It’s Time For Us To Have An Uncomfortable Conversation

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[@carried5899]

Amen Kevin. You said that so well and very open for so many others. Watching and listening to you just now I could see the Dearly in you. I can see how her smiles and happy spirit has soaked into you so deep. And I think it is wonderful. Don't you ever fall back in that old mind set....this old woman loves the new Kevin thinking. Anyway just wanted to say YOU HIT A HOME RUN TODAY. Maybe share this again in 6 months...it was that good. God Bless. Praying for safe travels..

[@carried5899]

Don't forget the water.. LoL

[@patrickb2769]

Absolutely spot on.

[@AndreaDingbatt]

Thank You, that's an Awesome Comment!! I hope you have a wonderful week ahead of you!! Much love and hugs from Andrea, Jasper and George the Pigeon. XxX.

[@bonnienelson7373]

First time listener. I'm not into Big Foot but I enjoyed your chat today. As a fellow Believer in Jesus Christ & 30 years as a Psychiatric Nurse, you done good in this video!

[@timothyhoward2738]

Helllooooo Crazy Lake got yer 6... And im a getting released from hospital everything is ok no blockages Praise God! ❤

[@carried5899]

Well praise the Lord for the good news.

[@beverlycook8679]

Thank goodness! Enjoy each day Tim...

[@jimbrown4652]

Speaking of personalities. This morning I was thinking about how much I enjoyed Dearly's videos of the vacation. Seeing the world through her eyes is a beautiful thing. Kevin knows better than anyone, she's a very special lady. If you're not subscribed to her channel, you should be. You will be blessed. 💙💙💙

[@JBowser]

I love this type of conservation. Makes me get grounded. I'm glad you and your family are in my life, Well, I mean on social media. Thanks for getting to the point and being understanding. I do have anxiety issues but they are controlled. I now know my worth and I'm worthy.

[@marthatruitt5331]

Very inspiring Kevin, and a much-needed conversation!

[@JoyH_]

Or the man could have been trying to get home before a family member passed away. We never know what is going on in other people’s lives.

[@Ms.GreenJeans]

Amen! We all tend to make snap judgements. I'm working on remembering to NOT assume and to do your best to be helpful & loving at all times. Gratitude & contribution, imo, is the most important quality that is being eroded right now. We need to keep our wisdom & our values intact. God Bless.

[@colinmicheller.f.c.5655]

👍

[@warrenfloyd1484]

I do miss your morning rambles, this was very refreshing to hear you talk from the heart, rock on crazy lake!😎

[@genevahenderson5622]

Hello Kevin. Yes I have and still do deal with a few people with BPD. It is very hard. I pray a lot. Looking forward to Dearly and Daniel getting home as I know you are for sure. Prayers for safe travel. Hang in there. It won’t be long now!! Blessings of grace and peace to you all!!

[@AndreaDingbatt]

Hello Geneva, I hope you are well and yes, it is very, very difficult to deal with people who Suffer from BPD,,, Mr Dingbatt also suffers from it, & - it used to make his life utterly dark, depressing and horrible,~ And he would then be a difficult man to be around. I am most proud to be his wife, but I am also Acutely aware- had we not been blessed enough to meet, our lives would have been truly awful... And we would have made the lives of those around us a Nightmare. I am deadly serious about that. Now though, as I gain strength, &, he becomes happier with each passing day, we thank our Creator for people like you!! Grateful for your kind words, understanding and for simply being you. I am being absolutely sincere! ( I know that I am a bit long - winded,but bear with me please.) Folks like you, make this world feel friendlier,and a much better place. I've seen many of your comments, and you've replied to me, and some of my daftness!! It genuinely does have a positive impact on myself and therefore the lives of those around me. May the Universe treat you kindly, and may God Bless you for being you. Much love and light, ~from the UK, Andrea, Jasper and George the Pigeon. XxX.

