it's always about a boy

[@juliaayers111]

listen to my podcast!🌞 www.youtube.com/@dualityoflifepodcast/videos

[@ardishafdahl8296]

The journey is never final; and look at those short relationships as “I’ve gained something from them”….experience in life. Heck - I’m 65 and still enjoying all the different things that life has to offer. Be gentle with self judgement…you are who you are and there is not a single thing wrong with that. You are one of a kind kiddo and I so enjoy these talks ❤

[@mazemary8360]

I have to admit that I don't really care about the lighting or camera quality of your videos, I'm only here for the good vibes around food and your creativity overall :D but I'm glad you're happy with it

[@kyl5005]

Strong 'independent women' who dont like to be attached to or depended on a man, usually end up becoming the exact thing they don't want to be, emotionally. I found this out too from experience. I always vowed never to rely on a guy and my life was always the most influenced by them in hindsight. And i always found myself to be unstable and losing myself whenever i was in a relationship. And i was never truly happy or feeling whole in them. And now I'm in a place where i know i can always rely and depend on another and deep down i crave to, and now somehow i dont find myself to be controlled by emotions about a man. Anymore. And ive been single for the longest time in my life and its actually been better. We always tend to become the exact thing we fear and try to run away from. Julia and i think i see that in you too.

[@alyssal7004]

You’re humbleness and transparency is what helps others in soo many ways. The private thoughts and moments you share definitely helps those who are currently struggling, align there own life. 🙌🏼🙏🏼❤️

[@tonisharp8747]

The art you have of making something out of minimal ingredients is a super hero skill that I wish I had ❤

[@not-a-ghost2206]

Julia our twenties are about finding ourselves. Doesnt matter, if you do it with a boy or alone -the most important thing is knowing and trusting yourself 🙃✨ i love watching your videos wether you laugh or cry because you always have some wisdom to share 🌱🍄💗🌈 the part what you said to leave your inner voice behind and learn to work with it - i needed this right now.

[@net_marie3153]

I think it's amazing that you just shuffled the Island around and dealt with all the consequences. I get scared all the time and don't try stuff. Keeps me save but stuck.

[@inglenook220]

I love the new island position! You're right that the lighting is beautiful. Also, try Yemi Alade for your African playlist. 🙂

[@Rootedinunwaveringlove]

I love love love your authenticity and vulnerability and ability to relate with people and put them at ease. You're crowned with steadfast love and mercy and so loved by God and me!! You're appreciated!!

[@juliaayers111]

Awe thank you love, this brought tears to my eyes! I'm so grateful to share and connect with so many beautiful souls on the internet💛

[@Rootedinunwaveringlove]

@@juliaayers111 you're so very welcome and thank you love! You deserve all the peace and happiness and joy in the world! Don't ever let the world especially men make you doubt your worth and identity. You are so worthy. 💕

[@soverydari558]

This is my favorite vlog ever!!! Love the honesty. Also. Great choice on moving the island, it looks stunning

[@tan.te.3835]

Agree, watch you since way back and this makes def top 5!

[@AprilLuck-b7g]

I would cover a few windows to help with the lighting and use a colorful tapestry for decor. Also, some fabric and velcro to hide the stuff under your counters. I love the color of your bathroom.

[@AlysiaP]

I loved the talk at the end so real and it’s great to laugh at ourselves because it’s just great lol and it’s important to not judge ourselves so hard we may read deep into things but no need to feel bad about it at alllll love u always from USA😊💕🫶🏾💫🌎sending love and light ☀️🤙🏾

[@juliaayers111]

I completely agree!! There are so many opinions in the world and when we think about those we feel bad about the choices we make. I want to be my biggest support and care taker. I'm very aware of myself but I think life is to short to not just say "F it" sometimes lol!🏄🏻‍♀️💕

[@juliaayers111]

Hi loves! Drop me a question for and up an coming Q&A video💛✨🥰

[@kaitlynngutierrez310]

How do you navigate death cycles and the fear that arises from it?

[@coralandersson]

I'm curious if being in South Africa has had some sort of influence on your veganism? Do you it easier or more difficult to be vegan in ZA? Are there any foods you've had to give up or introduce more of? Also, are you planning to explore more of ZA at aome point?

[@gerukatze]

Hey Julia, loved this video so much♥️ are you going through a break up right now? Did something happen?🙈 sending you much love 🫶 Also you motivated me to try out a yoga class 😊 thank you 🙏🏼

[@Lena.Sanftmut]

Do you miss your friends sometimes? And what is it about South Africa that you love so much? :)

[@gerukatze]

Are you going to make more videos about yoga 🧘‍♀️?

