My Wife Is Not Virgin | I want to divorce her | Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem

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[@ArishKhan-rc3th]

Please brothers and sisters stay away from zina.😔

[@omerpanay1417]

Allah Razı olsun kardeş May Allah bless you

[@onetolastdone]

especially the brothers, I am saving myself for marriage and I hope my future husband isn't some playboy or stuff

[@Midnightservant1]

@@onetolastdone women are more scary nowadays, not men

[@Ark-x7h]

​​​​​@@onetolastdone🤡look who's saying this, fellas...A play girl is saying "especially the brothers" 🥴 In 90% of cases ya'll are responsible for this!!

[@Ark-x7h]

​​@@onetolastdone"I hope my future husband isn't some playboy" 🤡☝️ Take this L and move on...U wanna know why???

[@Kdvskyy]

May Allah protect us from this type of situation.

[@soundheart4013]

Ameen.

[@legendraxs2638]

Aameen Ya Rabb

[@rishiadittya6626]

Allahumma Ameen

[@mohamedebrahim2982]

😢amern

[@khatir...]

Ameen ♥️

[@perdana5786]

If you feel cheated and it causes you emotional distress then it's best to divorce and move on because that's the best for everyone. Marriage is for peace. If after learning the fact of who she is, you lose your ability feel peace, then there's no point in the marriage anymore.

[@ibrahim_-_-_]

finally someone smart. allah says in the quran that he created for us mates not for the sake of love but rather peace, if that peace has been breached….whats the goddamn point anymore? “And one of His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them. And He has placed between you compassion and mercy. Surely in this are signs for people who reflect.” (30:21)

[@FFBDFAHIM7529]

This brings fulfilment to the answer l

[@ayisham7574]

If a person isn't allowed to ask someone else about the sins in their past, how does it make sense to divorce over it? Her past is none of his business, and he's surely committed his own sins; who is he to hold her past against her? She doesn’t even have to ask for his forgiveness if these events happened before they were married. I understand being upset about it, but since it’s none of his business, he needs to get over it and move on. Otherwise, should he divorce every woman he marries who has sinned before or done something he doesn’t like?

[@ayisham7574]

​@@ibrahim_-_-_ Do you think Islam calls us to resort to divorce every time a marriage isn’t peaceful? That’s not true. We should strive to live with our spouses in peace, but both life and marriage are tests and are not always easy. Divorcing a spouse who is good to you over sins committed prior to the marriage-sins which have nothing to do with you-is unwise, and this applies to both men and women. Only Allah knows if such actions are permissible. Allah says in the Quran, "If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good" [al-Nisa’ 4:19]. This means that even if a man dislikes something about his wife, he might find other qualities in her that make staying worthwhile. We are all human and we all sin. If she is a changed woman and a good wife, there is no reason a man cannot find peace with her if he genuinely desires to do so for the sake of Allah.

[@ayisham7574]

​@@ibrahim_-_-_ Do you think Islam calls us to resort to divorce if a marriage isn’t peaceful all the time? That’s not true. We should strive to live with our spouses in peace, but both life and marriage are tests and are not always easy. Divorcing a spouse who is good to you over sins committed prior to the marriage-sins which have nothing to do with you-is unwise, and this applies to both men and women. Only Allah knows if such actions are permissible. Allah says in the Quran, "If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good" [al-Nisa’ 4:19]. This means that even if a man dislikes something about his wife, he might find other qualities in her that make staying worthwhile. We are all human and we all sin. If she is a changed woman and a good wife, there is no reason a man cannot find peace with her if he genuinely desires to do so for the sake of Allah. And if you are a Muslim, use better language for the sake of Allah.

[@rahattapadar101]

What a nice answer, this is what ISLAM is all about. Alhamdulillah for being a Muslim

[@himelkausther3099]

He is ignorant. If the sister is not virgin, she can simply reject his proposal.

[@atiachowdhury3734]

I am divorcing her ass on the spot

[@aloneinthe75]

Wrong answer he totally stupid iam human iam not allah can forgive shirk but not human this is called cheating how anyone justify crime bullshit

[@xyz123-pi2fy]

الله أكبر

[@Brother_Adam]

​@@aloneinthe75 He never said the woman cheated. Have you understood the video completely before responding?

[@acahn8505]

My advice to all our brothers and sisters that aren't married. Please stay far away from zina despite your desires. It can have a detrimental impact on your future. If you can, get married young. You don't have to be financially settled to get married, I wasn't. You have time to grow your wealth later with your spouse

[@Ayden-ei2rb]

yeh brother but how are we going to get married young if no father is going to hand their daughters to us as, we are not financially stable. idk akhi im struggling with this

[@iliasabkari8729]

Unfortunately there is almost no way to get married without being financially stable in today time

[@syedasharimam]

Lol no one gives their daughter to low earning men's. Everyone wants good salary men. Generation made zina easy and married difficult

[@Yolothings]

Salamaliekum I got married with no money Alhamdulilah I put my trust in Allah and everything worked out also depends on who you want to marry if they have imaan and patience find one that doesn’t follow the world my brothers and sisters

[@hamoodtatari]

@@Ayden-ei2rbme too 😢💔…. What do we do we want to stay away from the haram and want to make a halal

[@proofofmyexistence2352]

This is scary. No man would tolerate this especially if he himself was pure and put it as a requirement before marriage. Anyways may Allah protect everyone and grant all of us good & pure spouses.

[@filywreck]

@@thehourglassfan3515 go marry her then

[@Sg190th]

@@thehourglassfan3515 you know what else is wicked? saying it's in different shapes knowing what the main topic is.

[@filywreck]

@@thehourglassfan3515 the facts always hurt akhi

[@thehourglassfan3515]

@@filywreck So you’re encouraging people to go commit adultery zina since she is already married? I seek refuge in Allah.

[@thehourglassfan3515]

@@filywreck Btw, I wouldn’t marry a woman who was previously married either. I would only marry a pure woman.

[@ari-jv]

I’m a woman and I wouldn’t like if my son was a virgin and married a non virgin.

[@Universe30243]

Exactly

[@halimazahri6203]

If your son weren't a virgin, wouldn't you like him to be forgiven if he repents ? Would you rather have hil being rejected by all potential spouses he may propose to ?

[@Universe30243]

@@halimazahri6203 impure things are supporting impure things. Let me clear if you are impure then go and marry one of your dirty kind. But if you're pure then you can have the pure one. That's it. Shits and flowers can't be together. If you have repent doesn't mean you can have the pure one. Go and marry the people who repented. Why you want the pure one? Do you think of us as a fool? Who remained pure their whole life and then got what? the shit? 🤣

[@Universe30243]

@@halimazahri6203 impure things are supporting impure things. Let me clear if you are impure then go and marry one of your dirty kinds. But if you're pure then you can have the pure one. That's it. Shits and flowers can't be together. If you have repent doesn't mean you can have the pure one. Go and marry the people who repented. Why you want the pure one? Do you think of us as a fool? Who remained pure their whole life for what? For used shit? 🤣

[@Universe30243]

@@halimazahri6203 impure things are supporting impure things. Let me clear if you are impure then go and marry one of your dirty kinds. But if you're pure then you can have the pure one. That's it. Shits and flowers can't be together. If you have repent doesn't mean you can have the pure one. Go and marry the people who repented. Why you want the pure one? Do you think of us as a f••| ? Who rem@ined pure their whole life for what? For used things? 🤣

[@NKHYS-c5l]

For all brothers or sisters please stay away from zina, don't give in to the peer pressure of your friends or society or social media, change your friends to those who would stop you from walking on the haram path, if still you think you will commit some haram then fast on alternate days, the entire world around us today is just vulgur and degenerate, it's very very easy to sin today, no matter your income just get married at the earliest don't fall into the shaytans trap of becoming stable in career, good bank balance, have own house, car etc. All the best!

[@IceCream-ki5kp]

Ok so now in this day and age, No father would give their daughter's hand in marriage to an unemployed man. Now the least requirement for a guy to get married is to have a high-end job, a car and a house. So for the majority of the men in our society it's impossible to get married early. And also to get all of these requirements the man already gets to the age of 35-40.

[@takemetomarz]

FR this society is corrupted to the core

[@infj5196]

​@@IceCream-ki5kp bro, you dont need to have high end job to get married. You just need a proper stable job to get married. The world is vast and there are plenty of virgin religious Muslim girls in the world. If you cant find virgin religious wife in western world, find a wife overseas.

[@mayg7415]

There is a correction I want to point out. Not every unmarried woman is a virgin in Islam, that's not the meaning. Every unmarried woman is assumed to be a virgin, unless there is evidence to suggest otherwise. In this case there was an actual confession, so there is no disparity. And in the Quran Allah tells us to marry so we may find peace, but what peace is one expected to find when you were deceived before the nikah and one of your 2 conditions were not fulfilled. It's really up to the man, but if this was my close relative or a friend I really care about who asked me for advise, I would tell him to divorce

[@Themobiletechnician1]

❤ thank u

[@joyceidornigie4631]

😂 Ridiculous

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@joyceidornigie4631 ridiculous to feminists and zina supporters

[@TheEko42]

Virgin means chaste, so stop finding excuses for adultery and changing the meaning of the Quran !

