Why cant I just have one drink?

[@Torgo-and-the-Lucifer-Cat]

"One drink is too many, and a million aren't enough"....says it all. ❤

[@MJA5]

Amen 🙏🏻-it’s exactly that.

[@souldreamer9056]

I never understood those weirdos that only drink one drink and then stop. Being sober was an awful feeling, and the further away from it, the better. I just passed my 4000th sober day.

[@whiteyfisk9769]

Same. You drink to get drunk, maybe not blacked out in 3 seconds. But id rather be sober than drink one beer and feel all weird and unsatisfied

[@liamburns8554]

Really depends on genetics. Drink reacts differently depending on your genes

[@iluomobravo]

Moderation is torture

[@ashchaya7676]

@@whiteyfisk9769 Same with me. Back when I was drinking if you gave me half a bottle of whiskey and there was no way of getting any more that night, I wouldn't even start. I knew if I drank it I'd be WAY more unsatisfied than just being outright sober. As far as I was concerned that half bottle of whiskey was no whiskey at all.

[@robertclark9]

Right? If there was a sign that read “all you can drink for a buck”, I would tell em “give me two bucks worth”……I’ve never had one of anything in my life. Except maybe a job 😂

[@iluomobravo]

6 months, 1 week sober. It’s really not so bad. As a single guy it’s lonely, but when I go to my local bar for a burger and a coke once in a while, nobody asks where I was or where I’d been. They hadn’t even noticed I stopped coming. They were never my friends.

[@MJA5]

No one really cares if you drink, do they? They might for a minute because they want you in their bucket 🪣. But when they figure out you’re not joining them, poof 💨!

[@missylowcarb]

Great for you that you figured that out.Congratulations 🎉

[@iluomobravo]

@@MJA5 well put.

[@AllansStation]

25 years sober, love life never even tempted to go back to the alcohol I retired when I was still in the top league of drinkers. Try it it can be done

[@jonathanscripps917]

I never had a drink problem, I had a stopping problem. Waking up sober, not picking up, one day at at a time, with the fellowship and the programme alongside me, I'm approaching 2 years sober. Acceptance, Courage, Wisdom = Serenity.

[@MJA5]

Congrats! I love not waking up sick.

[@MrRaugerbrown]

Thanks for doing this mate. One drink is too many and a hundred is never enough. This is the key to sobriety.

[@ashchaya7676]

Me a few years ago: "What a shit day. I deserve a drink." -> 30 standard drinks "What a great day. I deserve a drink." -> 30 standard drinks "What a nothing day. How boring. Think I'll have a drink." -> 30 standard drinks

[@kieransimpson2160]

Most don't understand the severity of binge alcoholism. For years I have drank myself to oblivion with each session lasting upwards of 12-24 hours. I go into work and no one can see the crippling hangsiety I feel or the regret from all the stupid decisions made whilst intoxicated. It's easy for me to not drink but almost impossible to just have one. 99% of the times I've had one, I later came home the next day when the sun's up. Many times ive had near death experiences, walking the streets drunk and getting a knife pulled at me, or hit over the head by a junkie with a metal pipe just last weekend. Only now have I realized that I'll never be able to drink socially. Sometimes you just have to submit to something and acknowledge that it has power of you. Wish me luck

[@ANormalAlcoholic]

Good luck 👍

[@miked9653]

Right there with you. Not drinking isn't the problem, it's when I do drink, I keep drinking until I black out. The days after, just crippling anxiety. Then when the anxiety subsides, I do it all over again, like an idiot.

[@user-bo5qb2rb8q]

For me one drink just leads to the next and then the next and so on

[@jamesbyrne9312]

The normal dopamine we need from social interaction is mimicked by alcohol. But once we drink we socialise less, and so begins the cycle of using alcohol for your dopamine that you should be getting from a social life

[@seanlevoy9446]

I woulld imagine we would have been great drinking buddies but more than that we would be great sober buddies. Good luck. Great videos, honest, raw. You are doing the world a service.

[@browntrousersmoment]

Thank your videos. The other day I read the "Alcoholism is a cancer of the soul" it hit me hard...

