It Gets Better: Tom from Liverpool

[@Mikey87Yrk]

Well done fella i came out in April and never luked bak friends tht never judge who you are to be honest are for life great video!!! X

[@nerdyaboutworld93]

You're cute and have a great accent and I'm glad you have found people that accept you and that you accept yourself. There is nothing wrong with you! It's so inspirational that you stood for who you are.

[@Vladimirislootin]

Hi mate, nice to see you're happy with who you are. To go to a Catholic all-boys school must have been tough. I went to an all boys school myself... luckily I never got stick because it took me a bit longer to realise whether I was bi or not... as I still liked girls but sort of fancied boys too... I thought it might be a phase or something. I'm 19 now, mostly out and shitting myself about telling my parents. I told myself I'd pluck up the courage once I get a bf... Keep strong man! Well done :)

[@seanparty]

This video saved lives! Thank you!

[@phillippalmer2656]

Tom what a great story. You seem to be reliving the times while telling it because you didn't smile much. With such a great smile you should show it more often it enhances how WONDERFUL a person you are. Best wishes for you from the states!

[@lizzietheemocheeto]

Thank you for making this video. Just watching it, helps a bit. I'm working to get to that place, to accepting myself fully and not being scared of how people will see me when I've come out. So yeah, thank you.

[@russell6395]

Holy hell you're attractive. That aside, your story really resounded with me, I think you hit the nail on the head perfectly. I'm glad that you ended up finding some friends who can really accept you for who you are. Thank you for sharing! I hope you make some more videos in the future, you're extremely eloquent and pleasant to listen to.

[@arwenae]

That was beautiful. I really hope loads of people get to see this. It's something they should hear.

[@authenticmind]

Everyone struggles with something; it's true! Sometimes people feel inadequate for some of the most misunderstood or abstract reasons. The difference quite often is if one struggles alone or if they have support. Frequently, struggles with same sex feelings are too often engaged by people that feel isolated or alone. Tom's video is powerful in how he honestly expresses his feelings and experiences. It's sad that Tom had to struggle alone at first, but finding his way to acceptance, to friends who accept him and to sharing with his family and finding acceptance are all great outcomes. Tom's message that it can get better is powerful, it's an example of how important it is to trust others and keep looking for those people that are open, accepting and loving. Thanks Tom, that was a well done video and very uplifting! Cheers!

[@crhaun]

Really wonderful. Thank you for being such a loving, giving man. Chris in Los Angeles

[@anachreon01]

What a fantastic father!!

[@rastus0226]

your video will help so many young kids in the school, well done!! Wish you the the best.

[@BjarkiA1991]

That video maid me all tear up! What an honest,inspiring and heartfelt story you put out there. People like you are so unique. Thanks for posting - keep up the good work. BIG hug from ICELAND ;)

[@PaulDanielGolban]

Thank you so much. I REALLY needed this. You are a life saver!

[@jamestapp7870]

Thanks Tom for your kindness and understanding towards all the kids that have contacted you. It is obvious that you share their pain and they in turn have such faith in you because of your personality and in particular the fact you seem to have all the time in the world for them. Thanks Mate

[@hhjames9139]

Bless you. It's 5 years and I hope you are well. (And kissing all the lads you fancy.)

[@TheScandyOMG]

Beautiful. I can't describe how much this is helpful for a lot of my friends situations. Hope this gets a lot of views because people need to see/hear this. Thank you for sharing your story. It takes a lot to say all that.

[@ollietrigg16]

your such a strong person and this video has shown how people can be strong and learn to be themselves :) , from actually worrying about what people think and start o think something is seriously worng with them, to going to a strong indipendant person who actually doesnt give a crap and can be themselves and be 'who they are', so welldoen for putting the video up, it has helped so much, and as others would probs agree, will help them to, thank you tom x

[@TrishaSpectacle]

This was a truly inspirational video mate, absolutely wonderful. I just came out in University about 2 months ago and my friends have been nothing but accepting of me. it's so wonderful to have such lovely and great friends. I haven't yet come out to my mother and I'm actually rather scared of that, more scared than coming out to my friends...but I am confident that I can do it and I am sure that she will love me no matter what. I just need to gather the courage to do it. Thank you for this vid.

