"It's just hair-get over it."

[@peggyortiz4056]

I’m Dominican/Puerto Rican. My hair was always called bad hair growing up until I finally said no more to straight hair. Let my hair just curl. The stares and comments were wild..in NYC!!! Next year natural hair exploded. My ex-husband who is black, didn’t really care for my hair. Sad but true. Another black man wanted me to wear straight hair. Moral to my story..happy to be alone with my healthy curly hair. Thank you for this video. God is great! He loves us as we are!!

[@CoilyCode]

Amen!!!! It’s a wonderful thing when we can break free of people’s opinions! I’m so happy for you and glad you rock exactly what God gave you! 😍

[@cutenobi]

I’m a black woman with natural hair who’s married to a white man that appreciates my Afro textured hair more than I do. He wants me to where my Afro hair in public and I’m not comfortable with it, but since he like it, I wear it. If it weren’t for my (white) husband appreciating my Afro hair, I probably wouldn’t have any hair if it wasn’t for him.

[@CoilyCode]

@cutenobi omg this makes my heart melt with joy!!!! I’ve heard so many other races of people fine our hair absolutely beautiful! 😭 thank you for sharing that! It’s wonderful that someone you love could help you unlock that!

[@peggyortiz4056]

@@cutenobi What a blessing to have a husband who loves you as you are!!! I'm praying God will send me someone that will receive me as I am. If not, I know I'm loved as I am by my Heavenly Father.✝💜

[@154angel154]

Great Story Sis 🎉❤🎉❤

[@mujahid_tha_magnificent1]

No wig, no makeup & the definition of Natural Beauty

[@CoilyCode]

🥰🙏🏾

[@mujahid_tha_magnificent1]

@ No disrespect, however, I couldn’t pretend that you weren’t one of the most attractive women I’d laid eyes upon _ simply Natural Beauty & I hope/ pray that you never change a thing mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually… Your beauty is intoxicating and shines from within _ as within, so without… Again, no disrespect…

[@coffeewednesday553]

Fine afro hair is sooooooooooooooooooooooo beautiful. YOUR HAIR IS GORGEOUS

[@CoilyCode]

Thank you so much!!!! 😍😍 I agree!!

[@trinettefletcher]

This may be one of the best natural hair videos that I have ever seen. My natural hair "journey" started with my hair and ended in my soul. I never really wore make-up, weaves, or wigs. My relaxed long hair was my crutch and unless it was 100% "done" all the time, I didn't even want to leave the house at times. I gave up some of the things I loved doing such as swimming, scuba diving or anything that would ruin my hair that I eventually put on some weight. CRAZY!! I know. Fast forward to the pandemic and not worrying about what I was doing with my hair. I let my relaxer grow out and then cut the remaining struggling ends off. And BOOM, I am exercising and truly my natural hair and less stressed about everything including my hair.

[@CoilyCode]

😭omg thank you! Wowzers! You touched on some MAJOR RELATABLE experiences i believe are so common to black women. That’s absolutely amazing what a prison we make of our hair in its alternate state. And when we choose to let it be as it is, it’s freeing! Wow!! And you’re taking better care of yourself as a result! wonderful testimony and thank you again! 🥹🙏🏾💕

[@WilliamsPinch]

My nightly hair care routine is my therapy. It takes an hour to moisturize and rebraid, but I love it. Throw in some worship music and I am 🥰

[@CoilyCode]

Omg!!!! I need to try that!!!! That sounds so soothing😍

[@Snoboxx2323]

you are clearly a beauty inside & out

[@CoilyCode]

🥹🥹🥹🥹wow. Thank you beautiful!

[@MeganVivians-sb8ek]

Natural hair journey never ends for me even after i became natural i was fighting my hair trying to get it to be stretched trying too hard to fight against the natural shrinkage. Thats when i realized- i just need to love my hair as is before it being altered and i have been making a consious effort everyday to tell myself my hair looks nice even when i have a bad wash and go. And the BIGGEST thing imo that changed is i started telling myself i loved my hair even in its super shrunken state

[@CoilyCode]

I love what you said Megan! And I don’t think many ppl point this out, I certainly missed it. But even after going natural, yes we broke away from chemicals, but the need to alter our hair texture as a way to feel beautiful is still an issue. The shrunken state is my favorite of all! Thank you for sharing!

