Is Pornography Always an ADDICTION??

[@chiconube1693]

You guys should do one about the differences between the RLDS, LDS, FLDS, etc.

[@nikolaihatesu]

I agree! Get on it, Saints! Please!

[@velocity173]

To say it simply, the reorganized lds church and the fundamentalist Mormon church are not the actually apart or with church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints

[@help4343]

The RLDS has been Community of Christ since 2001.

[@ARKwan-jw2ys]

Wow! This is so logical, yet so uncommon in the LDS world that I know. You're doing good things, Saints!

[@improvingintimacylatter-da8488]

Sweet Evangeline thank you. Yes it’s unfortunate it so uncommon.

[@smartalecatheist]

The video never answered the question that's in the title, "Is pornography always an addiction?". And considering the nature of the video, it's not clear exactly what you guys mean by that. If the question means "Is it possible to watch pornography and not get addicted?", then the answer is yes. If the question means "If someone becomes addicted to pornography, can they ever stop being addicted?", then the answer is still yes. However, the problem this video poses, doesn't address the former interpretation of the question, the it suggests that the answer to the latter interpretation is "no". I think the major issue is that this video conflates pornography with sex addiction. And it's questionable whether sex addiction is a real thing or not. Rather than asking if pornography is an addiction, how about asking someone who feels guilty for watching why they feel guilty. And the answer can't be "because I've sinned", because that doesn't address the details. Why does that person personally feel guilty? Why does that person believe pornography is a sin? On that note, how about you guys answer the latter question. Why do you think pornography is a sin?

[@improvingintimacylatter-da8488]

All great points! Yes, it wasn't directly answered. The title wasn't chosen by me and I didn't know the title when interviewed. My personal goal and intended message was to provide a more healthy perspective regarding pornography. If I/we had more time I would have gone into greater detail, some of what you brought up. Thanks for pointing it out.

[@shaylabateman07]

Awesome video. We need more conversations about and like this.

[@improvingintimacylatter-da8488]

Thank you! Yes, yes we do. Please share and lets continue to promote a more healthy dialog!

[@committedcoder3352]

Please please please make the intro animation thing quieter. It's is so loud compared to the audio of the rest of the video. Every time.

[@ddalgi-hime-07]

XxNexusxX: This is so true 😂😂😂

[@tannerspencer2702]

Thank you for having an episode on this! The way we talk about pornography use in the church has got to change. People who have looked and use pornography are not monsters, same goes with any substance use. It used to be said "if you encounter porn...this is what you do." but now it's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when. And when we can have that open discussion about it and why we seek it out then healing can occur, and questions and curiosity can be answered. Many times pornography use is started by curiosity, but then grows into a way of coping. There is a difference between addiction, and using something to cope. Either way we need to learn how to cope with things in life in a healthy way and all of that comes back to how we discuss topics like this. There are tons of resources out there for those of you who are struggling or just want to know more how to help those in your life who view pornography. Here are three fantastic sites you can look at. www.lds.org/addressing-pornography/?lang=eng -this is the churches website that discusses pornography and how to find healing fightthenewdrug.org/ -this website educates about the effects of porn use. www.joinfortify.com/legacy - this website is for those of you who are struggling and want help, and there is a tracker that can help you map out your patterns of usage and really dive deep into what is going on.

[@vchezik]

Thank you for this video! Honestly, it brought a lot of clarity and hope for a better future for me and my husband. What great advice and perspective! I just really appreciate this ♥️

[@improvingintimacylatter-da8488]

Victoria Chezik thank you!

[@bryliang]

Serious question, when did LDS stop teaching the mark of Cain and the mark of Laman in the doctrine? An ex LDS pastor said he was taught these ideas when he was a Mormon, ideologies that still bother me to this day.

