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Que pena que yo no sepa hablar inglés.Necesito ayuda con esto

This video really resonated with me because I have ROCD and I get stuck . I don’t know how to put distance between my self and those thoughts even after years of therapy

I love this!! This video is so reassuring!!

Will you be having another? 🥺👉👈

I am thankful that i have a caring partner I am thankful that my partner is a true man i am thankful that my partner compromises I am thankful that my partner is accepting I am thankful that my partner is always there for me

Why should this meditation not be used to help relieve anxiety/ calm the obsessive thoughts?

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I find it very disconcerting to try and focus on this video with rocd and obsessive compulsive hyper sexual disorder with that much cleavage knowing that you are also trying to help.... I feel like you are doing more harm by recording yourself with that outfit.

This video made me cry tears of relief. I have SUCH a healthy, wonderful relationship with my husband and finally i have some clarity.

One thought that triggers me about the whole “I should feel happy all the time” is actually my partner. They always tell me how happy I make them and sometimes I worry that they don’t make me as happy as I make them. They’re always telling me how I mean so much to them and how they don’t know what they’d do without me and it’s very sweet, but I feel like it puts a lot of pressure on me. They always seem to be so happy, and I feel like I should be too, but because of all of this ROCD stuff, sometimes I’m not and that makes me feel bad. I don’t want to disappoint them. Is there anything I can do?

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Ma'am u are so beautiful ❤️😻

What if the roles reversed but I am the one with ROCD but my partner is not feeling it, I will take it so personally and I will think he doesn’t love me, he’s cheating, the sex must be awful yada yada yada some advice?

I felt better but suddenly I feel like it's coming back... I'm in a long distance relationship for years now and it is hard.... I need tips please

SOMEBODY FUCKING HELP ME.

The dream + intuition + fear of “truth” is so real…it’s so scary when I can’t get myself out of a thought loop. Been more than 2 years, and I’m finally healing, but it’s still scary. It’s so hard to have to pull yourself out of it and remember reality

Me and my bf started dating in 2022 (he’s my first real bf😂), then this year we spent a month separated (because I freaked out about the possible future problems in our relationship and my head told me that the only way was to brake up), I suffered so much missing him, and missing us! Then we came back and a month later this terrible thoughts started coming… I felt/feel so guilty because he’s literally the greatest person I’ve ever met, I KONOW I love him and e feel so peaceful and honest around him and his family… but this obsessions are killing me! Thank you for this videos

Wrong: you don't have the ability to heal, you only have the ability (sometimes) to improve a bit. The intensity of the (biologic) OCD is who decides how well or bad you're going to be, in much the same way you can't change many things about a cancer. Of course you can do things, but the OCD is always on command (if not properly treated, of course).

I've seen several videos where I can almost see your breasts. Any thoughts on that? Serious question.

As good intentioned as your suggestions are, the answer is no, no illness/disease/disorder have a deeper meaning that with time will guide you to a higher state; so an illness/disease/disorder is always a bad thing. Now, thanks to modern medicine, the vast majority of them can be controlled or cured. But, again, they're plain and simple a pain in the ass, there's no deeper meaning nor higher purpose. Now, can you learn a lot from them? Absolutely! But never forget that, for example in disorders like OCD, the pain that comes with it is infinitely bigger than the things you may learn from it.

The childhood-trauma-based-theory of why people have OCD is completely wrong. OCD is a highly inherited disorder through the genes that come from parents, which means you have OCD even before you were born. Now, it will show off differently depending on your age, the circumstances, ... but the basis is clearly genetic. I'm a psychiatrist with more than 15 years of experience, and I've never seen, nor I will ever see, a real OCD induced by trauma, as extreme as it may be. OCD is a very specific biological disorder, that you can't activate or deactivate by external events (and that doesn't mean these external events don't have an impact on the intensity, evolution, ... of the disorder). Having said that, this lovely lady seems to know a lot about the matter, so congratulations for the channel and your good work. PS: never forget about the possibility of Psych Meds, in OCD they can help A LOT, regardless of the psychological help that you should also receive. PS2: very often alcoholism or drug abuse is secondary to a primary mental health problem: could your dad have suffered from OCD (or something "similar") that he tried to "cure/numb" with alcohol? PS3: no, you didn't start with OCD when you were a teen, you had it all along, it's just that OCD tends to clearly get very worse between 15-20 yo (hence panick attacks, obsessive intrussions, the breakdown, the emotional distance (unreal, but that seems very real), ...)

