Is Masturbation a MORTAL SIN?

[@Titan_640]

I’m 19 years old please pray for me, I’m struggling with this sin

[@chriswhitelaw3126]

No, Raymond, you aren’t. What you’re struggling with is church dogma. Ask any psychiatrist you like about masturbation. They will tell you it’s healthy. In fact the lack of it is often an indicator of psychosis. You are a healthy young man, created in God’s image. Rejoice and be glad.

[@JB-qe5eb]

Keep trying. Go to confession weekly.

[@perodudla4451]

HELICOPTER, HELICOPTER

[@MARKPLAYSMYSIC]

I am praying for you my brother, god bless you.

[@patrickwilliams7582]

I'm praying for you brother. Notice that this "Priest" is not consoling his people who need him in his comment section. Instead he's busy arguing with people who don't validate his ego.

[@horonin]

I had always avoided Catholicism growing up because my family was very anti Catholic. Seeing you and Father Patrick on Upon Friar Review, and then you here on Breaking in the Habit started chipping away at those unfounded prejudices. That finally broke a dam here a few months ago and now I am deep into studying and am going to Mass, and preparing for Confirmation into the Catholic Faith hopefully by the end of Fall. I just wanted to say thank you for being such a genuine and welcoming figure into this rich life of Faith. God Bless you!

[@Baplopird]

Welcome.

[@horonin]

@@Baplopird Thank you! I really have felt the welcome so far.

[@LexTan]

I tear up when I read sharings like yours, Caleb. May God continue to bless you on your journey.

[@dmgiova3788]

Ditto on the welcome, Caleb!

[@horonin]

@@LexTan Thank you so much. I've been tearing up quit a bit myself as I have been going through this process.

[@zoethefrenchgirl2996]

I'm a woman and I've struggled with these sins since I was 12. As a 28 year old, I go to confession regularly (at least once a month and in the past month or so I've been going once a week), and I'm working on praying and improving. I want to let sexual sin go hopefully completely and cling to God alone. Please keep me in your prayers ❤

[@TruthLivesNow]

I am an older guy, and a Protestant. My advice would be the next time you go to confession ask your Priest it he would please pray for you for deliverance. Ephesians 6:12.

[@Yourmomlol957]

I also used to struggle with this and still do, but something that really helped make it easier was watching videos and reading about Theology of The Body which is a work of Saint Pope John Paul the second. There's a really good youtube channel called Theology of the Body Institute which has many videos on this topic. Everytime I feel lust I watch a video of theirs and it has greatly improved my habits

[@harlow743]

You are being ruled by GUILT

[@MartinWinter99]

Female protestant here: I pray that you can make peace with a normal need of your body; from a medical point of view, the church is simply in the wrong here. That act has real health benefits for both men and women. Much of this prohibition seems to stem from viewing marriage as a sacrament, for which the biblical basis is a bit doubtful to us (if you don't TREAT a marriage like a sacrament, it's not going to work out, but that is a different story). I would stay away from porn movies, though, those are a very real ethical problem of their own.

[@MinstrelTwinkletoes]

Go to a daily mass (This will force you to be mindful of staying in a state of grace, and you will be encountering Christ daily who can fuel you and aid you with sanctifying grace.) Pray the angelus and rosary daily (The evil one hates The Blessed Mother.) Be in a prayerful state constantly (This may take practice but is achievable. Don't aim for active vocal prayer, but rather a mind and heart which is constantly turned to the Father as you go about your day.) Remember: When you're praying, you're not sinning. Say night prayers (Worship Him, thank Him, say an act of contrition, ask Him to protect you as you sleep, and worship Him again.) Say morning prayers (The same as night but you can probably drop the act of contrition) You are trying to break sixteen years of habit and addiction. The habit must be replaced with something or something else will replace the void so replace it with prayer. Pray constantly in the quiet of your heart, seeking to ever unite more and more of yourself with God. I will ask the Holy Souls to intercede for you.

[@DocuNamics]

The Lord has blessed me with this video as I recently relapsed after abstaining for 7 months and I struggle going a few days without it. My main issue is that I forget the pain and guilt the next day and so my brain forgets it. I have to admit I’m not resisting as much as I should hence why it keeps happening but brothers and sisters please pray for me to continue the fight against this evil!

[@Victor-ue1kw]

Go to confession!

[@supergastonh]

The issue is that you bother because if the penalty of sin. But You don't analyse the motive behind the desire to masturbate

[@dspencer1969]

We'll pray for each other then

[@sylvestermerced3988]

Don’t forget the power of addiction. We can become addicted to pain and guilt.

[@JB-qe5eb]

Don't give up.

[@joker18524]

i’ve struggled with this for almost my whole life. this is my worst addiction by far that i’ve been fighting hard to defeat ever since i’ve reverted back to the faith. with God’s help i will overcome this. please pray for me everyone.

[@tancredk01]

I feel for you, it is a terrible addiction. Having grown up non-catholic with a heavy emphasis on non-religious I find myself trying to break a habit of 40+ years. I have to say that it is as difficult as quitting smoking. With many of the same side effects, to include sleeplessness, increased stress and (the biggest understatement of them all) irritability. Having converted this year it is a constant struggle. Sure when you quit smoking you can tell people and they will support you and even people at work will forgive your irritability, but masturbation... who can you tell other than your priest? You fight this demon with only you and the Lord, and it is entirely up to you to provide the courage. It is tough my friend, but you aren't alone. It just feels like it.

[@juliusrendon5936]

Pray the Holy Rosary it really helps me I'm clean 1month

[@amokay746]

@@tancredk01 So Spot on!! Well done in all the work you have done so far. Pray for you!

[@DIGardening]

As with any addiction, from time to time you may succumb. At those times, remember how long and how often you succeeded in resistance. If at one point you were engaging daily and now you went a week, that is a win. Now try for 2 weeks or longer.

[@COMPNOR]

@wiccanwarrior9Cool assertion bro. Nobody cares.

[@silviag3798]

It's been my experience that these sins are often the product of loneliness, accompanied by a sense that one will never find someone who'll love them the way they need to be loved. With broken relationships all around and it being so hard to even meet a potential partner these days, the temptation to turn inward and deal with sexual needs in a solitary way is extremely strong.

[@Hadrianus01]

Spot on!

[@user-ye1se9qm8m]

This is me. The loneliness is just awful.

[@ifeomaoluhara9421]

@SilviaG, you are right, we tend to turn to it because of loneliness. I would say in my opinion why I see masturbation as something not to be encouraged is because if we continue to indulge in it, at a point we become selfish and feel we are enough for ourselves...like we do not need someone else or be with someone else to gratify our sexual desires. In a way, it moves us towards being selfish and loving less. The sexual act/desire is to be shared with another and not enjoyed alone. That's my 2 cents to this.

[@barbaracimini1447]

Very true!😢

[@ondrej_IV.]

very sad but true

[@joncarsello7987]

As usual, your clear and compassionate analysis of complex social issues is spot on. Well done Father Casey.

[@TheDarkLink7]

This is why I like watching him. Of how clear compassionate and all he is.

[@bellarue22]

Agreed… I can’t always make the time to watch videos on KZbin but when I have time to spare this channel is my go to.

[@bobboscarato1313]

I've heard priests say this is struggle youth deal with for some time but it is NOT a sin!

[@Quizzical_nonsense]

I think clear and compassionate would have been verbatim reiterating the catechisms stance and not some personally invested video.

[@HarryNicNicholas]

it's about as far from spot on as a person can get. nowhere in the bible is masturbation even mentioned, never mind that it's a sin, and sin is an invented crime that can be anything people like the priest here want it to be, you're being had, it's a scam.

[@SoleaGalilei]

I'm not a Catholic so my perspective on this is not quite the same, but I always appreciate your clear and concise explanation of Catholic thinking. I will also say that I agree 100% with you about the exploitative pornography industry.

[@leonardobeneventi8836]

What is your perspective on this disgusting matter?

[@communistpropagandachannel6787]

@@leonardobeneventi8836 They probably don't want to share that.

[@dan69052]

If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@keatonlacretin9781]

I’ve struggled with this since I was a younger teen. Even if you are not a religious person, you can’t deny that it has bad effects on the body and mind. It’s not just the soul

[@dewilew2137]

Pornography does, masturbation in itself, not so much. Pornography is a scourge. I don’t understand how anyone can view the violent exploitation and commodification of a woman’s body, and consider themselves a moral person.

[@thomasdalton1508]

What bad effects do you think it has on the body and mind? People are free to believe whatever they like about the soul, if there is such a thing, but the evidence is very clear that biologically and psychologically, masturbation is a good thing. Like any good thing, it can be taken to excess, but in moderation it has numerous benefits.

[@thomasdalton1508]

​@@dewilew2137 Most pornography is not violent. There may be criminal enterprises selling videos of violent sexual crimes to a niche market, but that is not the pornography the vast majority of people are consuming.