[@PerformanceBc]

​@@joyceidornigie4631what's ridiculous

[@alihaider-jz1vt]

Multiple men? I cannot accept that. I can never look at her the same way after knowing that

[@AshAbdur]

Well clearly you are stupid because you are not supposed to judge someone for their past. Like our prophet had married Khadija who had been married twice

[@Afridarbaz]

​@@AshAbduridiot she was not a fornicator or adulterer don't compare widows with fornicator,or adulterer Widows are pure I will marry a widow who is chast no problem

[@AshAbdur]

@ You didn’t even read my whole comment so don’t comment here

[@AshAbdur]

@ the guy in the comment section doesn’t care about the women’s past status he cares if she’s a virgin or not. Do you understand or not ??

[@alihaider-jz1vt]

@@Afridarbaz if you look at the video she is not a widow she has had haram sex

[@xgamershub]

Multiple men? Damn if it was one okay a mistake but now it's not even a mistake it's a choice made by a grown woman

[@Universe30243]

Exactly 😂

[@mdpappu7834]

Yes you're right brother

[@mattarjaiskel4625]

If you sex before marriage. It has never been one time. Don't get fooled by anyone saying it was just one day.

[@BlackReaper11]

​@mattarjaiskel4625 definitely... Unless it's man/woman of great control ... it's never one time thing ... cause sex is something that gives indescribable pleasure and if done once, you'll feel urge stronger than any withdrawal symptoms to do it again and again ....

[@illmeeillmee9373]

hush, you males are out here bragging about sleeping around. Lets not

[@thatmichiganguy]

If he wanted her VIRGIN and she wasn't, then that's a major lie Sheik started explaining the definition of 'virgin' That's irrelevant. The man wanted a woman who was not touched by another man. Period

[@Cat-it9kk]

A Muslim man who likes to watch orn also want a virgin.

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@Cat-it9kk watching corn 🌽🌽 is not adultery.

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@Cat-it9kk indeed , orn is a sin . But its not like zina.

[@Cat-it9kk]

@@Kalluto_zoldyck_77 Don’t defend bro. It’s minor zina and haram. It's like a drug that pollutes their minds and can create a bad character in them. And most orn addicts are not good brothers who can protect their sisters. In fact, some of them invite the innocent those things.

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@Cat-it9kk iam not defending .iam just saying the fact. Asthafirullah. Yea it's like drug. But its not like the zina , Well if the man quits the behaviour its okay for them to marry

[@wr1099-c9p]

I think Sheikh missed point, and is completely dismissing how this man feels

[@faizullakhan1556]

Is his feeling important or what is right by Allah?

[@sabbirnoor4820]

​@@faizullakhan1556 did Allah said to cheat in marriage contract?

[@hadjokhan6576]

Ooo so men also are emotional?

[@wr1099-c9p]

It’s logic mate, if you get married to a girl and you’re telling me that you don’t need to know about the 50 other men she slept with? Sfe

[@faizullakhan1556]

​@@sabbirnoor4820 Its for Allah to decide on judgement day. You marry the person in front of you - you decide if you want to marry her and pay her a mehr, for her part she needs to commit to you exclusively from the time you paid the mehr which gives you exclusive rights to her privacy and intimacy. A marriage is a sunnah which carries great reward. The Prophet (SAW) Marriage is part of my sunnah, and whoever does not follow my sunnah has nothing to do with me. Get married, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him get married, and whoever does not, then he should fast for it will diminish his desire. What about a girl who was assaulted as a child? Do you still consider her a virgin or unfit to marry? During wars many women were raped and are still raped, what is your understanding of their chastity? Unfit? Should they kill themselves? If she tells you she is not a virgin should she also suffer the humiliation of explaining what happened to her? How about a boy who masturbates who is clearly not muslim anymore, does he say what he does? What the sheikh is saying what Allah concealed no one has the right to that information. So don't ask.

[@lawalmuritala7833]

She took undue advantage of him 😢 That's already a ground for divorce 😭😭

[@AshAbdur]

How did she take full advantage of him. You learn about Islam first. You are not supposed to talk about your past in Islam and if she repented j don’t see the problem same goes with the guy you need to wake up

[@acedup00]

@@AshAbdurcause she lied first, and then told him. You 🤡

[@Madara-Uchiha]

​​@@AshAbdurI don't see how her repenting makes her a virgin again. His problem is not that she had alot of sins, which she didn't tell him about. His problem is that she was not a virgin even though she said she is a virgin. Moreover, how does repenting to allah give you the right to LIE and say that you are a virgin? ON TOP OF THAT HOW DO YOU EVEN KNOW THAT ALLAH HAS EVEN FORGIVEN YOU? If you deceive or lie to your potential spouse about important things like that, you are twisting the rules of islam to your benefit. Your sins are between you and Allah. But virginity is between the men and women.

[@AshAbdur]

@ nobody knows Allah has forgiven you but if you go by the Quran he has. And In Islam you aren’t even supposed to bring up your past…

[@Madara-Uchiha]

@@AshAbdur But that doesn't mean you are now allowed to lie about these things, are you?

[@WolfyGamerPro]

Surah An-Nur 26: "Wicked women are for wicked men, and wicked men are for wicked women. And virtuous women are for virtuous men, and virtuous men are for virtuous women. The virtuous are innocent of what the wicked say. They will have forgiveness and an honourable provision." He tells that clean past was one of his requirements for marriage. So, by lying did she violated his haqq. Now he's to blame because his wife is a liar? How could you trust such a wife? That so called sheikh is partly wrong.

[@soundheart4013]

And he gives a literal translation of ‘virginity in Islam’ , a woman who has not married before implies that she has not been touched. I really like this sheikh but he is wrong here, and we all make mistakes. May Allah unite us.

[@expose8434]

Islam allows premarital sx with captive women, what can U expect

[@najaatuiliyasu7543]

So what if she was raped??😢

[@JoeLoyd]

exactly 😂

[@MUSLIM.BOSS69]

@@najaatuiliyasu7543 tis is exception an exception cant be example if se is rvpe by men its not er fault

[@Entertainment23273]

Rise your Hand if You think this man should divorce her present wife

[@artby3d]

It's his choice but if Allah forgave her who are we to not forgive?

[@Jewel_Rana802]

​@@artby3dAllah may forgive her. But I can't spend my life with someone who slept with another guy before me. LOUD AND CLEAR

[@anomalysurfer]

​@@Jewel_Rana802what's make me sad is.. he said she's doing it with multiple guys 😢

[@Badbunnyyy]

​@@Jewel_Rana802but you have had affairs and kissed a girl probably and slept with them? Should your wife leave u

[@Jewel_Rana802]

@@Badbunnyyy I've never had a relation.

[@TruthSeeker-vy7sm]

No man can tolerate this after finding out

[@subhanrashid132]

most men can if you have any self control lol

[@faheemahmed5786]

​@@subhanrashid132 "self control" So, a man should control himself even if he finds out that his wife is a sl*t, right? 🤔

[@SandiegoRockstar]

@subhanrashid132 sounds like you don't know what self control means.

[@Windrain321]

Most men can especially if they are not south Asian whose culture tend to be the cruelest towards women

[@Goldboy_goy]

No you are wrong. The past is the past. If you committed a major sin in the past, would you want us to stone 🪨 you for it or would you like to repent and like a second chance to reform yourself and be forgiven? When it comes to others you don't want to give them a chance but when it comes to you it's a different issue. May Allah deal with people like you.

[@justinwhitebeaver-k4c]

It was a requirement of the marriage for her to be a virgin.

[@haziq0007]

in that case would the nikah be invalidated and should the guy say talaq?

[@Towards_Eternity]

Idk he's choice he's life​@@haziq0007

[@Eren-Ereinna]

@@haziq0007obviously. the man is clean and he also deserves a clean women. more of a fact that she lied

[@thatwasmethere3526]

no self respecting wom should tolerate a non pure mn and a mn who wants a sec Please sisters leave those mn who blong to stret!

[@maybae_dragonfly]

She was a virgin because in Islam being virgin means being unmarried.

[@perdana5786]

The overall lesson men should learn from this is to not simply marry any woman without knowing them well beforehand as well as making strict conditions regarding purity of the women in the marriage contract. Prevention is always better than cure.

[@mdpappu7834]

I appreciate your thinking brother, prevention is better than cure...........

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@perdana5786 exactly bro.... Examples like these will help to prevent future problems. BTW , iam not that interested in getting married. After seeing this it motivated me more not to marry . But staying single is not easy,it will be hard life

[@perdana5786]

@@Kalluto_zoldyck_77 Find a chaste wife that truly embodies Islamic teachings and you will have a great life. Do not let feminist women trick you.

