Is Your Ex Dating Someone New? That Could Help You Win Them Back

[@googleuser1880]

Unless ur ex is a Narcissist like my ex girlfriend They are hollow souls who cant love anyone because they don't love themselves Run like hell and never look back

[@BradBrowning]

I agree, since it'll be pretty much an unhealthy relationship anyway. This may help, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2OahX-brrqgrck

[@andelaguillera6298]

Lol

[@djRichyRichh]

motor mania 100% true

[@Angel020969]

motor mania That is also a question. Because in a period of no contact a narcist will never come back. Because they are afraid you see who they realy are. Maybe it should also be a topic Brad. Because a hsp like me will also wants a narcist back, because the victoms blaiming themselves

[@rochester3]

LOl my ex came back to me crying for money, she's telling me she's in a dilemma now i'm the one making the rules friends with benefits is all I want and she's about to cheat on her boyfriends cause he's not providing for her lol ...this is how I know she's in a rebound relationship, we went on a few dates before while she's was with him, my best advice is to stay friends with your ex but don't act friendly..srry forget the no contact rule that doesn't work for me especially when she's investing her time into someone else, if it wasn't for me saying friends with her we wouldn't as close as we are now.

[@CarbonInstinct0]

Why would you take someone who dumped you and slept with someone else? I understand what you are saying, but I would let her go permanently and find someone who is worthy of my new self. Cheers

[@BradBrowning]

Well, different stroke for different folks! :-)

[@sammymashaba8912]

the aim is to deal with yourself i personally think that even if you are dumped you still deserve your respect and life back not paying revenge just letting your ex know that you are doing fine and that you have strongly recovered it'll pinch them hard

[@Edon445]

Carbon Instinct because we can forgive them if they do decide to come back but we have to be careful wether its worth it or not. I got dumped by her now she has new boyfriend almost instantly , i used Social media to post pictures of having fun , travelling , Now recently i heard from Mutual friend( her friend) that she asked about me . I Quess im getting my revenge and not take her back .

[@christinamarie8807]

Agreed. I typically enjoy and find value in his videos but this is by far the worst.. "Pounce in when he's depressed?" No, I'm worthy of being chosen before that.

[@wayofmusicchannel2737]

I agree with you that is a b if she slept with other guy just a little time after your breakup

[@C7vette9]

Every ex or guy I talked to would ALWAYS come back to me when it didn't work out with another girl or they couldn't find someone else like me. So yes I believe this happens. It happened to me many times.

[@BradBrowning]

There must be really something about you that keeps them coming back! :-)

[@missylyn777]

Same here.. luckily by the time they come back, I am over them!!👍🏼

[@HoneyBLuvly]

Same here but why dont they stay to avoid all that?

[@sonyakaur4976]

Same happens with me but i deny to recognise them and then starts their drama

[@glock2138]

Don't flatter your self there just desperate

[@jerusalemisraelherewecome9451]

I never want my Ex back cause I truly love her. My heart won't accept that she'd been with another man. I won't take her back I don't think I can live with that. So I'm good.

[@BradBrowning]

Each of us has their own dealbreakers, so if it's a dealbreaker or going against your standard, then she may not be the right woman for you. Good luck and I hope you find the right one soon!

[@2192404Chemestrie]

Sorry for your pain, but people make mistakes.

[@sobster123]

Jerusalem Israel Here we come I'm sorry to hear that

[@amateruss]

Wooo this should be what you are aiming for.

[@MrJosh5191]

Same here bro. I just found out my ex is dating someone. We just broke up in December

[@emmajenna6600]

Do we really want an ex like that? Move on and find someone better

[@BradBrowning]

I supposed everyone has their own reason for why they either choose to get back together with an ex or let go totally. Not all relationships are meant to be salvaged, especially abusive ones, but some are worth saving. This all depends on what kind of relationship you have and if you decide to move on or fight for it. There is no wrong answer on whatever your decision is. :-) Anyway thanks for your input!

[@Brlowvgsnhdhhtdvjg]

Fax

[@bird3839]

I just.. Can't get over my ex.. It makes me physically sick.. Dear.. I wish god gives me a better person to forget.. Or give me my ex back.. I know I'm a good special girl.. Loyal and beautiful.. And hard to get.. (I'm not saying I'm the best but I perfectally know it's facts..)

[@adriancordova2287]

I was in a relationship with my now ex for 2 years but we broke up about 5 months ago due to her depression, and we agreed on no contact rule she then texted me weeks after and we both decided to be friends first and start over... it was weird at first but then things got better and we could actually be friends. We ended up becoming best friends and I was there for her and helped her through contemplating suicide she has a rough life but I love her and wanted to help her through it and maybe one day she gets better and we can rekindle what we had. But a few days ago she text me saying she met someone and wants to cut ties with me just like that. I honestly don't mind her being with another man as long as she is happy, I am more broken up about losing a friend. I guess that's the risk you take trying to be close friends with an ex...I just feel like I was only there cause she was lonely and had no one. That hurts the most.

[@BradBrowning]

The most loving thing you can do at this point is to help her seek appropriate help. The thing with exes, especially the one who's doing the dumping, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him/her feel what it's like not to have you in his/her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Watch this, too:kzbin.info/www/bejne/mITWZqSCbZqWicU

[@adriancordova2287]

Brad Browning thanks Brad. I gave her the 30 day no contact rule. Each day got a little easier and I realized I was doing it for myself. I used this time to heal and focus on myself. I met a new girl and hardly think about my ex anymore it used to be all day everyday now it's 3 times a day maybe. The 30 day no contact really helped me figure out what I wanted. She sent a text saying hi around the 25th day but I never replied this was the 5th time she's just up and left and she's just going to do it again if I give her another shot.

[@goldshieldinthedark]

Adrian Cordova this is exactly what i am going through. i feel for u

[@MrJosh5191]

Sorrry that happened. I bet she will come crawling back. Don't let her back into your life. Send her a number to a shrink and cut the ties

[@celinere2097]

2days after our break up my ex is in a new relationship already. He blocked me on social media. I don't think he will come back. But it's ok coz for now I am focusing to moving on. Thanks for this video brad. All tour videos are big help. More power.

[@SpyOnDeck]

That's my situation now. Trusting in God's will. Hope everything has been good for you since this post 🙏

[@shreenandasaha6869]

My ex always want me to move on. He used to say " I don't wanna hurt u again. Please block me and forget me " "I'll hurt u once again. I don't wanna hurt u once again" ... In this situation what should I do? Please tell

[@Cartelz01]

Hey Brad, I'm 19 years old and I never thought I would go through such a difficult time. I was dating a startling girl, we were together for 3 years, everything was great! We were swirling and being thrown around by the hurricane of love, then suddenly the weather faded. A week ago I've found out she was cheating on me... I could not believe it, I've been on denial and I finally realize it was real. I really need help. I do still love her..

[@BradBrowning]

+Joshua Garcia Hi Joshua, sorry to hear that, man. Being cheated on really hurts, so I understand where you're coming from. Cut off contact and leave her be, man. Whatever the case, try not to take things too seriously now since your age is a period of growth and lots of changes and shifting of priorities (like her suddenly going with another dude in instant). Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!

[@Cartelz01]

Brad Browning Thank you for the advice Brad, I followed your suggestion and it turned out very well for me (even though removing her from all my contacts did hurt) So far I'm recovering good and slowly moving on. I haven't spoken to her for weeks now, and I plan not to ever again. What you said really helped, thanks.

[@NITINSINGH-ji6nf]

Brad Browning - hey brad , me and my girlfriend were in a relationship for 4 years . although it is long distance but we meet every year and spend almost 2 months together and even my family is involved ..she even meet my family twice !!..things were just perfect for both of us but suddenly it all changed ! we had a couple of bad fights .. i would call it worse over the phone and skype .... and she said she wanted a break ! so i literally pleaded her for about 20 25 days to make the things back to normal ...but it was fluctuating like she is cool with it for 3 days then again she is like i need space and all of a sudden she mentioned a guy she started liking ! all of a sudden my whole world collapsed its like just within a week after breakup she started liking that guy ! so now i just told her that i m leaving u on ur own and its time for me to not come in between ur happinesss ...so i decided to breakup and follow the no contact rule ... its been 10 days almost and i havent heard frm her !! can u suggest me what should i do now ?

[@ramshankar-xz3hc]

desi chore desi chore My Goddddddddd...The same scenario with me also..Its a 3year relationship...btw its exactly the same long distance scenario.. Dunno what to do..!Just going on with the 30day rule..Lord...Help us please!.What shall we do..I badly want her beside me forever 🙏

[@Daniel-bn3uo]

desi chore same thing happened to me, want her back too

[@mimicarrillo7570]

what if your ex ...before he left he have someone else already....he just told you today he loves you and then another day he change and have already new one..... then he choose to leave you

[@BradBrowning]

Your ex is likely rebounding. Watch these first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oniVpJuPfpabb80 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/inPXk2ZqnN5psNk Just make it a point to play your cards right and don’t rely on that fact alone. Learn to play your cards right as well. Good luck!

[@JitQuan1738]

Try to manipulate the new person into giving you two a chance

[@justme7520]

That is exactly what happened to me looked me in the eyes said I love you the next day gone out of my life starting a new relationship and they are still together 8 months later so I don't think that's a rebound

[@disc9252]

I knew something was going on and when I finally confronted her she admitted to me she had met somebody and then talking to them I broke off the relationship where she broke it off then and I don't know where I stand right now I did have what you said a few emotional outbursts to her through texting so she blocked me so where do I go now still the no contact rule

[@fortunate_sa4044]

What can you do if your ex cheated on you and impregnated someone then you left he now comes back claiming to love you back but haven't told you the exact decision about the new girlfriend

[@alexiatrott2714]

So, I'm 15 (yeah, I know, "high school relationships are a waste of time, etc...",) but my ex and I had a really good connection and relationship for almost a year. He was there for me after a huge arm operation, was around the same intelligence as me, easy to talk to, extremely nice, affectionate, funny, had a lot in common with me, and many other things. In short, he's amazing and a couple months ago, I broke up with him. I broke up with him because I was playing year-round softball trying to get recruited, played in two symphonies, and took all honors classes in a school that thinks that homework is the only way you'll ever learn anything. I rarely ever saw him as well. All of this added up and I was stressed all the time, and thought that I didn't care for him anymore and letting him go would make it easier on both of us. Boy was I wrong. When i broke things off with him, it was ME who was crying. He gave me a hug though, and I knew immediately that it was a huge mistake. I realized that he was the best thing I had ever had. He was absolutely perfect, he was not only my best friend, but my other half. And I broke his and my heart. So here I am, a few months later, and I asked him if he still had feelings for me over text (which was NOT the way to do it. It was a last-minute decision that I regret. I should have asked differently in person). He told me that it would be better if we just stayed friends. And then I learned like a day later that he was dating someone else. A girl who yes, is nice, but being 100% honest, is not as pretty, not as smart, not as musically gifted (though she plays the same instrument as him), not athletic, and just doesn't have that much of a personality. He's still with her at this moment, and I've been trying to be friendly to him (just congratulating him for events and such), but the last text I sent him, he never responded to, and he seems completely disinterested, like he hates me. Please help me, anyone. I don't know what to do at this moment. He and I have way too many memories. Every time I see him with someone else, I can feel a small piece of my heart chip off. I haven't been with anyone else since him. I don't think I can see myself with anyone else besides him for a long time either. So please, if you have any advice, words of wisdom, anything, I'll hear it. I don't mind criticism, seeing as this is all my fault, but I made probably the biggest mistake of my entire life. Please help me!

[@BradBrowning]

+Alexia Trott Consider moving on from this for good. The reasons you had for breaking up with you isn't likely gonna make any progress/change in order to fit a relationship... so it's either your studies/extracurricular activities versus having a relationship. Make sense? Watch this, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2OahX-brrqgrck Whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!

[@josephstalin5776]

Alexia Trott how it's going now?

[@halamadrid5238]

update? plzz

[@amateruss]

You deserve it darling. Move on and make sure that you learn something from this experience.

[@phoenixflier25]

Live and learn.

[@abishakrishnamoorthy7384]

I was in a relationship with a guy for almost 2 years and we had that connect. We have been through out hard times and still supported each other. Now all of sudden he is telling that I have not supported him financially as he expect and I am also dependent on him. So now he has choosen a girl who can support him financially and all of sudden broke up with him. My heart was broken and I was not able to take the pain in me. I trusted him more than anyone and finally I did not expect this to happen.

[@BradBrowning]

Consider moving on from this. He is not in the relationship for all the right reasons. Can you imagine having kids with that guy and him expecting you to support everything? That would not turn out well at all.

[@nicholegarcia1358]

What hurt the most is the new girl he's seeing now is his ex girlfriend for 3 years. Im dead

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear. Do you think you've somehow become the rebound girl? That's tough.

[@nicholegarcia1358]

but there relationship last for only 2months. me and my ex boyfriend last for almost 2 years brad. im dead now

[@nicholegarcia1358]

Brad Browning I dont think so Brad! But there rrlationship only last for 2 months and our relationship last for almost 2 years. Is there any chance that I can win him back? Help me brad! Thanks

[@MrCjchamp]

You’re the rebound

[@Jessicatoy11]

my ex shows all the signs she wants to try again but shes been with someone new for close to 4 months. i dont know what to do.