[@Zeny2222]

Thank you for sharing your story. I know it will be an inspiration for many.

[@AmariChampion]

I've literally watched about a dozen of these videos and I'm extremely grateful for them. I wish I wasn't so ashamed in my past to the point where I didn't even dare to seek advice or knowledge about it. I'm proud to say that I'm out and it does feel great and it does get better. You seem like you really wanted to share your story for the sake of helping other people and that's an amazing gift. You don't know how many people you're going to make an impacted on. Good on u, and best wishes to u :)

[@girton1]

Tom listen your perfect as you are. Your good at explaining how you went through things in your life, like I did at your age. The big picture is this is going out all over the net and you inspire others. Your a role model and I shared you on facebook;) ben wood from cambridge

[@WeLoveGrr]

Tom, your amazing. This made me smile and cry a little. I literally admire you so much.

[@astrosyzygy]

You're an honest man. That's an outstanding quality in anyone nowadays. So give youself all the credit you possibly can, and carry on living your life being true to yourself. Nice to hear from a fellow scouse, although I left Edge Hill for Canada many years ago. All the best, mate.

[@TaylorMitchellHill]

This video has helped my out a lot it was such a sad story, I'm coming out this year I've only just told a couple of close friends and I'm 17, all the things you've mentioned was all the things I was scared about what was going to happen if I came out in secondary school. I'm going to a new college in September and I am not going to hide what I am any more. Thank you :)

[@edwelty]

Thanks for sharing your story

[@liggaarr88]

u made me cry, im so glad things worked out for u, ur fantastic and i wish you the best with ur life, thanks for sharing =)

[@cloveradkins3280]

I was very inspired by your story. You're an amazing person and you're absolutely beautiful and intelligent. God bless you.

[@deandbn]

Lovely Video Mister, you are a brave young man and I am proud of you.

[@brucass93]

Thanks for the vid tom ...yr a brave guy...its been a yr for me n i just watch it gets vids every day...they really help

[@Helix518]

That was a amazing story thanks for sharing it with us. I have yet to come out to my parents but lucky i told my friends and my sister which they accepted me and where really proud of me. It sucks that you where outed in school, but im glad it got better for you. Great story thanks for sharing.

[@Chriscampbell93]

I think it is always good to see these videos from people inside the UK, usually it's just American videos I see but it's good to see some of them, and I know some of the feelings you went through, unfortunately I still feel them quite a lot of the time and it scares me but thanks dude for sharing your story :) Chris

[@Sony10229]

I love the fact you shared your story. :)

[@VeteranModels]

I have so much respect for you because of you doing this. You're really attractive and deserve so much in life

[@wafuuwafuu]

Well done. Classic story of the experience.

[@tombrodie7247]

Thankyou so much for uploading your story. I'm in the closet and hearing other people's stories is really taking the weight of my shoulders as to how I'm going to come out. Oh and, by the way, you're fucking beautiful.

[@antonio576]

Thank you for your candidness, you are a truly genuine person. God creates all and loves all his beautiful creations. I think you are the best, please never change. P.S. Catholic here and can totally relate. God Bless You. Best Wishes.

[@pwalt404]

Great video and well delivered. Good luck to you.

[@harryforster-brass396]

This video is so inspirational really gave me the boost i needed thank you!!! :)

[@coolguy1652]

Can't believe such a beautiful person as yourself could be treated so horribly. You make me believe it does get better.

[@TruAgape123]

Their loss. U seem like an AWESOME guy!!!! Hope all is well for u!!

