Why Do We Lie?

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Everyone lies. Even you and even me. We lie about small things and we lie about big things. We lie to help ourselves and we lie to protect others. Powerful people lie, all the way down to little kids telling fibs. Why do we do this if we’re supposed to be the most socially developed species on Earth? Why can’t we tell the truth? Are we doomed to lie? Well, maybe. Here’s why.
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[@besmart]

What did you lie about today? Find me on Instagram and Twitter and let me know what you thought of the video! @okaytobesmart @DrJoeHanson

[@rayanmathew7655]

Hi

[@stevejackson2471]

HI

[@cadogmacinnreachtaigh2204]

Homework

[@angeloportugal8899]

I love this video! Ok that's it for today

[@legaltonyMendoza]

I lied about knowing what image represents my community because i was doing something else while in my class

[@wolver73]

The people who said the papers would be shredded lied.

[@kathrynsavage2211]

“BuT iTs An eXpEriMeNt”

[@gabor6259]

It's for science.

[@intellibi4254]

Lol

[@saimamerzougui7981]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/rXyxfYiqa753rsU

[@noodlearg9745]

maybe they just said "put it in the shredder" and the box was named the shredder.

[@sd4dfg2]

"Yes yes, I read and accept the terms of service", clicks AGREE.

[@mj-f7135]

No one read it. Except weirdo

[@Idk-wd2tz]

LOL YES

[@dvybzkyd]

That's a lie I always tell, cause I'm not reading all those terms and conditions

[@dletetdchanel6104]

The thing is that if people actually read the terms and conditions they would probably never agree

[@somerandomchickontheintern4524]

@@mj-f7135 fr 😂

[@hoodio]

we lie actually BECAUSE we're so socially advanced, we can predict how people react to what we say so we adjust what we say to get an answer we prefer

[@theperfectbotsteve4916]

It’s like saying that you don’t eat baby’s like surrrrrre you don’t, do you also not breath fracking cannibal vegan

[@TheCalicove]

@@theperfectbotsteve4916 why is that a reply?

[@oneandnothingmore6304]

@@TheCalicove perhaps we will never now

[@justdemel422]

Oh I get it this is your lie

[@mlplnz]

@@theperfectbotsteve4916 I don't know you but you must be fun at parties lmao

[@suntzu4446]

“If one always tells the truth, they are most definitely not a human,” -Sun Tzu

[@MannFace51]

And I’d say he knows a little more about fighting than you do pal because *HE INVENTED IT*

[@kingkrispy5289]

@@MannFace51 LMAO

[@TJ-hg6op]

@@MannFace51 Sun Tzu Invented America and Fighting god bless

[@MannFace51]

@@TJ-hg6op and then he perfected it so that no living man could best him in the ring of honor! *AAAARRGGGHHHHAA!*

[@wayando]

They are not a living organism at all for that matter ...

[@thegalvean2220]

He lied. He said “Hey smart people”, but I’m not smart

[@LucidFL]

if youre watching this instead of the other nonsense on the internet then you have some degree of superior intelligence

[@iout]

Are you sure that you aren't the one lying to yourself when you say that you aren't smart?

[@nickvoncloft4566]

oof

[@luuk_twister2068]

@@LucidFL well I wouldn't say everyone watching this channel has superior intelligence. But most of us are eager for knowledge I guess.

[@KilgoreTraut]

"the fool doth think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool" so quit feeling bad for yourself and finish that dang cancer cure already

[@orion10x10]

Kids learn to lie really quickly when they have abusive parents. They learn there's consequences to telling the truth

[@romanmeneghinister1584]

Makes it painful when you are in a relationship with someone who grew up in that environment. Not sure I'll ever know the truth, or even if my ex knows what is true anymore. One of those things, how do you reconcile that someone you cared deeply about is just incapable of being honest with anyone leaving you to doubt the years spent together.

[@aliyam4023]

@@romanmeneghinister1584 I think relationship counselling is helpful when it comes to situations like that

[@stevencooke6451]

Or even an environment where mistakes are met with a deluge of criticism, but falling short of what would be deemed abuse.

[@its_aj251]

My mom isn't abusive but can be super angry. So yes.

[@sandrabaquero-restrepo6287]

facts i have abusive parents and if i dont lie about certain things i will get hurt physicaly or mentally by them

[@kamisama9715]

Online teacher: Did you cheat during the test? Me: *Not at all!*

[@architlal8594]

Ah! The lie that we all tell xD

[@kingzingo1784]

@@architlal8594 Obviously not all of us

[@SenhorAlien]

I was only asked this once, and I truthfully stated at the time that I didn't. Then I learned the wonders of cheating.

[@ioftendontreplybacktoidiot5251]

@@kingzingo1784 yeah not all are students here

[@MonsieurTrinity]

@@kingzingo1784 yeah I don't cheat

[@thisdoesnotexist5246]

I thought the title said “why do we live” and I was like damn, they’re asking the serious questions

[@TVampire]

You'd love Crash Course philosophy

[@julianreid3749]

Nobody cares

[@vivaansood2517]

No one knows when we started to lie because we probably lied about that

[@Alphabetical_mayB]

lol

[@yonatanbeer3475]

We know when someone told the first bad lie though!

[@barryabdraman8113]

Truth 😂

[@eugenio027]

@@yonatanbeer3475 when?

