Is Marriage Like Dating - Reminder - Nouman Ali Khan

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[@TheJ9966]

This man is genuis. His perspective, his interpretation and correlation is fantastic . He explains the verse of Quran word by word through reestablishing them back to the infinitive.

[@sihintas5336]

+Jamal Mohammed couldn't agree more! He has so much heart in his speeches too, they are very touching!

[@085051]

worry your obligation, forget your rights. and don`t expect anything because you will be more grateful. this made my morning. :)

[@fasilatsanusi7431]

When husband and wife truly love each other their union will be successful and rewarded

[@audreyadams9498]

Islam seems like a fair religion hmmm

[@libaax6091]

If you ever have a question r anything like that , feel free to ask if allah wills me to answer i will be happy too

[@nooral4315]

IT IS

[@FahadHasanMubdi]

Audrey Adams Believe It Or Not Islam Gives Women Respect More Then A Queen ^_^

[@Eugenepanels]

it is the fairest among all i am all about being fair

[@ilyasmohammadrahman9206]

Audrey Adams I am not sure,is this sarcasm or an honest statement?

[@mollysandera991]

"If you expect something from the creation you will be disappointed" Then all you do is not expecting lol

[@mollysandera991]

also what is the verse he said regards to that?

[@strangestranger8532]

Expect only from lord of the world, if only u believe 😌☝️

[@strangestranger8532]

And what to expect is a life with no hardship ,no pain for daily life struggle, no death or ageing or weakness, only happiness..

[@strangestranger8532]

Read Surah Al Ghasshiya

[@Chandtaraschapter]

Gosh i so wanna get married now after watching this

[@Stratford_Dawah]

@Fatima Idrees marry me im also looking to get married

[@racing_mntage1584]

@@Stratford_Dawah bruh...

[@hafinada979]

@@Stratford_Dawah 😷😷😷😂😂😂

[@crimson8076]

@@Stratford_Dawah bruh

[@o0LARCenCiel]

"You see this point number 4? You've been missing out on it for 6months!" HAHAHA, this man is brilliant.

[@JAHANGIRKHAN-yc7bl]

Mashaa Allah... I Love brother Nouman Ali Khan... May Allah Bless Him. And Jazak Allah for such a nice video

[@balqeesrehman4091]

Alhamdulilah, Islam is the best way of life!

[@ranyareed2363]

people are selfish because society is selfish....We are taught by society that we have to care for ourselves because no one will care for us...Everybody thinks about how to make him or herself happy and how to get the things we want, but others aren't important...thats capitalism, the basis of nearly every country in this world

[@crawlingboy]

Ranya Reed Except a true Islamic country were we all are brothers and sisters

[@ibrahimsiali2419]

To be an honest Muslim, you were wrong when you said capitalism. Delusional atheistic communistic societies never served God.

[@rehmasaad1652]

@@ibrahimsiali2419 sahih, bro

[@hasanbinnaseer.official]

Masha'Allah its truly inspirational!

[@ismaeel747]

Thank you a good reminder, see it's possible to have good reminders with a powerful message and keep people engaged without voices edited to sound like musical instruments. May allah make it easy for you to keep up the good work.

[@realonly4703]

ismaeel747 Your comment is on point brother may Allah bless you جزاك الله خيرا

[@annisaramita7597]

"Hasbunallah wani'mal wakil" ( details Ali imron 3:173 ) this mean Only Allah enough for me, only Allah enough for me, he will guide me, help me, taking care of me, give me a clue ,give me rizqi (money, living etc), give me anything that i need, he will comfort me, knowing me confuse, scare , help my family and give me solution... When you hope from human... something will be ruin... When you love something to much.... something will be ruin... i only hope Allah swt. I love Allah swt. "Hasbunallah wani'mal wakil".... Subhanallah... i get great Husband and now i get preagnant... i pray together with him... study Al quran together... he also actually before my College friend... we study together... so... we talk about ikhtiar dunnya together... and Akhirat together... Hope Allah swt always bless us ... Al - Fatehah.. Hasbunallah wani'mal wakil- Syukron Ya Allah swt... Alhamdulillah...