[@theplant-basedgypsy7376]

Ouff the part on finances really hit home for me, thanks for validating my financial situation, thank you for your authenticity, always 🙏🏼❤️

[@kathleenbell2832]

I agree with keeping the kitchen in that layout, not only because the lighting is nice but the open feel seems more you, room to dance around and have fun while cooking!

[@juliaayers111]

I totally agree!☺️💛✨

[@shannonrobertson1473]

I almost yelled “YES, YOU SHOULD TRY” at the screen 😂 So sorry it was so stressful, ugh. It looks amazing though!!! ❤

[@ホクホクタイガー]

It is making so much sense… boys takes us places😂 at least sometimes they are a good influence 😂

[@exohJackayyy]

I love the new counter setup it looks really nice!

[@mmschwartz84]

You are brave! I love how you are just unapologetically yourself all the time. It is why I continue to watch everything you put out into the world. I am happy that you are growing and learning through the ups and downs of life. Every choice we make is what brings us to where we are right now... and even if you thought you made the wrong choice somewhere along the way, that choice may have been necessary for you to end up where you are supposed to be. I believe in destiny, or what others call fate. People come into your life for a reason. Keep living and loving with your whole heart ❤️

[@rcyvgrcyvg3122]

I love love love the new set up can’t wait for all the new delicious yummy recipes videos 🥰🥰. Hoping the next guy takes you to Dubai 😅 just a little humor to laugh. We love you so much Julia 🥰🥰🥰

[@TreeHugginT]

I don't think there's anything wrong with how you live your life. You're allowed to have one lover for the rest of your life or as many as you want.

[@brittanypulver7184]

I have a breakfast/dessert recipe for you to try 😊 Peanut Butter Bars: 1/2 cup coconut oil One cup real maple syrup 1tsp vanilla Salt Heat in pan until all melted then add 1 cup of powdered peanut butter Mix for a minute then add 2 cups oats Sprinkle with salt and chocolate chips Refrigerate bars

[@hannahmauersberger1280]

your videos comfort me more than you can imagine

[@nelly.alqaisi]

so funny. i get it. My breakup also pushed me to travel finally!

[@ingridjansson4284]

Whose the next boy and where are you gonna take them?! Lol sorry to here the boy is out of the picture, must have missed that in another video or something. That apartment is quirky and reminds me of apartments I lived in that had really beautiful elements but were also really dysfunctional or just plain ugly in parts too. The standard of living in hawaii is pretty low for most people because its so expensive. If the rent is cheap I think you've got the bones of a good apartment. If you're there long enough you can improve it little by little. Get friendly with the landlord about making improvements, you'd be surprised what they'll let you do if you provide the labor. I had a landlord that would let me do all kinds of improvements and he would pay for the materials too.

[@kaitlynngutierrez310]

Oh Julia, you always uplift my Spirit. Thank you for being a shining light 💗 Hope to walk a path with you in another lifetime that isn't on video lol

[@UNLABELED_UN-NAMED]

Love you Julia. Keep on being YOU. 🫶

[@TheMinlou]

south africa is one of my bucket list trips. i'll get there soon

[@Kleigh8484]

Julia, THANK YOU! Thank you for being so real. Thank you for sitting through the discomfort that comes with being brave so that we feel seen. You are amazing and I can't tell you how much it helps to know we aren't alone in this world, we are all the same, going through the ups and downs of life. This video deserves a million views and you deserve all the amazing things that will find their way to you x

[@addierathjen2325]

I truly love every single one of your videos, but this one really hit home for me! From watching you living in your tiny apartment in Canada and going on all of your adventures with all of your boys, all of the videos you created have all been equally important to me and my mental health journey! ❤

[@brittanyrossi8662]

look into getting a led plant light. I grew my own herbs under mine. It was my first successful grow indoors and it didn’t take too long.😊

[@asanelekoyana]

Have you done the garden route Julia? Have you tried going to limpopo, Mpumalanga, Nanaga in the Eastern Cape🥺🥺 please travel within South Africa, you’ll discover the beauty of this Country🥺

[@juliaayers111]

Yes I really want to do the Garden Route so badly!! I'm currently renting a crappy little car so I can't do it with that, but I'll ban up with some friends and make it happen💛

[@deborasermier7480]

Your videos are so calming to me and I always come to find inspiration to nourish myself through your cooking and your words! Do you mind sharing the brand of your yellow crockpots? They're so beautiful!!