[@darkwingduck2197]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/mKqXiJaVas1rq5Y :)

[@annonimooseq1246]

“Lies are the glue that hold society together” -Dr. Doofenshmirtz

[@Murrica30]

I have that playing in the background

[@happybirthdayravenicantswim]

Evil and incorporated

[@susanmiller1790]

"PIDGEON POOOOOO"- Dr. Doofenshmirtz

[@theperfectbotsteve4916]

“Curse you Perry the platypus!!!!!!” Dr. Doofenshmirtz

[@jasonMT3011]

Wanted to like this until I saw 420.......... Even tho I quitte doing that, still wanna get a stick tho :(

[@fearfulfox1873]

I'm very surprised that he didn't talk about lying as protection, as a trauma survivor I had and still compulsively lie as a defense mechanism to keep my abusers from hurting me

[@noamasaraf586]

"I'm not lying, I'm bending the truth"

[@MossyStone777]

I heard the emphasis on *bending* through the text

[@hannah-ih4vg]

"ARE YOU CALLING ME A LIAR?" "I AIN'T CALLING YOU A TRUTHER"

[@kibiwotkibet1340]

Truther words have never been spoken. 😌

[@melon4738]

Lier words have always been unspoken. 😐

[@susanmiller1790]

Truther!? I am that annoying girl from your 3rd grade class that would correct you if you said ANYTHING wrong so truther is unacceptable lol.

[@sarab2324]

Hahaha Drake and Josh!

[@sarab2324]

@@susanmiller1790 lol it’s a quote from Drake and Josh

[@SodaWithoutSparkles]

The most frequent lie: I have read the terms and conditions

[@bungeepete7393]

Nobody reads them

[@carrotjuicegaming9732]

RELATABLE

[@C0lumbidae]

personally for me it’s just “i’m good” to “how are you?”

[@user-jl8wj8fz5q]

@@bungeepete7393 cap

[@user-jl8wj8fz5q]

@@bungeepete7393 i read them :)

[@rimasdiaa7181]

I lie because 1. Many truths are embarrassing 2. I hate condemnation. 3. The most common one, I know what people want to hear, I know what makes them more comfortable so I try to get to a common ground which is hard when you simply lay out all the truths without exaggeration or degration

[@IWasAYo-Yo]

As a person with Asperger's, I have difficulty with lying to people. Like I understand that it's for survival and making situations not awkward, which I guess is fine as long as it's not going to hurt someone. But if the lie is going to hurt someone more than telling them the truth, then you should just tell the truth. No matter how awkward it becomes.

[@S_Hyde]

"Hey smart people!" -Never have I felt so excluded

[@ravelnavarro9625]

what do you define as "smart"?

[@siliconi1926]

@@ravelnavarro9625 Bee

[@mysu3777]

@@ravelnavarro9625 someone who possesses decently large knowledge

[@b0bby5104]

@Baal electro archon so i see u are exluded to GOT EM im sorry

[@nozelleplays]

@@ravelnavarro9625 the being who can use information effectively and efficiently.

[@mhyzon1]

“My dear doctor, they’re all true.” “Even the lies?” “Especially the lies.”

[@guywithdacap4713]

Maybe the best quote of the whole series.

[@mhyzon1]

@@guywithdacap4713 That, or the one about root beer. 😁

[@guywithdacap4713]

@@mhyzon1 But do you know what's really frightening? If you drink enough of it, you begin to like it.

[@qwertyuio404]

I was really not expecting to see DS9 quotes here.

[@qwertyuio404]

_“The point is, if you lie all the time, nobody’s going to believe you, even when you‘re telling the truth.”_ _“Are you sure that’s the point, doctor?”_ _“Of course. What else could it be?”_ _“That you should never tell the same lie twice.”_

[@_.talketh._6802]

Simple answer: We lie because the brain that we have wants to terminate the feeling of being Yelled at or something, so we lie in order to get rid of any terrible consequence that could happen.

[@tracesprite6078]

I agree. Some kindly people welcome the truth with their calm, accepting manner. Other people give a clear message that they only want to hear their version of events and that they refuse to accept that others make mistakes. Angry listeners encourage others to lie.

[@sologamer8287]

@@tracesprite6078 but if no one got punished for telling the truth look at it this way a criminal for example can get away for it for telling the truth you see that’s why we need to learn our lesson for telling the truth if we are only punished for telling the lie then you are not taught a lesson

[@sologamer8287]

@@tracesprite6078 But maybe you’re right but what they could do is have a talk about what they did wrong and teach Tim how to not make that mistake again to make it fair enoguh.

[@tracesprite6078]

@@sologamer8287 Hi Solo gamer, you have identified a difficulty in the discussion. It depends on which lie you are talking about. For example, if we angrily ask a child, "Did you spill this chocolate milk on the sofa?" they may feel that we are too irritable for them to dare to tell the truth. It would be better if we said something like, "Mmm ... someone has spilled chocolate milk on the sofa. Maybe a good rule in the future, is to make sure we have the coffee table ready to put the cup on before we bring the drink over. That could prevent accidents." That way, we focus more on the solution than on the problem. On the other hand, if the problem is more serious, then it might be different. We the parent suspect that our teenager has been stealing money from our purse in order to buy drugs. However, what is likely to enable the teenager to talk about this? If we shout angrily, are they likely to confess that they are developing a drug addiction? We can convey that this is a very serious matter but also give the message that we want to help them to get free of a growing drug habit. The question becomes ... what kind of conversation is likely to lead to the teenager changing their behavior?... especially as this may not happen overnight.