[@Ginpachi-sensei-4u]

How can you expect a s*utty girl be honest enough to confess about her sins before marriage!! Most s*utty girl would think, "I had all the fun I needed, now I will tawbah to Allah & find a nice guy to live peacefully from now on" 😂

[@Msr-nd9wn]

What about a man's purity who's gonna give surety about that ?

[@bigrunts9768]

It’s haram to say you’re a virgin when you’re not.

[@watiflappynounou3302]

It’s Haram to disclose your sin after you have repented.

[@bigrunts9768]

@@watiflappynounou3302 what if your husband/wife took your virginity when they aren't themselves and deceived your whole life. If she has slept with other men then she is more likely to cheat on you and have a baby which is not yours.

[@frontendtsx]

make sense

[@kudochi2]

No it is not…

[@Johnny-jg2xp]

@@watiflappynounou3302 no its not. if u ask for a requirment and u lie then u say the truth u fooled and lied and betrayed another person.

[@hammadb666]

I don't think Sheikh truly understood, the guy was a virgin and wanted a virgin and rightfully so, men have higher sex drive than women yet my guy stayed virgin despite his sexual desires, you have no idea how hard it must've been for him, and all he asked in return was a wife who's a virgin. So why are you telling him to accept it, it's not even about forgiveness it's about the fact that she lied to him and she was not the kind of person he wanted, so why are you telling him to suck it up???? He has the full right to divorce her, so stop saying "if Allah forgives her sins why can't you?" Because my guy ain't known as "the all forgiving", plus it ain't about forgiveness it's about the kind of person he wanted to share his life with. So disappointed on Sheikh's advice

[@haithemali4769]

yea exactly, this shit "Sheikh" should stop doing this "JOB".

[@TashinAhmed-ex5oc]

Exactly

[@CFlammy]

But the sheikh also said at the end that it was up to husband though?

[@joyceidornigie4631]

The sheikh said it's his call not yours. That's that.

[@ajm1162]

Agreed. I would not even seek advice. Would be so disgusted and divorce immediately.

[@Fearlesskash]

i would immediately divorce if this happens to me. Not my cup of tea to tolerate this

[@Universe30243]

Same

[@HajiTech-or3pf]

Same

[@AsifKhan-jb1dz]

same

[@kenzoplayz1345]

Same

[@muhammadosama2388]

@@Fearlesskash Ditto

[@shafiansheshir2289]

this would incourage hijabi feminist, remember you can do all the good thing seikh said but you can also divorce her it wouldnt be a sin...

[@bobbypanda6685]

A person involved in Zina should get married to another one involved in Zina only. No problem with that. However, a person involved in Zina should not marry a man/woman who is clean without informing that person before marriage. Then it depends on his/her decision. Otherwise that marriage is not approved by Allah. Feminism is a pagan concept. For the women's health benefits, hijabi feminist women should convert to pagan religions and marry a pagan man. Otherwise she picks up fight with Allah. Islam and true Judaism is for only the uplifted women with a cool composed head. Real men only worship one God Almighty who is his creator and created male in his own image! Only weak girly men are idol worshipers!

[@Universe30243]

Exactly

[@Shlagayaga]

he is probably not even a virgin😅

[@Universe30243]

@@Shlagayaga He is saying he is a Vrgn. That's why he wants the same. But got the used one. Check again.

[@XxGamersxx1990]

​@@Universe30243used one? You are talking about a human being not an item of clothing. A human being whose soul was crafted by the benevolent which however did some questionable things. If you think of woman as some items of clothing then do not get married and if you do get married I pray to god then your daughter shall be called an object.

[@thethiny]

I don't understand why Sheikh asked him how he found out. It doesn't matter, it was the the marriage contract between them and it's void.

[@muhammadosama2388]

He has a right to divorce her bcz she accepted she lied and had multiple men before. If she repented Allah will forgive her but he is not obligated to keep her now he is armed with this information. I would divorce her asap.

[@hakanleventkaplan7952]

You are definetely right kardeş

[@shadowstorm5261]

well she failed in repentance because she told someone so it is blocked

[@gloryandpraisefromkoran6467]

Where did she lie

[@niiko3337]

​​@@gloryandpraisefromkoran6467perhaps you might ask where the part did she lie?

[@aelisharshadkhan8113]

She didn't lie but I also would be broken if this happened and wouldn't tolerate such a woman, although as per haq brother she didn't lie and repented and as for the man he never asked her as well.

[@kurohyou00]

Sheikh's opinions can't always be right. He's wrong here. The basic outcome of marriange should always be mental and physical peace as mentioned in Quran by our Lord. If her being NOT CLEAN is upsetting him, he's not in wrong to divorce her and move on for his own mental health is at stake. Even if she repented. Cuz its not about her, its about them.

[@HerPrimeYears]

tell your logic to Allah and lets see what Allahs says on the day of judgement

[@SamirSiraj8542]

​@@HerPrimeYearsshe lied. You will be responsible for defending her sin before Allah.

[@perdana5786]

​​@@HerPrimeYearsHis logic is sound and inline with the fitrah of a man. The man cannot be made responsible for the sins the woman used to commit. If the man doesn't feel peace with such a woman, it's not his problem to force himself to stay. He's free to leave and find a clean person.

[@tutigseg]

The Sheikh didn't say it's sinful to divorce her he said it's your call to do what you want if you feel betrayed and cheated But the best thing to do in the eyes of Allah is to forgive her and move on because forgiving people is part of our faith and Allah will reward those who forgive and Allah hates divorce But still if he prefers to get divorced he's free to do that and he will not be judged for it because he has a proper excuse for the divorce

[@SamirSiraj8542]

@@tutigseg girl lied so assim didn't even get the question. He said irrelevant to the topic stuff.

[@fawazcodes]

what this sheikh and so many others do not realise is how detrimental this is for the future of marriage. People who previously engaged with other men, especially multiple men/non practicing /non-muslim men are then psychologically used to the novelty of multiple partners, accustomed to doing un-islamic sexual acts , acting out their vile desires, these people eventually get bored of their spouse or start comparing them to previous partners and probably end up committing parental fraud. Sure, Allah is ever merciful and can forgive, but there's no stipulation on men to forgive, but only to conceal. just imagine for a second, if this was a man, who had told the wife he is very wealthy or financially stable, but then after marriage it turns out he wasn't, the wife would be running to the courts to get a divorce or to the islamic juror for a khul. double effing standards, why do we men have to get the short end of the stick everytime?? just because we want a wife, want to have intimate relations and want to have kids?? No thank you, ask one of the men you slept with you to marry you, let's see what they have to say.

[@Slave_of_the_Most_Merciful]

This is what people fail to realise is that Allah forgives and overlooks but not human beings.

[@hammadb666]

​the guy is a human, not Allah

[@JannatRiyatahasin]

This argument is hilarious. Muslim guys get the shorter end of the stick in marriage? Seriously? A Muslim wife literally has to tolerate a second, third, or fourth wife if her husband decides to take them, she literally has to depend on her husband's permission to work or even education, and she has to go wherever her husband goes to live, even if her husband lies to her before marriage about being wealthy (which is boasting and definitely not the same as concealing your sins when you are asked about it) and later finds that he is not so rich, she will have to go to a court for khula and may even have to give up the mahr, whereas the husband can divorce his wife whenever he wants without asking anyone's permission. The list goes on and you guys still get the shorter end! Sure!

[@Slave_of_the_Most_Merciful]

@JannatRiyatahasin All the things you mentioned are rights given by Allah. And the main point is why should anyone especially those who fear Allah and guard their private parts take a Zani as their spouse?

[@MetaReplication]

Replying because this is a good comment that people need to see, so I want to bump it

[@twatik]

May Allah keep the brother firm on the deen, wallahi i pray this never happends to any Muslim

[@AshAbdur]

Learn from the prophet

[@Afridarbaz]

​@@AshAbdurnone of any prophet wives were fornicator or adulterer prophet Mohammad saw married widows there is no problem marrying a widow!!!

[@jaykay-r3v]

@@AshAbdur The Prophet never married a cheater himself

[@yamazaki4836]

So its ok to commit adultery before marriage and lie, deceive to future spouse? Repentance doesn't give you free pass to deceive someone especially your future spouse. Muslim men have choice to marry Christian or jew women but Muslim men will opt for Muslim women because they are thought to be more modest. i am afraid that your advice will give more freedom to those who commit adultery. instead of condemning the act you are giving leverage. Guys do not compromise in such situations, we must protect our women from such fitna. may ALLAH subhanahu wa ta'la guide us to the straight path.

[@Thatsfine1998_]

What does modesty have to do with this?

[@Noname-u5h9e]

​@@Thatsfine1998_it does brother

[@Thatsfine1998_]

@@Noname-u5h9e so a non virgin can never be modest again?

[@Slave_of_the_Most_Merciful]

​@Thatsfine1998_ Of course they can be but if a spouse is seeking a virgin exclusively then it's wrong to deeive and lie to the spouse.

[@Thatsfine1998_]

@@Slave_of_the_Most_Merciful as harsh as it sounds, you‘re actually supposed to lie and can’t tell anyone that you‘ve committed a sin. I know most won‘t like this but it’s the truth. But as a decent person, you can of course reject the proposal knowing you can’t fulfill their requirements but you shouldn’t tell them the reason in this case.