[@BradBrowning]

Still go through the basics of my 3R system mentioned in the guide. Here's an overview: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas Have you been actively trying to get your ex back? Don’t wait for this person to have a sudden epiphany. Keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not, as far as getting your ex back is concerned. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!

[@josuapatry6942]

Same thing for me. She said she wanted to try something serious with that guy and at the same time telling me that she would really like to still love me because I was everything she ever wanted. Weird stuff

[@patrickong4142]

tell her fuck off and move on she a psycho

[@amateruss]

She's crazy bro. Run away.

[@tazmax72]

Don't do it .. if they've done it once they'll do it again and you really want your ex to compare you to the one they were seeing while you're broken up...it'll hurt more when you two again...! Plus you will wonder and stress about your relationship because now it's damaged !

[@xxxtentacion198]

I tried doing the no contact for 30 days and she started dating someone new. now I'm doing this

[@essjaymusic]

Hw r u mate? I hope ur dng good

[@joaoflores1131]

Update

[@chrisfaulkner1751]

Hey Brad, Here's my situation: My ex and I dated for over a year (in college) and were doing fantastic. She spent almost every night last year at my place and moved most of her stuff from her dorm to mine. We went on trips together and traveled and then in that last 3 months or so we began to drift apart a bit. We could both tell that some of the passion was gone. We have almost every class together this semester so it makes it hard to keep it interesting and fun 24/7. We decided to take a break a few weeks ago to see how things would go and to get our heads on straight. A week after the break she officially broke up with me. She didn't say it, but I've concluded that I was too controlling and insecure and took her for granted towards the end of the relationship so the flame seemed to die our because of it. She immediately began seeing this other guy just a few days after we broke up and spends a large amount of her time with him and his friend group. She seems very happy and he seems like an opposite of me at the time she broke up with me. He's laid back, not controlling, and just does whatever. I am slowly trying to re-attract her and get her back and a friend and then back as a girlfriend. What's your opinion on the situation? Do you have any specific recommendations for my scenario and do you think I have a good chance of getting her back. Also, she has begun posting lots of selfies of herself having fun and in new clothes on Instagram and is dressing a lot more fashionably than she used to before we broke up. Thoughts? Thanks.

[@BradBrowning]

Your ex is likely rebounding, so try to chill, okay? Learn some attributes here to help you out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nHPJdZZ-lNB2lZY Now as to my recommendation... getting an ex back is a process, so there's no one-action solution for everything. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet. If you have. then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between. What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-step process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!

[@nv_apostle7872]

Hello Brad, Watched this video and alot of it is making sense. Me and my lady have been together for 2 years. We known each other for five years. She is an Australian citizen and I am U.S. So you can already imagine the distant relationship troubles. She came to the U.S early last year and I went back to Australia with her. This year April, I had to return to the states in acceptance of a new and great job. Up to this point we talked regularly and I remind her every.day that I love her. She has or had plans to visit this year. She got her visa that gives entrance to the U.S. But, we had a discussion the other night. She said she has been seeing someone else and it has been going on for the past month, even having sex with this man. Of course I was crushed and heartbroken about it. And I can see that she was really upset and guilty. SHe says she never meant to hurt me.. Ive been trying to talk to her and not make things worse and drive her back to the other guy. However, she says she is seriously considering visiting me within the next few months. Ive been coming up with ways and plans to cope but it still hurts to know she is having sexual relations with her new partner. Any ideas or advice as to how I can convince her that she is on the wrong path and I am much more reliable and stable person who truly cares for her?

[@BradBrowning]

+Daniel Cary Hi Daniel, sorry to hear that. A long distance relationship can indeed be tricky. In this case, I highly suggest that you stop yourself from trying to convince her. That's not how it works. Talking never does anything other than leaving you feeling drained. Don't get me wrong, there ought to be a point in time where you both communicate your needs/wants to each other, but considering how she has just dumped you, then the last thing you have to be doing is to convince her to change her mind, okay? You do not want to accumulate any more damage than what's already made. Cut off contact first. Watch the free in-depth video on my website to understand how giving each other space can work to your benefit than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com

[@forebodingfilms9106]

My ex's rebound has been a friend of his for years now before they started to date. We won't get back together will we?

[@BradBrowning]

That is up to you. Your ex is merely diverting his/her attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his/her way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nYalf5dspal8hK8 so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/inPXk2ZqnN5psNk Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA

[@jaimeherrera2251]

BRAD, THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR GREAT RELATIONSHIP ADVICE I LOVE IT. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.:-):-):-):-):-):-)

[@BradBrowning]

Hey Jaime, you're welcome! If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

[@sambt123]

Hey man, my ex and I broke up maybe 2 months ago, we were together for 1 year and 1 month, we had a history of being one of the most loving couples there were, and we truly loved eachother, but I had a history of getting overly mad when I would hear about her getting hit on or getting called pretty, and finally one day, we broke up because I had a big outburst, but then we sorta tried to work it out by "Seceretly dating" and that was working for like 3 weeks. Then we had a talk, she said to me, "I think it's best, if we're just friends for now, until who knows, in the future soon, we may end up back together. And your my best friend and I love you, you know that right?" And now, I hear she's dating some guy named Corbin at our school, and a few weeks ago, it was a guy named Mathew, and I don't even know who it is now. All I know is that she laughs at me a lot now, and keeps her relationship a secret to anyone but her friends. She keeps it from me, but she hates me at the same time, and most of the time she ignores me, idk what to think anymore, it leaves me in a state of depression, could you please respond to this , if not I understand..

[@BradBrowning]

Perhaps work on your own issues first? You'll push women away with your temper, man. So you ought to chill. :-) Remember, you'll want your significant other to be scared of you, but in a good way. You wouldn't want her to be scared of you every time you open your mouth. May I suggest taking some anger management classes? Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b3e0d4aZf7Sjl8U Good luck!

[@sambt123]

Thanks brad, I'll try to see if I can,

[@renest.peters3979]

what if he was engaged the next day after we were divorced

[@BradBrowning]

Chances are she's seeing this girl on the side for him to get with her and propose right away. Watch this, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m2TPZn6NetV8ptk

[@qblanson17]

I love your videos. It actually feel like you're talking to me.

[@BradBrowning]

+Quintin Blanson Thanks, I do my best. Anyway if you haven’t already, feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

[@ΑνναΠαραπαρα]

I hear that my ex found a new girlfriend and he is very happy how the hell is he going to leave her for me? she is so perfect

[@JayTel323]

I'm in the same situation

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear. Employ my techniques anyway since that's really the best chance to get an ex back. Watch this, first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/inPXk2ZqnN5psNk Good luck!

[@nightwish86100]

Same here He is sayng that she is so great and have everyyhing l didnt have And we have 12 years and kids so its so tuff

[@ellwoodboyzent2011AquinoFilms]

you are amazing, everything you said worked, i got my family back, strongest move was not contacting her for 30 days by the 10th day she caved in, by the 3rd week she broke up with her rebound

[@BradBrowning]

Great to hear! I'm glad my it's all worked out for you. As what I always like to say, please keep in mind that getting an ex back does not mean the work stops there. You have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oJvVgKOulpKqnKs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGrQh62eZ7OJd8U All the best! :-)

[@keithcarlos4018]

What if that someone is the reason you broke up?

[@BradBrowning]

Chances are your beau has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2OahX-brrqgrck There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!

[@JayTel323]

Dude!! You made me feel so much better hahaha i really hope this works!! I was so depressed seeing my ex with someone else saying he's sweet and cute and has money. But now i see that he is just a rebound because she started dating people really quickly. Can't wait to have her beg to take me back mwhahaha

[@BradBrowning]

Good on you, stay strong! Also if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

[@stabbogaming3782]

+Brad Browning me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago. we were on and off in a relationship lately but right now we are friends and from what I know she has only just within the past weekbeen seeing this new guy. shr didnt want to tell me she was seeing someone new because of our past. but she did. I told her that I still like her and now she feels bad because last week she said she liked me before she started dating the new guy. we are both 15 and her new bf is older from what I know. any advise brad?

[@nurfarashaa8390]

did she get back to u????

[@AA-zb1nb]

Like she's loves the person soo much and there saying babe and that soo Can u please team how to get her back because she's taken

[@BradBrowning]

The new guy/girl isn’t you. Your ex is likely rebounding, especially if you’ve had been a long-term or serious relationship. Watch these first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oniVpJuPfpabb80 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/inPXk2ZqnN5psNk But don’t rely on that fact alone. Learn to play your cards right as well. Good luck!

[@AA-zb1nb]

Brad Browning there broken up and she's single but she doesn't like me what should I do

[@sammymashaba8912]

here i think you will choose to be a thing or a fling because if she quickly go on screaming babe and all that, it means that you have not followed the guide properly she must only see you as babe and you are to make her

[@athervakochure16]

Hey Brad, Me and my girlfriend broke up a month ago.She gave me reasons that she was feeling too burdened with our relationship and also by thinking career point of view she said that i want a doctor to become my partner.I agreed as i love her i can't see her in problems so i agreed for te break up.She assured me that she won't date any other guy.And then I made a huge mistake,in vague of anger i pinged her up and said bullshit stuff which no girl would like to hear.And abused her saying that she was a gold digger and a fake person.I asked for apology but she didn't forgive.But 2 weeks ago she pinged me up and said that i have started liking a guy and he is doing architecture and i don't want you to contact him and create problems in my life.It was a long distance relationship from past 8 months and i have applied for college in the same town my ex girlfriend is. Honestly, I really love her...and i don't want to loose such a person from my life.And i need your help in getting her back in my life.What would you suggest...shall i register for your personal coaching? And yes,i have being implementing No contact from past 1 month.After that text of her I didn't try to contact her.I just said i wont create problems in your life and wouldn't contact your guy. Need your help Brad. Regards, Atherva

[@BradBrowning]

Hey man, sorry to hear about the breakup. It seems like things had gotten pretty emotional lately, so yes, cut off contact or extend it until you get to a better place emotionally, all right? This takes time so don't rush it. How you can get her back and whether or not there's still a chance all depends on a lot of factors. So if you need my help further with this, however, then we ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis atwww.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon!

[@Marygeniusz13]

how do you know if they break up with this rebound? besides them texting you or posting about it, are there any signs to indicate that? Thanks!!!

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, and it's what I've discussed here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/inPXk2ZqnN5psNk

[@shylahutchins9934]

my guy said he'd text me an emoji of a smiley face if it was still going well for the first 2-3 wks..(tbd if he keeps his word on that) a sad face if it's not going well. He doesn't want any contact. He was very specific...the involvement or whatever may continue (he's wanting a relationship with her) past that. He said if it's still going good in a month, he'll pack up my things & return them but there would be no further contact from there...maybe the MOST remote text (like a smiley face a month). I don't have any faith that if it continues past 1 month there will be ANYTHING from him. It's to be seen. So that's the only signs as he's not on social media or anything else. Other than if he's actively on his online dating profile again (shows a green light when the user is online). Because now that he's met her, he TOTALLY sealed himself off. It's like a newly potted flower; he's being so vigilant to protect the fledgling roots...like he's guarding this & would go rabid on anyone who disturbs it & might ruin it for him.

[@aidarhn5115]

@@shylahutchins9934 damn... your comment belongs to a year ago. but out of Curiosity may i know what happened ? did he come back ? :D

[@shylahutchins9934]

@@aidarhn5115 nope!! He moved in with the woman he was seeing; he's opportunistic, was looking for a self-made woman as a host (the convenience he can live cheap & bank all his money). I have too many deficits (don't own a vehicle, fixed income, not in the city; I'm not a good fit). When all is said & done so far past that!!😁😁😁

[@aidarhn5115]

@@shylahutchins9934 so it was for the best 😁👍🏻 sometimes its a good thing that people leave . Thanks to him and men like that ..

[@aaronfell1816]

hey Brad, helpulf video. i have your guide. but the vidoes on re bounds & ex dating someone new have been helpful. I split from my ex about 2 months ago. she then quickly rushed into a relationship with this new guy who can do no wrong at the moment. in the beggining before i bought ur programme. i desperatley tried to win her back & she was torn between the 2 of us. but eventually she chose the new guy & moved in with him as he magically managed to get a new place for them to live. she was till this week msging me alot untill i decided to stop it as it wasnt fair on me or new guy. since i did this she became very cold & offish. told she told me never to msg her again. which is ok as im just gonna start no contact. but this rebound seems to be lasting longer than i imagined. been nearly 2 months niw. she has no where else to go & new guy is a lapdog for her. just starting to wonder if its actually working out? im goona not msg her again now. what are your thoughts? thanks.

[@BradBrowning]

I post these videos as reference to the guide. I'm glad you found them helpful. As for rebounds, the average is a month or two, but there's really no magic number since some may last months and a rare few can last years! But anyways I suggest you complete the 30-day rule first and extend it a bit until you're fully ready to reach out. Practice the attractive qualities mentioned in the guide at all times. You ought to be in a clear mind space to reach out. Whatever you do, don't rush it. You'll know when you're ready. :-) You can do it. Good luck!