[@Whoreallycares23]

I normally stick with a twa or a buzz cut but grew it out for 7 months. Let me tell you I LOVE MY SHRINKAGE!! Once I figure out how to do a wash and go my curls were go bouncy. I cut it off again cause I dyed it pink 😂 but I’m growing out again. No more hair dye. ❤

[@CoilyCode]

@Whoreallycares23 yea!!!!!! I found that happened to me too! When I finally got the wash n go right, I fell in love with shrinkage too! I’m so excited for you to grow your hair out! But I love that you explored and enjoyed your hair. What’s your regimen?

[@Lucy-iw1xf]

I'm so happy you embraced your beautiful self , you look amazing! Keep shining beautiful 🌟

[@CoilyCode]

Me too!!! Thank you so much Lucy! I appreciate your comment 😍

[@chelsee_bbtte841]

Black people always bullied me for having loose 3b curls. And that hurts me because they’re my own kind. So then I started straightening my hair but I recently just went natural again. And I get so many compliments but mainly from people who aren’t my race.

[@CoilyCode]

I’m sorry you went through that. It’s just a reflection of how they feel about themselves, it’s not you or the way God made you. And some ppl don’t love themselves enough to appreciate the beauty in others. But I’m glad you decided to overcome those experiences and rock what God gave you. Some people will love it, and some will hate it. All that matters is you love what you are. Thanks for sharing! As an aside I find that most people who aren’t black, love our hair so much ahhahahaa! So bittersweet.

[@rosettacoker5959]

Thank you for the gift of this inspiring and comforting video 💖. I think the biggest thing I've learnt is that I absolutely need routines and order to thrive in all areas of my life.

[@CoilyCode]

🥹🥹Wow, you’re so welcome Rosetta! And that’s a good one! I feel that applies to me too. Thank you for sharing! 💕

[@A_Wilson]

I love this!! 🥰💜 I’m still trying to figure out what my hair journey has taught me, to be honest. I know it certainly brought me to having a richer relationship with the Lord.

[@SweetE1403]

My goodness, you are such a beautiful young lady thanks for uplifting content

[@CoilyCode]

AWWWWWW!!!! Thank you Sweet!!! 😍😍💕💕💕 I’m so glad you’re here and left this comment 🥹

[@c.nicole.n]

I’m just embarking on my journey of all things naturally me. So far, I’ve discovered I’m stronger than I thought I was. I really enjoyed your video. New subscriber. 😊

[@CoilyCode]

🥹Yay!!! Welcome and I’m so glad you’re here! I can definitely relate to that😍

[@kiwij7705]

The final shot of your curl pattern is so cute and healthy 😍

[@CoilyCode]

Awwww!!!! Thank you Kiwi!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@mzjeri7601]

You and ur hair r truly BEAUTIFUL.. No makeup needed. GOD BLESS ❤🎉

[@CoilyCode]

🥹🥹🥹Thaaank you so much! 😍

[@sune6708]

You have a lovely spirit. Thank you for the video.

[@CoilyCode]

🥹thank you so much! And you are so welcome. 🙏🏾

[@shawnjackson6242]

It’s not just hair folks a woman’s hair is mentioned in the BIBLE so miss us with it’s only hair , hair holds a person essence it can make you feel a certain way

[@CoilyCode]

agreed!!!!! 👏👏👏👏

[@TishaRose]

Sis, this is by far my most favorite video that you've made. You went through all my natural hair journey emotions. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability so openly and allowing some of us to exhale and to know that it's ok to experience these feelings and emotions when it comes to our natural hair. You have no idea how much this encourages me to keep pressing on. ❤

[@CoilyCode]

😭😭😭😭Woooooow!!! That’s powerful and I’m so grateful you confirmed that! We’re not alone in this journey and thank God we aren’t! Wow! Bless you sis! 🥹🙏🏾💕

[@dariapio1502]

Love this! I have felt virtually everything you expressed. Your smile at the end of the video- absolutely beautiful 😊

[@CoilyCode]

😭😭😭Awwww Daria! That makes my heart so happy! We’re not alone. And thank God we’re healing 🥰

[@nameless7550]

I can truly relate to this!!! I was living a lie. I love my natural hair and it is so pretty.

[@CoilyCode]

That’s so beautiful!!!!! It is pretty!! We just haven’t seen its beauty for ourselves until we decided to just try. I’m so happy for you and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. It is beautiful! Thank you for watching and your lovely comment.