[@AllhailTDLjimpic]

@@thomasdalton1508 Like what? The only thing its done for me is make me deppressed and tired. And it gave me a warped perception of women.

[@kred792]

@@thomasdalton1508 There's sufficient evidence suggesting quite the opposite: That frequent pornography, masturbation and ejaculation (PME) has devastating neurological consequences. It re-wires the reward center of the brain in ways similar to heroin and cocaine. And this is being discussed in the scientific community, not just the faith community. I'd encourage you to look into this, if you're interested in the truth. I'd recommend @Psych2go who has some very informative unbiased videos on this very platform about this.

[@Spoutnik]

I don't know if sharing my own experience would be of any help here: for sure, trying to brutally overcome the addiction to masturbation just doesn't work, like trying quitting decades of smoking or alcoholism overnight, and I repeatedly failed. Much more rewarding is to patiently and gradually learn how to master hormonal urges by first setting reasonable and achievable goals. And it works so much better when done within a spiritual frame. I myself started by "fasting" on Wednesdays and Fridays (and Sundays as a matter of respect for the holiness of God's day), gradually adding days when I felt comfortable, or even extending to whole weeks, then months. And one day, you suddenly figure out that, though you still desire masturbation, you actually no longer need it: you simply learned detachment. My last masturbation was before lent 2021, and I have been able to observe total continence till now. This does not make a saint of me, and I am definitely no superhero, but simply going to Church with less of a shame is now priceless to me.

[@thewould2677]

Bro, you are amazing my man.

[@Spoutnik]

@thewould2677 Oh no, no, no! There is definitely nothing amazing in me. I am convinced that if I could do it, anyone can. It just takes time and patience. Don't push yourself too hard at the beginning, but never give up and never get discouraged with failures. It's all about learning to know yourself better, identifying your triggers and weaknesses, and remedying appropriately. I am just a normal man with desires and urges which will never turn off, and sometines temptations are still as strong as before, but I now know how to handle them. Mostly by fighting them with any another activity that is even more interesting to me. And when I feel I am about to fail, I still have my secret weapon: there is no fire start that two or three wholeheartedly prayed Hail Mary can't stop immediately. I now much better understand what it means to seek refuge under the mantel of Mary and why Jesus gave her to us as our loving and protecting mother!

[@Zapp__Brannigan]

This gives me hope.

[@CT-pi2gl]

My friend, this story makes me sad. Through a flawed teaching you've become the Thought Police for yourself, and endeavored to suppress a core part of what makes you human. Going "abstinent" from all satisfaction, as if it were a drug to be avoided, is not part of God's plan for a human being, or perhaps indeed for any mammal. Nicotine, alcohol, and cocaine are substances the human body and mind were never designed for -- but sexuality is exactly what we were designed for. It's like the Finding Nemo sharks who were counting their "Days Since Eating a Fish." Please, let go of your learned anxiety and be at peace with yourself.

[@alphacause]

Thank you Father Casey. As someone who struggles with these sexual transgressions, it is difficult for me to resist the temptation to repeat these acts, and I fail constantly. Moreover, I have been guilty of perpetually finding excuses to trivialize my behavior. So it is sobering to hear the gravity of these sins as a reminder not to take them lightly. Your message, and the teaching of the Church, is definitely needed when the secular world is increasingly teaching people to embrace this as just a normal part of everyday life.

[@patrickwilliams7582]

I'm praying for you brother. Notice that Father is too busy arguing in the comme to with anyone who doesn't validate his ego. Very telling.

[@alphacause]

@@patrickwilliams7582 Thank you for the prayers brother. I appreciate it. I am not sure that you are being fair to Father Casey. He has to correct error as he sees it. I don't think that is a waste of time.

[@patrickwilliams7582]

@Drake Santiago love and prayers for you and your struggles. He's not correcting error, he's pridefully arguing with people pointing out he's adding ambiguity to something that need no extra ambiguity. He seems to care more about internet clout than tending his flock. Go through the comments and see how many who desperately need guidance he ignores in order to stroke his own ego.

[@jonathan4189]

I’m sorry you’re struggling with something you find difficult. I’m curious, though, why do you think masturbation is such a common act in the animal kingdom? Additionally, why do you think humans have such strong, continuous sexual desires, but are condemned to be punished for them? I’m not Christian but I view the Catholic obsession with universal human sexual characteristics to be like trying to brand defecation as immoral. In fact it makes way more sense to me for a religion to try to claim pooping is immoral, rather than an orgasm. (Though of course, neither makes sense to me.)

[@cuongnguyenviet3417]

@@jonathan4189 Well, it depends on your belief. But I personally believe that it's wrong to have lustful desires (to anyone other than my spouse) even before I believe in Christ.

[@memoriesofmercia3809]

I am converting to catholism, in no small part to your videos. Thank you for your content.

[@rebeccakhalil]

@@jediv9910Everyone is entitled to have an opinion and I respect your opinion but I would like to say that I believe you have not really understood the meaning behind many catholic practices. I suggest you discuss these dot points with a priest. I was in the same situation until I got an actual explanation. May God bless you🙏

[@rebeccakhalil]

@memoriesofmercia3809 God Bless you🙏

[@jediv9910]

@@rebeccakhalil *God's Word is not opinion roman ctist. Yours is opinion.* you said Everyone is entitled to have an opinion and I respect your opinion

[@jediv9910]

@@rebeccakhalil *Of course i know. Bible says Roman Catholic ct is a false religion.* you said I believe you have not really understood the meaning behind many catholic practices.

[@jediv9910]

@@rebeccakhalil *It is clear you are also deceived into this ct and you do not read the Bible. Bible says clergy priesthood was already obsolete. So where did Roman ct clergy priesthood came from? Lucy?* *Bible says clergy priesthood, altars and sacrifices were already obsolete. Heb 7,9,10. So why would there be a clergy priesthood in nt Church? nt Church of the Bible did not have clergy priesthood. So where did R Church m m priesthood come from? Lucy?* *Roman priesthood is illegitimate. Consequently all roman sacraments.* Heb 7:27 who does not need daily, as those high priests, to offer up sacrifices, first for His own sins and then for the people's, for this He did once for all when He offered up Himself. Heb 9:12 Not with the blood of goats and calves, but with His own blood He entered the Most Holy Place once for all, having obtained eternal redemption. Heb 10:10 By that will we have been sanctified through the offering of the body of Jesus Christ once for all. Heb 10:11 And every priest stands ministering daily and offering repeatedly the same sacrifices, which can never take away sins. Heb 10:12 But this Man, after He had offered one sacrifice for sins forever, sat down at the right hand of God, Heb 10:18 Now where there is remission of these, there is *no longer an offering for sin* . you said I suggest you discuss these dot points with a priest.

[@marys9607]

I have struggled with this sin/addiction since I was 9 or 10 years old. It does terrible damage to the psyche, body and, above all, spirit. After many confessions and many falls, Christ freed me from this. I have been clean for 6 years! Praise the Lord 🤍

[@pastelqueenwudel]

It's also a struggle for women - hope no one forgets this! I have the feeling that men are in the focus in this topic. Hope I will leave this behind me someday.

[@MatrixRefugee]

Amen. I have a feeling that women struggle with this activity as much as men do, for different reasons.

[@Pa1eblueeye3]

Sis… we are in this together! Im struggling too 🥲.. let’s not forget that we should try our best to stay in God’s grace and He loves us unconditionally as long as we believe in his mercy and love! 🕊️

[@elisabethrose3035]

I would totally look up Magdala Ministries they are working hard to change that narrative.

[@alexanderangelo7284]

Historically speaking no one has ever cared about female masturbation. The reason people have cared about male masturbation is because of the false belief that males had finite seed.

[@hermannrorschachder2.]

No one excludes women here, but it is a harder topic for men due to our sexual urge… But besides that, i hope you are getting better, just as i am, because i am struggling with this habit too…

[@lucastrevisani99]

It's a powerful addiction, that's for sure. I've been addicted for 14 years, since I was 12 years old. Now I'm 26 and I still didn't managed to kick off the habit. But I will not give up! I've been away from the church for more than a decade, but now I'm returning and with faith and the grace of God, I will kick this filthy habit off my life!

[@truecatholic8692]

Praying for you!