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13:31 This part made me cry It’s à deep pain I can only keep within me It’s actual despair, only us who suffer from this can It’s hard to keep living sometimes But I thank people like you for giving me hope

Try being with a man that has kids and a whole ex wife and you wanted kids and cant have them! I dint think i will ever want to be with anyone ever i feel guilty and bad for my thoughts and feelings and i want to just be alone than feel RJ! I want to literally stay alone forever

Holy crap thank you so so so much for pointing out the whole “if you aren’t happy you should leave” thing because that has played a HUGE part in my ROCD lately. I had been struggling with this thought for almost two months. I would obsess over it and just cry and cry. It was a whole downward spiral. Luckily tho, I am doing a whole lot better now. Just to hear it stated that I won’t always be 100% satisfied helped me a ton and I really hope it helps other people too.

7:43 Thank you, Kiyomi, for your wisdom and love. Thank you for accompanying us and guiding us so kindly yet firmly, like a parent who opens your eyes so you can see reality and enjoy life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤

I have had ROCD with every single person I liked. Including 2 good people that really loved me, but I had the ick, sometimes I just looked at them and their face felt deformed and their whole being digusted me, I wanted to run away. I think only 2 of my crushes were genuinely good people. But then I went in an abusive relationship with a narcissist that nearly killed me emotionaly. Now I have a new crush, I feel attracted and I feel good with him. He's not lovebombing me, I feel heard and respected with him but I'm having this ROCD again. How can I know if he's gonna hurt me or I'm just anxious ?.... I'm sick and tired of this.

Not me watching this to compulsively check of i have ROCD and being humbled im the 1st 3 minutes 😀 Thank you for the work you do. 💚

This channel has been my refuge everytime I relapse with my severe ROCD. I can't thank you enough.

Felt 😂

i’m in my first non toxic relationship and we’re abt 4 months in. when we first got together and first started talking everything was amazing, it was beautiful. and then… this ROCD kicked in once i realized it was different from my toxic relationship, finally being happy and my brain starts making me miserable. i love my girlfriend with my entire heart, she’s the most kind, loving, smart, and beautiful women i’ve ever been with.. we’re 18. it kills me because when we are spending time with each other, i’ll have the on and off OCD and anxiety and i hate it because im really wanting to just spend that time with her and cherish the moments spent. i have no clue where to begin to start healing this OCD but it’s absolutely killing me…

Good information

😢😢😢😢he did to communicate his ex???

there is a question that comes often" does i really have rocd or am i just scared to end it"

This is such a a beautiful perspective

I worry that I won't and when I don't feel what I would, it re-affirms my ocd. My lack of relationships due to my confidence (I'm 42) also seems to reaffirms my so-ocd because it seems to tell me, well why haven't you? Even though I know why, it questions it and then I start seeing things in my life. You saying about knowing someone who has made you beleive being gay is wrong, is a trigger, because it's as if you're saying well you must be trying to fight who you are because of someone else's beliefs. And I'm not. That brings on anxiety. I do think that was my trigger in the first place when I was younger (and being told once that I looked like a boy) But I've never wanted any romantic or sexual relationship with anyone except a guy. I've just not met anyone yet to feel that with. It reads like denial but it's not. If I tell myself "okay, I'm or maybe I'm bi or bi curious" then I'll start to relax. Not because I am but because it gives me space to stop my brain from fighting. But only for a few. And then I start fighting again. Please tell me this makes sense? My head is in a mess.

I feel like this video was made for me. I have a big interest in spirituality, and have had an attraction to it since i can remember. However, i feel like all my "knowledge" is based of social media, 10, 15 second reels. I see all of these people living in a forest, making rituals every day, making spells, having hundreds of crystals, etc etc. And also in spirituality i also feel like theres a lot the mindset of "its something to do alone, you have to cut everyone away for you in order for you to be fully awaken" This has been my major trigger. I've been experiencing major anxiety for the last 2 weeks, its eating me from the inside. I love my partner to death, i never felt a love like this. Im crying just talking about him. But i have all these thoughts saying "is this my intuition telling me i need to leave?", "do i HAVE to leave my boyfriend in order to trully start my spiritual Journey?", "do i need to move to a secluded house in the forest to be who im ment to be?" Its exhausting. I know im in love with my boyfriend, but i feel like if im not doing the whole shabang, the tarot cards, the crystals, the manifesting, then im not doing spirituality right and need to leave to be able to focus on it. I have let go of social media because its not real. Spirituality is watering your plants in the morning. Its meditating before bed. Its talking about the world with the person you love. This video is saving me. Im fighting, im fighting for this love and my love will win. Stay strong everyone 🤍

This is a great reminder, ty❤

I had ROCD on and off with my ex husband for 10 years (Mostly triggered by hormones when having postnatal depression) It's now triggered off again with my new partner who I have been with for 2 years. It's so exhausting 😩 I envy people who can just have relationships and not have these thoughts 😢 x

Spot on!!❤😊

How can we change attachment style in Rocd?