[@perrymaniac]

hi Tom, you are an amazing person, a real credit too yourself, family and your friends. i came out last year and was the best thing i've ever done

[@cohabskilohm]

Great video. Well done and what a nice family.

[@SashaAiresse]

*You Are Loved...By *Everyone* who matters*....You are perfect...

[@IwannaMeetNickJonas]

I LOVE your accent!!!! You are so brave for makeing this video, that takes so much courage!!! I'm sure you've helped alot of people with this video, that's so sweet of you!! You have beautiful eyes :D I hope you have an amazing guy in ur life you deserve the best cutie!!!

[@mpickard24]

Tom - you're such a hero for posting this. Wish Id had the guts at your age to come out instead of bottling it up for sooo long.. Truely inspirational

[@glasotnaroda1]

I am gay myself but I envy you for the simple fact you got all this wisdom and atitude at so young age. Yes, it gets better. When I was sixteen and it was 1997 back in Bulgaria I was miles away from where you are on this video. I came out when I was 19 but it was in fact a personality crisis. I left university because of this. I wish I could deal with my sexuality issue when I was younger without delaying it.

[@MeselinsClub]

really helpful. thank you

[@rickwilliam95]

you're the best man! im really happy for you ;)

[@oliverdownunder9397]

I know this video is now 7 years old but I still feel for your story. Firstly you were/are a brave guy. Being Gay is like have green eyes instead of blue or brown. You don’t get to choose. I think actually that you are awesome and I hope you are comfortable being you. I am Gay and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Stay true to yourself and those who won’t accept you have no place in your life. Sending love from Australia. XXXX

[@nllionel4926]

totally!

[@_miichelle]

you're wonderful :) thank you for having the courage and confidence to do this :) i love your story and you!

[@Musictraep]

boy your eyes are so expressive

[@cjh2013fawesome]

When the begining of the video started i thought this is just goin to be a run of the mill it gets better video. But as i watched it you told a story and its truly a wonderful and inspiring story. i am 16 years old and im gay but no one knows but one of my closest friends. I get asked all the time if im gay but i deny it. i wish i had a family like yours, my mom asked me if i had something to tell her one day and i said no. but i dont think my family will take it well. I hope it gets better!!

[@ThePantonyp]

Sir, I am a 43 yr old man and your simple 21 words made me cry. Bless you James Tapp, bless you.

[@matir82]

This is a really great video. Good job mate. Hope you find someone who means the world to you ;-)

[@jamestapp7870]

Tom I'm so proud of you and proud of your Mom & Dad. You know that you are really blessed to have such a loving family and that their love is such that even when they find out that your gay that their love for you is not diminished. I have a strong feeling Tom based on your video that you have gone through an awful lot of emotional stress and in spite of it all you have managed to keep your both feet firmly on the ground. You are so mature for your age. You inspire people by your sincerity......

[@Justinisinthebuildin]

You are an amazing person.

[@StephenTurnerVlogs]

Tom, fantastic video. I really am glad that you told your story, it's low, it's high and it's honest. Fair play to you, you have a friend you can talk to whenever you like. If KZbin ever get their act together tonight I'll get my story up. Go raibh maith agat, slán go fóill.

[@ivanty4]

You're such a wonderful person in such many ways. Don't ever let anyone bring you down again, you are strong and everything you've lived made you the person you are now. Im really glad you did this video, and sorry for my terrible english, mexican right here. Hope everyone get the meaning, and start being more open about how awful we feel when they make homophobic insults. It's 2011, things have got to change (: X

[@danmorrison36]

I love Liverpool accents and yours is amazing!

[@jordanjmvm]

oh bless, tom, your so influencial:)thanks for helping us:)x

[@nickmoore5245]

you are an amazing person, you sound like someone who is proud to be who they are, you have the most courage to stand up for who you are. You make me feel so happy to be gay, i look to you as a inspiration coming out at 16 just amazing. Your family sound like amazing people and i wish you the best in life, and i hope your dad does take you out for that drink. Another thing is that you were able to stand up for your mum as well, wow. I rarely shed tears but you made me tear up. Thank you.