[@dan69052]

If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@theoldpaths6897]

I hope you are making progress. You can definitely overcome this. I have been where you are. It's definitely worth the fight. Chastity is liberating and allows us to give and receive love freely. The reason you are having difficulty is probably because you learned to use masturbation in your adolescent years to regulate your negative emotional states. Often emotional isolation in our family is the root cause (plus early exposure). Sins like this take a little more work to overcome. Confession and a regular holy hour won't suffice. Besides the sacraments, prayer, and prudent self-denial, you must add things like the 12-step program, daily accountability, vulnerability, transparency with spiritual persons, and possibly a good therapist. Also, healing and deliverance prayer is helpful as long as it's not seen as a cure-all. in conclusion, you will need 1) the Sacraments 2) Prayer 3) Self-denial in all areas of disordered self-indulgence. Getting rid of near occasions. 4) an intimate and vulnerable spiritual community such as in small groups oriented toward chastity (like a 12-step program) 5) which includes frequent/daily accountability 6) possibly a good spiritual director 7) possibly a good therapist

[@Zeptus1488]

What helped me is accepting that it is not me who is kicking this habit out of my life, it is our Lord Jesus who does it for us! Pray to him daily to help you on this journey!

[@dan69052]

@@Zeptus1488 I can tell by your response; you didn’t read the book. Nor understood or comprehend what I wrote. Thank you however. You helped me realized that while I was brought up as a Catholic with 12 years of educational indoctrination, I know I made the right decision to leave any religious affiliation I had. I started to think for myself & not follow the herd. Additionally, while I am not gay, I accept those who are. I embraced reason, logic, acceptance, & love to understand the world & humanity. I no longer feel compelled to judge or condemn others especially when it is based the ignorance & hate found in religions. If your choice is religion, good for you but keep it to yourself! Thank you for showing me I made the right decision to leave & prove me right. Peace & again thank you very much.

[@ShonCon21]

If there is anyone feeling defeated and not very hopeful that they will ever beat their porn/masturbation addiction…trust me, it can and does happen! My husband was addicted to both from a very young age (8 years old). I on the other hand never struggled with either growing up thankfully but I was taught by my mother both were wrong so I always felt extremely against them. When I met my husband I had no idea of his addiction, I was extremely naive and didn’t realise a lot of men (and women) did this sort of thing. I stumbled across porn history on his phone early into our relationship, and was devastated! I didn’t handle it well and basically forbid him from looking at it (haha yea right, he just did it behind my back). Fast forward many years, my husband became a Christian to my delight (not catholic, that came later for both of us), and that’s when God started opening his eyes to his addiction (again, I had no idea). God broke his habit and he was finally able to be honest with me about how many times he did masturbate (multiple times a day) etc. When we both became Catholic that’s when God really sailed it home. He would pray a Hail Mary when he struggled with thoughts and he said Mother Mary and her purity helped him immensely. I started struggling with lust in my adulthood believe it or not. It wasn’t as strong a hold since it wasn’t a thing I’d been doing for years but I turned to Mother Mary too and it’s incredible how much she helps. Just say 10 Hail Marys when you’re minds going crazy and you are about to commit a lustful sin, and watch how fast those thoughts go! It’s extremely hard to have an erection or be turned on and stay that way whilst you’re praying. Hold on, it is so worth it. Even the way my husband said he started to see me when God broke that lust hold. He used to view me as an object (I didn’t know), and women in general. I saw the fruit when he started to see me as his beloved wife 🙏🏽❤

[@MrAnomic]

Thank you for your witness. I'm sure it is blessing many who read it. And your advice in praying to our blessed Mother seeking help and inspiration is so spot on! You are truly blessed. Keep walking in Christ's Spirit! God Bless!

[@juanc.fortunofas9224]

Brave and articulate commentary on a topic with more layers than most Christians care to acknowledge. And kudos to you for addressing a subject that many avoid like the plague. God bless you.

[@Quashieyute]

Converting to Catholicism tomorrow. Saint Augustine struggled with this same thing. Please pray for me.

[@isaiah3872]

May God continue blessing you brother! Welcome home

[@Cjnw]

I don't think I want to touch any of St Augustine's relics, now 😅

[@rayboi7924]

If anyone struggles with this, pray the Rosary everyday and have a strong devotion to the Virgin Mary and St. Joseph.

[@N1976DL]

Yeah, leave God out of it, and place your focus on Mary and Joseph. Sounds Biblical 🙄

[@supercoolandawesomefr]

@@N1976DL get a life

[@kingrocho_2]

@@N1976DL God is never left out of it as all prayer is directed to him (even through the Rosary and the intercession of the BVM and St. Joseph). I suppose what he means is a devotion to these figures as they are notable and exemplary figures of chastity and purity.

[@jamesdonahue4084]

Actually, there is nothing in Scripture which tells us much of anything about them, especially Joseph. He protected Jesus and Mary and apparently supported his family. Mark and Matthew both recount that Mary, along with His brothers,tried to get Jesus to cease and desist out of fear for His safety. After all the heavenly events about his birth,Cana, etc., Mary might not have fully bought in.(?) I have nothing against the Rosary, or asking holy people for their prayers in the communion of saints, but have since grade school wondered why Catholics jump straight to pray to Mary. Just sit down quietly before Jesus and ask for light,peace,mercy. He's the One who forgives,guides, advocates. Returning the soap box.

[@yvannaa.1102]

@@jamesdonahue4084Protestantism and it’s Allie’s is very pityfull. But I guess you. Viva kristos

[@StAlphonsusHasAPosse]

Thank you Fr. Casey. I am a new Catholic, and your videos explain a lot.

[@YaHa-16-02]

Way to go Father. We need this type of courage. You are very appreciated among us in Ireland.

[@dewilew2137]

Pornography is a scourge. I don’t understand how anyone can view the violent exploitation and commodification of a woman’s body, and consider themselves a moral person.

[@youtubestudiosucks978]

You only watch women? It's 2023, you gotta watch everything now.

[@dewilew2137]

@@youtubestudiosucks978 I’m not sure what that means, but no thanks. As a 30 year old woman, seeing people naked who are probably 18-21 years old makes me very uncomfortable. I don’t watch any porn, and I haven’t in years. I did when I was younger, before I took the time to consider the impact of viewership. Even if the actors were closer to my age, I’d still be supporting an exploitative, evil industry that warps men’s sexuality and perception of women, and contributes to sexual violence against women. I refuse.

[@PerfectNormal]

Pray for humility.

[@xavier01110]

You have a twisted view on morals and mankind if you believe one's interest or lack of interest in pornography should be a significant factor on whether he/she is moral. Porn is a bad habbit and nothing more.

[@crusaderACR]

@@xavier01110 No one is truly 100% moral, but the act itself is still intrinsically and gravely immoral. It's good to preach humility, but please don't trivialize evil or immorality.

[@EarlyOwOwl]

I feel like nowadays any argument about the negative effects of masturbation are kind of silenced by people saying things like "you're just old-fashioned". Girl you have no idea how much this addiction gets in the way of literally everything 😭

[@MartinWinter99]

addiction is one thing, regularly doing it is medically beneficial.

[@Zeptus1488]

@@MartinWinter99If God says no, it's a no. Stop lying to yourself as our Lord is THE TRUTH.

[@Michael-yl9rl]

Praying the rosary as often as you can is the best cure for this! You can actually play the rosary in youtube while doing something as often as you can. Play Salve Regina chants can also help. Play them while taking shower, etc...

[@jakubratajczak9269]

Praise God for this! I've struggled with this sin ever since my teen years. I'm not addicted to pornography, but masturbation is another matter. God is helping me fight the tempation constantly and it's getting much better. I truly, truly understand why this is a grave matter. No wonder, it's called self-abuse, and it feels like that every time I'm losing control. Like I've been abused, used and hurt... by myself. There are times where I'm, shamefuly, deciding to do it anyway, fully concious and ignoring the Holy Spirit, but these are rare cases nowadays. I needed this video and this passage from the cathechism. It helps with my scrupulosity. I've been mislead in thinking I've sinned mortally before and it led me on a very dark path... I'm not looking for an excuse to do it and to diminish the problem, but I can be overly scrupulous at times, when it comes to every sin I commit. God help us all in our struggle!

[@djrn1621]

❤

[@CarlosGutierrez-vl7cm]

Best way to describe myself! I was mentioned about scrupulous behavior that also comes from the devil to puts us down and think that we will never be able to overcome this. When God knows the struggle and he wants us to come to him and get the strength from him to keep the battle!