[@neenerz419]

LOVE Y'ALL!! Thank you so much for your time and sharing God bless

[@ShilohBoca]

Why would a member start to watch pornography? Why would young members start? Could it be because parents don't talk to kids about sex? Curiosity? We're encouraged to stay away from sex until marriage but the world nonchalantly talks about it. So how as one supposed to relate? Not everyone has member friends that keep sex hush hush.

[@improvingintimacylatter-da8488]

Shiloh Boca word.

[@xepherofdawnfall8003]

Curiousity, accident, friends. That's why it is so important to have strong families ties, so kids come to parents first. But not everyone does, mainly because Satan has worked so hard to destroy the family.

[@emilylee5109]

Everyone has seen porn or heard about it everyone has curiosity I'm a convert and my family and I talk about sex and things all the time its not a taboo its healthy and normal to have these feelings a lot of people who are taught sex is bad have so many fears when they get married its really unhealthy not to discuss it I'm 18 and I'll legit volunteer to give sex ed lessons. I have friends out of state who ask me there questions because they don't want to be judged by parents its sad they would rather ask a random person over there family ya know

[@xepherofdawnfall8003]

@@emilylee5109 of course it is a natural thing that shouldn't be avoided. But it should also be treated with respect and solemness because of how sacred it is. Blatantly going around and making jokes about it is being disrespectful to it and porn is the ultimate of it. Granted it isn't always an addiction as this video proved, but it is still something that should be spoken about in right company. At least that is what I believe.

[@emilylee5109]

@@xepherofdawnfall8003 I agree it really shouldn't be joked about and should be in the right company unfortunately not everyone has that mindset or support system

[@CraigNewsome.]

Awesome episode. I so wish I had these resources when I was younger.

[@sbdno10]

At times I’ve had issues with pornography. I don’t believe I have an addiction. I believe it’s temptation that I give into on rare occasions. I need to avoid it like the plague because if I start then it won’t stop for a long time.

[@ingvildkvakestad]

I really loved this episode really amazing series. When I struggled I thought it would last forever that I could never stop I self harmed. It is really hard I loved how it was talked about in this episode

[@annikawesthof6234]

@Carrie-Anne Corley what do you consider as false?

[@wednesdayaddams9405]

Bravo!! Bravo!! Bravo!! So many Religious Women and Men be it Catholics, Mormons, JW's, Muslims etc etc.. go through horrendous unnecesary feelings of guilt, self loathsome in a vicious cycle of "unworthiness" propagated by Religious leaders, Doctrines and scriptures when Discussing Pornography and Sexual awakening and awareness. I greatly, greatly Appreciate that you offer a way out for people of faith. not to overcome or deny what it is a natural and biological drive; but to overcome feelings of unworthiness which plagues tons of people when they masturbate and/or watch pornography. thank you for diving in to this much needed topic. 💙 Please we need more of this Content to help teens and young adults understand their individual self worth!!! thankyou saints unscripted.

[@improvingintimacylatter-da8488]

Exactly, thank you!

[@wednesdayaddams9405]

Improving Intimacy in Mormon Marriages Thank you!! 💙

[@ShilohBoca]

I'm a member and so against marriage before graduation but marriage with the wrong person could lead to so many problems including porn addiction. Who would watch porn, a person that's single or a married person that knows adultery is wrong?

[@phillipwales5806]

There is nothing unusual about the 12 steps not working they have about 5-10 percent success rate which could very well be the spontaneous remission rate or in other words the people that get better without any help. The problem is not that she thinks she is an addict the problem is the 12 steps dont work. If someone wants help they can get a psychologist or a non 12 step program such as smart recovery. If interested you can look up lance dodes and his book the sober truth. This will explain some of the problems with 12 steps

[@improvingintimacylatter-da8488]

Yes and no. You are correct, there is a higher success rate with those who do nothing, then those who attend 12 steps. Sex/Porn "addiction" is a science. She was NOT addicted. Furthermore I've worked with severe out of control sex and porn behavior. I've yet to find someone actually addicted. The science (medical and behavioral) do not support such a diagnosis.