[@marlborosilver]

Brad Brown

[@productive23]

Yo this guy is on point ... this is exactly what happen to me lol 😂

[@BradBrowning]

Best of luck! :-)

[@nienax]

Me too

[@kenzarizvani4114]

Hey, my ex broke up with me a week ago and the same day he dated someone else from his class. The last time I call him he said that he loved her and that he had don't love me anymore and that he will never try something with me. I see them taking hands, taking pictures and all. But I can't understand how he had forgotten 4.5 years with me. He was so happy with me and showed it. I try no contact but it feels like every day, there's less and less hope for me... He's so happy with his new girlfriend and I'm so dead inside. I can't afford any session and I'm so lost... What must I do ???

[@stevop9671]

Kenza Rizvani Ik how you feel, it’s been 4weeks since she left me. Stay strong! Be around friends and talk to them. If it helps watch YT vids like these to comfort you. But NEVER have false hope ect...

[@BradBrowning]

It's time to take a look at the bigger picture here. It doesn't really matter what your ex is doing. Chances are your ex is rebounding anyway but the point is you shouldn't be focused on that right now. That's all out of your control. Focus on yourself instead and show (NOT tell) your ex you accept his decision to break up. If you do, you'll accept that you're both single and therefore you'd stop overanalyzing every little stuff. All right? Here are the basics to getting an ex boyfriend back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting, and the psychology of how a man thinks and understanding men in general. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy

[@d1n0fr0g7]

This guy's a fuckin hero, thanks man

[@BradBrowning]

You're welcome! If you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)

[@GameMaster-fm8so]

Brad Browning please help me look my ex and I were really good together one day she mystirously said to me I dont want to talk to you again and I stayed a year not talking to her but my problem is that her rebound wasn't just for sex I really need your help please answer

[@jay13smith2]

Brad Browning what if shes talking to someone else already

[@garpislive3227]

Brad Browning your videos are awesome but here i got a situation me and my ex broked up and she gave no reason for the break up and told me i will never be in a relationship with anyone and yesterday i found that she was in relationship with two guys at a one time i dont know what to do i dont know whats she thiking my friends say move on she is not good pls help me brad

[@carloscabrera5311]

SAUVI FLPS two guys at one time ? she's going to get someone kill. get away as far as you can. take a train to Cuba..lol

[@LesiureBoy]

What if the "new guy" is a long known friend that I'm sure she's had sex with before we met?

[@BradBrowning]

Then he's not really considered a "new" guy, is he? Since they have history together. It's either she has a habit of contacting her exes/flings or she still has feelings or unfinished business with this particular guy. Consider moving on from this. Good luck!

[@lMobiuscidl]

*THIS* I also need an answer for this!!!

[@lMobiuscidl]

Any news from your situation Steve? I'd like to hear your story.

[@LesiureBoy]

Bro, my situation is completely fucked, tbh. My ex is crazy. And you can't reason with crazy. Things took a turn for the worst. Wish you the best brotha. Chin up.

[@madsox627]

I messed up. I'm an emergency medical provider and I witnessed something terrible... a little bit after this I met my ex and had no idea I had fallen in love with her. I was caught up in a haze of darkness from the incident and my therapist is trying to help me to break out of the ptsd. Long story short- I was so jarred I was constantly talking about escaping from this place I live and move away, but I truly prioritize my love life. I essentially caused my ex to dump me because I scared her... my therapist offered to talk to her, but I don't want her back out of pity. We dated for 6 months and we were like 2 childhood friends together... I had a dream about her one night about a month after we broke up and I contacted her then we started talking and even had a dinner on Thursday to celebrate her birthday... then I got messed up and got emotional. I gave her my power by being honest about wanting her. I even said so in text and now she makes me wait very long periods after texts. She did however say that she loved the meeting.... I'm sorry for my writing, I haven't been able to keep my head together very well for a long time now.

[@BradBrowning]

Good realization! Pat yourself in the back for being mindfully aware of your situation. Do your best to get yourself to a clearer mindset first though. Try to stick to the "no contact" rule until this is achieved. A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!

[@aotearoangarama2322]

Thanks for reassuring me Brad. Me and my ex just broke up 3 weeks ago and had a quick hook up, and told me he's in a new relationship. I was a little stunned but now I'm reassured that my ex is just making excuses and putting on a front. So thanks Brad keep doing what your doing because it's working for me. 😊

[@BradBrowning]

I'm glad to be able to help. In the future, if your ex is trying to hook up with you again, be sure to follow the tips here first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p6Coi5yGo554fpI All right? You're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@dmctalon7262]

damn Brad, all your videos are about Ex's and getting back together with them, life is about moving forward and constantly growing, not trying to get back with someone that it hasn't worked out with already, but finding someone that it does work out with, ya dig!

[@BradBrowning]

Hey Dwayne! I would neither agree nor disagree with you because it's all a matter of personal preference and each situation is different! You dig? :-) You're obviously on the wrong channel. Go and find ones that focuses on improving relationships. All the best!

[@mariavega4898]

Get out from here then... a lot of people can relate and are very appreciative except u. So definitely your in the wrong page.

[@midasTOUCH999]

Hi Brad. It’s been 3 months since my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me. She cheated on me, I broke up with her, then I wanted to work it out. That lasted a week and then she dumped me. It took me a month to move out so we still had contact. Once I was moved out she still would text me and vice versa. She still didn’t want me back so I did no contact but only for 5 days. After that we met up, had a great time and even hooked up. We hung out a few more times and then I asked her to get back together, this time she said yes. Then 2 weeks later, again she dumped me saying she thought she was ready but she isn’t. Then we had no contact for a week and she texted me and then asked to grab a beer. Then we hung out again and it turns out she just wants to be friends and she is now dating the other guy. Smh. I told her that I do not want to be friends. I know I wasn’t the best man at the end of the relationship and I know I need to work on things and I have already started. I can’t tell if this guy is a rebound or not. It’s someone she’s known even before me, they Hooked up a few times awhile before we even met. He’s good friends with her friends. I can’t tell if it’s a rebound or not. Thanks for all of your help. You rock!

[@BradBrowning]

Don't chase her, man. The short answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2OahX-brrqgrck There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!

[@williambackus6963]

Hey Brad, My ex and I were together for almost 3 years and we lived together for a little over a year. She left me about 3 weeks ago for various reason's, but one of the main reasons she gave was because I didn't want to get married at the time. About a week prior to her leaving, I found out that she lied to me and went to a male co-worker's house when she told me that she was going to be at a girlfriend's house. When I confronted her, she initially lied about even being at the guy's house, but later admitted it, but said nothing happened and they only "talked". On the day she left, I brought it up again and she swore nothing physical happened, but it was obvious that there was an emotional connection. I initially agreed to be friends and then I started the no contact and haven't been able to tell her that I can't just be friends yet. No contact has been going ok, except that we keep running into each other at social events that we had previously planned to attend i.e. she came to my Niece's High School graduation last night. We also booked a trip to Ireland together for October and she still hasn't cancelled yet and I've noticed that she still has pictures of us together on her facebook wall. I also work in the same building as my ex and the other guy, but rarely come into contact with them, but I've noticed that they seem to be meeting up and leaving together often at the end of their shifts, but in separate vehicles and I've noticed recently through social media that she seems to be spending a lot of time with this guy including an overnight hike that they went on with several other co-workers. They aren't making their relationship known to everyone just yet, but I think it might be getting close. Would you consider this a rebound relationship even though I think they were together before we broke up? What do you think my chances are at this point?

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear about the breakup, man. I don't think that's really the reason though. Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/kKariHaNmqxkrtU I suggest to let her feel what it's like NOT to have you in her life, okay? Just let her miss you first, man and take it one step at a time. It may or may not be a rebound, but your best bet is still to cut off contact and yes, it will work in a sense to where you get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with an ex when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Make sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? In some cases it may, but sometimes not, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step phase I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!

[@shylahutchins9934]

I can't find any video's that really apply when it's a casual relationship so he figures it's just cut & dry & easy. He met someone, it's going well...but you don't know about it & were arranging to get together. But then suddenly find out he's met someone & then it's like 'lets talk' & he's saying how good it feels; asks for your blessing & be happy for him. Tells you he'll miss you & take a piece of you with him (after I'd expressed the sentiment) & that he would like you to give him his SPACE so he can explore this...he's moved on. If it doesn't work out he'll let you know...but if it's still going good by the end of the month he'll return all my things. He knows I still want to be with him...but he wants to pursue this new interest & he's moving fast to make her his gf, already talking about sex within 3-4 wks & a relationship. Is there a video on that...??? In one way he's said he may resume with me, but in another way he's saying he wants to dissolve things, he's moved on & I should too. I wish there were someone to move on TO who appreciates me. I deserve it. The dating scene here is the shits...I can't get access to anyone (don't drive) they're all in the city. Everyone I come in contact with who finds me nice or attractive...they all have emotional issues from past marriages, a fiance who committed suicide or they just want FWB. It's endless...I've tried paid membership sites thinking it'd be men who are more serious about a relationship because they've paid to look...idk.

[@BradBrowning]

There's no video for casual relationships, sorry. The thing is, it is a casual relationship and it looks like it's all he's ever wanted it to remain: casual. And the problem is you wanted more but looking at his actions, it doesn't seem like he's prepared to give it. He wanted casual relationships and date many women and he's still sowing his oats. To get what you deserve, you have to be prepared to let go of what's not right for you, so let go of this man, okay? Sorry to hear about your bad luck with men though, perhaps try to be single first? The one that's right for you will show up if you aren't looking, so just enjoy life and the surprises it brings while still single! :-)

[@AlexGarcia-tk3jm]

Wow right at 3:16 your words were flowing thru my heart i swear your my brotha brad she is tryna just tryna supress the depression GOD bless u brotha you really helped 💙🤟

[@BradBrowning]

Glad to be able to help! Don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXvXnomYedCVotk Best of luck!

[@hannahwhite4480]

my ex is dating my now ex best friend. I found out everything and right after he begged me to stay his friend and told me he didn't want me out of his life. the relationship he's in was supposed to be a secret. now that I know everything, it's easy for me to talk to him and see him and be his friend. we've both changed tremendously so I feel like we're getting to know each other on a... we just met, new friendship, kind of situation. we have a company together, were engaged, had huge plans for our future. he doesn't want to lose the company we share... or my partnership. I told him he could have it all and he wants me to continue working with him. even tho he had his new girl, he flirts, wants to sleep with me, tells me not to think about it, it's confusing, but I'm still in love with him and I can't say no, even tho I just want to focus on the company. what do u think about that?

[@BradBrowning]

He muse be really confused. Why'd you two have to break up? Look at the other issue/s in your relationship other than the cheating. Because cheating may have happened as a result of these (often hidden) issues. Anyway this is one of the cases where the “no contact” rule is actually an exception...but DON'T initiate random contact in any way and don’t make any unnecessary chitchats, all right?I've discussed it in these videos, as well as how to handle it: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sHzLf3ueetKMg8k and kzbin.info/www/bejne/r5XIdoZpjLpki8U but read my Ex Factor Guide so you'll have an in-depth view on how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, etc. since good timing is essential at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Okay? Take care!

[@svksaha6718]

dear brad, i had a 5 year relationship with my girlfriend.suddenly she left me for a guy that she knew for only 2 months, there was never my fault but she started to find faults and make little things massive to get rid over me.i was a little possessive i hope every true loving guy should be thats natural u know.i never eveb thought to cheat eith her,i treated her and cared her like my child ,she was everything to me,she hurt me 100 times but i never responded i just kept inside that feeling inside me and loved her more day by day thinking that my love will change her and one day she will understand.i never stopped her for anything.she did what she wanted to.i got hurt a lot of time but never told her,i thought like our parents never leave us whatever the situation is i will never leave her at any cost.but suddenly she said she was gone.just telling that she doesn't want me.i still cant get over breakup but just after breakup she got into a new relationship and showing everyone as the new one is the best for her abnormally and excessively and showing the she is the happiest ever in her life now. i still love her and i am ready to accept her after all these if she comes and apologizes.she hasn't contacted me for a month ,for the first few weeks i took her upfates from her friends but when i saw she was in a new relationship i just broke inside and stopped taking her updates beacuse it was hurting me more.i dont know if she takes my updates or not.i am not over facebook.i am just over whatsapp and she blocked me there a month ago,i never contacted her there after and so did she. will she back to me?ur thoughts? what can i do now?everyday since that breakup i cry i try hard not to but cant help.what are ur thoughts on her on me about our future. plzzzz reply u are a real guru

[@BradBrowning]

Hey man, sorry to hear that. Look at the situation from an objective perspective since you could've easily missed the little details. Majority would decide to just move on for good and start afresh with someone else, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2OahX-brrqgrck There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!

[@svksaha6718]

thank you sir !!

[@victorialeeinnyc]

My ex was the one who broke up with me and since then I have initiated no contact (it's been 3 months). I did it in hopes of him coming back to me but now my main focus is just moving on. I found out yesterday that he posted a picture with his new girlfriend. My ex is 23 and his new girlfriend is 20. I am 22 and we were both looking for jobs post graduation... since the break up I have been doing so well and even was offered a great job! As for him, I think he resorted to dating someone still in college so that he could feel better about his limbo phase of life right now, he is obviously immature and needs a younger girl to make him feel better about himself. Clearly finding a job is not his priority if he has the time to drive to another state to visit his new girlfriend at college. Also, they must have been talking for at least a month if they decided to spend a weekend together and it is very unlike him to post pictures on social media yet he posted a couple picture of them together... I am shocked and confused.