[@theoldpaths6897]

I hope you are making progress. You can definitely overcome this. I have been where you are. It's definitely worth the fight. Chastity is liberating and allows us to give and receive love freely. The reason you are having difficulty is probably because you learned to use masturbation in your adolescent years to regulate your negative emotional states. Often emotional isolation in our family is the root cause (plus early exposure). Sins like this take a little more work to overcome. Confession and a regular holy hour won't suffice. Besides the sacraments, prayer, and prudent self-denial, you must add things like the 12-step program, daily accountability, vulnerability, transparency with spiritual persons, and possibly a good therapist. Also, healing and deliverance prayer is helpful as long as it's not seen as a cure-all. in conclusion, you will need 1) the Sacraments 2) Prayer 3) Self-denial in all areas of disordered self-indulgence. Getting rid of near occasions. 4) an intimate and vulnerable spiritual community such as in small groups oriented toward chastity (like a 12-step program) 5) which includes frequent/daily accountability 6) possibly a good spiritual director 7) possibly a good therapist

[@CT-pi2gl]

My friend, you are in fact abusing yourself -- not by satisfying yourself, but by nurturing guilt and anxiety about it. This behavior is a part of living -- not just to tolerate like using the restroom, but in fact to celebrate and be at peace with. Anything can become an unhealthy obsession, but I believe you are far from this danger, and the real problem is the compulsive anxiety. As for "fully conscious and ignoring the Holy Spirit" -- do we really think our Father in heaven has these checklists, "Grave Matter, Full Knowledge, Unencumbered Will"...? Because of the human drive to analyze and categorize, and because Church thinkers have had hundreds of years to do so, we have these thick treatises and dictionaries of sins, their attributes, and their remedies. Like the Pharisees. These writings can often give us insights into morality and our journey with God, but let us never think that God Himself follows the Catechism.

[@samuelmccoy6904]

Father, please pray for me, as of right now my application to the seminary is in the mail

[@JohnpaulChisom-kg5ps]

Pray the Holy Rosary devoutly everyday it will help you alot

[@isaksitorus8498]

Dear Fr. Casey, I need this video so much, thank you & God bless you

[@johanbergstrom-allen6700]

The key point is at the end: relax and trust in the mercy of God. Nearly everyone masturbates at different stages in life and the guilt and shame around it are largely unhealthy. Some theologians today would add to the criteria for "mortal sin" the active desire to turn against God; very few people who masturbate have set their face against God and goodness. I'm not saying there isn't a dimension of sin, but there's often more a dimension of weakness, addiction, stress, or immaturity. You certainly shouldn't stop going to Mass and communion because of masturbation. If you confess it to a priest and he asks for more details, report him.

[@EyeLean5280]

This is very interesting and I think even non-Catholics can be on board with the idea of not participating in an exploitative and harmful industry.

[@jimnewl]

No one is going to stop masturbating because the porn industry is exploitative and harmful. They may stop masturbating to porn, but the root disorder remains.

[@br.m]

What about cartoon porn?

[@MrAnomic]

@@br.m You are being misled by a common tactic of demonic influences to try to confuse the disordered sexual act with the object of desire of that act. As if the two are distinct from one another. Many who are confused about this sin will try to justify the act because there is no real life object of desire for the act. But this is to miss the point of what makes masturbation a sin. That is, any use of the sexual act outside of procreation and intimate unity within sacramental marriage, is a sin. It doesn't matter whether the object of that desire is one's self gratification, another non-spousal person or a cartoon, it's still a sin. It also doesn't matter even if the act is done toward the desire of one's own sacramental spouse. If it denies its purpose of an openness to the possibility of procreation and the unity of the marital relation, it would also be a sin.

[@2010hyundaielantra]

@@br.m fine as long as it's used for reasons to prevent worse sins

[@HarryNicNicholas]

@@2010hyundaielantra sin is an invention, god is an invention. stop falling for the scam. in the flood the whole world was sinning - what was the crime? no one says anything about what THE WHOLE WORLD was doing wrong - it's ll mythology. it's nonsense.

[@marktapia8327]

As someone who have 3 comorbid disorders, autism, ADHD, and OCD, this has been a kryptonite. Sadly, this is a major crux to scrupulosity and even fear of abusing the sacrament of reconciliation-which apparently is a thing. To say this is just one cross I bear is an understatement.

[@sentjojo]

Remember that God fills you with grace through the sacraments. You are not struggling alone when you believe in God's grace, he is with you

[@Nightman221k]

Comments like this make me feel less alone. I've dealt with scrupulosity from the time of my first reconciliation. I always feel like I'm not going to Heaven even when I'm trying my best. I have ADD and some OCD tendencies so it's never far from my mind especially when I fall short.

[@marktapia8327]

@@sentjojo thank you. God bless

[@xuzeh]

Hello, Mark. I am aware of how these conditions make us feel like they are a disorder, since the neurotypical world is so alien to us (for instance, normalizing lies). But they are not; they are a choice we made… Since you are talking about spiritual issues, let me humbly remind you the etymological meaning of religion: re ligare, re connect. To what? Source/God/Creator. However, no one and nothing can be disconnected from our source; indeed, we experience that for a reason, but there is no re connect - there is awaking. Human life on Earth is akin to a videogame where we must/need to totally believe we are the character. So, why did I state all that? As an attempt to show you that, as all else in life, religious behavior/experience is a choice; its root is a desire to fill ‘the void inside’, and religion is a tool for that. Emphasis on the word ‘tool’: tools have rules/instructions but, in themselves, they don’t act. Thus, religion is a spiritual tool, not a requirement, to understand the void. As a societal institution, it mirrors the norm. Sexuality is also a tool, most of our innate desires are; like programming. It is a clever way to ‘force’ us to look outside, to reach other selves - but most of us stop at this point, unwilling/unable to see that other selves are a mirror. Indeed, there is power, spiritual, magical power in sexuality; your intention is what defines the type of magic. Empower yourself at the expense of other (akin to vampires) or empower yourself and the other self in order to remember Source. This can also be done in masturbation - the intention is what matters. In regard to ‘sin’, there is no such thing. Don’t believe me, you’ll experience/know that for yourself. You can choose to serve yourself or serve others (and yourself) - using religious mythology, Lucifer is not ‘the lightbringer’ because he manifests light - he is named as such for, in manifesting what does not exist (darkness) he ‘helps’ us to consciously remember who/what we are. That being said, even ‘evil/darkness’ serves the light - which makes a lot of sense, since all that exists is a fractal of God/Source. Since you are in the spectrum, the probability that your ‘true self’/soul is on the path of light is extremely high. This is a path of integration; we do not purge or reject what ‘is not’ or what we dislike, we understand their place within us , recognize that as a valid choice but a choice that is not ours; this is what healing really is. Manipulating our ‘weenies’ , as silly as it sounds, is just an experience of God/Source. It is neutral, unless you give it a purpose on the terms above stated. Sorry about the long post; I did what I wish someone had done to me in the past. And since you are a friend whose consciousness is from another dimension (that is what autistics are), there is no infringement in a last suggestion: seek The Ra Material, aka The Law of One. כהת

[@Baplopird]

Same.

[@asht5905]

I'm sick of falling into masturbation n porn again and again. I go without it fleeing for a while then fall again. Please pray for me. My name is ash. Please pray for me.

[@lincolnw8194]

Yeah. Same here. Of everything I struggle with. Everything. Gluttony, anxiety, depression, lust. Of all of it. Lust would be the one I would destroy in a heartbeat. Please pray for me as well. I'll definitely pray for you. I'm beyond sick of it as well.

[@elizabethwells8893]

I'm not even Catholic. But I am an almost 20-year-old Christian, who has been struggling with this for almost four years. Thank you, Father, for your advice.

[@dan69052]

If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@Ky3-d4x]

Im a 11 years old Catholic and im struggling with this sin and im sad today cause i relapsed i feel and guilty and i think God is Disappointed at me But I hope Masturbation Finally goes away the older i grow i do not want this mortal sin to be stuck with me my whole life please pray for me i do not care what denomination you are just please pray for me!

[@christophersalinas2722]

I will pray for you

[@caruya]

I'm addicted and can't break free, even though sometimes I think I'm finally free, but no. I'm only able to contain the habit to not develop into fetishes. If someone struggles like me, keep it in control. Confession asap, stay humble, but not desperate, look people on the eyes when you talk, listen to them, know maybe they are also struggling with something. I've managed to cut many small bad habits that support porn and masturbation. Have good manners, avoid gluttony, be patient with people, forgive fast. And last but not least a very difficult one, have a focus in life, aside from God the number one focus, stop procastination, think what you have to do next and are you doing the right thing at a given moment, try to give the ultimate bad habit as little room as possible, although it might catch you unnoticed and it usually does, because you let the guard down, and most importantly don't lode faith, it doesn't mean you are less to God and have failed as a Christian, this is the devils accusations, after a grave sin for those who want to love God.

[@achritam]

While admire each and every wise word you wrote, I feel like confession asap is somehow abusing the sacrament, 2 weeks in 2 weeks out kind of situation.... so you get to the stage where you like I'm gonna chill and relook into how to avoid a relapse , in short I'm tired of loosing control many a times , I'm concerned this is but a war that that has been and will be here till I don't know , it is a thorn that keeps piercing my soul

[@caruya]

​@@achritam I don't think it's abusing the sacraments, God doesn't have an "economy", we can't "wear out" God's grace. I just try to keep it simple. If I made a grave sin, I need confession, even if it seems like a pattern. Complicating things leads to desperation. I don't think God plays with our salvation, the sacraments are the clear way to salvation, not how we feel. And to avoid the feeling of abusing Gods graces, it's important to just talk to God, This might be hard, but it's God who is control, not us using God as some tool.