[@tracesprite6078]

@@sologamer8287 I agree that in a police station or a court of law, it is important to insist on the truth. Ironically, sometimes police use such aggressive tactics that they may force a false confession out of someone who is innocent.

[@cutiepie_1_]

I lied about sooo many things. Starting from the time I said I didn't like someone.... Lying is absolutely wrong💔😭

[@JoshKit]

'Molecular Deception' sounds like a cool band name :P

[@Johny40Se7en]

Sounds cool in general 😉

[@YALMSL]

Theres a band called orange juice..

[@siiickgravity5090]

Got it

[@RobertoPerez-gn1bs]

It sounds like a cover band of "My Chemical Romance"

[@amartyaasengupta8187]

@@RobertoPerez-gn1bs lmao

[@jeremiasrobinson]

I haven't lied today! How dare you suggest... Of course, now that I think about it, I haven't talked to anyone today either though.

[@yuumisanada2803]

Liar.

[@jeremiasrobinson]

@@yuumisanada2803 I live alone and I don't see other people very often. It's the truth.

[@amartyaasengupta8187]

@@jeremiasrobinson sed

[@ducktrapper483]

@@jeremiasrobinson f

[@meeraunnikrishnan5499]

You could lie to yourself tho

[@TheTheOneAndOnly123i]

Man when I tell you this show is a diamond in the rough, thanks for doing you ✊🏾. Now in this video everything you said makes total sense and that’s why I believe that in your last statement the truth is reversed. I believe that our conscious mind is the one that chooses to lie and saying “I will not lie” is a sort of affirmation that their unconscious minds tried hard to keep as true as possible.

[@tracesprite6078]

If there's no honesty in a relationship, then it's too polite and superficial to be satisfying but if we're brutally honest all the time, then it may be too painful to survive. But maybe we can actively notice the good things which are also true e.g. "You are very faithful to the creative side of your personality and that really seems to give you satisfaction in life." Truth doesn't always have to be a judgement of someone but it can merely be an observation which shows that we notice and value the other person.

[@duplicpapers8753]

DIAMOND IN THE ROUUUGH

[@infpdreams]

I'm 25 and I am living with my mom, partly for financial reasons, but also because we get along well and don't really have other people nearby. It's funny how often nowadays we will randomly in conversation come around to topics and be like, "Oh, remember when I told you X happened when I was around 10? Yeah, sorry, that was a lie." She tells me things she lied about in my childhood, too. After 10 or 15 years, we can laugh about those things. A lot of the time, we're like, "I KNEW IT!" I'm seriously so lucky to have such a great mom... who has put up with my crap!

[@renanmendes1299]

have you searched the simpson's rule that the animation needs 34 fps in certain situation? search it up it's called simpson rule 34

[@infpdreams]

@@renanmendes1299 Nice try.

[@davidschaftenaar6530]

I'm actually really interested in the 3/10 of participants in the study who *didn't* lie... They did not recognize the opportunity to do so? Did they make a conscious choice not to take advantage of the situation because of their moral character? Did they see through the experiment? Did they want to lie but didn't because they were too afraid of being caught?

[@fkrkf]

In all things psychological, just look to class. It answers almost everything

[@SoulDelSol]

@@fkrkf like those 3 college students weren't desperate enough to need the extra 2 dollars?

[@anarchotrash1942]

Honestly, I wouldn't. Anxious personality, I guess. Morally, I'd have no qualms, but a deeprooted fear just appears in these situations. I don't know what @Backinblack Bunny is talking about, but I'm definitely lower class (In Denmark though, so security net), so do with that what you will I guess..?

[@sigh213]

they must have already done pretty well hahaa

[@mare2868]

@@fkrkf it is usually the other way around. it was proven in the last century that rich people lie and steal more when a new style of shopping center was created

[@Lerrae1908]

"How are ya doing?" *holding back tears, voice breaking* Just dANdy Me errday

[@thesilentshadow1256]

Ike

[@ravelnavarro9625]

why lie about stuff like that though?

[@Lerrae1908]

@@ravelnavarro9625 because it's still easier than explaining the same things to people who won't get what's going on over and over no matter how you explain it. Platitudes and awkwardness are far worse feeling and just as unproductive.

[@oxines6979]

@@Lerrae1908 @Kat Mann I kind of agree with you. But there's one problem with this: You belive that no one will understand you and this is a mistake...some people will not care but others will try to understand you. We start isolating ourselves and start to think that other person are our enemy and well...i think we don't need to know what will happen We start living the philosophy of "me against everyone". "Someone will never understand ne" Why ? Can you understand other people's problems ? We can not, but at least we can try to listen... This is the trap of the depression: 1 Make you think that other people will not understand you 2 isolate yourself 3 hide your crying 4 make your view of the world the real truth(this is not a fact. Just my opinion). I am not gonna lie, we all here have problems...and it's hard to try to help someone that you don't know. We can talk, but no affection... Be careful...The mind can create a lot of things including our own jail. Sorry, english is not my first language...