[@genevahenderson5622]

@@AndreaDingbatt Thank you. My husband did also. He was 7 years older than me and I was very young and his 4th wife. But I understood him from the inside out. We were married almost 40 years. Some hard times but mostly good. He passed 7 years ago. I am only 63 but my daughter suffers with it also and she lives on my property. So I still deal with it daily but I have had a lot practice and yes a lot of prayers. Kevin’s positivity is one of the things I keep coming back for and he has a wonderful family. And the homesteading family that follow here are wonderful people also. Gods blessings of grace and peace to you and yours!!

[@AndreaDingbatt]

@@genevahenderson5622 Thank you so much for the kind reply! I'm glad you that you were Blessed with 40years of marriage, that is wonderful!! And that you have a daughter. My absolute sympathy for her having to suffer from this, and my prayers for you both. Much love and respect. Andrea and family. XxX. ❤️🕊️

[@patricik3adykohollandswort668]

"There is none so blind as he who will not see nor so deaf as he who will not hear."

[@LiveFree123]

The saying is true, “deep speaks to deep”. This 66yr old lady knows exactly what you’re talking about. I’m glad I sought help and others in my family as well. It feels good to be living my best life now. Can’t wait to see you, Dearly and Daniel together again. See you for more next time. Much love to you all, Tracey Gail

[@AndreaDingbatt]

Thank You Kevin!! My Hubby has BPD, and although he hasn't been able to get any professional help with it,,, We have worked together, and rather than becoming Co-dependants,,, we made the conscious decision to help each other, and I am very grateful and proud of my Dingbatt!! I see many comments here, from Wonderful people who are in full agreement with you!! And, I couldn't hope to 'meet' such a lovely group of people, who are intelligent, supportive and kind. Wow, how do I put it into words? (* Lmao, I am sorry, but I'm going to try!! 😁!) I'm not ever going to be meeting you, or the great audience here, not in this lifetime. However, I am so Happy and absolutely grateful for all the understanding, support and kindness I have been met with here!! Its made an incredible impact, positively- upon my life, and therefore to my close friends and family. May the Universe treat you all with Kindness... From the Dingbatts, Family and Furry Friends. Namaste 🙏. XxX.

[@sharron2950]

Mr Lake...I just wanted to tell you that this is the best film you've ever made...Thank you for speaking out about mental health and self worth. THANK YOU...besafe and enjoy each others company together as your family is.. lovely...

[@lisakrysicki5044]

Well said my friend. Love and prayers to you, Dearly and Daniel.

[@peggysmith8346]

I love your common sense wisdom. Thank you. Excited you, Dearly, and Daniel will be together soon.

[@kftaylor6757]

Kevin, Love your Channel & Giggly Girl's! You are so right, one never knows what is going on in someone else's life! ☺❤

[@maryfitzsimmonsmcgaw3640]

Kevin thank you for that, your words rang true on so many levels. Going back 50 years I had a soldier pen pal who came to stay for a short leave he was stationed in Northern Ireland at the height of the Troubles. We were walking to the Cinema when a car back fired next thing he was dragging me into a shop doorway trying to protect me. I find the smallest thing insignificant to others can trigger an episode of my severe anxiety. I have a close friend who is bipolar who has high episodes which can make her verbally antisocial the last one lasted months and was caused by a medication being suddenly stopped when it should have been gradual. I watched as people only a passing acquaintance be quite derogatory not knowing she was ill. With the pandemic a lot of support services for mental health have been curtailed the guy Dearly saw may have had unseen issues, you just never know. Well Kevin hope your family is back with you soon. In the meantime try and chill x

[@williampeel9503]

Moment of Truth. Been there brother. for me similar circumstances and took me years to move on without regret. The steps are make a decision or decide - Commit -resolve-React and repeat the process! No more fighting others battles you can’t control but your own and your loved ones there for you

[@alisonlee7944]

Hi Kevin, Honestly for me to watch your Vlogs kevin its something i look forward to everyday.its helped me out so much as i have had my own traumas in my past, so Thank you Kevin for being open and making me feel like we are worthy,we can get help and feel better. There is no shame to get help. Loved this story. 🙏🏻🙏🏻☺️