[@juliusrendon5936]

Pray the Holy Rosary everyday or do fasting for your penance

[@tommytanumihardja9415]

Taking care of our body regularly, exercises, and enough sleep is also important

[@paulbastier3773]

I had a male friend who used to go for long periods like 6 years (he was a young man at the time) and then in a moment of weakness as they say "had a fall from grace. Then he would remain chaste for another three or four years before another fall. I read something about this in a book by the late Cardinal Heenen who was my Bishop when I lived in Liverpool. He said something on the lines that no matter how tightly we keep the lid on the box of our carnal desires, sometimes it comes off. Following this I saw a programme on a seminary in the UK where the seminarians were being told to take measure of themselves before committing to a life of celibacies because it was not a natural state but a supernatural state, and not for everyone.- let him that can take it, take it.

[@lausanneguy]

"Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. That which is hateful unto you, do not do to your neighbor. This is the whole of the Torah; the rest is commentary. Go forth and study." (Hillel) Sin is acting against the well-being of another. Causing a child to feel fear and guilt about masturbation is far more sinful than masturbation ever could be.

[@joepugh678]

I appreciate your honesty and I'm not sure I disagree. The impulse is so nearly universal and the Bible is quite oddly nearly silent on the matter.

[@cristianocastagno9680]

Masturbation is physiological in the human species. The problem is when it becomes compulsive. Not understanding this and guilt tripping especially young children and adults is I believe a cruel anti human act. We must accept the fact we are humans 100% and masturbation is one of the things we do. ❤️

[@Gofaw]

"sinning is okay because we do it alot or something" -you You're not very bright if you think this justifies anything. Repent

[@cristianocastagno9680]

@@Gofaw we are human and our sexuality is part of our being human. We can accept it and learn to live with it. There is nothing sinful in masturbation as long as it doesn’t become morbose or an obsession.

[@Gofaw]

@@cristianocastagno9680 the act of spilling our seed without procreating is morbose in itself. You don't determine what is right or wrong, stop trying to justify sin by making stuff up

[@cristianocastagno9680]

@@Gofaw actually neither do you, my friend. Do as you wish but don’t attempt to guilt trip others. 🙏

[@dan69052]

If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@BertoniCostales]

In the moment we turn Catholicism into a set of complicated rules, and above all, when we alienate people from the Eucharist, that's when we are failing as a church. Moving away from God, lacking mercy towards others, and lacking charity... those are true sins. But because of things like this, sins of purity, we push more people away from the church. What kind of church do we want, an empty one devoid of common sense or one filled with people where every minor aspect of our lives becomes a sin? How can it be a venial sin if you are under addiction and a mortal sin if you do it with full consciousness? If it were an addiction to alcohol, would you think the same? I mean, having a beer is not a sin, but getting drunk every day is. At what point do we consider all the studies that say frequent ejaculation reduces the risk of prostate cancer? When will we stop criminalizing normal sexual behaviors?

[@Charles-jj2su]

Amen to all this

[@Zeptus1488]

Open the Bible for once in your life. It is clear that masturbation is a sin and if you're a Christian you should avoid doing that.

[@CT-pi2gl]

Amen! Do we really think God has these checklists and the Catechism in front of him when he judges us before his throne? The monks and theologians who wrote them were, by and large, righteous men trying their best to learn God's will and teach it to others. But they were as human and fallible as you and I. I am reminded of Acts 15:10 where St. Peter says to the brothers: "Why, then, are you now putting God to the test by placing on the shoulders of the disciples a yoke that neither we nor our fathers have been able to bear?"

[@nicoleyoshihara4011]

Yes it is. Confession heals and trying other methods to do something else like exercise. Praying for all those struggling with this, you're not alone🙏❤

[@AG-vb6vv]

I haven’t watched p**n for years as a young man. It’s not just a sin, it makes men weak. It desensitises them, and means they have performance issues with real women.

[@dan69052]

If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@Pleasurechest985]

The addiction is so powerful and extremely hard to feel normal without

[@JenniMeer]

Thank you so much for your videos!! I was confirmed at Easter Vigil this year (2023) and your videos answer a lot of questions I have about my new faith. Blessings from North Carolina.

[@renkomon.8312]

I am glad you are telling us this. I need to reflect on this more. I am forever scared by the abuse that I suffered as a child. And yes I am getting professional help. It will take time to recover.

[@DivineKnight_115]

This is by far the most difficult addiction to deal with. At least with drug and alcohol addiction there’s groups, rehab, and access issues for substance abuse. Not only are we given the natural attraction in nature, now we have full access to it at anytime and just over indulge in self pleasure. It’s like shoving junk food down your throat but with your eyes.

[@dalidaregina]

If you think about Jesus condemning lust (the mountain sermon) it always gives us hope that he will make us improve. He wouldn't say something that would be impossible to us, through grace. Also, there's no temptation you can't resist. Meditating on that really helps (with any sin, not just lust).

[@MartinWinter99]

@@dalidaregina I just reread the sermon of the mount- concrete and ideated adultery is the theme here, not lust in itself.

[@Onetruepossum]

Idk, alcohol withdrawals almost put me in the hospital

[@bobjacobson858]

I think of it (without pornography or lustful thoughts) as being like a hunger that gets more intense over time. It's a natural drive that is difficult to handle "legitimately" without being married. (At my age, the likelihood of a getting married and having a sexual relationship is decreasing.)

[@Zug98]

This is a very challenging situation. I was addicted when I was young and now am 36 and without a wife or any chance of getting one, the pain is unreal when you go without. I usually can go 2 weeks until the pain spreads all over my body and it becomes unbearable. I have no desire to do it and I limit it to until the pain just becomes absolutely insane. This is a horrific cross and I don’t wish it on anyone

[@dan69052]

If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@timmogreen6849]

I understand completely. Ive been struggling with it for 37 years. Sometimes the urge just gets unbearable. It can strike at any time and it can take hours to subside. It is the most difficult addiction. Im trying to stop but im finding it impossible 😓

[@ereinei]

@@dan69052copy and paste #3

[@dakotasmith1344]

So I’ll drop something interesting here as a Protestant. I dealt with this problem for a long time, in high school and in college. I felt like I would never find anyone, and that no one would ever love me romantically. Every time afterwards, I would ask God to forgive me and not let me go back again. I would also feel even more disgusted with myself, and even more sure that no one would love me romantically. Thus the cycle continued for years. The breaking point was when two of my friends told me they were getting married and invited me to be in their wedding (I was friends with a couple). My first thought sadly was not feeling happy for them, but more self-pity at being “left out/behind”. Of course, this was all inner emotion. I felt so disgusted with myself in that moment that I told myself and God that even if I never found anyone, I needed some work, and that someway somehow I needed to be a better person, content with myself and my situation. Less than 2 years later, at the age of 24, I met my first girlfriend who would become my wife. I’m sure that’s no accident. We’ve now been married two years, and I’m so thankful to God. When we do things His way, life becomes so much better. I’m very happy with how things have turned out this far, although I wish it hadn’t taken me so long to get here. More teens need to be taught about this issue, because it isn’t talked about enough. Popular culture is winning because popular culture is the only one in the conversation with teenagers vs. having a strong Christian voice.

[@dongrainer6405]

I started doing this in grade school. Didn't know what it was, just enjoyed it. My parents were not the kind of people I could talk to about this kind of thing and I had no friends or relatives to talk to about it. Just didn't see the need, plus I felt that that part of the body was off limits to talk about. I never knew the church considered it a mortal sin til I was first year college. Of course I was "hooked" by then, even though I had stopped doing it for over a year. But started again in a limited way and kept doing it regularly. For me it was a way of getting love. There was no real love in my home. My mom, when she noticed I was doing it told my dad he had to give me "the talk". he never did. I would go to confession almost every week. The priest would give me the same device, play cards or some simple nonsense like that. Finally he had enough and told me that better Catholics than I had left the church. Whatever that meant. Needless to say I never went to him again for confession. It doesn't help that I am gay either. I was married to a wonderful woman who knew I was, but we had a loving life together. We tried to have kids, but it didn't work out. She died many years ago. So, what am I supposed to do? I have done it a few times and finally came to conclusion that for me it is just not that grave a sin. I'm 78 now and alone, what's wrong with doing it once in a while? I haven't done it for some time, even though I still have those "impure" thoughts.

[@Baplopird]

Still grave matter, Mr. Grainer. Now that you are of old age and may be nearer to your encounter with God than most, it isn't good for you to relapse into old vices. At your age, it is something to carry on with dignity. A matter of willpower, also. It's not too late for an last act of heroic resistance, I'd say.