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear that. A lot of this depends on what transpired between you two. But no, you don't really have to be dating a month for two people to spend the weekend together. It just depends on what both people agreed on and both consented to spending the weekend together? He's likely rebounding, though. Look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it isn't. So take time to evaluate, okay? Good luck!

[@alynnn.3372]

Hey brad! My boyfriend broke up with me 1 and half months back.his reason for break up was-"we are not compatible with each other and he is not seeing any future with me.i don't like hurting you but it's better to hurt you once and for all then to hurt you forever and also I deserve someone better". I cried but he wasn't ready at all to take me back.i decided to go NC for a month.since ..he broke up with me many times before and always came back within 2-3days begging.i thought this time he would come back too and when he will come back..this time I am not gonna respond till I complete my NC but to my surprise..he didn't really tried anything this time.after a week..I tried one time to ask him to give a chance as I never made an effort to convince him or apologise but to my surprise..he is clear that he doesn't want me at all.and again I went back to NC.after week again..I started updating my pictures and etc with friends showing him that I am having fun without him.once I updated a picture with a guy..he then text me asking-"tell me once that you have moved on really well" and I replied asking-"have you?" But he never replied me back. He didn't changed his Facebook password and etc before that.but after seeing that picture..he immediately changed his relationship status as "single" and changed his password too. Since it was already logged in in my phone..I went through his conversation..he was flirting with every girls but one girl(his old classmate whom he really liked) he chatted with her in different way and was talking like he talked with me when he were in love.as that girl is in different state..he was ready to book flight ticket for her as he wants to know her and look forward.i was shattered seeing this.i confronted him and he was sorry but something pulled him towards her and he wants to know her.but he can stop talking with her till I get someone new.i got devastated reading this and I decided to let go off him.but I talked with that girl once asking how close they were before and etc.that girl never replied well either and sounded As if she likes him too. When my ex came to know about This..he couldn't say much but told me to leave him alone as he is not seeing anyone else too.he just doesn't want anyone including me and blocked me from Facebook.i asked him to block me from whatsapp and everywhere too.and did BLOCKED me from everywhere and never unblocked me. Soon after few days..I cald that girl for a final closure asking how far they are going but she wasn't answering at all.that night..my ex bf unblocked me just to ask like what I talked with her.i just told him to -Fuck off and get lost and to ask his girl. And I will never bother them. He said "ok" and stopped texting me. I didn't texted them either.i cried and cried. After a week..I updated an status about my heart beating problem(normally) then he replied at my status-consult doctor. I replied-"thanks for the concern and I am fine.hope you are okay! " He replied-I am worried about you.you should take care of yourself" I congratulate him for his new purchase of phone saying everything's new with you these days. He said-except the phone nothing is new. And then when I asked about his girl and etc..he said-"she doesn't wants to get in mess with me but I don't know why am I chasing after her and I am trying to calm myself down.as she doesn't want me maybe I am getting the pain I deserve" I got shocked again.he really loves her. I got angry and asked whether he really moved on from me.he said yes! And asked me not to wait for him anymore. In between..he even had one night stand(as per my source) I didn't asked him but I know he did. I still don't hate him knowing this. What now? I still love him.

[@alynnn.3372]

Brad ! Please reply? Now he started contacting his ex gf even.

[@BradBrowning]

Your ex is most likely lying about the reasons, watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas and the top 5 questions here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/j3uqeXiqobtkl8U All the best!

[@alynnn.3372]

He is meeting his ex gf and clicking pictures etc.he seems really with his ex. And it is killing me inside.do you think they gonna get back together?and I should give up?

[@banikorganic]

My ex just wants to be friends with me and nothing more. She isn't in a new relationship but I'm not sure if she's seeing someone or not. Can you please tell me what can I do to make her come back to me and love me like she used to?

[@BradBrowning]

She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at kzbin.info/www/bejne/r5WZoamEi8p7oKs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qYSXh2d_hMiCndU but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!

[@lukelelievre754]

She's in a long distance rebound right now and he's called it off, but they both still have feelings. He blocks and unblocks her every few days and says he doesn't know what to do and she's really emotionally messed up right now. She's got final exams next week and she's got a best friend in hospital. I didn't message her for 5 days but today she reached out and when I saw the message I couldn't ignore her... I just couldn't. Even if it means sacrificing any chances of getting back together with her by being her emotional dump, at least I can be happy with myself that I helped out a person in a really dark place who needed a friend.... My chances of ever getting her back are really gone now aren't they.

[@BradBrowning]

Of course, if you're totally okay with being friends with her and keep your feelings at bay, why not, right? You're only really battling with yourself though because I doubt the feelings can be repressed easily as you need enough time to heal first. It's still your choice in the end, man, so good luck!

[@jacklam5560]

Help me , Mr. Brad Browning . I and my wife married almost 10 years . But now , we are separate and she want to divorce .3 months ago , she told me she want open relationship .But I didnt agree and I upset on her . And then we are separated . Everyday , she chats with another guy on website and she slept with him . She chatted with him about 2 months and met him 5-6 times then she kicked him . After that , she hang out alone .And then she met second guy on app dating .She texted to him everyday .And she dating with him . She told me :" she missed me when she dating with him" .But now I think she falling in love with him and she told me :" she happy with us being friends" . She wants to forget me .She changed everything in us bedroom .And everyday after work she hang out with the guy .How can i get her back ???. I still love her so much .Thanks

[@BradBrowning]

Step out of the friendzone first. It's simplu a terrible idea to be friends. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at kzbin.info/www/bejne/r5WZoamEi8p7oKs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qYSXh2d_hMiCndU but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!

[@rachw9320]

Hi Brad, I was in a 2 year relationship with my ex , we were inseparable when we met and moved in together after a year. We broke up when he couldn’t cope with my anxiety, depression and when I became ill with sepsis. The break up was tough on the both of us and we have now been separated for just over a year. In this time we decided to remain the best of friends however I always loved him and had hope we would get back together but I never said as he always said he wanted to remain friends. I had therapy and got myself better for me and finally got to a place of happiness in myself. I can’t lie, in the year we’ve been apart we have slept together a few times and he has been very caring and loving to me, but he never wanted to acknowledge that this was happening and was still adamant we were friends only and there was no chance of us getting back together. Just as I decided to take a chance I wanted to tell him that I wanted to perhaps give things another shot, he tells me he has started dating someone he’s met on tinder, before I managed to say anything. They’ve been on 4-5dates and already she doesn’t like that we are best friends so he’s said we can’t see each other anymore. I’m devastated once again I feel that my heart has been ripped out. As it’s been a year since we separated do you think this is a rebound? The last time we slept together was 3 weeks ago, he met her the following week..was I just being used to fill the space and cure his loneliness or do you think he still has some sort of feelings for me? I would love closure on this painful chapter but still feel our story hasn’t finished. Any advice would be amazing. Many thanks :)

[@BradBrowning]

It's still important to put the full 30-day straight "no contact" rule into priority because if you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is a surefire way towards a doomed relationship, if you get your ex back. Make sense now? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@fabertt444]

Hi Brad, I’ve been watching your video’s for a while now and they help me a lot! Right now I’m having a hard time. Me and my ex lived together for 2 years but mid January decided to have a ‘’break’’. I had some personal issues which made me really depressed and lose my happiness in life. He was working 24/7 on his dream projects and it caused me to nag about wanting to spend time. I decided to move back in with my parents to give myself time to heal and giving him time to focus on his projects. He was devastated and tried to beg me back. We kept the relationship going and went on dates (but fight a lot) until he wanted ‘’a break’’. Saying I am the love of his life but that I needed some alone time and that I needed to focus on myself until we could get back together in better times. He was inviting girls over that he worked with on his projects and I became suspicious and everytime I asked about it he said it was nothing and lied. At some point I asked a mutual friend about it who told me he was begging her to have a one night stand. The moment I confronted him about it I found messages on his Facebook of him sweet talking any rondom girl in his Facebook list (literally copy/pasting messages). Due to fear of losing him I begged. A couple of days later I send him a ‘’emotional neutral message’’ with a short apology and started No Contact. The same night he had sex with a random girl he worked with. Right now he is (I think) in a rebound relationship with another girl he works close with. Nothing official on Facebook, no dates, hiding it from me and acting on Facebook like they are just friends. (I know how many nights she spends with him because I'm still in close contact with his (and my formal) roommate. She is nothing like me, in everything the opposite (looks and character). I’m now 29 days into No Contact and have not heard from him. He covered a breakup song and posted it on Facebook (clearly meant for me) two weeks into No Contact. I don’t know if I need to wait for him to contact me or need to start connecting with him in a week of two. Please give me some insight if he just wanted to get rid of me or if he does really loves me and want to get back together in time.

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear that. At this point, it's still important to put the "no contact" rule into priority because if you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is the surefire way towards a doomed relationship. Make sense now? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@fabertt444]

Hey brad, I think I celebrated too soon... Last week I told you after more than a month of no contact he send me a message that he wanted to meet up, talk and hoped to see me soon. I waited to replay until the next day and told him I didn't have time until the week after. I didn't hear from him anymore in that week so I texted him when he wanted to see me and that my availability was limited that period. A day later I got a text saying; ''I don't feel the need to meet up. I think it's important for you to know that I found someone whom I'm really happy with. I wish you the best of luck and I know you will find it. I also know you are doing well, you get a lot of support, have new friends and a nice job. Makes me happy''' Of course I already new about the rebound and I know I should not react angry or something. What is the best text I could send him back to make him regret this decision? Please help me out (:

[@johnnyresendiz]

Here’s my story: I was talking to this girl I ended up dating for 2 months. Even though we were about an hour away from each other, we still thought it would work. We ended up dating and it was great. But, after only 2 months in, she said that she couldn’t do a relationship cuz she was going through depression. She would text me and Snapchat me from time to time afterwards. Later, she completely did NC while I made the error of texting her once a week to just say hope she’s doing good. Didn’t ask for anything, just sent good vibes. We met up at a party after 3 months and she said while she is feeling way better mental health wise, she still didn’t want a relationship. We reconciled and decided to be friends. Around December, we started to snap chat a lot. We ended up going on a 66 day snap streak. BUT, while we were on the streak, I found out she started dating another guy who is at a much closer proximity to her. I learned though that she would still snap me as they were talking. Eventually, she broke the streak and me and her are at day 5 of NC. She still looks at all my snap stories and likes my Instagram posts. A large majority of her friends also don’t like this new guy cuz they seem very different and prefer me. I know this should be my time to better myself and to not listen to anything that could lead back to her, but I’m pretty lost on what to think/do.

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry man, but if your ex has mental issues, the most loving thing you can do is to give each other space while she gets help. Encourage your ex to seek treatment because clinical depression is something only a therapist specializing on this can handle, even this is outside of my scope. But I can help you how to handle things on YOUR end as you go through this difficult ordeal. I know it can be incredibly tough knowing you’ve given it your best shot, yet your partner still fails to appreciate it or is breaking up despite it being a good relationship. Anyway it's a bad idea to be friends with an ex. Consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@argento1950]

Hi Brad, we were together for almost 7 years, but for the last 3 years we were in long distance relationship. A week before I moved back in the same town as her, she left me. I must point out, that at moment of the break up, it still wasn't clear, would I move back. While breaking up she told me, she loves me, that I am her soul mate, that she is confused what to do with her life, gave me a love letter and If "destiny" wants us together we will be together, but that she "needs" to do this. The distance part was crucial for her, and how we are not going anywhere. Since I returned, she is refusing to see me, I texted and called her to the point, that she in anger said (or that's just the truth) that she doesn't love me anymore and that I move on with my life. I was like WTF, how can you love somebody 10 days ago, and now you don't. That was month ago. After that I only send to her one or two emails explaining what I wanted for our future and how I am confused with everything. Couple days ago, I found up that she is seeing her old childhood friend and a college from work. I don't think that qualify as a rebound? I am fairly sure she wasn't cheating on me while we were in relationship, but as she replied on one of my text to me: that she needs to give this a chance, although she is maybe making mistake. After I found your videos, i figured I was making a mistake, damage is done and I am applying no contact, don't worry. This whole situation doesn't make any sense to me, because we were planning this living together thing for the past 3 years, and now we are living relatively close, in medium sized town, so I bump on her every couple of days now (she is passing thru my street in a car, while we are going on work and that kind of things, she was even driving behind me one morning, should I avoid those encounters?)Should I add that she behaves bad under the pressure, needs really long time to decide something and stubborn as hell, but I love her. I would be grateful, if you can shed some light on this because I have a feeling like I am living in some kind of weird experiment right now. P.s.: Sry, English is not my first language, so i apologize for mistakes ;)

[@BradBrowning]

Her behaviour had been odd indeed. Try to see when all this "change" happened and what has triggered it. I doubt a girl will do a complete 360 overnight. Try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this, okay? Could the distance have anything to do with it? What were her thoughts on it? Watch this, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a5_JiIWAh9ehd9U If you still need my help further on this, however, then we ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@haydenjames3083]

Hey Brad, My ex and I were together for 1.5 years, we were best friends before we started dating, and one day we just clicked. She was so head over heals for me, but things went south. I became angry and verbally aggressive, which scared her. I promised I'd change but I never took action, till it was too late. We had lived together for most of the relationship. Then she decided she was going to go back to her home town, promising me she would return and wouldn't break up with me. But sadly, she broke up with me. We had our future planned out but my anger and attitude ruined it all. A couple days after the break up she told me she's seeing someone new. It hurt a lot, still does. She still contacts me telling me she misses me and my family and that she loves us all forever and always. She's sometimes being flirty, and she wants to hangout when I visit go visit my brothers. I don't understand why she would still contact me and want to see me while she's with this new guy that supposedly treats her way better than I did. I love her with all my heart, Brad. I don't know where to start. Please help me:(

[@BradBrowning]

She might have missed the friendship, man. What happened, though? Why'd you suddenly turned all verbally abusive on her? Give it time though. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, watch it to learn a few tips to understand your situation better: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iH-Zn5eAj5V9Y9k

[@haydenjames3083]

Brad Browning What should I do now that she's cussing me out on social media for the public to see? She's already telling the guy she loves him, and that he makes her the happiest she's ever been. Her and I have been through so much and she was willing to let it all go. The verbal abuse was most likely my insecurities and controlling behavior, which she appreciated that I had acknowledged that mistake. I love her and I feel like she still loves me but I don't know if there's any hope anymore.

