Is this true about the “what do you bring to the table” conversation? 👀

[@ddavis8988]

She tends to give better advice than most women because she's actually married, and she fights for her marriage.

[@BolitaDeKetica]

still has a weave, tho… 💅🏾

[@j.bennette3390]

These generalizations are a bit much.

[@ddavis8988]

@@j.bennette3390 Nobody has time to meet all 7 billion people in the world. Most generalizations are coreect.

[@BolitaDeKetica]

@@ddavis8988 Let’s not get into semantics, please. Speaking in generalities is not the same as generalizing.

[@ddavis8988]

@@BolitaDeKetica Well let's get specific. Conpared to the other women on the panel, she gives the best direction.

[@jericothompson8636]

I’ve never felt the need to ask such a question. Typically, you get all these answers organically over about 3 to 4 dates if you’re asking the right questions. A woman can be proud of what she’s accomplished, but if she brings it up too much then I know we have a problem. It’s all about shaping the experience in a natural way to get the answers you want lol. Nobody wants to feel like they’re being interrogated 🤷🏾‍♂️.

[@juileb197473051]

Well if I had a garden I'd bring lots of vegetables to the table, but as far as knights at the round table or apostles at the rectangular table, I don't know what I bring? Except maybe the greenhouse indoors to provide year round. 😂😂😂😂😜✌️😘

[@juileb197473051]

Helping create the idea of the off-grid self sustaining underground city.

[@juileb197473051]

But as observed I can bring many prison food concoctions to the table as well. So if we have to eat manna or quail for years upon years I'm sure I can find different ways to make it so it's not boring

[@jericothompson8636]

@@juileb197473051 lol you got me confused as hell, what are we talking about again?

[@bosslady83]

Period. I don’t care about none of those accomplishments. I care about what you bring spiritually, mentally and positive energy and not chaos in my life.

[@laurencameron3150]

Until it’s time to pay bills, go on vacation, buy baby clothes, ect. I don’t know why people act like accomplishments don’t matter. They do and always have especially for the wealthy.

[@nicoli-thenextup9866]

@@laurencameron3150but that’s only surface level being an adult nd knowing how to take care of ur self is literally basic human being things so ultimately ur morals and how u treat another person in gd or bad situation is important

[@bosslady83]

@@laurencameron3150 it doesn’t matter to me if your attitude is bad and don’t treat me right. I don’t get into relationships based on what a person can bring financially because as an adult I have to do those things you mentioned anyway for myself. Even in a relationship I live within my means meaning if this relationship don’t work I can handle the bills on my own or if he loses a job or becomes ill I can handle it on my own. Plenty of people who have accomplished a lot but they’re single and lonely because of their character and how they treat people.

[@jmc1898]

​@laurencameron3150 non of those things are valuable to one's soul. It's carnal thinking. What about your inner being, soul? It needs peace and when you value how to get it, baby clothes and vacations are trivial in comparison.

[@bigde131]

@@laurencameron3150your logic is very basic and child like. I can tell you don’t think critically at all

[@failureface1837]

Damn she poured her heart in that answer and all facts with it damn I love this chocolate sister right here…she will win every argument in my house.

[@davidtolbert716]

She always gives good insight as well as solutions, I remember her sharing her past experiences one of the reasons why she's valid!✌️❤️

[@JackieS812]

I love her wisdom!

[@waliahmad3030]

For men to take women seriously in these convos, we need more women like her to voice their opinions and less of the Kita s. This was very productive and both men and women are guilty of it. Self reflection is the only thing that can help us in this battle to find each other.

[@Robert-hk2jm]

Agreed. "We do not learn from experience... we learn from reflecting on experience." - John Dewey

[@T-Rando]

100% FACTS!!!. They say that your shortcomings don't define you, but neither do your accomplishments, fam. I congratulate what you achieved, but "WHO ARE YOU?" is the question.

[@tinisha8878]

Exactly ! That’s basically what the question is asking . ❤

[@rhemyharris2709]

"That Part" !!!!

[@lynnesummers4591]

Sadly, I don’t think many women recognize that’s actually what’s being asked when the question comes up. I know I didn’t know that’s what was meant when asking about “the table” when I was younger.