[@t-helen-price]

This made me cry. 😭 So good you have old videos like the ones in this video to provide such an amazing perspective. You are the real deal!!! Your younger you is so thankful!!!! And we are too!! We love the much Higher standard of beauty because God is the best creator!!

[@CoilyCode]

😭😭😭😭😭!!!!! Thank you my love!!it’s amazing to see how far we’ve come. Wow, my younger me is thankful! I didn’t fail her 😭 Wow! Yes He is! 😍

[@mspattywatty]

What a beautiful, self affirming video! Thank u, it’s a pleasure to hear about the journey to loving ourselves in all ur faults and GLORY!😊

[@CoilyCode]

🥹🥹🥹 thank you ms.pattywatty (your username is so fun!) 😍 we are all not alone 🙏🏾

[@Ehlaar]

You look like the image of God natural clean and free.

[@CoilyCode]

Praise God!!! 💕🙏🏾 thank you!!

[@esthertjones]

That afro look was gorgeous! I would love to see you try it again sometime if you want to and your hair can handle it. ❤

[@CoilyCode]

Hahahahahaha I tell you, my Afro was my favorite style! I’ll definitely have to do one soon. Thank you! 😍

[@ki58sm]

i really appreciate your content, i relate to your journey a lot. recently i’ve been more positive about the way i view my hair and it is beginning to flourish 💕💕💕 thank you for sharing your journey!

[@CoilyCode]

Yay!! That makes me so happy because I always hope that the content is resonating at a deeper level than just hair. And I’m so glad your perception of your hair is improving. Once we see it for ourselves, there’s no holding us back from achieving our dream hair! Thank you for sharing as well 🥹💕

[@ellielane730]

Your beautiful, thank you for sharing your journey with us it's truly inspiring and uplifting ❤

[@CoilyCode]

Awww Ellie! Thank you for watching 🥹

[@IDidNotAsk4ThisHandle]

We were made to self-hate ourselves coming from ChattelSlavery…..I feel your pain….my hair had to literally come out/break off real bad before I embraced my natural hair….it’s gets better with time🙂 #NoMoreCrackCream4Me👍🏾

[@CoilyCode]

Yes, the historical context is one part of it that I feel many are stuck in. However, today, we all get to decide to value what we naturally have or not. Including how we choose as parents and adults what to feed our children so that they never feel the pain of self-hate. And that’s what makes it a journey. Thank you so much for sharing and am glad you’ve embraced your God-given design! It truly is beautiful!

[@aquafina6544]

This was beautiful.. I don't think the journey will ever end as long as we are still alive bcus there is always more to unpack discover and overcome bcus we are always evolving and so is our skin hair hormones and body. We must evolve with it or repeat past setbacks.

[@CoilyCode]

Thank you Aquafina! 🥰 what a beautiful comment you wrote here. You’re so right. As we age, the journey starts looking different and takes a unique turn. Wow!

[@PatriceDoyley]

Congrats on 1k subs 🎊 🎉. Great video! ❤

[@CoilyCode]

🎉Thank you beautiful!! 💕🎊🥳🙌🏾

[@amberrichardson6517]

Your curl parrern is sooo pretty ❤

[@CoilyCode]

🥹awwww! Thank you so much!! 💕💕💕

[@fareladee5970]

BEAUTIFUL young lady, my heart is so very full for your truth and honesty.❤️ May GOD continue to bless you mightily on your continued life journey and thank you for sharing.🙏🏾🙌🏾❤️

[@CoilyCode]

Awwwwwww!!! 😭😭😭😭😭God bless you so much for your kind and sweet words! That means a lot to me 💕

[@stephaniepetion6100]

Thank you and Thank you🫂❣️

[@CoilyCode]

You’re welcome Stephanie!! 💕

[@SteelMagnolia092]

Love this, thank you for sharing and being so open and vulnerable with us. Your gorgeous just the way God made you Queen❤❤❤ As for what i've learned, that the naysayers are people with their own prisons and issues that they dont even see yet.

[@CoilyCode]

Ooooooo that’s good!!!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥! Thank you so much! What an amazing comment 👏👏👏

[@muffincarrol1671]

Not only do I have to accept my natural curls but I also have to embrace my gray. I don't have to, but I am choosing to do it. I don't want to wreck my natural so I can look like someone else. It is a journey.

[@CoilyCode]

wow!! You know what’s concidental about what you said Muffin, I just was talking to my husband yesterday and said that the first gray strand I see, im dying it 🤣😅. So, this was eye opening.