[@alicecurtis5677]

My nephew last year committed suicide coming back from the war he had a little baby girl she was one years old and then he had a one month old baby boy he left behind it was so sad a young handsome young man took his life💔

[@richardblocher599]

Kevin, God has his hand on your shoulder. Thank you for sharing. I too, have PTSD, and I agree with you in this matter of self-controll. I have manage to get a hold of my ptsd, by going for help. And I am here to tell you, it works. Keep going, with your Family is on the right course, and you will be just find. Richard B

[@belenvelez7028]

I wish you a BLISSFUL DAY AND YOU EVERY DAY OF YOUR LIFE AND CAREER . Thank you for your service. Thank You Lord. Amen 🙏

[@pattyshannon6475]

Look foeward to your videos and Dearly's videos. I'm just so glad to see Daniel and Dearly on the homestead. Your talk is very good and informative for those who don't understand BPD or PTSD. Thank you 😊

[@laurieboykenriley5874]

Well said Kevin! You are awesome! I love your videos like these! So happy that your family is whole again. So happy everyone is back safe! God Bless you and your family.

[@rondatignor2300]

Wow! What a great monologue, Kevin. Your point was spot on. Congratulations on making such courageous and wise decisions this past decade. It sounds like you have made incredible and healthy progress. I pray your family is safely home soon.

[@jantexas]

Well said. The lessons you've learned can only be learned the way you learned them. There's no manual and you rarely get the good stuff without suffering. Good on you for sharing your experience and strength, as well as having the empathy to understand the story behind the story for the traveller's outburst.

[@ladyhoneyrosemckay7753]

Thank you 😊 I’ve just started watching your channel. My mom has BPD & I suffer from PTSD from childhood & things that happened as an adult due to my own sickness from mom. I’m 24 + yrs sober. Getting deep healing in therapy. 👩🏻‍🦰🐝🌈🌸💜🧡🎄🌲

[@gibsonbrigh]

Got a good attitude. It is what it is. My heart goes out to you. May they have a safe return.

[@kathranehunt]

You always have greater meaning to our talks. Thank you

[@angiemartin9920]

What a wise, wonderful man! Thank you for this video! Dearly and Daniel are so blessed to have YOU. May they make it home safley and very soon. Prayers...peace....light ....and love for your beautiful family. We need more like you in this world thats for sure I think we all would be in a better place😀love the positive energy and vibes you put out in this universe may they return to you ×××× multiplied to infinity××××

[@DianeSwett]

Kevin I applaud your outlook on mental health. and you are a part of that anyone else too. - kudos from a retired mental health nurse.

[@timblackford8944]

Great Vlog. Honest, open and insightful. Thanks

[@cherylcooper2838]

Excellent video and they are almost home how wonderful!

[@Trisha_B_done]

If only the world had more ppl with insight and thoughtfulness like Kevin. Peace to each of you. Looking forward to the Lake ramily reunion soon.

[@lindashope2835]

Kevin, you have a beautiful family. You are a very Blessed man and Dearly and Daniel are very Blessed to have you.

[@lorichrist6267]

Thank you, Kevin; that wasn’t an easy topic to talk about. Even though talking about mental health has become somewhat easier, there is still that stigma. It will always be there for some. I am happy that you have found the hope, love, joy and success you’ve been looking for. I can’t wait to see the three of you together. You will be complete once again. Sending caring thoughts and prayers for you all……

[@evy-annstrand8010]

Thank you Kevin, this was much needed and so beautiful said. Bless you and your family.

[@beverlycook8679]

Kevin, you have made AMERICA BETTER with your work, with your attitude. Thank you for helping promoting understanding. So awesome!!! "When I am weak, then I am strong." I don't have to prove or fight anybody.

[@tammykriskie2233]

Thank You Kevin .. I needed to hear this ☺ Sending my thoughts and prayers for you, Dearly and Daniel .. Stay Safe and God Bless ..

[@Cdees57]

Great talk today Kevin. And I appreciated every word.

