Is My Partner "Enough"? (Relationship OCD/Relationship Anxiety)

[@itstiaamia]

Amazing video kiyomi! My dad actually came up with a really nice analogy regarding people who want absolutely everything from their partner. He said that when you’re eating an apple and there’s a tiny bit of dirt on it, you should eat around the dirt and enjoy the majority of the apple that’s good. Whereas you (me) focus so much on the tiny bit of dirt I forget to enjoy the rest of the apple. So focus on the majority that is amazing and not the tiny bit that is lacking or that you would change. Idk if any of that made sense but it reminded me of his analogy when I was watching this video 😂

[@МилицаСеливанова]

Good analogy,good comment 🤌💓

[@latenitehvac868]

Thank you for this. Beautiful analogy

[@kayleehager3831]

Would it be possible for you to do more videos on Long Distance Relationships and ROCD/Relationship Anxiety? It feels as if it's ten times harder because of the distance and some more advice would be great. Thanks! ❤

[@nicholeschneider4675]

Doing long distance myself. It makes it THAT much more difficult, but hold on. Focus on your healing 💖

[@simfora8053]

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[@ORCAP994]

I would love this too!

[@hillaro]

Kiyomi, I feel so much love for you when hearing your words. There is something so child-like and angelic about you. Thank you so much for everything you do in our world and for your support and courage to go out and speak about these subjects

[@martinadesimone2389]

this video made me cry,you touched some points that need healing.Thank you for expressing something that i can’t express to myself

[@mollyschmidt8202]

I need help! I think I have ROCD. I have been in a relationship with the same guy for over 6 years. Everything was amazing then all of a sudden during therapy my therapist mentioned that I’m young and he may not be the one. Ever since then I have been in constant pain. I had to go to the ER twice because of panic attacks which I’ve never had before. I am constantly pondering our relationship and going back and forth with thoughts and feelings such as “I am so in love with him and can’t wait for our future” to feeling nothing at all or tons of anxiety. My brain keeps telling me that I want to break up and see different people and party a bunch like your average college student. However I hate drinking and partying but the urges seem so real. Is this ROCD?

[@itstiaamia]

I can relate to you so much. I’m currently in recovery for ROCD with my first boyfriend and I had horrible obsessions over what if I need to break up with him and have a couple of one night stands like every other person did at uni? There’s obviously nothing wrong with having one night stands at all- but this just never appealed to me when I was single, yet my rocd made me feel I was “missing out”. It was really horrible but after reassessing some core values I started to feel a bit better. It’s also worth noting that therapists can sometimes accidentally say the wrong things-they’re human after all. I promise you’re not alone, and I get it’s so so horrible 🥺 I really hope you begin to feel better soon❤️ you’ve got this💜

[@mollyschmidt8202]

@@itstiaamia thank you so much for replying! It helps to know I am not alone. It sucks because I know I want him and I know I want this life but for some reason my thoughts do not. I know this is a fight but sometimes it seems like it’s never ending. I hope the best for you!!

[@felienmusic]

Hey! I think it could be interesting to look into the dynamic you have with therapists. Because a therapist telling you something can really impact you, definitely if you associate that bound with a father/mother like relationship. The therapists talked about their own worry, and you were so shocked, that you made it your own. I can relate that when people say something, I make it my own because I worry that it’s something that I ‘didn’t see before’ or something. But, why do you make the opinion of your therapist so important? Were they there with your partner? No, you are. You have the truth about what is right for you. And sometimes that idea can feel very frightening, if you come from a home were you were taught not to trust your own feelings and to only listen to your parents for example. Sad to hear that it had so much impact, and I hope that you’ll grow into your own selflove and self trust more and more ♥️

[@anonymousbee]

Could you update what you decide to do? Something similar happened to me. I discussed some issues I had been having in my relationship with a friend who is a counsellor too. The thing was I had been Wanting to be married for many years and he couldn't make up his mind. And i let marriage thing go. Now, he wants to get married and it's been 6 months, this year. And she said that me not saying yes is I have commitment issues. I watched Teal Swan's video on commitment and realised I do have attachment trauma. But the friend said that if I didn't want to marry him I should've let him go long time back. Now I am having first bouts of ROCD coz he is my first love and FOMO and perfectionism strikes at my heart.

[@anonymousbee]

I'm having panic attacks and unsettling feeling

[@bodhisattwabanerjee5803]

You are doing work which heals many. Please don't ever stop doing this. Respect and Admiration, B

[@SummitMan165]

Very good episode! Interesting material for me to look at, I’ll subscribe to your channel !

[@meghanhargaden1199]

Kiyomi, wow! One of your best videos I’ve ever seen. Thank you dear one for your wisdom and the time and energy you take to share this wisdom with so many people who so desperately need to hear it, including myself. You are truly a blessing to so many broken hearts and confused lost souls. Thank you for speaking truth here and encouraging us to come home to our wholeness and all that encompasses. Through your videos and my own personal counseling, I feel the parts of myself that have been in hiding for so long slowly being integrated into my whole self. I’m so thankful.

[@doodlebob9147]

So say my bf hurt my feelings (most likely by very little things) do I tell him I got hurt or do I sit with the discomfort until it goes away without telling him

[@hanaz1220]

I am obsessed that my partner is not tall, he is 5'7 and I am 5'4 but I feel like I must breakup because he is obviously not enough attractive to me

[@Jesusandmentalhealth]

Appreciate your very valuable and encouraging information!

[@ellenahocevar6282]

hi! i was just wondering- i have always had ocd and i am pretty certain i developed rocd subtype, but it is so terriyfing it is constantly on the back of my mind, even in the moments that i dont have constant intrusive thoughts and i feel okay. is it possible for the ocd to linger and whenever your happy it just constantly attacks you. i think its because im so worried about healing it at all times and am impatient but i just wanted to hear if that is a normal thing to have constantly weighing you down

[@SarahGThatsMe]

This video was absolutely incredible! You are amazing and thank you so so much.

[@alishaliggett]

This was helpful, thank you

[@darrenarcher6173]

Thanks so much for these videos Kiyomi...

[@888alp]

your amazing ❤

[@sofiacadena2172]

Thank you queen

[@freshliving4199]

When you accept those feelings you are being led by the wrong spirit. This way leads you away from Truth which is Love.