[@CoilyCode]

Coily Companions :) I enjoyed creating this video for you. I hope you feel hugged and understood. Keep it going in the comments. But before you go... ⭐What's the biggest thing you've learned about yourself from your natural hair journey that has NOTHING to do with your natural hair?

[@aquafina6544]

@@CoilyCode, I learned that I am not a magician and everything that happens is supposed to be as it is, my input only changes the course and the impact not the situation. If I just BE STILL relax and stop trying to control things and just let them BE, I will see that EVERYTHING will unfold as it should. Birds fly bees buzz trees grow big and strong sun shines and the rain waters, all without their help! It is as it should be. This shift in my perception has allowed me to create true peace and find happiness within all without trying.

[@CoilyCode]

What a profound and thoughtful message! It's truly inspiring to hear how your natural hair journey has led to such a powerful realization about life. Embracing the flow of life and finding peace in letting things be is a wisdom many seek but few find. Beautiful!

[@aquafina6544]

@@CoilyCode thank you so much. I truly appreciate your kindness. I believe those that cannot find it are to BUSY... Busy minding others business, trying to control the outcome of a decisions that were made millennia b4 the issue was manifested. As my mom used to say and I now say to my son... you're doing to much, lol 🤣 just wasting energy and time ....just be still and let the answer solution resolution unfold...

[@abundantlyblessed9201]

The power of patience, consistency, and self-discipline

[@CoilyCode]

@abundantlyblessed9201 Amen!!!!

[@Flourishingtresses335]

I absolutely loved this ❤❤❤❤ so inspirational and your hair looks absolutely amazing ❤❤❤❤❤

[@CoilyCode]

Yay! Thank you FlorishingTresses 😍 I’m glad you found it inspirational. (Pretty username btw)

[@angielu3273]

brilliant

[@CoilyCode]

Bless you Angie! Thank you for watching 💕

[@arselia8499]

You are a brave young woman... natural hair is not really accepted because the norm is straight long hair. And moms don't teach how the hair should be maintained & styled. You now have a new subscriber following you on your journey!

[@CoilyCode]

🥹WOOOOOW!!!!! What a lovely comment!! Thank you so much 🥰😍 it has been quite a ride. And you’re right. So many of us were in the dark about our hair because our moms just didn’t know. But thankfully that’s changing now! I’m so happy you’re here, Arselia! Such a pretty name btw 💕

[@YahushaIsMyKing8]

Thank God for leading you to create this video and thank you for sharing. I share some of the same experiences as you. I hid behind makeup and nails and clothes and shoes and partying and I never wore wigs but I had weaves and locs and even though locs are "a natural hairstyle" I realized I even hid behind those so I wouldn't have to "deal" with my natural hair. Once I took my locs out I hid behind braids because I again didn't know how to "deal" with my natural hair and was trying to make it look like something it wasn't and was mad it wouldn't grow. One day I was going to grab some hair to do braids and heard the Holy Spirit say "no more fake hair". So from that moment I stopped and learned my hair. I learned and accepted that the hair God gave me was like His and good as He said His creation is. I finally learned and accepted my hair instead of "dealing" with it. Eventually I started to see the true beauty in me given to me from God and not from the worldly standards. It was then that my hair started flourishing and now I LOVE what I see in the mirror. To God be the glory!! Love you Sister in Jesus Christ and thank you sharing.

[@CoilyCode]

WOOOW!!! 😭😭😭😭😭 what a beautiful testimony!!!! That’s crazy, I wouldn’t have looked at “locs” as something to hide behind but you’re right! It’s not how your hair grows out of your scalp. Wow this was POWERFUL!!!! And I know it’s true because girl, your profile picture is eating! The face card, the hair card, you’re exuding that!’ Praise God and I’m so glad you found comfort in the video 🥹🥰 that makes me so happy. He’s setting many of us free! Amen!

[@YahushaIsMyKing8]

@@CoilyCode ❤🤗

[@MsChicoro]

Fabulous video! Bravo!

[@CoilyCode]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you! 💕🥰

[@Lori_g70]

I keep sabotaging myself by shaving my hair off. I don't know why I do it. I always regret it after.