[@TamWam_]

@@oxines6979 Your english is good also this comment is useful im not lying in this comment btw

[@Keith_online]

“The world is full of larger lies, and more sinister lies” Politicians: *Sweats nervously*

[@jessicahawks3223]

I'm so glad I just found this. My 10 yr old daughter is asking me these huge life questions like about lying. I always believe in being as honest as possible and help her understand it as much as possible and I am going to use this

[@foxwaffles]

If people would stop asking how I'm doing when they don't actually care then I'd be lying a whole lot less 🙄

[@also_a_human_being2183]

So how are you doing?

[@Bee-kv5tx]

If that ain't the truth! Fr tho, who made that like a greeting?

[@jackgold7391]

A greeting should be like, "Hey, I'm here to talk to you about this." unless like, they are close, then saying "Hi, how are you?" seems like a decent or okay greeting

[@haileyghostly6511]

@@Bee-kv5tx and apparently you're supposed to ask it back to be polite? I hardly do anymore

[@501thtrooper4]

@@haileyghostly6511 so uncivilized

[@garrett6064]

*"If you have to lie about your position to win an argument, perhaps you should change your position."* A quote I often use in politics.

[@masicbemester]

don't mind me, just replying to remember this

[@Darius_01]

True

[@ravelnavarro9625]

​@@masicbemester listen 'ere, buster. nobody understands weirdo squiggly lines you know what country this is? this is 'MURICA you SPEAK AMERICAN or you GIT OUT *U.S National Anthem plays*

[@masicbemester]

@@ravelnavarro9625 lol just my name but written in Japanese for some reason

[@bruhmomento9032]

@@ravelnavarro9625 so far this is the most patriotic comment i have ever seen in comment sections

[@seb447-9]

Wheen I was younger I never could lie and it made me like a social outcast for a while

[@TheBoredBeanie]

Most the time I lie when a friend asks for my opinion on things he made, only to motivate him into doing better, or making him feel better.

[@LiLi-or2gm]

Some kinds of lying are "social camouflage."

[@louithrottler]

Some lies are 'when women move their lips' ;)

[@LuinTathren]

@@louithrottler In what way? How does every single woman on this earth who moves their lips lie to you? How have you determined this? What was your sample size and methodology? What you claim doesn't sound very scientific. And to post such obviously unscientific comments on a science channel doesn't sound very smart. I suggest you reevaluate your hypothesis and remove any personal biases you may have before making such comments.

[@louithrottler]

@@ChineduOpara Wouldn't know much about that but I was really just making a time honoured joke.

[@himanbam]

@@louithrottler idk whose time is honouring that joke. It ain't mine.

[@louithrottler]

@@himanbam Well, to say that something is time honoured is to imply it has been done or used many times before, so if we were to exclude your seemingly aggrandised sense of self-importance then: quite a few people's time would be the answer.

[@chestermandelbrot6903]

"Real eyes, realize, real lies."

[@ioftendontreplybacktoidiot5251]

🐡

[@char6081]

I didn’t know what this meant until recently

[@-mniscient-7163]

This sounds really deep but idk 😥

[@user-ho4nw5sf3w]

My father taught me when quite young that liying was for cowards. He told me to be truthful. People have a harder time with it.

[@juliannaversola]

I’m so fascinated by the philosophy of justified lying: when is lying okay? like lying to our children to protect them.

[@tracesprite6078]

Sometimes the whole truth might be too brutal. You could say to me, " Well, now you've put on that weight, you may be going to die ten years earlier." But you'll probably choose not to say that because it's pointlessly cruel. I could say, "Yes, I see why he had that affair. You're so snippy and critical, that he probably just wanted to be with someone who really enjoyed his company." Even if that is useful information, am I really sure I'm right about that and do I want to lose your friendship when I have already lost several friends by offering my unasked for "insights"?

[@fkrkf]

What is truth or lies when all that matter is how much $$$$ you got in the bank and your social rank in our racial caste system. The law dgaf about the reality of a crime, just what outcome is best for the poltical elite who wrote the law and those who enforce the law. If you're black and poor there are many companies and states eager for your free labor which they will extract by locking you in a box 24/7 and only allowing you out in exchange for your labor. That doesn't even go into the new prison economy that let's these companies bleed dry the friends and family of the imprisoned. A necessity of human life like a roll of toilet paper that retails for .30? Now, it can only be bought from the prison commissary and its $10. Same for soap, shampoo, socks, etc. Even the letters sent to inmates can only be accessed on tablets that cost $50 upfront and $5 per download

[@tracesprite6078]

@@fkrkf Yes, you are so right, Backinblack Bunny. I support the Innocence Project in America. It is terrible how, in some states, slavery is steadily being re-introduced. It sickens me to think of it.

[@MossyStone777]

You think you want to hear the truth, but when you do you wish they had lied to you.

[@katsurashido4763]

Ok.... this is an answer for a question that stuck on my head for a long time

[@Hygix_]

Lie

[@_kopcsi_]

well it is actually a pretty trivial question.

[@Dyl_Apple]

Ahh, yt back at it again taking ideas from your brain

[@canadianrocketman3475]

Now the real question is, is he telling the truth here

[@Dyl_Apple]

@@canadianrocketman3475 🤯

[@winning246]

Did he just say everyone lies. Doctor House would be proud

[@gabor6259]

Though House said "Everybody lies".