[@mmmVIEWER1]

Amazing. Articulate. Thanks for sharing - I am sure this helped many

[@thoth1101]

Nice vid bro. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@ytlm]

This is just INSPIRING.

[@puyipopo]

Recieve a sincerelly big hug from me, a friend that you have in Costa Rica, Central America. Plese feel my support like I live in Liverpool, and be sure: I pray for you every day of my life!!

[@antoniochildres1]

What an amazing, honest, and very heartfelt coming out story. You should make more videos P.S Your cute

[@ButtHaver1993]

You're really awesome. Like you i left my rough homophobic school and went to a different college, i wasn't brave enough to come out in school though. (In hindsight i wish i did. Be proud of who you are guys, when i came out to my best friend it was probably the most relieving and hilarious moment of my life. Coming out has made me a stronger person, and i'm now less self-concious about other things that made me feel vulnerable. If anyone does need someone to talk to you can pm me too. :)

[@maohuerta]

You shouldnt even bother in hateful comments, You are blessed and perfect the way you are !

[@pashabigboy]

u r so amazing!!!!!!! love ur video and love u!!!! all the best!!!

[@13ktuz]

This was truly inspiring. The thing is I've come out to all my classmates and luckily enough they've all accepted me for who I am and they truly support me, some of my cousins know but I just haven't had the courage to tell my parents yet, A. because I'm afraid to get rejected and have that feeling of disappointment by them and B. because i truly cannot let my father know, he's just purely homophobic(he's was born in the 50s) :( I just hope I have the strenght to tell everyone

[@JoeCentraI]

Oh my gosh, it must've been EXTREMELY hard in a all boys catholic school. I loved hearing your story, it's sad but that's the reality of society |: .

[@bradberwick]

Why are all of these guys are so handsome?

[@gymbuilt]

You poor little cutie.....all those bad things you had to go through... i totally know what you mean and how you feel.. i went though the same.

[@13ktuz]

I just really fdind people like you unique, you make me feel special and be happy for who I am, but being rejected by part of today's society isn't what I want nor what I expected for my life. But I'm gay and I cant deny it, I cant lie to myself, It's just too much pain inside of me. and I'm sorry, for writing a wall of text on 2 comments :) You "made" me want to do it :) You are truly inspiring Tom, this video will help loads of people inculding myself :) you got a big Hug from me :)

[@dleimkuehler]

As Callum McNeill said, "Amazing video, Tom'!! Stay strong, and although you made this video a while ago, let us know how you are doing!! I would love to find out how wonderful your life gets!!! Love ya Davidxx

[@gladeNat3]

The whole reason why 'It Gets Better'. There are cute guys like this one out there

[@puyipopo]

Hi, my brother ... Be yourself; the fight its hard, but think one litlle thing: you are a unique person, GOD LOVES YOU.The best moment comes when peace stay in your heart; maybe your parents dont undestand you, but you have the right to be happy, full of love, WITH A LOVELY PERSON THAT GROW UP TOGETHER...... A big hug, from Costa Rica, Central America. :-)

[@guaponatisoy]

hi dude, ill support you, just be yourself.

[@dleimkuehler]

Sorry ran out of characters...I strongly feel that you are doing SO much good for young people or anyone..I grew up not having the internet or you tube I thought I was the only one in the world that liked boys!! So keep up the brilliant work, of spreading the word that WE did NOT choose this like we did not choose to be right handed...Good job my new friend David xx

[@Monkeynjun1]

Blatant and wonderful sharing. :)

[@MadisonStopp]

Im not homosexual, but i just want to say thank you! this is soo inspiring! and the world needs more people like you! you are truly an amazing person :)

[@rfw1503]

Great respect for you, Tom, from another older gay man. You have come through your troubles as a much stronger person, and things will get better. I have been with my gay partner for 50 years and we are accepted by all of our friends and family. Best wishes for a future full of love.