[@kayc421]

I disagree, I think it all defines you because it is who you are FLAWS and ALL 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@guyyscotty]

The table question is a trick question! It’s about what do you provide personality/morality wise.

[@tinyking11]

💯💯🔥

[@laurencameron3150]

Then ask that! Whats the point of trying to trick someone when you just met them?? It’s manipulative? Also, I’ve seen women say “I’ll be my man’s peace, I’ll cater to him, I’ll support him, ect ” and men respond with “I can go to Brazil for that. What else do you come with” I’m surprised people aren’t tired of this conversation in general. 😂

[@SocialButterfly892]

It IS a trick question. 💯

[@Craigthomas322]

I don't think it's a trick question, I just think it needs to be asked in a different and better way. For me, I think it's asking what value do you bring to not only that person but the relationship as a whole. In other words, are you bringing those things men/women look for or value in a potential mate/spouse.

[@MikePhases]

I think women should understand men first because when this question is brought up you can better answer the question In vice versa men need to understand women first then you would have your answer

[@michaelpope1710]

You can her the the other lady on the panel getting in her feelings, cause it is hitting home.

[@sethhines7090]

I luh me some Kitty. She don't ever miss!!

[@michaelpope1710]

She is always fair and see both side. I am glad she is on the panel. She keeps the men and women on the panel in check.

[@bigtrknyc2288]

I absolutely love this sisters whole perspective ✊🏾🫡🙏🏾

[@latoyaruss5102]

Whoa- she shut all of that noise down!! Thank you! Table that

[@rooseveltday6687]

She brings it home... Respect 💯🔥💪🏿

[@trenastewart2599]

Truths be told is always kiddie.. you will never hear anything bad come from her, just truth and honesty and choice of words that mean say much.

[@ruthcook8599]

SHE DONE SAID A MOUTHFUL 🎯💯🔥🖤

[@righteousmasculine]

I seen one of the women in the crowd frowned up lol man that’s a prime example of people not wanting to hear truth in a relationship avoid them types male or female

[@vaclinciapounds8859]

Thank you!!! Ms Kittie's perspective on this subject is valid and on point!! 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 🙌🏾 👏🏽 ❤️

[@Michelle-so2hz]

I learned that my life isn’t just about my accomplishments It’s about my character, how I treat others, my mental health, what I like and like, my outlook on life and other things. So, I excpect my man to be the same. He may not have the same accomplishments but how does he treat women? What’s his relationship with his mother? What’s his outlook on life?? What’s his attitude like? This young lady in the video speaks volume and I agree with her 🙏🏾

[@Bradric1]

Let's go!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@rochellethundercloud346]

This conversation should logically go both ways. If men can ask women What do you bring to the table? Why can't women ask the same thing of men?

[@rdkirk3834]

Women certainly do expect men to show how much money they make. It's not even in question that men have to show what they bring to the table.

[@SocialButterfly892]

You can’t ask because you were supposed to fall for this manipulation in the first place. 🙄😒

[@jas1565]

​@@rdkirk3834she asked why can't women ask what men bring to the table and you automatically mentioned money as if that's all men should be offering. But there lies the issue with the question when men ask in the first place. A woman has to prove she can cook, clean, take care of the house, kids, *insert any traditional gender role* while a man is just "I make money so I'm a provider".

[@rdkirk3834]

@@jas1565 That's what most women are looking for, that's what most men have always provided. A man knows up front he's got to show at least that much. Men don't argue that we don't have to show anything at all. But a lot of women continue to argue that they don't have to show anything at all: "I _am_ the table!"

[@jas1565]

@@rdkirk3834 money being a factor isn't all women are looking for.. and it should absolutely be an important factor. Especially if men are going to portray themselves as providers. Also, women aren't arguing that they have to show anything at all. They're arguing the question is stupid and in return, giving a response the question deserves. I don't treat dating like a job interview therefore I don't need to list my qualifications to prove myself worthy of a man.

[@Craigthomas322]

I say all the time, Kitty is the most cerebral, most intelligent woman on that podcast. She speaks with logic and not emotion. Tripp is the most intelligent man on the show.

[@user-vw9hd5kk8l]

The person comes before the achievements. If you have a great person with average achievements and a bad person with great achievements. People tend to go with the achievements and that goes for looks as well.

