Coming Out

For a video update of what happened after go here: • A Summer of Being Out:...
I love you guys. I just thought you should know. I wanted it to be and feel natural so I didn't do any editing except for adding something in at the end.
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[@MrIvorfan]

I so admire this young man’s courage. To my mind, one’s sexual orientation is similar to being right- or left-handed. Irrational homophobia causes so much psychological suffering and pain (as in Jacob’s case). This young man is NOT one of the world’s problems, but homophobia IS. On the EVIDENCE of the science of the matter, Jacob can no more change his sexual orientation than any of us can change the colour of our skins. With this I send a special comforting hug for you, Jacob.

[@michelinearthebise2783]

Bravo! Well said I agree 100%.

[@SteveFarmerMusic]

❤

[@marktaylor6581]

❤

[@VicuSan]

❤👏👏👌

[@frailjar7]

I feel like I'm seeing myself in the mirror. I'm 31. I have not come out yet to my family. But I have come out to my closest friends. I loved hearing this, Jacob!

[@brainstorm558]

this guy is so cute. is it possible not to love him ???

[@mikedennington8856]

ur right.

[@vallflorea2476]

his honesty makes him so adorable

[@Dako108]

But can he love himself after all the negative Christian indoctrination? Christianity is so removed from what Christ intended. So mean and narrow and heartless and just plain Godless.

[@josephadiaz8343]

♥️✌️😎🙏

[@davidolien2828]

You are an amazing human being. You have every right to be proud of who you are. The world is a better place because of your sincerity, your courage, your humanity . You are a gift to mankind.

[@KinLungh]

you are such a brave person! "I won't be silent any longer" -- words for the day

[@redhood8141]

Great words to live by

[@1616admiral]

I know your video is over a year old but I just saw it for the first time. I have so much respect and adoration for you that I'm not sure I can even put it into words. Thank you so much for sharing your story and such a pivotal moment in your life. This was so powerful I felt like you were talking directly to me. And all of the positive comments after just made this whole experience worth while. You truly made my night. God Bless and best of luck!!

[@KSai207]

Nice job... UBU I just came out at 48 this past February. *hugs*

[@GlynRobinson]

Kevin N. Saisi I’m 49 now and still can’t.

[@redhood8141]

Well, no Matter what age you guys are, just know that you are awesome and loved

[@josephblake1746]

Your kindness, honesty, and peace of mind will definitely inspire others. Loving one self is not always easy. You are a testament to goodness. You are REAL.

[@redhood8141]

@@josephblake1746 Well you are amazing yourself, hope you are doing well 😄

[@josephblake1746]

@@redhood8141 Thank you sir. I am well. One day at a time. I understand this fine young man and feel for him. He is handsome yes, outside. His heart yearns for so much more. My tears flow for him and now for you. We care, we try so hard, we give. We receive. Oh so much do we receive. Thank yoi.

[@markm6488]

I am 50yrs old now, and I come from the same background, so I can see just where you are are coming from. It makes me happy to see young people like you who have escaped from that prison, and have done it while they are still young. god bless you. ( the real God, not the one in peoples religion, the one that said love one another, as I have loved you.) mark

[@Tave100]

Jacob, You brought tears to my eyes. You are such a beautiful person outside, but most of all INSIDE. I hope you have people in real life you can talk to and celebrate who you are. All the best!!

[@donaldjohnson491]

JACOB -- Simple, quietly eloquent, direct, honest, and very moving. Good for you. I am a 70-year-old American now living in Great Britain. And yes, I love you back. -- Donald in Cardiff

[@user-jr2iu7ks3x]

You come across as a very sensitive person. I do not see how anybody could hate you for not being straight. My hope is that, in time, you will come to really love your sexuality and yourself. Big virtual hug.

[@bhmbos]

Jacob, the world is blessed with a honest person like you! I send you lots of love.

[@bonuccicris]

Of course I love you back! It couldn't be otherwise. Wearing your heart on your sleeve like you did on this video almost made me stretch my arms towards the monitor, wanting to hug you. I don't know if you're in a relationship at the moment, but if you are, he's the most fortunate guy on the planet.

[@weda0604]

The biggest problem is we've been told for our entire lives by the majority of society that we are wrong or improper. It's what makes it hard or awkward to say "I'm gay" even to ourselves. Time makes it easier to say that and be our true selves. It's truly amazing how many people really don't care, when you think about it. Maybe that was just my experience but I never would have imagined that of everyone I've told (many people), not one has been unkind or taken a distaste to my presence. I'm glad you're able to be out and true to yourself!