[@beeverydayamazing1791]

A girl had broken up with me in March, and honestly, I've been getting friendzoned and heartbroken ever since. She said she just doesn't feel the same way about me, and she was lying to herself. I still stay in contact with her, and it hurts too much to say goodbye. she now found someone else, and I keep getting crushed time and time again. I want her back. What do I do? I cry so much.. And she just likes me as a friend. I don't wanna hurt anymore. Brad, I need help. I feel like i still love her, but she never loved me before.. It's not a rebound, and she's just moving on.. I can't take the pain, and it tears me apart just to watch this. I would do anything to get her back.

[@BradBrowning]

It may or may not be too late, but you ought to get out of the friendzone first, it's about time. In fact, this is long overdue. Being friends with an ex, especially right after a breakup, is a bad idea, and even more so if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively (follow the principles), at kzbin.info/www/bejne/r5WZoamEi8p7oKs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qYSXh2d_hMiCndU

[@cjskm]

We broke up and I didn't talk to him for three days. Until he messaged me saying that he is dating someone else, and that he is sorry and doesn't deserve me. I didn't reply to him for two days cuz I wanted to continue the no contact rule. But in the end, I couldn't take it and went back to find him. We slept together that night but he told me that he doesn't want to be with me and that he is dating someone. But the thing is, the next night, he asked me over again. And when I cried to him about how he has someone new, he said that he only made out with her once in the club and they exchanged numbers and they frequently meet up. To watch movies and play sports together. Not one on one but with a few other friends. He said that he never touch or hold or kiss her like how he shows his affection to me. And he says he loves me but he doesn't want to be in a rs right now. Even with the girl he is dating, he says he doesn't want to be in a rs with her. What do i do? I can't accept that I'm nobody to him because we still act like a couple but he is seeing someone else apart from me.

[@BradBrowning]

You may have to stop initiating contact. It doesn't seem like you've cut off contact first for at least a month? Do that first and don't skip that part. Have you been actively trying to get your ex back? Don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!

[@bryanmartinez7522]

What can I say, this guy is peaking facts. His work really works

[@BradBrowning]

Bryan Martinez Thanks!!

[@zaza11]

Hey Brad, my ex and i broke up on 20th December 2016. This is my first ever relationship. I am 26 years old and she is 24 years old. We were together for nearly 6 years. A few months before the breakup, i noticed that she acted differently than the usual. She ignored my jokes and she doesn't seem interested in me. So one day after we met up, i sent her a text message asking her why does she behave strangely. And 1 min later, she replied me asking me to check my email. When i open the email, i was so shocked to see what she wrote. This is what she wrote in the email "Before you read this email, please note that i have given this a lot of thought for the past few months and i cant force myself into this anymore. I wanted to speak to you in person but was afraid u might get aggresive and resistant. Lately, you've been asking me if i love you. I dont exactly know how to answer that question actually. It's sad because....i dont love u as much as before. Have u ever thought of keeping this relationship alive?..... Going on dates, going to places together, surprises, giving words of appreciation. I dont really remember the last time we have done all these. Do you? We pretty much gym(thats fine) then just laze around, and same old thing again. I guess not much cause to you no need for all that ya, cause you know i will always be here, never gonna leave and what for right. Complacent enough, not bothered, have stopped chasing and remained boring. Not much effort made in this relationship to make your girl happy. They say the person you love dearly will be the first person you wana do things with. Not in the case for me. For example, remember ive always wanted to do luge/megazip? I rather do it with my friends now, they'll take the effort to bring me and willingly do it with me. Do i want to go to the beach/park/outdoor places hangout with you like how other couples do? Spend quality time tgt. Do fun activities with you. Nahhhh i prefer doing it with my friends cause i know you're too lazy/tired/far. I would even prefer doing things alone now or even be with my family. Other than fetching me, which i whole heartedly appreciate, you'd prefer doing your things than making me happy. The spark that we used to have is slowly dimming and i'm constantly trying to find the reason why i loved you in the first place. You are suppose to protect me, encourage me to do the right things, make me feel safe. You are suppose to respect me and not force me into things that i dont wish to do and afterwhich regret. I wasn't given any choice or say at all. What am i to you?! I feel scared, crying while typing this, i feel disgusted. You never did consider about my feelings. I have given this a lot of thought. And if you still wish to stick to your stand, go ahead, cause i dont wish to give in to your wants. I've been unbelievably ridiculously blindly doing so and it's entirely my fault in falling for your persuasion, which i shouldn't have. I'm so ashamed of myself. If you love me, you wouldnt even do this.. I have always loved you, always. But i guess...things happen." Then after this, she asked me to give her space. So i gave her the space. We still need meetup once in a while and around 2 weeks later, she told me that she wants to have a heart to heart conversation. We met and she asked me whether i want to continue the relationship with her while crying. I answered 'Yes'. So we got back together again but a few weeks later she wanted space again. I was confused and i don't know what to do. My mind was literally lost. I have no choice but to give in to her request. Day after day, i kept begging and pleading to her to give me another chance. And one day she had enough of me because of my begging and pleading, she broke up with me. I realised that i have lost the love of my life. I was very heartbroken. The next day, i went to get flowers and an apology card for her. I went to her workplace to give the flowers and the card. She was shocked to see me there but i left straight away after i gave the flowers and the card because she was busy with her work. A few minutes later, she texted me saying that she couls not accept the flowers and the card. So i went back to her office and took them back. Then she blocked and deleted me on whatsapp, facebook and instagram. After that, we didn't contact each other and one day i bumped into her in the gym. She saw me and left the gym with a black face. After that day, I did another mistake by pleading and begging her after to forgive me via email because there's no way for me to contact her other than email. She replied me "Please learn to appreciate, treasure and not take for granted the people and things around you. Cause you don't know what you've got, till it's gone. If you want me to be happy, please stop begging and move on. For us, for you. Actions speak louder than words and it's annoying that you keep begging. Forcing me to accept you back won't make me budge. The more u beg the more turned off I am. You need to learn how to manage things better as a man. So please, STOP! And i knew that i lost her. I didn't disturb her anymore till about a month later where i wrote a handwritten letter for her. In the letter, i asked her whether we can meetup for a while because i miss her. The next day, she unblocked me on whatsapp and she texted me this; "Good morning Reza, Thanks for the letter. Appreciate it, appreciate the drawing. But I'm sorry to say my heart is already closed. I don't want to be in a toxic relationship anymore when I'm tortured by my own thoughts/expectations/a girl's unfulfilled wishes, having to submit to you and giving in to you almost all the time, putting aside my own feelings. You're a indeed a nice guy reza very very nice guy, but I don't have any love left for you. I'm already scarred and I'm sorry about that. That letter's effort should be given to someone else who will appreciates it more now. All I want is for you to mature and learn outtaf our past relationship to put your 101% in your future's. Move on, Reza. Don't let this torment you. You're a guy, an adult now. Yes we can meet but don't expect anything much out of it. I'll let you know soon when. Thanks once again." Then i replied by wishing her good morning and thank her for unblocking me. After that day, i have been texting her but she will gave me cold replies at times. I have been asking her when can we meetup. Maybe have a quick dinner to catch up on things. She said that she will update me when she's free. She said that she's busy with her work. So last wed, i went to her workplace to surprise her with chocolates. After i gave her the chocolates, i left as she's busy with her work. A few minutes later, she texted me saying that she can meet me for Starbucks but only for 10mins as she needs to get back to her work. We had Starbucks and we chit chat. I followed her back on Instagram. A few days later, i found out that she has been dating a new guy. To my horror, he is her colleague. I went to the guy's profile and it looks like they are together. However there are no pictures of them together but the love captions that he put on some of his photos refer to my ex. So Brad, i need your analysis on this. How can she possibly move on so fast and date this new guy. Could this guy be her rebound? And btw, he is 39 years old and my ex gf is only 26 years old. I really need your advice on this Brad. Am looking forward to your reply. Thank you.

[@BradBrowning]

Hi there, Reza! I appreciate the time you took to write all this, and I would really love to help, but as what I've been telling anyone who posts super long comments, please try to keep your post short. I only have limited time to give free advice since obviously my coaching clients take first priority, and I'm trying to cover as many comments as possible. Feel free to sign up for my coaching program so I can prioritise your situation at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Thanks for your understanding!

[@zaza11]

Brad Browning hi Brad, thanks for your reply. Understood! Basically my ex gf is dating someone new after our breakup. He is somehow similar to me in terms of personalty as he also goes to the gym as me. But i am not sure whether they are together though We were together for nearly 6 years. Before we broke up, she mentioned to me that the spark was getting lesser. She also said that we always been doing the same things everyday thus she feels bored of me. We broke up on 20 Dec 2016. Could it be that she is on a rebound?

[@DavidSanchez-tv4kd]

Her friend told me that my ex's feelings were fading away and that she found someone else. We have been broken up for over a week. She is two hours away from me. We go to different colleges. I bought your program. We dated over two years.

[@BradBrowning]

Try not to get other people involved, since a story has a tendency to change the more it's passed around. Anyway great! I’m glad you now have the tools to guide you on what to do. Now I know it's difficult (and it's a different challenge all on its own) but try to follow the guide down to a tee, all right? Start with the "no contact" rule for 30 days. Read it many times over until you master it. Take care!

[@kwokieproductions8971]

Brad. I have an ex i still love. However, i am the rebound guy. We were dating for about 3 months. We had a great relationship. She one day had foot surgery and was home on meds and thinking about life. She was sad one day and told me she was still hung up on her ex bf, whom was married with children. She has no desire to go back to him but she decided to dump me via text. About a week later, i emailed her with how i felt (mistake #1). She tried to call me but i was mad and didnt pick up (mistake #2). I then fired off another email telling her off (mistake #3). She offered her friendship and she apologized but i told her she was being disingenuous. I was pissed she was picking a ghost over me. She then disappeared from social media but also from our social groups. Two and a half months later, i saw her at a dinner on christmas night. I thought i was over her but it brought back memories and made me realize i still love her. She knew was i was going to be there but was nervous to see me cause she wanted to avoid me. She looked great. She straightened her hair and wore clothes that she knew i liked. But i ignored her and did not say a word to her (mistake 5). As the following days went by, i was unraveled. All the work i did to move on was undone. Two days after i shot off a text message that it hurt me to see her (mistake 6). I was sarcastic in the message. There was no response. I tried calling her yesterday and got her voicemail (mistake 7). I left a message saying i wanted to discuss what happened on christmas night. She then sent a text message asking me to "please do not contact me anymore in any form. Thank you." She knows that i will abide by her wishes since it is the law of our state to cease contact when a message like that is sent. Brad, things fell apart so quickly. I still love her. I didnt walk away from her when she said what she said. She called me her angel throughout our time together. She is special and unique. I didnt know i was alone till i met her. I want her back in my life but dont know what to do here. Help?

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear that. Depending on the damage done, it may or may not be too late…but don't make the same mistakes! On the flip side, however, you could just be overreacting, so don’t be so hard on yourself. Most people are guilty of this at some point. So if you'd really want to gauge your chances of getting back together (it may not be all doom and gloom after all) I suggest you take the free quiz on my website and answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!

[@kwokieproductions8971]

Brad Browning i took the quiz a couple of days ago and got 64.. Not sure what to do.

[@Dakkadot01]

Whats for you is for you and whats not is not. When the curtains close its over. Life itself is temproary, so just live and love again

[@BradBrowning]

Yep and whether you choose to love an ex again or someone new is totally subjective! ;)

[@stephanyoneill5479]

You see I don’t want to get him back ... but he dating someone so quickly right after the break up and I don’t understand why.

[@BradBrowning]

Since you don't want him back, then it doesn't really matter now, does it?