[@DianasDreams]

2:28 mark...you said years...you meant months, but I bet it felt like years...=)

[@nannyofmany8315]

Well said Kevin. Thoroughly agree. You understand more about life experiences than I ever could. But as mother of 5, my children learned how to live from myself. Telling them go and get it! I have done my part and raised taught values and understanding. Now is there time to go and do (with their own children) the things I truly wanted for them. Gave them the wherewithal to do so. Never trampling on or taking advantage of others. They live fantastic lives but I mention Sunday Roast, they are here! I can never be happier than I am now. Dearly won’t be long now. With your precious son. God bless x

[@danni8604]

I did not know I needed this. It was exactly what needed to hear...Thank you.

[@MJ-my9sg]

WOW you are certainly insightful. Great info.

[@helpinggoodgrow]

Thank you Kevin.

[@nnettie822]

I like your wisdom and insight and these conversations. Thank you.

[@jamesmcgill506]

Great video. I stayed to the end, one of those who got help many years ago. If I am weak I want to go back to infancy to be totally weak and dependent. Came from a very abusive home and my dad short-changed himself because he wasn't 'worthy'. I remember a minister on TV saying "You have to be worthy", I wanted to fly to her location to scream at her "You're killing people, shut the f*** up". I was worthy back in the day when I was trying desperately trying to drink myself to death, but that low self-image wouldn't let me know the truth. If the guy in the airport wasn't in treatment and was unaware of his condition (if that were true) and someone said to him "Dude, it's OK, the airlines is keeping people alive by grounding planes, they are losing money doing this, they don't like it either", I bet he would snap out of it. I had people intercept me from time to time when I was self-destructing and they snapped me out of it. Thought I let you know my experience on this subject. I know I was scared half to death when flying in thunderstorms, lightning strikes are no fun.

[@billpuhljr1073]

Well said Sir and Good Evening Kevin!

[@ninabenson2827]

I totally get it Kevin. I used to be pretty bad borderline. But I've learned to control it very well over the years, amongst other mental disorders. I recognize it for what it is, and I do just fine. And with prayer and Jesus help. 👍🙏💞😊

[@lennyr4486]

Best one I've watched yet.

[@kippytx]

Great message

[@Spike777chi]

YOU ARE so AwEsOmE Kevin!!! Great video! Can't wait to see your beautiful family reunited!!! GOD Bless!

[@leasasmith7718]

I found this to be such an uplifting video, thank you so much!

[@beverlycook8679]

Amen Brother!!! Love you!

[@deejayg1632]

Thank you!

[@roserea3156]

Damn straight. You can love people from afar.

[@susangosling6122]

Hi Kevin, great talk as usual, can't wait to see you all together again. Our family have lived apart mostly from the rest of our extended family because of my husbands illness, caused by shingles in the brain leaving damage . Some people never truly understand mental illness,my children learned to ,but with much heartache over the years ; they can still get cranky with their Father, but they understand why, we are close knit tho' a bit "crazy " so the most important thing as you say is to be understanding. Much love Sue Gosling Adelaide s.a

[@michaelhefferan1847]

Mate Kevin your ok . God bless you and your family 🙂👍

[@susanstewart7209]

Thank you for sharing

[@lauraklascius6427]

Love you Kevin. I loved your conversation.😘💕

[@MsVictoria4ever]

Well said, I like your channel and your honesty.

[@betsy6374]

Kudos to you! Mental illness is so misunderstood. Self care is the most important thing one can do. I work with Soldiers with PTSD on JBLM. The best thing another person can do is have compassion and understanding.

[@barefootreba]

Please tell me what JBLM means.

[@betsy6374]

@@barefootreba Joint Base Lewis McChord. (Army/Air Force Base in WA State)

[@middyvanhoose9859]

u r so correct God bless u dear

[@maebellaakamaegirl190]

Kevin well put everything you said does not offend I'm hoping anybody with a disorder because, you worded it so well. 🙏🙏🌠👍🌠. And dearly and Daniel will be home soon. 🙏🙏🙏 For a safe travel home.