[@giovannimartini6405]

That priest is... Kinda weird. Giving up on you just for masturbation is not ok! I'm in my twenties and I used to be obsessed about this. The best piece of advice I got about it is most people will never abandon masturbation because the habit they got is too strong. That's the truth. Once you discover that, you know you won't be able, but you rely on God's grace and try. The habit has become much less frequent since I started trying. Other thing that helped me was indentifying what I'm trying to compensate: sometimes it's not just sexual desire, but loneliness, sadness or stress. I can compensate these feelings in other ways, by calling a friend or hugging someone. Playing cards sound weird but maybe this priest finds it useful lol

[@Baplopird]

@@giovannimartini6405 Playing cards or reading a book, doing exercise, etc, which are the most common alternative the priests give, can just be reduced to take your mind out of it and put it to a goal that'll keep it busy, which helps.

[@giovannimartini6405]

@@Baplopird Not trying to judge the priest, by the way. Just wanted to emphasize no one is beyond salvation, like the priest seemed to imply, and also say everyone is different and has his way of doing, even a priest can have a way to solve a sin that you don't find useful. The only wrong paths are obsession and "making a pact" to your vices.

[@juliusrendon5936]

If you lack of love and you feel it try to change the habit instead of your schedule to masturbate replace it with praying the Holy Rosary or Watch Videos of the Saints. That will give you love I promise you

[@fullforcegale9630]

You saved me, Father. I was about to leave the faith until I heard you quote the full, true Catholic position (with NO porn or lustful thoughts, it is for release). I have some health and personal problems that prone me to this. Now I feel reinvigorated (I attend mass every Sunday and Holy Day and sing in the choir at this time). Now I will hold my head up. I can never thank you enough. God bless you. I go to confession every 3-4 weeks to go to communion. Now I won't beat myself up anymore.

[@Hadrianus01]

Thank you for the video Father. I've wrestled with this question (and sin) for ages, so your video has given me much to think about. Various things I've read and different priests I've spoken to have given inconsistent advice. On the one hand, many have (correctly) pointed out that masturbation is seriously disordered and a grave sin, commission of which always requires one to go to Confession. One the other hand, some priests have encouraged me to not to stop receiving Holy Communion, and actually discouraged me from 'running to Confession' every time I fall. So it's fair to say that I'm quite confused. That said, it's a habitual sin (and addiction) that I've battled since I was very young (before I was a Christian), so I will try to cut myself some slack.

[@dalidaregina]

Always stick to the catechism of the church. Some priests unfortunately die. Also, the gospel. If Jesus condemned lust, then it shouldn't be dealt as a "minor sin" or anything like that. Hope that helps you start to get stronger!

[@truecatholic8692]

The answer it that is is a mortal sin. And if you are in mortal sin you should not receive communion until you've gone to confession. And feel free to go to confession as much as you want. These are the teachings of the Catholic Church.

[@truecatholic8692]

Bless you and keep trying to follow God's will.

[@tim4pele]

99% chance that the people in the Catholic church who originally wrote about masturbation being a grave sin did it quite often and were probably just projecting their own shame out into the world. It's something that happens quite often. It's truly unfortunate that there's still so much of this faith that centers around shame, guilt, and fear, because there are some very positive aspects to it as well and I certainly enjoy father Casey's explanations and informative videos. (saying this as a non-religious person).

[@melanierabe8794]

Ypu being a non religious person thars why ypu don't understand and would say that also. You do not understand God

[@tim4pele]

@@melanierabe8794 You don't "understand" it any better than I do, because your understanding is just following what a priest and book tells you.

[@C.S.S.M.L..]

Without the grace of God it is impossible to be chaste, that's why you think everyone does it

[@tim4pele]

@@C.S.S.M.L.. I think everyone does it because pretty much everyone does. Except people who are shamed by their religion into believing that God is going to strike them down or send them to hell for touching themselves. But like most repressed things, it's always going to come out, and usually in a much more negative way. The idea is so hilarious to me. There's this omnipotent, omnipresent, omniscient being that literally created the universe, created quantum fields and gravity, that knows the position and quantum state of every particle, is outside of time and space, can see and reach into every single galactic cluster and every single atomic nucleus. But what does this being with all of this absolutely unfathomable power and knowledge REALLY care most about out of all that? Whether or not some random being on some random planet in the backwoods of a random spiral galaxy in the middle of a completely unremarkable galactic cluster touched his willy last night.

[@C.S.S.M.L..]

@@tim4pele It's not about repression, giving up masturbation is necessary if you want to be free and not slaves to your passions and sins. "Whosoever committeth sin, is the servant of sin" (John 8,31).

[@Lexington101]

He will not cast away those who seek comfort in him.

[@eesoteric.]

Thank you for this Fr.Casey, this is definitely needed for young people like me.

[@christianmark6696]

Waiting for this since 3 years ago.

[@tomb4057]

Danke. Thanks. That helped very well. I converted to catholisism this easter and am currently figthing with this sin, but sadly, I fall from time to time.

[@BreakingInTheHabit]

Keep working at it. It took you a long time to develop this habit. It's not going to go away overnight.

[@TheActualLiz]

Thanks for posting this. Not everyone is willing to address this topic, but you handled the subject well. I've been going through a faith transition (pegan to Christian) and find your videos very helpful.

[@perriwinkleiii5361]

Bless you, Father. Thank you for this

[@FreedomandBaconHomestead]

Well said. Thank you for talking to a difficult situation for many with truth and love.

[@eucharistenjoyer]

What a great way of leading people to keep on their state of mortal sin. We shouldn't drive people to be scrupulous, but it's not like the world is already felt with people who find all sorts of excuses to keep doing their pet sins, and now we have religious people who should use their image of knowledge and authority misleading people into their own damnation. I'm praying for your conversion and salvation. Pray for mine.

[@dan69052]

If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@tangomango2459]

I’ve struggled with addiction in this realm since I was a kid. Please pray for me so I can have deliverance from this.

[@ondrej_IV.]

me too pray for me i will pray for you

[@kcm489]

Been succumbing to this sin almost daily since I was 12. Didn't know it was a sin until I became Catholic last year In confession once a week trying to ditch it. Please pray for me

[@williambauldwin6793]

I am writing this as a testimony for those who are currently struggling with masturbation and/or pornography. About two weeks ago, I made a personal decision to return to the Church after a couple years of not attending. In addition to failing to observe the holy day of rest, I also struggled severely with both of the aforementioned sins during that time. On a Wednesday night, I humbly returned and decided to give a confession before Mass. I arrived rather early; however, as soon as I closed the door, I immediately felt as if I were carrying many heavy weights. As I knelt and began to offer my confession, the weight became greater with each instance of sin I named. Eventually, the weight became so great, that my breathing was severely hindered and I began to drip sweat profusely. After I concluded my my confession, the weight persisted as the priest began to speak. The Priest’s first words were “Welcome Home.” I was then reminded of the story of the Prodigal Son and given wisdom. As soon as the Priest prayed the prayer of absolution, I felt what I can only describe as a very “real and painful” ripping sensation from deep within my body….followed by an immediate feeling of happiness, grace and feeling lite as a feather. I’ve had a few weeks to process what actually happened in that moment. Even if it was a microcosm, I feel as if the Lord let me feel a seemingly minute fraction of what Jesus felt on the cross. The pain I experienced was very real in that moment and it is truly difficult to explain. I offer my personal testimony of the power of the Sacrament of Reconciliation/Penance as a witness to its power and to encourage others who may be in the same situation as I was. Do not fear confession or think that you are “beyond saving”; rather, the Lord is waiting for you and is always ready to welcome you back home. May the peace of the Lord be with all who reads this.

[@brrrt12]

This was absolutely beautiful! Will use your story in my class as I'm teaching Basic Catholic Doctrine to teenage men who are struggling in going to confession. Thank you for sharing this. ❤

[@ondrej_IV.]

thanks for the story i am strugling too with this sin pray for me

[@Ocelot2009]

I confessed today after 10 days from my last confession and in these days I didn't masturbate once, even if I used to do it everyday with p..n just a few months ago. God changed me. Tho I am scared cause O had a wet dream last night but the priest told me not to worry cause it's not a sin. God Bless you from Italy. Edit: it is going good as I don't feel the urge anymore since God has renewed me, tho I'm scared of becoming lukewarm

[@Baplopird]

Not a sin, indeed. Do not be scared if it. It may happen, it may not. Even if it does, it doesn't have to mean an occasion for relapse, and it won't last forever.

[@The-Beau-Ultimatum]

You can stop counting the days. When God has changed you, you are changed FOREVER. Counting signifies that you might 'come back' one day.

[@Ocelot2009]

@@The-Beau-Ultimatum the fact is that, especially at my age (13yo) it's really, really difficult not to do it as u feel really turned on and you really feel the need to lust. But I promised to God I won't do it, I'm born again and now it's been 19 days clean. Everytime I'm tempted I ask God for help and I control myself. Now I also wanna become a better person and eliminate also the other sins. God bless you all!!

