IT'S NEVER BEEN THIS BAD BEFORE! Detangling Dry Matted Natural Hair + Life Update

Let's detangle my matted, dry hair and do a little life update!
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IT'S NEVER BEEN THIS BAD BEFORE! Detangling Dry Matted Natural Hair with 1 Product!

[@__Selena__]

God is kinda wild for giving us that fine strands, high density combo. I be mad at myself for keeping a puff in for 7+ days 😭but sometimes life just be life-ing so I feel you 10000% 💕

[@lifeis2171]

Right. Like really. 😂😂 MY Hair texture all day

[@Teedimps1598]

Maaaan heavy on the fine strands high density 🥲.

[@stephanies3862]

"Life just be life-ing", this statement describes things perfectly 😂

[@itsalrightitsok929]

I literally told my hair styling life was life-ing when I finally broke down and went to the salon to get a shampoo, blow dry and trim after my hair had been in a puff 4 weeks. I would take it down for a bit to oil it which made the build-up that much worse 🫣

[@rutho.6282]

Crazy combo

[@ClassyDdiamond]

1. I put my hair in mini twist with my own hair and that has helped a lot regarding tangles, moisture, and Life issues that get in the way. 2. Finding a good therapist is a plus. 3. Hanging out with your good friends. Sometimes hanging out with a positive vibes helps good too. 4. Hang out with yourself safely. Spa. Travel. Plays. Museums. NUMBER 1.1. TELL PEOPLE NO

[@ebo7310]

I feel the pressure too. At 41, no kids i feel more anxious and streesed. But God got me, got us!

[@KandidKinks]

Genuinely don’t know what I’d do if I had a kid to look after right now 😩

[@CoilyCode]

@@KandidKinksyour maternal instincts would kick in immediately.😅

[@LadyDee150]

This is the story of my life. I am the laziest natural ever. The only thing is my hair is not half as long or thick as yours is. Don't have any kids either and I'm older than you are and now realizing I won't ever have it all figured out! I love your hair in ANY state! It's gorgeous💕

[@Tai-chan.]

I feel you. As a libra myself and an introvert, I prefer being at home on a day off and just read. This year was not what I expected. If I do nothing. I do my hair, it makes me feel better when it's cute. As it relates to your question, I remind myself that murder is still illegal and find time to exercise, eat better and just read my books and it'll help with me remaining sane

[@adayinthelight7575]

😂 im laughing at you saying murder is still illegal girl!!!

[@nazikiwe8259]

Your hair is so gorgeous and healthy😍

[@KandidKinks]

Thank you so much 🫶🏾🥰

[@maylavernebarnes2007]

These prepoos are a life saver for detangling our hair. Your hair looks healthy and beautiful.

[@adayinthelight7575]

I’ve been struggling the past couple of months. I had a baby but now I’m burned out from motherhood. She’s going to be a year old this month. I wish I could be happier and feel prettier with my hair.

[@LiveLaughLovePurple]

I love how she was actually talking to us about her life and how’s she’s doing, I absolutely loved this cause I’m in the EXACT same situation with my hair. I’m not stressed with prices but with school so I understand that as well. You gained yourself a new subscriber 😊

[@llorzz]

Totally get you on feeling pressured to have your ish figured out. I'm going through that right now and although it's hella exhausting, I'm grateful that I have supportive parents and friends so I never feel completely alone in this process

[@KandidKinks]

Yesss I’m grateful for the support system as well. Sometimes I feel like it’s something I have to figure out on my own, but maybe it’s not tbh

[@lashawnabrady7063]

​@@KandidKinks i buy a jar of garnier fructis and i use a entire jar to detangle my hair . Makes it much easier. Plus fructis is quality plus cheap to use a whole lot to detangle.

[@swilliams5470]

You are LITERALLY in my head...but I am 50. One thing I have noticed is that I am not where I want to be, but I do know that I can tell God has been taking me somewhere...that my past moves thread together. I wish you had posted this video last week. I finally detangled my hair Thursday after weeks of not touching it!! Also complained about my thick hair...until it started thinning!! I freaked out!!! Now I am thankful that it is filling back in. Hang in there sis.❤

[@__Selena__]

The pressure is real. I’m fresh in my mid 20s and the growing pains is crazy rn 😭 and what you said about feeling “heavy” resonated with me. I had a very toxic job and it took a toll on my mental and physical health. I’m so ready to start a fresh for next year as well.