[@CoilyCode]

Lori, you and I are one and the same except I would relax my hair and regret it after too. Trust me, I understand. But it has something to do with our mindset (or belief system). I did a video about this some time ago (kzbin.info/www/bejne/qpq0pKV5ecqiaJIsi=uNd7u8bh9GWFjYzo), it may give you some insight or help you narrow down what exactly it could be. Also, it may be none of those mindsets but a stress response. Possibly. However, it’s not uncommon what you’re experiencing. And there is a solution. Thank you for sharing! You’re in great company my dear 💕

[@mabutiumaga]

Dont be sad hair are always growing newly there. In my country we dont even need have beautiful hair because people must wear hat because here are so horrible cold climate.

[@CoilyCode]

Awww!!! I cannot even imagine!!!! Do you wear head coverings at all???

[@mabutiumaga]

@@CoilyCode I have hair and also need use hat because of that cold weather. But not matter how my hair is looking because nobody see them :D

[@Nikki0325]

This is Nikki Anderson my mother does my hair

[@CoilyCode]

Hi Nikki! And how has that experience been for you? 💕

[@kgravgrav8496]

I don’t think it’s that deep to be honest. I think u r just used to using a relaxer in your hair and so to deal with your natural hair is much difficult because it’s a different texture but it’s only difficult at the start once the hair starts to get longer you will find that you don’t really need to do anything to it just wash it Condition it then leave it. On the other hand make up… well this is something that I always say you should never really get into because once you start false advertising it’s difficult to peel back. It’s better. You just let your natural beauty shine and if you wanna wear some lipstick fine it alters your look a little bit you take it off. It’s not too much of a change. By the way your hair is growing wonderfully ❤.

[@CoilyCode]

Natural beauty is always the way to go and how we all get to that level of comfort with ourselves is a personal journey with different levels of inner work. Thank you for sharing! And yes, the wisdom for growing our hair has definitely helped! Thank you 😍💕

[@t-helen-price]

Not that deep to you but may be to others and if you see, most of the video footage are very old videos because if you look at the last several videos, they are exactly her letting her natural hair shine and she has been wearing some makeup but it’s no longer a crutch. But maybe this is your first time being here. Never assume it’s not that deep. You don’t know peoples struggles and I think 60-80% if natural hair girls related to the video and were encouraged by it and that’s what matters.

[@Arandomwoman]

Don't marvel if the world hates you. You have the hair of THE KING OF KINGS on your head! Your horn is exalted by Him (psalms 89, 92). Focus on Him (Isaiah 26:3). He made you and if anyone has a problem with how you look, he/she have a problem with the King of Kings. Speak His promises and blesses over you, including your hair. God bless you. May God you 7 times the joy and blessings for every tear you have cried based on the lies you had believed and fill you with His Word, have it wriiten in your heart, so nothing less than His will for you will stand against you. Instead, it shall fall (Isaiah 54:15, 17).

[@CoilyCode]

😭😭😭!!!!! Bless you!

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

YOU. ARE. NOT. YOUR. HAIR.

[@CoilyCode]

Yes!👏

[@spongebob8157]

I love you beautiful.

[@CoilyCode]

🥰🙏🏾 SpongeBob is my favorite cartoon

[@JaejoongPrincess]

I hate 4b and 4c hair. Its pisses me and makes me cry every single day since 2013. I hate it!

[@CoilyCode]

I’m sorry. 😞

[@Neema150]

Bravo for stopping that self-sabotage and hiding your identity and natural beauty.

[@CoilyCode]

Thank you Neema! It wasn’t easy, but thank God for resilience!

[@coffeewednesday553]

Your hair is waaaaaaaaaaaay too fine for a silk press. Avoid that hairstyle like the plague, at 4.16 - or a relaxer, whatever it was. Your hair needs deep conditioning, weekly washing, any daily moisturising of your hairline

[@CoilyCode]

I agree! I def don’t plan on silk pressing my hair anytime soon. Thank you for the tips. They’ve been noted 💕

[@seeyouagain911]

I will never straighten my hair for as long as I live. I have never enjoyed straightening my hair and I never did it on a regular basis. I did it because I had to not because I wanted to. I feel confident in my own natural hair. Hate straight hair. It looks dead to me. Particularly when its blonde. It reminds me of horse hair. It is weird and unattractive.

[@CoilyCode]

Hmm I don’t know if I can say never, but I have no desire to straighten my hair either. Especially cuz when it’s straight, I lose like 50% of my volume 🤣! And I think if anyone plans to go blonde, they really need to invest in a lot of high quality products to maintain the health cuz I’ve seen plenty of naturals rock blonde in healthy way. But it breaks so easily! I love that you love your natural hair and it’s a wonderful place for us to get to. Thanks for sharing 💕