[@ContriteCatholic]

Ah, the universal Catholic response: "Yes, but actually no. It depends." Frustrating in a world so used to cut and dry answers, but the Catholic Church knows nuance is necessary. Thank you father Casey.

[@lizbecker1677]

In that respect, being Catholic is a lot like working in Human Resources!

[@truecatholic8692]

It absolutely is a mortal sin.

[@taylorcrain1821]

I managed to quit porn. I’m trying to quit masturbating. I’m finding it super difficult. I’m hoping being off of porn long enough will help rewire my brain to help make it easier.

[@Baplopird]

It actually does. As with any addiction, you can't expect to just be «off the thing» overnight. It's a gradual process that entails relapsing many times until you manage to get a grip on yourself, a matter of trial and error and testing your adapting capabilities. In any case, your strategy is the best. It is best to focus on leaving pornography first before addressing masturbation, since the latter is somewhat autonomous and you can just mind a single problem at the time.

[@rebeccakhalil]

Everytime I get tempted I say “Get away devil” and the temptation goes away. I then pray about it. It’s all in your head, if I did it you can do it! God bless you 🙏

[@eightytwobucks623]

Go to confession. It’s the one thing I tried that set me free

[@GetReal521]

I was born and raised Catholic. I went to a Catholic elementary and high school, and attended DePaul University in Chicago. With all of the challenges in the church - too many to list, why are we still talking about masturbation? Doesn’t this seem to be among the least important of questions in the early 21st century for the church with its own much more serious and in some cases vile problems as an institution? This is a real question.

[@dan69052]

If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@Brosepha]

If its a sin worthy of hell its a big problem

[@verena11]

Heard a very good advice from a priest. In case of this temptation pray, but not only for yourself but all men and women who are struggling in that moment with the same temptation. He said, after a while the devil may think, i go looking for an easier target....

[@dan69052]

truth If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@Aced_Dreamer]

This is spot on Fr.

[@laurawheeler6684]

Very good video Father, not a topic many would a broach so openly. I read this view of the church many years ago and really appreciate someone from the church talking openly on the subject. God bless.

[@luisoncpp]

Hi Father Casey, even when I fully comprehend the gravity of po****(sorry, the platform often blocks my messages, better to be sure), for the gravity of m*** that you mention was something unexpected for me (I just remember reading for the Cathecism that it's a disordered behaviour, but that sounds as venial to me), now this makes me think in many questions (sorry if they read as arguing, is not my intent to claim that I'm right and all the theologians are wrong, but I need to question the things that seems odd to me in order to really understand them): - Why the Bible doesn't mention it? I know some things can be deduced from the values in the Bible rather than from the Bible itself, but if it was something of gravity rather than something venial, shouldn't the Bible mention it as well? - It's an action that doesn't harm other people, why is that a big deal?, I know about the argument of union and procreation, but again, that argument seems to explain how things ideally should be, but not when something is severe rather than venial. - Is really worth to spend tremendous amount of effort trying to get rid of that? that effort could be spent in something else, I noticed that you advised to "look for help", however, pretty much all psychologists preach that there is nothing wrong with m****. - Isn't that the _lesser evil_ for singles?, even discarting right off the bat the conducts that are not allowed, I still see some danger in getting motivated to get into a relationship and get married just for having s** (...and the mind it's very treacherous for self-deceiving, fabricating virtuous explanations to just cover selfish desires).

[@dalidaregina]

Mountain sermon. Jesus talked about lust and condemnation in the same chapter. He talked about making the law perfect, so our heart and thoughts matter.

[@luisoncpp]

I know, Mt 5:28 "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." ...still this verse is not talking about m**** specifically, it's talking about everything that involves lustful thoughts. If any lustful thought was that severe, then we would be doomed, if not, then it doesn't include any frame of reference to know when something is severe and when something is venial.

[@damianwhite504]

The most common sense and compassionate answer I have heard

[@nuage6500]

Hello Father Casey, could you make a video on grief? It's such a hard topic to understand and discuss.

[@donm-tv8cm]

Thank you very much for discussing this most uncomfortable topic. I especially appreciate the discussion of the free will concern. It gives hope against what seems like an otherwise hopeless problem.

[@grace-2127]

I've asked several priests this question and I got pretty much the same answer. I'm curious as to what your answer would be. If a woman cannot be fulfilled in the act of intercourse, then is it a sin for her husband to touch her after the act or is that considered masturbation? I was told as long as it's her husband then it's not a sin. I was also told as long as it's with loving intention and not an objectification then it's ok. I always like to have answers for other Catholic women when these embarrassing subjects come up. I checked the catechism and it's still unclear to me.

[@BreakingInTheHabit]

My understanding is that all sexual activity must be directed towards procreation and unity, and that it cannot omit an openness to either. In the situation you described, additional touching aids in achieving both ends, and so as long as regular intercourse was sought first, this would be fine.

[@grace-2127]

@@BreakingInTheHabit thank you, Father, and since I have your attention lol, please permit me one more question. If a Catholic woman left the Church for many years and joined a Protestant Church and then had a tubal after having children, BUT came back to the Church under spiritual guidance and confessed the tubal (which can't be undone) then what? In other words, how can she be with her husband sexually when their act is not open to life? Her husband isn't Catholic so he doesn't feel any sin was committed. He only believes abortion is wrong. They love each other, however, the woman has guilt every time they are intimate. What can she do? I know God hates divorce and separation so I don't think that's the right advice. She's thought about leaving the Church because she doesn't feel worthy of the Eucharist but she believes now it's a mortal sin to leave so she's stuck in every direction.

[@whitney2042]

@@grace-2127 I am not sure how Father will answer this but woman to woman I see it this way. She has seen the error of her ways, gone to confession, and been forgiven. Going forward she and her husband should be able to act in a way similar to a couple who is experiencing on fertility. The Church would not (I hope) tell them they can never be intimate. The Church should tell them as long as they are not using unnatural methods to prevent pregnancy and their hearts are open to having children they can be together.

[@RangersMavsCowboys]

@@grace-2127 There is still the possibility of life even with a tubal, albeit the chances of that happening are very low. That's all I wanted to say. These other questions are 100% reserved for pastoral care.

[@grace-2127]

@@whitney2042 She did have an irreversible tubal so there is no way she can ever have more children. That's the issue.

[@josetierra100]

Wonderful video father. Among your top five in my opinion. Wonderful distinctions.

[@pickenchews]

This comment is me genuinely trying to wrap my head around these things out of desire to better understand, not argue: Most explanations I hear for why masturb/condoms/etc is wrong hinge on this notion that using/doing something for a "different" function than it's "intended" purpose is "obviously" bad. I've never been able to connect with that way of thinking. I grew up on MacGyver lol I'm certainly not declaring that the Church is wrong about it. I have far less wisdom and understanding of things. I'm just saying this *particular* rationale that keeps coming up doesn't make any sense to me, and I hope there's a better explanation out there. I sometimes wonder if we're in a period of reverse engineering rationales to validate rules built for previous understandings. There was a time when ppl thought the sperm contained an entire person in seed form, and so discarding it was like murder. These rules against "spilling the seed" would make a lot more sense then. Now that our grasp on science has updated, are we now just fishing for new kind of logic?

[@KhangGetsStuckInThePast]

I'm 15 years old and I'm struggling with this sin, please pray for me

[@dan69052]

knowledge If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@timmogreen6849]

You will be struggling with it for a long time - many years or even decades... or you will get married

[@jediv9910]

​ @Wgaither1 *Yes why?* you said Why did Roman Catholic Church want to make it harder to get to heaven by making additional requirements for Catholics, like holy days of obligation ?

[@maxheinrichliebow]

Such a good video and sticks to the facts of the faith. And in such a relatable and clear way that avoids confusion. Thank you Fr Casey. From an OFS.

[@ramona283]

Im 23 years old. I just had a confession a few hours ago, and confessed my sin on masturbation. It felt cathartic and the priest told me to redirect these energies to something more meaningful. The priest told me to not be idle to deviate my mind from even thinking of doing it.

[@brandonjones6233]

i’m 20 i struggle with this sin so much i hate myself so much after but i always end up back to it please pray for me i have a horrible addiction

[@isaacmat279]

I am 21 brother and feel the same. I am on the ‘covenant eyes’ app and really need an accountability partner.

[@caracal82]

Just what I needed to hear after yet another relapse. Confession tomorrow and again I'm doubling efforts to pursue holiness. Lord thank you the kind words you send us through father Casey.

[@patrickwilliams7582]

Why isn't Father in the comments tending his flock who need guidance? Why is he so active arguing with people who don't validate his ego?