[@Spokentruths725]

I know exactly what thats like and im currently working a much better job with better pay. Life sucks sometimes but you’re not alone stay up sis ❤

[@__Selena__]

@@Spokentruths725thank you so much for the encouragement 🥹 I really appreciate it 🤗💕

[@BlackBeauty-yl8uq]

Appreciate the thickness now because when you get up In age you’ll see the difference in density.

[@cheshiredj]

It really doesn't look like you lost much hair. And the detangling did seem too difficult. But we probably didn't see everything. So glad to see a post!

[@jadecasssie]

I'm so glad I found your channel again, I started locs so my algorithm has been different. But I missed your videos, keep fighting and thriving ❤

[@KandidKinks]

I appreciate you!! 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@sweetmamarms8167]

I’m glad you finally detangled your hair and you did amazing job beautiful hair and smile love your channel can’t wait to see more content 😻

[@CaraNaturally]

I will say that, blessing and curse, the longer my hair gets, the more neglectful I can be. I used to religiously wash my hair every week but now….2, 3 weeks. My hair is mostly 4A, on the finer side and my QRedew is a Godsend for detangling. Life happens my Dear, sometimes you have to just slow down and know that everything will be ok. Love your content, keep doing what you do!❤❤❤

[@CallanAmber]

I feel you! I'm 22 and I feel so pressured to have my life figured out😭I also haven't done my hair in 2 months😭

[@monica9070]

And your puff still looks gorgeous. Cant wait until mine is that big 😊

[@KandidKinks]

That’s the one thing about this length 😭 easier to finesse 😂

[@leticiajohnson3428]

I absolutely am with you girl it feels like everything is going crazy.

[@MsHoneyFly11]

Hi Lexi So good to see you doing well. I always try to view doing my natural hair as self care. So I never really dread having to do it but of course I don’t always have the time to focus on it. Also mine is nowhere near as dense as yours I have been doing a great job lately of saying “No” and that is really good for me. Also working to change some things about my life that I don’t like 😊

[@teebree06]

Have you ever tried dry detangling with oil?? I used to use African Pride prepoo religiously as well BUT because of that I was going through it so fast. My pockets couldn’t keep up. Even though it’s not expensive, the cost does start to add up real quick because one jar would only last me 3 washes. I decided to try oil detangling and it works so well for me! I get more use out of the oil than I do the African prepoo and also feel like it gets out tangles better. So how I use it? I take a section and put the oil on the hair dry. No wetting. Then, I start to finger detangle and the tingles come apart with ease! Girl it’s like butter! Literally lol

[@KandidKinks]

I think a long time ago when I first went natural I used oil to prepoo .. I even considered adding oil to this session if my hair was too tangled but luckily I was able to work through it. This is helpful though!

[@wildnaturalista]

This was absolutely me when moving and driving 1,800 miles. Neglected to the max 😭 but that prepoo has also gotten me through thick and thin!! Glad to know I'm not alone but I'm glad to see you working through it❤️

[@bajanbreezy]

Your hair issue was me when I got sick.. I just washed my hair after not washing my hair since Nov 16th.. I also had another experience where I neglected doing my hair because I was in midterms, working out, and working 2 jobs so I get it.. I am ready to put my hair in braids. I feel you. I have been applying to jobs, working two jobs, trying to workout almost daily, and in school.

[@sheba653161]

I agree. Everything is a chore, and I just don't want to do anything when I have free time. Once upon a time, I didn't feel that strongly about doing stuff. Now, I'm over it lol. Girl I'm a libra too, and I definitely enjoy being on my couch with the fireplace going and some hot chocolate (since it's cold where I am now). Also, I didn't know you were an SLP. I'm an OT, and I actually went to grad school in Miami. I always get excited to see other therapists online especially black therapists.