[@samuelgenda9816]

Kitty always got some sense than most ladies on this panel. Level headed and logical

[@StudentOfLife365]

I love Kitty!!! Her awareness, honesty and articulation is top tier!!!

[@claymorekwaramba6937]

I'm not intimidated by your accomplishments . HOW do they enhance or edify our relationship? Once you weaponize your accomplishments against someone, then be gone 😂

[@thembatsotsi-sv5mg]

The table conversation people understand is about the wholelistic picture of the relationship. It is a mutual and intuitive point in a relationship , an emotional and practical management of how to move forward. I like that 'do not use your accomplishments as a way' to gauge or try to elevate your sense of accomplishment or boost your ego. That brings up boundaries especially in the 'table' conversation.

[@jamikaperrin9555]

Speak 👏🏾 on 👏🏾 it 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I swear I love her inside and out.

[@trinity-hopetricia3241]

Preach and Facts 🏆🐐🎯🙏❤️

[@dreyb1801]

I think that "What do you bring to the table?" question sounds quite shallow. And it reduces relationships to mere transactions/barter agreements. You'll find out what I bring to the table as we get to know each other. And not after our first few dates. I think I will run away from any lady that asks me shut a question. Potential red flag. 😂

[@marriedinreallifemirl6865]

She was spot on!

[@thebrickslinger2875]

Thank you, ma'am. 👍

[@yungrock59]

Snapping fingers she nailed it

[@antoniojohnson285]

She speaking straight facts!!!

[@islammujahid1278]

Well said 💯✌🏾

[@thequeenjuiceyshakeshow]

🔥 🔥

[@A_Cowboy_called_JackRabbit]

Words were spoken. And I hope these words reached far and wide.

[@marcuslosgreat4225]

Kittie like Tripp stay cookin

[@heruapocalypse2021]

Facts on Top of Facts 😎👍🏾

[@StopSelfDoubting]

They ask what you bring to the table and don’t even have the screws to put a table together. Hilarious. 😂

[@lydiaphillips7961]

Amen

[@BLUEOrange_QCE]

Hands down she gives the best advice. And she stunningly beautiful. She mature pragmatic and balanced I don’t always agree but I respect and can listen to her

[@claymorekwaramba6937]

Lawd you know she spoke the truth even everyone in the comments is well behaved 😂😂😂

[@Truth82189]

I look forward to her Tai. Those too look at the conversation from a different lens

[@jalisam7383]

Fact❤❤❤.

[@seansartor]

This Sistha right here 😎👊🏾🔥🍑💥

[@kindredsurvivors8138]

The table question comes off as rather rhetorical to me. Most people don’t want to know, they just use this as a “gotcha” type of question. Because even if a man is a provider and protector and the woman can cook and nurture etc, there have been plenty of times where it’s been stated to the opposite gender “well I can do that for myself, what else can you do?!” The only thing that anyone can truly bring to your table is the things that you require and all of the tables have different requirements. And this question is often brought up because we’ve used the execution of our gender roles as a means to harm or belittle one another.

[@user-ms7sh8vu6b]

Amen 💯💯 be your self at all time 💯💯 know fak😢ing💯💯💯 and keep it real 💯💯 and keep it moving forward 💯💯

[@arthurbrown6449]

Thank you.

[@leomasters9510]

Could fix the question easily enough, and have it apply to both genders. "What do you bring into the relationship as a person that helps me in our life journey together?" What should be offered up is your qualities, not your accolades. Integrity, commitment, a good working ethic, whether you want kids, want a house, how you handle stress, can you live on a budget. Are you capable of sacrificing your short term for the long term? Are you able to use introspection to grow from your mistakes? Are you able to help your spouse become a better person without the need to put them down during the process?

[@foreverlovegreen8843]

I loooooooove kitttty!!!!!!!

[@kwesiaidoo6467]

💖💖👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@johnmoore4714]

Kitty 😺 preach 🙌 kita always play to the crowd. Kitty is just deadly with her commentary.

[@ernestthomas1147]

Just Period!

