Is she telling too much? Or is this okay?

[@ejspeaks]

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[@QuitasBanana]

Yes baby that is talking too much. TAKE US OUT THE GROUP CHAT!!!

[@Discernin8]

@QuitasBanana 😂😂😂😂

[@ricaivory6571]

Let me just going block all y'all 😂

[@lkeke35]

You lost me now!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Discernin8]

@@ricaivory6571 😂😂😂

[@kansaspeach7727]

That is between her, the doctor that treats her, and God! 🙄🙄🙄😳😳😳🤧I'm a Registered Nurse. You tell me you have Herpes.. I got one word for you="blow dryer!" 👍🏽

[@mztweety1374]

People need to realize the internet is not your therapist and it is not your diary.

[@lkeke35]

There are people I see every single day who don't know none of my business! 😂

[@KV-mz8ro]

Exactly! Some things should be kept private.

[@melsutubeification]

Nor, is it your friend.

[@yahainHotPink]

That part. I'm trying

[@kaylawaters2691]

Facebook is especially bad for this reason, people putting too much of their personal business out there.

[@kylawilliams5951]

Lol 😂😂😂 "We don't judge... but we do ask questions"😂

[@lkeke35]

Questions Like: why you telling me? Why you talkin'? Who are you?😂

[@MeeCee5204]

Right! So how do you go back to your regular life after this post? You know they won't let you bake cookies for your kid's class anymore, right?

[@brenale_heartsJesus]

@@lkeke35lol who are you 😂

[@sweetbeauty2153]

​​@@MeeCee5204 Exactly! I'm wtf?🤷‍♀️ Girl bye!🤦‍♀️🙄🤦‍♀️🙄😒😒😒😒😒

[@DivaViews]

What happened to journaling? Diaries? Real life friends?

[@krissyjn]

Apparently TikTok is the journal. KZbin is the diary!

[@christinalafleur3813]

@@krissyjn😂😂😂

[@ynmonroe]

@DivaViews Things that make you go Hmmm for 200, Alex!

[@nwatson2773]

Old schoo!

[@yrb5512]

Writing isn't taught any more and friends you meet up with not to talk, to share what you saw on social media while y'all both scrolling. Oversharing has become the norm

[@Taisha12001]

Attention is one helluva drug 🤷🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@jillhoward-smith8628]

Love this

[@emberskies999]

It's like the FBI doesn't even have to try to interrogate the information out of people. They just need to give them a phone and like a canary they sing.

[@Glitch_1000]

🤣🤣🤣 And the lie is WHERE?!

[@Karabo_Mash]

😂😂😂😂

[@Ms.July29]

Canary 😂

[@vanw1504]

In the immortal words of Big Mama, “Baby, zip yo lips!” Folks don’t need to know your business! 😂

[@livinginHim]

Okay!!!!! And where is the boyfriend? 😂😂😂😂😂

[@rosiejaxon2534]

I’m the “going thru Hell & High water & you’ll never know” type person👌🏽

[@stephensmith219]

Nah, what she is doing is "dry snitching". Women who know her also know who she is dating. This puts him on the do not touch list for local females.

[@h0rriphic]

Omg i didn’t even think about that. 💀

[@taradraper8590]

Exactly, and he probably give it to her.😂😅

[@blaizesibande6634]

Oooooooooooooooooh..... This is so wrong. I've never stooped this low.

[@robinheberlig6434]

Oh, my gosh. I just learned something. I had never heard that word and had to google it. Interesting.

[@GratitudeGriot]

“Do not touch list”? This is exactly why she’s so transparent. Ppl with STIs don’t deserve to be ostracized

[@NoEBabyyy]

“You can get wall paper, hemorrhoid cream, and hamburger meat. None of those things go together, but here we are.” 😂😂😂 All factual

[@Emilaria]

Social media has destroyed humanity in so many ways.

[@tarawalker7193]

And it's ALWAYS something I didn't want to know. Have to search for something I WANT to know 10 different ways before I find the answer, but will find out 30 things I DIDN'T want to know while looking for what I want to know. Smh...

[@nervousbabbs2769]

Google really has gone down hill lol so many blogs with TMI at the top search

[@oneritchie]

When you put someone on the Internet, it's out there FOREVER. People seem to forget that.

[@piecesofme8531]

YES, SHE SAYING TOOO MURRRRCH!

[@CallMeErie]

@piecesofme8531 Not “murrrrch”! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@CatrinaTeverbaugh-if2zr]

That's what Madea wud say😂😂😂😂

[@kaladavis_artistpage]

“Can WE ring up the bread…so I can go” 😂

[@moniquehunt4475]

As my late Grandma used to say, “Something’s need to be taken to the Grave” ☠️💀🪦🙏🏽😢

[@NOLAqueen504A]

It is too much information but I think she was trying to help others with herpes that think their lives are over. I ain’t got it but I understand her message.