[@phillipwales5806]

that may be your opinion but addiction has a lot of dissagreement in the field. the amount of doing the activity does not necessarily have anything to do with whether it is an addiction. for lance dodes it depends on underlying issues not how often and he is in the same field now retired. also based on the interview here the 12 steps or more specifically step 1 appears to be at least part of the problem. by the way there is nothing wrong with being addicted because it can be overcome despite the crap the Alcoholics Anonymous spouses that we are powerless and must deal with it for the rest of our freaking lives. like i said the label is not the problem it is what the label means to us which comes from AA. I also found it interesting you admit the rate for the 12 steps is so low and still support the 12 steps. this is repugnant. STOP sending people to programs that dont work.

[@kgarnold8938]

To say that the 12-Step programs does not work (the one point I disagreed with) Is a lack of understanding of what the 12 steps are. If you don't have a believe in the Savior and His atonement then your believe that they don't work may be justified. If you do believe in Christ then the 12 Steps work. Each step serves one purpose... To bring us to Christ. They are not about addiction, they are about accepting Christ's invitation to "Come unto me all ye that labor and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28)

[@phillipwales5806]

i do believe in Christ. I dont believe in the 12 steps. if the best we can do is match the spontaneous remission rate ie no treatment to dissagree with this is unscientific. also the 12 steps is not taking resposibility see kzbin.info/www/bejne/hmPZgaWho7d-i80

[@phillipwales5806]

I don't know much about Augustine but even the lds leaders have taught to believe in yourself they just appear to be confused about addiction and recovery. I believe it was elder Holland in April 2017 said believe in yourself and believe in him. I can forgive them for making mistakes we all do. I just hope they get this corrected soon as many people are suffering and need real help not just group support.

[@supercalifragic1551]

The Church really needs to have a complete paradigm shift on how it addresses sexuality. It's a problem most religions have (because they understand on some level that these things are wrong to different degrees), not a 'mormon' thing. But it's still important. The Church has a pretty bad culture at talking about it or addressing it. Yet cut past the fire and brimstone / hammer and nails, fundamentally we're very open and accepting with a foundation of love. But that love doesn't show when you read about this subject. You mostly just see that sexual sins are right there along side *murder* and just about the worst thing you can do apparently. Not a good look, and not good for people who want help. The LDS church has one of the best frameworks at its heart. But I don't feel like that heart gets shown, instead people with these issues just see the fire and brimstone and it sends them on downward spirals.

[@supercalifragic1551]

@Carrie-Anne Corley comments like that are unacceptable, shallow, and malicious. You claim to have been investigating in other comments but you give every indication that is a lie and you never had any intention to. You appear to just be yet another hateful uncharitable soul seeking to claw others down to your level.

[@supercalifragic1551]

@Carrie-Anne Corley No, you're just spiteful and vindictive. You are sour and come across as utterly toxic and aggressive. Nothing special or unique, people like you can be seen anywhere attacking others for their faiths, whatever the faith is. Mormonism in particular seems to inspire hatred in the hearts of people like you, the closer to the truth something is the more aggressive the hatred towards it.

[@maddisonstewart5726]

Probably your most inspirational video thank you

[@improvingintimacylatter-da8488]

Princess Keda wow! That means a lot! Thank you!

[@sbplzignore]

I came here only to say this: THAT FISHBOWL IS TOO SMALL FOR THAT FISH. Goldfish, when living in proper tanks/ponds can get to 6 inches long and the MINIMUM requirement for a goldfish is to have a filtered 6-8 gallon aquarium (with a preference of it being 10+ gallons) and anything less will stress out the fish and cause it’s life to be short and miserable. The constant water changes that a bowl that small would require to cause that fish to not die of ammonia poisoning will also stress out the fish. You are perpetuating the ideas that fish can be kept in way to small tanks and that fish are props/accessories rather than living animals with the ability to feel pain and suffering. If you cannot spend the 15$ on a 10 gallon aquarium and the 25-30$ on a good filter, please give that fish to someone who will actually take care of it. I don’t care if you think it’s happy, it’s not. It looked like a beautiful fish in the other video I saw and I hate to think that it’s hurting. Find it in your hearts to do the right thing and give that fish the life it deserves