[@leotred]

Love from Holland! I am impressed by the way you express yourself, choosing and tasting your words as you move through your story. Beautiful. I wish you a fearless life!

[@KhenpoGurudasSunyatananda]

I am sure that your courage and your honesty will bring comfort and courage to many other young people. Thank you for this. You did an incredible and articulate job of being who you are. Anyone who fails to love that was never worth your love to begin with.

[@fneigh5]

This video sends out a message that is immortal, about love, about people and about acceptance. This video is a representation of everything I have hope for in this world. Thank you Jacob you are amazing. We love you.

[@Nomade857]

You have a friend in me. I know how this feels as have been there myself. Be proud of yourself !!

[@bradleyhays4218]

You have just spoken the words that have been going thru my head for so long. You are a beautiful person!!

[@alpinu]

Thanks a lot for this video and your honesty and courage. Big respect. It is impossible not to love you. Best wishes!

[@joelwatson5813]

Thank you for sharing with us. You are amazing and have such integrity. Your strength and all the positive comments are so encouraging. You did great. You keep being you and keep being honest with yourself.

[@4773266]

Dear Jacob, The most sincere, well spoken, and articulate “Coming Out” confessional I do believe I’ve heard from someone so young but at the same time mature and self confident. "Good on you” Jacob! I wish you love, fun, and happiness. Yours, Malcolm McKay, Nassau, The Bahamas

[@redhood8141]

I couldn't agree more. This was a great Comment

[@dab7963]

You are beautiful. So glad you came out.

[@vladimirradisic]

Wonderful and genuine human being: I love you.

[@CCGR-2024]

I love the color of your shirt, it suits you perfectly! Jacob, you are a beautiful person and I hope you found the right person to love you for who you are and not condemn you or judge you.

[@MrBradGangnon]

Happy National Coming Out Day 2016! I shared the story again this morning. :)

[@midashy97213]

I loved this video so much Jacob and I love you for making it to help others. In fact a week or so after watching it I came out on social media, first day of June, Pride month. I am 56 years old and knew I was Gay at 15 but due to some traumatic events in High School I stayed in the closet for 35 years. Came out to family at 50 and my best friend from HS at 55 and now everyone else at 56. Best thing I ever did. A huge weight lifted off my shoulders, finally being me for the first time in my life, out and proud.

[@TnDon]

This is a powerful statement delivered in a most effective way, young man. All stories of this genre should be presented this way. I'm now subscribed and will binge on all your videos until I know your whole story. Hope you're well and leading a fulfilling life in the intervening years. Don Hern from East TN.

[@mikejrexec]

Thank you for sharing your story. Very brave and deserving of so much love.

[@MichaelLee-bk2ii]

heyyyyy,buddy..thx for speaking out ur true feeling to us..it's really difficult..actually i guess things in China are more easily to be accepted..but anyway, we can't make all the people love us, and i'm sure no one can be loved by all..so,just keep being urself with ur courage, honesty, kindness, let people know we are worth "LOVE"!!

[@brianharvey6566]

I'M APPROACHING, THE BIG - 50 - Next Year and am Just Now Learning To Face this REALISATION, Myself :) You're So Brave Jake' & This Ole'Guy Sallutes You, for having the courage to Stand UP and be True to WHO You REALLY ARE *****

[@edwelty]

Thank you for sharing your story. How are you now? Hugs from Colorado.

[@richardnapper2074]

You are a doll! Be yourself, love you.

[@johndorman8743]

Jacob - I stumbled across this video when I was watching some other videos tonight. I am so glad to see you at an earlier time in your life as it gives me a glimpse into how you have become the extraordinary man that I know today. I am so glad that I know you and that I call you my friend, you dear, sweet man.

[@petervankeuren6644]

I am 81. I came out to my parents when I was 17. They were supportive. I am grateful. I wish you all the luck in the world.

[@ThinkItBig]

Jacob!!!! I'm so proud of you and I'm so glad everything is going well. This video brought tears to my eyes. I can just see how honest and genuine you are. I just wanted to give you a big fat hug! I wish you all the best and many great years ahead. Lots of Love from Atlanta, Wes

[@braggarmybrat]

When I finally came out to my family and friends, I could finally start to live. No more secrets or lies. I hope you can feel the weight has lifted, now you will live for you and those you love. And to those who can't love you back, well, good riddance. Leave them behind and find joy. Blessings to you brother...