[@unsaali4201]

As a Muslim girl myself, even mere thought of any non mehram ever touching me even with just one finger makes me extremely disgusted and horrified, how do people fall that low that they don't even have fear of God😢 if any man from my family ever get married to non virgin when he himself is virgin, I won't find it wrong if he divorces her, what would be point of marriage if u don't feel affection for your partner your whole life, and it horrifies me too what if my future partner is non virgin too😢 all I can do is pray to get a pious partner

[@StreetDrilla]

As a man; a strong obligation of a decent father and human being is entrusting the motherhood of your children with someone who isnt of a completely radically different morality and values because your children will be just like her. Theres men who never unnecessarily speak to and show respect to every women in life and theres women who commit Zina and choose Dunya. How can one expect a MARRIAGE of the two?

[@unsaali4201]

@@StreetDrilla exactly, that's like a betrayal from your partner when you keep yourself away from such sins and save yourself for your life partner, and it turns out that he/she has committed such sin

[@shanaazabrahams1319]

Shame

[@Pakchats123]

Sister "bad men are for Bad women And Good men are for Good women" whether your a man or a woman Please if you want to have pious wife or husband in future Do your best to stay away from Zina because haram will not make you happy it is temporary and once you lost your virginity you cant get it back the beauty of Halal is something that is for your own Good So Do your best and fight against the Devil for the sake of your Good future

[@mrarman9874]

finallyyy found a good muslim girl online mashaallah sister may allah bless you

[@Nomad_Adventurer]

Till the time his wife didn't tell him, it was fine as it was between her and Allah. After she told the truth it becomes difficult to stay with such person. Trust will always be a question. Moreover you will not find yourself comfortable with such person as your requirement is breached. I am sure brother tried to get the words from her mouth by speaking such word as "pure" so that emotionally she will speak the truth. This guy would have already noticed whether she is virgin or not. What i agree is that sheikh said if she is now God fearing, following her deen religiously and trying to be best for him then that's fine, no need to divorce her.

[@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot]

Can’t be sure about that though

[@samathullasaud5731]

Then why did god say in quran pure women are for pure men?

[@SandiegoRockstar]

@Nomad_Adventurer no need to divorce her. But best to get another wife as well so you don't end up resenting your 1st wife for damaging your self worth.

[@Uçankusch]

There is a need to divorce her you cant build a marriage upon lies and catfishing to opress your past actions have consequences i would never accept a non virgin sister as a spouse i expect the same from the opposite gender……

[@Jtx620]

If my requirement was a virgin husband and he didnt meet the requirement and still married me that is a deception.I would feel emotionally hurt too as a woman.He doesnt need to tell me if he was a virgin or not he could just say I cant marry you since I dont meet all the requirements.Same goes for men.

[@lakschu629]

If she obenly told him her sins without anyone pressuring her than it's obvious that she did NOT regret or repent for what she did and he is haram for her! Cmon Sheikh you can do better

[@coolsvilleowner]

he should divorce her. It will cause issues down the line as he will always think about it from now on. Hes only a few weeks in, thats nothing.

[@Animatorfanfiction11]

I just saying this but if you know nothing just silent.

[@amy87174]

And what if she is loyal now and repents, and makes a beautiful life with him??

[@ImranHossainRatulAkon]

​@@amy87174 Marriage is for peace. If every time he looks at her he is reminded of her past and it causes him distress and his peace is lost then I feel like there's no point in staying with her anymore.

[@ahmedburhan-mk2lk]

@@amy87174not everyone forgets and forgives

[@Haiderdesh]

​@@amy87174In this era of Vulgarity, Affairs and Jahiliya, A Man stays pure till marriage, Control his desires and just want a pure Spouse just like he is. What is the point here to stay in life with women like that.

[@umnoor6753]

just change the scenario. What if man was instead of her? i dont think she has left the guy

[@thatwasmethere3526]

no self respecting wom should tolerate a non pure mn and a mn who wants a sec Please sisters leave those mn who blong to stret!

[@madarauchihaandromeda]

Because today's women like it when men have gained experience in the past. Virgo men are perceived as looser

[@ahmedalrafi500]

I don't agree with Sheikh this time , Allah may forgive her but the husband is not obliged to forgive her . The man was betrayed, may Allah give him strength to recover 😭🤲

[@Ginpachi-sensei-4u]

Gintoki like us would just kick that s*ut out of the house & divorce her right away, what do u say?

[@aarona4131]

recovery from what bro? You people are crazy 😂

[@Smnix]

true bro the sheikh here is totally wrong

[@Smnix]

@@aarona4131 you are the crazy person here. are you a virgin ? are you married to a virgin ?

[@littlemissdreamy]

Are you saying that you feel insecure.

[@Enginuiti]

Women are expected to tolerate a man who has been a playboy and hides his past but woe be tide if a poor woman's past is discovered. As a man myself, the stupid men commenting on here are an embarassment to the Ummah.

[@NecesarInternet]

Ya sex is intimate just for women because in sex men wash his thing in woman body and relased his liquids in her . If you don t like you are more than wellcome to get out of comuniti. We east peoples always have a society of virgin loyal wife even beffoere islam .

[@4444jak]

Astagfirullah if this is case then we are happy to be single and never get married.

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

💯💯. But we can still look for good girl if we want... There are good ones but very rare

[@maxamv3879]

​@@Kalluto_zoldyck_77 basically, get a lottery ticket.

[@StarofSolomon]

EXACTLY! No man with ghira, in his right mind would marry an impure woman!!!

[@strokedout9807]

Bro if your wife had a promiscuous past, it’s going to mess up your future. Idk why this man is saying to just accept it. You can’t find peace knowing your wife has been dug out by multiple men before you. Leave her and find another. She should’ve been straight up with you before your marriage.

[@Mo_T27_SMT]

I kinda agree with you tbh. The sheikh explained it from a neutral stance. The problem is that in the case of the person who asked the question, he felt betrayed. My solution would be simple either divorce her or don’t divorce her and marry another woman

[@Nabee_H]

A major point people are looking over is these women often carry a LOT of emotional baggage. This can be a ticking time bomb for when the couple have kids, its best to be truthful about how you feel before anything is set in stone.

[@strokedout9807]

@@Nabee_H not only that, she will compare the husband with past partners when theirs difficulty, she won’t be able to pairbond with him, her body carried the dna of the men she’s been with previously etc. etc.. It’s a big hell no across the board. Marrying a woman with a promiscuous past will mess up your future.

[@Lasagna-z8w]

​@@strokedout9807 maybe she did taubah who are you people nothing your not Allah remember that.

[@grandmillenial7960]

Correction shaikh didn't tell him to accept her he directly told him it is his call at the end of the day so the guy has choice wheather to accepr her or divorce her

[@khanfazil5773]

My uncle was married to girl that was in pre marrital affair but my was uncle was willing to accept her if she remained faithful but she said she was in love with her ex and didn't engage in any intimacy with my uncle. Few days later she and her father plotted against my uncle and threatened to file dowry case and harrasment. Dowry is strictly illegal in India. And now they asking hefty amount as divorce settlement, now she denied everything about her affair and is blaming us for mental harrassment. Now my uncle is stuck....

[@lakschu629]

@@khanfazil5773 your uncle shouldn't have married a sinner bro 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@shafiq3328]

Sheikh, you ignored his emotions. You will truly understand what it feels like when someone stays pure their whole life but ends up marrying a person with an unclean past and present.

[@sisitmae]

The man is lied to. He has a right to file divorce.

[@MrOsmanu]

Never let yourselves be emotionally dominated by a woman. Don't overlook your own rules and don't let yourself be overwhelmed in your rules and masculinity. Above all, don't get too emotional with women and be able to walk. And not be dependent on the beauty of a woman.

[@userfriendlyforever]

Don't make it about gender, it goes both ways

[@MrOsmanu]

@@userfriendlyforever What I write here goes to men. Women have completely different problems. E.g. to learn what respect and gratitude are.

[@userfriendlyforever]

@MrOsmanu Bruh pls you don't understand women if you think we have different problems. There are many men who gaslight and manipulate women. Infact, it's more of a common attribute of men than women. Women are more emotional and sensitive and easy to manipulate and gaslight. Hence, it goes for them as well. If you still believe we both have completely different issues bc of different gender then you are really naive.

[@userfriendlyforever]

@MrOsmanu Bruh pls you don't understand women if you think we have different problems. There are many men who gaslight and manipulate women. Infact, it's more of a common attribute of dudes than women. Women are more emotional and sensitive and easy to manipulate and gaslight. Hence, it goes for them as well. If you still believe we both have completely different issues bc of different gender then you are really naive.

[@userfriendlyforever]

@MrOsmanu Bruh pls you don't know anything about females if you think we have different problems. There are many guys who gaslight and manipulate females. Infact, it's more of a common attribute of guys than females. Females are more emotional and sensitive and easy to manipulate and gaslight. Hence, it goes for them as well. If you still believe we both have completely different issues bc of different gender then you are really naive.

