It’s Okay To Have Conflicts In Relationships

[@stevenchangster]

The message is amazing and well-communicated, thank you for making the video!

[@goodenoughpsychiatrist]

thanks for stopping by Steven. I am glad that you find the video helpful.

[@traveetravee]

Keep it up, love ur channel!

[@alex47527]

'That's good enough for now'- thank you for an excellent message, well put across in a simple and meaningful way. A great antidote for 'get it right' perfectionism.

[@goodenoughpsychiatrist]

These are the two FAQs I have received so far. Please let me know if you have any other questions. 1) Does it mean I should try to workout an abusive relationship? The underlying message of "conflict and reparation" does not suggest sticking through an abusive relationship. In fact, in order for conflict and reparation to occur, safety has to be established in a relationship first. Without safety, no reparation is possible. 2) "Good enough mother" sounds like an excuse for childhood trauma by parents. There is a difference between conflict-reparations and trauma. While the former promotes resolution, intimacy and closure (think of an example in the Disney Pixar movie Inside Out where Riley was able to make amends with her parents at the end), the latter is associated with a sense of being overwhelmed, loss of control and persistent negative thoughts/ perspectives about ourselves and others. A good enough mother makes mistakes, has conflicts with her children, but she does not abuse.

[@raquelgarber408]

I loved loved this video! Very creative and approachable way to explain deep theories. So important for parents and society to understand and allow the process of rupture and repair in a safe environment 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