[@pauljohnson8534]

One of the most moving and heartfelt coming out stories I have seen on KZbin.

[@dougtaua]

"…being gay make me, ME" I love that quote of yours. Sooo dope!

[@robcashman4767]

This video is one of the best descriptions of the coming out process. It took me 51 years to accept that I was gay, but I went through exactly what you describe.

[@JasonOnEarth]

This is awesome! I felt the exact same way. You are definitely accepted. Look around and see people's attitudes are changing for the better. May you be happy, Jacob. :-)

[@jamesrobiscoe1174]

Jacob -- You just now (2020) appeared on my screen and your face led me to listen to your story. Your voice was so tired fading, I'm sure you had comments and outreaches that could pull you up and set you on your feet again. I'd like to imagine you found a love and life since this video. I get a heartglow every time I hear a brother got through a period of emptiness. Love and light to you! -- New York James

[@mikewilson4377]

I accept you. Much respect to you. I hope one day before I die. I can tell people who I truly am. Hope things are going good for you. God Bless.

[@9940r024]

When I was around 8 years old I fell totally in love with my best male friend and stayed that way for at least another 10 years ! And that was in the late 1950’s into the 1960’s. Very difficult times for me.

[@xelakram]

I have great admiration for this young man. This video is from 2012, I notice. I do hope that he is well, enjoying life, and taking good care of himself. 👍

[@tonyyero7231]

57 now..came out at 18 years old. Never been easy! Just own it and be YOU buddy! Just that simple.

[@jigajigajumba]

Stay strong! You're strong and brave! :) Watching this video made me tear up. I understand what you're feeling. It takes courage and true self respect and loving to be able to do what you just did ^^ Love

[@rollydoucet8909]

I just found your video today, nearly eight years after you made it. I trust by now, that your well past the uncertainties and enjoying a productive, rewarding life. I also hope you're in company of good friends, and still close to your family.

[@zaktalentedandbravesaab9028]

I keep watching ur video over and over and over i feel ur pain as u spoke i saw the fear but most of all u were brave my man u have a brifht future ahead of u enjoy it and eye love you with all mh being god bless u my son 💖

[@opuscat999]

Jacob, we KNOW how hard it is to say those words. Congratulations for your bravery.

[@CraigMcArthur]

Wiping the tears from my eyes as I type. Thanks so much for being so open and honest. I got the feeling this wasn't originally meant to be shared publicly. That is was for a select audience (your family?). Not sure how it went out, but thanks. Me, similar things happened 30 years ago. Things haven't changed. It (was and is) so hard to tell the ones you love that you are not as you seem. Respect.

[@calebjackson789]

I have watched many coming out videos, but yours touched me the most out of them all. Even as an out guy, this video made me cry. You put so much emotion in this video. Thank you for posting it, not for me, but for others who haven't found the strength yet.

[@aloneinatx4869]

Jacob, aside from your honesty and sincerity, your very handsome and you make me wish I was about 30 years younger, :-) Your honesty is very attractive along with everything you spoke on. Jacob you are much loved. Thank you for a wonderful video!

[@JacobThomasMPLS]

That is awesome to hear! I am so glad you can be comfortable and love who you are. I do now too! It just took me a whole lot longer.

[@rickrockefeller1367]

Good guy... just be happy with who you are.. Life is a celebration and you are SO worthy of Love and acceptance. HUGS>

[@cardoman87]

Wow! I felt goosebumps!!! The way you speak to the camera and the way you show your feelings really got me. I could feel your despair and your need to show the world who you are without hiding and without faking... Seeing you like that makes me want to hug you, to show you there are people that can accept *you*, however you are. You seem like a sensitive, beautiful human being and i'm sure someday you'll find the man of your dreams. Greetings from Argentina!

[@ManuelCarlAngelinoGustafsson]

The way you touched my heart... was like no one else before

[@JChrisTurner1234]

I am just now finding and watching this video some 9 years after you made it. I hope you have prospered and done well since. You really touched my heart and it reminded me of how hard it was for me when I was growing up in a small town and school.

[@MEVMontana]

Jesus Jacob! It’s 2020 now but your video is still fresh and encouraging. I admire the straightforwardness of your thoughts and speech. It really would have made a difference for me if I had run into videos like yours earlier. I think your genuine honesty will make a difference for me. So thanks a lot and good wishes to you. Martin

[@mattld12]

I love you too!