[@Les-recettes-de-meli]

This video really made me laugh haha thank you cheikh! I'll share it with my friends :Dd

[@crispykool19]

Ma sha Allah this advice is so amazing, that I put this vid on 'watch later' list! In sha Allah when getting married, will listen to this again :)

[@lackyismail9332]

Wow well said mashaallah. Single brothers and sisters need to liste to this lecture.

[@pashtunzzz]

Jazakalakhairr this is very helpful talk, may allah make us among the rightoues ummah ameen

[@khfir6209]

1:25 I think he said "Chores" not "Shores"

[@bellaseba8664]

And now i dont expect anything with creation. I only expect with God. Because my husband leaves me alone. I'm very disappointed.

[@ismailshaikh7717]

Nice Speech , Jazak Allah khayr Brother :)

[@Yoemer94]

JazzakAllah Khairan for uploading, May Allah forgive us all and grant us all Jannatul-Firdaus. Ameen

[@syncronox]

I disagree that you should consider attraction in marriage. It shouldnt be the only thing to look for but it should be one of the factors..If you are not attracted to your spouse, that paves the way for infidelity. Of course marry a practicing muslim but you should like who you marry. There are many many unhappy marriages I can think of when attraction was not even considered in choosing the spouse. Im probably gonna get slammed for this but this is my 2 cents.

[@maz4488]

It is meant to be one of the factors.

[@Dialahh]

You are right. That's why the prophet (SAW) said there are four factors you should consider when getting married and one of them was beauty. He said the most important one though, is her level of piety.

[@hisham32sp]

Very good advice. Any reference from 5:00 mins regards about the believers should expect from Allah SWT and expecting from the creation.

[@princehans8541]

I want to start making money "first" before I bring a woman into my life and take care of her. That's what I was thought

[@SHAULYISRAEL]

All Praises Are Due Unto Allah! (Those whom seek a wife are well advised to seek the will and way of Allah whom provides all good things for his people. And those whom seek a husband are well advised to seek the mind and way of Allah whom provides good and perfect things from his hand.)

[@SHAULYISRAEL]

Allah is the Supreme Creator. Follow the truth of Allah and reject your false way called Christianity or be eternally damned.

[@SHAULYISRAEL]

Follow truth of Allah

[@SHAULYISRAEL]

You are on you way to hell for rejecting the Most High Allah.

[@SHAULYISRAEL]

Blasphemer and wicked soul! Only a foolish and ignorant Christian would denounce the One True Allah whom is Sovereign over all life and whom grants and takes life whenever he pleases. A fool such as you filthy Christian would say such hateful things against the One True Allah. I pity your soul filthy Christian.

[@SHAULYISRAEL]

No, Satan is the god of your world and the god of your religion called Christianity for this cause you will end up in hell with him unless you renounce Christianity and follow the One True Allah.

[@maryamfirdaus7776]

Really nice. Opened my eyes about the topic.

[@abutafawa]

MashaAllah,May Allah bless you always Ameen!

[@OnderHassan]

The Wisdom of Allah is so remarkable. I recently learned something about brain chemicals that creates love and bonding between people, which completely proves the things Allah is saying. The more you invest in someone or something, the more oxytocin that gets released in the brain, which creates love and compassion. Simply seeking pleasure releases dopamine, which over time creates desensitivity and boredom. Which is why Allah is saying to not seek your wife for pleasure, but to give. Because this is what builds real love between husband and wife... Subhan’Allah

[@secureboundaries]

Beautiful! Thank you for the reminder. Although it is so hard like you said people are selfish these days.

[@Panther7X]

Alhamdulillah... Iya, very fair way of life....