[@blackkissi]

--> me seeing a comment on YT of a good series - -> me considering rewashing the entire series once again

[@ac.creations]

@@blackkissi well if you already washed it the discs might be ruined.

[@evancain4906]

@@blackkissi I mean, it’s already pretty clean. No need to wash it anymore

[@blackkissi]

well I forgot the soap last time

[@koriw1701]

I loved this entry. But I really wish that there would have been an explanation for the real liars in the world; those who do it for personal gain and political power. It could help the younger viewers understand that not everyone is lying to them because they are nice people trying to help our species.

[@michaeljorfi2394]

😂

[@Trashley652]

I have two things that this made me think about. 1: I'm autistic, and while I still do tell little white lies all the time in casual conversation, it just doesn't come as easily to me. A lot of these social rules aren't so much something that come naturally to me, but something I've had to learn the hard way. I often forget that when someone you're not particularly close to asks how you're doing, you're essentially just supposed to say you're fine, even if you're not. It's also harder for me to keep things to myself that should be more private. While I can consciously tell the difference, it seems that it's sometimes hard for my brain to tell the difference between "keeping secrets" and "this person doesn't need or want to know this." I know they're different but sometimes they *feel* the same. 2: A lot of people, (Like Immanual Kant 🙄) will say that lying is always wrong no matter what. But i firmly believe that not only is it sometimes okay, as you explored in this video, it is sometimes *necessary.* Sometimes it's wrong not to lie. If your friend comes out to you as gay, or trans, or anything, but they're not ready to come out to other people yet, you *must* lie for them. If you go around telling people in their life, you're betraying their trust and possibly putting them in danger. But even if they're not in danger, it's simply not your truth to tell, it's their decision to make, not yours.

[@oluwa_saucekid]

I definitely read your whole comment.

[@experienceseeker07]

Same. It's hard to not lie, especially growing in a family which was mostly neglectful to me and never respected me for myself; being in a society that gossips about you, judges you, even possibly hurt you for how you appear to them. The common thing is: People don't really care about the individuality of others. I must lie to survive my toxic environments that destroy me for being myself. No matter whether it's my home or college or whatever place. It's my life until I die. I will be a good human in my own way. I'll lie to protect myself from the things which harm me from outside, and to protect others from the ugly knowledge of how messed up my life would seem to others if they were to know my repressed life.

[@experienceseeker07]

​@@oluwa_saucekidWhy not share your opinion about the comment then?

[@getsiesayas8934]

A video about lies has more truth in it than most videos about truth itself. Great one!

[@lemau8458]

big brain

[@lemau8458]

@@yajnesh9585 nobody speaks that ooga booga ass language bro

[@lexihunnel2089]

getsie sayas itself

[@surronzak8154]

An example maybe ?

[@ninjanerdstudent6937]

So the predator metaphor basically says “it’s better to be safe than sorry.” The lie allows you to protect yourself and be safe, regardless of any real danger.

[@Kas_Styles-Akuma]

It would be cool to get a 2nd part of this to be about how much do people verify data that they hear/read/see, especially with all the misinformation and disinformation that people spread around online and offline.

[@experienceseeker07]

It's hard to not lie, especially growing in a family which was mostly neglectful to me and never respected me for myself; being in a society that gossips about you, judges you, even possibly hurt you for how you appear to them. The common thing is: People don't really care about the individuality of others. I must lie to survive my toxic environments that destroy me for being myself. No matter whether it's my home or college or whatever place. It's my life until I die. I will be a good human in my own way. I'll lie to protect myself from the things which harm me from outside, and to protect others from the ugly knowledge of how messed up my life would seem to others if they were to know my repressed life.

[@glendasuggs2813]

Morality, explained by science. This is fantastic content, PBS. Thank you!

[@getsiesayas8934]

The worst thing about compulsive lying is when you realize that what you're doing is unnecessary (from a social perspective) and now there is no way of going back because you will be seen only as a liar... That is, of course, if you do realize it. Anyway, this is a great video!

[@yoshikagekira6166]

That is true for all compulsive disorders. You know your behavior is irrational but you can't do anything.

[@Johny40Se7en]

The philosopher Jordan Peterson said it best. "No matter how clever someone is at lying, the truth always comes out, because keeping a lie going is stressful and Humans make mistakes". It always comes tumbling out eventually. The worst lie is this one anyway, because it goes on everyday - kzbin.info/www/bejne/nn_PXoZ6btF5l9U

[@spencercase5370]

I clicked that link expecting to get Rick rolled. I was kind of disappointed

[@Johny40Se7en]

@@spencercase5370 Oh fair play for clicking the link. Not many do that, especially after reading the prior comment. Did you watch the... video in the the video? 😛 There's a reason why they lie to people and do what parents do their kids when something is too horrific or horrible, they shield their eyes or hide it from them. That's how the meat & dairy industry treat everybody if you think of it. I mean, nobody in their right mind would give their money to that vile and cruel filth, no matter how "good it tastes". You seem like a very curious sort of person, have a watch of that. And before you ask, it's not a Rick Roll 😅😝 But it is related to the topic kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWqUmnmCi7-kZqM

[@Nae_Ayy]

I used to compulsively lie, I mean I still do but I try to catch it as fast as I can. If I catch myself lying, I'll interrupt myself and tell the person I'm talking to that I had lied.

