Is The Grass Greener On The Other Side?

[@oeleboeleperen]

People naturally get bored of eachother after being together for so long, it will not be different with the girl from the gym. Sometimes your own feelings can fool you aswel. Try to analyze your current situation and try to understand what exactly made things go stale. Don't take big decisions based on your emotions.

[@polkacaty]

Wow! Never thought of this. You make a lot sense…

[@judehugoemefe8709]

really a good thinking!! with time things gets normal!! as a man is ur duty to create fun and lead!!

[@afterallaudioproduction6219]

100% - he's gonna break up with his girl and then a week - a month later feel like he made the biggest mistake ever. They probably just need a little healthy space from each other to recalibrate.

[@LRF49]

This is why you need hobbies and your own persona to have time for yourselves. That's how you counter the boredom.

[@austinmiller3618]

Most balanced coach on the internet been with you since 2012. Thank you coach.

[@Ferg778]

Been with him since 2012 too haha

[@diegojesusgomez88]

That's hardcore.

[@jameszx7]

Loyalty and commitment flying out the window when limerence comes in. So much for being teammates in that relationship. Grass is greener where you water it.

[@taramullock1676]

Well said. Very well said.

[@griff4899]

Life happens for you and not to you. That's such a good way to look at it all.

[@MrConway007]

What does that quote mean: “Life happens for you, not to you”?

[@Glitterati-zm1pn]

Thanks so much for saying this Corey. I would rather have a man break up with me than feel like he settled. I want a man to follow his purpose even if I am not in the picture. At the end of the day like you said I can then find someone who thinks I knock their socks off .

[@jackbaker747]

Can speak from experience. The grass is rarely greener and doing this will only cause you and everyone involved more heartache. Think very carefully before rushing into an emotional decision

[@Erik-leChef]

Yeeess the classic background is back!

[@jensangelsgaard1854]

Where is the Wall of Venuses!?

[@CreastoOfficial]

This guy in the email will never be happy in his life, no value for loyalty.

[@villesanti1]

Here's the problem: relationships always get into a routine and even boring at any given moment. Going on an adventure while in a relationship is sad. Sad because that moment of wonder and excitement is just a phase. The best thing to do is try to take care of your own garden before adventuring to another. If things don't work, yeah, go your separate ways, but don't betray your partner just because you have fling.

[@Uvray]

There is, of course, the distinct possibility that the new girl at the gym will totally destroy his life. When you're thinking with your little head instead of your big head - you only find that out when it's too late and your life is in tatters.

[@wesrichmond]

One bird in hand is better than two in the bush.

[@ppg1669]

Been a rough couple days. Thanksgiving, what would’ve been a 7 year anniversary, and Christmas coming up all spent alone. Deep down I already knew she wasn’t the one for me, but I stuck it out because I thought it was the right thing to do. Now I’m still grieving despite knowing it’s right that it’s over. Thanks for the video.

[@irisvanjunior4512]

i know how you feel bro, focus on each day cause if you think long term without her it may stress you even more, just give time to the wound and one day the sun will shine brighter

[@ppg1669]

@@uberbabe585 I know you probably meant this is the nicest way, but you’re wrong. You can still love someone and realize they’re not a good fit for you and let them go. Just because you know they’re not right for you doesn’t make it any less painful. Best.

[@marco18979]

the grass is greener where you water it

[@mrsigma7669]

Give this man an award

[@wutabeta1187]

Thank you, thank you, thank you for clarifying 15:57 that “you need to create a space” for somebody new to come into your life. Saves a lot of pain, especially when they make the choice then won’t leave you alone…

[@MattSmith-pg2kx]

Life is about discovery and the journey. Sometimes it’s best to fail and try things you want rather than sit in the safe zone and do what everyone else does.

[@rawandmahmood5760]

Word brotha. Always listen to yourself and what's best for you.

[@goodtakeproductions]

What do y'all think... what if we are framing love as just a "feeling" rather than a choice? What if it's a feeling at first, but then after a while, it becomes a choice which turns back into a feeling? For example, I didn't love my father growing up. He made my childhood miserable and never showed me love. As an adult I've chosen to love him despite him never realizing or really apologizing for his behavior. This EFFORT to love him has made me love him and is helping me see him for the man he really is deep down, and it's healing to both him and me. Can't this be applied in relationships?

[@PussInBoot414]

I think that’s a really good point you make and ideally it’s what we would all do but I think especially these days we are all in some way or another too addicted to good feelings and that ‘spark’. We want things quick and intense and once that dies down we’ve kind of been told that it’s over. I know from experience that this is something I tried to work with my my ex just couldn’t do it. It’s unfortunate but I have to take it as a lesson.

