not one busted chick on this show! All of them have been absolutely beautiful!

[@bhillboy37]

I humbly disagree...imo

[@tyquandoe3490]

I've been married for 23 years... you got to be what you don't see.

[@j.baldwin3012]

The 200k woman doesn't have to submit to the 60k man. The 60k man will just choose from the tons of 40k and 50k women and the 200k women will be alone. Also, that goes for men of all races because men of all races make under 60k on average.

[@roshownmcleod7593]

Submitting to a man is respecting him. How much money a woman makes is not a factor in submission. The world being civilized by men have given women a false sense of strength. If you remove the training wheels from the world we would get a reset!

[@deondricksteen4606]

Bruh 80% is too fucking big of a number to try to tell us that it's more complicated than that.

[@Demiedren]

So men are only how much money we make. That's your modern woman right there

[@bridgettedenise]

Say no to struggle love

[@josephpujoe2306]

The problem isn't so much a lack of respect for Marriage as it is a lack of understanding,respect and submission to he who created it. Almighty God. His ways are not traditional, traditions with society can change; No,The ways and the words of the Most High God are like him, Eternal. Since he will never change, neither will his ways and word nor the effects of following them(blessings) or not(curses).

[@Ghragle-]

Only black women equate our manhood to our wallets. A provider is a mentality. Also a woman who wants that type of man Carrie’s herself a certain way. How can I give you the title and duty of wife, if you don’t have the characteristics of a wife

[@tyquandoe3490]

Women are so ignorant and don't get the rationality. Even if she makes 200k and he makes 60k, they will destroy their home with a combined income of 260k for a short term win (happiness) and a long term loss (legacy). She has more costs to carry the full financial load for one household and will take 50% of his income to break even. Thus destroying his ability to build a future for his family and both of their ability to build a legacy to leave something behind for their kids.

[@delvinking5151]

I was annoyed when she said *women are more likely to find away there are bum women but it's not top of mind, you see more men homeless and driving other womena cars..... well the thing is, ma'am, for one women are more comfortable and successful with getting help from both men and women instead of having to do it all on their own as men are charged to do... and furthermore if you see a woman without her own home or driving mens cars.... you dont consider her a bum... it amazes me how hard that is for women to see. But then again the same black women who get their entertainment expenses suplemented every weekend men also judge said men for not having passports or going on as many vacations as they do... if black men weren't spending all their money courting American women all the time they'd probably have money to get passports and go to Thailand and brasil and🤔 oh wait...🤨

[@michealmajor7883]

Ok so she just completely ignored how society is built around bailing women out of bad decisions. Instead of saying that she says that women are more responsible smh no ma’am. If men f up the result is being homeless. For women, they can go stay with relatives or someone will save them especially the government.

[@GB2139]

All these women are interviewed on this show capped for clout ,, don’t by them ,, they agreed for show !☹️👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽

[@swellscity5792]

Lol Can she define submission 😂😂 don't tell her your point yet let her expond on hers and then break it down to the general addect of submissive 🤷🏿‍♂️🤷🏿‍♂️

[@georgeadeyemi4107]

Smh

[@monkeybrown5884]

Why don’t all said I’ll follow the Bible when I want and ignore the Bible as I see fit.

[@alldaylong3331]

She fights so justify women just didn't work

[@angelawashington9821]

Unfortunately there are FUNDAMENTAL ISSUES other than what you talk about in this video that have a MAJOR BASIC IMPACT on the SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE OF BLACK MEN AND WOMEN!!!🧐

[@MrBblank05]

🗑️

[@deondricksteen4606]

They are neglected not coddled stop this lie that they are loved so much more. They teach their daughter not their sons. And again most men make more and are single!!!!

[@bigsteve3530]

She needs to layoff of the makeup. She could be a beautiful woman but she out here staining pillow cases with all of that crap on her face.

[@crosses101]

24:20 Now u're being disingenuous, if we share the same trait regardless of location and denomination, I wouldn't blame that on colonialism, I'd just say that's an inherent characteristic. Stop blaming everything on the White Man🤦🏾‍♂️

[@Kiss_To_Da_Sky]

Na man da white man PLAN worked, we are so divided. I agree we can’t blame everything on them, but how we fight each other their plan is still working.

[@crosses101]

@@Kiss_To_Da_Sky My friend u give White men too much credit. They're not even remotely as smart as u make them out to be. If we start holding ourselves accountable, we would swiftly make the necessary changes and assemble the necessary power we need.