[@zack31415]

That last synonym of _Lie_ was so unexpected, I laughed so damn hard.

[@small_SHOT]

“bull-“

[@HANDSSSS]

@@small_SHOT shi

[@small_SHOT]

@@HANDSSSS t

[@UGNAvalon]

Cowpie :D

[@VedaGamer20]

Cowpoop

[@ImGonnaGetYa]

OBJECTION: We are not smart people, we are just curious people, that learn from videos.

[@eliannevdlinden6047]

I love these videos so much, they’re not only teaching me a lot of stuff but the memes are just 10/10. They are the icing on the cake

[@TheGrinningViking]

The key to getting away with a lie is to know how socially uncomfortable it would be for them to call you on it, and to only tell lies that can't be disproven.

[@TheGrinningViking]

@@tim9605 Eh you know, we all need to deal with police and middle managers sometimes. It's occasionally immoral not to lie.

[@happybirthdayravenicantswim]

Yessss agreed. If my lie can’t be disproved then I’m good to go

[@AshleyWade]

When someone asks how I am, I've taken to asking if they're actually asking or if they're just saying hi. It usually makes people stop and think for a minute. If they say they're actually asking, I honestly tell them how I'm doing.

[@qwertyTRiG]

Phatic questions are part of social lubricant, and differ between cultures. You'd need to be excessively pedantic (and unversed in pragmatics) to count them as lies.

[@DrumWild]

I always did this. Got tested and diagnosed with High-Functioning Autism. "How are you doing?" isn't a real, literal question. Instead, it's like the noise am old modem would make before connecting to the internet. I'm in therapy to learn how to lie, much like "normal" people do. You may also be on the ASD spectrum.

[@kaiceecrane3884]

@@qwertyTRiG or literal, not everything is done for the same reasons you would do it

[@MyNameIsEarl42]

"You want the real answer or the polite one?" My regular customers knew what that meant.

[@nunyabiznes33]

@@DrumWild I hate noise

[@caterpillar8W]

We lie to get out of danger and sometimes we don't even know the answer about ourself so we tell lies

[@Emma_8001]

“Have you lied today” NO I HAVENT EVEN TALKED TO ANYONE TODAY

[@SeanMania213]

GF: “does this dress make me look fat” Me pulling up KZbin video: “hey come check this out”

[@scitris6474]

I’m dead 🤣🤣🤣

[@JustJulyo]

Saving lives

[@tumelomolefe_]

🤣🤣🤣

[@tumelomolefe_]

Underappreciated comment

[@bardlemon5635]

Just tell her it's her body that makes her look fat. Problem solved, no more girlfriend to lie to.

[@warsan2822]

I actually thought it was “why do we live” But I loved this video

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

Your brain lied lol

[@prestons3400]

I actually did to

[@vaiyaktikasolarbeam1906]

lol spy girl pfp and yeah it s lie not live

[@warsan2822]

Hah

[@daniel_pinilla]

I ask myself that question all the time...

[@Convoy00X]

I do not lie anymore. It's too hard to keep track of the lies, and ultimately, honesty proves better than an exposed lie.

[@pochuyma9530]

Wow! We all lie, but we want the truth! Now what can we, as a species, do to lie less? 🤥🤥🤥

[@samuelvanorshaegen]

14:37 fun fact: “Frans de Waal” literally means “French the Walloon” in dutch. A walloon is someone living on the french part of Belgium, which is kinda ironic given that Frans de Waal is from the Netherlands.

[@oeboekanoeboe5867]

Thank you! The other day it came up in conversation what someone is called from wallonia in belgium, a walloon!

[@P0nyl0ve]

It could also refer to the river "Waal" in the Netherlands

[@gabbyn978]

This guy has been researching the behaviour of apes and monkeys for decades. I have an old book written by him - Peacemaking among Primates - in which he describes how the various representatives of their species follow their agenda, establish alliances, fight over social status, and settle conflicts. The lying is part of their strategy. I would say, lying is a means to achieve and maintain certain social relations, of whichever kind they might be.

[@PJ3232PJ]

I had lectures from him

[@arkadryan7484]

Random Stranger: "Hi, how are you doing?" ME: "Trying to live, and doing a damn shoddy job of it." Random Stranger: Pauses for a few seconds then walks away. ME to ME: "You might wanna stop disclosing so much about your life."

[@Asummersdaydreamer14]

This is why the “they ask you how you are and you just have to say you’re fine . . .” quote never gets old to me. Might be my favorite thing Katy Perry has shared with the world

[@desanze]

Or maybe they would be cool with your answer if you ended up asking: "But how are you?". Or probably anything else which doesn't end in a too-generic complain which has little insight into any real problem you actually have.

[@me-tj5vr]

I have never said that this is slander

[@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075]

i learned that the hard way at work, other employee's would ask how i am when i came in to work and i'd say "i'm just me" and they'd always get confused cause it's not really an answer, but i didn't want to lie, and knew i couldn't tell the whole true, so i thought it'd be a fitting middle ground. i was wrong lol

[@tracesprite6078]

@@professorbaxtercarelessdre1075 "How are you?" "Not too good. And you?" "I'm OK. Sorry that you're not so good. What about we have a coffee and a chat at lunch time and you can fill me in on how life's going for you?" "That sounds great. Thanks for your kindness."

