opening my heart to you | dating + visas + spirituality + family trauma ( cozy Q&A )

Hi friends and welcome to this cozy Q&A🌞 I currently growing inside my cocoon and feeling so deeply loved, connected and true to myself. I'm so grateful you found your way here and we can connect more deeply💛
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[@juliaayers111]

listen to my podcast! 🌞 www.youtube.com/@dualityoflifepodcast/videos

[@Thejennmachine]

I don’t think a relationship ending is shameful. There are a million different reasons they end for anyone. It’s a part of life

[@juliaayers111]

It shouldn’t be, but for some people it is💛

[@mmschwartz84]

Julia, your relationship with your mother is eerily similar to my own relationship with my mom. Toxic is a great word to describe it. I grew up a very anxious and hypervigilent child/teen... always walking on eggshells around my mom. Her moods were so volatile and unpredictable. My dad, brother, and I were her verbal punching bags. The level of emotional abuse we endured caused so much damage. I never learned what a healthy relationship looked like, or how to navigate my own emotions. Like you, I just wanted someone to show me the love and respect I knew I deserved. At the age of 40, I have begun piecing together the puzzle pieces of my life bit by bit with the help of a counselor and family members who know my experience to be truth. I am so sorry you had to go through what you had to go through. I have learned that it is not our fault. In my case, my mom has a narcissistic personality and that will never change. I also find myself either creating distance and not talking to her, or getting sucked back into communication in which I allow myself to overshare at my own expense. It is a challenge, but be proud of the fact that despite having a dysfunctional parent, you haven't let it stop you from becoming the person you want to be and following your dreams. I love you❤

[@Lena.Sanftmut]

I have deep compassion for the part of you that feels shame when a relationship breaks up. I thank you very much though for sharing it with us so openly (so far), because I experience it as a great gift. For us women out there who feel this shame too well too...

[@aleksandra5240]

Girl, you are giving me so much calm, love to here your voice and your perspectives on life ❤

[@Ana-Maria-CJ]

Thank you, Julia, for respond at my questions about relationship with my mom and also with my food. Even if I wasn't a subscriber, you respond me. I appreciate that! Now I subscribed to your channel. Be blessed because you speak so courageous about your life and God. Sorry for the weird words, I'm not native in english, I'm roumanian

[@tan.te.3835]

Pls share the Namibia content. I am here since your car camping and mostly like the travel content, so I would be super happy!

[@May-mp4mi]

ur literally so inspirational and calm, I love u sm aaaaa & this rlly helped a lot

[@user-vn6xo2tc9r]

Loved this!!! ✨🧡🧡

[@mastandstars5869]

I liked hearing what you had to say in your video. I hope you have a beautiful day ☀️

[@emiliaowen2387]

YAY another video! love ya girl!

[@juliaayers111]

Love you tooo!! Thank you☺️💛

[@May-mp4mi]

LOVEEEE ur website & ur recipes tho!!!,😍

[@eliottlucas5813]

You are such a beautiful person ❤ I love you Julia ❤ and there's no shame in your love journey, love however whenever you want

[@rachelreynolds0430]

i'm in my forties and it has taken me basically this long to realize how many relationships are really meant to last for a season , even if that season lasts for years, and not necessarily meant to last "forever" . you learn and you grow and you come into yourself. and i totally agree, there's no need for the shame that is put upon people and women specifically. 💛

[@silviachini6464]

Always magical listening to you, love your energy 🌼 have you ever thought about organizing retreats or something like this? Having deep conversations, cooking delicious and nourishing food, connecting with nature 🌿🧡 I think you could do great

[@May-mp4mi]

THIS WAS SO WHOLESOME🥹

[@numivis7807]

watching this while wearing the white glass earrings I bought from you 2 or 3 years ago! not sure if you remember. But i love them and get so many compliments for them, so yessss to the idea of making more !!

[@Lena.Sanftmut]

Yes I have mine too! There are sooo beautiful.

[@taymaeeeee]

You are such a beautiful person Julia 💜

[@juliaayers111]

Thank you for your kindness 💛

[@kaitlynngutierrez310]

Thank you, sis. 💗

[@juliaayers111]

Grateful to share 💛

[@edwardleecaliforniausa]

Hi Julia happy Thursday afternoon to you and I enjoy your channel and you are amazing supporter happy 1st day of summer

[@tammycockerham7122]

Julia, I feel the same way because I’ve been through five relationships and I’m not perfect but most of the time it was on the guys and I’m not gonna sacrifice my happiness anymore so that’s why I’m like you bow out

[@luisafernandasalcedorojas9720]

Hola julia amo tu video se ve que eres una persona muy linda y con un corazón muy bueno 🎉❤🎉❤ me alegras mi vida con tus videos 😊😊😊😊

[@myperspective772]

Youre in SA now?!🙀Im from here!!!!😍🥰🤗im so excited you love it all and are planning to stay for a while.