[@ItsBetterToBeKind]

Islam is indeed perfect and uplifts humans in the most dignified manner. All we need to do is educate our selves and follow islam because there is wisdom behind every islamic rule that only contribute to a greater world

[@Zaxxed_103]

I have read this somewhere that Pure men are for pure women and impure men are for impure women so u basically should keep ur own self pure and away from evil tendencies Allah the most merciful will indeed do something in ur utmost favor

[@Memoona-g2h]

Bro that's for the hereafter

[@smryldrm1]

Yes that is ayas from Kur'an. I suppose pureness could not be measured with virginity.

[@Aydarusflipofficial]

I hope none of you ever go through this in this day and age… its really divastating to be in such situation after spending all your mind, heart, energy, wealth and expectations into the future with this person. For those who forgave may allah protect them and reward them with their sabr.

[@unknownlove19]

It’s very painful, I am dealing with it for 3 years because of my lying husband

[@Aydarusflipofficial]

@@unknownlove19may allah reward your sabr

[@atiachowdhury3734]

@@unknownlove19 I would divorce instantly, forget 3 years not even 3 hours.

[@mr.edwvrd]

That woman definitely lied about other things and will lie in the future. May God protect us from those types of situations.

[@omerfarukkaratas2742]

As a historian, the Sheikh COMPLETELY disregards the FACT that for thousands of years up until the 2000s in all Muslim societies, 99% of women would ONLY have sex in marriage. The 1% were prostitutes and EVERYONE knew that they were prostitutes or the rare slut. Adultery was also very rare for the married women. Completely disregarding this reality that NEVER existed during the time of the companions or any sahaba. There is even the hadeeth where the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him advised marrying a virgin to one of the sahabas instead of a previously MARRIED widow or divorcee woman. The MARRIED being the emphasis. He is basing his judgement on it being okay to marry a divorcee or widow and equating it with a woman who has not preserved her chastity for a husband but rather given it out freely. The men MARRYING knew 100% that a woman that was NOT a divorcee or a widow were virgins. Even that hadeeth is a testament to that fact. I believe with this modern reality, it is a right for a man to KNOW what he's getting as the basic virginity and purity of a marriage expectation has been absolved and destroyed. Such statements by Sheikhs only assist in giving Muslim women courage to go down the path of more debauchery expecting it to be "accepted" by their future husbands to be...

[@Silence4725]

Nobody has a right to know about another person’s sins. It is a major sin to expose your wrongdoings as Allah (ﷻ) covers the sins of the person at night as though a blanket has been put over them. To throw this blanket away is an insult to Allah (ﷻ) and shows pride in the sin. Cursed is the one who exposes either their own sins or the sins of another. Asking someone to expose their sins and expecting that to be a right is completely impermissible. Whatever is in a person’s past is none of your business. You bring up the sahaba (رضي الله عنهما) but do you not know that some of the greatest of them were also the greatest enemies of Islam in their past such as ‘Amr ibn al-‘As (رضي الله عنه) prior to him accepting Islam yet we would never dare hold that over him. You claim to be a historian, and even though this is not a matter of history but of Islamic rulings, I will entertain it for you: do you not know that among the companions, there were those who used to drink alcohol and whom were not virgins? However, when a person accepts Islam, all of their sins are forgiven and it is the very same with the one who seeks forgiveness, so who are we to judge a person’s past if it is forgiven by the True Judge (ﷻ) ? I’ll leave you with one hadith on the matter. I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying. "All the sins of my followers will be forgiven except those of the Mujahirin (those who commit a sin openly or disclose their sins to the people). An example of such disclosure is that a person commits a sin at night and though Allah screens it from the public, then he comes in the morning, and says, 'O so-and-so, I did such-and-such (evil) deed yesterday,' though he spent his night screened by his Lord (none knowing about his sin) and in the morning he removes Allah's screen from himself."

[@omerfarukkaratas2742]

@Silence4725 Your point is valid regarding the sahaba that were men. As I pointed out, there was prostitution and naturally the prostitute ratio was not 1 FEMALE prostitute serving one man. She would service many men of which it is possible that there may have been male sahaba prior to their conversion. Everyone in those societies KNEW who the prostitutes were. Everyone KNEW who was married, divorced and/or widowed. You KNEW what you were getting into with a woman. Failing to understand that basic societal condition and reality and the advice of the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him to marry a VIRGIN to the MALE sahaba when he mentioned that he would marry a woman with children so she could take care of his siblings. Asking a woman IF she was a virgin would be considered lunacy because a NON-VIRGIN did NOT exist amongst non-married bachelor women. I believe that scholars should look at it from this lens and figure out a way to understand and vet because unlike use of alcohol, there is also a very real psychological thing that men undergo called "Retroactive Jealousy." Do you question taking the advice of the Prophet? I doubt it. So how do you carry out his Sunnah? Women do not undergo that and do not experience physical or physiological muscle contractions like getting kicked in the stomach. Men do and it festers in the mind with men till the day they die.

[@Silence4725]

@@omerfarukkaratas2742 Akhi, the hadith on the Prophet (ﷺ) advising the man to marry the virgin does not relate to zina, it relates to a previous marriage. The word used in Arabic is بِكراً which solely refers to a woman who was never married. The word for chaste women as found in many other ahadith is المحصنات. I believe you are confounding two very different concepts. A woman can Islamically be a virgin even though she had fornicated and repented but would not be considered chaste thus she would by assumption be deemed chaste if she was never married as she is not allowed to disclose her sin and we as Muslims must always make the best assumptions of our brothers and sisters. This is the idea of حسن الظن as indeed Allah says: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12] Therefore, since we cannot ask a person to expose their sins and we cannot make negative assumptions of a person then we would never know if a woman is truly chaste or not unless her sin was to be exposed in some other way that does not include deceit and it is not our business to know either way. Hopefully this answers your doubts inshaAllah.

[@Silence4725]

@@omerfarukkaratas2742 Akhi, the hadith on the Prophet (ﷺ) advising the man to marry the virgin does not relate to zina, it relates to a previous marriage. The word used in Arabic is بِكراً which solely refers to a woman who was never married. The word for chaste women as found in many other ahadith is المحصنات. I believe you are confounding two very different concepts. A woman can Islamically be a virgin even though she had fornicated and repented but would not be considered chaste thus she would by assumption be deemed chaste if she was never married as she is not allowed to disclose her sin and we as Muslims must always make the best assumptions of our brothers and sisters. This is the idea of حسن الظن as indeed Allah says: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12] Therefore, since we cannot ask a person to expose their sins and we cannot make negative assumptions of a person then we would never know if a woman is truly chaste or not unless her sin was to be exposed in some other way that does not include deceit and it is not our business to know either way. Hopefully this answers your doubts inshaAllah.

[@Silence4725]

@@omerfarukkaratas2742 Akhi, the hadith on the Prophet (ﷺ) advising the man to marry the virgin does not relate to zina, it relates to a previous marriage. The word used in Arabic is 'bikran' which solely refers to a woman who was never married. The word for chaste women as found in many other ahadith is al-mohsinat. I believe you are confounding two very different concepts. A woman can Islamically be a virgin even though she had committed zina and repented but would not be considered chaste thus she would by assumption be deemed chaste if she was never married as she is not allowed to disclose her sin and we as Muslims must always make the best assumptions of our brothers and sisters. This is the idea of husn al dhun as indeed Allah says: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12] Therefore, since we cannot ask a person to expose their sins and we cannot make negative assumptions of a person then we would never know if a woman is truly chaste or not unless her sin was to be exposed in some other way that does not include deceit and it is not our business to know either way. Hopefully this answers your doubts inshaAllah.

[@auisfbiuhask6353]

It's good that he tried his best to try to convince the man to forgive to save the marriage, but also made it clear that it's a choice and not an obligation. In the end, though, if the brother feels cheated and lied to because his requirements were not met, well then it's okay to not carry this baggage into the relationship if you can't truly and fully forgive and forget about it (especially if it might come out in fights/arguments down the line). We're not Allah, and aren't expected to be the most merciful and forgiving. Also don't make the reason public and ruin her future of getting re-married.

[@redwansaaty9324]

I had a similar event that happened to me, i tried to accept her but i became too traumatized, she was perfect in every way imagineable but that one mistake she did. I couldn’t forgive her no matter what, even though she repented and she is genuinely regretting it. I held myself clean i deserve someone clean without experience. All this eventually led to our relationship getting dissolved. I couldn’t stop thinking about it for months and it was a nightmare. It’s really unfortunate for innocent people to fall for such a huge sin. Take care everybody and may Allah protect us all from this situation.

[@mdrokebtamim648]

She is not repented she is trapped. Cause she do not have any more option 😢.

