ITS NOT YOUR FAULT THAT YOU DRINK ALCOHOL | BUT YOU CAN QUIT DRINKING FOR GOOD WITH THESE EASY STEPS

[@nickcranham2006]

Great video. Many words of wisdom. Good to listen to someone of around my age who has had an overly long relationship with alcohol and been through many of the same downfalls. Also back to running now, the body is complaining but the mind is strong and the alcohol a distant memory.

[@Runningonthemind]

Thanks Nick, I appreciate you taking the time time to leave your thoughts. Great to hear you are back running and finding a way better and more positive outlet for your passion and energy. Your body will do whatever you mindset tells it to, you just have to control it and not listen to the lazy demon that tells you to stop because it’s hard work 🏃🏻. Keep up the positive vibes mate and if you ever need a sounding board then please always feel welcome to reach out 🫡

[@Nomadickangoo]

I didn't know shower shame was a thing, I always used to sit on the shower floor and just let the water run over me while I was curled up in a pathetic ball.. thanks for sharing mate ❤

[@Runningonthemind]

I’m sure there have been many, many of us who’ve experienced that right. I think when we shower it’s a time of reflection and doing that ashamed, tired, hungover and feeling generally a pathetic failure is rather memorable. I lost count of the amount of times I did that! Thanks for sharing too, means a lot 🫡🫶🏻

[@vikyefre4975]

I can absolutely relate to this. I didn’t think anyone else experienced the same thing. Thanks for sharing

[@Runningonthemind]

@@vikyefre4975you’re welcome, thanks for taking the time to watch it and leave a kind comment. Have a great day 🫶🏻

[@FreeRadicals9478]

Whatever works for people. I quit partying too much and treating my body like shit because I believed IT WAS MY FAULT. And none of the bullshit reasons I told myself for why I drank so much were real. Now I have a healthy relationship with alcohol, only drinking 2-4 times per year and I would never call myself an addict. I conquered my addiction. In my opinion, that is so much more empowering than believing “I can’t help myself.” But whatever works for YOU is the best way. ❤

[@Runningonthemind]

Thanks so much for dropping the comment, and so great to read that you’ve made such an important change. For me, the line between responsibility and fault is quite small, the fault that I use is more aimed at society and the way alcohol is protected and to be fair, relied on by governments as a source of tax money.. a society that protects alcohol as an addictive drug yet stigmatises anybody that then goes on to have an addiction. However, irrespective of that, it IS our responsibility to prioritise ourselves and our health and that is where ownership and empowering yourself comes in. All words but at the end of the day, as you say.. no matter how, if people are getting it under control and you and I have then that is really all that matters in the end. Thanks so much for taking the time, appreciate it 🫶🏻

[@rundix3351]

I ran all my life and abused alcohol all my life. My problem is when I ran and didn’t drink for a few days I would start to feel good, then I would look for booze to increase that feeling. It was a constant battle between running and drinking.

[@Runningonthemind]

@@rundix3351 thanks for the comment and the openness, it means a lot. I think your situation is super common, and actually I was the same in my 30s when I managed to get myself in a semi decent place with running, but always still relied on alcohol for the additional dopamine.. sadly however as I’m sure you know, alcohol and its impact on us can make us feel less line doing hard things so running often ends up being the thing that gets dropped as after all, who wants to run feeling hungover or with alcohol fog!.. it’s easy for the balance to be hard to manage and I got it wrong a lot that’s for sure. Hope you’ll find a way to get to where you want to with it 🫡

[@kevinsmith5318]

Excellent, insightful… blessed that i discovered your channel. Very motivational. Of all the thousands of hours i’ve watched your’s is at the very top. I used to be a runner even in snow blown winters I’m now desiring to get back to those golden moments. Much appreciate your inspirational sharing of your thoughts. Yes, helpful. Thank you!

[@Runningonthemind]

@@kevinsmith5318 wow Kevin, thank you for such a kind and warm comment and feedback. Running is a wonderful way to find balance and in addition to all the health benefits, it’s so powerful for great mental health and a life focused on positive outcomes rather than short term fixes like alcohol. Please keep me updated on your journey and all the very best of luck 🫡

[@offthegriddownunderaustral8814]

I got into Bee Keeping about the time I gave alcohol a rest about 15 years ago, I also ran 2 Marathons.

[@Runningonthemind]

That’s amazing - it’s incredible how much energy and focus you can put into productive things when you cut out alcohol. Good for you, running 2 marathons is a serious accomplishment 👏👏🫡

[@kevinmcbroom7196]

Great video. Craig Beck is the author of Alcohol Lied To Me and offers a comprehensive course as well.