[@joechesal4062]

Good for you, Jacob ! Congratulations on your coming out story, and your very personal story you shared so openly and beautifully. You are now free, and owe no explanations to anyone. You are who you are and you are loved. If there are haters, they are the losers for not getting to know you and love you as you are. You are courageous, very sweet, honest, handsome, and very lovable, and I hope you have a fantastic life just being YOU ! Yay, Jacob ! !

[@jwb9020]

Way to go! I waited until I was 41 to come out. Even got married and had 2 kids thinking it would just go away. Your story touched my heart as it sounded just like mine during my early and teen years. You have to feel like a huge weight has been lifted from your shoulders.

[@jasonwright8324]

Thank you for sharing your coming out experience. It was honest and from the heart and it took a great deal of courage. I hope you have been able to find peace and comfort within yourself and with those who are important to you.

[@mikewalker161]

Wow... what a coming out story... those emotional pauses were riveting. How can you not love this guy!

[@stickelickan]

love is love , it is not different, love comes from the heart! Do NOT even THINK that is something wrong! It is pure love what you are feeling!! We love for who you are! RESPECT to you!

[@serhankara8163]

What an amazing answer. I am lost in my thoughts. Thank you both

[@Tripper111]

Great job Bro.....that was seriously deep and genuine. I went thru something very similar with coming out to myself. After coming out to myself it got a lot better and I realize I am a great person too and that's all that matters. Take care buddy

[@basil1906]

i know how you feel. i had my coming out with 28. only a few month ago. its so hard at the beginning and it gets easier. im still working with it and beeing proud of myself. its so amazing beeing able to stop hating yourself, for something you cannot change.

[@Megamike073]

All the videos I've seem this last few day's all the guy's (generally from USA) are all adorable and hope they are having a wonderful life since uploading. X

[@loris2292]

Greetings Jacob from Nice in the South of France 🇫🇷 I've just watched your very touching coming out video and I just wanted to let you know that you are a beautiful human being and you deserve to be loved, and you must never put yourself down and never for one minute think that you don't deserve love. And if people can't accept you for who you are that is all on them and not you. I remember before I came out to my very religious family while I was at college and away from home and actually contemplating suicide and reading up so much about ending my life as for year's I was taught that being gay was so wrong especially within my strict Muslim faith and I was so incredibly heartbroken that I was going to die in my college apartment al alone. And to this day I really can't remember were I got the strength to go home one Saturday and tell my parents I'm Gay and I love them and hoped that their religious beliefs would allow them to love me back as I did them. Anyway 1 year later I'm still here a much happier person and feel so good that my ultra religious parents accepted me for who I am, we hugged and cried so much and for the very first time in my life my father told me that he loved me and his love for me was far more important than what religion had taught him. Watching you coming out brought all the emotions I felt rushing back to me, and I really just wanted to hug you so much. Just watching this made me cry and has shown me already that you are a very special person and I wish you all the love in the world take care and please accept my virtual hugs for across the miles 💕

[@GrimbleBrad]

I really felt your hesitation there....god I know that feeling. You're an amazing guy and you had a shit load of courage to do that. Nothing to worry about. You're an inspiration :D

[@HPfan18]

You deserve all the love in the world from the people in your life. When I think about living my life, I think about it like you do, living everyday and treating everyone with love and compassion. We all deserve the same love and compassion. Measure your life in love!

[@jeroengortworst9994]

Thanks so much, I think your story is very inspiring. I subscribed! I realized when I made my own coming out video, I should be so lucky to have so many supportive people around me. I wish you all the best!

[@OneFortified]

Thank you for sharing this! I related a lot to your story in many ways, fighting an internal battle and coming to the conclusion that it's not something that I can change. I came out recently and I have found that is getting better. Being open and honest about who you are is one of the best feelings.

[@okroy1]

Congrats, I hope you have the happiest life you can have. I was the same age when I came out and haven't regretted one minute. It made me feel alot better about myself and happier about who I am.

[@edgarmayorga8419]

This is just one of the many parts of him. Well done, I can sense your courage through the screen and an unstoppable force inside of you.

[@PsychoJerk810]

I really admire your strength and bravery. I seriously almost cried, out of happiness than you could accept yourself and out of sadness that we in some people eyes will longer be looked on as human. But times flows on and the sands are changing, which makes be hope for a better future. Thank you for your story.

[@pump066]

Very moving video Jacob, I hope everything's well with you and the people you love can love you back! We've all gone through the same thing and even you will see it gets better.All the best and lots of love from Sweden!