[@BenjouriNadine]

Extremely crucial points for those who want to get/already married.jazakAllahu khayr Ustaz NAK.

[@CoNdusTo]

MashaAllah.. God bless you.. Your videos are very inspiring to me.. Thanks.. :)

[@ummuomama1080]

Jazaakallahu khairan i Really Enjoyed listening May Allah guide us Allahumma Amin

[@user-sr914]

Wow mashaALLAH thank u for that lesson

[@gazalasiddiqui1338]

Just wonder how best ummah we can be if implement what he said... Just remember your obligations and forget your rights : for indeed IF everyone does their role honestly no one's right would be violated

[@soldierofallah2147]

Assalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu! This video really makes SENSE!

[@TheJacko8887]

May Allah will reward you for sharing these with us.

[@FarheenSarfaraz]

this video is so clear. thank you

[@KR-th1si]

Also I think meeting each other‘s needs sounds better than having to take care of your obligations, meeting your obligations sounds like a utility bill you must pay or else etc etc

[@marouabenlahbib5532]

What an amazing video!! Thank u Brother Nouman Ali Khan for these advices.. They are useful for the couples and for those who are going to marry!! I'm going to use them for my marriage Inshalah and I'll send the link of this video to my fiancee :) Alhamdulilah because we are muslims and Alhamdulilah I have got ana amazing futural husbend that deserve all my love and my respect

[@LesHistoiresdeReiji]

Nice vidéo :)

[@irfantahsin1596]

Thanks brother Nouman

[@aizamir6581]

Such a good remindet

[@parvezkhan2672]

JazakAllahu khairan

[@sahaamabdullahi2717]

Masha Allah

[@abdullahdehrab3028]

unhappy marriage > committing zina , as a young single man I do want and will marry for "hormonal" reasons. as for not been happy, happiness comes from self. I know that no women ( no Girlfriend, no wife and not even a prostitute ) can make you happy only you can be happy that is why the prophet pbuh told the young men to get married early if they have the dowry ( I know todays dowry is a bit expensive but that's the price of todays women for marriage, if you want to marry deal it with ...) if they don't have the monaaah then they should fast. happiness is a luxury not everyone is entitled for.

جزاك الله خير ما شاء الله

[@51Saffron]

My husband's family are Mormons. They get married young because they are hormonal. They do not believe in premarital sex and they need to get married in the temple. They do make the most of their marriages though and seem to have loads of kids.

[@crawlingboy]

51Saffron Islam also says have lots of kids

[@freestyler5582]

Affan Sami Affan Sami I am muslim alhadulillah, I have one child alhamdulillah. My wife cannot give birth, but we are still happy alhamdulillah. Allah is enough for us.

[@thatgirlsahar]

perfect ماشاء اللہ

[@Amatullah0924]

MashaAllah.

[@4kislam526]

Thanks.

[@usheraliraymond8963]

beacause I love ali he is going to choose my life

[@imaanamod1299]

Suhanallah.♾

[@JustAnotherMuslim1]

MashAllah

[@FireyOne]

Which lecture is this from?

[@haleemabibi9885]

thank you so soso much

[@cricketkajunoon]

How about if one wants to get married primitively because its Sunnah and also because you don't want to fall into something haram!

[@bla7bla7bla74]

That's a good reason to get married, in fact that's why we are encouraged to get married young. However, I think that Nouman's message is to understand the reality of marriage. Understand that marriage isn't just sunshine and happiness and passion, but it comes with responsibility and obligations and we need to have mature mindsets when going into marriage so we understand what we are getting into.

[@cricketkajunoon]

Thanks brother. Your answer is much appreciated. I know that It's about responsibility and appreciation and trust and I understand it very well Alhumdulillah. I may not be settled financially but I sure am a responsible person. With my raging hormones day by day and western society is making it even harder for me to stay firm on my eman, and this is why I also want to be married. Is that a legit reason for it?