[@Runningonthemind]

@@kevinmcbroom7196 thanks so much, I always seem to forget Craig’s name for some reason, but I enjoy his communication style and his experience. Thanks so much 🫶🏻

[@r_unner_G]

I binged drinked for years, then quit alcohol about 7-8 years ago (can't exactly remember when). A few red flags had arisen for years before stopping. In terms of running, I used to run parkrun after a night out and it took about a minute longer than usual and with a huge banging headache. The final straw was waking up in my own bed with my phone on-charge (and alarm set for work) with my keys and wallet intact and having absolutely no idea how I got there! That was really scary. Can't stand the sight of a lager in a pint glass now. I only drink wine when visiting my parents occasionally just to be polite but it's usually about 2 glasses only. I have no problems not drinking socially, I barely socialise now. Saved so much money since giving up and have become a decent age group runner.

[@Runningonthemind]

Fantastic to hear your journey, and thanks for the vulnerability as it helps others reading this. Amazing to hear the turn around, I have a lot of relatable experiences, especially the black out experience. Glad you can balance the occasional glass of wine, I tried that once after 9 months sobriety at Christmas and ended up back drinking regularly again so I know I don’t have that ability - but to be fair I don’t care as I have no desire to touch the stuff again now. Running is an amazing ( it just as expensive 😂) replacement and really moves your mind to a constructive place, really helps with self discipline. Sounds like you are doing really well, if you are in strava then would be great to connect - Jody spooner is my user name. Have a great week and thanks again 🫡

[@weinerwagon6667]

I am on my journey, again. This poison should be illegal! The rollercoaster of it is so exhausting. Great video! Thank you.

[@Runningonthemind]

@@weinerwagon6667 every other addictive substance that kills people and ruins lives is, so it’s hard not to argue the same. Well Done on starting again, stay clear on your reason and remember it’s a long game, focus on the long term outcomes over the short term hit. Good luck and thanks for being part of this channel, I really appreciate it 🫶🏻🫡

[@Knightcommander69]

Another book I recommend is Allen Carr: Stop Drinking Now

[@Runningonthemind]

Thank you, I’ve heard a lot of people found Allen’s books useful. He also has a very powerful one for stopping smoking too. Thank you for the comment 🫶🏻

[@BadKneeRunner]

Great video, resonates with me and I need to lay off the booze if I want to achieve my goals. There's plenty of similar pictures of me out there too! I'm so glad social media wasn't around for the majority of my drinking years! Loving the video setting too, very calming.

[@Runningonthemind]

Thanks so much mate, appreciate you taking the time to watch it as I know it was a pretty long video. Yeah I’m glad we grew up where the majority of our drunken madness went mostly unnoticed 😂. My wife will be happy with the last part about the setting, she is responsible for how that looks 🫶🏻🫡

[@BadKneeRunner]

@@Runningonthemind your wife did a great job! I’m currently trying to sort out my talk-to-camera space for when I start doing that type of video. I look forward to your next video.

[@Runningonthemind]

@@BadKneeRunnerthank you sir. Go for it, I subscribed to your channel so that I can support you in your journey 🫡🫶🏻

[@BadKneeRunner]

@@Runningonthemind ❤️

[@chammerchip6059]

Hey Jody, another great and important video, Thankyou. It’s going to help loads of people, two major things I’ve taken from your videos so far are ‘non-negotiable’ and ‘it’s not your fault but your responsibility’. Two weeks into my latest dry streak, I’ve done lots now, each one a little longer. Going for a year this time & will post comments on your videos for accountability, if that’s ok with you. Also two more days to go in my 5k a day for 10 days running streak. Some days have been really hard but getting it done 👍. Love your trainer collection too!!! Keep up the great work. Colin

[@Runningonthemind]

Thanks Colin, it means so much to me to hear that what I’m sharing is helping you, and also I’m proud of you for having the courage and vulnerability to comment and share you thoughts, it’s brave and don’t underestimate how important it is and how many people just can’t find it within them to wear their heart on their sleeve like you are. It would be my privilege to be part of your accountability circle and please feel free to reach out ti me any time, I love to help where I can. Keep up the amazing work mate, you are doing great and very important things and they will add up to such significant changes that you’ll be a way happier and more grounded person. Well done mate 🫡🫡🫶🏻

[@Lawman212]

I would be interested to hear more about sleep. I don't drink, but have problems with food. But I can't sleep, I'm always tired. I'm overweight. You would think exercise would increase the ability for sleep, but it only makes me more tired. I try to start gently, but it's very difficult to recover from exertion. It's like catching the flu; I just want to lay down and not think about anything. Sleep has always defeated me.