[@Crushkirkland]

I tried that, many times, I always felt worse than I did before the one drink after drinking one. It made my nerves go nuts knowing I was only drinking one drink, so it always wound up being about 12 drinks. One drink would just piss me off. I always envied the people who could just stop at one or two.

[@daniel4994]

very useful insight thanks very much

[@keitheverman1460]

Thanks, brother. We appreciate your words.

[@robertclark9]

I was a pioneer in controlled drinking for many years. Until the day it finally sunk in, I can not drink without consequences. At 15 years sober today, a large part of that is because I’m simply NOT willing to pay those consequences anymore. And if the day ever comes when I am willing, most likely I would drink. But today, is not that day. And that’s what it’s all about. Making it to 12:00 midnight, and starting over again on a new day. Best wishes in your recovery.

[@NathanielRobinson-t2o]

I really appreciate this video, thank you.

[@ANormalAlcoholic]

Glad to help 👍

[@duaneturner1612]

Thanks for your talk. One problem that nobody has mentioned is how in New Zealand we have it for sale in supermarkets with bright lights and sparkling. Your kids grow up seeing this as normal and I'm sure this is not helping the people with addiction. Its normalizing a drug at a supermarket. Thanks

[@lynntalley1524]

You explained it so well.

[@MJA5]

Robin, I enjoy your sincerity. It is a testament to your character that you intend to help others struggling with this. It’s a tough nut to crack. 4 years here.

[@KevinONeil-wo7uu]

Well said; one is the start to a thousand

[@simonsmith5315]

Thank you for sharing with us. You are giving me strength.

[@Nigel-nx2od]

Super video. This is exactly how my drinking brain thinks. Perfectly explained. Thanks

[@ANormalAlcoholic]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@box1007]

Excellent video never heard it explained so well especially the bad day at work scenario. 👍🏻

[@JIMKATSANIDIS]

Very helpful video, Robin! Drinking alcohol in any amount carries a health risk. While the risk is low for moderate intake, the risk goes up as the amount you drink goes up. Moderation is fine for some people, but for those with addictional personality, can spiral into problem use over time. Take Care everyone!👋❤

[@muqyk]

4 weeks in. Still asking myself if I’ll have one after a year or so. Then I remind myself, just one day at a time.

[@Besotted85]

It took my about 6-8 months before i felt really good not drinking. Been 4 years now, and it was the best thing i ever did. 85% of my worries, and problems was gone. Peace at mind, which i didnt have for 16 years. And the best thing is, i dont even miss it at all.

[@MrRaugerbrown]

The answer is maybe I will but i will worry about that then and not today and that has worked for me now 10 months in. Even when i think right i am gonna have a drink I just say ok lets see how you feel tomorrow instead, as opposed to no you cant have a drink and that works ok too

[@user-bo5qb2rb8q]

Don't do it, remember how bad you felt last time is my advice

[@chrishughes1103]

Thanks bloke, your videos are really helpful. It's not for me because I have a drink problem, for me it's been smoking, but you're video films have really hit the same nub - I've not had one single smoke for 11 months now, and that's after 34 years of smoking, but I still feel a bit of that hankering ache sometimes - your videos help me see a view through the cloud - so thanks

[@ANormalAlcoholic]

So glad to help

[@lylemccomber9460]

Wow I really your video good stuff

[@michaelproctor3069]

I have never been able to have just one drink. I have blacked out drinking since 13. For so long I denied I was an alcoholic. I’m now 38. Now I just fight to stay away from it. It socially acceptable for people to drink and most of who I know and love can have such a great time drinking. I remember being 21 and my immediate family would not allow me to drink with them or be around me if I was. I have recently decided I don’t want to ever drink again but it is very hard. I have had a few times I worked a program went to rehab the whole nine but that little beast in me wants to surface. I understand.

[@ANormalAlcoholic]

I hope you learn how to quiet that monster!

[@michaelproctor3069]

@@ANormalAlcoholic I believe that’s going to come with more time. Thank you. You’re video was well made and your story hit a certain nerve. Stay strong.

[@letigreflamand]

Props for being strong enough in those darn tough times. You have my respect!