[@austinnguyen9107]

6:50 I wish Corey included this as well, but I think you should communicate your needs and see if things improve, before ending things. Just walking away without saying anything is not the loving thing to do. Now, since you don't even know what those needs are, I think you should check out the Tony Robbin's 6 basic human needs, and also the 5 Love languages. Attachment style therapy (check out Thais Gibson's channel) should help you understand your childhood trauma (dysfunctional family, not enough strokes as a kid, poor communication, etc), where your insecurities come from and how to overcome them. It'll help with understanding your specific needs too. With regards to "Grass is greener...", if you don't figure out what this wasn't working and just rely on "it doesn't feel right", it's guaranteed the cycle will repeat in your next relationship.

[@kzrockbottom6563]

I agree, this person saying that its been 2 years of relationship and he is starting to get feelings for a new person in the gym. I mean he should maybe give a thought about improving the current relationship and how to get the spark back... go for good communication or some new ways to enjoy with the current partner. Otherwise he will face the same outcome in his next relationship and that is not a good integrity.

[@wutabeta1187]

Yeah the question if the grass is greener on the other side was never answered. Communication is the key because if feelings are properly communicated then you can know where each other are at and address it or move on civilly and respectfully

[@rawandmahmood5760]

@@wutabeta1187 how do you communicate feelings like that though?

[@wutabeta1187]

@@rawandmahmood5760 you say “I feel like our relationship has been stagnant lately and I’d like to figure out why.” And then see what the other party has to say. Instead, because we don’t have all the info, it seems like he kept it to himself and then started entertaining other thoughts/prospects

[@austinnguyen9107]

@@rawandmahmood5760 Literally what do you say? Communicate what you need in a positive way (words of appreciation, physical touch, what's important to you, what makes you feel fulfilled...) In your case, "Self-improvement is really important to me, I watch video's, I read self-help books, to help me become a better man. Btw this guy Corey Wayne is great! Is that something you're open to, are you willing to put in the work going to therapy or learning about this stuff? If she says no, then "Thanks for the memories, but I don't think we share the same values. I'd rather spend my time with people who also value growth." If you're not clear about what you need just say you're bored or not feeling it, they're not going to know either what you need. Just like you'd be confused if a girl said she's upset but she doesn't know why when you ask

[@coltonlafrance196]

20 minute video? Let's go!

[@bettermanchannel770]

People are lazy these days, they don't want to put in the work. Imagine. If you never mow your lawn it gets pretty wild, take care of business and see how things begin to work out, I'm tired of excuses

[@taramullock1676]

Exactly

[@johnnyboy2411]

Exactly! Once a couple gets married they stop doing all the things they used to do for each other. Showing appreciation, going out on dates, complementing each other, working together through the hard times, Saying thank you! Sad the newer generation doesn't get these concepts.

[@truenorthaffirmations7049]

Throw some fertilizer on your side trim the bushes and create a badass lawn, stay strong men

[@theneedao1508]

Coach you are the best Thank you for everything. Greetings from Germany

[@kenysims5685]

Bro you are a god among us and God sent‼️

[@robertjohnson1078]

She triggered an epiphany in him.

[@BasedBrothers]

Follow your intuition, your soul - live a life that is authentic to you. This is the key to a good life. Make decisions from that space and trust the process and journey it will take you on. Stay Based

[@cainm8808]

This videos timing couldn’t be anymore perfect for me.Thanks Coach.Iv read the book 4 times still have 11 more to go.

[@delont1986]

Found my twin flame thanks to your work. Thanks Coach. Love you, man!

[@rpasko3]

Perfect timing as always!

[@albert-lutherrandolph2808]

Let’s go 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

[@scorpiocurse7969]

Every relationship goes through certain phases, and sooner or later, as the honeymoon fades, things will become a bit stale. But what people nowadays don't understand is that it is normal, it doesn't mean that they aren't the right person, that the relationship is doomed. Attraction comes and goes, what matters are the friendship and companionship, the parnership, the trust and the respect. As long as those are strong and present, the relationship has enough value to be preserved. Then the time of burning passion and romance will return. Don't throw away something meaningful because of boredom and some shiny object that caught your eye.

[@nicholasmartin1881]

Thanos little brother is very wise

[@polkacaty]

I love you coach! Thanks for everything that u do

[@assassincreed2087]

Take it from me the grass is never greener on any side. We're all people and humans are the only species that dating prospects can be selected from.

[@anthonyjacksonjr4812]

I understand what Coach is saying here. If I didn't leave my old relationship in time the woman I have now wouldn't be here. My new woman has more happiness to share with me and that feels great.