[@KandidKinks]

Awww so happy to connect with a fellow therapist .. you get how draining our jobs can be! I’m an SLP-A, I used to think I’d go back for my masters but I lost the motivation 😩 also happy belated birthday! I hope you did something for YOU

[@sheba653161]

Cool! One of my coworkers was an SLP-A and she went back for her masters. I commend anybody who goes back. People ask if I'll go back for my doctorate. No ma'am, no sir. I was sick of school long ago 😂. Thank you and happy belated to you as well! I had plans, but I canceled them because I decided to take a travel assignment for work. Wonderful experience but kind of sad I didn't really celebrate my 30th as planned.

[@allison.a]

Earlier this month I went two weeks without touching my hair in its natural state. It was in the same state as where you started but I was slicking it in a bun. I was sad as hell lol.

[@marea6502]

Your hair looks fantastic to me

[@KandidKinks]

🙏🏾 thank you!!!

[@IndigooceanOrg]

Looks like a good prepoo. I like the Aunt Jackie Knot on my Watch detangler as a prepoo. I do it similar to what you're doing, just apply directly to dry hair then detangle, only I let it sit for about 30 mins with just smoothing and finger detangling before going in with the wide tooth comb. It's amazing how they just melt the knots. I'm not a fan of the smell, but then I wash it out. Will give this one you're using a try sometime in case it works as well for me and with a milder smell. I can never do wash n gos unless I want to spend an hour detangling. Normally my detangle is more like 15 mins. applying and separating with fingers. But after a WnG, good grief. My hair badly wants to be one great big dreadlock. I took a lot of time off over the last month and managed to get caught up on everything, including lots of sleep. I even henna'd my hair for the first time and did medical microneedling for the first time. Also signed up for a new training program that should get me an additional license by January. Finally starting to feel like myself again. Sleep is a wonder drug.

[@sheba653161]

My favorite detanglers are by Pattern Beauty and Melanin Haircare. That multi-use leave-in works wonders, but it seems to irritate my scalp so I don't use it anymore. I just started using the one by Pattern, and I noticed how much hair I'm saving compared to how my hair was when I was using another product. I feel the same way about my hair. Sometimes I'm like how do I even still have hair and the level of thickness sometimes is too much chile lol

[@connieholmes4853]

I love that Melanin leave in maybe I should try the Pattern Beauty but which exact product do you use from Pattern?

[@sheba653161]

​@@connieholmes4853 I use the detangling nectar

[@donniblahh]

Sis, I have done it to my hair. Not intentionally but multiple times. I too use AFRICAN PRIDE PREPAID and it is 🤩GREAT STUFF!! 😂 I try to be so careful with my hair because it's so easy to lock up even if I don't go for your time without doing anything to it. I've come to the conclusion it must be because it's not moisturized enough. Obviously. Though I am not an introvert.

[@Simplyaptarot]

I missed your videos so much, And yes I've been neglecting my hair so a while now.

[@KandidKinks]

🥹🥹 I’ve been posting more regularly! Have you seen my latest uploads?

[@Simplyaptarot]

@@KandidKinks yes I have. I’m binge watching them.

[@comfortuanserume7850]

This morning, I was wondering when you would post a video! I am glad to know that the blessings are coming back to you! I tripped around Greece!!! I hope you had a blast! Thank you for all of the helpful hair videos!!!

[@comfortuanserume7850]

* A trip around Greece!

[@Ladylew122]

Oh my goodness! Why didn’t you add water while you prepoo? I love that prepoo! Your hair just melts with that prepoo. I’m a retired SLP. I really enjoy your content. I too was the responsible one. It’s pressure. I retired early. SLP life is stressful….. Make time for you and have quiet time. Silence is an amazing state. I went to Jamaica last month for the first time.

[@KandidKinks]

I didn’t add water because it knots up the hair when you just take out a protective style. Enjoy your retirement 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@juhnetmickerdy]

My hair was a disaster 😭 I’ve never had so many knots . I just bought the pre-poo! Thank you!

[@KandidKinks]

Let me know how you like it!

[@mrod87]

That African pride pre ooo with a spray bottle of warm water and a tangle teaser gonna get all the tangles. I am a little older than u and i totally get what u are saying. It’s even harder when u see what ur suppose to want (in friends and general public) and u don’t want that life either (i know so many unhappy married folk)…so I’m blessed…but I’m in my mid thirties and lost. ❤ i get it. We will figure it out!