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@mdrokebtamim648 she have ( stay single or marry a divorcee or become 2nd wife)

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@mdrokebtamim648 nop there are options 1. Marry a divorced men 2. Marry her type 3. Become 2nd wife 4 .stay single

[@ahmedburhan-mk2lk]

Ask them before marriage. You can’t determine someone’s virginity by their appearance

[@takemetomarz]

Ameen ya rabb hope you find a pious wife InshAllah

[@AlexaRO]

Allah may forgive ,indeed Allah is greatest...But I will never forgive as a husband....

[@FruitsOfTheHearts]

Sheikh missed the point, may Allah forgive him. The man made it a marraige requirement, so that has to be respected. Also the sheikh is incorrect about the definition of a virgin. This is not acceptable from the woman. She needs to accept who she was and hopefully the new person who she is, but also must respect the requirements a man has put forth. If she doesn't fit those requirements, she doesn't have to marry him, but to cheat him is wrong and she is deserving of a divorce. We as muslims cannot cheat people then apply our own subjective definitions on something clear like virginity in order to get the best of both worlds at the expense of somebody's honor: it is wrong and disingenuine. May Allah compensate this man and provide him the virgin he is looking for. The sister should have maybe married someone previously divorced or become someone's second wife, but she shouldn't have cheated this man into a marraige. I am assuming everything the man said in this context was true as we only know one side of the story, and Allah knows best. May Allah forgive me for whatever incorrect thing I said.

[@FruitsOfTheHearts]

Also doesn't Allah (azawajal) give the definition of a virgin within the Qur'an? Someone untouched by any man. Can someone find the ayat? JazakAllah khyr. This is why its so important to have local teachers that have an authentic sanad (chain of authentic teachers that follow a madhabb), otherwise you get opinions from popular people rather than that from our 1400+ old tradition.

[@PerspectiveNarrative]

What is wrong with the definition of Bikr(Virgin)? He is totally correct

[@FruitsOfTheHearts]

@@PerspectiveNarrative No, a virgin is someone sexually untouched by a man, regardless of marraige. Having a nikah does not immediately make you a non virgin. One must commit to intimacy to lose their virginity. If you are sincerely sure that he is totally correct, can you bring this question to your local Imam? Ask him that: "if a woman sleeps with a bunch of men, but is not married, is she still a virgin?" Also please be careful with making argumentive statements that you do not believe in, as we have to answer before Allah in Qiyamah.

[@faheemahmed5786]

​@@FruitsOfTheHearts According to such imams, their daughters are virgins even if they secretly have s*x with many men. 🙄

[@wZaidhan]

@@FruitsOfTheHearts don't talk without knowledge. you can't come up with your own definitions, virgin is someone who has not married before regardless of sexual intercourse occurred or not. the ayat you are referring are the characteristics of houris.

[@Princess_Jasmin99]

I love this Sheikh. Clean, unbiased response. May Allah SWT bless him

[@himelkausther3099]

He give very biased response. The brother said he want untouched. But she was a pr0stitute. She lied in marriage contract. She is a deceptive women.

[@kakashizet7496]

lol, this is biased feminine response. that doesn't acknowledge or care for the guys feeling. the first thing the shik did was trying to blame him if he interrogated her. bro this types of sheykhs are the ones driving men to zina or lose hope in marriage.

[@MollyAnnaD]

He truly protects the women and he always make men feel offended 😅. Bless him

[@kakashizet7496]

​@@MollyAnnaD lol, he's just undercover feminist not a shaikh he might as well give us gander studies as well.

[@sweetsoul3169]

​@@MollyAnnaDmaybe because these men are never following right the character of our prophet. Our prophet was the cleanest and purest man on this earth yet he never complained to Allah when he had to marry unpure women

[@TheRomanticMisunderstood69]

Divorce her, she didn't respect your needs

[@mrarman9874]

woman supports this but dosent support second wife hahahaha

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

Hypocrisy at its peak

[@mrarman9874]

@ may allah save us from woman like this and grant us pious woman ameen

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@mrarman9874 ameen

[@SandiegoRockstar]

If fornicator=virgin and divorcee=nonvirgin, then brothers will always prefer the non virgin. Because we are trying to avoid the fornicator.

[@sabrinaouali1137]

@@SandiegoRockstar love you!

[@SigmaTrader05]

You are right... But how would be a fornicator virgin?

[@SigmaTrader05]

You are right... But how would be a fornicator virgin?

[@SandiegoRockstar]

@SigmaTrader05 the sheikh said a fornicator is a virgin because virgin just means never married.

[@SigmaTrader05]

@@SandiegoRockstar yes 🤣 many people think like this 😂... But the reality is different

[@455king4help]

Oof I can see how younger kids would take this as an "OK" to commit Zina because you can just ask for forgiveness later. It's honestly allowing a pass like Christianity and Judaism. As a older dude who stayed tight on his iman and didn't commit Zina, Riba, Shirk, what's the one for drugs? I'm happy, InshAllah if I am blessed with someone who was as tight of Iman as I was I'll be happy.

[@ahmedburhan-mk2lk]

Some fatwas that some of our contemporary scholars give are so dangerous. The definition of virgin can greatly influence people to take Zina a normal thing

[@OfficialMacterz]

please divorce her !! Don't mess your life

[@asimfaizlabib1959]

the problem nowadays is girls use this as a loophole

[@asimfaizlabib1959]

@@Kalluto_zoldyck_77 I have no knowledge about it sorry.

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@asimfaizlabib1959 okay .no prob

[@aysewarraich]

As a woman I agree with you may Allah guide us bro amin bcz now a days everyone is fake and defend their sins even do it after getting married but only Allah knows the best if someone repent it or not otherwise time will always tell you the truth

[@LegendaryUltimate-o1v]

@@aysewarraichbut is simple question are you virgin or not? If she knew she was clean and pure women she wouldn’t hesitate? He was a very naïve ig 😅

[@maxamv3879]

​@@aysewarraich a man Marys a woman, commits loyalty to her, take financial responsibility of her, keeps himself chased, only to get something some other man got by few cheap words. 💀 can you think of a worst insult? 😠 to a man it's a matter of honour. Imagine keeping your chastity for a decade fantasyzing about your spouse. And you have to face this crap. My desire to get married just killed itself.

[@hansolo1935]

He didn't answer the question. One of the groom's conditions for marrying was that the woman must be a virgin. She lied and therefore he's not obligated to uphold the contract of marriage. Although forgiveness is better him leaving her is not a sin.

[@noonwraith401]

Non virgins and fornicators crying in the comments😂😂.

[@Tunguska-atom]

Lmao, perpetrator defending the street like they do some chores for what they did.

[@SaeedAbdullah-n8k]

This is crazy he said it was a condition of his before marriage and the weakness in Fiqh by the Sheik is very disturbing.

[@abeerhussain5512]

Bro best option is to get a 2nd wife

[@HajiTech-or3pf]

No the best option is to divorcee First of all not all people have money

[@mdpappu7834]

Yes from my side, I have the same mentality....... believes ...

[@Swan-p5t]

why a second wife? also wouldn't that cost a lot plus if u get kids from both of them 💀💀

[@Haiderdesh]

Brother, i also thought this for a while, but what after getting second wife, The First UnVirgin Women can cheat and stay in affairs with other men , and whatnot. Just divorce her,

[@sweetsoul3169]

Is this your way of coping with your insecurities..

[@akylrysgal6242]

If the woman had multiple men without getting married, then she’s a sinner. Then she decides, it’s time to get married, I should find some naive guy who I can tell the lies that I’m a virgin etc. and marry to him. Now, men should decide whether they want to have this woman as a wife or not. And yes, it’s not difficult to say whether this is a virgin or a woman with previous sexual experience: a virgin is more like a girl, a non-virgin is more like a woman.

[@Halfan_Hossen_Habib]

I will never maary a non virgin women, If I found out she's not, I definitely will divorce her, because she cheated on her future husband, she doesn't believe in Taqdeer

[@sum6318]

Actually the fact nowadays is like if girl has multiple partners before marriage had s ' with them. She will repeat such actions even in future i am not saying all but this is in general.

[@lakschu629]

it's not general bro, it do be like that

[@LumosParvez]

So a woman just gets away. I as a man keep myself from all the temptations, contain myself from premarital relations and I can't even ask for a virgin wife. Meanwhile she can do whatever she wants as long as she repents and keeps it hidden and away from the husband. This is just unfair.

[@Saad-tmg]

Have a problem? Go and have a word with the prophet. We all know he is the best person to ever live and you already know he'll say the same things as sheikh.😂

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@Saad-tmg really , and how do you know ? Did you time travel to meet prophet

[@SarojIshmamJannat]

Come on stop arguing over this. For both man and woman, Zina is so dangerous. Both of them must stay away from it. And it's required for both of them to repent for their mistakes. If a man or woman gets engaged in Zina or premarital relations, he/she must repent to Allah for that. If they feel genuinely guilty for their mistakes, inshallah Allah will forgive them. You heard the sheikh saying Allah can even forgive those who shirq. Then of course He can forgive these men and women. Islam is all about equality. About men and women equality, Allah said, “So their Lord responded to them: “I will never deny any of you-male or female-the reward of your deeds. Both are equal in reward….”4 (Quran 3:195). So please stop this argument. Men and women are same. They are made for each other. Husband and wife should forgive each other for their past mistakes if they have repented. Cause Allah is almighty. He created us, if He can forgive us, why can't we? Both man and woman can end a relationship they don't want. If you don't feel happy with your husband or wife, then leave. It's not about gender. It's the same for man and woman. Allah will forgive **ANYONE** who repents. May Allah forgive all of us for our mistakes. Amin.