[@Vincentsuav]

Alcohol addiction is truly a nasty disease. The cravings will diminish significantly over time, but may never completely go away. A slip up can happen at anytime, that will put you right back where your addiction had left off. People have died going through relapses, after having achieved many many years of sobriety.

[@Rick40years]

I don't think I have ever had one drink in my life. Im under no illusion about that.

[@barryholt488]

Because one won't be enough!

[@danschannel169]

Great video, mate.

[@ANormalAlcoholic]

Thank you 👍

[@danschannel169]

@ANormalAlcoholic Your credit to yourself and others.

[@helenamolero]

Thanks for that amazingly well explained feeling ❤

[@jacklongdin1506]

Well done you. I hope you can keep it up.

[@jasonfitch1066]

Im someone who is fkd on alcohol everyday and struggling and im pretty scared. Videos like urs can only b a good thing and if the msg stays in my mind 4 a few days it can only do me good so thanks 👍

[@ANormalAlcoholic]

Thank you for opening up. All the information you can take in will gradually change your thinking. Just keep trying. There is a light at the end of the tunnel!

[@Arto300-yn5fv]

Alcoholic can't have one drink because it doesn't work the same any more. One drink you almost don't feel any effects when previously you got quite buzzed and happy. Now you need 3 or 4 drinks for that feeling, but after 4 you are on the brink of loosing control.

[@shaunmclorie5929]

Brilliant video and channel

[@mmllgg2471]

Well said for all of us! Others can’t understand.

[@sammyhooligan803]

Thank you Robin , i relate to your story. I am not an alcoholic or have drank, in a few years, but i have And have other addiction issues, that i might be able to figure out with your ideas/ theories, 🤔

[@esorliversage6634]

One is too many but never enough. Still crave a drink from time to time, but always also the fear if I go that route again, I may not get back again.

[@ChavJag]

The thought of buying a bottle of vodka and just having one or 2 drinks baffles me. I have to hammer that bottle till its gone. I don't drink every day any more unless i'm triggered. The biggest trigger for me is when someone or something really pisses me off then its "get me a fucking drink". Before i know i wake up to 4 empty cans and an empty bottle of vodka. Then fast forward to your 'hair of the dog' video and that cycle kicks in.

[@user-eb2zt6zz5q]

Good video.

[@sundog60]

Here’s the sneaky one-I’ve had a good day. I went to the gym or did something good at work, whatever, time for a reward! Just one drink then.

[@TheCowardStrikesBack]

Well done. Thank you.

[@bwoods7]

Great message thank you

[@genialgenial7113]

Loving your channel, mate, and loving the mission - to help others ❤️ keep up the good work ❤️

[@ANormalAlcoholic]

Thanks, will do!

[@southofthemersey7351]

This resonates with me. I've realised that controlled or moderate drinking just can't be done by me, sadly. I envy my friends and family who can. I only drink at weekends. And I can go weeks and months without a drink. And I have done before. Dry Jan, odd weeks saving money, did 6 months sober just to get fit etc. But more often than not going out for what for everyone else is 3-5 pints and a chilled out afternoon would for me be 12+ hours of drinking til I blackout and eventually fall asleep. Spending a fortune. And waking up feeling awful for days afterwards. And listening to anxiety inducing stories about inappropriate stuff I'd said or done.

[@sportsman4545]

I go to bed late, pass out, wake up 3 hours later,fidget for 3 hours, finely fall asleep for an hour, wake up feeling awful, sweaty, full and panic anxiety and total shame. That's just with 10 drinks over 5 hours. Why is that even appealing?

[@user-bl5jr5vz6i]

Great advice. Well done fella.

[@ramsy66]

I'm really lucky that my drinking never got too bad, and very fortunate I was able to identify the trajectory of the path I was on early I've been dealing with cravings for the last couple of weeks, which seem to have appeared from nowhere. I'm pretty sure it has everything to do with my isolation however, but that is difficult to admit because I don't feel capable of changing that feature of my personality Of course, my brain is trying to convince me that the alcohol would help. We all know, at least temporarily, that it would numb the bad feelings. But it is a 100% guarantee that I would feel significantly worse and less able to cope afterwards. It still doesn't make it easy to keep the cravings away though, during times when I feel low Your video was tremendously helpful. Thank you :)

[@pauljones5066]

pat on the back for your achievements mate

[@marko-1987]

Exellent video on this mate. You have absolutley rocked things and its a battle i know well. Weed has helped loads mind. Sending ❤ and energy to all who read this.