[@Runningonthemind]

@@Lawman212 it can be totally exhausting when you can’t sleep for long periods of Time. Sometimes people have a deficiency in melatonin which is the hormone your brain produces to help get you to sleep. It’s worth chatting to a doc about that and maybe getting some strong supplements. It’s also worth reading a book called why we sleep by Matthew Walker. I personally found breathwork before trying to sleep really helped me for between 10-15 mins. Another great read on that topic is called breath by James Nestor 🫶🏻

[@robbarnett524]

Great video. Been on the same journey. Important to share your experiences. Well done buddy

[@Runningonthemind]

Thanks Rob, really appreciate that and your comment, well done on your journey with it all mate 🫡

[@jethrotaylor2441]

The only people we need to hear from are those that know, not a doctor that that pretends

[@Runningonthemind]

Thank you, I agree it’s very hard to take advice from people who’ve not experienced it. Drs certainly know the health reasons, but the challenges of getting through an addiction if they’ve not had one is a different thing. Thanks for taking the time to drop a comment and sending you well wishes 🫶🏻

[@faddad101]

Only at 8:14 but I love the avenue you’re taking so far. All the science vids and benefits etc. are always pointless to me. Like I get it’s bad and life would be better but it’s the dopamine and the excitement and the boredom/emotion driven compulsion that doesn’t get talked about enough. I’ve had sober spells of 7-30 days including 0%, nothing, reading books/podcasts, the works, since my wife got pregnant early last year but funnily enough after a bad weekend just there (my first in 1.5yrs), I’ve finally decided enough is enough. Sometimes it takes one last go to really realise it. I think as well, as someone who’s been into ultras (audiobooks etc., no ultras for me just yet - I jury galore haha) for years and resonates with the ‘addiction’ community. I struggled to define my own relationship with behaviours/substances. The best realisation I’ve had of late is that I ought not try to think of myself as an addict, cos I don’t really think I am, but acknowledging a misuse disorder, a pattern of compulsions. So this video is both a sign and breath of fresh air. Appreciate your vulnerability Jody. Sending ❤

[@Runningonthemind]

Firstly thank you so much for taking the time mate, I really appreciate it and your honestly and vulnerable approach. Thanks for sharing your experience as I know people read the comments and seeing people like yourself sharing and being open and honest will give others strength and courage to do the same in their journey. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts about the “pot at the end of the rainbow” type of self help books and videos on here too.. I think people know the benefits no matter what. If you don’t smoke you have less chance of getting lung cancer, if you don’t gamble you’ll have more money.. yeah obviously 😂😂 Thanks again man and keep in touch as I’d love to help where I can and be a support To you if at all possible. Have a great day 🫡🫶🏻

[@pdfbrander]

Alcohol steals fun from the future.

[@Runningonthemind]

That is so true 🫶🏻

[@Knightcommander69]

Great video. Subscribed.

[@Runningonthemind]

Thank you, I appreciate it a lot 🫡

[@jamesbyrne9312]

Everything you say is spot on.

[@Runningonthemind]

Thanks so much James, and appreciate you saying that as I want to help people and not sugar coat things, but to talk from the heart and experience. Have a great day brother 🫶🏻

[@jamesbyrne9312]

@@Runningonthemind Thanks for the reply. I agree that many sober videos are by people who haven't experienced true trauma amd it annoys me. If they had my history they would probably be a mess or dead. I am still very bitter but I am trying to move forward.

[@Runningonthemind]

@@jamesbyrne9312 hear you dude - just keep pushing forward, try to remember the long game and try to stay positive. You are further forward than you think, even messaging on here is brave and more than many others could do. Keep strong 💪

[@jamesbyrne9312]

@@Runningonthemind Thanks for the support. I hear you and I appreciate it.

[@redscap17]

i fully support ppl quitting alcohol

[@Runningonthemind]

@@redscap17 great to hear, me too, its such an important thing and society doesn't help.

[@daverobinson2157]

Thanks a lot man. Very useful 👍

[@Runningonthemind]

You’re welcome Dave, wishing you the best my friend 🫡

[@paddybutcher4704]

Book suggestion. ‘Drink’ by Professor David Nutt BRILLIANT

[@Runningonthemind]

Thank you so much for taking the time to provide a recommendation. I’ve personally not heard of that one so will take a look and I’m sure others reading the comments appreciate your suggestion 🫡

[@Louis76-z3i]

I would still avoid the alcohol free beer as well.