[@latushasmith1016]

❤💯

[@jordanforthewin1111]

tear down past table and build a table together

[@Back2traditional]

If I go on a date with someone and money and materialism comes up as the first thing, that date pretty much just ended. Personally characteristics are the foundation and that's what you lead with.

[@michaelpope1710]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@makeitlookeasy8300]

Why don’t y’all post the full conversation or at least a link to where we can see the whole thing

[@queenmini372]

❤❤

[@isaiahallen244]

Kittie, I like her.

[@carlettethomas5252]

❤❤❤

[@r.walker7986]

When someone asks you what you bring to the table, its red flag and a dumb question. it means they are looking for a shortcut and dont want to do the work of getting to know you. When you are dating and pursuing a person its your job to observe, asserss, and take account of a person's qualities and decide if you want to move forward. You determine if thier personality and values line up with yours and they do the same, if its a no go, for you, move on. With that said, your accomplishments are an accurate image of what kind of person you are and what you have been doing with your life, what you value, your work ethic, whether or not you are competitive, and whether you have the ability to stick it out. Its a good gauge to know who is a non starter. Sorry but if you have been on this earth for 25 plus years you need to have something to show for.it.

[@michaelwilliams6301]

She needs to be protected at all costs. Speaking facts

[@WebJ-ts3rm]

I hate the table conversation. Its truly divisive, and non productive. What a person brings to a table and the appreciation of that is subjective, and reality is, you wont know until you experience that person. Its such an interview ass question, like its pointless.

[@UrbanSipfly]

Stop self glorifying YOURSELF with objects that rust or with things that fade into history. Instead, it's best to praise OTHERS for their personal sacrifices that make it possible for you to be recognized for what you're doing or have done for others and by others.

[@4kingdavid]

Did she say “the estimation of your value” lol huh!!? 😅 cut it out.

[@charleesummertv6109]

The person with the biggest mouth couldn't shut up while she was talking. The queen was speaking and the court jester (clown) had to adlib to make herself present

[@romeyrome3275]

Why Kita sounding like one of the Migos via background sounds

[@mjunior1413]

I think this show should just be her and Trip, get rid of everyone else🤷🏽‍♂️

[@pooh4025]

My exact thoughts 😂

[@aubriellemorgan]

Agreed!!!

[@Makeitmakesense177]

If they did that it would only be about 5 people in the audience. You supposed to love people and use things but we love things and use people and thats why all this nonsense persists. No one wants to be someone's slave to the other persons shallow self centered list. Love is not what you get but what you give. Love is patient ..gentle..kind...doesn't think of itself...doesn't boast...love doesn't hold grudges and reminds people of their shortcomings....These people aren't looking for love. They looking for a viable option to enslave to their list of demands. You don't give ultimatums to your friends...you respect them for who they are and allow them to be who they are ..Or they will choose to not be your friend. Relationships are not working out cause by definition it's not a relationship they want it a DICTATORSHIP they want. No sane person is signing up for that. If we don't get back to love expect the carousel of victims who become perpetrators and perpetrators who become victims to continue.

[@mjunior1413]

@@Makeitmakesense177 Yeah, I don't really have an answer for all this you just said but I stand on what I said. The people in the audience come to the show looking for clarity and answers to relationship issues they're experiencing, how is being loud and obnoxious and or pandering to a particular gender while condemning the other help them to take accountability for their own actions and decisions? You might have made one true statement in all that rambling and that is that a true friend should be able to tell you when you're wrong and that's what this lady did, she called out the total BS that was said in the earlier part of this segment. So hence my statement earlier, stuff the others down the garbage disposal and keep the two people who give sound, responsible and logical responses to the questions asked by the audience 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@yaddaking7309]

What do you bring to the table? What men want to hear: peace, loyalty, etc. What women say: I am the table.. And wonder why we struggle to connect now.

[@konsyansnou8623]

- What do you bring to the table? - My bachelor degree and my career - Can you cook? - Nah, but feel free to Doordash whatever you want - Me: 😑

[@RicardoSkeete-xo6uw]

Lol a 1/4

[@jopinscott1777]

If you ever have (or had) an internal conversation with yourself about what attributes you have, this question really shouldn't pose a problem or trigger you...granted, some men may not be interested in some of those attributes, but at least you've shown you've given it some thought...and that's at least a realistic starting point. BS answers like "I bring everything" or "I am the table" are just cop outs for shallow and/or deflective thinkers. Imagine going to a job interview and when asked what you bring to the position, answering, "I am the position."🤯 That'll never happen! Also, do women not have male friends to have related conversations about this?