[@mariacruza756]

"Verbal lies" i appreciate and thoroughly enjoy the silliness in your videos!❤

[@jacobkain4721]

You unraveled this so beautifully

[@storyspren]

"...or covering up parts of their identity" Oof size: Extra Large

[@agustin268]

This is a message for every LGBT+ person seeing this comment: You are not alone. You are loved and you have people who will love you no matter your identity or sexual orientation. It does get better 🏳️‍🌈💖

[@IveGotBeef]

@@agustin268 I support LGBT but spam is not the right way to spread the word. SPAM BOT

[@agustin268]

@@IveGotBeef ??? I'm literally a real person. What would I be looking for if I was a spam bot anyway?

[@sergiontothetop]

@@agustin268 stop spam

[@agustin268]

@@sergiontothetop It's not spam, it's support. This is the first time I comment something like this on KZbin. It's not something that I really do often but, as a member of the LGBT+ community, I felt I could make something, as little as this is, for making someone feel better Honestly, I don't even know why you say it's spam, it's not. I made that comment only once

[@wisdom-for-all]

Sometimes because the lies we tell each other are less horrible that the truths we keep hidden. We are not what we think we are, we are usually the secrets we hide 🖖

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

Nah it win in among us wisdom is sus

[@brianlittrell797]

Lying is almost never good. That is one of the reasons there is so conflict and problems in our world, because people have a problem with telling the truth and responding in a mature way to the truth.

[@siegfriedabrams4918]

As a kid I was incredebly honest, to the point that it was hard to sociolise, but I've learned my lesson and now I lie all the time, especially when telling strangers on the internet about how I was as a kid.

[@alfalifr]

"I'm a constitutional law expert... on Twitter" got me so hard 🤣🤣🤣

[@daymondtraweek3905]

Strange thing to be turned on by.....

[@wafer8870]

Broke the curse,, 70 likes;)

[@highclass_lady]

*Sees video about why people lie me: "well that one doesn't apply to me" my conscience: THAT'S A LIE. YOU ARE LYING TO YOURSELF BY DEFAULT!

[@estajabartoskova2057]

*Not me pretending to be a bad liar, just to make people think i'm a bad liar, just to get away with lying.* I also do this thing where i sound really sarcastic, but i actually mean it and the other person is just confused.

[@amandajones661]

Most people can't handle the truth without having a mental breakdown.

[@Phoenix.Sparkles]

As a brutally honest indivual, I find it difficult to maintain relationships as I often tend to say things I should not. You could say my unconscious mind prefers truth over lies, which can be just as bad as preferring lies over the truth.

[@thedude4039]

That's a lie.

[@MonsieurTrinity]

The truth should always be told even if you don't have many relationships because of that. The truth is the way

[@Annimations]

It’s called being quiet bro. Can’t be brutally honest when your mouth is closed :)

[@tracesprite6078]

Your honesty can be a gift but use it sparingly. People are not often feeling strong enough for your insights which may not always be as accurate as you like to believe. Also there are often several honest things that you can say at any time. Why not choose the more encouraging one? You could say "Your house is so messy" but you could instead say "Thanks for this lovely hot cup of tea. It's just what I was needing." You could say, "I can't understand why you belong to that dumb religion" or you might be better to say "Well, I can't agree with your religion but I can see that it's helping you to get through this tough time since your father died."

[@aggjohnson8488]

There's a fine line between being honest and being mean

[@mahitaponnekanti1118]

A non shredding - shredding machine: This is the reason i have been caught in a lie all the time...

[@brianfox771]

That's the irony though, right!? The people running the experiment were lying to the subjects, lol.

[@mahitaponnekanti1118]

@@brianfox771 i know right, i guess the world just runs on lies with partial to no truth..

[@alphaknight9877]

@@brianfox771 but its just for science

[@xanthos9641]

No. What I am afraid of is those little kids in the movie Argo from Tehran putting together the SHREDDED PIECES OF PAPER to form the faces of the people they were searching for. I MEAN LIKE WHAT THE F-

[@lorenapacora1526]

this is also seen in sociology! Goffmann created a concept called "keeping a face" and lying is part of saving your face in a social interaction or save someone elses face

[@willcc3]

The thing that I learned over my life was that honesty only matters in the right context.

[@rchandraonline]

Honesty is such a lonely word Everyone is so untrue Honesty is hardly ever heard And mostly what I need from you.

[@justineharper3346]

I love Billy Joel ❤️🎶

[@bisousbe]

“i dont like money, bitcoin only.” 😂✌️

[@Algeriawindows69]

Hi verified Channel

[@EMRLDPRTO]

HMMMMMMMMM

[@vladgociu7577]

LIAR, Bitcoin Is Money!

[@jitghoshextra]

Lie

[@MaryAnnNytowl]

@@vladgociu7577 yeah, money that can disappear through a little electric surge that fries the USB you have it on... I prefer actual money, thanks.

[@Nonsequitoria2010]

I was a chronic fibber when I was little, even though we all KNOW I'm the worst liar alive. My tiny mind would go into fight/flight/freeze mode, and I'd want to tell the truth, but I'd blurt out an obvious lie instead and get in way more trouble than I would have. My mother straight-up refused to believe anything I said for a while as punishment, and that was a real wake up call. I actually decided to myself that I would JUST TELL THE TRUTH, and if I blurted out a lie first I'd correct myself and apologize for it. It took a lot of practice, but my parents could see that I was making an effort to change, and I appreciated that.