[@Runningonthemind]

@@Louis76-z3i I think if it’s a potential trigger then it’s good advice, but for me it doesn’t trigger anything because I managed to separate any correlation between the AF beers and the alcohol versions. 👍

[@Louis76-z3i]

@@Runningonthemind Thank you for this comment.

[@Louis76-z3i]

I used to drink and drink when I was in my late teens and twenties. And smoke. When I look back now I don't think I knew what I was actually doing. It was definitely not me. It was someone else. I appreciate this upload..

[@Runningonthemind]

@@Louis76-z3i thank you for taking the time to add your thoughts and your story, it’s always brave to admit weaknesses and looking back and learning is how we become better people. We are pushed towards it in most of the world.. and it’s fun at the time but most of the world doesn’t know the truth behind it all and what severe damage it’s doing to society. It’s getting better though, more and more people are cutting down or stopping which has to be a good thing 🫶🏻

[@Louis76-z3i]

@@Runningonthemind

[@king13873]

Amen sir. God bless everyone.

[@Runningonthemind]

Thank you 🙏

[@armondeushon7892]

God damn it! Which God??? M

[@king13873]

@@armondeushon7892 God bless you

[@armondeushon7892]

@@king13873 Thor:"by my hammer I shall smite all other dogs!"

[@michaelvanmastrigt7591]

It is 100% ABSOLUTELY you’re own fault for drinking alcohol as it is a conscious choice that you made for yourself I cannot stand for people not accepting personal accountability Furthermore I completely disagree that alcoholism is a “disease” It is not. It is an addiction like any other. Cigarettes, fast food, pornography, etc etc

[@Runningonthemind]

Thanks for leaving your thoughts Andy. I agree 100% that it is your responsibility and accountability and I say that in the video. I also explain what I mean by it not being peoples fault as a metaphor for how alcohol is normalised in society when there is thousands of pieces of literature and statistical evidence to show that alcohol is addictive (as you righty say), yet when people become addicted it’s shamed by the same society that normalised it - it’s to be expected and once addicted, it’s not just a case of somebody saying the obvious (as also say in the video) that they should stop - they know this but it’s about addressing the addiction. I NEVER said it was a disease and would never call it that as it isn’t, I agree 100% on that point.

[@offthegriddownunderaustral8814]

Hey Bro! I thought the hard part of running a marathon was the 6-12 months of training.

[@Runningonthemind]

That’s true, that is indeed the hardest part for sure 🫡

[@faddad101]

Doing it without injury is the hardest part 😤😂

[@kjkuta1]

Alcohol is a kind servant...... But a cruel master.......

[@Runningonthemind]

@@kjkuta1 it certainly takes its pound of flesh. Definitely a cruel master I like the saying 🫡

[@kathryngannon485]

Amino acids help with the brain reset.

[@Runningonthemind]

@@kathryngannon485 good advice - do you have recommendations that we can put in the comments so that others can use the information? Thanks so much Kathryn 🫶🏻🫡

[@jeztickles4361]

Aren’t all relationships with alcohol bad?

[@Runningonthemind]

It’s addictive, so in theory yes. But there are people out there that have just a drink at Christmas dinner for example, and if that is the case it’s drinking at a safe level. But as a rule, and for most, any relationship with alcohol s dangerous 🫡

[@pannitalmadge7464]

Freaking hate alcohol

[@Runningonthemind]

Same. Wishing you success if you are trying to avoid it 🫶🏻

[@garyjohnson3751]

It is your fault that you drink alcohol no one throws it down your throat it’s all about taking responsibility for yourself and your actions

[@Runningonthemind]

Yes it is about taking responsibility and accountability I agree (and say that in the video) The fault is a metaphor for a very messed up society where we are sold a lie that drinking an addictive substance that kills more people each year than every other drug combined is normal, yet as soon as it becomes an issue it’s the person fault rather than looking at the root cause. My point is more that society normalises it and as a result we can’t be surprised that people become addicted to it, but it’s our own responsibility to take action against it if it’s negatively impacting our life or others around us.

[@andrewp5180]

Alcohol would be illegal if invented today cos it’s a very powerful, damaging and addictive drug which is normalised by common use. And marketing.

[@30yearsoldiam1]

Societies normalizing something has no correlation to whether it's good for any individual. Most adults know this, most addicts and alcoholics do as well. I do agree that KZbin type advice is often too scientific.....but the vague, general stuff is also super saturated as well.

[@andrewp5180]

@@30yearsoldiam1They do and they don’t, they knew smoking was bad in the 1950s in theory but cos everyone smoked still people thought it wasn’t particularly bad. People don’t internalise health knowledge cos socialising is a priority.