[@Grand7722]

you really do find out you is really there for you at a time like that, you was so brave to do what you did and i remember denying been gay for many many years but now i'm out i'm so happy lol i'm glad you came to terms with who you are :) and i know i don't know you but i feel proud of you lol :)

[@alanmanussuckscock]

Ur soo cute! Nice msg man, your m8 sounds like a right tool btw! Hugs from Northern Ireland. xxx

[@LLB411]

Bravo! I loved your video. I'm straight but grew up knowing a lot of LGBT adults. When I first heard of people having negative reactions to LGBT individuals, I was shocked because some of most caring individuals who were around when I was a child are gay. There is nothing wrong or abnormal about being gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, transgendered or straight. Loving someone is never wrong. Hate and ignorance are wrong. Tom, stand tall & be proud of who you are; I love & accept you unconditionally!

[@sharmen45]

i had tears in my eyes watching this. so much respect for you tom. the first time i went to a gay bar was in liverpool :) dunno if you've heard of g bar? twas a fun night out.

[@jamestapp7870]

Thanks Tom for your response. You know tomorrow is the anniversary of your posting your video and I have a strong feeling that a lot of your fans would agree with me and would appreciate another. You could cover things going on in your life during the past year. (things you wish to share) And things that still vividly stand out in your mind re school days. (Don't worry if it sounds like your repeating ) I think that your fans would agree when I say " we care about you Tom" How's that?

[@13THEMIS]

I am 18 and about to graduate and I am scared to Hell of coming out to my parents and these vidoes do make me feel a little bit better. However I still am afraid of loseing my family, because without them what do I have. P.S Tom you are Fucking Gorgeous just saying whats True

[@Hughjackman0719]

I got so inspired from you and can I just say you are a brave man. Congrats your family are so supporting you. I am preparing to come out to some of my close friends. wish my luck :) Btw, you are hot lol

[@BirchWeber]

Thank you!

[@CharlesCooper97]

Omg was staying near the beetles museum in Liverpool and I heard someone speaking and thought it was middle eastern or something :P

[@PaulBarwick]

What took you a while to learn, Tom, is that generally people will act like you expect them to act. We give off non-verbal clues, and people respond to them. When, after those false starts, you gained some confidence in yourself and expected others to accept you and it worked. Congratulations for coming out at 15. It took me until I was 25 or so before I worked up the courage to be myself. Yes, it does get better.

[@StephenTurnerVlogs]

How about how you got into dance and what your plans are? Your third year dancing video was great.

[@hhoward14]

When the Beatles first apeared on film and T.V. in the early 1960s, their "scouse" accents were very noticeable, even to Liverpool people, as so called "standard English" was considered the norm for the media, or authority figures. Ah well...

[@SteveWeaverIvyfield]

I know you posted this a year ago but Wow. You are TRULY inspirational. People who aren't gay think we choose this life. They don't understand. You've made a big contribution to erasing the myth that surrounds us gay guy's and girls. I don't want to sound patronising but I'm really proud of what you've posted here. Steve Weaver.

[@seanknights5076]

thank you

[@3732kenn]

I know it's awful, but I just love the term ''poof'' .. It reminds me of the movie called ''Billy Elliot'' But anyway. You are so beautiful, and I wish I knew you. Thanks for the amazing story! Stay strong

[@turnonstephon]

this is a very serious topic and situation but god your eyes are beautiful they look like Posiedon cried into you eye sockets you very handsome too but wow your eyes are really blue

[@Justinisinthebuildin]

I'm sixteen years old, I am from the US and I am gay. I have never chosen this and don't have to explain myself. Thank you for just really speaking truth here. People like you are my heroes and I am proud to be gay. I find myself smiling and laughing more. That is it. I'm finding myself.