[@marileigh9913]

You are an Amazing woman Julia.I hope you are documenting all your experiences. Would make a beautiful book😊

[@juliaayers111]

This is so divine, I never thought about writing a book but over the last month I feel the universe pushing me to start writing with that intention✨ maybe one day far in the future it'll come to be🌞

[@wisewords9913]

Amazing ending 😂🤌🏻 its life and u are doing no wrong ❤️😘

[@sarahlev7169]

It's always soo fun to watch your videose Julia, I always feel better going out then I did going in 🥰🥰 Your good heart is radiating through the screen! Kisses from Israel ❤

[@juliaayers111]

Awe thank you my love, I'm sending so much love to you're side of the world💛

[@tayanareckziegel]

And time after time you can do things differently and experience new adventures! I love following you and seeing part of your growth, Julia! You inspire me a lot! I would like to know if you find it easy to make friends while traveling and living in new places. If you ever come to Brazil, I would love to meet you, my friend ❤

[@BooksAndTempeh]

Love a self aware queen.

[@gerukatze]

You are my favorite KZbinr ever ♥️ love these vlogs where we get to know more about you 🫶☀️ also it’s great how spontaneous you are. I’m also planing to move to another country for my boyfriend. I think it opens opportunities to learn more and explore what maybe we wouldn’t have done on our own. Especially as a women you think twice about where you travel alone to 😅

[@Amatory0]

been following you since you had 1.5k subs! this is one of my favorite videos of yours, and honestly i love them all. you're always so honest, kind, and insightful. and you're not alone, i feel like a lot of my bigger steps in life were either with/because of a man, or directly following a breakup. i think it's less about who we are with or that we are with someone, and more that our loneliness is satiated for the timebeing because of said partner, so we feel freer to do and experience other things. or on the opposite end of the spectrum, a surge of more arousing/intense emotions post-breakup will usually spur actions/change of some kind. does that make sense? plus doing difficult things (like travel) is general much easier when you have someone to rely on!

[@snoopy.358]

Please just be yourself! I love you always 🧡

[@annmariekuhn1975]

I also hate washing my hair

[@ingridjansson4284]

I 100% feel you about being I guess priced out of Canada. I'm nearly priced out of the place that I am from and thats really frustrating. I actually make what a lot of people would consider a decent income but its just not enough for here to live well. But I really don't want to leave.

[@behappybefreelc4107]

The soap goes in the bag and you wash with it.

[@alexanderrhynd1866]

Im curious who the African musician is. On the subject of it's always about a boy. I'm curious if you ever heard the song California by Joni Mitchell. It's a song about her longing to be back in California but I think you'll be able to relate. As somebody who also lived a nomadic life for quite a while I had a time where I thought it was always about a girl. Then I came to the conclusion that I was just very open to everything life had to offer and that included love and intimacy with other people. Did they bring me places did I bring them places was I on their path where they are my path who the heaven knows, but it was amazing and I wouldn't change it. If I did I wouldn't be me now. When I stopped in a place that finally felt like home I also met a woman who felt like home. And I know for a fact the last 22 years have been 50% about her. Even the bad times have been amazing. So for me the moral of the story is sometimes it's about a boy sometimes it's about a girl but it's always about you exploring moving forward learning and loving who you are. If there's love drifting on the breeze sometimes you have to drift with it other times you have to let it blow you away from it. But all the time the constant is you you're always right there right then where you should be. And if there's another boy next month don't be too hard on yourself because God willing they will be another boy next month over whenever you're ready for it. Either way have a beautiful day sister!

[@juliaayers111]

I forgot to link the playlist, but it is now in the description, his name is Johnny Clegg! Awe thank you for this comment and sharing, I love hearing peoples stories and the adventures others have been on, it lights my heart up!💛 I am definitely someone that is very open to life and just want the most out of it, so I say YES whenever I can. I just find so much beauty in allowing life to carry me places. If it weren't for that and ( yes another boy lol ) I wouldn't be a KZbinr! I'm grateful all the adventures, love, heart breaks, lessons and beauty this life has offered me so far at the age of 24.✨ Have a beautiful day, I appreciate your support!!

[@emiliaowen2387]

YAY! another video! i loved this one, i just find your videos so soothing. you made my day!

[@juliaayers111]

Thank you for your endless support, I love you💛

[@KashafQureshi-wd2io]

U are an amazing soul.. ❤

[@VanessaAide]

I’d love to see if you knock on doors and ask if they can teach you their favorite meal to cook and record the interaction and the process, may need an interpreter with u and the goal set in stone since you might need to knock on a few doors to find kind people 😅

[@luisafernandasalcedorojas9720]

I love the recipes and recipes thanks for you content 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊

[@kim1720]

The artist, Johnny Clegg, has passed away a few years ago. His son, Jesse Clegg, has taken of his legacy, so feel free to look up his music too. I saw him twice, he was absolutely amazing!!❤ Google the meaning of the words as well.