[@juliusrendon5936]

​@@patrickwilliams7582? What are you saying bro he got responsibilities in real life do you expect him to reply everything?

[@juliusrendon5936]

Pray the Holy Rosary it may help you ❤🎉

[@caracal82]

@@juliusrendon5936 I've been praying 4 every day dor several years now. Dpesn't help

[@juliusrendon5936]

@@caracal82 dont pride yourself that you pray everyday, and dont take the pray as routine or to do list, PRAY IT AS YOU ASK FOR FORGIVENESS AND CHANGE your heart. DONT PRAY IF YOU JUST WANT SOMETHING TO HIM, PRAY TO GOD AS YOU LOVE HIM THAT I DONT WANT TO HURT YOU ANYMORE LORD JESUS I LOVE YOU SO MUCH ITS LIKE YOURE TALKING TO YOUR GRANPA THAT ALWAYS REMIND YOU SOMETHING THAT YOU SHOULD NOT DO AND YOU ALWAYS REMEMBER HIM before you commit sin. SACRAMENTS AND FAITH IS IMPORTANT BUT MOST IMPORTANT IS THAT DO YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD? OR YOU JUST PRAY TO HIM BECAUSE OF YOUR REGRETS AND YOU WANT SOMETHING TO HIM INSTEAD OF HAVING RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM. think about it. DO YOU REMEMBER GOD IN ALL YOU DO? DO YOU ASK GOD WHAT HE WANTS FROM YOU INSTEAD OF WHAT YOU WANT?. its like Lord I want to become a lawyer and if I fail the bar exam for 3 times it proves me that this is not the thing you want me to do, GUIDE ME LORD do you want me to become a priest or nun. OR do you have a gf/bf Lord is this is not the one TAKE IT AWAY FROM ME EVEN IT HURST ME.

[@Ca8tisawesome]

Thank you for teaching the truth with such clarity and charity!

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

I have a testimony on this topic I used to wonder if masturbation is a sin or not because it seemed a bot far fetched to me so I would ask God about it eventually one they answered when I was thinking on the topic and the holy spirit convicted me that it was it was a wrong it felt wrong to do and when asked why I was given imagery of a jigsaw puzzle piece and a peice was missing.

[@SirMevan]

Thank you, Father Casey. I needed that clarification.

[@jmdionishow]

A humble heart and rosary with get you through it. I thought it was impossible but God is always reminding us that He can free us from any form of captivity.

[@dispatcher2243]

I have struggled with this sin since i was 11 years old. Didnt know what i was doing at the time. Just curious and looked stuff up. And i have struggled ever since. I constantly hate myself and feel guilt. I go through periods of obstaining for days or weeks or months at a time. And then i fail and it discourages me to get back on track. I have probably gone to confession nearly a thousand times for these sims of masturbation amd porngraphy. For a long time in the beggining i did not take the euchairst most days as ibbelieved i was in a state of mortal sin. Bit as the years went by i have realized that if i could choose i would obviously stop and never again. My urges and habit do mot control me. But i often forget as i have to fight and focus to not sin at all times everyday. It is simply a habit. So now i take communion. Amd i go to confession almost every week.

[@dan69052]

truth If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@conorowens8382]

I'm Catholic, but this is a load of nonsense and is precisely the reason why the church isn't taken seriously anymore. Is it a sin? Sure, I can buy that. Is it a serious sin with massive implications on your soul? Obviously not.

[@BreakingInTheHabit]

I think you significantly misjudge the effect this has on people psychologically and the gravity of evil that pornography is (participates in coercion, slavery, extortion, and abortions.)

[@ModernLady]

Mastrubation does not equal porn though. What if you think of your spouse? If that is a mortal sin that cuts us off from God nobody would be in touch with God. Does God not talk to sinners?

[@CT-pi2gl]

I think it's extremely important to separate the M, which every human being in the last 100,000 years has experienced as a part of life, from modern digital P, which has only existed for basically 1 generation and should be cause for concern, for all the reasons mentioned. But even then, the way to deal with P is not via anxiety, guilt, and fear for one's soul. Conflating P and M and treating them the same way is a serious mistake and turns people against their own flesh

[@mathiusq9128]

Thank you for the sound guidance here.

[@patrickwilliams7582]

I'm saying a Rosary for everyone in the comment section that needs comfort from Father and is ignored, so he can argue with anyone not validating his ego.

[@manewland1]

Thanks, as always, Fr. Casey.

[@drewbakka5265]

Brother just stopped dancing around it and took the bull by the horns. I appreciate it

[@TheFIoridaMan]

We had a close call for me today brothers and sisters but was able to fight it off. Each month is better than the month before

[@sammae4254]

The timimg is impeccable, I relapsed into masturbation a month ago after 2 months of sobriety. This isn't talked about enough, especially for women and girls. The only resource I have found is Magdala Ministries. I really, really want to stop.

[@oatmealtruck7811]

You always deliver your messages with the utmost compassion. ❤ The nuance of Catholic church’s teachings are really drawing me in. May Our Lord bless you. ✝️

[@dan69052]

If you are wondering about the question of whether your sexuality is a sin or not, I welcome you to consider the following thoughts for clarification. Let’s look at some basic fundamental facts based on extensive research & ongoing R&D. During fetal development a verity of biochemical agents are introduced which determine the development of the fetus. Research has shown that major agents such as testosterone & estrogen & a host of others agents determine size, weight, hair color, eye color & sexuality along with a host of other traits. Variations in the amount & timing of the introduction of these agents have a major effect in development. The fetus is a passive participant & has no influence in these matters. Sexuality, for example, & all other secondary traits are thus given to us. Well, this begs the question, is homosexuality a sin since there is no choice offered. The fetus has no willful acceptance. However, if your religion or belief system states that it is a sin, then there can be no discussion. These are the rules based on this system’s dogma. If you accept this system, you must accept the rules. Facts are irrelevant. This is your only choice which doesn’t include options & exceptions. Rules are rules! If, however, you are in a belief system based on logic, reason, observation & common sense, & no reliance on spirituality or religion, the conclusion is totally different. Replacing ancient religion & mythology & superstition with reason leads to another conclusion. Leaving religions that use condemnation & ridicule for control, can be the first step in becoming a true human being minus any imposed or fabricated guilt. There exist many variations of human sexual expression as well in the animal kingdom. When you leave various ancient religious beliefs behind & chose knowledge based in research, you can see & understand the true nature of humanity. You leave ignorance, hatred, & prejudice behind. In the book Gay Straight & the Reason Why by Simon Levay PhD, explanations regarding this aspect of humanity are clearly explained & is based on research. While I am not gay, I highly recommend this book & the numerous articles. Being gay is no more of a sin than having red hair. They are both determined by genetics & clearly not a sin. There is nothing wrong with you. This is the true choice. Peace

[@ulrich9842]

Never heard before such a concise explanation on this topic. Very helpful indeed. Thank you!

[@dannydonnelly8198]

he is very good at saying you are sinning in a nice way lol

[@crusaderACR]

@@dannydonnelly8198 Great, isn't it?

[@truecatholic8692]

They pretty much just read the section out of the Catholic Catechism. Once you've read that, or listened to this video, you are aware that it is a mortal sin.

[@Tstep45_qr]

Thank you father When i saw the condition for the consent of will , i feel at ease because my act is due to deep seated habit and also after the act i feel fear , guilt and sorrow 🙏🙏

[@guenterh8885]

Helly Fr Casey, thanks again for this video. Even catholicism isn't just all black and white ... it depends. And I think this might even sometimes apply to lying. As you like movies, have you seen "The Invention of Lying"? The moment when the protagonist first time speaks about "the man in the sky"?

[@thinkingandwondering4725]

Thank you Father Casey, these was important for me.

[@Lili-Benovent]

Does anbody honestly think that Catholic Priests don't masturbate?

[@Lili-Benovent]

@@Csmith878 No it's not possible, masturbation is natural and healthy both for the body and mind, it's also fun. Men who deny themselves release end up mental cases or sexual predators, all these people advocating abstention are lying hypocrites who regularly masturbate in private.

[@marlonsouza9224]

Profoundly clear explanation. Thank you so much for what you are doing!!

[@msgoody2shoes959]

The church keeps its standards so low and childish. Bigger issues is priest drugging and raping bc the lamb isn’t spotless. So tragic at the loss of spiritual depth.

[@helpimadog-playthroughs5956]

No Catholic I've ever met is arguing that that's okay.

[@msgoody2shoes959]

@@helpimadog-playthroughs5956 its argued when you have tie reminded to have self control... funny how priest don't shane about drug addiction and gambling, which completely ruin society

[@helpimadog-playthroughs5956]

@@msgoody2shoes959 Father Casey has actually done a video on how we should try to dissuade people from doing drugs. I’d recommend it. He’s not a hypocrite. He covers the whole board.