[@buddhawasright]

Thank you.

[@Joelstarr]

having goals and a routine helps a lot. I used to not be able to to have just one drink because I was not happy with my life and it was the best way to forget it. As soon as my wife left me (not because of alcool) and I started losing weight, exercise, focusing on my business and passion, I then was able to not (always) get smashed. Now the first thing in my mind is that the day after drinks I need to get my job and objetives done and it helps a lot. Even my boss offered me a line of coke after a few drinks weeks ago and I was able to say no even if I had a few beers before, I started drinking water and watched people get smashed until I was able to go sleep :) I still love drinking, but I have other priorities and when I drink it's always special moments and not weekly, most days I don't have drinks, I don't buy alcool, I don't go out. My priority is getting my business to the next level and making decent money, then after, I will get smashed 🤣

[@ac12484]

I had exactly the same mental picture with the lines as I go throughout the day! I noticed that the moment when they crossed over was getting earlier in the day, that's when I got worried.

[@christopherarmbruster6241]

I have had this fight in my mind for many years...

[@ANormalAlcoholic]

End the fight!

[@tonyhill1264]

As a guy, I was so out of control at 24 to 25. The booze, the drugs just never stopped. The most dangerous time for a guy is 19 to 26.

[@charlescutts2387]

❤

[@BETTERWORLDSGT]

The only time I ever have one drink is when it's all I have, and it's a Sunday and the liquor store is closed, and the Cars broke down and I can't make it out to the Bootlegger!

[@ANormalAlcoholic]

My only "one drink" was when I had one (bottle of) vodka!

[@ashchaya7676]

Back when I was drinking if I didn't have enough alcohol for what I considered to be a "decent session" I would not start at all. I knew the dissatisfaction of not being drunk enough was WAY worse than being completely sober.

[@AliceP.]

Yeah, and it kind of gets in my skin when I say "oh, I'd rather not go [to a bar/party/reunion] because I know people will be drinking and I'll want to drink.", and they're like "well, you can have just one!". I don't know, it takes all of my energy not to reply: you're so smart! Do you just walk around with all that brain?

[@danielduesentriebjunior]

I'm a normal alcoholic too. Today is day 5 without alcohol. If I took a drink now I would relapse for quite some time to come. I am 66 and my liver is enlarged to an extent that it hurts. If I carried on it would become cirrhotic. I don't want this, so I can't take a single drink.

[@briancuthbert4508]

You can’t help other alcoholics . They can only help themselves!!🤷‍♂️

[@sandtoy11510]

If I were to have just 1 drink, it will quickly become more than 1 and eventually drinking all day, every day. My “friends” who drink are becoming increasingly uncomfortable around me, asking if it’s ok if they drink while they are around me… God, I hate being treated like a child for making an adult decision to get sober

[@load7791]

Yeah, once I realized how much easier it was to simply not buy any alcohol in the first place rather than to try and drink in moderation, I realized that kicking the dependency wasn't too incredibly hard. I used to have 12 - 15 legal drinks a night too, but I spontaneously decided to stop buying it 5 days ago and honestly haven't really gotten to crazy of an urge. When I did get some cravings, I just drank a soda instead. As unhealthy as those are, I'll probably use it as a placebo affect because I drink from the same frost glass I always did and the drink is carbonated like my ciders and beers. Though, I don't want to get into drinking soda, but usually one a day at most is all I need to quell the urge. After these initial 2 weeks I imagine the cravings will die down and then I can stop drinking soda, which I don't really like all that much anyway.

[@OneMightyandStrong]

Try kombucha and non alcoholic beer. 👍

[@chasguirey912]

When you drink your brain creates loads of neural pathways. When you stop the pathways sit there like a xmas tree with the lights switched off. One drink and the whole network lights up and you want more and more.