[@user-zy3jg1dc3y]

@sadique7359, The Sheikh is giving his opinion according to Quran and Hadith. So, it is safe to assume that the prophet will most likely have the same opinion.

[@luxiz_]

@@Saad-tmg Forgiving is a thing but not many ppl are able to sincerely forgive, it's rare, I guess it's a really bad idea to stay with someone your feelings cant forgive, not point on living with a women if what she done hurts your feeling and you cant forget/forgive it, simple.

[@zalis2992]

Bro it's too painful ..😢. No man can accept that. It's too tough for us men with so many opportunities but we still remained pure. And When we learned that we remainded pure for the girl who didn't even care about this ? How to accept this?🤷🏻‍♂️

[@haziqalakhani]

thus us why he said in the past bro shes not doing it in the present if she does she is in wrong then

[@zalis2992]

@@haziqalakhani I got your point. It can't be like I'm doing something wrong and then become righteous. Allah can forgive but we humans can hardly forgive or forget. I mean you have to think about the fact that he struggled at the time , the girl didn't. So it's about deserving & expecting. So it hurts as hel*.

[@haziqalakhani]

@@zalis2992 look what your saying is wrong but i get that a man would feel bad because of that so he can divorce if he wants he doesnt have to keep her and i know that humans cant forgive easily but they should to a certain level but ofc in this case he can divorce her if he wants because im sure the guy doesnt feel like forgiving so the marriage is already broken but she has to hide her sins or else how is she gonna get married (given that she already repented ofc) so its not about the hard time he had before marriage its just that he can choose what he wants to do. hope u understand

[@zalis2992]

@@haziqalakhani I didn't disagree to ur point what you have said. That's what I'm saying divorce is the only option left for those who can't accept this. (Most of them can't..I won't accept that too. Cause I could do the same if I wished. So I won't forgive the same as them). But yeah..if possible the girl should keep it hidden. It will be wise. So the man before him wouldn't know and wouldn't regret it. Good for Everyone.

[@HannahBrowsley]

Vice versa to muslim men who go out and commit zina .

[@tinaraymond6483]

Sheikh is wrong in this case.If he is a clean virgin man he needs a clean untouched wife. If he feels cheated he should do another Nikah to a virgin.She should have told him before Nikah not after.

[@elelelel9822]

@@tinaraymond6483 What if she was a virgin and not him?

[@burakcoskun38]

​@@elelelel9822he explicitly says in this video that he is. And set virginity as a requirement for the marriage. If he wasn't a virgin himself he wouldn't have cared.

[@elelelel9822]

@burakcoskun1865 That's not true. MANY men, even after having slept around, demand a virgin. Don't tell me that there aren't double standards regarding virginity. Most men get away with it. Haven't heard of a single incident where a man has even been asked about such. The virginity issue always revolves around women. That's why even the video discusses a WOMANS virginity, not the other way around. You KNOW this.

[@burakcoskun38]

@@elelelel9822 then that's his sin. But if the man is honest then you're trying to slander and lie about him. I never said there aren't double standards in general but we r talking about this specific case. Don't cop out because you're emotional and try to negate the wife's dishonesty in this case. Just because u never heard it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. The video discusses this because the man called and asked for the sheikhs advice. Quit gaslighting because u're emotional.

[@elelelel9822]

@burakcoskun1865 Wow, narcissistic much? Guess you can't keep up a discussion and just have to insult the other person just because you don't handle a disagreement. Says a lot about your character. Never defended her dishonesty, just telling facts about the issue on a general basis. Boş yapma! Hadi yürü..!

[@Hazokny]

As a muslim man, I thought zina was really bad until i watched this video 😂

[@Duhdug9373]

yeah it is bad, you will cause emotional distress to your wife and if she is a woman with dignity who is clean and also wants the same from her spouse and does not fear stupid society then she can leave you and file for divorce just like this man is going to. repentance counts when Allah accepts and forgives it, what if he doesn't forgive you as you did a sin intentionally thinking that Allah will forgive you anyways.

[@unknownlove19]

Yes a lot of emotional distress for the wife, it still affect my mental health after 3 years, I have 2 kids so it’s hard for my to leave

[@6hellskitty9]

Yes. I understand what Sheikh is saying. But the marriage is built on lies. And if it emotionally distresses him, it is okay for him to divorce her. May allah protect us from such situations

[@light-t7b]

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[@strokedout9807]

Hilarious seeing all the non virgin girls in the comments coping by saying she made tawba so she’s like a virgin again 😂

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@strokedout9807 hahaha

[@faizannabi7540]

Yes also non virgin men as well accepting non virgin women lame excuses.

[@StormSpirit-n1d]

@@faizannabi7540 for women it's bigger problem. A man doesn't get much affected by it. But for women she sometimes carries genes from past guys. Microchimerism.

[@sweetsoul3169]

"Say, ˹O Prophet, that Allah says,˺ “O My servants who have exceeded the limits against their souls! Do not lose hope in Allah’s mercy, for Allah certainly forgives all sins.He is indeed the All-Forgiving, Most Merciful."39:53 You are just so insecure and weak that you feel the need to mock these women who repented and purified themselves for the sake of Allah. Right now you are not only mocking them, but you are mocking Allah as well for accepting their repentance. In Allah's eyes, a sinner who repents is far more pure and holy than a religious man who feels proud of himself.

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@sweetsoul3169 i wonder how many you have been with to say things like insecure and weak

[@VordLoldemort]

The context here matters a lot! Firstly, the condition this brother had, he wanted to marry a chaste person like he was, and did he or did he not make it clear. Secondly, no person is allowed to disclose his/her sins which ALLAH has concealed. Third, then how he could have known if she was a virgin or not if she should have concealed her sins. Also he or no person has the right to ask this question to anyone. Scenario 1: So the ideal thing to have been done in this case before marriage is that the brother should have just put the conditions that he wants to marry a pious, ALLAH fearing, one who prays her Salah and most importantly a Virgin & chaste person. And assuming that the Sister had changed her life and repented from her sins and was already a GOD fearing lady when this proposal came, she should have still rejected the proposal without giving any reasons whatsoever or disclosing her sins. Scenario 2: If There was no such condition put by the brother before marriage, he does not have any right to blame the sister now. Assuming that there was no pressure on her and the sister disclosed her sin in naivety (which btw is another sin in itself and shouldn't have been done), even then the brother doesn't have any right to blame her for her past and the better thing to do would be to move on in life given that she's a pious person and has changed her ways. Either way, now that this thing is out in the open, if the condition was put before marriage and the sister lied or did not reject the proposal knowing very well what the man wanted, this is deceit and better thing for them would be to separate, no questions asked. And if there was not such conditions clearly defines before marriage, high chances are that once this thing came out in the open, the brother might be scarred mentally, and that varies from person to person. If the brother is certain that he cannot forgive and forget, then it's better to just separate and move on rather than destroying each other's life as the barrier of trust between them has broken and no matter what, he will never ever trust her again period. But if he chooses to ignore this, or this is something he understands happened in the past, and he was not that concerned about before marriage, and gives her a second chance as we are always advised to think good of people, especially if there are children involved, and the brother has the mental strength to move forward, he should keep her with him. The answer from Sheikh is on point though. Whatever she was before marriage, if she's an excellent mother and wife then it's your call akhi at the end of the day...

[@SuperheroesUniverse]

for your kind of knowledge what guarantee is there that she won't commit zina again? commit zina then apologize to Allah and destroy the mental health of husband wowo

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

She have no right to lie

[@TechRest]

Never marry a girl who has a past. Everything should be made clear before marriage. Also, tell her that if you lie to me and after marriage I come to know that you have had a past, I will divorce you the same day.

[@waltersimmons9512]

Did you comment here without watching the video?

[@TechRest]

@waltersimmons9512 I have watched the entire video and only after that I have given my opinion.

[@slovelyyx7718]

I don’t agree with this at all. It’s one thing if the brother is divorced, or had sex prior to marriage, but if he was indeed a virgin and waited patiently for marriage like Allah instructed us to do, then he has every right to be upset, starting off a marriage based on a lie is BS. If someone tells you their dealbreakers and one of them is virginity and you lie, how is that in anyway okay??? Even as a woman, I wouldn’t marry a man who had sex before marriage. I’ve waited this whole time to marry someone who didn’t wanna wait like I did ? No thank you. Sex before marriage in Islam is a huge sin so there is that.

[@wasifiqbal7219]

We should mention the matter of virginity before the marriage is finalised (of course in a civil, mature way). Expectations more or less end up with disasters. Precautionary measures are the best for avoiding such situations InshaAllah. Dear Brothers and Sisters, protect yourselves from the traps of human and jinn shayateen.