[@anadiaz8742]

my ex cheats on me since october and today (january)theyre living together since a couple of weeks, he said at firts momment "i need time im confused" but i knew later than he moves into her house almost inmediately, he is just not regreting, he seems tobe great. we have a child and we see each other almost everyday because our kid...im polite with him not friendly, i made in the first two weeks some no contact but in my case is almost impossible...i dont argue im calmed in his presence and in his abscense too cause i been reading a lot trying to recover and put myself together. i spoke about her "new gf" in some fights we had but not anymore im much more confident and im afraid of loosing my family yes, but at the same time i know that already happended....we were in a 10 years relationship bought a house built a home...we fought often yes but there was always passion or at least i believed it was......i want him back but he seems to be so cool in his new relationship....is a rebound? or something serious?

[@BradBrowning]

The short answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2OahX-brrqgrck There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!

[@fabertt444]

Hey Brad, I cant find my original reaction anymore but I really need your help, more then ever. My ex bf and I broke up in January (I moved out), planned to do a break (work on ourselfs, I did and he started to fool around with others. He lied about it, got into fights and he wanted to really have time apart (NC). He got into a (rebound) relationship, after a month of me ignoring him he texted to meet up, said I couldnt make it and later that week he completely changed his mine; told me how happy he was with his new girl, how proud he was seeing me change (''I told you your life would be better without me'') and apologizing for all the hurt he had caused me, ending with saying he didnt want any contact anymore. Like you suggested I kept it short, telling how well I was doing, wishing him well and also apologizing for things I did during our relationship. It was a good heart to heart talk, seeming we had nothing but the best intrests for eachother. It's now almost 6 months and I still miss him from time to time, we had this talk a 1,5 month ago. Tried to contact him a couple of times (fun stuff, but also things we still need to take care of). He reads and ignores. Now I see he deleted all the pictures of us (and/or) dog of Facebook and Instagram and it hurts.. like you're not even worth the memory... For as far as I know he is still with the same rebound (since mid March) (nothing official on facebook, met his family or anything), think he is also still flirting with other girls and he cleary doesnt want any potentials to know he is with her. What can I do.... Please help me because I'm lost. I'm happy with my life now and things are really going well, but I still feel he was the one...

[@BradBrowning]

Hi Fabienne! Sorry to hear about the breakup. Make sure you don't feel guilted for having cut off contact. Just to remind you, it's generally not a good idea to talk about the relationship. Read this first: bit.ly/2atyvxs Don't get me wrong, there is a time to discuss all of that, but it won't be too soon when the breakup is still fresh on your minds. What else happened during the 6 months apart? Have you been actively trying to get himback? Don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!

[@sahelimitra2232]

hey!! my ex and i had a relationship for 5 years...but we broke up in February for some misunderstanding then after 2 month of no contact...i contact him and he said that he moved on wd another girl after 1day he called me and cried for me..then after 2,3 days i called him and he says he loved the girl and wanna stay wd her and for depression i was angry in him and too much panicked for few days then i stopped contacting with him...now what should i do?? he blocked me from everywhere..pls reply😭

[@BradBrowning]

This is a very common issue which many people face, so I suggest you watch this vid coz I covered that here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/i6TTepSoeLyea68 Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication. More about that on here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4a3amV_d5qondU Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : kzbin.info/www/bejne/emKqoYVrgqajh80 Good luck!

[@badmintonlovers2833]

My EX is Now in Relationship Just After few days Of Breakup With My Enemy.. And She Also Knows that he is my Enemy And They are Trying To Make Me Feel.Jealous... Help Me Sir 🙏

[@Yonni0317]

My ex and I broke up back in July after a 2 1/2 year relationship and a week later we started back talking. One minute it seemed as if it was going well and the next it felt like he was pushing away. He had alot of family issues going on and I was trying to be patient and just be by his side. I asked him one day if he was talking to someone else because I had a weird feeling. He told me he liked someone else but they don't talk like that and it isn't like what we have. I was crushed but still determined to get us back on track. After a while like within the last month our contact wasn't that great and we really haven't seen each other. I stopped reaching out and then he would text me like normal and out of no where it's like we were back on track. Just a few days ago I was at his house and things started off great but the night ended horribly and I ruined everything and I was very intoxicated. A couple days later he tells me he is awesome without me and he is done and that he is going to pursue this other girl and even if she doesn't like him I should move on because he is done with me. I am on day 5 of no contact and it is driving me crazy. I deleted his number but I am still friends with his mom, sisters and aunts on fb...which I have now unfollowed but before I unfollowed I saw a video that was posted and I believe the new girl is in the video.I will go thru my phone and look at our pics together and listen to old voicemails. I have now deleted. He looks happy in the video. What should I do? Is there still a chance for us? Should I be worried about this girl he says he is pursuing? Please Help

[@kingeagle5045]

Yvonne Meyer hey !!!! Don't do anything !!! Let him come to you be patience !!! And then take things slowly just as the beginning of the ralationship !!!! When you met him !!! And do all the thing that you did at the beginning !!! Things to get Love you again !!! Good lock !!!!

[@BradBrowning]

It's still important to put the "no contact" rule into priority because since you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is the first step towards a doomed relationship. Make sense now? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@fabertt444]

Hey Brad Hi, My ex and I broke up some time ago and within a month he started a rebound relationship. After a month of no contact he send me a message that he wanted to meet up, talk and hoped to see me soon. I waited to replay until the next day and told him I didn't have time until the week after. I didn't here from him anymore in that week so I texted him when he wanted to see me and that my availability was limited that period. A day later I got a text saying; ''I don't feel the need to meet up. I think it's important for you to know that I found someone whom I'm really happy with. I wish you the best of luck and I know you will find it. I also know you are doing well, you get a lot of support, have new friends and a nice job. Makes me happy''' I know I should not react angry or something. What is the best text I could send him back to make him regret this decision? Let him know i'm ''happy'' for him (so he knows I'm over him and not jealous or ''supporting a forbidden love'') and let the door open for him to get back to me. Do I need to start no contact again after my text? Please help me out (:

[@BradBrowning]

Hi Fabienne! Let him know how "things are well and hope all is well with him, too" then cut the conversation short. Wait a few days to send one of the text messages here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/q3_CiXSdfc-UfK8 Good luck!

[@RahulYadav-ex7sl]

Brad i used your ex factor guide and followed your no contact rule now after 30 days i initiated contact with her by sending the message in your guide "break up was best thing happened and it would suck if we loose out friendship and we can meet in sometime along with friends" after sometime she gave a positive reply "good and we can meet with friends" and then after few hrs she is saying "she is dating someone new and it would be tough for her to talk to me on regular basis" i just gave her one message i never said anything to her about talking to her on regular basis and this replay came after 5 hrs ...... i said "off course no problem" and then she said "take care" please tell me our relationship was of 5 years problems started 2 months before breakup i was being needy........

[@BradBrowning]

You're not being needy but you're edging towards it. With this said, wait a few days before texting her again, okay? Remember not to reason out with her. Play it cool instead. Follow the guide down to a tee. You can do it! :-)

[@carolina0072]

Hi Brad... Need some direction. I broke up with my gf of 4 years about 8 months ago and I started seeing someone and it just didn't feel right. She started seeing someone about 6 months ago and they still are and it doesn't seem serious (like a security blanket) and I actually know this guy as well. We met and talked the other week for a couple hours and she knows how much I love and miss her and I told her I'd like to build a friendship and gain back her trust and that I wanted to let our new relationship define itself over time and we agreed to meet once a month or so and casually hang out. She then said she almost wishes I was seeing someone so it would be easier for us to hang out and people are telling me she was testing me because she always wanted me to take a leap of faith on us. I know she still cares for me (we were practically engaged and living together). She said she hit rock bottom and I have given her nothing but time to heal. People have said I just need to wait this guy out. Ive improved myself for myself in the meantime and also for her. I want her back badly. Help please:-(

[@BradBrowning]

Hey Anthony, how is she testing you when she's apparently still with some other guy? The fact that she can't seem to thrive without a relationship is already a red flag. I could be totally off, though. It's hard for me to give real advice with a lot of details missing. My first suggestion is probably not to change anything and to continue employing my techniques anyway. For specific advice that’s tailored to your situation, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon!

[@ranimerckx9063]

My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. We were together for 8 years, and I still can't believe it. Accept it. We we're really good together. Same interests, same opinions. Everything. We were young, both 16 years old. And now we are 24. It's really hard. Because his textmessages are really cruel and hard. I can't understand it. He looks like a total different person. After 3 weeks he was already dating someone else. (someone he was in an hairsaloon. She works there). He also knows I'm a very dependent person. He knows I will always wait for him. Because I do feel that we weren't ready. We still had a lot of affection (hugs, seks, kisses). He was just really busy and stuff. Our bad point: my jealousy. Really bad, but I can't help it. He is/was my world, and I wanted to avoid him finding someone better. But by doing that, I actually lost him. Quite ironic :(. I had the no contact period until day 18. That's when I heard he already was dating another girl (always texting, and went for couple of drinks), and I was soooo upset. When I reached out to him he told me that they had an amazing connection, and he wants to take it slow with her. She's also beautiful..He is my first love, and i really am still head over hills. But I know we are a lost case. Because even today he's certain about his choise. But we've been trough so much. How can he trow that away? Like it's nothing? He's working a lot, going sports en now found a replacement. This weekend he called, texted me because of an insulting message my niece sent to his new flame. But It wasn't my fault, and he was so angry!

[@BradBrowning]

He could be purposefully rude to you to push you away. The question now is why? What happened to you guys? Before anything else, I suggest you look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it isn't. So take time to evaluate, okay? Good luck!

[@garrettnelson2293]

I dated this girl for 6 months. We were good together and I thought everything was fine. A month before things went south I started to sense some weird feelings from her. Ended up she was talking to another guy. She tried to breakup with me and telling me that I wasn’t treating her right when I was treating her the way I always was. Found out two days later there was another guy. I ended up finding text messages that she was talking to other guys and denying to them that I was her boyfriend on social media and was just a “friend”. I’m crushed by this and don’t know if I can call it cheating or not because I can’t prove it got physical. I know the best thing to do is move on but we were getting serious or at least that’s what she lead me to believe. I found out she lied about a lot of thing throughout our relationship

[@BradBrowning]

Since you're asking me, I'd say move on because that person is not just into you. However, Amy North may have some other tips on what to do about that, so check out her channel, too!

[@dbz739921]

I have to keep watching this night after night to give myself reassurance. My girlfriend and I dated for about 20 months. In that time we went to a bunch of concerts went to the mountains a lot made great memories. But she started getting depressed about getting in trouble with the law and I was supportive of her but damaged our relationship where we would see each other very seldom. I tried giving her her space and she reached out to me but I blocked her when I unblocked I found out on Facebook that she was dating someone else. Now my heart is broke. I pray that you are right Brad and she is just rebounding. I've sent her some positive texts acting happy and positive. But I don't think anything's going to work.

[@BradBrowning]

Well, keep in mind that the new guy isn’t you and if your relationship had been particularly good for the most part, then you can use that knowledge to your advantage. Your ex is likely rebounding, especially if yours had been a long-term or serious relationship. Watch this first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/earOoY2MZbR8qac But don’t rely on that fact alone. Learn to play your cards right as well and go by these principles: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5ytYqyYqqt8fqc Good luck!

[@DS-ri6ri]

Me and my ex were together for 7 months. We both became negative a few months ago and it became miserable.. I will admit, I was going through a lot and I have a lot of blame. We broke up randomly.. he cried and told me we were toxic for each other and I need to love myself and one day we could revisit it.. then I found out a week later he was hanging out with his ex.. this girl was awful to him but she's good friends with his group of friends so he's avoided them for 7 months. He told me he missed his friends.. he loves me but he is seeing her now and I need to focus on myself and not judge him for how he gets over us.. they are together officially now.. 2 weeks later.. and it hurts more then him just leaving.. I'm focusing on myself but I miss him and I feel like he gave up on us.

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear that. I suggest you shift the focus away from him and the relationship and put it back to you instead, okay? There's nothing wrong with having personal issues, as most people would have it at some point in their life. But focus on your own actions instead and what's important is you work on these issues to become better. Take care!

[@eddierattlehead6183]

Hey, Brad. I've got a problem. I'm trying to get back together with my ex girlfriend. I'll tell you the entire story from beginning to end. Back in December, 2011, I convinced this friend of mine to be my girlfriend, and then the next day, I got too nervous and chickened out of the relationship. We've been friends since then. Fast forward to the beginning of last year, I realized I still loved her, and then in the fall, I asked her to dinner and she said yes. Then after dinner, I told her I like her, but she didn't reciprocate. Then I made the mistake of agreeing to being friends with her. She texted me a few days later and asked if I was mad at her and I responded with a simple no. Then she sent me a couple of text to which I didn't respond. And then a couple of days later, she text me saying "Please talk to me. What's up? We are still good friends." I then said that I needed space. And everything that happened after she didn't return my feelings happened LONG before I even knew that there was a way to get an ex girlfriend back. She did contact me a couple of times during the No Contact period, but I didn't respond either time. She called me a couple of times post NC, but she said she pocket dialed me both times and I know she called me on purpose both of those times. Now she has a boyfriend as of the end of this month. I would talk to her regularly on Facebook, but there are some times where she doesn't respond until a day or so later. How often should I contact her without giving my plans away? I love this girl more than life itself. A couple of things that struck me as odd is that even though she's in a relationship, I'm the only guy in her Featured Photos on Facebook. And before she entered a new relationship, she liked a two week old post of mine.