[@TheSmilecamera]

Excellent video. Liked the way you emphasized you won't back down of who you really are to the haters.

[@kontact666]

You're the brightest person ever. You're sweet, kind, gentle. I really admire you. What a beautiful human being you are! You're worthy of best things. And I'm thankful for your coming out.

[@jeffc3339]

You are such a wise man. Your story is so touching. Only good things can happen now you accept yourself.

[@mike35273527]

Such a great guy. Thank you for sharing to help others. You are going to have an amazing life.

[@garygreely7782]

Much, Much love sent to you. You be your authentic self, and love yourself. Coming out is never easy as some may think, but you did it publically and you can be proud of yourself.

[@mattthompson1659]

Thank you soooo much for sharing the beautiful person that you are with us. I applaud your bravery and will support you if no one else does. We are people and deserve love and respect. You have both from me. Congratulations and Good Luck!

[@delightglow]

What a beautiful heartfelt message. I admire you so much for being brave and accepting who you are. I'm sure you will find so many who admire and love you. Have a great life and be proud of being honest and liking yourself.

[@stdbiu26]

i just watched your coming out video and it seemed very emotional for you, you will feel much better with yourself for your honesty and will help others as well you are a beautiful young man and i hope you get all you want in life thanks kerovac xxx

[@rayhouse1434]

Who was the coming out too. Looks and sound's like it was for a special person. Very proud of you. Such a handsome young man. Live life to the full. Enjoy your new life..

[@JasonOnEarth]

This is a lot how I used to feel about myself. Great coming out story, Jacob. Thanks for sharing a part of yourself and you help encourage others to be genuine with themselves and others as well. It feels good to be who you were born to be. Peace and take care.

[@joshuameach3227]

Amazing story of you Jacob… your story really touch my heart. my tears drop because of the emotion of you that express that you want every one to accept who you are. you're wonderful person, smart, and beautiful human. Much love.

[@joshuahoward6845]

Glad you didn’t cut out the moments that show you being real and emotional. I grew up in a conservative religious family. I didn’t come out until 21 and the struggle is real. Even after coming out. Hope 7 years later you are happy and at peace with yourself. Much love to you. Glad you’re in the family ♥️🌈

[@bbj2captain]

So many people identify with your story, including myself. Everything you said is exactly what others and myself feel before coming out. It's a great feeling finally being able to fit into your own skin! I hope I am as articulate when I come out to my parents.

[@iluvium]

You will be praised and cherished and have lots of fun and LOVE!

[@InSomeWaysYes]

Good for you! It was a long journey for me accepting myself too, but am happier than ever for it. You should never be ashamed of who you are. Greetings from the UK.

[@bajrsgord]

Jacob, I could have made this exact video back when i was your age but there was no internet, no real videos, no real way of "coming out" like this. I too hated myself, prayed/bargained with God to take it away. Of course that's not possible. Growing up back then was so different than now so I never came out. Never have found that love, never will. Sex with a woman is not who or what I am. So sad and so depressed all my life as a result. I am proud of you and for you and wish you nothing but the best!

[@indiangiverxoxo]

Jacob, you are a very brave, loving, strong, and caring person. I absolutely understand your terror in not being able to get "that" feeling to go away. I am NOT out and hate myself every single day because I cannot defeat this feeling. I have thought of suicide, but rejected that idea as weak. But, I am so happy that you are free and able to release a pressure that confined your heart for so many years. When I am brave enough, when I can love myself ... I, too, will be as brave as you. God Bless

[@BENITOHERNANDEZ75]

Great job in sharing your story. I watched it all because it felt very genuine and honest,open. I'm sure you feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. I'm sure you'll inspire and give strength to other. Your a good looking guy and I think people will love you and will find you have more friends. Chin up and keep sharing you experiences, good or bad.

[@simon2077]

So 9 years later at 31 we need an update. Hopefully you found a good match. I'd admire anyone who accepts would they are. I hope your realize your dreams & I love you too. Two things as you go through life. Always keep your credit clean & always tell the truth. People respect that.

[@alex8pearl]

This is the first time I have listened to you.You will never be hated by me but Loved.I feel the pain.YOU ARE VERY REAL.God loves you

[@samgsea]

Reminds me of my first couple of coming out videos. It's so much better that your time to come out was 16 years earlier in life than mine. Awesome.

[@loboboy5113]

Great! You are amazing!!! It took me 24 years to come out, and it's true there are family, and friends who don't want you anymore, but most people do...I love you! Your message is great!!!