[@joannmcneil3107]

Thank you for explaining different emotional conditions. You are so right.

[@lucypinkstaff2399]

Can tell how happy is going to be this encounter ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@jeanrankin7090]

God love ya not so crazy lake God love ya

[@bmoon1960]

I hear you Kevin. My husband, our son and I lived with my husband's parents for a while, and one or the other if not both would yell and slam doors, and if I was upstairs, which is where I usually was, I'd jump and I'm still jumpy to this day... Thunderstorms scare me. My son asks me why I'm so jumpy. He's now 29 and I live with him. My husband and his brother live with their mother, she still screams and slams doors and I can't deal with it. I'm glad I get to visit with my husband a couple times a week, it's just very difficult sometimes.

[@warrenfloyd1484]

Kevin great video, enjoyed it watched till the end, good job!😎

[@reillybab1]

Thank You Kevin! You’re A beautiful Human Being 🙏❤️

[@alieneiasillo7148]

You know …you are pretty wise…I like you more every time I watch one of your videos. Thank you for your information and your perspective. It will help many of us to try to understand others a little more.

[@jandavis9360]

Isn’t it funny how our mindset changes as we get older .. I really enjoyed this one Kevin. Thank you and have a wonderful time welcoming your family home! Blessings from Texas 🇨🇱

[@Richiedei50]

Thank you

[@CarlaHanson68]

Beautifully said, Kevin and thank you. ❤❤❤

[@carladejonge4951]

Good talk!

[@juliesprik9479]

Dealing with BPD is a never ending rollercoaster ride.Avoid at all costs.

[@juliesprik9479]

@@jillybear6007 I understand that 💯 percent.My older daughter has it and her behavior is so horrible that my younger daughter and I chose to stop all contact with her.

[@juliesprik9479]

@@jillybear6007 I am so sorry you went through that.I truly understand that.

[@vampyrellaa]

@@juliesprik9479 i have bpd and what you did is probably the worst thing you could've done. A big thing with bpd is fear of abandonment. So leaving them will just strenghen their false beliefs that everyone will leave them. You should do research and try to understand it. Trust me living with bpd is a hell of a lot worse than what others have to deal with from us. It also gets better with age usually. Im 25 now and mostly chill.

[@juliesprik9479]

@@vampyrellaa My younger daughter and I are not going to take anymore ABUSE.Make sure you are not abusing others.Focus on your own behavior.

[@juliesprik9479]

@@vampyrellaa I highly doubt that others see you as being mostly chill.

[@stephaniegamble3571]

Thank you. Just.. Thank you Be Blessed in Jesus Name

[@holly7010]

This is the best video you have ever made. Thank you, I have ptsd from military sexual trama in 1976 and with 15 years of therapy, to this day I sometimes freek out around if I'm alone and a group of men appears. or I posture hate and beligerence out of fear as a form of survival. But men assume I'm a man hating lesbian.

[@1960leeann]

Yup. Bpd family member here. Whoa. Not easy..wicked thing to deal with. All I can do is pray for them.

[@jackieskitchen1966]

I needed this today, thank you Kevin! ❤

[@crystalphillips696]

So happy you will see your family soon. Love you all.

[@jonathangreenwalt]

I always been like that not giveing a crap what people say or think of me as long as you love you for you others shouldn't hold you back they just mad cause they can't be like you or have what you have cause they don't want to put the effort in the work

[@patriciaburgess2123]

Hi Kevin my heart goes out to you and Dearly and Daniel I can't even start to imagine how it must feel for all three of y'all cannot see hug go to sleep at night knowing they are with you for 3 long months I'm praying they will be home with you soon and yes I am one of your fans that looks forward to watching your videos every day and when you read October Nights it made October so much better it gave me something special to look forward to you and your family are always in my prayers I get so scared for you when you go on your night hunts I feel silly but I find myself yelling at my phone for you to not go that way or turn around and run away and I'm moving the phone like it's gonna move you or me or something I feel like I'm there with you during those times like I said I feel silly and don't know why I do it maybe it's because I'm a empath I don't know if it works through a KZbin video of someone I've never met or talked to who knows maybe it does and that's why it affects me so strongly anyway my prayers are with you and your family big hugs and thank you for giving me something to look forward to