[@keyshawnsneed9046]

Woman: what do you bring to the table? Me: the same thing you do, BILLS. You want one of them? Let's do a trade for trade.

[@clytchan]

The people who get the most triggered when asked, “What do you bring to the table?” Are the ones who have a problem answering the question. People never take account of themselves, or consider how they can benefit another person’s life by being in it. They have more of a selfish attitude about how that other person can benefit them. If a man asks a woman who he’s considering to be his mate, “What do you bring to the table?” If her answer is, “I AM the table!” Unless she’s ok with paying all the bills, she’s not ready for a serious relationship. That should be an easy question to answer, because we all know ourselves pretty well, and know what we have to offer a potential mate.

[@NomsLoots]

She spitting. Leading with accomplishments needs to stop. Who are we as people? Are we coming into this healed? Are we seeking God? What’s our shared vision? Can we love, respect and care for one another through life’s ups and downs? Do we like each other as people? Can we commit to making this work? Protect, provide and shield me. Have me respect, submit and serve you.

[@CarelessAmbition]

Kitty's emotional intelligence is 🤤

[@ChristopherLaw-qv4ou]

How about this if a man does not provide for a woman financially or protect her physically do you think he will even have a chance to have a relationship with that said woman?

[@David-xy9yo]

He wants to know if you will bring value to his life or are you going to just push him to an early grave. It's not about money.

[@dredey1971]

In conversation, discussion of who you are is important. But if you are pursuing a relationship, the conversation has to be what you will do for the family the 2 of you put together. If you cannot work that out. It's okay. Move on.

[@antoniohooks8866]

All facts!!!!! No lies, no foolishness

[@zanderblack4590]

Seriously need to get rid of the other women on the panel and that one guy who flip flops and the panel would be perfect

[@elliotselmon7581]

KITTIE...SPITS...TRUTH!!

[@littlemissgolden1896]

Whoever is in the back with the "okay" in between her every sentence is really annoying. Like, let the woman talk.

[@steven1365]

Yes accomplishments matter but accomplishments don’t make the person…terrible people can be full of accomplishments and accolades! Yes men want a woman who is driven, accomplished and has a good head on her shoulders. Men don’t want a battle axe who’s gonna fight and be combative all the damn time.

[@bbeautiful6390]

Not everyone is meant to marry. Weather u are a Man or Woman. To understand a successful relationship YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO BOTH PARTIES OF THE RELATIONSHIP NOT ONE SIDE😮 BECAUSE TO COMPLETE THE PUZZLE YOU NEED ALL THE PIECES. THIS IS THE REASON FOR THE FAILURE. 😮.. ALWAYS HEARING ONE SIDE OF THE PUZZLE YOU CANNOT SEE THE COMPLETED PROCESS OF SUCCESS IN A RELATIONSHIP..YOU NEED A COUPLE TO SEE WHAT U SEEK. IF THAT IS WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. 😂🤦🏾‍♂️

[@mrnicewatch8877]

Oh look , a well spoken , established , married woman talking like a grown adult and using logic not emotion. Just like Skip , when she speaks I listen.

[@stephaniecarter8495]

What is her name??

[@brandonwilliams315]

Ok girl adlib in the back is very disingenuous

[@bgrego88]

Took yall long enough

[@melgood8]

That’s what both sides think !!!! It’s about what can you do for me. Mature people know how to date. It’s just many personalities and broken people. Just don’t welcome someone into your life to treat them like shhhh

[@jawarholol4651]

Women: your accomplishments mean nothing if they cause you to have crippling debt and you cannot find a job. Look into trades; it's what men do

[@yungreem88]

Respectfully her insight is normally worlds ahead of the other women on the panel. Delivery is normally on point as well… 1 of 1

[@onceagain6184]

🤣🤣🤣 Who the hell are these people to give this type of advice? Why are so many people so eager to take life advice from total strangers?

[@sammymurphy2631]

She said s whole lot of nothing