[@BradBrowning]

Hi Eddie, sorry to hear that. Yes, there is a way to get an ex girlfriend back...but looking at how your romantic history with her only lasted a day? compared to years of friendship after that, would make things a bit cloudy for you both. What made you suddenly think you want her back as your girlfriend? Are you sure you don't want her back just because she's with another guy now? This can sometimes happen. Be sure to check this out first to help you gain some insight: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2OahX-brrqgrck Good luck!

[@eddierattlehead6183]

I have checked out the video you posted, and I can answer all five of those questions. I really love her, I picture myself growing old with her, we haven't argued with each other, no other girl has made me feel the way she does, and there was no recurring problem. I found myself thinking about her every day before I looked up a link showing signs of being in love. I've been wanting her back for at least a year now.

[@gunnarmcfalls3642]

i started dating my ex 5 months ago. we were rushed into it by all of our friends and mainly them pressuring me into rushing into it with her. my father had passed away a month before we got together and thats when i met her was the week that he passed. during that month that we had first met is when everybody was pushing us to get together, so we did after that month. her mom had also passed 3 months prior. we knew that it was a bad idea to rush it, but since our parents had passed we were looking for someone to sooth our souls. her ex is a girl who broke up with her cause she cheated on the girl. obviously if you can't tell, she is bisexual. they were together for 4 years and had been split up for about a year or a little over. my ex still has strong feelings for the girl and felt she still needed time to get over the girl before she got with me. but i was dumb and pressured her into getting with me too soon. now while we were together she had been keeping the girl as a friend to just talk to. (at this point they were 8 states away from each other). now 3 weeks ago she had decided that she was going to go spend some time with her friends that she had met while she was in the state that her and the ex were together in, which, where she went was a couple hours away from her ex. she was only supposed to go down there for a couple weeks til her court date for something in our state. now the day she left to go down there, i was omw to another state to begin school for a month when i would return home and was expecting her to be there so we could return to our daily relationship. now, she had been having difficulty with friends and family in our home state so while she has been down there visiting her friends, she decided that she wanted to move down there and stay. we had been having some arguments about what quirks that i had that she didn't like and that i should change. i didnt think much about it until the last week that we were together, which is when i decided to change. which ended up being too late obviously. but as of now i have chosen to change the things that she did not like and better my self not just for me but for her, in hopes that we will get back together. her and the girl are talking now and the girl wants to get back with her, but since she is an alcoholic the girl wants my ex to go to rehab amd so does my ex. now the last 3 weeks we have kept in contact everyday and ive been trying to convince her that she should just come back to me. cause the ex is just going to be nothing but trouble for my ex, i can tell and i have tried to point that out to her. she says that only time will tell what will happen between us and that to just give it time and see if her and the girl will work out. i've expressed my deepest feelings for her and that i have and will change. i even told her that i would be up for a joint relationship between the 3 of us so that she has the best of both worlds. but she says the girl might not be up for that. knowing the girls past, i only see her causing trouble and heartbreak for my ex. she says that she has the same amount of love for me in 4 months of dating as she does with the girl of 4 years. i know with all my heart that she will take me back but i just have to prove that i have changed to who she wants me to be. what steps should i take to begin this? my heart is broken broken but its still hers

[@BradBrowning]

Hi there, I appreciate the time you took to write all this, and I would really love to help, but as what I've been telling anyone who posts super long comments, please try to keep your post short. I only have limited time to give free advice since obviously my coaching clients take first priority, and I'm trying to cover as many comments as possible. Feel free to sign up for my coaching program so I can prioritise your situation at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Thanks for your understanding!

[@tinamkrkmn]

I've been married for 13 years. We filed for divorce 2 months ago. He met someone else. They fight all the time. Everytime he Comes for visitation for our son he cries, he says he is so depressed and sad and misserable. But I'm continuing on with the divorce and he blames me for everything. His rebounds fights.. My fault.. Him being drug tested in court.. He HATES MY GUTS. (On text) in person. He cries non stop. He's lost 90 LBS from depression.. But then he'll tell me he is so inlove with his rebound but then my son says.. He dumps her 3 times a week and fights non stop. I can't get past how much he says he hates me but every visitation he cries like he misses being home.. I'm. so. Confused!!!!!! He's a narssasist, abusive verbally, and emotionally, and ALWAYS THE VICTIM

[@BradBrowning]

He has a problem that he needs to figure out within himself before he can have a healthy relationship. Encourage him to seek treatment, but getting back with him would be a mistake until he takes responsibility for his own actions, like any normal person would. Good luck!

[@Hazzleeyes807_]

what do you do when he leave you for another women after 13 years and quickly moves in with her and acts like he hate me when he is the one who cheated and left and moved in with her and we have a 10 year old daughter...i love this man with everything i am

[@BradBrowning]

Majority would decide to just move on for good and start afresh with someone else, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're in and what your views are. There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!

[@jamie38111]

5 months ago i broke up with my ex whom i am also pregnant by after being together for 2 years. Honestly i really didnt want him to leave but i wanted him to appreciate me more and understand my value. Well when i did that he went back to his first babymama whom got 4 big kids by him. Never in a million years did i see that coming cause they basically hated each other and she never let us get the kids when we was together. A month after our break up him and her got married, but he then came back to me 3 weeks after they got married and claimed he made a big mistake and that he loved me and wanted to make things right with me. That only lasted for 2 weeks until he left me for no reason the day his other baby mother got her tax money. Then on top of that when he's with me his mom be in his ear as if he's still a kid. He has been gone now for 2 months and i havent heard anything from him and im 8 mnths pregnant with my first child by him. My babyshower is Sunday and i dont think hes coming because the other woman wont allow him to. i miss him alot and honestly want him back so that we can be a family once our child is born. what should i do please help

[@BradBrowning]

Hello, Jamie. Sorry to hear about what happened. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the "other" woman also happens to be his wife? Unless they get divorced, they're legally bound to each other and that's just too much trouble than its worth, on your part. Consider moving on from this, but if he is willingly showing to support his child with you, then be open to it. Otherwise, take steps to move on with your life, okay? Watch this, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m2TPZn6NetV8ptk

[@glydeburdas730]

What can I do with my ex-girlfriend and now that she is dating her bestfriend and her bestfriend who is acting she seems to be the new guy for my ex girlfriend?

[@BradBrowning]

It's time to take a look at the bigger picture here. It doesn't really matter what your ex is doing. Chances are your ex is rebounding anyway but the point is you shouldn't be focused on that right now. That's all out of your control. Focus on yourself instead and show (NOT tell) your ex you accept her decision to break up. If you do, you'll accept that you're both single and therefore you'd stop overanalyzing every little stuff. All right? Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and you can see that the 30-day "no contact" rule is an absolute must. I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, etc. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy

[@alexa-rc9mq]

Hi. My gf and I broke up, and you know we decided to stay friends and then a week later, she gave me a day to think about if we should be friends or give it another shot. On the next day I texted her what I wanted, and she said it was too late. I was so confused. She told me there's this other girl, and, I know this girl, she was actually my friend too, and my ex let me read their messages and there were a lot of hearts, "I miss u" "I need u" "send me selfies" "lets go out" and yeah. The day I was ready with my decision was the day she asked the other girl out. I texted my ex's friends who's also my friend, and she said they're always together at school and hold hands most of the times. I think they've liked each other about 2 weeks before us breaking up. Is her new gf just a rebound? Did my ex ever love me if she did that? Please respond, thank you. Also, the same friend (my ex's friend) said that my ex has been asking about me for 2 days and how I am. Honestly, I don't want to get back with her, I don't feel like she's healthy for me and she has almost always treated me like shit. But she hurt me so bad, I felt so humiliated, embarrassed, and stupid. I want her to miss me and feel bad, like for her to rethink about how she treated me and how breaking up was a bad idea. Thank you.

[@BradBrowning]

Who dumped who here? It's quite confusing especially since you made it out like your ex is leaving it up to you whether to get back together or not. If you dumped her, read and follow the tips here first: bit.ly/1Gn8gMF

[@robertstopka8051]

Hey Brad, I was living in Arizona for 5 months and while I was gone she was seeing another man, we were engaged at the time, I came back home for a week and she told me that she did not want a relationship and we should only be friends but. While I was in Arizona I talked to her about quitting her job and moving there with me and she agreed we were engaged and we were supposed to get married this month, this was in April but she started seeing this other man in June. When I was here in July she told me she was leaving but she did not tell me with another man, She has been gone for 3 weeks now and went with him to Arizona, this is ironic.WE have been together for 2 years and now she has blocked me from Facebook, Messenger and on her phone, I bought another phone and I am able to send text messages to her but she does not reply, she has not blocked me yet.She says she is not in love and wants to be alone and plans on getting her own apartment. When I ask her if she is happy she does not tell me, all she says is that she likes it there. Sorry about the long story but I really need some advice, thanks

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear about the breakup, Robert. There are two issues plaguing the relationship. One is the distance and another is she's lost attraction for you. The good news is you can attempt to slowly rebuild that attraction again. Getting an ex back is a gradual process, so there's no one-action solution for everything. Okay? The "no contact" phase is a good start, so do that first if you haven’t yet, for 30 days. If you have. then I'm glad you've completed it. There are two more phases to go with a few other steps in between (in the right order). What I'm trying to say here is it's a 3-phase process, and it's a bit complicated to explain it all on here, but I made an overview in the hopes of making people understand, so watch it here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas or read my guide for the entire process. Good luck!

[@aerotman2003]

4 year relationship ended in may, started chatting again which lead to hanging out again over the summer, she used the only time she could to see me with her busy internship. We were all good up until Labor Day, she just blocked me out of nowhere, and was probably spooked by gossip. Anyways, she's finished grad School now, she never gave me a reason other than she didn't believe remaining friends then getting back together would lead to any change and she needed space during her schooling. Now that she's done, she's dating someone new like going hiking etc., I'm still blocked and I'm not getting any communication from her. Just completely ghosted, and she barely gave me a reason why she did that when things were look up. I thought that period, when were seeing each other, was my time to actually show change, She called all the shots when we were hanging out, I didn't want to pressure her into something romantic too soon as I wanted her to see that I was working on my end of things. Now I feel like I'm being punished and broken up all over again. Like she never let go and gave me a clean slate to work on when This time I was really meaning to change. I tried everything in my power to show her I wasn't going to repeat history as we had many short lived breakups in the past and I kept my needs to a minimum and let her come to me. She always came back, now it seems her foot is now cemented and this is the longest I have ever been blocked. Not sure if the 30 day rule still applies, we emailed but very seldom a reply.

[@BradBrowning]

Always follow the golden rules here no matter what: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5ytYqyYqqt8fqc Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stayed blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication. More about that on here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4a3amV_d5qondU Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : kzbin.info/www/bejne/emKqoYVrgqajh80 Good luck!

[@Nawaf23.19]

I remember how badly I wanted to talk to him the day he dumped, heard the voice of another woman! 2 months later, he wanted to talk, well I didn’t and still don’t! Forgive them! And forgive yourself, stay alone. Cry it out! And keep reminding yourself of the betrayal! And know that THEY’LL DO IT AGAIN!

[@BradBrowning]

Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. But with cheating involved, I can see why you stopped trying. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble indeed. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!

[@rakshitbhoj9987]

hey brad......my ex dumped me and i begged her/pleaded her for almost 1 or 2 hrs.Then I saw ur video and I am on complete no contact it's been a month almost I haven't seen her story and I haven't even texted her a hi...and I am trying to improve myself and I have even written a good accountability which I will give her by next month as soon as the quarantine ends I wont do anything for 1 or 2 weeks first I will show her that I have changed and I am better then 1 day I will hand her the letter telling all the problems which led to breakup and how I have changed......is this ok?should I give her a chocolate she once told me if u think I am upset then u need to give me a chocolate to make me happy... I will give her the chocolate addressing that I guess u were really upset that day so here's a compensation i guess.because of corona I wsnt able to take her on a date also as we had just started shall I keep this in letter that I wish I could have taken a girl like u on date....?

[@BradBrowning]

Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/q3_CiXSdfc-UfK8 but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!

[@varicha12]

What If You Hurt Your Ex And They’re Saying They Don’t Want You Back But Shows You Otherwise Sometimes

[@BradBrowning]

Picking an argument or saying hurtful stuff to your ex is really a bad move right now. Go by the golden rules here as much as possible: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5ytYqyYqqt8fqc I can't assess the damage per se, and it may or may not be too late, but it’s definitely time to move forward from whatever mistakes you've made and not repeat those! Don’t be so hard on yourself, though, since this is a fairly common issue and most people are guilty of this at some point. If you'd really want to gauge your chances of getting back together (it may not be all doom and gloom after all) I suggest you take the free quiz on my website and answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!

[@timothyedward6147]

hey again Brad, so my ex now is dating a new guy, but I think this guy is a rebound and I think shes trying to make me jealous. so she now hates me and dont want to be with me ever cause ive been bagging... at first she said well see in the future a view days later she said she got a new date and dont want me anymore, then later I realized that she dont even know the person shes "trying" to date and never even seen the person. so I did the no contact rule for about 1 week. suddenly I saw that shes now going out with the new guy.... whay does that mean?