[@juliaayers111]

Johnny is the artist in my playlist!! I love his music so much and will look up his son💛

[@dayneandjo]

I just love you 🧡

[@allisonpellerin937]

You’re my favorite 💖

[@gwendolyn9997]

thank you, this made me laugh

[@LeeLuvsTea]

I actually like your new set up better,, I think you did a good job!! I was scared about your washer though when you did that, I just didn't want you to get electrocuted or hurt!!!

[@appolineclerc9506]

Hey « next boy », take her to France ! Haha just kidding, always a pleasure to see you upload a video 🤩😘

[@edenmalka1379]

How do you get unstuck? it seems like you are always in movement and have courage to travel alone, tips and thoughts on that please💛

[@miriamk2354]

not sure if your visa situation would allow it but maybe you could get part time work in SA. It would give you something to do during the day and maybe you can record it for content.

[@naturesweety]

That is most definitely a dish rack. I own one myself exactly like that. Would you ever consider South America? I've always wanted to move to Ecuador. It is such a beautiful country.

[@juliaayers111]

Lol that is so funny! Well I'm glad I brought it back to its original purpose 👏🏻✨ Honestly I'm trying to figure that out! For now my heart feels like it's supposed to be here!

[@naturesweety]

@@juliaayers111 Always follow your heart!! 💖💖 Glad I could help ya with the rack ☺️ Enjoy your Friday!!

[@JessShort]

Maybe you were actually the muse… inspiring them to invite you on adventures that would have never happened had you not been part of the equation. 🤷🏻‍♀️ 🤗 I like to think you were the reason they traveled and not the other way around. #longtimesubscriber

[@juliaayers111]

Awe this is very sweet!💛 It took two, so both are true ✨

[@amyquest9485]

Are you still with your boyfriend I haven't heard anything ❤

[@sg6319]

❤❤❤

[@pragyahindol9892]

Please start posting daily....

[@debbiecs1964]

So you’re no longer with the boy that brought you to Africa? I commend you for being honest and transparent. When I was single i made a promise to myself that I will not move for a boy unless we’re already engaged. I came close many times to breaking that promise because I thought he’s the one. By God’s grace and His protection and love for me those relationships ended before I did anything. God had a better plan for me than I ever had for myself and I can’t see that now. I didn’t see that when my heart was breaking but hindsight is the best teacher. Now that I’ve had so many lessons I apply that to anything that now comes my way. When you know God and His character you can trust Him with your life. The best thing I could have done was to love Him 1st which I didn’t, hence all the heartbreak.

[@franzi.2823]

one thing that keeps popping up: you should wash your lentils before adding them to your pot 😊

[@juliaayers111]

lol I know this and honestly it's just out of laziness 😂 But thank you, you are 100% right!

[@franzi.2823]

@@juliaayers111 haha I feel you! 😄 but we’re trying to lead by example 💪🏻👏🏻

[@sarehmahdloo]

Ly😘

[@SticksnStones9]

really? I feel like it was never about boys

[@notcountingsheep3361]

Ahaha then you haven't been paying attention to her videos for years.

[@purseypurslane]

Just live alone for awhile!!!!!!!!!!!! Why always the boy, does he pay most of the rent, etc.? Or is he living off you? All that bed hopping can't be good. neither physically nor mentally. Travel solo, you may surprise yourself!

[@mazemary8360]

Is there a way to directly support you financially for people who are able to? I luckily don't struggle with money, but with food and my body and you have helped quite a bit with that (and I'm sure I'm not the only one). So I feel like it might be a good opportunity to give something back.

[@fayeh1441]

The ending wasn't clear, are you single now?

[@mastandstars]

Julia, here’s a nice comment I’m leaving for you: I hope you have an amazing day ❤️

[@lisao2416]

We're all figuring stuff out ... and i can tell you, you've got several things figured out really well that it will take other people years to learn. You work consistently, you show up on camera comfortably just as you are, you're effortlessly creative in the kitchen, and you know how to nourish your body well. It takes some people an entire lifetime to learn only one of those things. 🫶❤

[@sunnygirl5467]

Didn't think I would like the island better this way, but when the light hit it...🥹 so are you living alone in that apartment atm? Also I'm very impressed by your ability to let life and destiny guide you, the places you ended up in are just so cool and unique☺️