[@bla7bla7bla74]

Hahah, actually it's sister, but no problem. Actually I remember seeing Brother Nouman giving a speech at a conference on which he talks about marriage, it was a very good talk mashallah, you should check it out. Search up "The Jahaliyya of Matrimonials" on youtube and it's the first video that appears. That video will probably give much better advice than I could ever give as he actually says that he was once in a similar situation as you (and he did get married at that time because his wife's parents were sure of his iman). May Allah guide you.

[@cricketkajunoon]

AY Hagar Sorry for the confusion sister. I never expected a response from a sister on such issue. Your first name is initialed that's why I assumed that the person is a brother. Anyway, I watched that video on your recommendation and was very beneficial though it didn't answer what am I trying to ask. In his another video, NAK said that youth who want to get married because of their hormones most likely will have a devastating marriage life. Yes, I understand that marriage isn't just about being intimate but has to do with loving each by heart along with other obligations you mentioned. What am I confused about is that does it apply on my as well because I want to get married because of my hormones? Is it still a legitimate reason to wish for marriage? I am engaged alhumdulillah and doesn't seem to be getting married soon but I will In-sha-Allah eventually. But living in USA where shameless is available and accessible easily making my life even hard, if you know what am I trying to say? I just feel embarrass all the time when I think about marriage because I think of it as being intimate with my wife not as just the blessings from ALLAH subhanahutala. Or do all guys think such way? Yes, part of it is completing the half deen which is Sunnah but its bothers me a lot when I think of marriage not the way I should be. If you or anyone else can help me with the situation I am going through, may Allah give you reward for that In-sha-Allah. Jazakillahu Khyran

[@bla7bla7bla74]

Sorry for not answering your question properly. Please take whatever I say cautiously though because I'm not the most knowledgable person on this subject. The way I understand it and how I've heard it from many talks and such, it's okay to marry because your hormones are raging. That is why the the Prophet (peace be upon him) says to get married early, it allows us to not fall into the haram. However, on the other hand what many sheikhs advise against is to marry SOLEY because your hormones are raging. You need to be a man of good iman and character because Allah subhanautala promises in the Qur'an that good women are for good men and vice versa, while bad women are for bad men. Now if you've got the iman issue settled, then what are you worrying about brother? If you have heard that marriage is not only about intimate relations with your wife all you need to do is remind yourself that marriage won't be easy and of the other aspects of it. Don't beat yourself up for not understanding since you aren't married yet and don't have experience. Even I'm not married yet and I have absolutely no idea what I will be going through, all the knowledge I have is secondhand information. I would suggest talking to a sheikh at the local masjid and anyone you know who is married (friends, close relatives, etc.) and ask them about the realities of marriage and if you have the right mindset. Alhamdullilah on your enagagement and may Allah guide you.

[@pamtri256]

Good video

[@sanahawan]

Everyone besides Allah(swt) will disappoint your expectations.....Believer expects only from Allah (swt)...!Deep points......!

[@sohahameed4024]

Jazakallah hu khair

[@shashi1441]

Ert

[@zazoman1992]

Good talk

[@nurcidaaustria3956]

Mashaallah..what a nice topic..if a wife does not love her husband,is she commiting a sin for that?

[@sheerajzakir]

She should practice to give love to husband.

[@saninakakana6931]

A woman that doesn't love her husband isn't commiting a sin. It's recommended that she does love him, and she should before marrying him. But if she falls out of love with him, it's better for her to remain patient with him and pray that Allah instills his love in her heart, for Allah prefers for the marriage union to remain intact. One of the ways through which marriage remains intact is if both spouses remain in love with each other even if it isn't as strong as it was originally. A loveless marriage can easily spiral towards divorce, which is generally disliked except in some cases such as abuse, major sin and disbelief. May Allah protect our halal relationships. Amin.