[@dorisbynum1770]

That may give someone with the same diagnosis hope that life doesn't end. Very brave of her. Bless her!

[@ashleychamp1544]

Lady... umm... don't do that lady...lady don't do that... don't say stuff like that lady ...Lady!!!! Oh my Lady... Dont. Do not. Lady!!!!😮

[@tashabobasha2382]

I appreciate her wanting to help people and let them know that life goes on. It was nice of her.

[@theswych]

But what about an ex that isn't the ex she's meeting at the restaurant? 😮All his friends will think it was him who gave her herpes. 🙄Y'all are really out here DOING TOO MUCH!! 😞😭

[@tiffanyfleming6495]

TDMI…….TOO DAMN MUCH INFORMATION 😳😂😂

[@purpleness64]

Doing the absolute most with the least amount of couth

[@lkeke35]

😂😂😂😂

[@courtneyf8385]

Truth! 😂

[@Oonagh72]

Bless her heart. I’m glad I don’t remember what she look like.

[@jayeb4494]

More people need to be this giving of information so we know from JUMP😂

[@victoriaB6385]

“Well, if I gotta go through it, then you gotta go through it too.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I have Facebook friends like this

[@caressaclark1042]

Telling everyone you have herpes, is better than telling no one you have herpes, while sleeping around like many people do.❤

[@abbywilson5988]

Truth

[@GSutton]

The problem is she's telling her boyfriend's business, too. It's great that she's letting go of the stigma and the shame, but he may not be there yet, and she's taken the decision away from him.

[@galaxylucia1898]

@@GSuttonI mean.. but what if HE is the reason she got it in the first place???🤔🤷🏾

[@GSutton]

@@galaxylucia1898 that's an assumption, but even if it was true she still shouldn't be telling someone else's medical information to the world.

[@sweetbeauty2153]

​@@GSutton🎯💯

[@ashleyb.8217]

She is stopping the stigma.

[@caressaclark1042]

Yes.❤

[@jant4385]

I read a book like this titled The Side Effects of You by Anna Black. It featured 3 friends, if memory serves right, and one of them had herpes. She thought it was very important to be upfront about it and disclose this to her dates early on. There are herpes communities. That was the only good thing about the book, the rest of it was trash and most book club didn't finish it.

[@Ms.July29]

I was watching a British documentary, and one of the nurses said in today's society we have more sympathy for people living with HIV than we do for people with herpes. He also said people with genital H are more suicidal but you never hear that from people with oral H (cold sores). Anytime I see these posts, I always substitute the H word with HIV and wonder how different my reaction would be to the post.

[@GSutton]

That's why they don't advise testing for it unless someone has a breakout - the diagnosis can cause a breakdown. I'm glad she's able to move past the initial pain & shame, but now everyone who knows her also knows her boyfriend has been exposed, and he may not have been as comfortable sharing that information with the world.

[@BearingMySeoul]

Did they say WHY on earth someone with HSV would be more suicidal than someone with HIV? Do the people with HIV think they're going to die anyways? It's not the 1950s or whenever someone decided that people shouldn't be informed about a transmittable disease existing in their bodies. Medical care needs to catch up.

[@maxine2564]

It’s TMI. Her family must be so proud. 🙄

[@kolvinlewis]

I was at lunch with a few of my classmates when one of them tells the rest of us that she has herpes. . . Needless to say, that lunch hour was AWKWARD.

[@autumnsky3032]

There's an agenda to break the stigma associated with herpes, and those who have it. It's been said that herpes is not included in most standard STD testing because more people have it than realized, many of whom have no clue because they've never had a symptom. While working toward reducing shame isn't a bad thing, I can definitely imagine sharing this randomly at lunch with classmates made for an awkward hour.

[@galaxylucia1898]

Lawrence Fishburn once said in a podcast that people are more interested in self-disclosure and less in self reflection. I’m paraphrasing, but it’s been a point that remains true about social media and internet years later. 😩

[@RyanB_Journeys]

I actually understand this post. One of my besties has it. In the US 1 in 6 people have it. When you’re dating it’s really difficult because many people want to be honest but it’s hard to find people who are comfortable with it. I just get the other side of the perspective because she chooses to be honest when dating and a lot of people (which is understandable) are not comfortable with it. And many of those people actually probably already have it and have never gotten tested 🤷🏾‍♀️.

[@nahtally.b9139]

And this is why i don't eat out anymore. The unnecessary drama and TMI that you hear and see nowadays is just a turn-off!! Lemme eat comfortably in my own house while I watch miss EJ on YT, thank you very much!!!😂😂😂

[@TMYPiscesSunandMoonRising5548]

I have never had social media, but YT. This is enough for me 👍🏾.