[@KandidKinks]

Whew I felt this so much 🙏🏾

[@denyshadials5702]

Having kids isn’t realistic in this country anymore.. Do people do it? Yeah. Is there hell to pay? Absolutely. With interest…

[@TheChocBeauty]

Your hair is amazing and that’s the benefit of having your type of 3:19 hair. You can fake it until you make it. 😊

[@babybenz8996]

Honeyyyyyyyyy. I’m here after wearing a half wig for weeks thinking the plats would keep me safe 😩 …. Took those plates out like WT#!

[@whyask9864]

I've been there! The only thing is i was impatient in detangling and um yeah you know the outcome of that.

[@prissNcurlss]

Ooooh that snap and pull had me 😳😖.

[@BionAvastar3000]

Your old matted hair is what mine looks like after 3 days of a wash and go X'D (nothing's wrong with it, it's just very tangly)

[@tmariek2]

I think your brush sounds like that because of the mic. It’s amplifying the sound.

[@jacquelinescarboroughaiker6863]

I wish I'd seen your video earlier today. I had the exact same thoughts about my hair and dreaded touching my hair . I started detangling prior to washing, and was almost in tears, feeling disheartened. TANGLES, TANGLES ,TANGLES. As i washed, it matted, i was so frustrated, i just pulled it apart and deep conditioned. thats where we are as I type...hoping for the best

[@staciegreene2262]

Is your family foreigners ? I notice that most of my friends that are first gen Americans have this financial pressure on them from their families . Also the protective styling has really been growing your hair 😍❤️🔥

[@libbyjustlibby1857]

Girlllll you’re in a safe place❤

[@Kygirly27]

Can you do more matted detangling editions along with deep conditioning and leave ins showing which ones you use in the winter to give you that lustrous moisture and shine... So I guess I'm not tripping and feeling like something is wrong with my hair when it gets matted into nets I have 3c hair and some 4a. And I thought it was because I have vitamin d and it on deficiencies but maybe it's also because this type of hair matts?

[@cassywatchy]

Idk if my hair is just thin but i drench my hair in that pre poo. It didn’t seem like you put a lot per twist.

[@starmaxx4]

Great talk young lady 🥰💙.. I felt every single thing you said 💙.. while I’m sitting here with almost 2 week old twist-out 🤦🏾‍♀️.. just haven’t had the energy (wife and mother) and seem like I have no time 😂.. this gave me the inspiration to get myself together and wash my hair 🥰💙

[@sonnetthomas682]

I got the same type of hair. I know exactly how u feel

[@denyshadials5702]

I just…canNOT do teletherapy. Virtual learning almost killed me smh.

[@l.w.8591]

Natural hair is so much easier when it’s short. I sort of missed the days when I wore my Chrisette Michele cut. That Afro life is real girl. Not you thinking you about to get free form locs Lexi 😂😂.

[@KandidKinks]

tell me about itttt! twisting my hair when I was 1 year natural took all of 30 minutes lol

[@bertvarner7492]

Hey girl! You are just going to have those kind of days! We all do! You are young just keep going with the Lord. Once you have Jesus in your life then everything else is nothing. He will supply all your needs. Praise God you have hair. Some people are not as blessed. You are beautiful and you are healthy and have your right mind. YOU ARE BLESSED! MAY GOD KEEP YOU WITH THE COVERING OF JESUS MOST PRECIOUS BLOOD! AMEN!

[@eyhaunnabrooks8288]

Only time I be neglectful of my hair is when I'm on my time of the month😭😭😭 . I be in too much pain and literally just say f#ck it😮‍💨😮‍💨💀💀💀

[@WILSONMEDIALYNN]

Yes. I just cut about 5 inches off and said it will grow back.

[@jackywairegi2316]

Funny thing, the driest and corsest part of my hair is the longest...right in the middle of my head 😅

[@heredianna2496]

It will get better as you get closer to 40... You'll see that pressure does not make any sense. You lovely married friends are now hating each other and divorced, the broke friend niw has the best business ever, the happy friend who was so lucky died suddenly, the forever single friend is niw raising twins... Conclusion just focus on your own life at your own pace.

[@cassywatchy]

I love doing my hair and I would love to wear my hair out but with my thin hair, it looks like twigs you can see through in the sun. I pray for thickness lol

[@k.karmas1126]

We have the same hair. Super dense. A weak, struggling crown. It kicks my azz

[@PreppyFay12]

XPO H20 gel as a standalone wash n go gel.