[@sarahvick2186]

People need to remember that it's okay to change ur mind about something, things I thought of in my 20s, I think differently now. Thank God it's different. Accordingly and appropriately....... if you always do what you've always done you'll always be what you've always been. 😊

[@loumiller1328]

Wow Kevin.... Not sure what adjective to use for this video. They all seem to fall short of expressing how deeply the truth in what you're talking about affected me (and others apparently, by reading comments 👍) I'm a logical person, ever since my youth. When I would ask my father why common sense is so rare, his explanation was it's a God given gift. (Sometimes I see it as a curse? Because ppl truly don't grasp what you are saying or see it as a way of lecturing? Idk.) The advice has always been given only when asked for... and explained through my experiences, which is different for everyone. Yeah, off track there a bit.... I experienced a trauma in my teens, the doctors and psychologist described it as an "emotional breakdown" or overload. (self preservation mode, felt physically numb when any emotional response to a situation. Only emotion I seemed able to express was anger, and even that had the fallout of the total body numbing.) My father was against seeking outside help, and mom finally put her foot down and found a wonderful counselor. (His logic was that I would find a way to work through it on my own.) I am profoundly grateful that my mom sought help for me to this day. Ironically, my own experience prepared me for a child on the autism spectrum... Learning, educating myself and others through the process. (even when the school system took us to court on truancy claim.) The judge admitted he was perplexed by my answers: either I was a well informed advocate? Or a potential enabler. It was seen as a stigma for me in the mid 70s... My child also, early 2000-2003 and beyond. While times seem to be changing for the better on mental health issues, I find the most critical point is finding someone who is knowledgeable (not textbook only)? I apologize for this lengthy post; however, I simply felt the need to encourage anyone seeking help to continuing looking if they don't feel the counselor, therapist, psychiatrist...doesn't understand or is quick to lable and dole out medication within one meeting. Prayers to all who were touched by Kevin's video, and encouragement to seek help to enjoy the blessings and fulfillment life has to offer. ❤️🙏

[@Bexcah]

hello. i started of with the crayon vid, then doggy vid, til eventually right here on this vid, i have bpd, and cptsd, and life is harder living around anti social behaviour for me personally, its like not having skin like the average person, but my skin is peeled off which makes everything sting more, an this refers to my emotions. everything is more raw. i have a few "inappropriate behaviour" people living around me, i want out, been stuck here 7 years, gah! living with mental illness is tough, and you are doing really well on this channel, keep it up :D

[@gailfox6791]

Thank u Kevin.

[@kelleymccoy6453]

Kudos my friend, kudos.

[@barbarareynolds3005]

Bless you and your family.

[@darrenprice6234]

so true good sir you will all be together soon

[@Ms.GreenJeans]

This man could've just needed ONE thing go right & this was his ONE thing & it was cancelled. That's why we have to RESPECT/LOVE others. Never assume.

[@celestesanterre796]

Thank you for that!👏

[@colinmicheller.f.c.5655]

👏👏

[@ThaParsonsWife]

Thank you so much for the talk… I do not suffer from this however I know a few who do and choose not to seek help yet….. God bless

[@sandrablake2172]

thanks for the words of encouragement

[@heidilo5589]

This message by far is one of my all time favorites from you..Thank you in more ways I could ever say or express.

[@vixendoe2545]

Hi Kevin, got your six and will be watching to the very end of this vid.

[@chaishalom8701]

Hi Kevin, it's a small world. I have a brother who lives in Charlottesville. He has been living there several years now. I hope that Dearly and your son get to come home soon. Talk to you later.

[@BytheWay333]

❤️

[@StonedustandStardust]

People who don't know how to dream or imagine hate those who do.