[@BradBrowning]

Your ex is likely on a rebounding. Watch these first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qInZhmmGiM2KmMk and kzbin.info/www/bejne/inPXk2ZqnN5psNk

[@WhoWhereTheBee]

Hi there! In my case I'm utterly screwed, because my ex-girlfriend with whom I've been dating for more than 4 years left me for a girl... for the little info she gave me it was something that happened "suddenly" (don't know if the sudden thing was her falling in love with that girl or realising she was bisexual or lesbian). She's been stressed out lately because of her job and her classes that were about to start. We texted a bit and met once (she needed a couple of thing and I offered to get them for her) Everything was friendly but distant (I'm glad I didn't make a big fuzz out of it and didn't even brought up the break-up)... Although I got the program mostly for the self-improvement, I'll follow it and give it a shot. Anyway all these videos and the book are helping me understand a bit more about how people react to all this kinds of situations (well, except the one I got into) and it does help to cope with all the feelings that start building up inside. Thanks Brad, for sharing all this, and good luck for everyone!

[@BradBrowning]

It could be both. But yes, follow the guide down to a tee because it's your best bet. If she's really a lesbian, though, then you may have to move on for good. Good luck, man!

[@WhoWhereTheBee]

Thanks man, will do.

[@alio.7318]

the guy I was with left me.. after telling me he wanted a 'break' because I got to the point to where I wouldn't talk to him anymore because I was always worried about a 'friend' he always gave more attention then me. he wanted a break because he didn't know what he wanted. he knew she was going to come around more, because she was having 'problems' with her husband. claimed he didn't want to hurt me anymore. I told him I couldn't do a break. he kept saying he wanted me, made a mistake letting me go (he told his sister) because I was a good woman.. and said he just wanted to be alone. about a week later, he's with this 'friend' of his. been seeing her since. I'm guessing her and her husband are separated. meanwhile his divorce isn't final yet with his wife either. I've never been more confused about anything. when split up with my ex of 10 years it wasn't as confusing as with me and this other guy. idk what to think!

[@alio.7318]

to be completely honest. whether this 'friend' of his is a rebound or not. I definitely don't see him coming or wanting be back. this little 'friendship' of theirs has been this way for years. they almost were together a few years back but didn't go through with it because she didn't want to do that to her husband? my ex told me all these things about him and her. when I would see her around town with her husband they were acting all lovey dovey. all of a sudden her husband was causing all these problems and she wanted a divorce from him. she goes to my ex about all this. even asking him if we are still together(mind you she saw us together a few days before that). idk I'm beyond confused about this whole deal. could you help me make a little more sense of it. in all honesty I want it to be as if he never existed. I made the mistake of letting him become close to my it the ones.

[@alio.7318]

little ones*

[@BradBrowning]

Hi there! Sorry to hear it. So he's most likely cheating on you emotionally since he got together with this friend after the breakup, signifying your suspicions had been correct and there was something going on between them. You're both still likely confused and this is why you ought to give each other enough space and time to process things, okay? Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule. Anyway majority would decide to just move on for good and start afresh with someone else, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're in and what your views are. There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!

[@alio.7318]

+Brad Browning yes. you make perfect sense.. and thank you so much for your advice! I haven't said anything to him since the day after I saw them together.. which was not a good day. I had some drinks prior to seeing them and needless to say I acted out on the hurt mixed with that..not a good combination. It made me become someone I wasnt. since then I haven't had a drink nor have I said anything to him. I still see them riding around town and I try to avoid them. This whole break up has definitely changed me. it made me see a whole different perspective to so many things. I do believe I would just like to let it go and let it be. whatever happens.. happens. I don't want it to be on my mind every day anymore. It would be an amazing opportunity if I could talk to you more about it to completely understand it... but the advice you did give me, shed more light on to the situation and Thank you again for that! one day it'll all make sense!

[@alio.7318]

at the same time it feels like a slap in the face whenever he's riding through town with her. like he doesn't care one bit that people are asking 'oh I thought he was seeing so and so' (me). we live in such a small town even though we are both trying to avoid each other it's hard because it's almost unavoidable. and well...he's a law enforcement officer. I do believe I want to be over it. I guess I was just wanting to make sense of it all. never saw him to be the type of guy to do this. but we live and learn don't we? I just need to make better decisions. especially since I have two little ones who need me. I need to just take this time to myself now.

[@RobinTaylorMusic]

I was seeing this guy for a few months 2 years ago and after 3-4 months I had the feeling he didn’t want anything serious so I stopped seeing him (didn’t have a convo about it, just stopped seeing him). We hadn’t seen each other in a year but did speak here and there. He contacted me 2 months ago and everything started back up again. He wasn’t putting in a lot of effort so I turned cold on him. One week later, he’s with another girl who lives in Colombia who he met over summer when they were both on a gig in China. So it’s not exactly a rebound but another girl in the picture he had met during the year we weren’t talking. But she lives in another country, so I don’t see it getting more serious. If she was planning this trip to visit him for awhile, why would he rekindle with me a month before she arrives? Is he just a player, why did he reach out to me like that, just to drop me a month later when this girl is in town? I can sense a lot of love bombing between them with their insta posts and them doing extravagant things together. Ok nvm he’s a piece of shit I’m going to move on for good now.

[@BradBrowning]

Let his actions do the talking. He's contacting you again yet not making any effort still, which could mean he's the same guy you knew and broke up with. It may not be worth it to waste your time on him.

[@tulettt09]

Hi brad, I was with my wife for 11 years married for just over a year and now she said she hasn’t got feelings for me. She’s be diagnosed with depression and has started a relationship with a girl she had a close bond to the last couple of months. We still live together and have 2 young kids but she’s been seeing this girl for 5 weeks. She tells me she’s not in to girls but the connection feels right. I know it’s not who she is as I’ve known her for a long time and she hasn’t mentioned anything like this before

[@alreenmangaron4428]

hey brad ..thankyou so much youre advice is very usefull ..i'm using youre no contact rule ... i'm not contacting my gf in two weeks after our break up .. and now she was begging me to get back together .. thankyou brad 😊

[@BradBrowning]

Perhaps that girl has been there for her more than you are in more ways than one? What's your marriage like? Complacency can be a problem especially considering the length of time you've been with her now. Watch this first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fGGTpZdroLuVnZI Anyway the process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. I'd also recommend that you sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!

[@deedeelaru6806]

You have helped me so much, how are you so wise to this did you experience the same thing or just psychology?

[@BradBrowning]

Thanks Dion, happy to help! This particular situation I talked about in the video isn’t one I’ve dealt with personally, no... but I’ve seen many many of my coaching clients face something similar and I’ve been doing this breakup stuff for a long time, so it’s mainly from past experience helping clients through this type of situation many, many times.... :-) thanks for the support! Good luck

[@misternurse2u503]

I think she's playing games with me. I didn't commit and give us the title of "gf/bf" so now she's seeing a new guy. We've been broken up for a week and now she's saying that she met this new guy and they have a connection and she is going to give him a shot despite me finally coming clean about what I was going through personally. But today she was angry at me because I told her I went on a date last night. She told me that, " if you really did love me you wouldn't already be dating someone new. Make sure you don't play with her heart." But this isn't the case, I do love her. The weird thing I don't understand is, how can she say she has a connection with this guy after just two dates and she is going to give him a chance? I don't know if there's something she's not telling me. And I'm not sure if she still wants me.

[@BradBrowning]

Always be subtle when it comes to exes. Also try to really see if you're truly ready for a commitment. Why didn't you commit to her before, though? She could easily see that as you equally playing games with her, man. Watch this, first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2OahX-brrqgrck

[@900619045071]

my ex seems like she fell head over heels for this guy she just met...plus she cant stop talking bout him to her friends or any1 around her...also i heard that she totally changed her attitude like 360degrees..

[@BradBrowning]

Your ex is likely rebounding. Watch these first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oniVpJuPfpabb80 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/inPXk2ZqnN5psNk

[@AnxietyToolbox]

We've been together through major ups and downs for what's coming up on 9 years.. I've known her since I was 17 and she was 15.. We haven't been "technically" dating since early April but given some circumstances we kind of got back together without the actual "title"... Fast forward to Late June.. Things were starting to get very rough again and she told me she spent weeks on a dating website and found one guy in PA (we are in ny) that she likes and he wasn't like most men on the site and has been taking things slow with her talking.. I knew my efforts to talk were just hurting any type of relationship we had so I told her lets meet because I have to settle things with you.. In my head I thought that putting some distance between us while I got my shit right would make things ok. I told her I would sever all contact with her out of respect and try again when things were better.. I failed.. Twice already since 2 weeks to the day.. I broke and spoke with her last night and the same as

[@AnxietyToolbox]

It's been before that meet up on July 15 and after.. Nothing but fighting when it's not what I want.. Our 9 year anniversary would be coming up on August 3rd.. I went out and bought her a very expensive gift and told her we have to meet so I can give it to you.. Without saying too much it's a symbol to us as to what hell I will walk through for her and I to get her back.. She wants me to leave her alone... She told me again she LIKES this guy and wants to start fresh and even if it doesn't work out she wants to try.. Prior to that though she told me any chance I have at me and her working I'm burning up faster than I know... So with that said I know that there's still a chance.. Although I'm taking huge risks and going against my word... I'm struggling so damn much with this.. My days feel like months and my weeks feel like years.. I've buried the negative aspects of myself in this time and as I said.. I feel like I have lived an absolute eternity.. I'm hanging on by a thread man..

[@AnxietyToolbox]

So with all of this said.. I don't know if she's met this guy yet or anything of the sort.. But it doesn't seem like a run of the mill rebound.. I can't process how we had such a good time together just 2 WEEKS ago.. Even with her speaking with someone else.. Knowing her for so long I truly feel as if she's trying to push me even though she's saying and doing all of these things..... Or was she just trying to have one last moment with me? She can't take anything I say seriously because of the things I went back on.. She feels as if I'm trying to manipulate everything when I just want to give her what I bought and explain to her why it's so important... And LEAVE.. And try once again to leave her be until I can give her the ultimate thing that she wants.. Security.. I can't process how much she hates me after all of this time of loving each other..... I can't process it at all

[@BradBrowning]

Hi there, I appreciate the time you took to write all this, and I would really love to help, but as what I've been telling anyone who posts super long comments, please try to keep your post short. I only have limited time to give free advice since obviously my coaching clients take first priority, and I'm trying to cover as many comments as possible. Feel free to sign up for my coaching program so I can prioritise your situation at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Thanks for your understanding!

[@venessah5852]

so I broke up with my ex for cheating, the day I found out I moved to a separate location. now he begged for me back and I ignored him and replied the next day and he told me he was done. his actions are hot and cold, he acts jealous when he heard I had a new bf, but brags about his gf, I'm pregnant with our child and when I bring up anything regarding the baby he changes the subject to his achievements. so I haven't talked to him in five days, today he texted me bragging about his new car. so I ignored him, am I doing the right thing? and is it possible his gf is just a rebound? Because he doesn't hide here, she posts on his timeline about being in love with him, they just don't seem to be quite about their relationship.

[@BradBrowning]

Give him time to get his head straight because he seems to be going back and forth between you two. And you deserve someone who will choose you without hesitating. All right?But let's try to take on a more balanced approach to all this. Majority would decide to just move on for good and start afresh with someone else, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!

[@arielartista93]

I don't understand the "rebound". I broke up with my ex out of anger and told him to date this one girl. He did it, and I'm regretful because I didn't mean it and only said it out of anger. We have been dating 2 years; we broke up a few weeks ago and he's been dating this girl for 2 weeks now. I've talked to him about how I want to start things over, but he says that he can't trust me, and needs to rebuild trust as a friend, and he can't break up with this current girl because she hasn't done anything wrong. He said that he can't leave something that might be good (this girl) for something that has hurt him. Should I just move on or just be friends with the hopes of one day getting back together, even though he is currently dating this girl? He says that he loves this girl and wants to marry her (even though they've been dating less than a month).

[@BradBrowning]

Don't be friends with him though. Give it enough time for you both to at least clear your head. Why'd you broke up with him anyway? Examine those reason/s first and try to see if you broke up by mistake and these aren't dealbreakers. Anyway read this first to get some idea on how to go about it: bit.ly/1Gn8gMF

[@mohdnorsaizalylhdnm1758]

I've just started the no contact phase.. Today is the forth days.. She already have a new boyfriend.. Every second my heart wanting to message her so badly.. I watch all ur video again and again as a motivation to keep on going.. I really do hope it works.. Pls pray for me..

[@BradBrowning]

My other videos should help out a bit, too but if you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Please check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. :-) Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@RossGerard]

this rebound has been going on for three-four months. I came home and he was living here then he had to leave but she is still seeing him. My plan is to get back with her. Now I intend to go out have fun and date others to still have a social side and to network. We are going to marriage counseling. My plan there is to listen and let her do all the talking.

[@BradBrowning]

Sounds like a plan! I suggest to input what you feel too, though, to release at least some of the pent up emotions. If you still need my help with this, you'll know what to do. All the best!

[@eglaoh3452]

My ex boyfriend and I have been in "no contact period " for 2 months after a 6 year relationship. He called me on Sunday to wish me a happy Mother's Day and invited me to eat. I accepted. The first thing that came out of his mouth was the dating sites and the women he went out with. Why would he bother conacting me? why?

[@BradBrowning]

He could just be intentionally provoking you to gauge your reaction, so don't fall for it. Watch this to help you out: y2u.be/Pm_10BKVsfA