[@kj0522]

Yes there is TMI. But like you say there are folks who put it all out there- bless your ❤ and the folks who are like a steel door. This is the life we live now 🙉🤷🏽‍♀️

[@jvstkiki]

Too much information 😮

[@Msmary98-98]

I have a whole journal that I can write in if I need to vent… the internet is forever and I don’t feel the need to put my personal life out there for everyone to see❤

[@QueenKunta]

Now why are we in it? This was not our business to know. Bless her heart.

[@lovecakes8108]

That was definitely unneeded to know

[@BrownSugar8238]

It’s some people commenting right now that have it too but guess what! They aren’t on here telling their business cuz WE don’t need to know! Wish she would get a clue.

[@supernova7063]

Why was I waiting for her to say something?! Then I tried to read it and it was too late 💨 it was gone. Then I yielded and listened to EJ’s synopsis and was aghast! EJ got all the extra views because I was steady trying to read that caption. Pshaw! I’m thinking she telling everything now so when the Book of Life is open, she will get a ✅ for confession. They say it’s good for the soul.

[@ablacksquare]

It IS possible to tell too much but in this case I don’t think so. The statistics are in her favor as something like 180 million people live with a form of this disease. Sometimes people need to normalize thing to remove shame but also to create opportunities for information sharing that would be helpful in reducing the exposure. Sharing this way also positions her to build community. But yeah SSN addresses, cell phone numbers are sharing too much. If you have the privilege of community, partnerships, access to healthcare, the complexion that is protected, than an announcement is minor.

[@SuzWhat]

Once again they are out here telling everyone things you couldn’t waterboard out of me.

[@idk2246i]

@suzwhat 😂 you are so right!

[@CyneasIdeas789]

The other day I saw someone show their used feminine products on TikTok….enough said 😅

[@erikas9945]

Ugh

[@bonniepeele1504]

Looking at your shows coming up, this Auntie is PROUD OF YOU!!! 👍💃💃❤️🙏🙋

[@nervousbabbs2769]

OOf. Had a subway girl trauma dump on me the whole time I was trying to make my order. I left there and wanted to die. I was going through so much with losing a child and did not deserve that. She ruined subway for me and I'm afraid to go back, that sweet onion chicken teriyaki been callin my name though..😅

[@Ms.July29]

I was depressed, I had jus lost my job and I thought a manicure would help. The lady dumped so much on me (including her brother's brutal murder where he was near decapitated), I left a 50% tip and went home and cried 😢 It's funny now, but back then if I looked at my nails I would sink into sadness 😂

[@ssgwright7419]

Blessings From Texas🤠

[@dottylucille7186]

Yes, we did NOT need to know that😣😣

[@Chipster724]

I cant even blame the internet because random folks will come up to me at Walmart and just spill their trauma and gossip. 😵‍💫 I didn't ask.

[@vivianlawrence778]

We live in a "whole new world" 🎶🎶 these days don't we? 🙃 We've come a long way from the days where saying the word "pregnant" was not allowed on TV.... now we all just be sharing stuff nobody needs to know. 🫠 Love you EJ! 🌻💛

[@kirbywiggins5643]

I talk a lot but not about anything that would be embarrassing to me.

[@tdavis2226]

That post is definitely going to get her the attention she wanted…but people aren’t gonna be as nice as she expected 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Nicole_B1]

WOW! Everything isn’t for everybody 🤦🏽

[@moniquewilson-johnson9446]

Yes, too much can be told on the internet. Way Too Much🤨

[@mbyrd6713]

To be honest, there may be somebody who needs to hear this. I had someone really close to me be diagnosed with HIV. Even though the medications are so much better, we’ve been struggling with the mental battle. When Billy Porter came out and talked about his diagnosis, it helped me understand so much more. Doctor’s and therapists can help but sometimes, we all need to hear the voice of someone who is battling too. Plus, there are medications that help people with herpes live normal lives too. I get that it’s a lot of info, but after dealing with the suicide risks and all the stress, I’d take all the support I can get. Love you EJ, thanks for posting ❤

[@loeproverbs]

Reason #989 why i cant trust eating at a restaurant. Everybody just need to get plastic from now on. They got fancy plastic utensils.

[@EbuniMisses]

The internet is like HR. Utalize it, but don't tell it all of your business.

[@heidiely3243]

Absolutely. No shame. No judgement. But not everyone wants to come up on certain things. Give us a content warning so we can decide for ourselves. I follow some people that I don't watch all their content because they talk about stuff I don't want to hear. They've said they do this because they know it makes money and they don't normally talk like that in real life. They know what they're doing. I just think, for me, would I want someone I know seeing me talk like that. And I don't talk like that on or off the Internet.