[@withkwaku]

Sydney Balkunas We only our the fish in the bowl when we are filming. He stays in a huge tank normally :) we show it in the behind the scenes episode haha

[@Kat-vm1mx]

@@withkwaku so you know that it's torturous and you still think it's okay for any amount of time? That's almost worse

[@withkwaku]

Kat Yes, I think it’s fine.

[@Kat-vm1mx]

​@@withkwaku Praying you all find more compassion and stop treating animals like they're accessories

[@brendanleonard1375]

Awesome video!

[@improvingintimacylatter-da8488]

Brendan Leonard thank you!

[@improvingintimacylatter-da8488]

Carrie-Anne Corley please do tell, I pray, what a “proper therapist is?” I’m waiting.

[@alanschannel1495]

OMG the naivete of my own people... This guy Nick decided to avoid this issue of porn at all costs, even though he's a fucking Family specialist. Mormon culture empowers porn and addiction by trying to keep it in the shadows as much and for as long as possible

[@jacobmayberry1126]

I wouldn't use this guy as an authority on porn. He uses a lot of outlier studies and does not follow the preponderance of evidence that shows that porn is related to a multitude of problems

[@neenerz419]

I will try my best to make this comment 🤔SHORT& sweet😁! #PLEASE read this!🙇☝️❤✌💪☝️ these emojis represent thanks to our Heavenly Father in the name of his son Jesus and the gifts of the Holy Spirit l☝️with discernment,🤔to continue adding to a VERY strong testimony! with the love for Jesus❤☝️, as I pray Daily 4 All to feel that ✌peace THAT passes all understanding☝️ in the name of Jesus Amen! As I Thank Y'ALL for sharing!! being real! You are doing MANY wonderful things in here! in each episode! I truly believe that the realities of YESTERDAY effects TODAY!&#CAN effect our TOMORROW! This channel can reach out to so many people!!! that are not a part of this church but CAN turn into testimonies☝️ as president Nelson said, about modernizing in today in the present and everything that he talked about is just awesome! Because it can definitely help many and I just want to put myself out there and say thank you again and I truly believe that you will reach many people by talking about reality,even things that happened in people's lives that are still going through it and living in the past, or living in the future, as I have been through many horrific, unbelievable, unimaginable things that could be a book of books and its own testimony, so that's why I always want to make sure that every heart knows that I'm here for you and anybody who needs to be heard and may need help to get through yesterday so we can all live in the present and live it happy with that piece of passes all understanding and I pray and thank heavenly father in the name of Jesus, use those gifts of the Holy Spirit, with discernment as we speak, as we do, let us continue strengthening our testimonies by helping others and continuing to reach out through your broadcast and making reality issues to help others and yes humorous as well! Because I'm terminally ill and on the days that I'm not in a lot of pain I can definitely use a good laugh, and I love to laugh! And lastly! I am so grateful that I finally found where I belong! As a convert I am so thankful and March 24th will be my year, but I have not been to church the past month I've been sick but I'll just leave it at that because I am fighting to get back and I will know more from my doctor's with my MRI, God bless you all with all my love I'm here for you!

[@elliew6592]

Omg this whole episode is nuts... I think it can be assumed that teenagers are going to watch porn. If my parents made me go to a clinician I would be mortified.

[@alanschannel1495]

For you BYU (Provo) Students: Take SFL 376 Healthy Sexuality In Marriage by Chelom Leavitt. Shes a fucking badass and will help you break out of the traditional hush-hush culture about sex, porn, masturbation and everything in between. (classes available Fall and Winter Semesters)

[@alysims7104]

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