[@nafian_n]

Best option is to get a second wife.

[@Afridarbaz]

After divorcing her who will live with that shit

[@nafian_n]

@@Afridarbaz you mean her?

[@lakschu629]

best option is to divorce, get your dowry back and marry another one

[@mmt5120]

I think there is nothing wrong with the man if he really didn't pressure her or have any other hidden intentions. If he is a clean person, it is really a very difficult test from Allah that he has to marry this woman. I hope the brother finds peace. He needs to take his time to calm his mind and if it becomes completely difficult for him to endure, I see no wrong of him to leave the girl. But I also agree with Sheikh, he needs to try and see things from the Sheikh's perspective first. May Allah make it easy for him.

[@Universe30243]

Exactly

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

@@mmt5120 Sheikh perspective is weak it can cuase more harm than good.

[@lakschu629]

@@mmt5120 exactly, that women clearly didn't regret what she did or she wouldn't have told him, which in turn means she didn't repent and she still is an unpure wonan that should get divorced and thrown out of the house asap, and get the dowry back too,

[@lakschu629]

DIVORCE HER WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR SHE IS CLEARLY CORRUPT

[@Aitfic]

We have to be judgemental in those cases otherwise next Gen Women won’t be afraid to commit Zinaa

[@amazingspunk2138]

Honestly I disagree with Sheik, my people wake up to reality, be logical... A woman with multiple sexual past is not fit for marriage, she can't bond with you.. Her heart belongs to the man who brokes her virginity

[@motasemmk]

i think this sheikh is deciving the muslims ,,, Bikr in arabic means that she is closed never had sex before , that's why we call Hymen : غشاءالبكارة bakarah tissue , before some girls get married and they don't have intercourse and then divorced , they are still considered bikr , the word biker means untouched , we call olive oil bikr which is fresh picked and pressed . i don't know why this guy twisted the meaning , this is unacceptable .

[@mrarman9874]

i noticed always woman defending this and saying whats the problem if shes not virgin.. and then i remember what rasool allah said majority of jahunnami will be woman

[@Eren-Ereinna]

actually akhi 🤲 it is what it is women always be women ( allah pls forgive me if i said something wrong )

[@Kalluto_zoldyck_77]

​@@Eren-Ereinnawe gave them too much freedom so much so that they started blaming men for their faults

[@selver1386]

@@Kalluto_zoldyck_77 'we gave them freedom' what do you mean? Allah swt gives women rights. Not men.

[@naveedrehman2987]

This type of situation is very common in the 21st century. Especially in western countries.

[@nsack9534]

Fear Allah people. Don’t be so frivolous. Jannah is everlasting. Don’t fret over small desires in this temporary dunya.

[@abc-kn6ex]

What?

[@conqueroralmaliki]

@@abc-kn6ex He is saying that don't play around that topic that much, whether your (future) spouse is a virgin or not. The dunya is a test and the paradise eternal. So, may Allah reward anyone who just accept his faith and lives with a woman whose past isn't that innocent.

[@abc-kn6ex]

@@conqueroralmaliki you're simply wrong

[@Ali-zo4lh]

@@abc-kn6ex Why ?

[@sweetsoul3169]

​@abc-kn6exno youre just insecure and cant accept the truth

[@aliahmadi8044]

This is very bad advice. If you have been lied to about this, you have the right to annule the marriage.

[@Lilalpha001]

This is flawed. She made wrong choices and lied. Why would I have to bare that when I chose to remain chaste

[@serlekin5738]

He is not allowed to judge her on basis of her past , she sinned and Allah forgave thats between her and Allah.... If she cheats in marriage then the husband will be in his rights to feel betrayed and leave but if she wants to repent then again its advisable to forgive and move on and never taunt.....

[@maxamv3879]

@@serlekin5738 move on, but without her.

[@NecesarInternet]

From were did you thake this bullshit from your head ? In all 1400 years of islam non virgin were reffuse and allah said clar to not lose virginity outside of mariage .

[@atiachowdhury3734]

@@serlekin5738 he doesn't have the right to judge, but has the right to divorce. 🙂

[@AbdulazizOlimjonov-n6v]

I disagree with Al Hakeem. You can keep lying to yourself that she's clean even if she's not. It's your choice, you will choose between live in sweet lie or accept the spice truth without giving up your dignity and honor.

[@hefrazend8160]

I have high gheerah as a man, if i found my future wife did kind of action before marriage.. Wallahi i can't stand with that fact, it's gonna bother me if i still be with her.. Of course i'm gonna divorce her.. Syeikh be fair.. There are a lot virgin muslim men out there who keep their chasity, you don't betray them by giving this non sense argument..

[@thebeastslayer6329]

Allah might forgive her because he is the most merciful but i am not the most merciful or supposed to forgive a cheater. instant divorce

[@shimi1000]

Don't expect the same when you sin

[@thebeastslayer6329]

@@shimi1000 i totally agree with u. If i may give my virginity to anyone except my wife, then i shall be punished.

[@tafis007]

​@@shimi1000 We are not supposed to expect that from humans anyway.

[@thebeastslayer6329]

@@sweetsoul3169 its not called having a weak heart to desire a virgin chaste woman when i myself is keeping away from sin to protect my virginity for my wife.

[@atiachowdhury3734]

@@sweetsoul3169 yes, because we are not Allah.

[@Angelakh67]

May allah guide them both and make their marriage work the sheikh is right he is making you to reconcile and thats the way it should be.

[@AA-yl4wq]

May Allah swt make it easy for the man. He has pain in his voice

[@Track-Master]

24:3, "A male fornicator would only marry a female fornicator or idolatress. And a female fornicator would only be married to a fornicator or idolater. This is ˹all˺ forbidden to the believers." fornication = Zina. The is only a difference in punishment when it comes to zina. Either you are married or not married. How can you agree to give your daughter or son to someone who had multiple sexpartners (in zina) before her/him, while in the other hand your son/daughter never did such a thing? At least be honest when you want to marry someone. He/she THEN can make a decission, not 10 years later when you already have 2 kids and so on.

[@Farasha392]

I'm A boy. Sometimes I think I will never get married. (Allah's plan is best, ingshaallh allh will give us the best things)

[@jamir0078]

Marry a poor girl

[@temerian_nordling]

Good don't! Alhamdulilah many women are saved from a jahil like you

[@qarimohammed2141]

Divorce is obligatory in this case. Evidence for this is : 1. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The fornicator who has been flogged may not marry anyone but a woman who is like him.” It was classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood. Ash-Shawkaani (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The words “the fornicator who has been flogged” refer to one who is known to have committed zina. The only way you can know a person committed zina punishable by hadd is by 4 male witnesses or confesion by the guilty party as is the case with this one And it was narrated that one on whom the hadd punishment had been carried out (because of fornication) married one on whom it has not been carried out (i.e., one who was chaste), and ‘Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) separated them. Therefore he must divorce her

[@sultannazar1896]

This kind of speeches makes people go out of the way to make their need instead of marriage, Sheikh please don't make our girl's go crazy , Allah will forgive everything doesn't mean you can do anything you want or say anything you want ,may allah give you hidayat.

[@Cordo067]

Correct 💯

[@Safia-u4p]

The point of the sheikh is clear and true , If your fanaticism for this matter was as great as your fanaticism for the blood of your brothers that is being shed, the situation would not have remained as it is. Don’t you see that we are more than a billion and yet we are weak? Let us return to the subject. Muslim girls are rational. We all know that adultery is forbidden and a great sin. The Sheikh did not say that adultery is normal or that he permitted it. Man is not infallible from sin, and if there were Islamic countries, adultery would decrease. This type of speech makes us not be biased towards a mistake that others did and repented from, do you say with this that if a man or woman repents they do not have the right to marry? Hearts are in God’s hand and if He wants you to disbelieve, then you will disbelieve. Do not act as if you are infallible. The sheikh’s words are correct and not wrong. So, do you want women who have sinned before to be banished from society? What kind of religion is this? Is it your desire? Do repentant infidel women not have the right to marry Muslims or men?If you do not accept this, I ask Allah to guide you. I am really confused. Seeing Muslim people in the comments has made me really confused. This is a general message that does not relate to me. Understand the meaning and avoid the sins of the tongue. You have wronged the Sheikh with your words.

[@chekuvines597]

Are behan hmko nhi chalegi aisi lrki aur beshak kisi lrki ko bhi nhi chalega aisa larka. Jab baja hi liye baaja to shadi kro usi se bat khatam.Repent karo dono sath mei. Ab ispe gyan na dena tumhari choice tumpe meri choice mere pe.

[@MagnumDrex]

Basically, the guy is supposed to accept this and move on. If he respects himself, he should move on without this lying spouse of his.

[@amazingeverything5602]

Peace be with you brother. Inshaallah things will get better

[@CitizenCan]

Allah forgives, yes. But we are not Allah, so why should we be expected to act like Allah and forgive?