[@ariadgaia5932]

Dude! I love your vids! XD Not only do you keep me learning, you also keep me laughing! LOVE IT!!!

[@Zoukos23]

"I didn't cheat on that speedrun"

[@catandcomparator]

OH DREEEEEAM, I KNOW YOU CHEATED ON THAT SPE- (gets murdered by stans)

[@gonsoku7701]

Ok idk if you have heard this already but Dream recently admitted he cheated so yee we were right

[@katyungodly]

@@gonsoku7701 the channel Stand-up Maths mathematically proved he cheated months ago, we didn't need Dream to tell us hehe

[@amberspark9434]

God dammit there had to be one person-

[@vlr7368]

That was just denial without solid proof

[@drsharkboy6568]

“Liar, liar, plants for hire!”-Patrick.

[@sarab2324]

“It’s “pants on fire, Patrick.” “Well you would know!…liar!” 😂

[@BlizzardPeak]

@@sarab2324 here, just have half of mine

[@sarab2324]

@@BlizzardPeak “Yours, this is mine!” 😂

[@arilivingindc]

When we believe in a Higher Calling, we behave better. So let's. Brilliant work. It is a veritable scientific basis for religion and morality. Loved every minute. Thank you.

[@QSL.]

Grace is given to all ... without judgement... not bc you are good but bc he loves you for all the humanness that you all.

[@liviousgameplay1755]

One of my teachers, who I consider to be one of the smartest and most well organized, always had a small section at the top of the test, an "I won't cheat or tell anyone else about the test." Although he only went so far to enforcing it as deducting a large number of points for not signing the pledge properly, I now think he might have done it because he knew that cheating would at least go down if everyone made the promise. Pretty interesting, vid!

[@PJ3232PJ]

Cave man 1 "yea nah, I totally know it's save to eat these berries" Cave man 2 - eats berries Cave man 2- DIES Cave man 1: "yea so that lie made me know it is not save to eat these berries, and I survive :D"

[@menopriezvisko94]

Cave man 1 stonks

[@renanmendes1299]

@@menopriezvisko94 there's only 1 stock

[@melon4738]

Now there are no stonks

[@shaynakapdi6449]

Safe*

[@rajarajanramadoss6332]

safonks

[@jamalthomas2377]

“I only tell LIES to those I have to protect” - Drake

[@pladselsker8340]

I can't tell a lie. I'm so obvious when I try to lie that I learned to either shut up or kinda say what I think in a cushionned way.

[@PurpleRhymesWithOrange]

I did my own social experiment years ago. I gave everyone a complete and honest answer to everything they asked me. The result was that after about three months everyone avoided talking to me entirely. The obvious conclusion is people ask a lot of questions they do not want honest answers to.

[@TheJasonmassia]

Squirrels lie to other squirrels by burying imaginary nuts in order to throw off the squirrel who is stealing from them.

[@chenilleoneil1289]

If your kids lie to you it’s because when they told the truth, your reaction frightened them. My scary mum’s behaviour conditioned me to lie, which is sad because do genuinely value honesty. In my adult years I’ve been trying really hard to break the habit.

[@scarletbard6511]

I still love the "Baloney!" Jo says after the intro.

[@wellitsjustcontent]

"Can we cut that last one?" Editor: "Nope!"

[@zeppsdang1400]

"And you have a less chance of surviving and passing on your genes." me: Yup im doomed

[@gabbyn978]

Not, if the rejection of the liar happens only after four years...

[@thebeautyofuniverse5250]

1:46 true and am used to say “am great” and also when i don’t know what to say what i am doing i will just say “am great!”

[@adrianabarnard6402]

I’ve notice that I lie to myself it’s confusing to think how I even do it and of course rarely ever do it to my benefit

[@JD-ny3vz]

I've read that in a lot of African Tribes lying to save someone's feelings is considered more virtuous than telling a truth that can cause a conflict unless it's absolutely necessary. It's better to lie and keep harmony and tell the truth and cause chaos something like that, because you need complete harmony to survive in nature with your tribesman it makes sense why we'd continue it now.

[@imanafdar]

terrible take and we are no longer live as tribe

[@kikolektrique1737]

So that I won’t get in trouble

[@oddeinarstrand4466]

I lie everyday to make friends happy i myself may not be happy but seeing others happy comforts me

[@xnevanx]

Lying just brings so much unnecessary drama. I avoid it as much as I possibly can (See? I didn't say I never lie, that would be a lie)

[@nebulan]

I got a "trying to contact you about your car's warranty" phone call in ther middle of watching this.

[@MrYtrewq321]

bro i got one a hour ago watch a vid too

[@attilastarwar]

is it the one warning you that it's about to expire? i get that one a lot and i don't even own a car

[@nebulan]

@@attilastarwar yup. My car is 11-years-old. It's warranty is well passed. The call is such a scam.

[@MrYtrewq321]

Yes lol weird as hell right

[@gabriellashimone6546]

Which was a lying call...

[@gregorybrian]

People lie because we have an instinct to survive. We confuse our ego, more often than not, with our physical self. So to preserve our egos, we lie to keep them alive.

[@micahbirdlover8152]

I love the intro of it's okay to smart 😊