[@chasguirey912]

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[@jamesbyrne9312]

What do you think of cgl, I am considering using it

[@user-bo5qb2rb8q]

You feel awkward not having a drink to pick up and get addicted to having the feeling of picking it up and drinking which leads to your body getting addicted

[@konstantinpospelov951]

Watching this while I drink a Backwoods Smores Golden Milk Stout

[@VSL229]

What is the point of having one drink?

[@symfotroll]

The worst day sober is better than the best day not.

[@Andromeda330]

I gave up on thinking Ill only have one drink long ago

[@deniseharris5233]

The question should be, Why would You want a drink ?. What good lasting thing is it going to give me?🧐

[@seanlevoy9446]

Hey you want a beer. Sure, but only if you have 14 more in the fridge.

[@philparisi9175]

I’m about to watch the video but based on the title you might wanna ask why do you need just one? Why do you need any of it? If you’re in advanced alcoholic then you do have a physical need and you should see a physician if you’re trying to quit can be very dangerous but psychologically why do you choose to drink and drink but what’s the thing about the number is one different than two? If you have a problem drinking then now you can’t have just one that’s the reality. Instead, ask yourself why is it so important that you have just one go about your business without a drink?

[@paulandrew4415]

Ended up with liver cirrhosis from drinking. Don't let it get to that or it's game over. Still feel like a drink?

[@tuckeravery3685]

I've been sober since November 2023 and it's sure has been a challenge!

[@tuckeravery3685]

Proud of you for your sobriety I'm proud of you for staying sober! I ended up with liver damage too! I got told I had liver damage and still kept drinking! I just couldn't stop! I was in a dark place and my body was in horrible shape! So glad to finally be able to enjoy life again! I didn't realize how much I was missing and how happy I could really be!

[@jasonfitch1066]

Can I ask how long for and how much you drank?

[@paulandrew4415]

@jasonfitch1066 personally I drank for most of my life ,but was healthy until around 2020, then I drank 12 tall boys a day for 3 years, and ended up in the hospital. Gave me a year to live. It's been 15 months

[@LV-426...]

@@paulandrew4415 Do you have jaundice now?

[@bryontharp5790]

Have 12 pack not liquor

[@jenhasken]

In one go? That’s a tremendous amount of alcohol. Over time this could easily kill you.

[@fullerton6582]

I' m having good time with my friends for dinner. I always think: If I drink now a glass of wine (Italy here), then I will drink seven glasses. At home I will open a bottle and will finish it. Tomorrow morning the hangover will destroy me (no alcohol from 134 days) and tomorrow afternoon I will be destroyed by terrible guilt feelings. The day after I will be OK, no drink. But after three or four days, my brain will ask for alcohol again and will say: you have controlled it for 134 days and the last time you drank was four days ago. So you can control. So you can drink. So I wiil drink a bottle of wine, the same and the same in the next days. Again in the hell.

[@EamonRyanGobShite]

Yep ,it is all or nothing with us:(

[@iluomobravo]

You sound like me. Every time I have quit for an extended period of time and return, for a few weeks and even a couple months I can drink on occasion and even stop it after 3-5, but it sooner or later I’m back where I started.

[@sportsman4545]

I hear ya. My spouse says just have 2 and stop. Honestly, I don't know how to do that.

[@johnmaurer2035]

'Normal' people can have one drink. But not everyone is normal.

[@DavidChild-ty2od]

To answer your question, there isn't really much pleasure to be gained from only having one drink. Who cares? Just go with the flow.

[@brendanbishop3684]

Maybe try a ketogenic/carnivore diet, my mental health improves drastically when eating this way, anxiety or stress goes away and maybe easier to say no to that voice in your head.

[@tommysherman7155]

Buying cooking meat washing up everyday isn't my idea of stress free a ready or frozen meals with brown or tomato sauce will do

[@turnerbrewer7188]

The carnivore diet helped me kick the booze. You can cook a tasty ribeye in an Air Fryer in less than 25 minutes. .

[@patricksober2023]

In between those lines you need AA , a higher power and a sponsor .

[@davechard1143]

None of us are getting out of here alive so crack on.

[@jenhasken]

Cuz it’s boring 😕

[@truckerjournal3680]

Bro. You literally can have just one drink. There is no such thing as an "alchoholic"