[@nickrindlisbacher6553]

My experience is that i am dealing with a narcissist and these kind of tactics wouldn't make much difference cause i mean nothing to her anyway....and despite how i feel why wound is want to be with someone who doesn't and never wanted me .....sees me as supply

[@Angelsb-ball22]

Update? And I feel you on that one

[@lousunny5682]

I think he’s lost the spark with his current girlfriend and was likely in a lower point when they got together. Now his confidence is different and is seeing things differently. Usually when you are in a ltr and you get really excited over someone else, it means it is time to go. Honestly though, just because someone looks at you, doesn’t mean it’s your person either. Swedish people are quite and less verbal before actually officially connecting/meeting. So, it’s not unusual that Swedes would stare, but when they do, it is a message. But idk, I think he needs to just breakup with her because he has strong doubts.

[@taramullock1676]

The “spark” always fades. That’s the honeymoon phase. I doubt he ever loved his girlfriend. You don’t just trade in the current one for someone new on a whim if your actually committed and if you love them. So he should go with the new chick, because sooner or later, it’s inevitable that he leaves his current partner. He’s probably wasting her time.

[@Orgizo08]

Corey Wayne is the 🐐‼️

[@eliasbiral]

That's gold material right there

[@lyricalloophouse2497]

Corey will you be talking about vaccine mandates and what’s really going on in the world. We know the media is lying to us. Will that be too far with KZbin? Maybe on your website, I know you’ve already thought about this but it’s super important and honestly we’d love to hear what you have to say. This is really crazy that we as a world are being forced to take this “vaccine” it seems like you’re dropping hints with the videos but I really don’t know.

[@spectrum9803]

Hey guys/coach, my ex and I broke up about a little over a year ago now. We were together for 8 years. I did everything Coach says. Told her what I wanted, told her to reach out if she was interested, vicious no contact, etc. The first 2 times she reached out (maybe 1-2 months out of the relationship), I asked her on a date which she rejected. I stopped asking her but every couple of months she will find a reason to email me (typically things to do with old bills, business we used to have, etc.). I'm perfectly happy not having her lol. But I can't deny the years and memories we made together. Should I make a final move or keep strong and wait for her to make it? Even if it never happens. I don't even know if she's in a relationship. I've never once slipped up since the breakup, there is no neediness coming from me. I'm just confused on what to do.

[@crnivuk7092]

Date another women and enjoy life. You live it only once. Don't waist your time on People that don't want to spend their time with you!

[@Anth_D]

Next!

[@imakefunn123]

Im so unsure about weather my girl is worth the risk..She don't want to live here in the mountains because of less sun then out by the sea.. so we have agreed to live in the middle.. but what if we are having kids and neather of us want to live there after all? What then? What if she insists to live out by the sea where I don't have any hobbies... should I then often drive long distances back to my town to ski and stuff??

[@flurry6351]

Coach, what is your take on religious or ultra conservative women? I remember in one video you said “you’re missing out” but isn’t it also important to have the values and soul aligned?

[@TheLouisianan]

My girlfriend is religious and conservative (but not ultra conservative) and it can really pay off to be patient if you want that. She was 24 and a virgin but because I just took her out on fun dates and didn't try locking her down, she started trying to lock me down. I think around our 5th or 6th date she told me she was ready and let me pop her cherry. Been dating for over 3 months and she's the easiest girlfriend I've ever dated. Like Corey always says with the James Bond reference, sex is always inevitable; just be patient and like a cat let her come to you. Good luck man!

[@flurry6351]

@@TheLouisianan thanks for sharing! I personally believe it's inevitable after marriage but the philosophy is on point for sure. It seems the timeline will take longer for me but like a game of tennis I must love so they feel free. Hope your relationship stays strong!

[@TheLouisianan]

@@flurry6351 thanks man. And don't be surprised if it happens quicker than you think. My girlfriend was a 24 year old Catholic virgin and she was practically begging me after I just acted indifferent to sex. Just like a cat you ignore.

[@VoiceOfThe]

Coach, I don’t believe in all your thousands of video newsletters you’ve done you’ve had one titled ‘limerence’ ... 👀

[@georgemcdougall7260]

Hi coach Corey, is there any chance you could make a video on how to get your ex back if you cheated on her? Does the 7 principles to get an ex back fall into this category even though you messed up by cheating on her?

[@ThatBinghamHikes]

Leave her alone man. Get some help or try a 12 step program for sex. Coach teaches to be a man of character

[@RB621337]

Let her move on and you learn a lesson

[@mattwood8659]

First step would be to give her space and some time and maybe reach out and apologise

[@tonygee6418]

His enthusiasm is starting to *wane* or Wayne?

[@TruePathLiving]

This is silly. You should not end it with someone just because a pretty pair of boobies comes along. The issue is the boy in the email, yes the 31 year old boy. The lord God wants us to honor eachother hearts. Not dishonor

[@danieltrottier8599]

Brooch copy? Come on man.