[@nadialeeabu]

not sure if it's just me but the links aren't working. I think there's a way to make a page that's hosted on amazon that has everything linked? loved the video (: (:

[@juliaayers111]

My apologies, the links should be working now💛

[@juliasilveira2541]

💗

[@marileigh9913]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@yap4808]

I know we say for each their own,but i dont get the -i dont need a man-move. I want to find my husband, the father of my children and the one i live happily with till the end of time. Sure there are a lot of bad men out there, but so are woman. We were born to complete each other, because each side brings a lot with it. I dont want to have to "be a man" just because..im a woman/girl we are the fragile one of both sides,we need our counterpart. And i will NEVER give my dream up,that i had since being a little girl, dreaming of a healthy,calm and happy household with my husband on my side-thats like throwing my inner child to the trash😢. We as woman have to go through a lot, but we cant give up and just throw all men into a bucket, the same men shouldn't do with us. I always say-you get what you give-.i cant and wont give up on hope or my future❤

[@kb5538]

It's so refreshing to read this comment

[@yap4808]

@@kb5538 AMEN! To this🫶🏼 nice to hear this, i think someone was cutting onions😅 but yes, hope is the last thing we should loose, living hopeful and in love is something i cant describe. I lost myself years ago and in all i went through,i found the way back to myself again,i had to learn a lot, because i didnt know how much i was worth it as a woman. I didnt loose hope to get to better days, and thank god i did make it and im proud of myself..i had to grow and learn everything by my own. And after all of this years, the thing i learned is, if i had to go through such a bad relationship, whats the point of loosing hope in love?, if i do this, it was all in vain. So I know, I just can feel it, my man is out there-i dont know how to describe it, but my heart just knows.🙈

[@nadja8087]

First of all, absolutely nothing against wanting to find your soulmate or the father of your children or wanting to find love. But when you say men and women are born to complete each other, what about for example men and men or women and women? They can't complete each other or what? Also I think its super uncool of you to say that women are the fragile part and that we need a partner. It's sexist. I don't have an issue with you saying that you specifically are fragile and that you need a partner because of that, but please don't say it like its the rule for all the women.

[@yap4808]

@@nadja8087 im heterosexuell ,so im not talking about the others-everyone deserves to find their counterpart-but in my case its a men,so dont get offended😘 and for the fragile part, we as woman, im not talking about the ones that can fight/ try to fight a man, we cant compete with the strength of a men, at least i cant,and i know a lot of us cant..a dong from us,can hurt a man, but a dong from a man, will send us to heaven or to the hospital

[@ningnang6393]

@@nadja8087thank GOD for this comment I was like wtf are they saying, just say ur fragile not all women

[@sascha.k90]

I am impressed. You are a very wise and strong woman. I can very well imagine you as an artist, not only as a life artist like you are now, but also as an artist working with glass , having your own studio, living in the countryside, growing your own vegetables and all that kind of stuff. ☀️🌻🪿

[@lucyh8307]

Please post the video from Namibia 🙏

[@juliaayers111]

I’ll work on it 🤭

[@lucyh8307]

Thank you, you’re my favorite KZbin channel!

[@Asmaa_Goda]

You are a beautiful person, Julia ✨ I really feel comfortable whenever I listen to you ✨ You said that you're reading the bible right now,so happy that you're reading it 💗 ,I recommend you the Quran .it's so beautiful , peaceful and full of relaxing verses 💗 I wish you read it,and I hope you like it 💗 Love you ✨

[@elenaknoblauch3674]

I absolutely loooove, love, love your energy. Watching your videos always feels like a warm hug for my soul. If I could add one thing, is maybe you could be a little more open to queer relationships, because maybe some followers are queer and it feels a little icky. Hope this doesnt feel rude! So much love from Germany.

[@Lena.Sanftmut]

important point. She had a video some years ago where she told us, shes bi - curious where this went 🦊♥

[@juliaayers111]

I hear you, I see you💛

[@juliaayers111]

I’ve simply been talking on the straight relationship experiences because that’s what I’ve shared online and feel the most push and pull in my soul about! I also have come to know I want my future long term partner to be a man. But I am bi and have had some little love affairs off camera, that maybe I’ll share more on in the future💕 lol

[@debbiecs1964]

When you read the story of Adam and Eve, it’s amazing what you can learn about sin, humanity, and the love of God. When they were in the garden, they were naked, but did not feel ashamed of their nakedness. The reason is they were clothed by the love and acceptance of God. When they chose to disobey God by eating of the fruit that God asked to not eat they hid. Not eating the fruit was not the main purpose, but God’s way of asking them to love him more than any other. Anyway, they hid because they felt ashamed. They no longer felt accepted by God or loved. And this is the result of sin for them, and for us. Because of Jesus, we were given a second chance to be in the grace of God again. Such an amazing gift! We will only be accepting of ourselves when we know that God loves us the most. It’s not by our works but by what Jesus has already done.

[@asanelekoyana]

Brilliant!

[@PrettyLittlePlantBased]

Amen!! Love this!! Jesus is the way, the truth and the life. So loving and gracious.

[@thegreengoddess8850]

😂😂😂

[@Janjozzz]

This was such a weird Q&A. You didn't really answer any question.

[@myperspective772]

Not true