[@marleyhill34]

wahoo child...i do not envy you......i cannot skip detangling...even if i have no African pride.....The olive oil would have to come out of the cupboard. Lol! I also always have a detangling leave in. because my hair tangles just for fun and it's ultra-fine. Pro-Tip....before you even start separating with fingers....put the pre-poo on the ends and wrap that in a shower cap for 30 minutes.... Ripping sounds on ends trigger me. lol! Girl none of us have this ish figured out. I thought I was going in a good direction, got therapy and then found out at 40 that I have autistic traits. Yup I'm currently self-reparenting at age 42. But I like saying no a lot now! Compared to my 20s and early 30s...even to family members!! I'm an almost-Libra/late Virgo....all that alone time I like makes me think ah...I find other people too overstimulating for my autistic traits....ugh....So I just work on balance. I disconnect 3.5 days a week and I re-engage 3.5 days a week. it's not ideal for most people but that's all I can handle and I do not feel guilty about putting my mental and physical health first because once it's gone no-one else can get it back for me. This year was challenging but also enlightening and freeing and fun! literally the most fun I've had in a really long time!!

[@tmariek2]

Have you considered cutting your hair? I feel like when I cut my hair, it allowed me to think of of things in my life. However, I was not a content creator and don’t make money on my hair.

[@carlisa.]

Got to cut them ends I been there that’s straight spit ends hair grows back I can’t tell you how many times I cut my hair off spit ends only damage so when your hair grows it’s no point it’s going to shed and break off matte up and get you hair scissors cutting with regular scissors damage your hair too

[@KandidKinks]

I am def due for a trim. I’ve just been wearing my hair in styles so much I haven’t gone to my hair stylist

[@stephanies3862]

Thank your for sharing your journey with us, both hair and life in general. I've been a school teacher for 3 years now. I am a single mom of one very hyper-active boy on the autism spectrum. Sometimes, life feels like too much. And even when school is out on "break," I never truly feel like I'm on a break as a mom. 🫣 Side note... I wish I had gotten into being an SLP. I now think I might have like that more than being a teacher. But I digress, black hair is truly something else Lol

[@supa4]

Jesus loves you everyone and he's coming back repent and follow him

[@Ms_Mia357]

What is your Holy Grail moisturizing shampoo deep conditioner and leave-in conditioner

[@Lynn-l4o]

You didn't show how to use it

[@sonnetthomas682]

Damp or sprits your hair before you start next time.

[@briasa4357]

have you ever thought about locing your hair ? you wouldn’t have to detangle and they would be as beautiful 🩵

[@KandidKinks]

I think about it ALL the time lmao but I’m very indecisive

[@briasa4357]

@@KandidKinks when you’re ready you should definitely go for it :)

[@jdd6958]

You have gorgeous hair. Only thing about locs is people wont appreciate your length, they will assume its just shed hair.

[@briasa4357]

@@jdd6958 i don’t think she should do things for the approval of others , honestly no one should.. you’re more happier and in tune with yourself that way 🤗

[@jdd6958]

@@briasa4357 oh Lord are you in the bonnet in public gang gang?🙃

[@Teedimps1598]

Soooo sis do i need this prepoo?🤔 cos I’ll go buy it if you say yes.

[@KandidKinks]

Absolutely 😭 go.shopmy.us/p-2538252

[@jasminemcgee391]

Are you low porosity?

[@mingtoiisaac4623]

❤❤

[@MoniMeka]

Do you really want thin hair? If your hair were to start thinning, what then? God made your hair how it should be. Be thankful because there are some who want thicker hair. 😊

[@JodyBrownIV]

no tangle teezer?

[@KandidKinks]

I preferred to use a wide tooth comb cause my hair was so tangled .. I went in with the tangle teezer once I put conditioner in. That process will be in my next upload 🫶🏾

[@Lynn-l4o]

Me worse.... been wearing wigs

[@chelseachristenn]

Wondering how often you’ve been trimming and washing your hair? Your hair has FLOURISHED!!

[@blu_rey8656]

I may clean my scalp with dry shampoo or astringent while having braids; but never wash with shampoo. The fake hair would reek havoc on my hair.