[@Kiss_To_Da_Sky]

@crosses101 not giving them more credit, just saying that their plan to destroy us is working. An you are absolutely correct we need to be more accountable and responsible for our choices and actions. Black America keep the “white man plans” alive when we keep fighting amongst ourselves. We can’t blame them for everything but I do blame them for implementing their social experiment on us. But you right fam 💯

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

@@crosses101 I say this all the time. People need to drop inferiority complex, white guys aren’t nearly as smart as they make it out to be

[@crosses101]

@@Kiss_To_Da_Sky I don't know if their is a "plan per say however as a black man from the Caribbean who has live in the US for the past 5yrs, I can't say I've see a plan that I can refer to. The welfare thing is abused by whites and other races just as much so that can't be it, however I will say the prevalence of it is overrepresented in Black America. I limit my critiquing to just accountability and also the victim mindset because I wasn't born here so I can't say how that would have influence my psyche growing up in a white dominated society. However I will say those are choices and we can all choose to be better regardless of the White Man's wishes. The White Man needs our permission and cooperation in order to oppress us.

[@robchurch881]

This woman is making a very invalid argument. For one, very few women make 200k a year. Second, if a woman does make that, she would very rarely if ever marry a man making less. Lastly, a woman making that type of money, typically will not have what it takes to get a man who does make more. What I am saying is backed up by the fact that there are literally thousands of women who became successful and then divorced the man they had because she felt he was no longer on her level and this is backed up by the divorce statistics. I make 300k a year and I am very fit. I would never date the woman in this video as she is too overweight for my taste. Women always assume that when they make more money, it makes them appealing to a man who makes more than them. I man making 400 to 500k a year or even a man making what I make, does not need any more money and if I did, I would simply work a bit harder and make more. A woman making 200k a year does not appeal to me at all if she does not look and act like what I want. Why would it? Now, a woman making 200k a year would be appealing to a man who makes 50k a year because he thinks he would have access to that money. Anytime I have ever seen this type of dynamic, the woman never allows the man access to the money.

[@batgirlp5561]

I think the interviewer was trying to say the same thing when he told her the secretary has a better chance of getting the owner of the law firm. At his level he doesn't want a masculine out of shape woman and doesn't have to settle.

[@robchurch881]

@@batgirlp5561 thank you and I began writing my response as the video was playing. I do understand why women think that if they make more money, that would appeal to a man, because that is what appeals to most women. There is also absolutely nothing wrong with that. While men who don't make a lot of money get upset with this fact, they really don't understand the foundation behind it. Women are genetically hardwired to search out the best man to provide for their children. At one time, that would have been the biggest and strongest man. As generations went on and we developed currency, it turned into who made the most money. Men are genetically hardwired to search out the woman that would be best to produce children. So we seek out what we consider the best shape of a woman. There is also nothing wrong with that. In society, there are levels on each side. The man who is not the top provider can't expect to get the woman that is the top breeder in the tribe. The top provider is also not going to pick the woman that is not in the top of her category. I am a provider male. Most women do not realize that a provider male, actually enjoys taking care of a woman and children. I feel joy in the fact that I can do it very well. As a matter of fact, I feel like something is missing when I am not providing for someone. My woman is very sweet and often tells me that she feels like she doesn't do enough for me. I honestly have to reassure her that she owes me nothing for the life I provide and that I enjoy doing it probably as much as she enjoys having it done. I will say, the fact that she appreciates me and shows it so much is a refreshing bonus. Even though I was in the top 5 percent of income earners, my ex wife told me that i didn't do anything special and that's just what men are supposed to do. She told me many times there is absolutely nothing special about me. That's ok, she is now homeless and a bit upset because I refused when she begged to come back. Anyways thanks for the response.

[@batgirlp5561]

@@robchurch881 I hope I didn't sound disagreeable. That was not my intention.

[@robchurch881]

@@batgirlp5561 note, not at all, I appreciate that you can see the truth of things. Many people, both men and women, can't.

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

@@robchurch881 you said your ex wife is HOMELESS? Damn. Did you divorce or her??? And how did you end up with a woman like that to begin with, respectfully??

[@monkeybrown5884]

Because of your money you cannot submit. Jezabelle didn’t submitted. God killed her husband for her sin. What you fail to understand is that, your husband will be hold countable for your actions when you and him stand before God

[@nicobellic7469]

Easy you both make 260k a year it's a addon u don't have

[@biggmixxo]

She doesn't value that

[@marcel3942]

This women has no idea about black American people

[@clintonwizard]

How can she comment on Black Americans while being a Haitian living in Canada. This is why pan africanism is forever dead, the diaspora constantly feels the need to attack BA.