[@لاإلهإلاالله-ح5ف7ص]

ما شاء الله

[@mrhani1]

"The Believer expects from his lord, Allah SWT." Everyone besides Allah SWT will disappoint your expectations.

[@sarahnovella4971]

can I have the full video?

[@yatinsakura9591]

i meet u sheikh

[@davejorsh9204]

I really do prefer dating over marriage for several reasons I can go with anyone I want, having with my own lover kissing each other, sleeping with each other........... otherwise in marriage I'm so limited I can't do all of this with my lover ( and certainly in Islam ) and I can go to jail, or we can double cross ( breakups ) each other, or fight............. so I don't want to get into trouble and in another hand in dating I can go and chose every person I want to and if I breakup with my cruch I can find another one and love someone else beside it's fun and better trust me I rather stay alone than marry and gets into trouble so what you guys think if I'm wrong correct me please thank you for reading

[@aroundworldnews]

ت

[@realitybeckons4120]

you can never attain contentment and peace like this...maybe

[@fatimah.a7440]

I understand wat u say but this way u will never be content. Whe u marry someone u will have a lover a friend a person to console u wen ur sad a person you confide ur secrets to.I personally find this kind of companionship very beautiful.I also believe that if u marry a woman u become complete coz she is ur rib like u know how a rib from Adam was used to create Eve/Hawa.This is my advice but the cgoice is yours

[@fairooznawal5161]

What you are saying is not love it's lust, love demands sacrifice , if you can't do that you are only lusting.. Lust is haram and forbidden in our religion

[@fatimah.a7440]

@@fairooznawal5161 thats exactly wat i meant

[@KR-th1si]

I think it should be the same in both persons , and communicate so you don’t feel like is a sacrifice , they way he’s describing I wouldn’t wanna marry either , I don’t think is this way now , not in America with normal common sense human being...

[@freestyler5582]

Kat Botts Yeah.. if he was a white guy, of course you would be less biased and say “makes sense”, probably follow him. But on the other side I know it is hard to hear the guidance from a brown guy.

[@alioramus1637]

First you said if you only wanna get your desires out then don't get married. And if someone is about to commit zina the advice given is get married. Please explain this to me because i don't understand

[@khankhan-zs5vy]

he means that of you only want to get married for sexual desires then don't get married.because in 6 months or down the road you will not find your wife sexually attractive and then the marriage will fall apart. he is talking about the intention for marriage .your intention for marriage should be to pleasa Allah and find a partner who will bring you closer to Allah.because marriages based on sexual desires and lust does not last for long time.

[@giverespectgetrespect1037]

@@khankhan-zs5vy but that's why we get married right for sexual desires. but wouldn't u agree that it's possible to marry bevause you want to please Allah and do it because your hormones are raging. I don't want to fall into zina but if I have to marry to stay away than so be it.

[@brandonpou6447]

Allahu Akbar:)))

[@suhainasanoferak1387]

Can you please link the original full video of this lecture ??

[@assajdah8281]

👍

[@atokbelumganyut]

.can someone tell me the verses of quran he used in this video? thanks you :)

[@damdama2001]

*chores, not 'shores'😑

[@PiyaAbhaylovers]

if muslims wana date y dont they leave islam den && be committed to marriage its beautiful! (: ma shallah

[@maz4488]

Are you really encouraging people to leave Islam? 😳

[@fyali1632]

Mazzy Ali She means that dating and Islam is a contradiction,like oil and water

[@maz4488]

Well obviously, but everyone sins.

[@zaireenismael1742]

the one who demands is and was played by all NINA RA AH and you my lord and your fellow men weakened me and the rest of all the last breed of LIONS..

[@JAHANGIRKHAN-yc7bl]

Mashaa Allah... I Love brother Nouman Ali Khan... May Allah Bless Him. And Jazak Allah for such a nice video

[@roomanaahmed4031]

Masha allah

[@aizamir6581]

Such a good remindet