Is there anyone here who was cheated on and developed ROCD symptoms afterwards? I had the symptoms before, but now they are much worse after I was cheated on. Does anyone else have the same problem?

Wow. Your ability to breakdown everything I was feeling this past week is incredible. My first language isn’t English so it’s even harder for me to find the right words related to tpd. I’ve seen a lot of bad reviews outside the swiftie bubble and they were imo too harsh on her. But other swifties on KZbin tend to love everything about it, which also felt a little bit off to me. Thanks for your work, I appreciate it!

Wow i destroyed all my relationships because of ROCD. The anxiety is overwhelming. I finally gathered the courage to tell my mom about this...and she said i should approach this in therapy. I told her do you think X, Y and Z is normal? And she said "no, you are clearly suffering. This is too much anxiety". Im very scared of ever entering a relationship again due to my problem. I get too stressed and obsessed.

Thanks for making this ❤

AAAAHHHHHH. IT'S TRUUUUEEEE

What the other way round? My ex has ROCD on a level that was impossible to deal with for me. I’m still trying to understand but the main issue was that he couldn’t stop thinking of me cheating even though I had no means to and not even any contact to anyone even slightly tempting. But he even brings up that he remembers me exchanging contact data with someone on a party that never happened. But he is sure he remembers it and thinks he is right. I would love to find solutions but how can you proof something that never happened and how can you deal with those kind of accusations when you yourself know you did nothing wrong and he just seems to be soo sure that his thoughts and memories are true. He even tells me that I’m gaslighting him, but for what reason should I do that? I could just completely walk away from this connection if it wouldn’t mean so much for me and I would be interested in others..

I have been experiencing what I think is ROCD, and have been for almost two years. I just had a new experience, and I am afraid of a new thought pattern forming. When I was at the peak of anxiety and felt like giving up, I asked my boyfriend for a break in our relationship--last summer, I think. For months I was fixated on the idea that it would somehow give me the room I needed to breathe and make the decision "is this what I want or do we need to break up?" So, we tried no contact and barely made it a week. I was defeated when it didn't make my anxiety go away. This was the second summer in a row where I felt this way. We met at the end of the week and rekindled. He had no idea why I needed it, or what was happening. Jump forward to December of 2023, the end of my first semester at college, living on campus with my boyfriend. I felt myself healing, enjoying him again, and finding hope. I relapsed several times, and it's been hard. But two weeks ago I felt like everything had lifted. Suddenly, I am just happy again. I wake up feeling confident about my feelings, and I am strong enough to push away bad thoughts. This came after we looked at engagement rings for the first time, which I thought would scare me. And now if it came back, I'm afraid it would smack me harder than ever with a feeling of hopelessness. Two weeks ago, I asked him to look up ROCD. He believes that it's possible. It was such a relief. I've experienced emotions and feelings of love and giddiness and unquestionable joy--and we are truly best friends now. But now, after so long of ruminating and compulsively texting and calling, it's like it just stopped. Like I am finally living what I was craving for so long. We are not engaged, and we are almost 6 year high school sweethearts. There's only room in my heart for this man, no one else, that I KNOW for certain. But now, he's graduating with his Master's degree, and we started talking about him moving to his own place...and he told me he was thinking about our break the other day, and how because we are so close now, he truly could not imagine being without me. How badly it hurt him. I realized that I didn't even have the emotional space to anticipate what it might do to him when it happened, I was so concerned with making the anxiety go away...and I feel terrible. We have found new ground, and we are both happier than we have been in years. But, I know I can't take back what I said I needed last summer. I pushed him away, but needed him so badly. It's been so painful. He will never understand that it wasn't ever his fault, and I feel sick to my stomach. How do I proceed to marry him, now that I am finally starting to FEEL love again, life around me again, if I feel like those awful moments never happened? I don't know if I have trauma blocked it, but I do remember being so sad that my body physically ached and I could barely sleep. I just don't know what to do. I do not know how to feel. I feel like after all of the explaining and the researching and the tears, I can't even reassure him that it wasn't ever about him. He never did anything wrong, but I wanted to run so badly. Run from the anxiety, from the shaking and sweating and crying. I don't know what to do.

This was super helpful! Thank you so much!