How Do I Come Out If I Don't Know Who I Am Yet?! | Dear

It's National Coming Out Day! 🌈 💚💜 Coming out can be an amazing experience...but it can also cause a lot of anxiety. So today we're celebrating with a new series where ‪@queeeerchameleon‬ and It Gets Better answer some of your burning questions.
First up, one that many of us have had at some point in our journeys: There are so many different labels...How do I figure out who I am?!
Have you got a question? Drop it in the comments below! 👇
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[@queeeerchameleon]

Aghhhh! Happy Coming Out Day everyone 🥹 I am so excited to celebrate with the first episode in this series! 💚 I hope you enjoy it!

[@Rosemary-rr9jf]

@@queeeerchameleon im so happy your here to help💜

[@ZestyScreaming]

Thank youuuu I really needed that (context the school's outing me as trans to my hater mum :')) but tyyyyy! You're awesome ❤ AND HAPPY COMING OUT DAY YA'LL!

[@FlowerAnimates]

@@queeeerchameleon Love all your art/animation work I've seen, but this might just be my favorite!

[@russc8971]

@@queeeerchameleon do you have to be born LGBTQ?

[@rouga-senpai7613]

@@russc8971 elaborate?

[@lilyslibrary8623]

I came out to my mom the other day. Told her I was still figuring it out and didn’t want it to be a big deal and that I wasn’t ready for anybody else to know yet. I kinda expected our relationship to change a bit (she’s pretty religious, we never talked about how she felt about this kind of thing) but… we just moved on to our normal life, which made me so happy 😊

[@Romain_Galland]

@@lilyslibrary8623 that makes me very very happy for you and I hope this will keep being the type of experience you encounter when you decide to come out to someone else. You were very brave. 🫶🏻

[@fionilina]

I do have 2 gender identities and one sexuality. Non-Binary, Genderfluid and Bisexual. And I like it. One day I wear a oversized shirt and a baggy jeans, the next day I wear a dress and a leggings. Many students from my class think that's weird, but I don't care what they are saying. As long I feel comfortable with myself❤❤ Having more than 1 gender identity is a great thing. I can show the world who I am and there's nothing that's going to stop me from doing that❤️💜🏳️‍🌈💪🏼

[@heytrace]

I’m similar to this expect im bi, non binary, and aroace

[@YanicaKyneva]

I remember when two of my friends understood that I was qeer by seeing one of my videos from tiktok at first I was panicking but then I was surprised to hear how supportive are they

[@chaotickoalas]

My struggle right now is that I'm not sure if I'm really bi or just straight and lying to myself. I'm leaning strongly toward bi, but every time I try to do anything to display or claim this identity, I get terrified that I'm wrong about it and take it down. I don't have any LGBTQ+ friends (that I'm aware of), and I'm scared of attending queer events/centers (my school has a QRC, not a GSA) because I don't want to appropriate queer spaces if I end up being straight. I afraid to use queer specific therapy for the same reason, but I don't know how else to find therapy that might help. I wish I was trying to figure out bi/pan or lesbian. At least that way I'd always be queer and wouldn't have to worry about whether or not I can be in queer spaces.

[@MabelTemiki]

Hey random person. On the internet I guess I just want to say I remember having a similar conversation with my friend a few years ago, and their response was something like “even if you are straight, no-one should judge you for exploring yourself and making mistakes”. I don’t know but that kind of helped me out a bit. Also the Q in LGBTQIA+ can also stand for Questioning (at least that’s what I’ve heard) and I guess at the end of the day, your sexuality is yours, and you can really describe it however you want, or whatever feels right. I don’t know if this helps but good luck I guess.

[@EthanKo-tb9xe]

If you are not sure which one, you don’t have to go by spicifics and can always change it later, some times you can be all at one but it’s up to you for what feels confteralble, not what others think about you, even if their queer as well

[@dooblom]

Better to learn from a mistake than to never make the mistake at all, cuz if you don't, you won't learn.

[@itgetsbetter]

The good thing to remember is that there is no "right" or "wrong" - people change their labels sometimes as they explore and learn more about themselves! You could always try out "Questioning" as a label - there's a reason the Q in "LGBTQ+" stands for Queer AND Questioning!

[@AidenTGP]

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[@andrewmalinowski6673]

If coming across this advice when I was in high school, maybe it would have been easier to "figure things out" before stumbling across the answer. It's still good to hear when still trying to accept the labels I've found for myself, even if it's still hard to feel like I can express them.

[@dubon9999]

We Gay men, united are stronger 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🧿🧿🧿✝️✝️✝️🌠🌠🌠

[@Ilikemarinescience]

This helped so muchhh!!!! It’s good to know someone else is asking similar questions to what I’m feeling. Thanks queer chameleon!

[@AtticusTheMothBoy]

I went from a straight and dis girl to lesbian and gender-fluid. Then I was gender-fluid and pansexual. Then I was a Demi girl and pan. Then I was a demiboy (he/they) and pan. Then I was non binary and pan. Now I am a demiboy (he/they/it) and questioning whether I am pansexual or omnisexual.

[@summer27619]

hey-hi um i think you just mention how you're feeling at the moment/express that it's in flux n you're figuring you out *hugs*

[@rayleaf8114]

WTF I do not know how to feel. Like this is so cute. But its so out of the realm of reality for me when I was coming out. But thank you❤

[@-_sailor-chan_-]

I’m part of a big friend group where practically everyone is queer, including me. My problem is, almost all of my friends have come out to their parents, and yet I haven’t. I know coming out isn’t something you have to do, but sometime I feel guilty for staying in the closet, while they all had the courage to tell their parents.

[@DragonixaHome]

I was raised in a catholic family and due to internalized homophobia I wouldn't let myself believe I'm queer. I first started questioning my sexuality at around 13yo when I kissed a girl during a Spin the Bottle game, but then repressed it even harder... Until my 20's. It came back HARD. Turns out I'm a panromantic demisexual, and recently I learned I'm also reciprosexual! I didn't even know there was a name for how I experience attraction! Anyways, you learn your entire life, and that also comes with self-discovery :)

[@InfinityzzStarzPawz]

Love you QC!!

[@Goobletheartist]

How do we ask our own questions?

[@EthanKo-tb9xe]

Sometimes you don’t have to as I went from a feeling and reserched it to have a proper position.

[@itgetsbetter]

You can drop one here - we may answer it with Queer Chameleon in the future!

[@Romain_Galland]

What a wonderful and thoughtful video. Internet can be a lot of things however it’s truly magical that such material exist for queers’s youth and more. I came out more than 20 years ago, and nothing like this was around, well internet was barely around yet 😱 but it would have made things so much easier, not perfect surely, but I would’ve felt very much less alone. Thank you so much too everyone involved in this initiative, it’s remarkable. 🫶🏻

[@BI_MFER]

i’m not sure if I’m bisexual, a lesbian, or Cuporomantic

[@Perhaps-hehe]

For me, I was like “oh yeah I’m definitely aroace” ..my gender on the other hand-

[@angelikichannel3951]

When someone calls me a girl or say's you go play with the girls i feel something is dieing inside of me (I'm girl but I'm not sure is I want to be...) Do you have any advice for that?😅

[@Lufia4]

Cute

[@CathalReilly77]

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[@CathalReilly77]

There is millions and millions of pronouns transgender people and queer people does millions so there is