[@iamdaone3628]

Me & my cousin have this conversation all the time lol cause I’m the type that will tell the world while she’s the “you will never know” type. I don’t know I just don’t be caring that deep lol but I will only speak on things I’m comfortable with sharing which still might be too much at times. Long as I’m the one telling my story I don’t care & I don’t mind answering any questions you might have after story time.

[@SaraYah33]

That was straight up a strategy against the boyfriend. Crazy backlashing way to go about it though.

[@kells881]

🤔🤔🤔… I come from that era of, some things just aren’t anyone’s else’s business. I am a private person so, I don’t tell personal stuff to anyone, no matter how close we are. Some things, you just keep to yourself. This generation of people who have come up with social media, haven’t any idea of that. 😳😳They will reveal all without you even having to ask.😔

[@chocolateladycap2773]

Absolutely possible to tell tooo much

[@tashaphillips5289]

Yes it is possible. That is why I stick to family, friends...and subscribed KZbinrs!

[@rhondagoodwin5711]

Tooooo much. Private vs secretive I'm private..... I only share my secrets with 1 or 2 close, close, friends ❤

[@DoctorateBae]

Wow like we didn't need to know that. Like I am really concerned, people don't understand privacy anymore.

[@lynncarol5525]

Yea it is a think call saying to much on social media ppl do it ALL THE TIME. Now I have did it b4, (not on social media) bt in my Uber. And the Uber driver look @ me like I was crazy 🤪 ❤️✌🏾

[@TarotwithPeachez]

Yeah to me that would be placed in the "too much" category, I tell much much less that than online ☺

[@CrixusHeart]

In my generation, we were told don't even use your real name on the Internet. These young girls got they picture and they private medical diagnosis and anything else you don't want to know. smh

[@lueenlindsay3714]

She just helped every guy that sees it. At least they know.

[@janiceharris5475]

Even the government alphabet agencies couldn't get that out of me. The IRS, FBI, CIA, NIH and on and on.😂

[@lilycollegemythbusters5532]

I was at the public library today and there was this lady having a full on conversation in the magazine section about someone bullying and harassing her son, on her cell phone. Ma'am, just go have your private conversation in private. LOL!

[@sonjashirley3038]

We just sometimes need to be quiet I think people just want attention !!

[@Omisade-kr7re]

No , this is what you keep to yourself. To yourself

[@lindahubbard-brinston6741]

Hey there, EJ. I really like your Roydale and Alivisteen sweatshirts/hoodies. Will you ever provide those as t-shirts? I live in Hawaii and it's almost always warm/hot. Love your content! Blessings & Aloha 🌺

[@pinksmokeysmash1482]

Please take us out the group chat, I didn't ask for all that info

[@joyh2224]

Simply 2 much; BUT, but, if I need it I already know, it's out there.

[@rhondatucker1783]

Yes!! Toooo much!!!

[@ScorpionLisa]

There's something my Best sister's girlfriends don't I did. Why would I tell y'all on the internet? 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️Taking it to the grave.

[@MsBrooklyn63]

I guess we got to take the good with the bad😊

[@seniorklass3436]

I do judge situations and people.

[@toshawhatareyoudoing6410]

Let's keep some of the mystery in this relationship. 🤫

[@j.t2310]

And so here we are 😂❤

[@jennzifur]

Y’all older kids remember that old math with “too much information” and you crossed out the non-pertinent info? I do. Pepperidge farm also. 😂

[@zeala1]

It’s good people are saying too much this days. You know to avoid such people.

[@charlotteblesses4194]

Sweetheart, that is too much that I don't need to know on KZbin.

[@melissacopeland5147]

Now that's wayyyy too Much 💯

[@dandrem.4074]

Well, I am judgmental and I am judging constantly thus I can't be at fault for what im judging 😂

[@melissa91205]

Too much. Can we go back to landline phones

[@trecelesliefloguth4727]

Not any and everybody needs to know what is going on with you, some things just need to keep to yourself or between you and whoever it is.

[@ldkea05]

Wowwwww …. Ppl put literally anything on the internet like we REALLY didn’t need to know

[@VanessaEvans-j3z]

TMI

[@ericalewis1084]

She doing tooooo much!!!

[@jasminesmith5447]

What did the caption say? I couldn't read it.

[@julesm7791]

There's commercials for HIV/AIDS also sexual medications out there on .

[@QueensYarnBoutique]

That was TMI. 🙅🏾‍♀

[@charlottemccombs9931]

All of that can be true. You can tell too much on the internet when it comes to other people’s business. But feel free to share as much of yours as you like. It was fine of her to share her diagnosis but her boyfriend and immediate family may not want the world to know. No judgement but I will have follow-up questions because I need details.

[@teniaosayande6355]

Ummmm say huh say wuuuuuttttt 🤯🤯 but why is it always somethin ION EVEN wanna know!! Like girl 🥴 I didn't need to know, the whole wide internets did not need to know!